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390: Creating Your Human Design Embodiment Plan · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, the show dedicated to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to flow without sacrificing results.
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Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Lano.
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Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, everybody.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and I want to talk about actually creating your human design embodiment plan here.
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Nicole Laino: What I think is so amazing about human design, I think why so many of us are gravitating toward it and find so much value in it is the fact that it is customizable.
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Nicole Laino: It is tailored to us.
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Nicole Laino: It's not saying, here's how you do this thing.
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Nicole Laino: It's saying, wait, you're this type.
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Nicole Laino: You're a projector.
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Nicole Laino: Your way is going to be like this.
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Nicole Laino: And then it gets even more nuanced.
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Nicole Laino: Well, but your authority means you are splenic.
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Nicole Laino: So you're going to be a certain way and you're going to make decisions a certain way.
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Nicole Laino: And by the way, you have these definitions and this openness, and we just get more and more differentiated as we go.
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Nicole Laino: No two definitions are exactly the same.
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Nicole Laino: So.
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Nicole Laino: And then we have our lived experience on top of that, and it takes all of that into account.
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Nicole Laino: But the thing that I notice so many people get stuck in is they know their design.
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Nicole Laino: And I see this with people who do readings with me, I see this even with my clients.
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Nicole Laino: Certainly when they start off on an intellectual journey.
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Nicole Laino: And my goal is, how do I get you from knowing it to living it?
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Nicole Laino: Because knowing it's interesting.
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Nicole Laino: Living it is life changing.
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Nicole Laino: Knowing it actually sometimes can cause more problems because then it gets you asking a lot more questions that feel like they have answers, like specific, strategic answers, but they don't.
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Nicole Laino: It's not a thinking path that we're going down.
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Nicole Laino: And it gets you stuck in your mind, which is the opposite of what human design is supposed to do.
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Nicole Laino: So what I want to do in this episode is I want to break down a. I want to take you through, like, a five step.
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Nicole Laino: I've broken this down into, like, a five step embodying your design process.
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Nicole Laino: So if I were to take you through these steps of what's most important for you to know, and some nuances within that, how you get living by this, these five steps will take you there.
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Nicole Laino: And then I'm going to finish up after the five steps, and I'm going to talk to you about the most common hurdle that I see with people when I'm trying to get them to embody their design versus just knowing it.
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Nicole Laino: So without further ado, I want to jump right into the framework because I'm going to break this down and I want to do it in detail and I really want to take the time that is necessary to go into each of these so you understand them.
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Nicole Laino: But I also, I want you to just kind of like let this wash over you.
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Nicole Laino: You can listen to it again, but let this wash over you and just see where are you.
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Nicole Laino: If you've been working on human design for a while, where are you with this thing?
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Nicole Laino: How are you in relationship to it?
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Nicole Laino: Look at how you think you're activating or using this process.
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Nicole Laino: You know, ask yourself honestly, am I doing these things?
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Nicole Laino: Am I like living by that?
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Nicole Laino: And if you feel like you are, but you're still not seeing results, maybe look at it again and say, am I just intellectualizing this or am I really living it?
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Nicole Laino: Am I really doing these things?
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so that's my hope for you.
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Nicole Laino: So I'm going to take you through the five steps and then I'm going to take you into, you know, after that roadmap, like, what are the two things?
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Nicole Laino: It's actually the biggest challenge that I see that I kind of break into three parts.
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Nicole Laino: So you can kind of understand how this one challenge sort of gets broken into these three pieces.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so let's start.
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Nicole Laino: The first piece of embodying your human design and creating your embodiment plan is your type of.
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Nicole Laino: Now, none of this is going to sound too earth shattering from just the categories, but I hope the way that I'm digging into this and the way that I'm talking through this, you start to see the difference between just knowing what your type is and actually following it.
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Nicole Laino: And of course, type gives us our strategy.
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Nicole Laino: So there's that piece, which we all kind of know.
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Nicole Laino: But each type has its own way of moving through the world in alignment.
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Nicole Laino: Manifesting generators.
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Nicole Laino: Yes, I have a strategy to respond.
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Nicole Laino: Yes, that's correct.
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Nicole Laino: But there's a way that manifesting generators work in the world, and it's important for you to honor that.
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Nicole Laino: Projectors.
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Nicole Laino: It's important for you to honor the way that you walk through the world, that you operate in this world in a way that people respond to in the way that you want.
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Nicole Laino: Now, I also want to say we don't always get what we want.
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Nicole Laino: I talked about this in another episode recently.
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Nicole Laino: We don't always get what we Want because we're following our design.
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Nicole Laino: Because what we want might not be what's in alignment for us.
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Nicole Laino: We get to choose the things that we want.
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Nicole Laino: We don't get to choose how they come to us.
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Nicole Laino: And so you might have a big vision, but the universe is saying, I get that, I see that, I feel that.
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Nicole Laino: I know that's true for you.
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Nicole Laino: But it's actually, it's this path and it looks a little bit different.
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Nicole Laino: And I've got to take these things away before I give you that.
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Nicole Laino: And we have to be open to that.
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Nicole Laino: You can't be so rigid in the way that you're seeing your vision that you can't see it another way.
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Nicole Laino: You have to be open.
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Nicole Laino: But each type has its way of moving through the world, operating correctly in this world.
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Nicole Laino: They have specific shadows and specific tendencies that keep them stuck.
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Nicole Laino: And they have specific gifts and talents and that lift them out of that stuckness.
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Nicole Laino: Now, a lot of people like a very simple way of knowing this is generators.
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Nicole Laino: Gotta do generators.
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Nicole Laino: Manifesting generators.
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Nicole Laino: That saying action leads to clarity really is very true for sacrals.
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Nicole Laino: And understanding that your shadow might be to get stuck in the stuck.
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Nicole Laino: And you have to understand how you create opportunity in your life.
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Nicole Laino: Projectors create opportunity differently than generators do.
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Nicole Laino: Manifesting generators, you're going to.
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Nicole Laino: We are going to create opportunity, create excitement, get people interested in our stuff, feel like life is moving all around us in a different way than a manifester will.
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Nicole Laino: There might be some similarities, but there are different ways of doing that.
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Nicole Laino: And we have to notice where we are maybe not in alignment with that.
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Nicole Laino: Deep aspects of our type are going to reflect in our relationships and they're going to cause harmony or they're going to cause trauma.
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Nicole Laino: Understanding that and starting to understand ourselves through the lens of type, this goes deeper than just following your strategy.
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Nicole Laino: Understanding that on a soul level, not so you know those things.
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Nicole Laino: It's great to know them, but it's so you know them enough that you trust them.
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Nicole Laino: And it gives you permission to live life the way that usually we feel is aligned for us or will call us out to some way that we are getting in our own way.
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Nicole Laino: It is very practical.
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Nicole Laino: It is a thousand times practical.
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Nicole Laino: This is not an intellectual thing, but the intellectual knowing hopefully leads us to a greater level of awareness that leads us to correct action or inaction.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes projectors, you need to know that different things are valued for you and from you.
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Nicole Laino: You must trust that There's a lot of permission that projectors have to give Themselves to be different.
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Nicole Laino: How comfortable are you with being different?
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Nicole Laino: These are deeper questions that we have to ask ourselves and see what they unlock in us.
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Nicole Laino: It's a portal.
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Nicole Laino: Human design is a portal to understanding yourself, but not just so you have answers.
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Nicole Laino: When somebody asks you what type you are.
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Nicole Laino: And what does that mean?
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Nicole Laino: No, it's not that.
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Nicole Laino: It's not about you reciting your gates and the shadows and what they all mean.
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Nicole Laino: It's not that.
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Nicole Laino: It's about you owning this as who you are and honoring all the aspects of you, even the ones that seem inconvenient or incongruent with what the world tells you should be or what would get you to where you want to go.
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Nicole Laino: So that's the first piece is type.
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Nicole Laino: And it's so much more.
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Nicole Laino: It's strategy, but it's so much more than that.
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Nicole Laino: We go so much deeper.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, step number two, your conditioning map is what I'm calling it.
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Nicole Laino: Understanding your chart.
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Nicole Laino: Understanding where we are healthy or unhealthy in our definition or our type.
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Nicole Laino: So with our definition, all the colored in stuff, that's the stuff where you're going to you school, you're going to school in you.
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Nicole Laino: This is the stuff you are here to master.
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Nicole Laino: That's your own.
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Nicole Laino: Where are you doing a good job?
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Nicole Laino: What grade are you giving yourself on each of those aspects?
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Nicole Laino: Am I an A in a defined ego or am I kind of a C because I feel unworthy and overly attached to achievement?
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Nicole Laino: Or you know, give yourself a grade in those areas and be able to see it.
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Nicole Laino: And then experiencing our openness in a healthy way so we can experience wisdom where we're meant to be wise.
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Nicole Laino: The white stuff.
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Nicole Laino: This is where we're going to life school.
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Nicole Laino: This is where we're going to know about everybody else's stuff.
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Nicole Laino: This is where we're going to be receiving.
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Nicole Laino: How are you receiving all of that?
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Nicole Laino: Are you receiving it or are you trying to push out from that place?
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Nicole Laino: We have to take a bit of an assessment to understand what these things are, understand what the healthy expression and the not self themes are of our openness, of our definition.
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Nicole Laino: What's healthy look like?
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Nicole Laino: What does conditioned look like?
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Nicole Laino: So then we can tune our awareness to these areas and start to correct them in real time.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not going to say that this is easy.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not going to say that this is necessarily the easiest thing to do because it's difficult to read the label from the inside of the bottle.
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Nicole Laino: I get that.
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Nicole Laino: But this is the work.
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Nicole Laino: Now, another part of the conditioning map is to notice your triggers because there's awareness of the things that we are.
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Nicole Laino: So, okay, I got this map.
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Nicole Laino: Now what?
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Nicole Laino: Okay, I'm gonna be aware of these things.
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Nicole Laino: We also have to know that where awareness fails, we may have trauma.
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Nicole Laino: So if we're aware of something but we can't change it, then that's typically an area, you know, if you want to circle it on the map and say, I have deeper healing here that maybe needs to be done.
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Nicole Laino: I feel like I've been aware of this, I feel like I know it, but I can't seem to break the pattern.
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Nicole Laino: Well, now you know you have deeper healing to do.
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Nicole Laino: That's what I do with eft, with breath work.
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Nicole Laino: The deeper deconditioning work we do inside of my programs, inside of business, by design, and certainly that I do very heavily with my private clients, is, you know, to decondition and to go deeper into these areas so you can finally be free of those patterns.
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Nicole Laino: The patterns that are keeping you stuck in whatever stuck looks like for you.
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Nicole Laino: For every person, it's different.
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Nicole Laino: And you're gonna notice your triggers.
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Nicole Laino: This is kind of the next step.
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Nicole Laino: You're not just aware of the things in your chart, but now be aware of how you're reacting to the outside world.
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Nicole Laino: Be aware of the things that set you off, that take you out of your game, that make your head spin, that get your blood pumping in not a good way, right?
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Nicole Laino: What triggers you?
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Nicole Laino: We're in a very triggering world at the moment.
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Nicole Laino: Notice the things that really bother you and notice the quality of that energy that it creates in you.
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Nicole Laino: Is it a response as a sacral where you're just responding to something and it's upsetting and you feel like you need to do something?
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Nicole Laino: Or are you triggered where you feel like you go into a heightened emotional state because this thing is making you so uncomfortable and it's maybe outsized for what the thing feels like.
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Nicole Laino: We live in a very high intensity environment at the moment.
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Nicole Laino: So I think we're all experiencing some array of this stuff.
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Nicole Laino: It's important to be able to.
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Nicole Laino: What we're talking about with this framework, what I think human design allows us to do is to become an observer of ourselves.
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Nicole Laino: But you can't really be an observer unless you are a bit removed.
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Nicole Laino: You're kind of above the whole thing, watching it all.
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Nicole Laino: You're not in it.
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Nicole Laino: Triggers bring you back in it and you can no longer observe.
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Nicole Laino: And now you're kind of out of control because the emotion takes over.
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Nicole Laino: This triggers.
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Nicole Laino: I Would say triggers are gifts because it shows you exactly where you have healing to do.
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Nicole Laino: It shows you exactly where the world is able to control you in a way that we don't want to allow.
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Nicole Laino: We shouldn't be pulled by our trauma.
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Nicole Laino: No one should be able to manipulate us through our pain.
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Nicole Laino: I see a lot of that right now.
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Nicole Laino: And it's so important for us to say, you don't get to do that to me.
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Nicole Laino: Nuh.
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Nicole Laino: I've worked through that and we do that through.
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Nicole Laino: I mean, I love EFT I think is the best, most amazing tool for this.
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Nicole Laino: But there are lots of tools that you can use to process your trauma, to process your triggers.
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Nicole Laino: Somatics, eft, breathwork, all of these tools are what get us to a deeper level of healing there.
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Nicole Laino: Like I have a private client now who had wounds around a particular person in their life and they thought they had worked through it because they had cut ties with that person and they had really kind of managed the relationship and managed the connection.
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Nicole Laino: And sometimes we have people that we can't completely cut out of our lives.
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Nicole Laino: They can't be completely gone.
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Nicole Laino: And even if we do, I have people that I've cut off.
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Nicole Laino: They still had the ability to trigger me.
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Nicole Laino: I didn't like that.
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Nicole Laino: And my life changed when I started to go into all of those relationships and all of those things.
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Nicole Laino: And with this client, I saw in our session that she was still triggered by this person.
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Nicole Laino: Cuz I felt her energy change.
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Nicole Laino: I felt her get angry, I felt her get defensive.
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Nicole Laino: I felt like I felt that charge up inside of her.
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Nicole Laino: And it's more complicated than taking the high road.
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Nicole Laino: So this is what this work is for.
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Nicole Laino: Because it's not just that person that has the ability, it's that type of situation now that has the ability to trigger you anywhere.
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Nicole Laino: So for me, I have felt manipulated by people in the past.
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Nicole Laino: I have felt, you know, wronged in lots of ways.
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Nicole Laino: And if someone else came in and made me feel wronged in that way, even if it was completely unrelated and even if that person, it really wasn't that bad.
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Nicole Laino: They got the full brunt of all of my anger about every situation leading back to that bigger trigger that I hadn't dealt with once I dealt with it, suddenly no one was triggering me like that.
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Nicole Laino: I was able to receive in new ways.
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Nicole Laino: Cause I had a greater level of trust.
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Nicole Laino: So understanding your conditioning and understanding it on both the awareness level of like okay, what's here?
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Nicole Laino: And then going deeper to actually remove the conditioning to actually work through and Process, whatever emotions are tying that conditioning and that sequence and that experience to us.
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Nicole Laino: We can't fully let go of something until we fully felt it.
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Nicole Laino: And we have to go through the process of fully feeling it or we end up attracting more and more of that situation to us.
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Nicole Laino: And we wonder, why do I keep ending up in this same kind of situation?
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Nicole Laino: Why do I keep dating the same guy?
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Nicole Laino: Why do people keep treating me like that?
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Nicole Laino: Why do I keep attracting that?
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Nicole Laino: I'm always asking myself if I get something that I don't like.
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Nicole Laino: I'm always asking myself, without blame, I'm saying, how am I attracting this right now?
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Nicole Laino: How am I inviting this with my energy?
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Nicole Laino: Is there something I haven't moved through that I think I did?
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Nicole Laino: Or I need to go a deeper level with it in order to not attract it to me anymore.
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Nicole Laino: So we go into it.
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Nicole Laino: This is life changing work.
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Nicole Laino: This is honestly the core of what I do with most of my clients because it always comes back to this.
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Nicole Laino: We're doing strategy, we're working on your human design, we're doing all of these things, we're lifting you into your gifts.
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Nicole Laino: But the whole time we're like, well, let's come back to like, what's the trigger, what's the shadow?
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Nicole Laino: What are the things that we need to move here?
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Nicole Laino: Okay, the third piece of this authority, making decisions from your truth.
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Nicole Laino: Everybody gets their own authority.
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Nicole Laino: And you have to understand the nuance of that.
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Nicole Laino: And I know I'm not saying anything that you haven't heard before here, but understanding if you are an emotional authority, what that means for you from your decision making and then also just understanding that this is going to be the biggest, most powerful thing in your chart is your authority.
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Nicole Laino: It's going to be the thing that is wanting to guide you.
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Nicole Laino: And there's a specific way that you are guided correctly by that particular aspect.
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Nicole Laino: If you're splenic, you have to kind of.
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Nicole Laino: There's a bit of surrender that is necessary to your intuition.
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Nicole Laino: So you have to understand that if you're an emotional, there's going to be great power in your emotions, but there's going to be a specific way.
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Nicole Laino: You have to work with your emotions or they are going to guide you in the wrong direction.
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Nicole Laino: So there's that aspect.
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Nicole Laino: The fourth piece is your undercover gifts.
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Nicole Laino: A shadow map on a deeper level than just the conditioning.
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Nicole Laino: And it's key energies in your chart, specifically gates.
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Nicole Laino: This is like the authority matrix that I work with, but if I'm working with a private client, they Might have different gates that I'm working with than what I'm doing inside our group programs.
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Nicole Laino: If I'm working with you privately, I'm really looking at your chart very specifically and are working on things that is completely tailored to you.
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Nicole Laino: But we're unlocking your undercover gifts with this.
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Nicole Laino: We're getting you to a fuller and higher expression of who you were meant to be.
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Nicole Laino: That brings me to the fifth piece, which is really connected to this.
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Nicole Laino: We unlock those undercover gifts, and then we give you the purpose led vision.
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Nicole Laino: You have to have a purpose led vision when you understand what you are here for.
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Nicole Laino: And sometimes it's a very specific thing where we're like, oh, I get it.
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Nicole Laino: I know where I'm going.
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Nicole Laino: I get it.
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Nicole Laino: But more often than not, it's a north star giving you permission to be you.
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Nicole Laino: What I find very often is a lot of people are usually doing something in the realm of their purpose, and now they're trying to deepen that connection to it.
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Nicole Laino: Where people get stuck is they.
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Nicole Laino: They make their purpose a destination that they feel like they need to get to.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm like, no, it's something that's going to work through you every day.
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Nicole Laino: So how do we get better at letting it work through us every day?
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Nicole Laino: What truths do we need to accept?
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Nicole Laino: Like, for me, I have to accept that I'm going to have these periods of confusion before I have clarity, before I have anything to offer people at the next level, before I can really start aligning with the next thing, before I can illuminate a path for people, I get some clarity, and then there's going to be a new level of it.
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Nicole Laino: So I have to understand that part of that process, how it works, how I'm being guided, and I follow the other pieces of this framework.
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Nicole Laino: So while I'm in confusion and while I'm waiting, I can find my way without going into my head.
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Nicole Laino: Some people, there's just some things that you need to remember.
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Nicole Laino: I have a client, you know, she's here to be the spark.
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Nicole Laino: She's here to be the ignition for people.
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Nicole Laino: She's not necessarily meant to take them the whole way.
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Nicole Laino: And it doesn't mean she can't.
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Nicole Laino: But I keep reminding her, I'm like, don't feel like you've got to hold their hand forever.
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Nicole Laino: Don't feel like, does that feel good to you?
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Nicole Laino: Is that what you want?
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Nicole Laino: She's like, no, I actually feel much more comfortable with the, like, ignition, with the spark, with the, you know, with the short term, like, sprint of let's break through that first glass ceiling.
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Nicole Laino: You're like well great, let's build an offer around that if that feels good to you.
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Nicole Laino: And she's a manny gentleman.
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Nicole Laino: So I'm like we're going to do it, we're going to take some action and that's going to give us more clarity.
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Nicole Laino: Like that's your way.
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Nicole Laino: So your permission led vision gives you permission to be you to do it your way, not the way that everybody's been telling you.
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Nicole Laino: And this is what I do in my business or purpose readings which are the same reading largely it's just one is geared more toward a business aspect.
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Nicole Laino: And if it's purpose I just, I structure it a little bit differently but the same level of depth just with a different goal.
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Nicole Laino: But the my business purpose readings, this is what we're doing.
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Nicole Laino: We're giving you a purpose led vision and then I'm taking you through your chart and this is sort of the fourth and the fifth step is all rolled into those business readings.
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Nicole Laino: I'm going to take you through your soul aligned gifts.
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Nicole Laino: I'm going to help you unlock them.
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Nicole Laino: I'm going to help you understand what the frequency band is of all of them and I'm going to give you a purpose led vision.
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Nicole Laino: We're going to, I'm going to illuminate you into that path and what it could look like for you and what does it look like going forward.
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Nicole Laino: It is a really big crash course in self discovery.
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Nicole Laino: Those really in depth readings that I do with people and I give them a huge report with it and all that so that they can continue to integrate and understand what all of this stuff means and they can start to embody it.
21:21
Nicole Laino: So this is the roadmap, those five steps.
21:24
Nicole Laino: This is the roadmap that I'm always creating with my clients to get them to operate differently.
21:29
Nicole Laino: This is what we take you through in business by design.
21:31
Nicole Laino: That's what all the coursework is taking you through.
21:35
Nicole Laino: All of this understanding of your design, taking you through your shadows, taking you through, you know, we have the deconditioning library allowing you to deeper decondition.
21:44
Nicole Laino: It's the same thing.
21:46
Nicole Laino: But here's the biggest challenge that I see with people and this why I see it take a long time, why I see it maybe people stumble and not continue in a seamless fashion with this which is where I see people struggle.
22:06
Nicole Laino: I kind of have three parts to this.
22:08
Nicole Laino: So one part is, you know, this is mostly unconscious stuff that we're going to Be turning around.
22:15
Nicole Laino: So the awareness journey is long.
22:17
Nicole Laino: But because coming off autopilot is hard, not everybody knows they're on autopilot in all these ways.
22:24
Nicole Laino: There's a lot to be aware of.
22:25
Nicole Laino: So we have to work piece by piece.
22:28
Nicole Laino: And some people, I think, maybe wrongly think that this is gonna be a big bang and it's like, oh, I'm gonna know this stuff and it's gonna change.
22:35
Nicole Laino: But a lot of times they don't even know what to look out for, cuz they are unconscious to it.
22:39
Nicole Laino: We bring awareness to what the not self theme is.
22:42
Nicole Laino: But even my private clients, even the people that I'm working with so closely, private clients, obviously they have a greater connection to me because they have Voxer with me.
22:52
Nicole Laino: They can send me a message anytime, anywhere, from anywhere, and be like, this is what's going on, what's happening.
22:58
Nicole Laino: But even them knowing to ask me the question takes a little bit of work, takes us a little bit of time in our relationship to get to where I'm like checking in on you.
23:06
Nicole Laino: I want to see how you're going with this.
23:07
Nicole Laino: I want to see how this is happening.
23:09
Nicole Laino: I want to, you know, check in with me.
23:11
Nicole Laino: And what I can hear from them is I'll catch them in things that they don't even know is shadow.
23:16
Nicole Laino: They don't even know is misaligned action.
23:20
Nicole Laino: I'll say, you know, you're Manny, Jen, and I have to remind them of these things.
23:24
Nicole Laino: And they're like, oh, thank you for reminding me of that.
23:26
Nicole Laino: It's hard.
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Nicole Laino: Like I said, it's difficult to read the label from inside the bottle.
23:30
Nicole Laino: So it helps to have an outside perspective.
23:32
Nicole Laino: It helps to have somebody there who can say, who can see it for you and say, I just saw you doing this.
23:38
Nicole Laino: Can we come back and let's talk about what that could look like.
23:42
Nicole Laino: Or I can ask great questions that help them deepen their understanding or move through this differently.
23:48
Nicole Laino: Right.
23:49
Nicole Laino: The second piece of the challenge is that deeper deconditioning work can be extensive and multilayered depending on the person.
23:57
Nicole Laino: I have a client right now, she's in business by design, and she was saying, yesterday we had a messaging call.
24:03
Nicole Laino: I do these VIP messaging calls with them where once they do the messaging work inside our program, they can have a private call with me.
24:10
Nicole Laino: If you're in tier three of the program, they can have a private call with me and I break the messaging down with them and we start to work it and it's A working session where it's like, okay, let's get you to what I call your core arguments of your message.
24:22
Nicole Laino: And were working through it, and she's like, I feel like such a late bloomer because I'm here and it took me over a year to get here, but I feel so energized.
24:30
Nicole Laino: I feel so like, oh, my God, this is like happening.
24:33
Nicole Laino: She launched her podcast.
24:34
Nicole Laino: There's all this stuff going on, and it's going really well.
24:37
Nicole Laino: And I said, I was like, you know, well, first of all, you're always right on time.
24:40
Nicole Laino: But there's sometimes the deeper deconditioning work.
24:43
Nicole Laino: And she's somebody who teaches this stuff.
24:44
Nicole Laino: She's an intuitive and she does human design and she does astrology, so she knows this stuff.
24:50
Nicole Laino: But she had to be in an environment that kind of forced her to change a little bit and forced her to look at these things.
24:59
Nicole Laino: Because being there, out there in the world by yourself, there's not the boundaries, there's not the structure that is created for you to change.
25:07
Nicole Laino: But having some place where she had to come back every week and check in, but for a while she didn't.
25:14
Nicole Laino: She drifted away a little bit.
25:15
Nicole Laino: She had to do some of her own searching and.
25:19
Nicole Laino: But then she came back and she was like, I'm back and I'm ready, and you have to give yourself space for that.
25:25
Nicole Laino: But I do notice that, you know, the deeper deconditioning work can be really multilayered, and sometimes people can get frustrated with that and they feel like, again, it should be.
25:34
Nicole Laino: It should be faster, maybe.
25:36
Nicole Laino: It could be.
25:37
Nicole Laino: Some people have more baggage that they walk into this work with, and very few had a lot of control over that baggage.
25:47
Nicole Laino: Things that happened to them, they had things in their childhood, they.
25:50
Nicole Laino: They were abused.
25:51
Nicole Laino: You know, there's real trauma there.
25:54
Nicole Laino: Give yourself some grace and don't compare yourself to anybody else because you have no idea what their life has been like.
26:01
Nicole Laino: It might have been easier, it might have been more loving in some ways where they just didn't have the same hurdles as you.
26:08
Nicole Laino: I guarantee you they have their own, but they don't have the same ones as you.
26:12
Nicole Laino: So when you see them moving faster, then you don't get discouraged.
26:17
Nicole Laino: But that is something that I see, and then I see that the third thing is that real life gets in the way.
26:21
Nicole Laino: There's all these things that are kind of pulling us away.
26:23
Nicole Laino: It's like we have to stay hyper focused on our behavior and on our thoughts.
26:28
Nicole Laino: And all of these things that are going on, we need to be doing that deconditioning work.
26:33
Nicole Laino: But then we also have to live these real lives with real responsibilities that take you out of the work.
26:38
Nicole Laino: And sometimes they give you excuses.
26:40
Nicole Laino: I can't do this.
26:41
Nicole Laino: I can't be in alignment because I have my job and I hate it.
26:43
Nicole Laino: I can't do this.
26:44
Nicole Laino: And I can't be in alignment because I'm not getting any clients.
26:47
Nicole Laino: So now it's pushing me into survival mode.
26:50
Nicole Laino: I can't.
26:50
Nicole Laino: You know, there's just all of these things, these excuses for why you can't do what's aligned.
26:55
Nicole Laino: And I get that we have to kind of work on.
26:58
Nicole Laino: I always say, like, you know, don't aim for being a hundred percent aligned all the time because you'll feel like a failure.
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Nicole Laino: Can you get to 70% or 70% of the time you are doing the things that you're supposed to do and 30% maybe is how much you are conforming.
27:14
Nicole Laino: And you're doing that from a conscious place, you're choosing to do it.
27:18
Nicole Laino: But it's hard.
27:19
Nicole Laino: So I'm always asking myself, how can I get people more mind blowing results and get them those results faster?
27:27
Nicole Laino: Right.
27:28
Nicole Laino: I'm always racking my brain for how I can do this.
27:31
Nicole Laino: How can I deepen the connection that we have?
27:34
Nicole Laino: How can we get people results faster?
27:36
Nicole Laino: So I tried to do things like this, breaking it down into frameworks where it's like, okay, well what if I break it down this way?
27:41
Nicole Laino: Do you hear it differently this time?
27:44
Nicole Laino: This is where my business readings came from.
27:46
Nicole Laino: It was like, how can I make you go faster?
27:48
Nicole Laino: So I saw so many people like exploring their design for so long and they had these questions where they were like, oh, I still don't understand this.
27:55
Nicole Laino: And it was like, well, what if I took the I need to understand this thing out of the way right away?
28:00
Nicole Laino: What if I gave you this reading where I kind of took you through the most important parts of your chart so you didn't have that question anymore.
28:07
Nicole Laino: Can we erase that?
28:08
Nicole Laino: And we are, we fast forward you several months by doing that.
28:12
Nicole Laino: But it's is great, but I want faster.
28:14
Nicole Laino: My one to one sessions Within Business by Design, the group program that came from this.
28:19
Nicole Laino: I was like, okay, what if I do these one to one sessions and we're speeding them up.
28:23
Nicole Laino: Crystal did her messaging call.
28:25
Nicole Laino: It was like, okay.
28:26
Nicole Laino: A lot of people get stuck in the messaging part, always feeling like they've got to figure out their message.
28:30
Nicole Laino: What If I had a session with you where we fast tracked that and then my Ascend one to one private coaching package, this came.
28:39
Nicole Laino: This is sessions and integration coaching that's on demand through Voxer.
28:44
Nicole Laino: So we have live sessions that I do privately with somebody where we go into your stuff and then we are doing on demand voxer coaching where people can message me whenever they want about whatever they want.
28:57
Nicole Laino: There's nothing that is off limits.
28:59
Nicole Laino: You want to talk to me about your sex life.
29:01
Nicole Laino: You want to talk to me about, you know, problems that you're having with your kids, that's fine.
29:05
Nicole Laino: You want to talk to me about your business, all on the table, because it's all connected.
29:11
Nicole Laino: But I wanted to go even deeper.
29:13
Nicole Laino: That package is really amazing.
29:14
Nicole Laino: The Ascend one to one private coaching is really amazing because we combine the readings with the sessions and then the Voxer coaching and it's really a360 and we have it over a longer term period so that there's integration for a while.
29:29
Nicole Laino: But now I wanted to go even deeper.
29:31
Nicole Laino: I wanted to do full immersion.
29:33
Nicole Laino: I started asking myself what would happen if I had more time with people.
29:38
Nicole Laino: I can do so much in a one hour session with somebody, but I always wish that there was more.
29:42
Nicole Laino: What if we could keep going?
29:44
Nicole Laino: What if I could keep you in the energy of a private coaching session longer?
29:49
Nicole Laino: And I asked myself, I'm like, what if I combined private coaching with like a retreat and the integration support?
29:57
Nicole Laino: What would that even look like?
29:59
Nicole Laino: And I was like, what if I could take you out of your daily life for two days, curate an experience that's tailored to you and your design, where you get to experience this entire embodiment plan over the course of like two days with me, where we take you out of your everyday life, where you don't have those excuses anymore, where you don't have to pay attention yourself.
30:21
Nicole Laino: I'm watching you.
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Nicole Laino: I'm seeing you.
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Nicole Laino: We are in such deep connection that we can go into those deeper aspects so that we can do guided EFT breath work or NLP sessions for deeper deconditioning.
30:36
Nicole Laino: And I can notice things that maybe you can't see because you're inside the bottle.
30:40
Nicole Laino: And then there's specialty experiences.
30:42
Nicole Laino: And I got very excited about this.
30:44
Nicole Laino: And if you have a business, we could work on your messaging, your funnels, your podcast in focused sessions.
30:51
Nicole Laino: I really get a lot done in those two days.
30:55
Nicole Laino: So what I created, I actually am very excited about something.
30:58
Nicole Laino: I created these private retreats here in Austin.
31:02
Nicole Laino: So if this sounds good to you, if having that level of support where we can go so deep for such an extended period of time.
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Nicole Laino: And it isn't just that this is, there's a pre call session with these retreats so we have a private session before the retreat so that we get to know each other and I have an understanding.
31:20
Nicole Laino: There's a questionnaire of course that you fill out where I get deeper and more information that I can refer to.
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Nicole Laino: It's a two day immersive retreat here in Austin and one month of voxer integration with me after.
31:32
Nicole Laino: This is completely tailored to you.
31:34
Nicole Laino: I was like oh, I could do a regular retreat but a regular retreat then has to be curated for a group.
31:40
Nicole Laino: And I really wanted to start with these cuz I'm like I want that one to one.
31:43
Nicole Laino: I want it to just be focused on you where it's like what are we working on?
31:48
Nicole Laino: Cuz someone might come to a retreat and they're like I really want to focus on business and some people might be like I really want to focus on family, I really want to focus on my relationships and I love that I can do that in my one to one work and I can shift because human design is so multifaceted and can be applied in so many areas.
32:05
Nicole Laino: I didn't want to lose that.
32:06
Nicole Laino: So this first set of retreats, I've never done a group retreat.
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Nicole Laino: I wanted them to be private.
32:12
Nicole Laino: So this is what we're doing.
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Nicole Laino: They're completely tailored to you as an individual, to your design, your story, your interests and your goals.
32:20
Nicole Laino: This will be your own private retreat that I basically curate just for you.
32:25
Nicole Laino: And because of the nature of this is, you know, this is a lot of my time and my energy where I'm completely focused on you.
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Nicole Laino: I won't be doing anything else those days.
32:35
Nicole Laino: I will just be with you and curating those experiences for you.
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Nicole Laino: And this is something that we're going to start doing right away and you don't have to worry about timing because we would schedule it when it works for both of our schedules.
32:48
Nicole Laino: So if you are interested in applying for this because there is an application, just DM me the word retreat on Instagram.
32:56
Nicole Laino: I'm icoleno official and I do want to say this is a five figure investment.
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Nicole Laino: This is a private retreat with accommodations included and all of that.
33:05
Nicole Laino: So just so you understand what level of investment this is because this is a very high touch, high level type offer.
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Nicole Laino: Just wanted you to be to understand that if you do apply but if you're interested DM me the word retreat on Instagram.
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Nicole Laino: I'm icoleno official.
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Nicole Laino: We'll get you set up there with the application and then we'll set you up with a call if you qualify.
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Nicole Laino: Or go to nicolelaino.com retreat and you can grab the form right there.
33:28
Nicole Laino: I hope to see you.
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Nicole Laino: These are very exciting to me.
33:31
Nicole Laino: I get very excited about what we could create together and all the expansion that we could create in that I know what I can do with somebody even in a one hour session, how much I can get done.
33:45
Nicole Laino: It makes me very excited to think what I can do with somebody over two days plus a pre call and then a month of voxer.
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Nicole Laino: I'm like on fire about this.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that you're excited about it too.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that you apply.
33:57
Nicole Laino: I appreciate you.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that you found this episode valuable no matter what, whether you decide to apply or not.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that this framework helped you see how you can create your own embodiment plan.
34:07
Nicole Laino: And I appreciate you.
34:08
Nicole Laino: Remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakeable human.
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Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design.
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Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time.
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Nicole Laino: Sarah.