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BELIEVE IN THE JOURNEY W TRIVEDA HARRIS 3-9-25 · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Ladies and gentleman, lay I have your attention.
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  Speaker 2: Please.
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  Speaker 1: The show starts in ten nine eight seven, six, five
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  Speaker 1: four three two one go.
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  Speaker 3: Good evening, and welcome to Believe in the Journey Podcast,
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  Speaker 3: where I am your host, Trevita Harris, and I have
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  Speaker 3: a very amazing guest tonight, Miss Elizabeth, and we're gonna
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  Speaker 3: talk to her about her journey from through trials to
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  Speaker 3: triumph and it's an amazing story. You guys do not
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  Speaker 3: want to miss it. But you know we can't do
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  Speaker 3: anything without going to God in prayer, So let's do that.
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  Speaker 3: Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for bringing us together as
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  Speaker 3: you do each and every time we're in front of you.
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  Speaker 3: Let the words of my mouth fall upon the ears
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  Speaker 3: that need to hear. Let those who are struggling with
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  Speaker 3: anything that they can't handle them on their own, let
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  Speaker 3: them know that they can lay it at your feet
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  Speaker 3: and you will take it from there. They don't need
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  Speaker 3: to do anything else but be patient and let you
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  Speaker 3: work it out on their behalf. Because there are things
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  Speaker 3: that we don't know that you already have gone ahead
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  Speaker 3: and fought and won that battle for us. So allow
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  Speaker 3: us to be patient with you and let you do
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  Speaker 3: the work that only you can do. So let us
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  Speaker 3: us go to the conversation that you will lead as
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  Speaker 3: you do each and every time we are in front
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  Speaker 3: of you. So let the words of our mouths fall
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  Speaker 3: upon the ears that need to hear. Let it lead
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  Speaker 3: others to you in a way that they may be
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  Speaker 3: falling distance or falling short and don't know how.
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  Speaker 4: To get to you.
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  Speaker 3: Let us be those vessels that bring them closer to
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  Speaker 3: You and your precious and holy name, Jesus, I pray amen.
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  Speaker 3: All right, Hello, miss Elizabeth, how are you doing tonight?
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  Speaker 2: I am very blessed plused to be here.
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  Speaker 4: How are you?
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  Speaker 3: I am good, and I thank you for being here. Well,
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  Speaker 3: I want you to go ahead and introduce yourself and
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  Speaker 3: tell them a little bit about you, and then we're
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  Speaker 3: gonna get into the conversation.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, my name is Elizabeth Meggs. I am an inspirational speaker,
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  Speaker 2: transformational life coach also known as the Americal Power Empowerment Coach,
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  Speaker 2: and I am just very blessed to be here. I'm
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  Speaker 2: also a best selling author and just blessed to be
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  Speaker 2: able to deliver our message of hope and feeling to
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  Speaker 2: how empower others to be able to overcome and rise
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  Speaker 2: above their obstacles so that they can find the same
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  Speaker 2: piece and freedom, life of fulfillment and abundance that I have.
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  Speaker 5: And that is a beautiful way to put it.
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  Speaker 3: Now, my first question I'm going to ask is that
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  Speaker 3: you had a devastating car accident while you were in
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  Speaker 3: high school that led you down this journey. That is
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  Speaker 3: significant for your triumphs, but your trials is what led
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  Speaker 3: you here. So can you give us a little bit
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  Speaker 3: of background about that and how your life changed.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, So, twenty five years ago, at the age of fourteen,
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  Speaker 2: I was chased in my dreams. I had been singing
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  Speaker 2: and performing for over half. My life was known for
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  Speaker 2: my voice, and everything was moving full speed ahead for
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  Speaker 2: me to move to Nashville to pursue a career in
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  Speaker 2: country music as soon as I graduated high school. My
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  Speaker 2: voice was my identity and I was just It was
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  Speaker 2: effortless and my life was easy. I was popular, play
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  Speaker 2: a resport, and everyone wanted to be my friend. But
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  Speaker 2: then one week in my freshman year of high school,
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  Speaker 2: my entire world came crashing down around me. I was
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  Speaker 2: injured in a car accident where I suffered a traumatic
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  Speaker 2: brain injury that left me finally for my life. I
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  Speaker 2: was given less than twenty five percent survival rate. The
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  Speaker 2: doctors were basically preparing my family for my death because
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  Speaker 2: it wasn't looking like I was going to survive. But
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  Speaker 2: after three weeks of being in the coma, I awoke
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  Speaker 2: and essentially had to relearn how to do everything. There
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  Speaker 2: was three full months of intensive hospitals and rehabs before
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  Speaker 2: I made it back home for good. Once back home,
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  Speaker 2: this was when I discovered the biggest challenge that I
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  Speaker 2: would ever face. Because I was no longer that same independent,
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  Speaker 2: popular cheerleader, singer, songwriter, play every sport. I was facing
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  Speaker 2: challenges every single day. I dealt with judgment. I dealt
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  Speaker 2: with rejection from people that would see something physically wrong
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  Speaker 2: with me and decide that I wasn't worth their time.
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  Speaker 2: It was so very difficult. I knew that everything would
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  Speaker 2: be better if I was no longer here, if I
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  Speaker 2: hadn't survived the accident, and I would actually beg God
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  Speaker 2: to take me from the earth because I knew everything
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  Speaker 2: would be easier.
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  Speaker 3: That's the thought that I think most people have when
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  Speaker 3: they deal with something that's life changing. Like that, I
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  Speaker 3: can say I had those thoughts. I had a stroke
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  Speaker 3: in two thousand and nine and had to learn how
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  Speaker 3: to speak again and use my left side, so I
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  Speaker 3: can relate to that. And you do go through those
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  Speaker 3: thoughts and things of that nature, and it's like, Okay, God,
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  Speaker 3: what is it that? Why would I be in this position?
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  Speaker 3: Like what did I do to be.
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  Speaker 5: Dealing with this?
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  Speaker 3: So that's definitely one of those things where it's like, Okay, God.
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  Speaker 5: What is it? Why me? What is this?
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  Speaker 3: But you know there was something inside of you that
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  Speaker 3: you didn't even know that you had in you and
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  Speaker 3: talk about that.
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  Speaker 2: So I would come home from school multiple days a
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  Speaker 2: week for over four years and tell my parents that
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  Speaker 2: I should have died. I wish ever with that, and
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to kill myself, myself on my screaming at
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  Speaker 2: my lungs, crying out to God, beating my fasts under
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  Speaker 2: the floor, asking him why he did this to me?
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  Speaker 2: What did I do to deserve this? But that's when
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  Speaker 2: I would receive an answer, and it came in the
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  Speaker 2: form of a voice on my heart that brought me
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  Speaker 2: an overwhelming amount of comfort and peace, which was just
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  Speaker 2: exactly what I needed in that moment a peace to
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  Speaker 2: comfort that was divine yea, and the voice said, I
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  Speaker 2: have a plan for you. You can't stop, you have
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  Speaker 2: to keep going. I knew in that moment that there
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  Speaker 2: was a reason that I was still here. Yeah, calling
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  Speaker 2: me to become exactly who He created me to be,
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  Speaker 2: so I could help others going through the same struggles
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  Speaker 2: for the same suffering that felt alone, that felt invisible,
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  Speaker 2: felt like and nobody felt like weren't worthy of anyone
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  Speaker 2: loving or being in their life, because that's the way
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  Speaker 2: I felt. I saw myself when I looked in the mirror.
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  Speaker 2: I saw myself through the eyes of the people who
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  Speaker 2: judged and protected me. I saw I'm a glee monster.
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  Speaker 4: And so.
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  Speaker 2: But God loved me enough to hold me and to
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  Speaker 2: pick me up. Every time I fell down and felt
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  Speaker 2: like I couldn't keep going, he would give me the
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  Speaker 2: strength to keep fighting.
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  Speaker 4: And Yeah, that is a.
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  Speaker 3: Way of touching you in a way that it makes
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  Speaker 3: you understand.
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  Speaker 5: And I know that there may.
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  Speaker 3: Be still days where you have those feelings when something
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  Speaker 3: is getting a little harder, you get a little frustrated
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  Speaker 3: with things, Because I know I still have my moments
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  Speaker 3: where it's like okay, Especially when the pain is a
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  Speaker 3: little bit unbearable, It's like, Okay, God, what else is
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  Speaker 3: left with this? Because what else am I so supposed
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  Speaker 3: to be shown with, you know, with what I'm going through?
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  Speaker 3: Like have you ever had this moment in where you're like, God,
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  Speaker 3: what is all of this for? And you're like that
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  Speaker 3: if I'm supposed to continue, send me a sign and.
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  Speaker 5: He sends you a sign, there's someone else. Have you
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  Speaker 5: had a moment like that?
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  Speaker 2: I've had many moments like that. I twenty years after
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  Speaker 2: my accident, I found myself in a toxic relationship, toxic
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  Speaker 2: marriage where I was been verbally and emotionally abused as
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  Speaker 2: God was opening doors for me to continue my speaking
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  Speaker 2: and touching the lives of those who were right suffering
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  Speaker 2: the same place I once was. My ex husband would
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  Speaker 2: tell me that no one would ever pay me to
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  Speaker 2: share my story. The only financial security I would ever
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  Speaker 2: have would be through my degree as an occupational therapist.
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  Speaker 2: But the thing with that was that my heart was
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  Speaker 2: no longer I was no longer being fueled by doing
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  Speaker 2: my degree job. I was being fueled when I would
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  Speaker 2: get up on a stage or speak to one of
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  Speaker 2: my patients and providing hope, but more one of my
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  Speaker 2: one on one clients providing hope and helping them to
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  Speaker 2: find a way out. But God's a place was always
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  Speaker 2: so much stronger, brought me comfort and peace, didn't have
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  Speaker 2: any of the chaos and confusion like my ex husband's
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  Speaker 2: voice brought. And April of twenty twenty three, God basically
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  Speaker 2: brought someone back into my life who had been in
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  Speaker 2: my life six years earlier. I hadn't seen this person
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  Speaker 2: in number four and a half years, and I thought
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  Speaker 2: to myself, Okay, God, if you need me to leave,
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  Speaker 2: I need you to give me a sign. Twenty four
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  Speaker 2: hours and no signs came. Thirty six hours, I received
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  Speaker 2: a sign, and I was just like, okay, God, I've
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  Speaker 2: got it loud and clear. Now if you need me
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  Speaker 2: to leave, I don't know how I'm gonna do it,
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  Speaker 2: So I need you to help make away if that's
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  Speaker 2: what you need. I prayed to him as soon as
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  Speaker 2: I got the sign. But I've learned that it doesn't
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  Speaker 2: happen one way. He doesn't do all of the work.
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  Speaker 2: He moves mountains, but it takes you moving to the
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  Speaker 2: door or the window so that you can see the
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  Speaker 2: mountains being moved and then the next steps forward. So
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  Speaker 2: as soon as I got done with that prayer, I
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  Speaker 2: called my boss at the hospital where I worked, as
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  Speaker 2: they needed me. It was the meanting full time, and
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  Speaker 2: I was like, okay. I explained my situation and I said,
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  Speaker 2: I need to see if I can transfer back to
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  Speaker 2: Waco because I have to get out. I can't stay
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  Speaker 2: here because if I stay here, God basically told me,
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  Speaker 2: if you're stay in this marriage, you're not ever gonna
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  Speaker 2: be able to fulfill My will for your life. And
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  Speaker 2: so less than an hour later, my boss gave me
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  Speaker 2: a call. I was able to transfer from Dallas back
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  Speaker 2: to Waco, and the next twenty four hours I found
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  Speaker 2: a place that I could afford to live, and within
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  Speaker 2: four days he made away for there was no way.
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  Speaker 5: And that's what God does.
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  Speaker 3: You have to have undeniable faith and trust in Him
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  Speaker 3: because if.
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  Speaker 5: You ask him to give you.
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  Speaker 3: A sign, he's gonna give you that sign. Yeah, gotta
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  Speaker 3: be willing to move when he says move. And that's
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  Speaker 3: been one of the hardest things I think for most
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  Speaker 3: people to do, is because they'll reject the answer that
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  Speaker 3: God gives when when they pray. Because it doesn't look
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  Speaker 3: like what they expected to look like exactly exactly.
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  Speaker 2: He can't do that. It also takes learning how to
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  Speaker 2: live open to all of the possibilities. Like twenty five
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  Speaker 2: years ago or at the age of seven, my dream
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  Speaker 2: was being on a stage, but it was singing, using
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  Speaker 2: and being on a stage to touch people.
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  Speaker 5: Mmhmm.
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  Speaker 2: My dream is still the same, being on stages, but
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  Speaker 2: it's not singing. It's connecting with my voice and letting
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  Speaker 2: Him speak through me so that I can help empower
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  Speaker 2: and encourage and be the voice of hope for everybody
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  Speaker 2: in this world, just as here was the voice of
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  Speaker 2: hope for me years ago.
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  Speaker 3: I was telling a coworker yesterday, as a matter of fact,
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  Speaker 3: we were talking and about how God has a great
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  Speaker 3: sense of humor, and it was a joke that I
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  Speaker 3: saw in the comic when I was about twelve years old,
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  Speaker 3: and it was if you ever want to know how
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  Speaker 3: God's sense of humor works is told him your plans
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  Speaker 3: and watch how he changes them. And it was one
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  Speaker 3: of those things where it's like, Okay, you may have
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  Speaker 3: plans for the next day or whatever, or you may
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  Speaker 3: have plans for the future, and you may have it
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  Speaker 3: planned out a certain way. And just like you said,
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  Speaker 3: your plan was to be on stage and to use
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  Speaker 3: your voice to sing. God is using your voice to
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  Speaker 3: be on stages, but it's not for singing, and you
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  Speaker 3: have never even.
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  Speaker 5: Thought of it in that way. And God is God
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  Speaker 5: all by.
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  Speaker 3: Himself, and the plans that he has for us is
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  Speaker 3: exactly what it is. He never has made a mistake,
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  Speaker 3: and the plans that he has for us, it's just
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  Speaker 3: for us to be obedient to his instructions. And when
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  Speaker 3: we can be obedient, God knows that he has us
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  Speaker 3: the way that we won't.
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  Speaker 5: We get distracted.
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  Speaker 3: We try to do our own things sometimes and God
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  Speaker 3: is like going after.
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  Speaker 2: Becomes chase an afters no. I made the choice to
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  Speaker 2: get in that marriage, but he knew that was going
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  Speaker 2: to happen, and that's why in twenty seventeen, he brought
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  Speaker 2: someone into my life. It was actually the first person
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  Speaker 2: whoever truly saw me. It was the first outsider who
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  Speaker 2: actually saw my heart and believed in me and wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: let me forget it. And two months after I met
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  Speaker 2: this person, he spoke to me about him and he said,
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  Speaker 2: I brought you two together to bring you both closer
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  Speaker 2: to me. You have to tell him this, You have
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  Speaker 2: to tell him that you love him, and I love him.
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  Speaker 2: I've known this person for two months. Oh well, was
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  Speaker 2: I afraid to tell him? No? Because when God speaks
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  Speaker 2: to you audibly, you have absolutely in your mind from God.
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  Speaker 2: Piece and comfort that he brought me in high school
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  Speaker 2: was like when Pal sometimes amplified when he spoke to
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  Speaker 2: me audibly. So it was just yeah, so it's just
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  Speaker 2: the way he moves. He's always right there. Yeah, gonna
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  Speaker 2: come to the rescue. But again, you have to be
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  Speaker 2: willing to turn to him.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, And whenever you are praying and asking God for
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  Speaker 3: certain things in certain directions or whatever the case may be,
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  Speaker 3: understand that what you see is definitely gonna be a
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  Speaker 3: little different than.
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  Speaker 5: What God sees.
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  Speaker 3: And He's still gonna get you in the space in
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  Speaker 3: which you want to go, but he's gonna multiply that
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  Speaker 3: in different ways. Like me doing this podcast was not
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  Speaker 3: something I saw. But He's sent me visions, you know,
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  Speaker 3: like you have vivid dreams, And whenever you have the
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  Speaker 3: vivid dreams, those are God sending you those signals. And
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  Speaker 3: and I was cleaning up one day and just out
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  Speaker 3: of the blue, I got this random vision and it
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  Speaker 3: was like, Okay, you're gonna be in front of a
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  Speaker 3: podium speaking to people. And I'm like, God, I think
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  Speaker 3: you delivered that to somebody else. That's not for me.
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  Speaker 3: And it was like, no, this is for you. So
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  Speaker 3: this is what I need you to do. And I
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  Speaker 3: hadn't even written a book at all at this time,
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  Speaker 3: so it was like, God, I think you have gotten
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  Speaker 3: me mixed up with somebody else.
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  Speaker 5: This is not what I'm supposed to be doing.
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  Speaker 3: But here I am now doing exactly what I've been
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  Speaker 3: shying away from. But it was like, no, this is
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  Speaker 3: what I need you to do, because this is what
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  Speaker 3: I've called you to do. There's something that I need
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  Speaker 3: you to share with other people and the people that
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  Speaker 3: you come in contact with. And so it's like, God, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not sure if I'm doing it the right way.
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  Speaker 3: And it's always the comfort information each and every time
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  Speaker 3: that I do this and each and every guest that
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  Speaker 3: I have, Like we were talking earlier about you doing
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  Speaker 3: a conference that you had submitted a video for and
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  Speaker 3: they didn't accept it, but you're still gonna be accepted
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  Speaker 3: and where God wants you to be where you need
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  Speaker 3: to be and how. And it's like every guest that
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  Speaker 3: I have is the confirmation that I'm doing exactly what.
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  Speaker 5: I'm supposed to be doing.
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  Speaker 3: And it's not by coincidence, it's always by God's design.
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  Speaker 3: And so it's one of those things that if you
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  Speaker 3: are really obedient and really take the time to listen
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  Speaker 3: to what God is telling you, you're never gonna be off.
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  Speaker 5: Course, you know it, make it hard, but go.
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  Speaker 2: Ahead, right.
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  Speaker 4: Right mm hm.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, yes, exactly, yes, mm hmm.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, hm hm seven on.
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  Speaker 6: One mhm exactly yeah, mh.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yes.
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  Speaker 5: That I agree with that one hundred percent.
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  Speaker 3: Said, were there things that you did on a regular
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  Speaker 3: basis that helped you even in those dark times and
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  Speaker 3: those hard moments? And the one thing that you did
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  Speaker 3: say that you went to bed with a grateful heart.
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  Speaker 3: What other things did you do that helped you?
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  Speaker 7: Mm hmm yeah, yeah, uh huh.
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  Speaker 3: I think that plays a major part to having a
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  Speaker 3: great support system because I can say for me, when
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  Speaker 3: I had my stroke and then had my flare up
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  Speaker 3: with my condition and I lost my ability to speak,
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  Speaker 3: it was one of those things where I was able
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  Speaker 3: to Okay, I'm reading a chat in here. I got
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  Speaker 3: something for you at the end, so be excited about that.
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  Speaker 3: But anyway, it was one of those things where my
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  Speaker 3: family was very supportive of me, my children mainly. I
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  Speaker 3: know I'm not the easiest patience when it comes to
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  Speaker 3: doing what I'm supposed to.
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  Speaker 4: At all, So.
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  Speaker 3: My kids were not willing to allow me to sit in.
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  Speaker 5: My misery, so to speak.
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  Speaker 3: And I didn't realize this. This is something I told
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  Speaker 3: my kids when they were younger. And you don't really
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  Speaker 3: think little kids are paying you any attention when you
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  Speaker 3: tell them things, and so I didn't pay it any attention.
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  Speaker 3: So my kids were about out twelve, seven and five,
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  Speaker 3: and so I told them that when you are going
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  Speaker 3: through life, you're gonna have a bunch of emotions that
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  Speaker 3: are going on in life. The one that you spend
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  Speaker 3: the most time in, whether it's happiness, sadness, mad, angry, whatever,
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  Speaker 3: if that's the one that you focus on the most,
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  Speaker 3: to give that energy to that, that's where you're gonna be.
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  Speaker 3: And so when I was going through and I had
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  Speaker 3: lost my ability to speak doctors, not really knowing what's
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  Speaker 3: going on and trying to get answered. I come home
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  Speaker 3: from the doctor, my boys have been outside playing, and
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  Speaker 3: my oldest son came in the house and I was
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  Speaker 3: telling him and then I was so frustrated at them
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  Speaker 3: being upbeat and happy that it was making me angry.
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  Speaker 3: And so my son turns to me and at this time,
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  Speaker 3: he's like thirteen, and he's like, well, it's your fault
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  Speaker 3: that we're this way, and I'm like, what do you
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  Speaker 3: mean it's my fault that y'all are or like this?
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  Speaker 3: He said, you told us that the emotion that we
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  Speaker 3: give the most energy to is the one that controls us.
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  Speaker 3: So either you're gonna be mad about what you're going through,
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  Speaker 3: you're gonna be sad about it, or whatever, but whatever
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  Speaker 3: you choose, it wins. So I'm gonna tell you this.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna give you thirty minutes for you to have
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  Speaker 3: your little pity party. After that, we're gonna move on
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  Speaker 3: from this. And I couldn't say anything because number one,
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  Speaker 3: I was shocked that he remembered that I said it.
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  Speaker 3: Number two, I was like, Okay, I guess I got
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  Speaker 3: thirty minutes to get myself together and move on from this.
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  Speaker 3: And that's basically what I did. And it was like, okay,
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  Speaker 3: I have my pity party. And that's really what I
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  Speaker 3: give myself permission to do now is I'll give myself
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  Speaker 3: thirty minutes to feel whatever emotion it is that I'm feeling.
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  Speaker 3: If I feel frustrated, my body's hurting, I'm in a
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  Speaker 3: lot of pain.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know what to do.
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  Speaker 3: This is just too much to bear. I give myself
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  Speaker 3: thirty minutes to feel that. And then it's like, Okay, God,
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  Speaker 3: what is it that I need to do after this?
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  Speaker 3: Because I know my time is not up.
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  Speaker 5: This is not what I need to be doing.
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  Speaker 3: But what's the confirmation that I need to move out
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  Speaker 3: of my little penny party? I can sleep on it tonight.
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  Speaker 3: And so what I've learned for me, and this is
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  Speaker 3: what I do every night is I write in my journal.
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  Speaker 3: I write it's basically like a Dear God letter every
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  Speaker 3: night in my journal. And so I'm like, God, you
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  Speaker 3: know I'm dealing with this. I don't know which way
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  Speaker 3: I'm supposed to go. So I'm going to hand it
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  Speaker 3: to you and then allow you to give me direction.
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  Speaker 3: Now I have to tell you that, God, I'm still
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  Speaker 3: a little stubborn and I'm a little hard headed. And
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  Speaker 3: you know this about me So just if I'm not
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  Speaker 3: doing what exactly you're telling me to do, go ahead
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  Speaker 3: and nudge me and make sure that I stay on
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  Speaker 3: the right, because you know we'll go off on our
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  Speaker 3: own little tangent and trying to do our own little thing.
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  Speaker 3: And God is like, no, you're on the wrong path.
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  Speaker 3: Get back over here, because I didn't tell you to
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  Speaker 3: go down that way. You took a left and I
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  Speaker 3: told you to take a right, So get back over here.
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  Speaker 3: But your story of resilience, not just resilience, but strength,
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  Speaker 3: determination and focus to show that just because it looks
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  Speaker 3: like it's not going to get any better, that there
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  Speaker 3: is more to come and you just got to keep
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  Speaker 3: putting one foot in front of the other. And just
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  Speaker 3: that alone shows that God isn't finished. Just because it
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  Speaker 3: may look like it's over. God has so much more,
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  Speaker 3: And if you trust Him to give you the strength
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  Speaker 3: to get through, He's gonna show you just what you
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  Speaker 3: can do. Because I feel like this God gives us
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  Speaker 3: everything that we need and it's up to us to
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  Speaker 3: figure out what he's placed in us.
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  Speaker 5: And go ahead, mm hm.
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  Speaker 4: Mm hm, yes, yes, yes, h yes, m y mm
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  Speaker 4: hmm mm hm. Yes, it is what you do mm
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  Speaker 4: hm isactly. Yeah. I'm grateful for it.
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  Speaker 5: Because it's like it sounds like.
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  Speaker 4: You never gave in.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you were having those moments of God, why me?
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  Speaker 2: Why me?
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  Speaker 3: But you deep down you knew that there was a
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  Speaker 3: greater purpose and you were trying to get God to
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  Speaker 3: tell you in that instant right then, like tell me why.
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  Speaker 4: And yes.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah hm hm.
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  Speaker 4: No right, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah mm hm.
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  Speaker 4: Real yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Right, yeah, that is the thing, and you I agree
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  Speaker 5: with that one hundred percent.
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  Speaker 3: The reason is because I know when I'm facing opposition
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  Speaker 3: or challenge that and especially if I feel uncomfortable. When
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  Speaker 3: I'm uncomfortable, I know that there is something that God
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  Speaker 3: is about to do. And when I get too comfortable,
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  Speaker 3: it's like, oh, I'm not doing something right. But the
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  Speaker 3: instent i'm uncomfortable, it's.
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  Speaker 5: Like, Okay, God, what is it that I need?
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  Speaker 3: And I say that life is full of puzzle pieces
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  Speaker 3: and each piece is connected to where we're going, you know.
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  Speaker 3: So we got to collect those pieces to the bigger picture.
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  Speaker 3: But if God was to show us everything that we
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  Speaker 3: were going to go through right then when we asked him,
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  Speaker 3: a lot of us would not fall, we would not
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  Speaker 3: follow suit, we would quickly back away because be like, no,
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to go through that. I was telling
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  Speaker 3: my sister the other day. She always wants to get
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  Speaker 3: to the finish line, but she doesn't want to go
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  Speaker 3: through any of the hard stuff to get there. And
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, baby, it doesn't work like that. You may
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  Speaker 3: be wanting to go directly across the street, but to
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  Speaker 3: get there, you gotta go down it's the little embankment.
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  Speaker 3: It's a little steep, little hill.
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  Speaker 5: You know, you got to climb over that.
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  Speaker 3: It might be a puddle at the end of that hill,
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  Speaker 3: so you might get a little dirty, but you still
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  Speaker 3: gotta go across the street. And there's no easy detour
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  Speaker 3: around that. To get across the street. You just gotta
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  Speaker 3: do it. And if you want to get there, you
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  Speaker 3: gotta go through it. And she's like, but since I
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  Speaker 3: don't want to do any of that, no one cares.
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  Speaker 3: If you prayed and ask God to get you where
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  Speaker 3: you want to go, you gotta go through some things.
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  Speaker 3: And she was asked she was frustrated because she was
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  Speaker 3: doing like she had a job or something she was
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  Speaker 3: working with, and she was like, she didn't understand why
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  Speaker 3: she was going through such opposition and so much struggle,
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, well, there's some things that you're
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  Speaker 3: not ready for right now, and since you're not ready
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  Speaker 3: for it, God is putting you through the test in
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  Speaker 3: order to see if you're really ready for it. And
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  Speaker 3: if you keep repeating it over and over again, then
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  Speaker 3: you're not ready. You haven't passed the test. The only
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  Speaker 3: way to get to the other level is if you
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  Speaker 3: pass the test. So if you're repeating it, you're not
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  Speaker 3: passing because you haven't learned the lesson. And God's not
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  Speaker 3: gonna put you in a bigger position if you can't
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  Speaker 3: pass the one that you're on. Okay, okay, hm hm.
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  Speaker 5: Right where.
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  Speaker 4: H yeah, exactly, mm hmm.
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  Speaker 3: It's always good when you know that God has your
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  Speaker 3: back like nobody else. And that's one of the things
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  Speaker 3: that I say that God knows that we're gonna have
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  Speaker 3: our stupid moments and he accounts.
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  Speaker 5: For those for us. Yes, So if you know that
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  Speaker 5: God accounts for your.
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  Speaker 3: Stupid moments, just don't get carried away with making too
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  Speaker 3: many of them.
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  Speaker 5: But He's gonna get you where you need to go.
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  Speaker 3: And sometimes our own stubbornness and our own heardheadedness gets
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  Speaker 3: us in situations where it's like, God, I know I
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  Speaker 3: should have listened to you, but what do I do now?
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  Speaker 5: And He's like, yeah, I knew you were gonna do that.
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  Speaker 5: Just be patient. I got some coming up for you.
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  Speaker 5: Just hold your horses.
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  Speaker 3: And that's usually what happens in those situations.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, yes, okay, okay, heven hevenen heen.
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  Speaker 5: Oh wow, yes.
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  Speaker 2: It does.
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  Speaker 4: Mm hmm. Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: God has that. He definitely is. But I look at
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  Speaker 5: it like this.
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  Speaker 3: It's like I prayed a prayer in twenty nineteen, and
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  Speaker 3: my prayer was to remove the people who were not
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  Speaker 3: connected to my destiny and bring the people who were connected.
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  Speaker 5: To the plans that he had for me.
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  Speaker 3: And when I tell you, I didn't understand that I
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  Speaker 3: was going to lose people that were important to me,
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  Speaker 3: but I also prayed for me to be okay if
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  Speaker 3: he did remove those people, because they were necessary.
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  Speaker 5: And when I tell you the.
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  Speaker 3: Circle of people that I have around me now, it's
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  Speaker 3: mind blowing because those people bore into me like I
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: am never depleted, and I can always pick up the
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  Speaker 3: phone or send a text a message, and somebody hears
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  Speaker 3: me when I'm silent. They hear me when they haven't
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  Speaker 3: seen me post on social media. They're checking in, are
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: you okay? Is anything wrong? You need anything? And sometimes
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: I might need something. Sometimes I'm just you know, taking
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  Speaker 3: a break from social media. But it's great to have
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: people like that and having that source of energy that
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: is positive and being able to speak life into you
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: versus them focusing on the negative. And I'm in a
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  Speaker 3: space now where if the conversation is more negative, I
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  Speaker 3: remove myself away from it because it's like, you're not
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  Speaker 3: about to get me in that space because I don't
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  Speaker 3: want no parts of it. If we can talk about
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: something positive, then we can't talk at all, because I
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  Speaker 3: don't got time for it, you.
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  Speaker 5: Know, yes, hm, right.
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  Speaker 4: Right, yeah?
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  Speaker 5: Holding ont of them, Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Holding on to people that you've probably been friends with
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  Speaker 3: since grade school and things of that nature, people that
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  Speaker 3: you've known your whole life. You have to be okay
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  Speaker 3: when God says it's time to let that person go,
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: because he knows he hears those conversations that we don't
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  Speaker 3: hear that they're speaking about us, you know, and so
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  Speaker 3: being okay with that. What is something that you want
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  Speaker 3: to leave our guests with tonight? What advice did you.
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  Speaker 5: Leave them with.
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  Speaker 4: Mhm hm h m hm hm.
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  Speaker 5: I like that and that's good advice.
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  Speaker 3: Now, I mentioned to you that I have something for
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  Speaker 3: you and I want to know would you like to
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: be a speaker at Matters of the Heart that is
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: coming up.
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  Speaker 4: I believe in April or May, so would.
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  Speaker 3: You want to be a speaker? It's virtual, all right.
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: I will get you more details later this week on
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: the date and time and everything, but we would definitely
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  Speaker 3: love to have you.
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  Speaker 5: Listen.
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  Speaker 3: Like I told you at the beginning, it's always a
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  Speaker 3: greater purpose because what may have been a denial in
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  Speaker 3: one sense is always a door opening that God wanted
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: you to be in a different space. And that's what
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: it's always about, because God never puts people together that
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: aren't by his design. And so someone else said no,
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: but God always says yes.
• 46:36
  Speaker 5: So that's the thing.
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  Speaker 3: But I want to thank you so much for being
• 46:40
  Speaker 3: here tonight and sharing your journey and sharing your story
• 46:43
  Speaker 3: because you definitely reach more people than you ever imagine,
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: even in passing, you know, just being able to share
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: and speak and being in your presence sometimes whether you're
• 46:58
  Speaker 3: saying anything or not, is enough to let them know
• 47:01
  Speaker 3: that there's a greater on the side of what it
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: is that they're going through right now. So continue to
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: be an inspiration, continue to be alike, continue to share
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  Speaker 3: everything that God allows you to share with those who
• 47:14
  Speaker 3: come in contact. Because I am grateful that you are
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  Speaker 3: here with me tonight. Yes, and you guys, I thank
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: you for tuning in tonight. And you know I cannot
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: do anything without saying this one thing, and that is
• 47:40
  Speaker 3: stay obedient to what God tells you to do. Stay
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: out of God's business. The only thing he needs you
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  Speaker 3: to do is be obedient to what He's called you
• 47:47
  Speaker 3: to do until next time.
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  Speaker 5: I'll see you guys.
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  Speaker 3: Back on Thursday, March the twenty seventh, good Night.
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