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Found at 40: Losing Friends, Letting Go, and Finally Becoming Myself with Found at 40's Chrissi Harris · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

• 0:00
  He
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  said,
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  life
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  really
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  does
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  begin
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  at
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  40.
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  Up
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  till
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  then,
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  you
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  are
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  just
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  doing
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  research.
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  You
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  are
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  not
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  running
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  a
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  race
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  against
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  anybody
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  else
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  but
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  yourself.
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  Like
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  there
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  is
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  no
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  timeline.
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  Turning
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  40,
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  I
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  feel
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  so
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  empowered.
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  I
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  feel
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  so
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  excited.
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  this
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  is
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  it.
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  If
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  you
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  say
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  it
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  to
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  yourself
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  in
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  America,
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  write
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  it
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  down
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  on
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  a
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  piece
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  of
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  paper,
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  stick
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  that
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  sucker
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  up
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  on
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  your
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  wall
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  and
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  look
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  at
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  it.
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  My
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  husband,
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  bless
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  him,
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  he
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  is
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  as
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  sweet
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  and
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  wonderful
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  as
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  they
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  come,
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  but
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  like,
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  he
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  just
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  doesn't
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  get
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  it.
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  The
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  online
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  world,
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  like,
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  you
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  know,
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  we
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  hear
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  the
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  bad
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  of
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  it,
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  but
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  there's
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  also
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  so
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  much
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  good
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  we
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  can
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  connect
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  with
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  each
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  other.
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  I
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  would
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  say
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  reach
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  out
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  to
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  your
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  community,
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  reach
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  out
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  to
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  the
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  people
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  that
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  you
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  know,
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  reach
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  out
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  to
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  the
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  people
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  you
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  love,
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  reach
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  out
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  to
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  the
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  people
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  you
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  follow,
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  the
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  people
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  you
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  admire.
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  Do
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  you
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  take
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  a
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  step
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  back
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  and
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  let
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  your
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  daughter
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  kind
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  of
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  just
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  figure
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  out,
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  or
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  do
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  you
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  step
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  in
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  as
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  a
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  parent?
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  You
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  know,
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  it's
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  like
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  you
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  want
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  them
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  to
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  be
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  able
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  to
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  have
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  the
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  independence
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  because
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  if
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  you
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  just
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  sweep
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  in
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  and
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  solve
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  the
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  problems,
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  what
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  does
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  that
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  teach
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  them?
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  It's
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  almost
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  like
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  perimenopause
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  takes,
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  takes
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  over
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  your
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  body.
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  Like
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  it's
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  almost
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  like
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  possessed.
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  We
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  need
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  an
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  exorcism
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  right
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  now.
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  What's
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  happening?
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  Today's
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  guest
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  built
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  a
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  brand
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  out
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  of
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  rediscovering
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  herself
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  and
• 1:07
  gave
• 1:08
  the
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  rest
• 1:08
  of
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  us
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  permission
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  to
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  do
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  the
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  same.
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  Chrissy
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  Harrison
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  is
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  the
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  host
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  of
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  the
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  hit
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  podcast
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  found
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  at
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  40,
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  where
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  she
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  speaks
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  with
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  women
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  who've
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  taken
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  bold
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  leaps
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  into
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  their
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  most
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  authentic
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  lives
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  in
• 1:19
  midlife
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  and
• 1:20
  beyond.
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  From
• 1:21
  walking
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  away
• 1:21
  from
• 1:22
  high
• 1:22
  powered
• 1:22
  careers
• 1:23
  to
• 1:23
  finding
• 1:24
  unexpected
• 1:24
  love
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  or
• 1:25
  building
• 1:25
  passion
• 1:26
  fueled
• 1:26
  businesses,
• 1:27
  Chrissy's
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  conversations
• 1:28
  are
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  smart,
• 1:29
  vulnerable,
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  and
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  deeply
• 1:30
  validating.
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  She's
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  also
• 1:32
  sharing
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  her
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  own
• 1:33
  evolution,
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  one
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  that
• 1:34
  proves
• 1:35
  it's
• 1:35
  never
• 1:35
  too
• 1:35
  late
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  to
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  stop
• 1:36
  settling
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  and
• 1:37
  start
• 1:37
  living
• 1:38
  out
• 1:38
  loud.
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  So
• 1:39
  if
• 1:39
  you've
• 1:39
  ever
• 1:40
  thought,
• 1:40
  is
• 1:40
  this
• 1:40
  all
• 1:41
  there
• 1:41
  is?
• 1:41
  Or
• 1:42
  what
• 1:42
  if
• 1:42
  I
• 1:42
  made
• 1:43
  a
• 1:43
  big
• 1:43
  change?
• 1:44
  This
• 1:44
  one's
• 1:44
  for
• 1:45
  you.
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  So
• 1:46
  welcome
• 1:47
  to
• 1:47
  the
• 1:47
  iconic
• 1:47
  midlife.
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  Chrissy,
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  how
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  are
• 1:49
  you?
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  Hi.
• 1:51
  I'm
• 1:51
  good.
• 1:52
  I'm
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  so
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  excited
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  to
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  be
• 1:53
  here.
• 1:53
  Thank
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  you
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  for
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  having
• 1:54
  me
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  on.
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  Oh,
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  my
• 1:54
  gosh.
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  So
• 1:55
  excited.
• 1:55
  We've
• 1:56
  also
• 1:56
  just
• 1:56
  done
• 1:56
  your
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  show,
• 1:57
  so
• 1:57
  I
• 1:57
  feel
• 1:57
  like
• 1:57
  I'm
• 1:58
  getting
• 1:58
  like
• 1:58
  the
• 1:58
  best
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  two
• 2:00
  hours
• 2:00
  with
• 2:00
  you.
• 2:01
  Get
• 2:01
  really
• 2:01
  getting
• 2:01
  to
• 2:02
  know
• 2:02
  you.
• 2:02
  Double
• 2:02
  feature
• 2:03
  Chrissy
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  Rock.
• 2:04
  Our
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  names
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  even
• 2:05
  go
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  together,
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  you
• 2:06
  know,
• 2:07
  I
• 2:07
  know.
• 2:07
  Sounds
• 2:08
  great.
• 2:08
  We
• 2:08
  might
• 2:08
  be
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  onto
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  something.
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  Totally.
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  So
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  I
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  absolutely
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  love
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  what
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  you're
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  doing.
• 2:14
  You
• 2:14
  have
• 2:14
  an
• 2:14
  amazing
• 2:15
  podcast
• 2:15
  called
• 2:16
  found
• 2:16
  at
• 2:16
  40,
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  which
• 2:18
  I.
• 2:18
  The
• 2:18
  title
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  just
• 2:19
  so
• 2:19
  rings
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  true.
• 2:20
  I
• 2:20
  mean,
• 2:20
  I
• 2:21
  feel
• 2:21
  like
• 2:21
  so
• 2:21
  Many
• 2:21
  of
• 2:21
  us
• 2:21
  have
• 2:22
  found
• 2:22
  ourselves
• 2:23
  at
• 2:23
  40
• 2:23
  or
• 2:24
  are
• 2:24
  approaching
• 2:24
  40,
• 2:25
  and
• 2:25
  things
• 2:25
  are
• 2:25
  changing,
• 2:26
  and
• 2:26
  we're
• 2:27
  figuring
• 2:27
  things
• 2:27
  out.
• 2:28
  So
• 2:29
  what
• 2:29
  was
• 2:29
  it
• 2:30
  about
• 2:30
  turning
• 2:31
  40
• 2:32
  or
• 2:32
  entering
• 2:32
  the
• 2:33
  stage
• 2:33
  of
• 2:33
  midlife
• 2:34
  that
• 2:34
  made
• 2:34
  you
• 2:34
  say,
• 2:34
  okay,
• 2:35
  we
• 2:35
  need
• 2:36
  to
• 2:36
  do
• 2:36
  something.
• 2:36
  I
• 2:36
  need
• 2:36
  to
• 2:37
  start
• 2:37
  a
• 2:37
  show.
• 2:37
  Like,
• 2:37
  we
• 2:37
  need
• 2:38
  to
• 2:38
  talk
• 2:38
  about
• 2:38
  this?
• 2:39
  Well,
• 2:39
  it's
• 2:40
  kind
• 2:40
  of.
• 2:40
  It's
• 2:40
  a
• 2:41
  little
• 2:41
  bit
• 2:41
  of
• 2:41
  a
• 2:41
  long
• 2:41
  story,
• 2:41
  but
• 2:42
  for
• 2:42
  years,
• 2:42
  I've
• 2:43
  had
• 2:43
  this
• 2:43
  unresolved
• 2:44
  thought
• 2:44
  in
• 2:44
  my
• 2:44
  life
• 2:45
  of
• 2:46
  what
• 2:46
  am
• 2:46
  I
• 2:46
  supposed
• 2:46
  to
• 2:47
  be
• 2:47
  doing
• 2:47
  with
• 2:47
  my
• 2:47
  life?
• 2:48
  I've
• 2:48
  had
• 2:48
  a
• 2:48
  little
• 2:49
  bit
• 2:49
  of
• 2:49
  a
• 2:49
  different
• 2:49
  journey
• 2:50
  where,
• 2:50
  you
• 2:50
  know,
• 2:50
  I
• 2:50
  got
• 2:51
  married
• 2:51
  really
• 2:52
  young.
• 2:52
  I
• 2:52
  got
• 2:52
  married
• 2:53
  when
• 2:53
  I
• 2:53
  was
• 2:53
  barely
• 2:53
  20.
• 2:53
  I
• 2:54
  joke
• 2:54
  that
• 2:54
  I
• 2:54
  was
• 2:54
  a
• 2:54
  child
• 2:55
  bride,
• 2:55
  completely
• 2:56
  willing,
• 2:56
  still
• 2:57
  stand
• 2:57
  behind
• 2:57
  my
• 2:57
  decision.
• 2:58
  But
• 2:58
  I
• 2:59
  got
• 2:59
  married
• 2:59
  very
• 2:59
  young.
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  When
• 3:00
  we
• 3:00
  started
• 3:00
  having
• 3:01
  kids,
• 3:02
  I.
• 3:03
  My
• 3:03
  husband
• 3:04
  and
• 3:04
  I,
• 3:04
  we
• 3:04
  made
• 3:04
  the
• 3:04
  decision
• 3:04
  that
• 3:05
  I
• 3:05
  was
• 3:05
  going
• 3:05
  to
• 3:05
  be
• 3:05
  staying
• 3:06
  home
• 3:06
  for
• 3:07
  the
• 3:07
  most
• 3:07
  part.
• 3:07
  I
• 3:07
  mean,
• 3:07
  I
• 3:07
  worked
• 3:08
  part
• 3:08
  time,
• 3:08
  but,
• 3:08
  like,
• 3:09
  I
• 3:09
  really
• 3:09
  did
• 3:09
  not
• 3:10
  lean
• 3:10
  into
• 3:10
  a
• 3:10
  career
• 3:11
  space.
• 3:11
  And
• 3:12
  so
• 3:12
  at
• 3:13
  this
• 3:13
  point
• 3:13
  of
• 3:14
  my
• 3:14
  life,
• 3:14
  my
• 3:14
  kids
• 3:15
  are
• 3:15
  getting
• 3:15
  a
• 3:15
  little
• 3:15
  bit
• 3:15
  older.
• 3:16
  You
• 3:16
  know,
• 3:16
  there's
• 3:17
  more
• 3:17
  bandwidth
• 3:17
  to
• 3:17
  be
• 3:18
  thinking
• 3:18
  about
• 3:18
  what
• 3:18
  do
• 3:19
  I
• 3:19
  want
• 3:19
  to
• 3:19
  be
• 3:19
  doing.
• 3:20
  And
• 3:20
  so
• 3:20
  I
• 3:20
  had
• 3:20
  this
• 3:21
  unsettled
• 3:21
  feeling.
• 3:21
  It
• 3:22
  was
• 3:22
  almost
• 3:22
  like
• 3:22
  that,
• 3:22
  I
• 3:22
  would
• 3:23
  call
• 3:23
  it
• 3:23
  the
• 3:23
  spinning
• 3:23
  wheel
• 3:24
  of
• 3:24
  death.
• 3:24
  Like
• 3:24
  that
• 3:25
  little
• 3:25
  circular,
• 3:26
  you
• 3:26
  know,
• 3:26
  when
• 3:27
  your.
• 3:27
  Your
• 3:27
  computer's
• 3:27
  frozen.
• 3:28
  Like,
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  felt
• 3:28
  like
• 3:28
  that
• 3:28
  was
• 3:29
  in
• 3:29
  my
• 3:29
  head
• 3:29
  and
• 3:30
  so
• 3:30
  realizing
• 3:31
  I
• 3:31
  truly
• 3:32
  adore
• 3:32
  being
• 3:32
  a
• 3:33
  wife
• 3:33
  and
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  mother,
• 3:33
  but,
• 3:33
  like,
• 3:34
  that
• 3:34
  is
• 3:35
  not.
• 3:36
  Those
• 3:36
  are
• 3:36
  my
• 3:36
  roles.
• 3:37
  That
• 3:37
  is
• 3:37
  not
• 3:37
  all
• 3:37
  that
• 3:38
  I
• 3:38
  am.
• 3:38
  And
• 3:39
  so
• 3:39
  really,
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  was
• 3:40
  exhausting
• 3:40
  myself
• 3:40
  trying
• 3:41
  to
• 3:41
  think
• 3:41
  about,
• 3:41
  like,
• 3:42
  okay,
• 3:42
  well,
• 3:42
  then
• 3:43
  what
• 3:43
  do
• 3:43
  I
• 3:43
  want
• 3:43
  to
• 3:43
  do?
• 3:44
  I
• 3:44
  feel
• 3:44
  like
• 3:44
  in
• 3:44
  a
• 3:44
  lot
• 3:44
  of
• 3:45
  is,
• 3:45
  I
• 3:45
  was
• 3:45
  arriving
• 3:46
  so
• 3:46
  late
• 3:46
  to,
• 3:47
  you
• 3:47
  know,
• 3:48
  maybe
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  career
• 3:49
  party
• 3:49
  where
• 3:49
  it's
• 3:49
  like,
• 3:50
  okay,
• 3:50
  I
• 3:50
  don't
• 3:50
  want
• 3:50
  to
• 3:50
  start,
• 3:51
  you
• 3:51
  know,
• 3:51
  some
• 3:51
  entry
• 3:52
  level
• 3:52
  position
• 3:53
  or,
• 3:53
  you
• 3:54
  know,
• 3:54
  what.
• 3:54
  What
• 3:54
  am
• 3:54
  I
• 3:54
  qualified
• 3:55
  to
• 3:55
  do?
• 3:56
  And,
• 3:57
  you
• 3:57
  know,
• 3:57
  I
• 3:57
  wanted
• 3:58
  to
• 3:58
  find
• 3:58
  something
• 3:58
  that
• 3:59
  was
• 3:59
  worth
• 3:59
  my
• 3:59
  time,
• 4:00
  worth
• 4:00
  my
• 4:00
  energy,
• 4:01
  something
• 4:01
  that
• 4:01
  would
• 4:01
  really
• 4:02
  light
• 4:02
  me
• 4:02
  up.
• 4:03
  And
• 4:03
  so
• 4:03
  one
• 4:04
  night
• 4:04
  I
• 4:04
  was
• 4:04
  listening
• 4:04
  to
• 4:04
  a
• 4:05
  podcast,
• 4:05
  and
• 4:05
  it
• 4:06
  was
• 4:06
  talking
• 4:06
  about
• 4:06
  kind
• 4:07
  of
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  women's
• 4:07
  journey
• 4:08
  through
• 4:08
  life.
• 4:09
  And
• 4:09
  the
• 4:10
  podcaster,
• 4:10
  she
• 4:10
  brought
• 4:11
  up
• 4:11
  a
• 4:11
  quote
• 4:12
  that
• 4:12
  was
• 4:12
  from
• 4:12
  Carl
• 4:12
  Jung,
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  psychotherapist.
• 4:15
  And
• 4:15
  it
• 4:15
  said,
• 4:15
  he
• 4:15
  said,
• 4:16
  life
• 4:16
  really
• 4:16
  does
• 4:16
  begin
• 4:17
  at
• 4:17
  40.
• 4:17
  Up
• 4:17
  till
• 4:18
  then,
• 4:18
  you
• 4:18
  are
• 4:18
  just
• 4:18
  doing
• 4:19
  research.
• 4:20
  And
• 4:20
  for
• 4:20
  me,
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  was.
• 4:21
  That
• 4:21
  was
• 4:21
  a
• 4:22
  lightning
• 4:22
  bolt
• 4:23
  moment,
• 4:23
  light
• 4:23
  bulb.
• 4:24
  Like,
• 4:24
  all
• 4:24
  the
• 4:24
  things,
• 4:25
  all
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  things
• 4:25
  fired
• 4:26
  off
• 4:26
  my
• 4:26
  head
• 4:27
  that
• 4:27
  it
• 4:27
  gave
• 4:28
  words
• 4:28
  to
• 4:29
  the
• 4:29
  thoughts
• 4:29
  that
• 4:29
  had
• 4:30
  kind
• 4:30
  of
• 4:30
  been
• 4:30
  existing
• 4:31
  in
• 4:31
  my
• 4:31
  head
• 4:31
  for
• 4:31
  a
• 4:32
  while.
• 4:32
  It's
• 4:32
  like,
• 4:32
  this
• 4:33
  is
• 4:33
  just
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  beginning.
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  Want
• 4:35
  to
• 4:35
  talk
• 4:35
  about
• 4:35
  it?
• 4:36
  And
• 4:36
  so
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  was
• 4:37
  the
• 4:37
  beginning
• 4:38
  of
• 4:38
  this
• 4:38
  baby
• 4:39
  idea
• 4:39
  of
• 4:40
  let's
• 4:40
  start
• 4:40
  a
• 4:40
  podcast,
• 4:41
  let's
• 4:41
  talk
• 4:41
  about
• 4:42
  it.
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  mean,
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  have
• 4:42
  no
• 4:42
  experience
• 4:43
  in
• 4:43
  broadcast
• 4:44
  or
• 4:44
  communications
• 4:45
  or
• 4:45
  anything
• 4:45
  like
• 4:45
  that,
• 4:45
  but
• 4:46
  I
• 4:46
  was
• 4:46
  like,
• 4:46
  this
• 4:47
  is
• 4:47
  something.
• 4:47
  It
• 4:47
  finally
• 4:48
  was
• 4:48
  like,
• 4:49
  there.
• 4:50
  This
• 4:50
  is,
• 4:50
  this
• 4:50
  is
• 4:51
  it.
• 4:51
  This
• 4:51
  is
• 4:51
  what
• 4:51
  I
• 4:52
  want
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  talk
• 4:52
  about.
• 4:52
  And
• 4:53
  I
• 4:53
  know,
• 4:53
  speaking
• 4:54
  from
• 4:54
  other
• 4:54
  women,
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  know,
• 4:55
  all
• 4:55
  of
• 4:55
  my
• 4:56
  friends,
• 4:56
  my
• 4:56
  sister,
• 4:57
  like
• 4:57
  the
• 4:57
  people
• 4:57
  in
• 4:58
  my
• 4:58
  lives,
• 4:58
  they're
• 4:59
  all
• 4:59
  wondering
• 4:59
  the
• 5:00
  same
• 5:00
  thing
• 5:00
  and
• 5:00
  they've
• 5:00
  all
• 5:00
  had
• 5:01
  different
• 5:01
  paths.
• 5:01
  Whether
• 5:02
  it's
• 5:02
  been
• 5:02
  a
• 5:02
  career
• 5:03
  type
• 5:03
  path,
• 5:04
  whether,
• 5:04
  you
• 5:04
  know,
• 5:05
  where
• 5:05
  whatever
• 5:05
  it
• 5:06
  has
• 5:06
  been,
• 5:06
  you
• 5:06
  know,
• 5:06
  it's
• 5:07
  not
• 5:07
  like
• 5:07
  everybody
• 5:07
  has,
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  know,
• 5:09
  been
• 5:09
  a
• 5:09
  stay
• 5:10
  at
• 5:10
  home
• 5:10
  parent
• 5:11
  or
• 5:11
  whatever,
• 5:11
  you
• 5:12
  know,
• 5:12
  they're
• 5:12
  all
• 5:13
  wondering
• 5:13
  these
• 5:13
  things
• 5:14
  of
• 5:14
  what
• 5:14
  am
• 5:14
  I
• 5:14
  supposed
• 5:14
  to
• 5:15
  be
• 5:15
  doing
• 5:15
  with
• 5:15
  my
• 5:15
  life?
• 5:15
  It's
• 5:15
  a
• 5:16
  huge
• 5:16
  space
• 5:17
  of
• 5:17
  re
• 5:17
  evaluation.
• 5:19
  Yeah,
• 5:19
  no,
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  love
• 5:20
  that.
• 5:20
  I
• 5:20
  love
• 5:20
  that
• 5:21
  you
• 5:21
  sat
• 5:22
  with
• 5:22
  yourself
• 5:22
  and
• 5:22
  like,
• 5:23
  question,
• 5:23
  you
• 5:24
  know,
• 5:24
  like,
• 5:24
  what
• 5:24
  is
• 5:24
  it?
• 5:25
  What
• 5:25
  is
• 5:25
  it
• 5:25
  that's
• 5:25
  gonna
• 5:26
  fulfill
• 5:26
  me?
• 5:26
  Like,
• 5:27
  what
• 5:27
  is
• 5:27
  it
• 5:27
  in
• 5:27
  my
• 5:28
  life
• 5:28
  that
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  need,
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  know,
• 5:29
  or
• 5:29
  that
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  want?
• 5:30
  You
• 5:31
  know,
• 5:31
  And
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  think
• 5:32
  that
• 5:32
  that
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  such
• 5:33
  a
• 5:33
  valid
• 5:33
  question
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  ask
• 5:34
  yourself,
• 5:35
  you
• 5:35
  know,
• 5:35
  because
• 5:35
  I
• 5:35
  think
• 5:36
  especially
• 5:36
  women
• 5:37
  going
• 5:37
  through
• 5:37
  this
• 5:37
  stage
• 5:38
  of
• 5:38
  Life
• 5:38
  or
• 5:38
  approaching
• 5:39
  40
• 5:39
  and,
• 5:40
  and
• 5:40
  or
• 5:40
  midlife,
• 5:41
  you
• 5:41
  know,
• 5:41
  it's.
• 5:42
  It's
• 5:43
  one
• 5:43
  of
• 5:43
  those
• 5:43
  things
• 5:44
  where
• 5:44
  we
• 5:44
  kind
• 5:45
  of,
• 5:45
  maybe
• 5:45
  there's
• 5:46
  a
• 5:46
  feeling
• 5:46
  of
• 5:46
  being
• 5:46
  unsettled
• 5:47
  that
• 5:47
  kind
• 5:47
  of
• 5:47
  bubbles
• 5:48
  up
• 5:48
  a
• 5:48
  little
• 5:48
  bit.
• 5:48
  Yeah,
• 5:49
  right.
• 5:49
  That
• 5:49
  maybe
• 5:50
  wasn't
• 5:50
  there
• 5:50
  before
• 5:51
  because
• 5:51
  we're
• 5:52
  so
• 5:52
  in
• 5:52
  the
• 5:52
  thick
• 5:53
  of
• 5:53
  things
• 5:53
  of
• 5:53
  like,
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  know,
• 5:54
  either
• 5:54
  climbing
• 5:55
  the
• 5:55
  corporate
• 5:55
  ladder
• 5:56
  or
• 5:56
  raising
• 5:56
  children
• 5:57
  or
• 5:57
  being
• 5:58
  in
• 5:58
  a
• 5:58
  relationship
• 5:59
  or,
• 5:59
  you
• 6:00
  know,
• 6:00
  dealing
• 6:00
  with
• 6:00
  things
• 6:01
  in
• 6:01
  our
• 6:01
  families.
• 6:02
  And
• 6:02
  you
• 6:02
  know,
• 6:02
  there's
• 6:03
  just.
• 6:03
  Or
• 6:03
  traveling,
• 6:04
  whatever
• 6:04
  it
• 6:04
  is.
• 6:06
  You
• 6:06
  know,
• 6:06
  I
• 6:06
  think
• 6:06
  that
• 6:06
  there
• 6:07
  is
• 6:07
  like
• 6:07
  that
• 6:07
  little
• 6:08
  unsettling
• 6:08
  that
• 6:09
  starts
• 6:09
  to
• 6:09
  happen
• 6:09
  right
• 6:10
  around
• 6:10
  40.
• 6:11
  Would
• 6:11
  you
• 6:11
  agree
• 6:11
  with
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  for
• 6:13
  sure?
• 6:13
  Absolutely.
• 6:14
  Well,
• 6:14
  like
• 6:15
  you
• 6:15
  said,
• 6:15
  I
• 6:15
  feel
• 6:15
  like
• 6:16
  20s,
• 6:16
  30s,
• 6:16
  we
• 6:17
  are
• 6:17
  running,
• 6:17
  we
• 6:17
  are
• 6:18
  in
• 6:18
  a
• 6:18
  dead
• 6:18
  sprint
• 6:19
  in
• 6:19
  a
• 6:19
  lot
• 6:19
  of
• 6:19
  ways.
• 6:19
  We
• 6:20
  are
• 6:20
  trying
• 6:20
  to
• 6:20
  build
• 6:21
  our
• 6:21
  lives.
• 6:22
  And
• 6:22
  so
• 6:22
  by
• 6:22
  the
• 6:23
  time
• 6:23
  we
• 6:23
  get
• 6:23
  to
• 6:23
  our
• 6:24
  late
• 6:24
  30s,
• 6:24
  at
• 6:24
  least
• 6:24
  for
• 6:25
  me,
• 6:25
  in
• 6:25
  my
• 6:25
  experience,
• 6:26
  there
• 6:26
  was
• 6:26
  a
• 6:26
  slowing
• 6:27
  down
• 6:27
  and
• 6:27
  it's
• 6:28
  like,
• 6:28
  okay,
• 6:28
  when
• 6:28
  I'm
• 6:28
  not
• 6:29
  sprinting,
• 6:29
  I
• 6:30
  can
• 6:30
  actually
• 6:31
  think,
• 6:32
  I
• 6:32
  can
• 6:32
  listen
• 6:33
  to
• 6:33
  what's
• 6:33
  going
• 6:33
  on
• 6:34
  my
• 6:34
  head
• 6:34
  and
• 6:34
  I
• 6:34
  can
• 6:34
  realize,
• 6:35
  okay,
• 6:35
  it's
• 6:36
  time
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  reevaluate.
• 6:37
  It's
• 6:37
  time
• 6:37
  to
• 6:37
  start
• 6:38
  planning
• 6:38
  for
• 6:38
  this
• 6:39
  next
• 6:39
  phase.
• 6:40
  And
• 6:40
  so,
• 6:41
  yes,
• 6:41
  it's
• 6:41
  unsettling
• 6:42
  and
• 6:42
  yes,
• 6:42
  it's
• 6:42
  kind
• 6:42
  of
• 6:43
  hard
• 6:43
  and
• 6:43
  scary
• 6:43
  because
• 6:44
  we
• 6:44
  get
• 6:44
  used
• 6:44
  to
• 6:45
  the
• 6:45
  grind.
• 6:45
  We
• 6:45
  get
• 6:45
  used
• 6:46
  to
• 6:46
  running
• 6:46
  at
• 6:46
  full
• 6:46
  Speed.
• 6:47
  And
• 6:47
  so
• 6:47
  when
• 6:48
  we're
• 6:48
  not
• 6:48
  running
• 6:48
  at
• 6:48
  full
• 6:48
  speed,
• 6:49
  it
• 6:49
  almost.
• 6:49
  It
• 6:50
  almost
• 6:50
  feels
• 6:50
  a
• 6:50
  little
• 6:50
  bit
• 6:51
  scary
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  think,
• 6:52
  wait,
• 6:52
  something's
• 6:53
  wrong,
• 6:53
  something's
• 6:54
  wrong.
• 6:54
  Danger,
• 6:54
  danger.
• 6:55
  But
• 6:55
  also,
• 6:56
  oh,
• 6:56
  let's
• 6:57
  listen
• 6:57
  to
• 6:57
  ourselves.
• 6:58
  What
• 6:58
  do
• 6:58
  we
• 6:58
  really
• 6:58
  want
• 6:59
  at
• 6:59
  this
• 6:59
  stage?
• 7:00
  Yes,
• 7:01
  100%.
• 7:02
  And,
• 7:02
  you
• 7:03
  know,
• 7:03
  you
• 7:03
  and
• 7:03
  I
• 7:03
  have
• 7:03
  both
• 7:04
  been
• 7:04
  married
• 7:04
  20
• 7:05
  years.
• 7:05
  You
• 7:05
  know,
• 7:05
  it's.
• 7:06
  It's
• 7:06
  20
• 7:07
  years.
• 7:07
  And,
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  know,
• 7:08
  obviously,
• 7:09
  every
• 7:09
  marriage
• 7:09
  has
• 7:10
  its
• 7:10
  ups
• 7:10
  and
• 7:10
  downs,
• 7:11
  but
• 7:11
  I'm
• 7:11
  also
• 7:12
  wondering
• 7:12
  too,
• 7:13
  like,
• 7:13
  for
• 7:14
  being
• 7:14
  in
• 7:14
  midlife
• 7:15
  and
• 7:15
  kind
• 7:15
  of
• 7:15
  crossing
• 7:16
  that
• 7:16
  40
• 7:16
  threshold,
• 7:17
  how
• 7:18
  did
• 7:18
  that
• 7:18
  affect
• 7:19
  your
• 7:19
  marriage?
• 7:20
  Because,
• 7:20
  you
• 7:20
  know,
• 7:20
  in
• 7:20
  midlife,
• 7:21
  we
• 7:21
  deal
• 7:21
  with,
• 7:21
  like,
• 7:22
  health
• 7:22
  changes.
• 7:23
  We
• 7:23
  feel
• 7:23
  differently
• 7:24
  in
• 7:24
  our
• 7:24
  bodies.
• 7:24
  You
• 7:24
  know,
• 7:24
  we've
• 7:25
  got
• 7:25
  a
• 7:25
  lot
• 7:25
  of
• 7:25
  symptoms
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  maybe
• 7:26
  start
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  pop
• 7:27
  up.
• 7:27
  And,
• 7:27
  you
• 7:28
  know,
• 7:28
  and
• 7:28
  our
• 7:28
  partners
• 7:29
  are
• 7:29
  there,
• 7:30
  but
• 7:30
  it's
• 7:30
  like,
• 7:30
  maybe
• 7:31
  they're
• 7:31
  not
• 7:31
  experiencing
• 7:32
  the
• 7:32
  same
• 7:32
  things.
• 7:33
  You
• 7:33
  know,
• 7:33
  it's
• 7:33
  a.
• 7:33
  It's
• 7:34
  a
• 7:34
  different
• 7:35
  journey
• 7:35
  for
• 7:35
  them.
• 7:36
  So
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  want
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  know
• 7:36
  how,
• 7:37
  after
• 7:38
  being
• 7:38
  married
• 7:38
  for
• 7:38
  20
• 7:39
  years
• 7:39
  and
• 7:39
  kind
• 7:39
  of
• 7:39
  going
• 7:39
  into
• 7:40
  this
• 7:40
  whole
• 7:40
  midlife
• 7:41
  process,
• 7:41
  like,
• 7:41
  how
• 7:42
  has
• 7:42
  it
• 7:42
  changed
• 7:43
  your
• 7:43
  marriage
• 7:43
  at
• 7:43
  all?
• 7:43
  Is
• 7:43
  it
• 7:44
  affected
• 7:44
  it?
• 7:44
  Like,
• 7:44
  are
• 7:45
  things,
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  know,
• 7:45
  different?
• 7:46
  Like,
• 7:46
  what
• 7:46
  does
• 7:47
  that
• 7:47
  look
• 7:47
  like?
• 7:48
  Well,
• 7:48
  I
• 7:48
  think
• 7:49
  first,
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  mean,
• 7:49
  we've
• 7:50
  been
• 7:50
  together
• 7:50
  for
• 7:51
  so
• 7:51
  long,
• 7:52
  I
• 7:52
  feel
• 7:52
  like
• 7:52
  we've,
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  know,
• 7:53
  we
• 7:53
  grew
• 7:54
  up
• 7:54
  together,
• 7:54
  and,
• 7:55
  you
• 7:55
  know,
• 7:55
  we
• 7:55
  really
• 7:56
  are.
• 7:57
  Our
• 7:57
  lives
• 7:58
  really
• 7:58
  formed
• 7:59
  together
• 7:59
  at
• 8:00
  an
• 8:00
  early,
• 8:00
  early
• 8:00
  age.
• 8:01
  But
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  feel
• 8:01
  like
• 8:02
  at
• 8:02
  this
• 8:02
  stage,
• 8:02
  there
• 8:02
  are
• 8:03
  some
• 8:03
  diverging
• 8:04
  things
• 8:04
  that
• 8:04
  are
• 8:04
  happening.
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  mean,
• 8:05
  with
• 8:05
  any
• 8:06
  of
• 8:06
  the
• 8:06
  perimenopause
• 8:07
  things.
• 8:07
  My
• 8:07
  husband,
• 8:08
  bless
• 8:08
  him,
• 8:08
  he
• 8:09
  is
• 8:09
  as
• 8:09
  sweet
• 8:09
  and
• 8:10
  wonderful
• 8:10
  as
• 8:10
  they
• 8:10
  come,
• 8:10
  but,
• 8:10
  like,
• 8:11
  he
• 8:11
  just
• 8:11
  doesn't
• 8:12
  get
• 8:12
  it.
• 8:13
  Like,
• 8:13
  he
• 8:13
  does
• 8:14
  not
• 8:14
  understand
• 8:14
  where
• 8:15
  I'm
• 8:15
  just
• 8:15
  like,
• 8:15
  oh,
• 8:16
  I
• 8:16
  wasn't
• 8:16
  able
• 8:16
  to
• 8:16
  sleep.
• 8:17
  I
• 8:17
  tossed
• 8:17
  and
• 8:17
  turned
• 8:18
  and
• 8:18
  tossed
• 8:18
  and
• 8:18
  turned,
• 8:19
  where
• 8:19
  literally,
• 8:20
  he
• 8:20
  falls
• 8:20
  asleep
• 8:21
  within
• 8:21
  10
• 8:21
  seconds
• 8:22
  of
• 8:22
  his
• 8:22
  head
• 8:22
  hitting
• 8:23
  the
• 8:23
  pillow.
• 8:23
  And
• 8:23
  I'm
• 8:23
  like,
• 8:25
  must
• 8:25
  be
• 8:25
  nice.
• 8:26
  Must
• 8:26
  be
• 8:26
  nice.
• 8:27
  You
• 8:27
  know?
• 8:28
  And
• 8:29
  meanwhile,
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  am,
• 8:29
  like,
• 8:30
  furious.
• 8:31
  And,
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  know,
• 8:32
  like,
• 8:32
  the
• 8:33
  hot
• 8:33
  flashes
• 8:33
  where
• 8:34
  it's
• 8:34
  like,
• 8:34
  all
• 8:34
  of
• 8:34
  a
• 8:34
  sudden,
• 8:34
  somebody
• 8:35
  has
• 8:35
  turned
• 8:35
  up
• 8:36
  the
• 8:36
  thermostat.
• 8:37
  It
• 8:37
  feels
• 8:37
  like
• 8:37
  in
• 8:37
  my
• 8:38
  body,
• 8:38
  like
• 8:38
  I've
• 8:39
  got
• 8:39
  lava
• 8:39
  under
• 8:39
  my
• 8:40
  skin.
• 8:40
  What's
• 8:41
  happening?
• 8:41
  You
• 8:41
  know,
• 8:42
  he
• 8:42
  can't
• 8:42
  relate
• 8:43
  to
• 8:43
  that.
• 8:43
  And
• 8:43
  he
• 8:43
  can
• 8:43
  be
• 8:43
  like,
• 8:44
  oh,
• 8:44
  I'm
• 8:44
  sorry.
• 8:44
  That's
• 8:45
  really
• 8:45
  hard.
• 8:45
  But
• 8:46
  I'm
• 8:46
  like,
• 8:46
  you
• 8:46
  don't
• 8:46
  even
• 8:47
  get
• 8:47
  it.
• 8:48
  Totally.
• 8:49
  It's
• 8:49
  like,
• 8:49
  don't
• 8:50
  even
• 8:50
  talk
• 8:50
  to
• 8:50
  me.
• 8:52
  No,
• 8:52
  that's
• 8:52
  what
• 8:52
  I
• 8:53
  need
• 8:53
  to
• 8:53
  call
• 8:53
  my
• 8:53
  friends.
• 8:54
  It's
• 8:54
  like,
• 8:54
  I.
• 8:55
  Again,
• 8:55
  I
• 8:55
  love
• 8:55
  my
• 8:55
  husband.
• 8:56
  He's
• 8:56
  just
• 8:57
  wonderful.
• 8:57
  But,
• 8:57
  like,
• 8:58
  he
• 8:59
  doesn't
• 8:59
  get
• 8:59
  it.
• 9:00
  And
• 9:00
  he's
• 9:00
  not
• 9:00
  gonna
• 9:01
  get
• 9:01
  it.
• 9:01
  I
• 9:02
  think
• 9:02
  he's
• 9:02
  understanding
• 9:03
  cognitively,
• 9:04
  like,
• 9:05
  oh,
• 9:05
  if
• 9:05
  I'm
• 9:06
  a
• 9:06
  little
• 9:06
  bit
• 9:06
  more
• 9:06
  moody
• 9:07
  or
• 9:07
  irritable
• 9:07
  or
• 9:08
  snippy,
• 9:09
  like,
• 9:10
  we
• 9:10
  don't
• 9:10
  need
• 9:11
  to
• 9:11
  worry
• 9:12
  as
• 9:12
  much.
• 9:12
  Like,
• 9:12
  this
• 9:13
  is.
• 9:13
  This
• 9:13
  is.
• 9:13
  This
• 9:14
  is
• 9:14
  me.
• 9:14
  Sometimes
• 9:15
  it's
• 9:15
  not
• 9:16
  him.
• 9:17
  It's
• 9:18
  a
• 9:18
  little
• 9:18
  hard,
• 9:18
  though.
• 9:18
  I
• 9:19
  think
• 9:19
  he's
• 9:19
  trying
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  roll
• 9:20
  with
• 9:20
  it
• 9:20
  as
• 9:21
  much
• 9:21
  as
• 9:21
  he
• 9:21
  can,
• 9:22
  but
• 9:22
  there
• 9:22
  are
• 9:22
  times
• 9:23
  where
• 9:23
  I'm
• 9:23
  like,
• 9:23
  I'm
• 9:23
  sorry.
• 9:24
  I
• 9:24
  feel
• 9:24
  crazy
• 9:24
  in
• 9:25
  my
• 9:25
  own
• 9:25
  head.
• 9:25
  It's
• 9:26
  not
• 9:26
  anything
• 9:26
  you've
• 9:26
  done.
• 9:26
  Yes,
• 9:27
  it's
• 9:28
  all
• 9:28
  in
• 9:28
  here.
• 9:28
  Totally.
• 9:29
  I
• 9:29
  have
• 9:29
  this,
• 9:29
  like,
• 9:29
  joke
• 9:30
  with
• 9:30
  some
• 9:30
  friends.
• 9:30
  I'm
• 9:31
  like,
• 9:31
  he
• 9:31
  breathed
• 9:32
  too
• 9:33
  loud.
• 9:34
  No,
• 9:34
  it's
• 9:34
  like,
• 9:35
  the
• 9:35
  brief
• 9:35
  or
• 9:35
  it's
• 9:36
  like,
• 9:36
  you
• 9:36
  don't
• 9:37
  get
• 9:37
  this,
• 9:38
  or,
• 9:38
  like,
• 9:38
  chewing
• 9:39
  too
• 9:39
  loud
• 9:39
  or
• 9:39
  just
• 9:40
  one
• 9:40
  little
• 9:41
  thing
• 9:41
  can,
• 9:41
  like,
• 9:42
  set
• 9:42
  me
• 9:42
  off,
• 9:43
  you
• 9:43
  know?
• 9:43
  And
• 9:43
  it's
• 9:43
  like,
• 9:44
  just
• 9:44
  the
• 9:44
  irritability,
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  know,
• 9:45
  of,
• 9:45
  like,
• 9:46
  this
• 9:46
  whole
• 9:47
  time.
• 9:47
  And
• 9:48
  it's
• 9:48
  just.
• 9:48
  It's
• 9:49
  in.
• 9:49
  In.
• 9:49
  In
• 9:49
  a
• 9:49
  way,
• 9:50
  you
• 9:50
  know,
• 9:50
  I
• 9:50
  actually
• 9:50
  kind
• 9:51
  of
• 9:51
  feel
• 9:51
  bad
• 9:51
  for
• 9:51
  him
• 9:52
  because
• 9:52
  he
• 9:52
  doesn't
• 9:53
  really
• 9:53
  know
• 9:53
  what
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  do.
• 9:54
  He's
• 9:55
  kind
• 9:55
  of
• 9:55
  walked
• 9:55
  in
• 9:55
  the
• 9:55
  room,
• 9:56
  and
• 9:56
  he
• 9:56
  can
• 9:56
  see.
• 9:57
  Maybe
• 9:57
  I'm,
• 9:57
  like,
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  little
• 9:57
  more
• 9:58
  moody
• 9:58
  or
• 9:58
  what
• 9:58
  have
• 9:58
  you.
• 9:59
  And
• 9:59
  I
• 9:59
  will
• 9:59
  literally
• 9:59
  see
• 10:00
  him
• 10:01
  walking
• 10:01
  back,
• 10:02
  like,
• 10:02
  leaving
• 10:03
  the
• 10:03
  room.
• 10:03
  Or
• 10:04
  maybe
• 10:04
  he
• 10:04
  was
• 10:04
  gonna
• 10:04
  say
• 10:05
  something
• 10:05
  to
• 10:05
  me,
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  he's
• 10:06
  like.
• 10:06
  He's
• 10:06
  like,
• 10:06
  I'm
• 10:07
  just
• 10:07
  gonna
• 10:07
  pretend
• 10:07
  I
• 10:08
  never
• 10:08
  came.
• 10:09
  Totally.
• 10:10
  He's
• 10:10
  like,
• 10:10
  oh,
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  guess
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  won't
• 10:12
  say
• 10:12
  that.
• 10:12
  Oh,
• 10:12
  I
• 10:13
  guess
• 10:13
  I'll
• 10:13
  just
• 10:13
  walk
• 10:13
  out
• 10:13
  of
• 10:14
  this
• 10:14
  room
• 10:14
  right
• 10:14
  now.
• 10:15
  It's
• 10:15
  like
• 10:15
  you
• 10:16
  just.
• 10:16
  Just
• 10:16
  pretend
• 10:18
  walked
• 10:18
  in.
• 10:18
  Just
• 10:20
  read
• 10:20
  the
• 10:21
  room,
• 10:21
  honey.
• 10:21
  Read
• 10:22
  the
• 10:22
  room.
• 10:22
  Now
• 10:22
  is
• 10:23
  not
• 10:23
  the
• 10:23
  time.
• 10:23
  Totally.
• 10:24
  It's
• 10:24
  so
• 10:25
  funny.
• 10:25
  I'm
• 10:25
  like,
• 10:26
  oh,
• 10:26
  my
• 10:26
  gosh,
• 10:26
  that
• 10:26
  poor
• 10:27
  guy.
• 10:27
  So
• 10:27
  I
• 10:27
  do.
• 10:28
  I
• 10:28
  do
• 10:28
  feel
• 10:29
  bad
• 10:29
  for
• 10:29
  our
• 10:29
  partners
• 10:30
  some
• 10:30
  of
• 10:30
  the
• 10:30
  time,
• 10:30
  you
• 10:31
  know,
• 10:31
  because
• 10:31
  they
• 10:32
  probably
• 10:32
  are
• 10:32
  like,
• 10:32
  okay,
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  married,
• 10:34
  you
• 10:34
  know,
• 10:34
  a
• 10:34
  girl
• 10:35
  that
• 10:35
  I
• 10:35
  knew,
• 10:36
  you
• 10:36
  know,
• 10:36
  for
• 10:36
  however
• 10:37
  long,
• 10:37
  and,
• 10:38
  you
• 10:38
  know,
• 10:38
  she
• 10:38
  was
• 10:38
  this
• 10:39
  way.
• 10:39
  And
• 10:39
  then
• 10:39
  these
• 10:39
  sort
• 10:40
  of,
• 10:40
  like,
• 10:41
  things
• 10:41
  start
• 10:41
  happening
• 10:42
  to
• 10:42
  our
• 10:42
  bodies,
• 10:42
  you
• 10:43
  know,
• 10:43
  where
• 10:43
  it's
• 10:43
  like
• 10:44
  the
• 10:44
  irritability
• 10:44
  pops
• 10:45
  up,
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  mood
• 10:45
  swings.
• 10:46
  You
• 10:46
  know,
• 10:46
  we
• 10:46
  feel.
• 10:46
  Brain
• 10:47
  fog.
• 10:47
  The
• 10:48
  brain
• 10:48
  fog.
• 10:48
  Oh,
• 10:48
  my
• 10:48
  God.
• 10:49
  The
• 10:49
  brain
• 10:49
  fog
• 10:49
  is
• 10:49
  the
• 10:49
  worst.
• 10:51
  You
• 10:51
  feel
• 10:52
  like,
• 10:53
  what
• 10:53
  is
• 10:53
  happening
• 10:54
  Is
• 10:54
  this
• 10:54
  early
• 10:55
  onset
• 10:55
  dementia.
• 10:56
  What
• 10:56
  is
• 10:56
  happening
• 10:57
  with
• 10:57
  me
• 10:57
  where
• 10:57
  it's
• 10:58
  like,
• 10:58
  in
• 10:58
  my
• 10:58
  kids,
• 10:59
  even,
• 10:59
  they're
• 10:59
  just
• 10:59
  like,
• 11:00
  you
• 11:00
  know,
• 11:00
  I.
• 11:01
  I
• 11:02
  repeat
• 11:02
  myself
• 11:03
  or
• 11:03
  I
• 11:03
  ask
• 11:03
  them,
• 11:03
  did
• 11:03
  I.
• 11:04
  Did
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  ask
• 11:04
  you
• 11:04
  this
• 11:05
  yet?
• 11:05
  And
• 11:05
  they're
• 11:05
  like,
• 11:05
  yes,
• 11:06
  Mom.
• 11:06
  You
• 11:07
  know,
• 11:07
  and
• 11:08
  it's.
• 11:09
  It's
• 11:09
  really
• 11:09
  frustrating
• 11:10
  because
• 11:10
  you
• 11:11
  feel
• 11:11
  like
• 11:11
  Okay,
• 11:11
  I
• 11:12
  know
• 11:12
  who
• 11:12
  I
• 11:12
  am,
• 11:13
  and
• 11:13
  I
• 11:13
  know
• 11:13
  what
• 11:14
  my
• 11:14
  cognitive
• 11:14
  abilities
• 11:15
  are.
• 11:16
  And
• 11:16
  then
• 11:16
  when
• 11:16
  you
• 11:17
  start
• 11:17
  having
• 11:17
  this
• 11:17
  brain
• 11:18
  fog
• 11:18
  and
• 11:18
  you
• 11:18
  start
• 11:18
  forgetting
• 11:19
  things
• 11:19
  or
• 11:20
  you
• 11:20
  start,
• 11:20
  you
• 11:20
  know,
• 11:21
  little
• 11:21
  things
• 11:21
  get
• 11:21
  dropped,
• 11:22
  you
• 11:22
  beat
• 11:22
  yourself
• 11:23
  up,
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  think,
• 11:23
  like,
• 11:24
  oh,
• 11:24
  my
• 11:24
  gosh,
• 11:24
  what?
• 11:25
  I
• 11:25
  am
• 11:25
  falling
• 11:25
  apart.
• 11:26
  And
• 11:27
  then,
• 11:27
  I
• 11:27
  mean,
• 11:27
  I
• 11:27
  don't
• 11:27
  know
• 11:27
  if
• 11:28
  you
• 11:28
  ever
• 11:28
  follow
• 11:28
  Leanne
• 11:29
  Morgan
• 11:29
  or
• 11:30
  listen
• 11:30
  to
• 11:30
  her
• 11:30
  comedy.
• 11:31
  Yeah,
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  love
• 11:32
  her.
• 11:33
  Oh,
• 11:33
  she's
• 11:34
  the
• 11:34
  best.
• 11:34
  I
• 11:35
  love
• 11:35
  what
• 11:35
  she
• 11:36
  says
• 11:36
  about,
• 11:36
  like,
• 11:36
  perimenopause,
• 11:37
  menopause.
• 11:38
  And
• 11:38
  she's
• 11:38
  just,
• 11:38
  like,
• 11:39
  in
• 11:39
  it
• 11:39
  last
• 11:39
  10
• 11:40
  years.
• 11:41
  And
• 11:41
  the
• 11:41
  funniest
• 11:41
  things
• 11:42
  that
• 11:42
  she
• 11:42
  says
• 11:42
  about
• 11:42
  her
• 11:43
  husband,
• 11:43
  like,
• 11:43
  I
• 11:43
  love
• 11:44
  her,
• 11:44
  and
• 11:44
  I
• 11:44
  love,
• 11:44
  love
• 11:45
  that
• 11:45
  she's
• 11:45
  bringing
• 11:46
  such
• 11:46
  humor
• 11:47
  to
• 11:48
  this
• 11:48
  unavoidable
• 11:50
  life
• 11:51
  stage
• 11:51
  that,
• 11:51
  I
• 11:52
  mean,
• 11:52
  when
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  think
• 11:52
  of
• 11:53
  it,
• 11:53
  it's
• 11:53
  a
• 11:53
  privilege
• 11:53
  that
• 11:54
  we
• 11:54
  live
• 11:54
  long
• 11:54
  enough
• 11:55
  to
• 11:55
  experience
• 11:55
  these
• 11:55
  things.
• 11:56
  But,
• 11:56
  girlfriend,
• 11:57
  it
• 11:57
  is
• 11:57
  rough.
• 11:58
  It's
• 11:58
  rough.
• 11:59
  It's
• 11:59
  rough.
• 11:59
  Perimenopause
• 12:00
  is
• 12:00
  not
• 12:00
  for
• 12:01
  menopause,
• 12:01
  is
• 12:01
  not
• 12:02
  for
• 12:02
  the
• 12:02
  faint
• 12:02
  of
• 12:02
  heart.
• 12:02
  Like,
• 12:03
  it
• 12:03
  is
• 12:04
  a
• 12:04
  huge.
• 12:05
  I
• 12:05
  mean,
• 12:05
  it's
• 12:05
  like
• 12:05
  your
• 12:06
  life
• 12:06
  is
• 12:06
  just
• 12:06
  turned
• 12:06
  upside
• 12:07
  down.
• 12:07
  You
• 12:07
  know,
• 12:07
  it's
• 12:08
  not.
• 12:08
  And
• 12:09
  again,
• 12:09
  like,
• 12:09
  we
• 12:09
  were
• 12:10
  talking
• 12:10
  on
• 12:10
  your
• 12:10
  show,
• 12:11
  like,
• 12:11
  you.
• 12:11
  There's
• 12:11
  no
• 12:11
  preparation
• 12:12
  for
• 12:12
  it.
• 12:12
  Like,
• 12:13
  it
• 12:13
  just
• 12:13
  happens.
• 12:14
  Like,
• 12:14
  you're
• 12:14
  just
• 12:15
  thrust
• 12:15
  into
• 12:16
  it,
• 12:16
  you
• 12:16
  know,
• 12:16
  and
• 12:16
  whether
• 12:17
  you
• 12:17
  like
• 12:17
  it
• 12:17
  or
• 12:17
  not,
• 12:18
  you
• 12:18
  know,
• 12:18
  you're
• 12:19
  kind
• 12:19
  of
• 12:19
  forced
• 12:19
  to
• 12:19
  deal
• 12:19
  with
• 12:20
  it,
• 12:20
  but
• 12:20
  it's
• 12:20
  almost
• 12:20
  like
• 12:20
  perimenopause
• 12:21
  takes
• 12:21
  over
• 12:22
  your
• 12:22
  body.
• 12:22
  Like,
• 12:22
  it's
• 12:23
  almost,
• 12:23
  like,
• 12:23
  possessed,
• 12:24
  you
• 12:24
  know,
• 12:24
  like,
• 12:25
  you're
• 12:25
  like,
• 12:26
  what
• 12:26
  is
• 12:26
  happening?
• 12:27
  You
• 12:27
  know,
• 12:28
  we
• 12:28
  need
• 12:28
  an
• 12:28
  exorcism
• 12:29
  right
• 12:30
  now.
• 12:30
  What's
• 12:30
  happening?
• 12:31
  Yes.
• 12:31
  But
• 12:32
  I
• 12:32
  do
• 12:32
  love
• 12:32
  those
• 12:33
  voices
• 12:33
  like,
• 12:34
  Leanne
• 12:34
  Morgan
• 12:35
  and,
• 12:35
  you
• 12:35
  know,
• 12:36
  Naomi
• 12:36
  Watts
• 12:37
  and
• 12:37
  Halle
• 12:38
  Berry
• 12:38
  and
• 12:38
  people
• 12:39
  in
• 12:39
  the
• 12:39
  entertainment
• 12:40
  space
• 12:40
  that
• 12:40
  are
• 12:40
  really
• 12:41
  talking
• 12:41
  about
• 12:41
  it,
• 12:42
  you
• 12:42
  know,
• 12:42
  and
• 12:42
  it's
• 12:42
  like,
• 12:42
  why
• 12:43
  can't
• 12:43
  we.
• 12:43
  We
• 12:44
  should
• 12:44
  poke
• 12:44
  fun,
• 12:45
  you
• 12:45
  know,
• 12:45
  of
• 12:45
  it
• 12:45
  and
• 12:46
  make
• 12:46
  jokes
• 12:46
  and,
• 12:46
  like,
• 12:47
  you
• 12:47
  know,
• 12:48
  laugh.
• 12:48
  Be
• 12:48
  able
• 12:48
  to
• 12:49
  laugh
• 12:49
  about
• 12:49
  what
• 12:49
  we're.
• 12:50
  Because
• 12:50
  we're
• 12:50
  all
• 12:50
  going
• 12:50
  through
• 12:51
  it,
• 12:51
  and
• 12:51
  aging
• 12:51
  is
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  privilege.
• 12:52
  Not
• 12:53
  everybody
• 12:53
  gets
• 12:53
  it.
• 12:54
  Exactly.
• 12:54
  And
• 12:54
  it's
• 12:55
  like,
• 12:55
  we
• 12:55
  laugh
• 12:55
  so
• 12:55
  we
• 12:55
  don't
• 12:55
  cry.
• 12:56
  So
• 12:57
  it's
• 12:57
  true.
• 12:57
  It's
• 12:58
  true.
• 12:58
  Yes.
• 12:59
  I
• 12:59
  will
• 12:59
  laugh
• 12:59
  about
• 13:00
  this
• 13:00
  hot
• 13:00
  flash.
• 13:00
  And
• 13:01
  me
• 13:01
  looking
• 13:01
  at
• 13:02
  you
• 13:02
  for
• 13:02
  breathing
• 13:03
  so
• 13:03
  loud
• 13:03
  and
• 13:03
  thinking
• 13:04
  about
• 13:05
  is
• 13:05
  wrong
• 13:05
  with
• 13:05
  you.
• 13:06
  Totally.
• 13:06
  And
• 13:07
  I
• 13:07
  do.
• 13:07
  I
• 13:07
  do
• 13:08
  think
• 13:08
  there
• 13:08
  is
• 13:08
  some
• 13:09
  validity
• 13:10
  in
• 13:10
  saying
• 13:11
  that
• 13:11
  men
• 13:11
  do
• 13:11
  go
• 13:12
  through
• 13:12
  their
• 13:12
  own
• 13:13
  kind
• 13:13
  of
• 13:13
  menopause
• 13:14
  at
• 13:14
  this
• 13:15
  midlife
• 13:15
  stage,
• 13:16
  too,
• 13:16
  you
• 13:16
  know,
• 13:16
  I
• 13:16
  mean,
• 13:17
  they,
• 13:17
  too,
• 13:18
  are
• 13:18
  starting
• 13:18
  to
• 13:19
  see
• 13:19
  their
• 13:19
  bodies
• 13:19
  change
• 13:20
  and,
• 13:20
  you
• 13:21
  know,
• 13:21
  kind
• 13:21
  of
• 13:22
  figuring
• 13:22
  out,
• 13:23
  like,
• 13:23
  what,
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  know,
• 13:24
  and
• 13:24
  they.
• 13:24
  I
• 13:24
  Mean,
• 13:24
  a
• 13:24
  lot
• 13:25
  of
• 13:25
  them
• 13:25
  do
• 13:25
  end
• 13:25
  up
• 13:25
  probably
• 13:26
  having
• 13:26
  those
• 13:26
  midlife
• 13:27
  crises,
• 13:28
  like,
• 13:29
  at
• 13:29
  this
• 13:29
  time,
• 13:30
  because
• 13:30
  they,
• 13:30
  too,
• 13:31
  don't
• 13:31
  really
• 13:31
  have.
• 13:32
  They
• 13:32
  don't.
• 13:32
  Men
• 13:33
  are
• 13:33
  different
• 13:33
  in
• 13:33
  that
• 13:34
  way.
• 13:34
  I
• 13:34
  feel
• 13:34
  like.
• 13:35
  Like
• 13:35
  they.
• 13:35
  There's
• 13:36
  some
• 13:36
  men
• 13:36
  that
• 13:36
  are
• 13:36
  good
• 13:36
  about
• 13:36
  talking
• 13:37
  about
• 13:37
  things.
• 13:38
  Sure,
• 13:38
  100%.
• 13:39
  But
• 13:39
  I
• 13:40
  think,
• 13:40
  you
• 13:40
  know,
• 13:41
  men,
• 13:41
  when
• 13:41
  they
• 13:41
  get
• 13:41
  together.
• 13:42
  Like,
• 13:42
  I
• 13:42
  don't
• 13:42
  see
• 13:43
  my
• 13:43
  husband,
• 13:43
  when
• 13:43
  he
• 13:44
  gets
• 13:44
  together
• 13:44
  with
• 13:44
  his
• 13:44
  friends
• 13:45
  that
• 13:45
  they're
• 13:45
  talking
• 13:45
  about,
• 13:46
  like,
• 13:46
  menopause
• 13:47
  and
• 13:48
  health
• 13:48
  things,
• 13:49
  you
• 13:49
  know,
• 13:50
  it's
• 13:50
  just
• 13:50
  different.
• 13:50
  They
• 13:51
  do,
• 13:51
  like,
• 13:51
  an
• 13:51
  activity
• 13:52
  together.
• 13:52
  They
• 13:53
  play
• 13:53
  golf
• 13:53
  together,
• 13:54
  or,
• 13:55
  you
• 13:55
  know,
• 13:55
  that's.
• 13:55
  That's.
• 13:56
  And
• 13:56
  then.
• 13:56
  And
• 13:57
  then.
• 13:57
  So
• 13:57
  they're
• 13:58
  with
• 13:58
  their
• 13:58
  friends
• 13:58
  on
• 13:58
  the
• 13:58
  golf
• 13:59
  course
• 13:59
  for
• 14:00
  four
• 14:00
  or
• 14:00
  five,
• 14:00
  six
• 14:01
  hours,
• 14:01
  and
• 14:02
  then
• 14:02
  you
• 14:02
  come.
• 14:02
  They
• 14:02
  come
• 14:03
  home,
• 14:03
  you
• 14:03
  ask
• 14:03
  them,
• 14:03
  honey,
• 14:04
  how's.
• 14:04
  How
• 14:04
  is
• 14:05
  so
• 14:05
  and
• 14:05
  so?
• 14:05
  And
• 14:05
  he's
• 14:05
  like,
• 14:06
  I
• 14:06
  don't
• 14:06
  know,
• 14:06
  like,
• 14:07
  you
• 14:07
  just
• 14:08
  spent
• 14:08
  six
• 14:09
  hours
• 14:09
  together.
• 14:09
  What
• 14:10
  are
• 14:10
  you
• 14:10
  talking
• 14:10
  about?
• 14:11
  But,
• 14:12
  yeah,
• 14:13
  I
• 14:13
  feel
• 14:13
  like,
• 14:13
  you
• 14:13
  know,
• 14:14
  my
• 14:14
  husband,
• 14:14
  he's.
• 14:15
  He's
• 14:15
  just
• 14:15
  a
• 14:15
  couple
• 14:15
  years
• 14:15
  older
• 14:16
  than
• 14:16
  me,
• 14:16
  but
• 14:16
  it's
• 14:16
  like,
• 14:16
  okay,
• 14:17
  little
• 14:17
  things,
• 14:18
  like
• 14:18
  his
• 14:18
  eyes
• 14:18
  are
• 14:18
  changing.
• 14:19
  Like,
• 14:19
  he.
• 14:20
  You
• 14:20
  know,
• 14:20
  he
• 14:20
  had
• 14:20
  to
• 14:20
  get
• 14:21
  glasses.
• 14:21
  That
• 14:21
  was
• 14:21
  a
• 14:21
  big
• 14:22
  one
• 14:22
  for
• 14:22
  him.
• 14:23
  Like,
• 14:23
  you
• 14:23
  know,
• 14:24
  he
• 14:24
  used
• 14:24
  to
• 14:24
  be
• 14:24
  able
• 14:25
  to
• 14:25
  just
• 14:25
  eat
• 14:26
  garbage.
• 14:26
  Like,
• 14:27
  he
• 14:27
  ate
• 14:27
  like
• 14:27
  a
• 14:28
  raccoon.
• 14:28
  Like,
• 14:29
  just
• 14:30
  could
• 14:30
  eat
• 14:30
  and
• 14:31
  eat
• 14:31
  and
• 14:31
  eat,
• 14:32
  and,
• 14:32
  you
• 14:32
  know,
• 14:33
  nothing
• 14:33
  would
• 14:34
  happen.
• 14:34
  And
• 14:34
  then
• 14:34
  finally,
• 14:35
  when
• 14:35
  his
• 14:36
  metabolism
• 14:36
  slowed
• 14:37
  down
• 14:37
  a
• 14:37
  little
• 14:37
  bit,
• 14:37
  I
• 14:38
  mean,
• 14:38
  he's.
• 14:38
  He
• 14:38
  still
• 14:38
  looks
• 14:38
  great,
• 14:39
  but
• 14:39
  it's
• 14:39
  like,
• 14:39
  you
• 14:39
  know,
• 14:40
  there
• 14:40
  is
• 14:40
  a
• 14:40
  change
• 14:41
  that
• 14:41
  has
• 14:41
  happened.
• 14:41
  He
• 14:41
  cannot
• 14:42
  eat
• 14:42
  like
• 14:42
  a
• 14:42
  crazy
• 14:43
  person
• 14:43
  anymore.
• 14:44
  And
• 14:44
  it's
• 14:44
  just
• 14:45
  like,
• 14:46
  yep,
• 14:46
  this
• 14:47
  is
• 14:47
  my
• 14:47
  life
• 14:47
  mirror.
• 14:48
  See
• 14:49
  what
• 14:49
  we've
• 14:49
  been
• 14:49
  doing?
• 14:51
  It's
• 14:51
  true.
• 14:52
  It's
• 14:52
  true.
• 14:52
  It's
• 14:53
  like,
• 14:53
  you
• 14:53
  know,
• 14:53
  it's.
• 14:54
  It's.
• 14:54
  And
• 14:55
  it
• 14:55
  is.
• 14:55
  There's
• 14:56
  something
• 14:56
  nice
• 14:56
  about
• 14:57
  if
• 14:57
  you're
• 14:57
  kind
• 14:57
  of
• 14:57
  going
• 14:58
  through
• 14:58
  it
• 14:58
  at
• 14:58
  the
• 14:58
  same
• 14:59
  time
• 14:59
  together.
• 14:59
  I
• 14:59
  mean,
• 15:00
  there's
• 15:00
  pros
• 15:00
  and
• 15:01
  cons,
• 15:01
  I
• 15:01
  guess.
• 15:01
  Like,
• 15:02
  maybe
• 15:02
  you
• 15:02
  guys
• 15:02
  are
• 15:02
  both
• 15:02
  moody
• 15:03
  at
• 15:03
  the
• 15:03
  same
• 15:03
  time
• 15:03
  or
• 15:04
  what
• 15:04
  have
• 15:04
  you.
• 15:04
  But,
• 15:04
  like,
• 15:04
  there
• 15:05
  is
• 15:05
  something
• 15:05
  nice
• 15:06
  about,
• 15:06
  like,
• 15:06
  commiserating
• 15:07
  a
• 15:07
  little
• 15:07
  bit
• 15:08
  and
• 15:08
  just
• 15:08
  being
• 15:08
  each
• 15:08
  other's
• 15:09
  support,
• 15:10
  you
• 15:10
  know,
• 15:11
  because
• 15:12
  it's
• 15:12
  probably,
• 15:13
  you
• 15:13
  know,
• 15:13
  it's.
• 15:14
  It's.
• 15:14
  It's
• 15:14
  hard
• 15:14
  for
• 15:15
  everybody.
• 15:15
  I
• 15:16
  feel
• 15:16
  like,
• 15:16
  you
• 15:16
  know,
• 15:16
  the
• 15:16
  kids,
• 15:17
  too,
• 15:17
  because
• 15:18
  kids
• 15:18
  see,
• 15:19
  you
• 15:19
  know,
• 15:19
  mom
• 15:19
  acting
• 15:20
  different
• 15:20
  or,
• 15:21
  you
• 15:21
  know,
• 15:21
  dad
• 15:21
  going
• 15:22
  through
• 15:22
  some
• 15:22
  changes,
• 15:23
  and,
• 15:23
  you
• 15:24
  know,
• 15:24
  for
• 15:24
  them,
• 15:25
  I
• 15:25
  think,
• 15:26
  you
• 15:26
  know,
• 15:27
  it's.
• 15:27
  It's
• 15:27
  different.
• 15:27
  It's.
• 15:28
  It
• 15:28
  can
• 15:28
  be
• 15:28
  hard
• 15:28
  for
• 15:29
  them,
• 15:29
  too.
• 15:29
  Like,
• 15:29
  do
• 15:29
  you.
• 15:29
  Do
• 15:30
  you
• 15:30
  think
• 15:30
  your
• 15:30
  kids
• 15:31
  kind
• 15:31
  of
• 15:31
  notice
• 15:32
  different
• 15:32
  things
• 15:33
  about
• 15:33
  you
• 15:33
  now?
• 15:33
  Now
• 15:33
  that
• 15:34
  you're
• 15:34
  sort
• 15:34
  of
• 15:34
  in
• 15:34
  midlife,
• 15:35
  like,
• 15:35
  or
• 15:35
  after
• 15:35
  40.
• 15:36
  Oh,
• 15:36
  for
• 15:37
  sure.
• 15:37
  I
• 15:38
  mean,
• 15:38
  I
• 15:38
  feel
• 15:38
  like
• 15:39
  they
• 15:39
  poke
• 15:39
  fun
• 15:39
  at
• 15:40
  me
• 15:40
  all
• 15:40
  the
• 15:40
  time
• 15:40
  when
• 15:40
  it's
• 15:41
  like,
• 15:41
  you
• 15:42
  know,
• 15:42
  if
• 15:42
  I
• 15:43
  am
• 15:43
  repeating
• 15:43
  myself
• 15:44
  or,
• 15:45
  you
• 15:45
  know,
• 15:45
  whatever.
• 15:45
  Whatever
• 15:46
  I'm
• 15:46
  saying,
• 15:46
  that
• 15:46
  ages
• 15:47
  me.
• 15:47
  They
• 15:48
  just,
• 15:48
  like,
• 15:48
  crack
• 15:48
  up.
• 15:49
  I
• 15:49
  mean,
• 15:49
  I
• 15:50
  feel
• 15:50
  like
• 15:50
  both
• 15:51
  of
• 15:51
  our
• 15:51
  husbands
• 15:52
  are
• 15:52
  in
• 15:52
  for
• 15:52
  a
• 15:52
  treat
• 15:52
  in
• 15:53
  a
• 15:53
  couple
• 15:53
  years.
• 15:53
  My
• 15:53
  daughter's
• 15:54
  8,
• 15:54
  your
• 15:54
  daughter's
• 15:54
  11.
• 15:55
  We're.
• 15:55
  Once
• 15:55
  they
• 15:56
  get
• 15:56
  the
• 15:56
  hormones
• 15:57
  going,
• 15:57
  and
• 15:58
  then
• 15:58
  we've
• 15:58
  got
• 15:58
  our
• 15:59
  perimenopause,
• 15:59
  our
• 16:00
  menopause
• 16:00
  hormones,
• 16:01
  all
• 16:01
  of
• 16:01
  that,
• 16:01
  it's
• 16:02
  like
• 16:02
  they're
• 16:02
  gonna
• 16:03
  be
• 16:03
  in
• 16:03
  the
• 16:03
  eye
• 16:03
  of
• 16:04
  the
• 16:04
  storm
• 16:05
  and,
• 16:05
  like,
• 16:06
  you
• 16:06
  know,
• 16:06
  send
• 16:07
  your
• 16:07
  condolences
• 16:07
  to
• 16:08
  these
• 16:08
  mentors.
• 16:08
  It's
• 16:09
  gonna
• 16:09
  be
• 16:10
  a
• 16:10
  wild
• 16:11
  situation.
• 16:12
  But,
• 16:12
  yeah,
• 16:12
  my
• 16:12
  kids,
• 16:13
  for
• 16:13
  sure,
• 16:13
  they
• 16:14
  just
• 16:14
  kind
• 16:14
  of,
• 16:14
  like,
• 16:14
  laugh
• 16:14
  and
• 16:15
  they're
• 16:15
  like,
• 16:15
  oh,
• 16:15
  Mom.
• 16:15
  You
• 16:16
  know,
• 16:16
  but
• 16:16
  they're.
• 16:17
  Luckily,
• 16:17
  they're.
• 16:17
  They
• 16:18
  haven't
• 16:18
  been
• 16:18
  too
• 16:18
  rough.
• 16:18
  Oh,
• 16:19
  my
• 16:19
  gosh.
• 16:19
  No,
• 16:19
  it's
• 16:20
  so
• 16:20
  funny
• 16:20
  because
• 16:20
  you're
• 16:21
  right.
• 16:21
  Like,
• 16:21
  these
• 16:22
  hormonal,
• 16:23
  crazy
• 16:23
  hormonal
• 16:24
  periods
• 16:25
  of
• 16:25
  our
• 16:25
  times
• 16:26
  are
• 16:26
  going
• 16:26
  to
• 16:27
  overlap
• 16:27
  each
• 16:27
  other
• 16:28
  with
• 16:28
  our
• 16:28
  daughters.
• 16:28
  Like,
• 16:29
  they're
• 16:29
  going
• 16:29
  to
• 16:29
  be
• 16:30
  getting
• 16:30
  their
• 16:30
  periods
• 16:31
  and,
• 16:31
  like,
• 16:31
  you
• 16:31
  know,
• 16:31
  menstruating,
• 16:32
  and
• 16:32
  we're
• 16:33
  going
• 16:33
  to
• 16:33
  be
• 16:33
  like,
• 16:33
  perimenopause
• 16:34
  and
• 16:35
  menopausing.
• 16:35
  Like,
• 16:36
  it's
• 16:36
  going
• 16:36
  to
• 16:37
  be
• 16:37
  wild.
• 16:37
  Like,
• 16:38
  wild
• 16:38
  in
• 16:38
  our
• 16:38
  houses.
• 16:39
  Yes,
• 16:40
  I
• 16:40
  know
• 16:40
  it
• 16:40
  is
• 16:40
  going
• 16:40
  to
• 16:41
  be
• 16:41
  wild.
• 16:41
  And
• 16:41
  it's
• 16:41
  just
• 16:42
  like,
• 16:42
  oh,
• 16:42
  my
• 16:42
  gosh,
• 16:42
  I
• 16:43
  think
• 16:43
  the
• 16:43
  best
• 16:43
  thing
• 16:43
  we
• 16:44
  can
• 16:44
  do.
• 16:44
  And
• 16:44
  I
• 16:44
  don't
• 16:44
  know
• 16:44
  if
• 16:45
  this
• 16:45
  is
• 16:45
  really
• 16:45
  happening,
• 16:45
  but,
• 16:46
  like,
• 16:46
  prepping
• 16:47
  the
• 16:47
  men
• 16:48
  so
• 16:48
  they
• 16:48
  know
• 16:48
  what
• 16:49
  to
• 16:49
  expect,
• 16:49
  that
• 16:49
  it's
• 16:49
  like,
• 16:50
  you
• 16:50
  know,
• 16:51
  there's
• 16:51
  what
• 16:51
  to
• 16:51
  expect
• 16:52
  when
• 16:52
  you're
• 16:52
  expecting.
• 16:53
  There's,
• 16:53
  you
• 16:53
  know,
• 16:54
  now
• 16:54
  there's.
• 16:54
  Thank
• 16:55
  goodness
• 16:55
  there's.
• 16:55
  There's
• 16:56
  books,
• 16:56
  and
• 16:56
  there's
• 16:56
  a
• 16:57
  lot
• 16:57
  more
• 16:57
  out
• 16:57
  there
• 16:57
  about
• 16:57
  perimenopause
• 16:58
  and
• 16:58
  menopause.
• 16:59
  But,
• 16:59
  like,
• 17:00
  these
• 17:00
  men,
• 17:01
  I
• 17:01
  mean,
• 17:02
  I.
• 17:02
  I
• 17:02
  love
• 17:02
  my
• 17:03
  husband,
• 17:03
  and
• 17:03
  I.
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  don't
• 17:04
  want
• 17:04
  him
• 17:04
  to
• 17:04
  be
• 17:05
  constantly
• 17:06
  bewildered
• 17:06
  with
• 17:07
  what
• 17:07
  is
• 17:07
  happening
• 17:08
  with
• 17:08
  my
• 17:08
  wife.
• 17:09
  What
• 17:09
  is
• 17:10
  ha.
• 17:10
  You
• 17:10
  know,
• 17:10
  because
• 17:11
  it's
• 17:11
  like,
• 17:11
  he's
• 17:11
  known
• 17:11
  me
• 17:12
  forever,
• 17:12
  and,
• 17:13
  yeah,
• 17:13
  there's
• 17:13
  going
• 17:13
  to
• 17:13
  be
• 17:14
  changes.
• 17:14
  And,
• 17:15
  you
• 17:15
  know,
• 17:15
  I
• 17:15
  don't
• 17:15
  want.
• 17:16
  I
• 17:16
  definitely
• 17:16
  don't
• 17:16
  want
• 17:17
  to
• 17:17
  drive
• 17:17
  a
• 17:18
  wedge
• 17:18
  in
• 17:18
  our
• 17:18
  relationship.
• 17:19
  And
• 17:19
  it's
• 17:19
  like,
• 17:20
  you
• 17:20
  know,
• 17:20
  when
• 17:20
  it
• 17:20
  comes
• 17:20
  to
• 17:21
  hormones,
• 17:22
  when
• 17:22
  it's
• 17:22
  coming
• 17:22
  to
• 17:23
  whatever,
• 17:23
  things
• 17:24
  are
• 17:24
  changing,
• 17:25
  you
• 17:25
  know,
• 17:26
  if
• 17:26
  there's
• 17:26
  a
• 17:26
  way
• 17:27
  that
• 17:27
  I
• 17:27
  can
• 17:27
  say,
• 17:28
  like,
• 17:28
  hey,
• 17:28
  honey,
• 17:29
  like,
• 17:29
  I
• 17:29
  know
• 17:29
  it's
• 17:30
  going
• 17:30
  to
• 17:30
  be
• 17:30
  a
• 17:30
  little
• 17:30
  bit
• 17:30
  of
• 17:31
  a
• 17:31
  wild
• 17:31
  ride,
• 17:32
  you
• 17:32
  know,
• 17:32
  we're
• 17:33
  Going
• 17:33
  to
• 17:33
  ride
• 17:33
  this
• 17:33
  out
• 17:33
  together.
• 17:34
  I'm
• 17:35
  going
• 17:35
  to
• 17:35
  do
• 17:35
  the
• 17:35
  things
• 17:35
  I
• 17:36
  can
• 17:36
  to
• 17:36
  make
• 17:36
  this,
• 17:37
  you
• 17:37
  know,
• 17:37
  first.
• 17:37
  It's,
• 17:38
  like,
• 17:38
  comfortable
• 17:39
  for
• 17:39
  me,
• 17:39
  but
• 17:39
  I'm
• 17:39
  going
• 17:40
  to
• 17:40
  try
• 17:40
  not
• 17:40
  to
• 17:40
  lash
• 17:41
  out
• 17:41
  and
• 17:41
  make
• 17:42
  you
• 17:42
  feel
• 17:42
  like
• 17:42
  you're
• 17:43
  living
• 17:43
  in
• 17:44
  the
• 17:44
  nut
• 17:44
  house.
• 17:45
  That's
• 17:45
  the
• 17:45
  hardest
• 17:46
  part,
• 17:46
  too.
• 17:46
  It's
• 17:47
  like,
• 17:48
  swear
• 17:48
  it's
• 17:48
  not
• 17:48
  the
• 17:49
  nuthouse,
• 17:49
  but
• 17:49
  it
• 17:49
  is
• 17:50
  right
• 17:50
  now.
• 17:50
  You
• 17:51
  know,
• 17:51
  it
• 17:52
  is
• 17:52
  now.
• 17:52
  Not
• 17:52
  forever,
• 17:53
  just.
• 17:53
  Just
• 17:54
  right
• 17:54
  now.
• 17:54
  So
• 17:54
  just
• 17:55
  hang
• 17:55
  in
• 17:56
  there.
• 17:56
  It's
• 17:57
  going
• 17:57
  to
• 17:57
  be
• 17:57
  okay.
• 17:58
  So
• 17:58
  crossing
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  age
• 17:59
  of
• 18:00
  40,
• 18:00
  have
• 18:00
  you
• 18:00
  felt
• 18:01
  that
• 18:01
  life
• 18:01
  is
• 18:01
  just
• 18:02
  getting
• 18:02
  better
• 18:03
  or
• 18:03
  is
• 18:04
  it
• 18:04
  changing
• 18:04
  in
• 18:05
  another
• 18:05
  way?
• 18:05
  Like,
• 18:06
  was
• 18:06
  turning
• 18:07
  40
• 18:07
  hard
• 18:07
  for
• 18:08
  you
• 18:08
  or
• 18:09
  how
• 18:09
  has
• 18:09
  that
• 18:10
  been
• 18:10
  kind
• 18:11
  of
• 18:11
  entering
• 18:11
  this
• 18:11
  decade?
• 18:12
  For
• 18:12
  me,
• 18:12
  it
• 18:13
  has
• 18:13
  been
• 18:13
  wonderful.
• 18:14
  I
• 18:14
  have
• 18:15
  loved
• 18:15
  it.
• 18:15
  I
• 18:16
  feel
• 18:16
  like
• 18:16
  I
• 18:16
  have
• 18:16
  been
• 18:17
  ready
• 18:17
  to
• 18:18
  feel
• 18:18
  the
• 18:19
  confidence
• 18:19
  and
• 18:20
  just
• 18:20
  knowing
• 18:21
  who
• 18:21
  I
• 18:21
  am.
• 18:22
  I
• 18:22
  think
• 18:22
  of
• 18:22
  when
• 18:23
  I
• 18:23
  turned
• 18:23
  20,
• 18:24
  and,
• 18:24
  you
• 18:25
  know,
• 18:25
  there's
• 18:25
  all
• 18:25
  the
• 18:25
  fun
• 18:26
  things
• 18:26
  of
• 18:26
  the
• 18:26
  youth
• 18:27
  and,
• 18:27
  you
• 18:27
  know,
• 18:27
  I
• 18:27
  was
• 18:28
  a
• 18:28
  newlywed.
• 18:28
  Who
• 18:28
  gets
• 18:29
  married
• 18:29
  at
• 18:29
  20?
• 18:29
  I
• 18:30
  do.
• 18:30
  You
• 18:31
  know,
• 18:31
  30.
• 18:31
  Being
• 18:32
  in
• 18:32
  the
• 18:32
  thick
• 18:33
  of
• 18:33
  it,
• 18:33
  that's
• 18:33
  when
• 18:33
  it's
• 18:33
  like,
• 18:34
  okay,
• 18:34
  I'm,
• 18:34
  you
• 18:34
  know,
• 18:35
  I
• 18:35
  had
• 18:35
  my
• 18:35
  two
• 18:35
  of
• 18:36
  my
• 18:36
  children.
• 18:36
  I
• 18:36
  was
• 18:36
  going
• 18:36
  to
• 18:36
  have
• 18:37
  my
• 18:37
  daughter
• 18:37
  a
• 18:37
  little
• 18:37
  bit
• 18:37
  later.
• 18:38
  You
• 18:38
  know,
• 18:38
  being
• 18:39
  in
• 18:39
  the
• 18:39
  thick
• 18:39
  of
• 18:39
  it
• 18:39
  and
• 18:39
  just
• 18:39
  feeling
• 18:40
  so
• 18:40
  overwhelmed.
• 18:41
  But
• 18:41
  feeling
• 18:43
  40,
• 18:43
  turning
• 18:44
  40,
• 18:44
  I
• 18:44
  feel
• 18:45
  so
• 18:45
  empowered.
• 18:46
  I
• 18:46
  feel
• 18:47
  so
• 18:47
  excited.
• 18:48
  I
• 18:48
  feel
• 18:48
  like
• 18:48
  this
• 18:49
  is
• 18:49
  it.
• 18:50
  This
• 18:50
  is
• 18:50
  a
• 18:50
  place
• 18:50
  where
• 18:51
  I
• 18:51
  can
• 18:51
  actually
• 18:51
  slow
• 18:52
  down
• 18:52
  to
• 18:52
  breathe
• 18:53
  and
• 18:53
  to
• 18:53
  think,
• 18:54
  what
• 18:54
  do
• 18:55
  I
• 18:55
  want?
• 18:55
  How
• 18:56
  do
• 18:56
  I
• 18:56
  want
• 18:56
  to
• 18:56
  map
• 18:57
  out
• 18:57
  this
• 18:57
  second
• 18:58
  half
• 18:58
  of
• 18:58
  my
• 18:58
  life?
• 18:59
  I
• 18:59
  am
• 18:59
  loving
• 18:59
  it.
• 19:00
  I
• 19:00
  mean,
• 19:00
  bless
• 19:01
  my
• 19:01
  mother.
• 19:01
  I
• 19:02
  know
• 19:02
  she
• 19:02
  had
• 19:02
  a
• 19:02
  really
• 19:03
  hard
• 19:03
  time
• 19:03
  when
• 19:03
  she
• 19:03
  turned
• 19:04
  40.
• 19:04
  To
• 19:04
  her,
• 19:05
  40
• 19:05
  was
• 19:06
  like,
• 19:06
  you
• 19:07
  know,
• 19:07
  a
• 19:07
  swear
• 19:08
  word.
• 19:08
  Like,
• 19:09
  she
• 19:09
  couldn't
• 19:09
  even
• 19:09
  acknowledge
• 19:10
  that
• 19:10
  she
• 19:10
  was
• 19:10
  40.
• 19:11
  She
• 19:11
  didn't
• 19:11
  want
• 19:11
  to
• 19:11
  talk
• 19:11
  about
• 19:12
  it.
• 19:12
  She
• 19:12
  didn't
• 19:12
  want
• 19:12
  anyone
• 19:13
  ask
• 19:13
  about
• 19:13
  her,
• 19:13
  you
• 19:13
  know,
• 19:14
  ask
• 19:14
  her
• 19:14
  about
• 19:14
  it.
• 19:15
  But
• 19:15
  for
• 19:15
  me,
• 19:15
  I'm
• 19:15
  just
• 19:16
  like,
• 19:16
  I
• 19:16
  feel,
• 19:17
  you
• 19:17
  know,
• 19:17
  there's
• 19:17
  that
• 19:17
  SNL
• 19:18
  character
• 19:18
  who
• 19:19
  was.
• 19:19
  I
• 19:19
  think
• 19:19
  it
• 19:19
  was
• 19:19
  Molly
• 19:20
  Shannon,
• 19:20
  where
• 19:21
  she
• 19:21
  was
• 19:21
  15.
• 19:21
  It's
• 19:22
  like.
• 19:22
  And
• 19:22
  I'm
• 19:23
  50.
• 19:23
  Like,
• 19:24
  that's
• 19:24
  how
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  feel.
• 19:25
  Like
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  can
• 19:26
  stretch.
• 19:27
  She's
• 19:27
  doing
• 19:27
  toe
• 19:27
  touches.
• 19:28
  That's
• 19:28
  how
• 19:28
  I
• 19:29
  feel
• 19:29
  at
• 19:29
  40.
• 19:29
  Like,
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  am
• 19:31
  thrilled
• 19:32
  by
• 19:32
  40
• 19:32
  because
• 19:32
  I
• 19:33
  feel
• 19:33
  like
• 19:33
  I
• 19:33
  know
• 19:34
  things
• 19:34
  and
• 19:34
  my
• 19:34
  body
• 19:35
  has
• 19:35
  not
• 19:35
  completely,
• 19:36
  you
• 19:36
  know,
• 19:36
  I'm
• 19:37
  not
• 19:37
  having
• 19:37
  the
• 19:37
  physical
• 19:38
  issues
• 19:38
  of,
• 19:38
  you
• 19:39
  know,
• 19:39
  my
• 19:39
  knees
• 19:39
  and
• 19:40
  my
• 19:40
  hip
• 19:40
  and
• 19:40
  everything.
• 19:41
  I
• 19:41
  wake
• 19:41
  up
• 19:41
  and
• 19:42
  generally
• 19:42
  I
• 19:42
  feel
• 19:43
  okay.
• 19:43
  Sometimes
• 19:43
  I've
• 19:43
  got
• 19:44
  aches
• 19:44
  and
• 19:44
  pains.
• 19:44
  There
• 19:44
  are
• 19:44
  things
• 19:45
  that
• 19:45
  it's
• 19:45
  like,
• 19:45
  dang
• 19:45
  it,
• 19:45
  I
• 19:46
  can't,
• 19:46
  you
• 19:46
  Know,
• 19:46
  I
• 19:47
  can't
• 19:47
  move
• 19:47
  the
• 19:47
  way
• 19:47
  I
• 19:48
  did.
• 19:48
  I
• 19:48
  was
• 19:48
  a
• 19:49
  gymnast
• 19:49
  for
• 19:49
  a
• 19:49
  long
• 19:49
  time.
• 19:50
  I
• 19:50
  did
• 19:50
  gymnastics
• 19:50
  and
• 19:51
  cheer
• 19:51
  all
• 19:51
  growing
• 19:51
  up,
• 19:51
  and
• 19:51
  it's
• 19:52
  like,
• 19:52
  oh,
• 19:52
  I
• 19:52
  could
• 19:52
  do
• 19:52
  the
• 19:52
  flips.
• 19:53
  I
• 19:53
  could
• 19:53
  do
• 19:53
  the
• 19:53
  cool
• 19:53
  things.
• 19:54
  Am
• 19:54
  I
• 19:54
  able
• 19:54
  to
• 19:55
  do
• 19:55
  those
• 19:55
  at
• 19:55
  this
• 19:55
  point
• 19:56
  in
• 19:56
  my
• 19:56
  life?
• 19:56
  Absolutely
• 19:57
  not.
• 19:58
  It
• 19:58
  would
• 19:58
  lead
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  a
• 19:58
  hospital
• 19:59
  visit
• 19:59
  for
• 20:00
  sure.
• 20:01
  But
• 20:02
  40
• 20:02
  is
• 20:02
  amazing.
• 20:03
  40
• 20:03
  is
• 20:03
  the
• 20:04
  start.
• 20:04
  40
• 20:04
  is
• 20:05
  seriously
• 20:05
  where
• 20:06
  it's
• 20:06
  at.
• 20:07
  40
• 20:07
  is
• 20:07
  great.
• 20:08
  I
• 20:08
  mean,
• 20:08
  it's.
• 20:09
  I
• 20:09
  turned
• 20:10
  50
• 20:10
  this
• 20:10
  year,
• 20:11
  and
• 20:11
  I
• 20:11
  just,
• 20:11
  you
• 20:12
  know,
• 20:12
  40
• 20:12
  actually
• 20:13
  wasn't
• 20:14
  hard.
• 20:14
  I
• 20:14
  would
• 20:15
  say
• 20:15
  that
• 20:15
  50
• 20:15
  was
• 20:15
  a
• 20:16
  little
• 20:16
  bit
• 20:16
  harder
• 20:16
  for
• 20:16
  me
• 20:17
  to
• 20:17
  turn
• 20:17
  just
• 20:17
  because
• 20:18
  I
• 20:18
  kind
• 20:18
  of
• 20:18
  think
• 20:19
  about
• 20:19
  my
• 20:19
  mortality
• 20:20
  a
• 20:20
  little
• 20:20
  bit,
• 20:20
  you
• 20:20
  know,
• 20:20
  And
• 20:20
  I
• 20:21
  think,
• 20:21
  like,
• 20:21
  am
• 20:22
  I
• 20:22
  doing
• 20:22
  all
• 20:22
  the
• 20:22
  things
• 20:22
  that
• 20:23
  I
• 20:23
  want
• 20:23
  to
• 20:23
  do
• 20:23
  right
• 20:23
  now?
• 20:24
  You
• 20:24
  know,
• 20:24
  But
• 20:24
  I
• 20:24
  have
• 20:25
  to
• 20:25
  kind
• 20:25
  of
• 20:25
  give
• 20:25
  myself
• 20:25
  grace
• 20:26
  and
• 20:26
  be
• 20:26
  like,
• 20:26
  you
• 20:27
  will
• 20:27
  do
• 20:27
  them.
• 20:27
  Like,
• 20:28
  you
• 20:28
  just
• 20:28
  have
• 20:28
  to
• 20:28
  keep
• 20:29
  on
• 20:29
  the
• 20:29
  path.
• 20:30
  So
• 20:31
  at
• 20:31
  this
• 20:31
  stage
• 20:32
  in
• 20:32
  life,
• 20:32
  do
• 20:32
  you
• 20:33
  ever
• 20:33
  feel,
• 20:33
  like,
• 20:33
  lost?
• 20:34
  And
• 20:34
  if
• 20:34
  you
• 20:34
  do,
• 20:34
  like,
• 20:35
  what
• 20:35
  brings
• 20:35
  you
• 20:35
  back?
• 20:36
  Like,
• 20:36
  what
• 20:36
  gets
• 20:37
  you
• 20:37
  back
• 20:37
  on
• 20:37
  the
• 20:37
  path?
• 20:38
  Oh,
• 20:38
  yeah.
• 20:39
  I
• 20:39
  feel
• 20:40
  like
• 20:40
  at
• 20:40
  this
• 20:41
  point,
• 20:41
  it's
• 20:42
  less
• 20:42
  than
• 20:42
  before.
• 20:43
  I
• 20:43
  feel
• 20:44
  like
• 20:44
  there
• 20:44
  was
• 20:44
  a
• 20:44
  lot
• 20:45
  of,
• 20:45
  when
• 20:45
  I
• 20:45
  was
• 20:45
  in
• 20:46
  my
• 20:46
  20s
• 20:46
  where
• 20:47
  I
• 20:47
  felt
• 20:47
  like,
• 20:48
  what
• 20:49
  am
• 20:49
  I
• 20:49
  doing
• 20:49
  other
• 20:50
  than,
• 20:50
  you
• 20:50
  know,
• 20:51
  trying
• 20:51
  to
• 20:51
  raise
• 20:52
  my
• 20:52
  kids.
• 20:52
  And,
• 20:52
  you
• 20:53
  know,
• 20:54
  I.
• 20:54
  I
• 20:54
  didn't
• 20:55
  feel
• 20:55
  like
• 20:56
  I
• 20:56
  had
• 20:56
  a
• 20:56
  lot
• 20:56
  of
• 20:57
  personal,
• 20:58
  like,
• 20:58
  sense
• 20:58
  of
• 20:59
  self
• 21:00
  at
• 21:01
  that
• 21:01
  time,
• 21:01
  beyond,
• 21:02
  oh,
• 21:02
  I
• 21:02
  am
• 21:02
  wife,
• 21:02
  I
• 21:03
  am
• 21:03
  mother.
• 21:03
  And
• 21:04
  so
• 21:04
  at
• 21:04
  this
• 21:04
  point
• 21:05
  in
• 21:05
  time,
• 21:05
  I
• 21:06
  feel
• 21:06
  like
• 21:06
  there
• 21:06
  is
• 21:07
  such.
• 21:07
  There
• 21:07
  is
• 21:08
  such
• 21:08
  a
• 21:08
  wealth
• 21:08
  of
• 21:09
  information.
• 21:09
  There
• 21:09
  are
• 21:10
  so
• 21:10
  many
• 21:10
  wonderful
• 21:11
  creators,
• 21:12
  experts,
• 21:13
  authors.
• 21:13
  You
• 21:14
  know,
• 21:14
  it's
• 21:15
  way
• 21:15
  out
• 21:15
  into
• 21:16
  the
• 21:16
  entertainment
• 21:17
  sphere
• 21:17
  of,
• 21:17
  like,
• 21:17
  this
• 21:18
  is
• 21:18
  what
• 21:18
  the
• 21:18
  40s
• 21:19
  and
• 21:19
  beyond
• 21:19
  looks
• 21:20
  like,
• 21:20
  and
• 21:20
  it
• 21:20
  can
• 21:20
  be
• 21:20
  amazing.
• 21:21
  I
• 21:21
  feel
• 21:22
  like
• 21:22
  if
• 21:22
  I
• 21:23
  would
• 21:23
  have
• 21:23
  gone
• 21:23
  through
• 21:24
  this
• 21:24
  stage
• 21:24
  of
• 21:24
  life,
• 21:25
  maybe
• 21:25
  in
• 21:25
  my
• 21:26
  mother's
• 21:26
  generation,
• 21:27
  you
• 21:27
  know,
• 21:27
  maybe
• 21:27
  if
• 21:28
  I
• 21:28
  was
• 21:28
  doing
• 21:28
  this
• 21:28
  30
• 21:29
  years
• 21:29
  ago
• 21:30
  and
• 21:30
  there
• 21:30
  was
• 21:30
  still
• 21:30
  such
• 21:31
  a
• 21:31
  stigma,
• 21:32
  you
• 21:32
  know,
• 21:32
  or,
• 21:32
  oh,
• 21:33
  we
• 21:33
  don't
• 21:33
  talk
• 21:33
  about
• 21:33
  menopause,
• 21:34
  we
• 21:34
  don't
• 21:34
  talk
• 21:34
  about
• 21:34
  perimenopause.
• 21:35
  You
• 21:36
  know,
• 21:36
  I
• 21:36
  think
• 21:36
  I
• 21:36
  would
• 21:36
  have
• 21:37
  felt
• 21:37
  a
• 21:37
  lot
• 21:38
  more
• 21:38
  lost.
• 21:39
  But
• 21:39
  at
• 21:39
  this
• 21:40
  point
• 21:40
  in
• 21:40
  time,
• 21:40
  I
• 21:41
  feel
• 21:41
  this
• 21:41
  beautiful
• 21:42
  connection,
• 21:43
  not
• 21:43
  just
• 21:43
  with
• 21:43
  the
• 21:43
  women
• 21:44
  that
• 21:44
  I
• 21:44
  know
• 21:45
  personally,
• 21:45
  but
• 21:45
  now
• 21:46
  extending
• 21:46
  what
• 21:46
  this
• 21:46
  podcast,
• 21:47
  like,
• 21:47
  it
• 21:48
  is
• 21:48
  so
• 21:48
  cool.
• 21:48
  The
• 21:48
  people
• 21:49
  that
• 21:49
  you're
• 21:49
  able
• 21:49
  to
• 21:49
  connect
• 21:50
  with
• 21:50
  on
• 21:50
  the
• 21:50
  online
• 21:50
  sphere,
• 21:51
  you're
• 21:52
  able
• 21:52
  to
• 21:52
  get
• 21:52
  to
• 21:52
  know
• 21:52
  these
• 21:53
  amazing,
• 21:53
  amazing
• 21:53
  women
• 21:54
  that
• 21:54
  you
• 21:54
  would
• 21:54
  have
• 21:54
  never
• 21:55
  come
• 21:55
  across
• 21:55
  otherwise
• 21:56
  and
• 21:57
  people
• 21:57
  that
• 21:57
  you
• 21:57
  connect
• 21:57
  with.
• 21:58
  So
• 21:58
  I
• 21:59
  feel
• 21:59
  like,
• 21:59
  yeah,
• 22:00
  definitely
• 22:01
  less
• 22:01
  loss
• 22:02
  than
• 22:02
  maybe
• 22:02
  I
• 22:02
  expected
• 22:03
  to
• 22:03
  feel.
• 22:04
  So
• 22:04
  I'm
• 22:04
  very
• 22:05
  grateful
• 22:05
  for
• 22:05
  that.
• 22:06
  The
• 22:06
  online
• 22:07
  world
• 22:07
  like,
• 22:08
  you
• 22:08
  know,
• 22:08
  we
• 22:08
  hear
• 22:08
  the.
• 22:08
  The
• 22:09
  bad
• 22:09
  of
• 22:09
  it,
• 22:09
  but
• 22:10
  there's
• 22:10
  also
• 22:10
  so
• 22:10
  much
• 22:11
  good.
• 22:11
  It's
• 22:11
  like
• 22:11
  we
• 22:12
  can
• 22:12
  connect
• 22:12
  with
• 22:13
  each
• 22:13
  other
• 22:13
  and,
• 22:13
  like,
• 22:14
  really
• 22:15
  talk
• 22:15
  about
• 22:15
  these
• 22:15
  issues.
• 22:16
  And
• 22:16
  like,
• 22:16
  you're
• 22:17
  saying
• 22:17
  our
• 22:17
  moms
• 22:18
  did
• 22:18
  not
• 22:18
  have
• 22:18
  this,
• 22:18
  like,
• 22:19
  I
• 22:19
  feel
• 22:20
  so
• 22:20
  bad
• 22:21
  for
• 22:21
  that
• 22:21
  generation
• 22:23
  because
• 22:24
  they
• 22:24
  weren't
• 22:24
  able
• 22:25
  to
• 22:25
  talk
• 22:25
  about
• 22:25
  all
• 22:26
  these
• 22:26
  things
• 22:26
  so
• 22:26
  freely
• 22:27
  and
• 22:27
  get
• 22:27
  these
• 22:27
  solutions,
• 22:28
  you
• 22:28
  know,
• 22:28
  I
• 22:28
  mean,
• 22:29
  for
• 22:29
  us,
• 22:30
  finding
• 22:30
  a
• 22:30
  solution
• 22:30
  to
• 22:31
  a
• 22:31
  problem
• 22:31
  is,
• 22:31
  like,
• 22:32
  literally,
• 22:32
  like.
• 22:33
  Like
• 22:33
  just
• 22:33
  going
• 22:34
  onto
• 22:34
  your
• 22:34
  phone,
• 22:34
  you
• 22:35
  know,
• 22:35
  click,
• 22:35
  click,
• 22:35
  click,
• 22:36
  you're
• 22:36
  done.
• 22:36
  And
• 22:36
  you're
• 22:37
  like,
• 22:37
  wow,
• 22:37
  that's
• 22:38
  so
• 22:38
  amazing,
• 22:38
  or
• 22:39
  connecting
• 22:39
  over
• 22:39
  social
• 22:40
  media
• 22:40
  or
• 22:40
  doing
• 22:40
  podcasts
• 22:41
  or
• 22:42
  whatever
• 22:42
  it
• 22:42
  is.
• 22:43
  And
• 22:43
  it's
• 22:43
  like,
• 22:43
  we
• 22:43
  are
• 22:44
  so
• 22:44
  deeply
• 22:45
  lucky
• 22:45
  for
• 22:45
  that
• 22:46
  because,
• 22:47
  you
• 22:47
  know,
• 22:47
  the.
• 22:47
  And
• 22:48
  the
• 22:48
  embarrassment
• 22:48
  and
• 22:48
  the
• 22:49
  shame,
• 22:49
  I
• 22:49
  think,
• 22:49
  is
• 22:49
  slowly
• 22:50
  sort
• 22:51
  of
• 22:51
  drifting
• 22:51
  away,
• 22:51
  you
• 22:52
  know,
• 22:52
  I
• 22:52
  mean,
• 22:52
  hello,
• 22:53
  I'm
• 22:54
  in
• 22:54
  perimenopause.
• 22:54
  You
• 22:55
  know,
• 22:55
  it
• 22:55
  is
• 22:55
  what
• 22:56
  it
• 22:56
  is,
• 22:56
  like,
• 22:57
  you
• 22:58
  know,
• 22:58
  and
• 22:58
  I
• 22:58
  don't
• 22:58
  think
• 22:58
  there
• 22:59
  should
• 22:59
  be
• 22:59
  any
• 22:59
  guilt
• 22:59
  or
• 22:59
  shame
• 23:00
  or,
• 23:00
  like,
• 23:00
  weird
• 23:01
  feelings
• 23:01
  about
• 23:01
  that,
• 23:02
  you.
• 23:02
  Know,
• 23:03
  and
• 23:03
  if
• 23:04
  somebody
• 23:04
  does
• 23:05
  make
• 23:05
  you
• 23:05
  feel
• 23:06
  that
• 23:06
  way,
• 23:06
  if
• 23:06
  somebody
• 23:07
  makes
• 23:07
  you
• 23:07
  feel
• 23:07
  like,
• 23:07
  oh,
• 23:07
  my
• 23:08
  gosh,
• 23:08
  why
• 23:08
  are
• 23:08
  you
• 23:08
  talking
• 23:08
  about
• 23:08
  that?
• 23:09
  Like,
• 23:09
  that's
• 23:09
  a
• 23:09
  them
• 23:10
  problem.
• 23:10
  That's
• 23:11
  something,
• 23:11
  you
• 23:12
  know,
• 23:12
  because
• 23:12
  guess
• 23:13
  what?
• 23:13
  The
• 23:13
  tides
• 23:13
  have
• 23:14
  turned.
• 23:14
  And
• 23:14
  really,
• 23:15
  like,
• 23:15
  why
• 23:16
  are
• 23:16
  we
• 23:16
  keeping
• 23:16
  something
• 23:17
  that
• 23:17
  is
• 23:17
  so
• 23:18
  natural,
• 23:18
  so
• 23:19
  normal?
• 23:19
  And
• 23:19
  yes,
• 23:19
  totally
• 23:20
  sucks
• 23:20
  at
• 23:21
  times.
• 23:21
  But,
• 23:21
  like,
• 23:22
  like
• 23:22
  it
• 23:22
  or
• 23:23
  not,
• 23:23
  if
• 23:23
  you
• 23:24
  are
• 23:24
  a
• 23:24
  female
• 23:25
  and
• 23:26
  you're
• 23:26
  in
• 23:26
  your
• 23:26
  40s,
• 23:27
  50s,
• 23:27
  and
• 23:27
  beyond,
• 23:28
  you're
• 23:28
  going
• 23:28
  through
• 23:29
  this.
• 23:29
  There
• 23:29
  is
• 23:29
  no
• 23:30
  avoiding
• 23:30
  it.
• 23:31
  So,
• 23:31
  like,
• 23:32
  stop
• 23:33
  your
• 23:33
  yapping.
• 23:33
  Like,
• 23:33
  this
• 23:34
  is.
• 23:34
  You
• 23:34
  get
• 23:35
  on
• 23:35
  board
• 23:35
  100%.
• 23:37
  You
• 23:37
  know,
• 23:37
  it's
• 23:38
  interesting.
• 23:38
  I've
• 23:38
  been
• 23:39
  getting
• 23:39
  a
• 23:39
  lot
• 23:39
  of
• 23:39
  messages
• 23:40
  and
• 23:40
  DMs
• 23:40
  from
• 23:41
  my
• 23:41
  community
• 23:41
  and
• 23:41
  from.
• 23:42
  From
• 23:42
  my
• 23:42
  audience
• 23:43
  about
• 23:44
  women
• 23:44
  feeling
• 23:45
  stuck.
• 23:45
  You
• 23:45
  know,
• 23:46
  they're
• 23:46
  feeling
• 23:46
  stuck,
• 23:47
  they're
• 23:47
  not
• 23:47
  sure,
• 23:47
  kind
• 23:48
  of
• 23:48
  like,
• 23:48
  what
• 23:49
  to
• 23:49
  do
• 23:49
  next.
• 23:50
  What
• 23:50
  are
• 23:50
  some,
• 23:51
  like,
• 23:51
  good,
• 23:52
  practical,
• 23:52
  like,
• 23:53
  three
• 23:54
  things,
• 23:55
  maybe,
• 23:55
  that
• 23:55
  you
• 23:55
  think
• 23:56
  a
• 23:56
  woman
• 23:56
  could
• 23:57
  do
• 23:57
  today
• 23:57
  to
• 23:57
  kind
• 23:58
  of
• 23:58
  get
• 23:58
  unstuck,
• 23:59
  to
• 23:59
  really
• 24:00
  kind
• 24:00
  of
• 24:00
  try
• 24:00
  to
• 24:00
  find
• 24:01
  her
• 24:01
  way?
• 24:02
  Wow,
• 24:03
  that's
• 24:03
  a
• 24:03
  great
• 24:03
  question.
• 24:04
  I
• 24:04
  would
• 24:04
  say
• 24:06
  first
• 24:07
  you
• 24:07
  gotta
• 24:07
  slow
• 24:08
  down
• 24:09
  and
• 24:09
  you
• 24:09
  got
• 24:09
  to
• 24:09
  really
• 24:09
  take
• 24:10
  the
• 24:10
  time
• 24:10
  to
• 24:11
  think.
• 24:11
  Think
• 24:12
  about
• 24:12
  what
• 24:13
  is
• 24:13
  it
• 24:13
  that
• 24:13
  you
• 24:13
  want
• 24:14
  out
• 24:14
  of
• 24:14
  your
• 24:14
  life?
• 24:14
  What
• 24:15
  are
• 24:15
  the
• 24:15
  things
• 24:15
  that
• 24:15
  light
• 24:15
  you
• 24:16
  up?
• 24:16
  Like,
• 24:16
  learn
• 24:17
  more
• 24:17
  about
• 24:17
  yourself,
• 24:19
  whether
• 24:19
  that's,
• 24:19
  you
• 24:20
  know,
• 24:20
  do
• 24:20
  I
• 24:20
  love.
• 24:21
  I
• 24:21
  love
• 24:21
  me
• 24:22
  a
• 24:22
  personality
• 24:22
  test.
• 24:23
  I
• 24:23
  love
• 24:23
  the
• 24:23
  Myers
• 24:24
  Briggs.
• 24:24
  I
• 24:24
  love
• 24:25
  the
• 24:25
  Enneagram.
• 24:26
  I
• 24:26
  love
• 24:27
  to
• 24:27
  know
• 24:27
  kind
• 24:27
  of
• 24:29
  a
• 24:29
  little
• 24:29
  bit
• 24:29
  more
• 24:30
  about
• 24:30
  myself.
• 24:30
  What
• 24:31
  drives
• 24:31
  me,
• 24:31
  what
• 24:31
  motivates
• 24:32
  me,
• 24:32
  what
• 24:32
  am
• 24:33
  I
• 24:33
  really
• 24:33
  after?
• 24:34
  And
• 24:34
  then
• 24:34
  can
• 24:35
  kind
• 24:35
  of
• 24:35
  narrow
• 24:35
  Down.
• 24:36
  So
• 24:36
  I
• 24:36
  would
• 24:36
  say
• 24:36
  the
• 24:36
  first.
• 24:37
  First
• 24:37
  thing
• 24:37
  you
• 24:37
  want
• 24:37
  to
• 24:37
  do,
• 24:38
  learn
• 24:38
  about
• 24:39
  yourself.
• 24:41
  The
• 24:41
  second,
• 24:41
  like,
• 24:42
  I
• 24:42
  think
• 24:43
  you
• 24:43
  really
• 24:43
  have
• 24:44
  to.
• 24:44
  You
• 24:44
  have
• 24:44
  to
• 24:45
  be
• 24:45
  willing
• 24:46
  to
• 24:46
  be
• 24:46
  uncomfortable.
• 24:47
  You
• 24:48
  have
• 24:48
  to
• 24:48
  realize,
• 24:48
  like,
• 24:49
  okay,
• 24:49
  this
• 24:49
  is
• 24:49
  going
• 24:49
  to
• 24:50
  feel
• 24:50
  weird.
• 24:50
  This
• 24:50
  is
• 24:50
  going
• 24:51
  to
• 24:51
  feel
• 24:51
  out
• 24:51
  of
• 24:51
  character
• 24:52
  for
• 24:52
  me.
• 24:53
  You
• 24:53
  know,
• 24:53
  whether
• 24:54
  it's
• 24:54
  you're
• 24:55
  meeting
• 24:55
  with
• 24:56
  some
• 24:56
  new
• 24:56
  community,
• 24:56
  it's
• 24:57
  like
• 24:57
  you're
• 24:57
  putting
• 24:57
  yourself
• 24:58
  out
• 24:58
  there.
• 24:58
  You've
• 24:59
  got
• 24:59
  to
• 24:59
  be
• 24:59
  able
• 24:59
  to
• 24:59
  risk
• 25:00
  kind
• 25:00
  of
• 25:01
  the
• 25:01
  failure
• 25:02
  or
• 25:02
  rejection
• 25:02
  a
• 25:02
  little
• 25:03
  bit.
• 25:03
  And
• 25:03
  I
• 25:03
  feel
• 25:04
  like
• 25:04
  at
• 25:04
  this
• 25:04
  point
• 25:04
  in
• 25:05
  our
• 25:05
  lives,
• 25:05
  I
• 25:05
  am
• 25:06
  caring
• 25:07
  less
• 25:07
  and
• 25:07
  less
• 25:08
  about
• 25:09
  failure
• 25:09
  and
• 25:09
  rejection.
• 25:10
  I
• 25:10
  mean,
• 25:10
  obviously,
• 25:11
  I'm
• 25:11
  not
• 25:11
  going
• 25:11
  to
• 25:11
  do
• 25:12
  something
• 25:12
  that
• 25:12
  I
• 25:12
  know
• 25:13
  is
• 25:13
  going
• 25:13
  to.
• 25:13
  Like,
• 25:13
  I'm
• 25:14
  going
• 25:14
  to
• 25:14
  fall
• 25:14
  flat
• 25:14
  on
• 25:14
  my
• 25:14
  face.
• 25:15
  But
• 25:15
  you're
• 25:16
  just
• 25:16
  willing
• 25:16
  to
• 25:16
  get
• 25:17
  uncomfortable.
• 25:17
  So,
• 25:17
  like,
• 25:18
  learn
• 25:18
  about
• 25:18
  yourself.
• 25:19
  Get
• 25:19
  uncomfortable.
• 25:20
  And
• 25:20
  then
• 25:20
  the
• 25:21
  third,
• 25:21
  I
• 25:21
  would
• 25:22
  say,
• 25:22
  let
• 25:22
  me
• 25:22
  think
• 25:22
  for
• 25:23
  a
• 25:23
  second
• 25:23
  on
• 25:23
  that.
• 25:24
  When
• 25:24
  you're
• 25:25
  feeling
• 25:25
  stuck,
• 25:27
  I
• 25:28
  would
• 25:28
  say
• 25:28
  reach
• 25:28
  out
• 25:29
  to
• 25:29
  your
• 25:29
  community.
• 25:29
  Reach
• 25:30
  out
• 25:30
  to
• 25:30
  the
• 25:30
  people
• 25:30
  that,
• 25:31
  you
• 25:31
  know.
• 25:31
  Reach
• 25:31
  out
• 25:32
  to
• 25:32
  the
• 25:32
  people
• 25:32
  you
• 25:32
  love.
• 25:32
  Reach
• 25:33
  out
• 25:33
  to
• 25:33
  the
• 25:33
  people
• 25:33
  you
• 25:34
  follow,
• 25:34
  the
• 25:35
  people
• 25:35
  you
• 25:35
  admire.
• 25:35
  See.
• 25:36
  See
• 25:36
  the
• 25:36
  things
• 25:36
  about
• 25:37
  their.
• 25:38
  Their
• 25:38
  lives
• 25:38
  or
• 25:39
  their
• 25:39
  experiences
• 25:39
  that
• 25:40
  you
• 25:40
  think,
• 25:40
  oh,
• 25:40
  that
• 25:41
  could
• 25:41
  be
• 25:41
  really
• 25:41
  great.
• 25:42
  I
• 25:42
  mean,
• 25:42
  I
• 25:43
  definitely
• 25:44
  am
• 25:44
  all
• 25:44
  about
• 25:44
  having
• 25:45
  individuality
• 25:46
  and,
• 25:46
  like,
• 25:46
  you
• 25:47
  know,
• 25:47
  not
• 25:47
  saying,
• 25:47
  oh,
• 25:48
  I'm
• 25:48
  just
• 25:48
  going
• 25:48
  to
• 25:48
  follow
• 25:48
  her
• 25:49
  path.
• 25:49
  But
• 25:49
  it's
• 25:49
  like,
• 25:50
  what
• 25:50
  is
• 25:50
  it
• 25:50
  about,
• 25:51
  you
• 25:51
  know,
• 25:51
  what
• 25:52
  Roxy
• 25:52
  does
• 25:53
  that
• 25:53
  people
• 25:54
  are
• 25:54
  really
• 25:54
  enjoying?
• 25:55
  Is
• 25:55
  it
• 25:55
  that
• 25:55
  she's
• 25:56
  connecting
• 25:56
  with
• 25:56
  people
• 25:56
  online?
• 25:57
  Is
• 25:57
  it
• 25:58
  that
• 25:58
  she's,
• 25:58
  you
• 25:59
  know,
• 25:59
  trained
• 25:59
  in
• 26:00
  this
• 26:00
  way?
• 26:00
  Or
• 26:00
  is
• 26:01
  it
• 26:01
  that
• 26:01
  she's,
• 26:01
  you
• 26:02
  know,
• 26:02
  doing
• 26:02
  a
• 26:03
  animal
• 26:03
  rescue?
• 26:04
  Like,
• 26:04
  what
• 26:04
  is
• 26:04
  it
• 26:04
  about
• 26:04
  this
• 26:05
  person's
• 26:05
  experience
• 26:05
  that
• 26:06
  seems
• 26:06
  really
• 26:06
  cool
• 26:06
  and
• 26:06
  kind
• 26:07
  of
• 26:07
  think
• 26:07
  about,
• 26:07
  oh,
• 26:08
  what
• 26:08
  might
• 26:08
  be
• 26:08
  really
• 26:08
  good
• 26:09
  about
• 26:09
  that,
• 26:09
  what
• 26:10
  might
• 26:10
  ring
• 26:10
  true
• 26:11
  and
• 26:11
  feel
• 26:11
  true
• 26:11
  to
• 26:12
  my
• 26:12
  personality
• 26:12
  and
• 26:13
  what
• 26:13
  maybe
• 26:14
  only
• 26:14
  sounds
• 26:14
  nice
• 26:15
  in
• 26:15
  theory,
• 26:15
  but
• 26:15
  not
• 26:15
  in
• 26:16
  practice.
• 26:16
  So
• 26:17
  I
• 26:17
  think
• 26:17
  those
• 26:17
  three
• 26:18
  things,
• 26:19
  and
• 26:19
  then
• 26:19
  you'll.
• 26:19
  You'll
• 26:20
  find
• 26:20
  your
• 26:20
  path
• 26:21
  a
• 26:21
  little
• 26:21
  bit
• 26:21
  more.
• 26:21
  I
• 26:22
  feel
• 26:22
  like,
• 26:22
  okay,
• 26:22
  you.
• 26:23
  That
• 26:23
  gives
• 26:23
  you
• 26:24
  a
• 26:24
  start,
• 26:24
  and
• 26:25
  then
• 26:25
  you
• 26:25
  can
• 26:25
  start
• 26:25
  to
• 26:25
  see,
• 26:26
  all
• 26:26
  right,
• 26:26
  these
• 26:26
  are
• 26:26
  the
• 26:27
  options.
• 26:27
  This
• 26:27
  is.
• 26:27
  These
• 26:28
  are
• 26:28
  the
• 26:28
  places
• 26:28
  that
• 26:28
  I
• 26:28
  can
• 26:28
  go
• 26:29
  with
• 26:29
  that.
• 26:30
  Absolutely.
• 26:30
  Those
• 26:30
  are
• 26:30
  great
• 26:31
  tips.
• 26:31
  Really
• 26:31
  great
• 26:31
  tips.
• 26:32
  And
• 26:32
  I
• 26:32
  love
• 26:33
  the
• 26:33
  personality
• 26:34
  test
• 26:34
  because
• 26:35
  I
• 26:35
  remember
• 26:36
  feeling
• 26:37
  so
• 26:37
  lost
• 26:37
  when
• 26:38
  I.
• 26:38
  After
• 26:38
  I
• 26:38
  graduated
• 26:39
  college,
• 26:39
  you
• 26:39
  know,
• 26:40
  I
• 26:40
  knew
• 26:40
  I
• 26:40
  wanted
• 26:40
  to
• 26:40
  do
• 26:41
  something
• 26:41
  in
• 26:42
  media.
• 26:42
  I
• 26:42
  had
• 26:43
  worked
• 26:43
  in,
• 26:43
  like,
• 26:44
  entertainment
• 26:44
  marketing.
• 26:45
  I
• 26:45
  had,
• 26:45
  like,
• 26:46
  done
• 26:46
  the
• 26:46
  cattle
• 26:46
  calls
• 26:47
  of,
• 26:47
  like,
• 26:47
  going
• 26:48
  on
• 26:48
  auditions,
• 26:49
  and
• 26:49
  I
• 26:50
  just.
• 26:50
  I
• 26:50
  was
• 26:50
  kind
• 26:50
  of.
• 26:50
  I
• 26:51
  was
• 26:51
  feeling
• 26:51
  lost.
• 26:52
  And
• 26:52
  I
• 26:52
  did
• 26:52
  take
• 26:53
  one
• 26:54
  of
• 26:54
  those.
• 26:55
  I
• 26:55
  don't
• 26:55
  know
• 26:56
  if
• 26:56
  it
• 26:56
  was
• 26:56
  the
• 26:56
  Briggs
• 26:57
  one,
• 26:57
  but
• 26:57
  I
• 26:58
  took
• 26:58
  One
• 26:58
  of
• 26:58
  those
• 26:59
  tests
• 26:59
  and
• 27:00
  it
• 27:00
  kind
• 27:00
  of
• 27:00
  lets
• 27:01
  you
• 27:01
  know,
• 27:01
  you
• 27:02
  know,
• 27:02
  what
• 27:02
  your
• 27:03
  proclivities
• 27:03
  are
• 27:03
  and
• 27:04
  like
• 27:04
  what
• 27:04
  your
• 27:04
  skill
• 27:04
  set
• 27:04
  is
• 27:05
  and
• 27:05
  like
• 27:05
  what
• 27:06
  kind
• 27:06
  of
• 27:06
  profession
• 27:07
  and
• 27:07
  the,
• 27:08
  you
• 27:08
  know,
• 27:08
  what
• 27:08
  the
• 27:08
  two
• 27:08
  professions
• 27:09
  were
• 27:09
  that
• 27:09
  they
• 27:10
  said
• 27:10
  I
• 27:10
  should
• 27:10
  do.
• 27:10
  What
• 27:11
  either
• 27:12
  a
• 27:12
  librarian
• 27:14
  or
• 27:14
  a
• 27:14
  surgeon.
• 27:17
  Are
• 27:17
  you
• 27:17
  kidding
• 27:18
  me?
• 27:18
  That's
• 27:18
  like
• 27:19
  opposite
• 27:20
  two
• 27:20
  things,
• 27:20
  you
• 27:21
  know.
• 27:21
  How
• 27:22
  did
• 27:22
  those
• 27:22
  have
• 27:22
  any
• 27:23
  overlap?
• 27:24
  Like,
• 27:24
  if
• 27:24
  you
• 27:24
  think
• 27:24
  of
• 27:24
  the
• 27:24
  Venn
• 27:25
  diagram
• 27:25
  of
• 27:25
  librarian
• 27:26
  and,
• 27:26
  and
• 27:27
  surgeon,
• 27:27
  it's
• 27:28
  like
• 27:28
  it's
• 27:28
  there.
• 27:30
  I'm
• 27:30
  confused
• 27:31
  by
• 27:31
  that
• 27:31
  one.
• 27:31
  But
• 27:31
  hey,
• 27:32
  those
• 27:32
  would
• 27:32
  both
• 27:32
  be
• 27:33
  very
• 27:33
  cool.
• 27:33
  Totally.
• 27:34
  I
• 27:34
  was
• 27:34
  like,
• 27:35
  oh
• 27:35
  my
• 27:35
  gosh,
• 27:35
  that
• 27:35
  is
• 27:36
  so
• 27:36
  interesting.
• 27:36
  I'm
• 27:37
  like,
• 27:37
  I
• 27:37
  guess
• 27:38
  because
• 27:38
  they,
• 27:38
  they
• 27:38
  test
• 27:39
  you
• 27:39
  on
• 27:39
  numbers
• 27:39
  and
• 27:40
  like
• 27:40
  remembering
• 27:40
  numbers
• 27:41
  and
• 27:41
  things
• 27:41
  like
• 27:41
  that.
• 27:42
  So
• 27:42
  I
• 27:42
  think
• 27:42
  for
• 27:42
  that
• 27:42
  reason
• 27:43
  they
• 27:43
  said
• 27:43
  librarian
• 27:44
  and
• 27:45
  then
• 27:46
  the
• 27:46
  recall
• 27:47
  for
• 27:47
  the
• 27:47
  numbers.
• 27:47
  But
• 27:48
  then
• 27:48
  I
• 27:48
  think
• 27:48
  for
• 27:49
  the
• 27:49
  surgeon
• 27:49
  it
• 27:50
  was
• 27:50
  something
• 27:50
  to
• 27:50
  do
• 27:51
  with
• 27:51
  like
• 27:51
  fine
• 27:52
  motor
• 27:52
  skills
• 27:53
  and
• 27:53
  like,
• 27:53
  I
• 27:54
  guess
• 27:54
  interest
• 27:54
  in
• 27:55
  science.
• 27:55
  I
• 27:55
  don't
• 27:55
  know.
• 27:55
  It
• 27:56
  was
• 27:56
  crazy
• 27:56
  though.
• 27:57
  I
• 27:57
  was
• 27:57
  like,
• 27:57
  wow.
• 27:58
  I
• 27:58
  mean,
• 27:58
  those
• 27:58
  are
• 27:59
  both
• 27:59
  amazing
• 28:00
  professions,
• 28:00
  but
• 28:00
  I
• 28:01
  don't
• 28:01
  really
• 28:01
  want
• 28:01
  to
• 28:01
  do
• 28:01
  either
• 28:02
  one.
• 28:04
  Yeah,
• 28:04
  yeah.
• 28:05
  You
• 28:05
  know,
• 28:05
  I
• 28:06
  don't
• 28:06
  remember
• 28:06
  what
• 28:06
  mine
• 28:07
  said.
• 28:07
  I
• 28:07
  mean,
• 28:08
  I
• 28:08
  studied
• 28:08
  social
• 28:09
  work,
• 28:09
  I
• 28:09
  wanted
• 28:09
  to
• 28:09
  be
• 28:10
  a
• 28:10
  therapist.
• 28:10
  By
• 28:10
  the
• 28:11
  time
• 28:11
  I
• 28:11
  finished
• 28:11
  my
• 28:12
  undergrad,
• 28:12
  I
• 28:12
  realized,
• 28:13
  you
• 28:13
  know,
• 28:13
  I'm
• 28:13
  just
• 28:14
  done
• 28:14
  with
• 28:14
  school.
• 28:14
  I
• 28:15
  just,
• 28:15
  I'm
• 28:15
  schooled
• 28:16
  out.
• 28:16
  And
• 28:16
  then,
• 28:16
  you
• 28:16
  know,
• 28:17
  I,
• 28:17
  I
• 28:17
  ended
• 28:17
  up
• 28:17
  working
• 28:18
  with
• 28:19
  kids
• 28:19
  in
• 28:19
  foster
• 28:19
  care.
• 28:19
  And
• 28:20
  that
• 28:20
  was
• 28:20
  super
• 28:20
  rewarding
• 28:21
  in
• 28:21
  a
• 28:21
  lot
• 28:21
  of
• 28:22
  ways.
• 28:22
  But
• 28:23
  by
• 28:23
  the
• 28:23
  end,
• 28:23
  I
• 28:23
  think
• 28:24
  especially
• 28:25
  during
• 28:25
  this
• 28:25
  time,
• 28:26
  I
• 28:26
  had
• 28:26
  had
• 28:27
  two
• 28:27
  of
• 28:27
  my
• 28:28
  children
• 28:28
  by
• 28:28
  the
• 28:28
  end
• 28:28
  of
• 28:28
  it
• 28:29
  and
• 28:29
  I
• 28:29
  realized,
• 28:30
  like,
• 28:30
  I
• 28:31
  just
• 28:31
  don't
• 28:31
  have
• 28:31
  the
• 28:31
  patience
• 28:32
  for,
• 28:33
  you
• 28:33
  know,
• 28:33
  bless
• 28:34
  the
• 28:34
  people
• 28:34
  who
• 28:35
  have
• 28:35
  addictions
• 28:35
  and
• 28:36
  who
• 28:36
  have
• 28:36
  grown
• 28:36
  up,
• 28:36
  you
• 28:37
  know,
• 28:37
  in,
• 28:37
  in
• 28:37
  horrible
• 28:38
  situations.
• 28:38
  But
• 28:38
  the
• 28:38
  adults
• 28:39
  that
• 28:39
  really,
• 28:39
  really
• 28:40
  are
• 28:40
  doing,
• 28:41
  you
• 28:41
  know,
• 28:42
  dangerous
• 28:42
  things
• 28:43
  and
• 28:43
  aren't
• 28:43
  able
• 28:43
  to
• 28:44
  be
• 28:44
  a
• 28:44
  safe
• 28:44
  parent
• 28:44
  and
• 28:45
  all
• 28:45
  of
• 28:45
  that.
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  just,
• 28:46
  by
• 28:46
  the
• 28:46
  end
• 28:46
  I
• 28:46
  was
• 28:46
  a
• 28:47
  little
• 28:47
  bit
• 28:47
  jaded
• 28:47
  and
• 28:48
  I
• 28:48
  was
• 28:48
  just
• 28:48
  like,
• 28:48
  you
• 28:48
  know
• 28:48
  what?
• 28:48
  I
• 28:49
  do
• 28:49
  not
• 28:49
  have
• 28:49
  the
• 28:49
  empathy
• 28:50
  that
• 28:50
  I
• 28:50
  once
• 28:50
  had.
• 28:51
  Which
• 28:52
  if
• 28:52
  you
• 28:52
  think
• 28:52
  of
• 28:52
  that
• 28:52
  industry,
• 28:52
  you
• 28:53
  know,
• 28:53
  anything
• 28:53
  kind
• 28:53
  of
• 28:54
  social
• 28:54
  work
• 28:54
  and
• 28:54
  anything
• 28:54
  there,
• 28:55
  there's
• 28:55
  such
• 28:55
  a
• 28:55
  high
• 28:55
  burnout
• 28:56
  rate.
• 28:56
  And
• 28:56
  so
• 28:56
  by
• 28:56
  the
• 28:56
  time
• 28:57
  I
• 28:57
  finished,
• 28:58
  it
• 28:58
  was,
• 28:58
  it
• 28:58
  was
• 28:59
  time,
• 28:59
  it
• 28:59
  was
• 28:59
  a
• 28:59
  good
• 29:00
  stop
• 29:00
  point.
• 29:01
  But
• 29:01
  then
• 29:01
  after
• 29:01
  that,
• 29:01
  you
• 29:01
  know,
• 29:02
  I
• 29:02
  stayed
• 29:02
  home
• 29:02
  for
• 29:02
  a
• 29:02
  long
• 29:02
  time
• 29:03
  and
• 29:03
  then
• 29:03
  just
• 29:03
  did
• 29:03
  kind
• 29:03
  of
• 29:03
  little
• 29:04
  part
• 29:04
  time
• 29:04
  things.
• 29:05
  But
• 29:05
  yeah,
• 29:06
  personality
• 29:06
  tests
• 29:06
  for
• 29:07
  find
• 29:07
  out
• 29:07
  where
• 29:08
  your,
• 29:08
  the
• 29:08
  way
• 29:08
  your
• 29:09
  brain
• 29:09
  works,
• 29:09
  like
• 29:09
  learn
• 29:10
  about
• 29:10
  yourself,
• 29:10
  do
• 29:10
  that
• 29:11
  personal
• 29:11
  inventory.
• 29:11
  That's
• 29:12
  such
• 29:12
  a
• 29:12
  good
• 29:12
  point.
• 29:13
  Since
• 29:13
  you've
• 29:13
  been
• 29:13
  doing
• 29:14
  the
• 29:14
  show,
• 29:14
  like
• 29:15
  what
• 29:16
  has
• 29:16
  been
• 29:16
  Your
• 29:16
  most
• 29:17
  vulnerable
• 29:18
  moment.
• 29:18
  Like,
• 29:18
  what
• 29:19
  has
• 29:19
  been
• 29:19
  the
• 29:19
  moment
• 29:19
  where
• 29:19
  you
• 29:20
  were
• 29:20
  like,
• 29:20
  oh,
• 29:20
  my
• 29:20
  God,
• 29:20
  like,
• 29:21
  I
• 29:21
  can't
• 29:21
  believe
• 29:21
  I'm
• 29:22
  putting
• 29:22
  this
• 29:22
  out
• 29:22
  there,
• 29:22
  but
• 29:22
  I'm
• 29:23
  putting
• 29:23
  it
• 29:23
  out
• 29:23
  there.
• 29:24
  You
• 29:24
  know,
• 29:25
  I
• 29:25
  would
• 29:25
  say
• 29:26
  I'm
• 29:26
  a
• 29:26
  person
• 29:26
  who
• 29:27
  I.
• 29:28
  I
• 29:28
  like
• 29:28
  to
• 29:29
  look
• 29:29
  on
• 29:29
  the
• 29:29
  bright
• 29:30
  side,
• 29:30
  and
• 29:30
  I
• 29:30
  don't
• 29:30
  like
• 29:30
  to
• 29:31
  give
• 29:31
  much
• 29:33
  attention
• 29:33
  to,
• 29:34
  like,
• 29:35
  past
• 29:35
  pain,
• 29:36
  past
• 29:36
  things
• 29:36
  that
• 29:37
  have,
• 29:37
  you
• 29:37
  know,
• 29:37
  really
• 29:38
  been
• 29:38
  hard
• 29:38
  for
• 29:38
  me.
• 29:39
  And
• 29:39
  so
• 29:40
  I
• 29:40
  feel
• 29:40
  like
• 29:40
  even,
• 29:41
  like,
• 29:41
  what
• 29:41
  last
• 29:42
  week
• 29:42
  or
• 29:42
  the
• 29:42
  week
• 29:42
  before,
• 29:42
  on
• 29:42
  my
• 29:43
  podcast,
• 29:43
  I
• 29:43
  talked
• 29:43
  about.
• 29:44
  I
• 29:44
  was
• 29:44
  with
• 29:44
  my
• 29:44
  sister,
• 29:45
  who.
• 29:45
  She
• 29:45
  is
• 29:45
  truly
• 29:45
  my
• 29:46
  security
• 29:46
  blanket.
• 29:46
  If
• 29:46
  you
• 29:47
  look
• 29:47
  through
• 29:47
  my
• 29:47
  episodes,
• 29:47
  she's
• 29:48
  on,
• 29:48
  like,
• 29:48
  half
• 29:48
  of
• 29:48
  them
• 29:48
  because
• 29:49
  we
• 29:49
  just
• 29:49
  like
• 29:49
  to.
• 29:49
  We
• 29:49
  just
• 29:50
  like
• 29:50
  to
• 29:50
  talk.
• 29:51
  So
• 29:51
  we
• 29:51
  talked
• 29:52
  about
• 29:52
  friendship
• 29:53
  breakups,
• 29:53
  and
• 29:54
  she
• 29:54
  was
• 29:54
  talking
• 29:55
  about,
• 29:55
  you
• 29:55
  know,
• 29:55
  her.
• 29:55
  She.
• 29:56
  My.
• 29:57
  My
• 29:57
  sister,
• 29:57
  she
• 29:58
  went
• 29:58
  through
• 29:58
  a
• 29:58
  divorce,
• 29:58
  and
• 29:58
  she
• 29:58
  went.
• 29:59
  She
• 30:00
  had
• 30:00
  a
• 30:00
  friendship
• 30:00
  breakup
• 30:01
  with
• 30:01
  her
• 30:01
  best
• 30:01
  friend
• 30:01
  all
• 30:01
  in
• 30:02
  a
• 30:02
  couple
• 30:02
  years.
• 30:02
  But
• 30:03
  I
• 30:03
  talked
• 30:04
  my
• 30:04
  most
• 30:05
  painful
• 30:05
  friend
• 30:06
  experience.
• 30:06
  And
• 30:06
  it
• 30:07
  sounds
• 30:07
  silly
• 30:08
  to
• 30:08
  be
• 30:09
  this
• 30:09
  happened
• 30:09
  when
• 30:09
  I
• 30:09
  was
• 30:10
  16.
• 30:10
  And
• 30:10
  it
• 30:10
  feels
• 30:11
  crazy
• 30:11
  that
• 30:11
  it's
• 30:11
  like,
• 30:12
  oh,
• 30:12
  this
• 30:12
  thing
• 30:12
  happened
• 30:12
  when
• 30:12
  I
• 30:13
  was
• 30:13
  16.
• 30:13
  Why
• 30:14
  does
• 30:14
  it
• 30:14
  affect
• 30:14
  me
• 30:14
  now?
• 30:15
  But
• 30:15
  feeling
• 30:15
  like
• 30:16
  I
• 30:16
  had
• 30:16
  my
• 30:16
  group
• 30:17
  of
• 30:17
  friends.
• 30:17
  So
• 30:17
  in
• 30:18
  high
• 30:18
  school,
• 30:18
  I
• 30:18
  had
• 30:18
  this
• 30:18
  group
• 30:18
  of
• 30:19
  girlfriends.
• 30:19
  There
• 30:19
  was
• 30:19
  four
• 30:19
  of
• 30:19
  them.
• 30:21
  They
• 30:21
  went
• 30:21
  on
• 30:21
  a
• 30:21
  secret
• 30:22
  trip
• 30:22
  without
• 30:22
  me,
• 30:22
  and
• 30:23
  it
• 30:23
  was
• 30:23
  like,
• 30:23
  don't
• 30:23
  tell
• 30:24
  Chrissy.
• 30:25
  And
• 30:25
  they
• 30:25
  went
• 30:25
  on
• 30:25
  a
• 30:25
  secret
• 30:26
  trip.
• 30:26
  There
• 30:26
  was
• 30:26
  no
• 30:26
  social
• 30:27
  media.
• 30:27
  There
• 30:27
  was
• 30:27
  no
• 30:27
  digital
• 30:28
  footprint.
• 30:28
  But
• 30:29
  I
• 30:29
  later
• 30:29
  found
• 30:29
  out,
• 30:30
  and
• 30:30
  it
• 30:30
  totally
• 30:31
  rocked
• 30:32
  the
• 30:33
  foundation
• 30:33
  of,
• 30:34
  like,
• 30:35
  are
• 30:35
  these
• 30:36
  really
• 30:36
  my
• 30:36
  friends?
• 30:37
  These
• 30:37
  people
• 30:37
  that
• 30:37
  I
• 30:37
  trusted,
• 30:38
  the
• 30:38
  people
• 30:38
  that
• 30:38
  I
• 30:39
  thought
• 30:39
  were
• 30:39
  my
• 30:40
  circle?
• 30:41
  Are
• 30:41
  they
• 30:41
  not
• 30:42
  my
• 30:42
  circle?
• 30:43
  Like,
• 30:43
  it
• 30:43
  really
• 30:44
  rocked
• 30:44
  the
• 30:44
  foundation.
• 30:45
  And
• 30:45
  so
• 30:45
  that's
• 30:45
  something
• 30:45
  that,
• 30:46
  like,
• 30:46
  I
• 30:47
  mean,
• 30:47
  even
• 30:47
  though
• 30:47
  it
• 30:47
  was
• 30:48
  so
• 30:48
  long
• 30:48
  ago,
• 30:49
  like,
• 30:49
  bringing
• 30:50
  it
• 30:50
  up,
• 30:50
  still,
• 30:50
  obviously
• 30:51
  I
• 30:51
  need
• 30:51
  some
• 30:51
  therapy
• 30:52
  for
• 30:52
  it
• 30:52
  because
• 30:52
  it's
• 30:53
  still,
• 30:53
  you
• 30:54
  know,
• 30:54
  I.
• 30:54
  I
• 30:55
  feel
• 30:55
  it,
• 30:55
  but,
• 30:55
  like,
• 30:55
  revealing
• 30:56
  something
• 30:56
  like
• 30:57
  that,
• 30:57
  and
• 30:57
  it's
• 30:57
  like,
• 30:59
  I
• 30:59
  mean,
• 31:00
  why?
• 31:00
  It's
• 31:01
  crazy
• 31:01
  the
• 31:01
  things
• 31:02
  that
• 31:02
  affect
• 31:02
  you.
• 31:02
  But
• 31:02
  I'm
• 31:03
  sure
• 31:03
  as.
• 31:04
  As
• 31:04
  the
• 31:04
  episodes
• 31:04
  go
• 31:05
  on,
• 31:05
  I
• 31:05
  mean,
• 31:05
  there
• 31:05
  will
• 31:06
  be
• 31:06
  a
• 31:06
  lot
• 31:06
  of
• 31:06
  vulnerability
• 31:07
  because
• 31:08
  as
• 31:08
  a
• 31:08
  creator,
• 31:09
  as
• 31:09
  a
• 31:09
  podcaster,
• 31:10
  I
• 31:10
  mean,
• 31:10
  I
• 31:10
  can't
• 31:10
  just
• 31:11
  be,
• 31:11
  you
• 31:12
  know,
• 31:12
  the
• 31:12
  person
• 31:12
  in
• 31:12
  the
• 31:13
  background
• 31:13
  who
• 31:13
  just
• 31:14
  asks
• 31:14
  the
• 31:14
  questions
• 31:15
  and
• 31:15
  doesn't
• 31:15
  give
• 31:16
  anything
• 31:16
  back.
• 31:16
  So
• 31:17
  I'm
• 31:17
  sure
• 31:17
  there
• 31:17
  are
• 31:17
  going
• 31:18
  to
• 31:18
  be
• 31:18
  times
• 31:18
  where
• 31:18
  it's
• 31:18
  like,
• 31:19
  guess
• 31:19
  what?
• 31:19
  I've
• 31:20
  been
• 31:20
  married
• 31:20
  for
• 31:20
  20
• 31:20
  years,
• 31:21
  and
• 31:21
  there
• 31:21
  have
• 31:21
  been
• 31:21
  some
• 31:22
  tough
• 31:22
  times,
• 31:22
  and
• 31:23
  this
• 31:23
  is
• 31:23
  a
• 31:23
  little
• 31:24
  bit
• 31:24
  why.
• 31:24
  Or,
• 31:25
  you
• 31:25
  know,
• 31:25
  these
• 31:25
  are
• 31:26
  the
• 31:26
  tough
• 31:26
  parenting
• 31:27
  moments
• 31:27
  or
• 31:27
  the
• 31:27
  times
• 31:27
  where
• 31:28
  I
• 31:28
  realize,
• 31:29
  who
• 31:29
  am
• 31:29
  I?
• 31:30
  What
• 31:30
  am
• 31:30
  I
• 31:30
  wanting
• 31:31
  to
• 31:31
  do
• 31:31
  with
• 31:31
  my
• 31:31
  life,
• 31:32
  feeling
• 31:32
  that,
• 31:33
  you
• 31:33
  know,
• 31:33
  realizing
• 31:34
  that
• 31:34
  I'm
• 31:34
  a
• 31:35
  work
• 31:35
  in
• 31:35
  progress
• 31:35
  and
• 31:36
  that
• 31:36
  there's
• 31:36
  a
• 31:36
  lot
• 31:36
  of
• 31:36
  confusion.
• 31:37
  And
• 31:37
  I
• 31:37
  feel
• 31:37
  like,
• 31:37
  you
• 31:38
  know,
• 31:38
  we
• 31:38
  think
• 31:38
  about
• 31:38
  our
• 31:38
  lives
• 31:39
  and
• 31:39
  you
• 31:39
  think
• 31:39
  of
• 31:39
  like,
• 31:39
  I
• 31:40
  kind
• 31:40
  of
• 31:40
  life.
• 31:40
  And
• 31:40
  it
• 31:40
  liken
• 31:41
  it
• 31:41
  to
• 31:41
  a
• 31:41
  bowling
• 31:41
  alley
• 31:42
  with
• 31:42
  the
• 31:43
  bumpers
• 31:43
  up,
• 31:43
  and
• 31:43
  it's
• 31:44
  like,
• 31:44
  okay,
• 31:44
  we
• 31:44
  are
• 31:45
  the
• 31:45
  ball
• 31:45
  and
• 31:45
  we're.
• 31:45
  We're
• 31:46
  bumping
• 31:46
  along
• 31:46
  the
• 31:46
  bumpers,
• 31:47
  and
• 31:47
  that's
• 31:47
  just
• 31:47
  part
• 31:48
  of
• 31:48
  life.
• 31:49
  And,
• 31:49
  you
• 31:49
  know,
• 31:49
  if
• 31:50
  we
• 31:50
  went
• 31:50
  straight
• 31:50
  and
• 31:50
  hit
• 31:51
  a
• 31:51
  strike,
• 31:51
  like,
• 31:51
  that's
• 31:51
  so
• 31:52
  unrealistic.
• 31:52
  And
• 31:52
  realize
• 31:53
  that,
• 31:53
  like,
• 31:53
  hitting
• 31:54
  the
• 31:54
  bumpers
• 31:54
  is
• 31:55
  part
• 31:55
  of
• 31:55
  life.
• 31:56
  And,
• 31:56
  you
• 31:57
  know,
• 31:57
  I
• 31:57
  feel
• 31:58
  like,
• 31:59
  not
• 31:59
  that
• 31:59
  I
• 31:59
  want
• 31:59
  to
• 32:00
  be
• 32:00
  definitely,
• 32:01
  I
• 32:01
  don't
• 32:01
  want
• 32:01
  to
• 32:01
  be
• 32:01
  cynical,
• 32:02
  but
• 32:02
  it's
• 32:02
  like
• 32:02
  there's
• 32:03
  probably
• 32:03
  some
• 32:03
  really
• 32:04
  hard
• 32:04
  times
• 32:04
  in
• 32:05
  my
• 32:05
  life
• 32:05
  that
• 32:05
  are
• 32:05
  yet
• 32:05
  to
• 32:06
  come.
• 32:06
  You
• 32:06
  know,
• 32:07
  there's
• 32:07
  probably
• 32:07
  going
• 32:08
  to
• 32:08
  be
• 32:08
  really
• 32:08
  hard
• 32:08
  times
• 32:08
  in
• 32:09
  my
• 32:09
  marriage
• 32:09
  there.
• 32:10
  You
• 32:10
  know,
• 32:10
  my
• 32:10
  kids
• 32:10
  are
• 32:10
  getting
• 32:10
  older.
• 32:11
  As
• 32:11
  they
• 32:11
  get
• 32:11
  independent,
• 32:12
  you
• 32:12
  know,
• 32:12
  are
• 32:12
  they
• 32:13
  going
• 32:13
  to
• 32:13
  make
• 32:13
  stupid
• 32:13
  choices
• 32:14
  that
• 32:14
  have
• 32:14
  me,
• 32:15
  like,
• 32:15
  you
• 32:16
  know,
• 32:16
  I
• 32:16
  have
• 32:16
  to,
• 32:17
  like,
• 32:17
  lay
• 32:17
  down
• 32:17
  and,
• 32:18
  like,
• 32:18
  process.
• 32:18
  I'm
• 32:19
  sure,
• 32:20
  you
• 32:20
  know,
• 32:20
  my
• 32:21
  parents.
• 32:21
  My
• 32:21
  parents,
• 32:22
  I
• 32:22
  still
• 32:22
  am
• 32:22
  still
• 32:22
  lucky
• 32:23
  enough
• 32:23
  to
• 32:23
  have
• 32:23
  both
• 32:23
  my
• 32:23
  parents,
• 32:24
  and
• 32:24
  they're
• 32:24
  healthy.
• 32:24
  But
• 32:24
  guess
• 32:24
  what?
• 32:25
  In
• 32:25
  the
• 32:25
  next
• 32:25
  20
• 32:25
  years,
• 32:26
  things
• 32:26
  will
• 32:27
  change.
• 32:28
  So
• 32:28
  it's
• 32:28
  like,
• 32:28
  I'm
• 32:29
  sure
• 32:29
  that
• 32:29
  there
• 32:30
  are
• 32:30
  going
• 32:30
  to
• 32:30
  be
• 32:30
  some
• 32:30
  really
• 32:30
  challenging
• 32:31
  things.
• 32:31
  And
• 32:31
  I
• 32:31
  feel
• 32:31
  like
• 32:32
  as
• 32:32
  we
• 32:32
  go
• 32:32
  through
• 32:33
  this
• 32:33
  podcasting
• 32:33
  space
• 32:34
  and
• 32:34
  as
• 32:34
  we
• 32:34
  are
• 32:35
  sharing
• 32:35
  with
• 32:36
  other
• 32:36
  people,
• 32:37
  the
• 32:37
  thing
• 32:37
  that
• 32:37
  I
• 32:38
  love
• 32:38
  is
• 32:38
  that
• 32:39
  we
• 32:39
  have
• 32:39
  this
• 32:40
  community
• 32:40
  as
• 32:40
  well.
• 32:41
  You
• 32:41
  know,
• 32:41
  I'm
• 32:41
  building
• 32:41
  this
• 32:42
  little
• 32:42
  brand
• 32:42
  new
• 32:42
  baby
• 32:43
  community.
• 32:43
  You
• 32:43
  have
• 32:43
  this
• 32:44
  beautiful
• 32:44
  community
• 32:44
  online
• 32:45
  that
• 32:45
  if
• 32:46
  you
• 32:46
  can
• 32:46
  say,
• 32:46
  hey,
• 32:47
  guys,
• 32:48
  this
• 32:48
  is
• 32:48
  what's
• 32:48
  going
• 32:48
  on
• 32:49
  with
• 32:49
  me.
• 32:50
  Who
• 32:50
  else
• 32:50
  have
• 32:50
  been.
• 32:51
  Who
• 32:51
  else
• 32:51
  has
• 32:51
  been
• 32:51
  through
• 32:52
  that?
• 32:52
  You
• 32:53
  know,
• 32:53
  chances
• 32:53
  are
• 32:54
  there's
• 32:54
  somebody
• 32:54
  who
• 32:55
  can
• 32:55
  say,
• 32:55
  hey,
• 32:56
  Roxy,
• 32:56
  I've
• 32:57
  been
• 32:57
  there.
• 32:57
  This
• 32:58
  is
• 32:58
  what
• 32:58
  helped
• 32:58
  me,
• 32:59
  you
• 32:59
  know,
• 32:59
  and
• 33:00
  realizing,
• 33:00
  gosh,
• 33:01
  when
• 33:02
  we
• 33:02
  get
• 33:02
  vulnerable,
• 33:03
  that's
• 33:03
  when
• 33:03
  it
• 33:03
  gets
• 33:04
  real
• 33:04
  and
• 33:04
  that's
• 33:04
  when
• 33:05
  people
• 33:05
  relate.
• 33:06
  Nobody
• 33:07
  wants
• 33:07
  to
• 33:07
  hear
• 33:08
  from
• 33:08
  somebody
• 33:09
  who
• 33:09
  says,
• 33:09
  my
• 33:09
  life
• 33:09
  has
• 33:10
  been
• 33:10
  perfect
• 33:10
  and
• 33:10
  I
• 33:11
  have
• 33:11
  all
• 33:11
  the
• 33:11
  answers.
• 33:12
  No,
• 33:12
  it's
• 33:13
  like,
• 33:13
  we
• 33:13
  need.
• 33:13
  Need
• 33:13
  the
• 33:14
  messy.
• 33:14
  Yes,
• 33:15
  we
• 33:15
  need
• 33:15
  that.
• 33:15
  We
• 33:16
  need
• 33:16
  the
• 33:16
  real.
• 33:16
  And
• 33:17
  it's
• 33:17
  like,
• 33:17
  yes,
• 33:17
  sometimes
• 33:18
  you,
• 33:18
  you
• 33:18
  know,
• 33:18
  when
• 33:19
  you
• 33:19
  make
• 33:19
  crazy
• 33:20
  decisions,
• 33:21
  like,
• 33:21
  you
• 33:21
  know,
• 33:21
  you're
• 33:22
  going
• 33:22
  to
• 33:22
  get
• 33:22
  some
• 33:22
  crazy
• 33:23
  outcomes,
• 33:23
  but,
• 33:23
  like,
• 33:24
  no
• 33:24
  matter
• 33:24
  what,
• 33:25
  like,
• 33:25
  nobody
• 33:25
  gets
• 33:25
  out
• 33:26
  of
• 33:26
  this
• 33:26
  life
• 33:26
  unscathed.
• 33:27
  And
• 33:27
  what
• 33:27
  really
• 33:28
  makes
• 33:28
  a
• 33:28
  difference
• 33:28
  is
• 33:29
  the
• 33:29
  community
• 33:29
  and
• 33:30
  having
• 33:30
  people
• 33:31
  that
• 33:31
  you
• 33:31
  can
• 33:32
  lean
• 33:32
  on,
• 33:32
  having
• 33:32
  people
• 33:33
  that
• 33:33
  you
• 33:33
  can
• 33:33
  relate
• 33:34
  to.
• 33:34
  And
• 33:34
  also,
• 33:35
  you
• 33:35
  don't
• 33:36
  know
• 33:36
  if
• 33:36
  your
• 33:37
  words.
• 33:37
  Not
• 33:37
  that
• 33:37
  I
• 33:38
  think
• 33:38
  that
• 33:38
  I,
• 33:38
  You
• 33:38
  Know,
• 33:39
  am
• 33:39
  this,
• 33:39
  this
• 33:40
  pinnacle
• 33:40
  of
• 33:40
  like,
• 33:41
  you
• 33:41
  know,
• 33:41
  pillar
• 33:42
  of
• 33:42
  inspiration.
• 33:43
  But
• 33:43
  guess
• 33:43
  what?
• 33:43
  If
• 33:44
  I
• 33:44
  can
• 33:44
  help
• 33:44
  somebody
• 33:45
  feel
• 33:45
  less
• 33:45
  alone
• 33:46
  through
• 33:46
  this
• 33:47
  journey,
• 33:48
  like,
• 33:48
  that's
• 33:49
  a
• 33:49
  win.
• 33:49
  It's
• 33:50
  a
• 33:50
  huge
• 33:50
  one.
• 33:50
  And
• 33:50
  it's
• 33:51
  such
• 33:51
  a,
• 33:51
  like
• 33:52
  an
• 33:52
  amazing,
• 33:53
  you
• 33:54
  know,
• 33:54
  help
• 33:54
  and
• 33:54
  service
• 33:55
  to
• 33:55
  other
• 33:55
  women
• 33:55
  to
• 33:56
  really
• 33:56
  put
• 33:56
  yourself
• 33:56
  out
• 33:57
  there
• 33:57
  like
• 33:57
  that.
• 33:58
  And
• 33:58
  I
• 33:58
  think
• 33:58
  for
• 33:58
  me,
• 33:59
  vulnerability
• 33:59
  has
• 34:00
  not
• 34:00
  been
• 34:00
  easy.
• 34:01
  So
• 34:01
  it's
• 34:01
  always
• 34:01
  been
• 34:01
  hard
• 34:02
  for
• 34:02
  me
• 34:02
  to
• 34:02
  like,
• 34:03
  you
• 34:03
  know,
• 34:04
  fully
• 34:04
  put
• 34:05
  myself
• 34:05
  out
• 34:05
  there
• 34:05
  like
• 34:06
  that.
• 34:06
  But
• 34:06
  the
• 34:06
  more
• 34:06
  I
• 34:07
  do,
• 34:07
  like
• 34:07
  you're
• 34:07
  saying,
• 34:08
  it
• 34:08
  is
• 34:09
  so
• 34:09
  rewarding,
• 34:10
  you
• 34:10
  know,
• 34:10
  because
• 34:11
  there
• 34:11
  is
• 34:11
  so
• 34:11
  much
• 34:12
  shared
• 34:12
  experience,
• 34:13
  you
• 34:13
  know,
• 34:13
  particularly
• 34:14
  in
• 34:14
  this
• 34:14
  community
• 34:15
  and
• 34:15
  in
• 34:15
  midlife.
• 34:16
  And
• 34:16
  it's
• 34:16
  like
• 34:17
  so
• 34:17
  many
• 34:17
  of
• 34:17
  us
• 34:18
  are
• 34:18
  going
• 34:18
  through
• 34:18
  a
• 34:19
  lot
• 34:19
  of
• 34:19
  the
• 34:19
  same
• 34:20
  things,
• 34:20
  you
• 34:20
  know,
• 34:21
  maybe
• 34:21
  not
• 34:21
  exactly
• 34:22
  the
• 34:22
  same,
• 34:22
  but
• 34:23
  like,
• 34:23
  similar,
• 34:24
  you
• 34:24
  know,
• 34:24
  and
• 34:24
  it's
• 34:24
  like
• 34:25
  dealing
• 34:25
  with
• 34:25
  aging
• 34:26
  parents,
• 34:26
  kids,
• 34:27
  yourself
• 34:28
  feeling
• 34:28
  your
• 34:28
  self
• 34:28
  worth.
• 34:29
  And
• 34:29
  that's
• 34:29
  like
• 34:29
  another
• 34:30
  thing
• 34:30
  too.
• 34:30
  I
• 34:30
  think
• 34:31
  knowing
• 34:32
  your
• 34:32
  self
• 34:32
  worth,
• 34:33
  as
• 34:33
  hard
• 34:33
  as
• 34:33
  that
• 34:33
  can
• 34:34
  be
• 34:34
  at
• 34:35
  times,
• 34:36
  really
• 34:36
  gives
• 34:36
  you
• 34:36
  the
• 34:37
  tools
• 34:37
  to
• 34:37
  be
• 34:38
  able
• 34:38
  to
• 34:38
  deal
• 34:38
  with
• 34:38
  what
• 34:39
  you
• 34:39
  can't
• 34:39
  control
• 34:39
  in
• 34:40
  the
• 34:40
  outside
• 34:40
  world.
• 34:40
  You
• 34:41
  know,
• 34:41
  it's
• 34:41
  like
• 34:41
  all
• 34:42
  the
• 34:42
  shit
• 34:42
  that
• 34:42
  comes
• 34:43
  down
• 34:43
  the
• 34:43
  pipeline,
• 34:44
  you
• 34:44
  know,
• 34:44
  if
• 34:44
  you
• 34:45
  have
• 34:45
  at
• 34:46
  least
• 34:46
  a
• 34:47
  strong
• 34:47
  foundation,
• 34:48
  you
• 34:49
  know
• 34:49
  who
• 34:49
  you
• 34:49
  are,
• 34:50
  you
• 34:50
  feel
• 34:51
  your
• 34:51
  self
• 34:52
  worth
• 34:52
  that,
• 34:52
  like
• 34:53
  people
• 34:53
  can't,
• 34:54
  they
• 34:54
  can
• 34:54
  try
• 34:54
  to
• 34:54
  knock
• 34:54
  you
• 34:55
  down.
• 34:55
  And
• 34:55
  I'm
• 34:55
  not
• 34:55
  saying
• 34:56
  they're
• 34:56
  not
• 34:56
  going
• 34:56
  to
• 34:56
  try
• 34:57
  to
• 34:57
  knock
• 34:57
  you
• 34:57
  down,
• 34:57
  but
• 34:58
  at
• 34:58
  least
• 34:59
  if
• 34:59
  you
• 34:59
  are
• 34:59
  solid
• 35:00
  with
• 35:00
  yourself
• 35:00
  and
• 35:01
  solid
• 35:01
  with
• 35:01
  the
• 35:02
  close,
• 35:02
  you
• 35:02
  know,
• 35:02
  knit
• 35:03
  group
• 35:03
  of
• 35:04
  people
• 35:04
  around
• 35:04
  you,
• 35:05
  I
• 35:05
  think
• 35:05
  that
• 35:05
  makes
• 35:06
  so
• 35:06
  much
• 35:06
  of
• 35:06
  a
• 35:06
  difference,
• 35:07
  don't
• 35:07
  you?
• 35:08
  Like,
• 35:08
  it
• 35:08
  helps
• 35:08
  so
• 35:08
  much,
• 35:10
  truly.
• 35:10
  And
• 35:11
  it's
• 35:11
  like,
• 35:11
  you
• 35:11
  know,
• 35:11
  having
• 35:11
  the
• 35:12
  mentality
• 35:12
  of,
• 35:12
  like,
• 35:12
  hurt
• 35:13
  people,
• 35:13
  hurt
• 35:13
  people.
• 35:14
  You
• 35:14
  know,
• 35:14
  the
• 35:14
  Internet
• 35:15
  trolls,
• 35:15
  they're.
• 35:16
  It's
• 35:16
  because
• 35:16
  they're
• 35:16
  desperately
• 35:17
  unhappy
• 35:18
  and
• 35:18
  whatever
• 35:18
  and,
• 35:18
  and
• 35:19
  something
• 35:19
  that
• 35:19
  you
• 35:19
  said
• 35:20
  triggered
• 35:20
  them.
• 35:21
  And
• 35:21
  so
• 35:21
  realizing
• 35:22
  it's
• 35:22
  like,
• 35:22
  I'm.
• 35:24
  I
• 35:24
  don't
• 35:24
  need
• 35:24
  to
• 35:24
  listen
• 35:25
  to
• 35:25
  what
• 35:25
  this
• 35:25
  nameless,
• 35:26
  faceless,
• 35:26
  anonymous
• 35:27
  account
• 35:27
  says
• 35:28
  because,
• 35:29
  you
• 35:29
  know,
• 35:29
  it
• 35:29
  means
• 35:30
  nothing.
• 35:30
  And
• 35:30
  I
• 35:30
  have
• 35:31
  no
• 35:31
  problem
• 35:31
  hitting
• 35:31
  block.
• 35:32
  You
• 35:32
  know,
• 35:33
  I've
• 35:33
  had
• 35:33
  a
• 35:33
  couple
• 35:33
  insults
• 35:34
  hurled
• 35:34
  my
• 35:34
  way
• 35:35
  and
• 35:35
  it's
• 35:35
  like,
• 35:36
  you
• 35:36
  know,
• 35:36
  I
• 35:36
  can
• 35:37
  like
• 35:37
  laugh
• 35:37
  about
• 35:37
  it
• 35:37
  and
• 35:38
  I
• 35:38
  could
• 35:38
  screenshot
• 35:38
  it
• 35:38
  and
• 35:39
  text
• 35:39
  my
• 35:39
  friends
• 35:39
  and
• 35:39
  we're
• 35:40
  all
• 35:40
  like,
• 35:40
  oh,
• 35:40
  that
• 35:40
  person's
• 35:41
  crazy
• 35:41
  or
• 35:41
  that
• 35:41
  person's
• 35:42
  idiot
• 35:42
  or,
• 35:42
  you
• 35:42
  know,
• 35:42
  whatever.
• 35:43
  Goodbye.
• 35:44
  So,
• 35:45
  you
• 35:45
  know,
• 35:45
  I
• 35:46
  feel
• 35:46
  like,
• 35:47
  gosh,
• 35:48
  so
• 35:48
  much
• 35:48
  vulnerability,
• 35:49
  but
• 35:49
  like,
• 35:50
  it's
• 35:50
  all
• 35:50
  for
• 35:50
  good.
• 35:50
  It
• 35:51
  really
• 35:51
  is.
• 35:51
  It's
• 35:51
  all
• 35:52
  for
• 35:52
  good.
• 35:52
  And
• 35:52
  I'm
• 35:52
  so
• 35:52
  glad
• 35:53
  you
• 35:53
  brought
• 35:53
  up
• 35:54
  the
• 35:54
  topic
• 35:54
  of
• 35:54
  friendship
• 35:55
  breakups
• 35:56
  and
• 35:56
  like,
• 35:57
  remembering
• 35:57
  those
• 35:58
  memories
• 35:58
  because
• 35:59
  my
• 35:59
  daughter
• 35:59
  is
• 36:00
  now
• 36:00
  in
• 36:00
  sixth
• 36:00
  grade.
• 36:01
  And
• 36:01
  that,
• 36:01
  for
• 36:01
  me,
• 36:02
  me,
• 36:02
  was
• 36:02
  such
• 36:02
  a
• 36:03
  big
• 36:03
  year
• 36:03
  for
• 36:04
  friendships.
• 36:04
  And
• 36:04
  it's
• 36:05
  funny
• 36:05
  how
• 36:05
  you
• 36:05
  don't
• 36:06
  forget
• 36:06
  when
• 36:06
  things
• 36:06
  like
• 36:07
  this
• 36:07
  happen
• 36:07
  in
• 36:07
  your
• 36:08
  past.
• 36:08
  I
• 36:08
  remember.
• 36:09
  Yeah.
• 36:09
  I
• 36:09
  remember,
• 36:10
  like.
• 36:10
  Like
• 36:10
  it
• 36:10
  was
• 36:10
  yesterday,
• 36:11
  like,
• 36:12
  being
• 36:12
  dumped
• 36:13
  by
• 36:13
  my
• 36:13
  group
• 36:13
  of
• 36:13
  friends.
• 36:14
  My.
• 36:14
  The
• 36:14
  girl
• 36:15
  I
• 36:15
  thought
• 36:15
  that
• 36:15
  I
• 36:15
  was
• 36:15
  closest
• 36:16
  to
• 36:16
  in
• 36:16
  this
• 36:16
  group.
• 36:17
  And
• 36:17
  I
• 36:18
  still
• 36:18
  remember
• 36:18
  it
• 36:18
  in
• 36:19
  the
• 36:19
  locker
• 36:19
  room
• 36:19
  at
• 36:19
  the
• 36:19
  gym,
• 36:20
  and
• 36:20
  she
• 36:21
  was
• 36:21
  there
• 36:21
  with
• 36:21
  a
• 36:21
  few
• 36:22
  of
• 36:22
  the
• 36:22
  other
• 36:22
  girls,
• 36:22
  and
• 36:23
  she
• 36:23
  just
• 36:23
  said,
• 36:23
  I
• 36:23
  don't
• 36:23
  want
• 36:23
  to
• 36:24
  be
• 36:24
  your
• 36:24
  friends
• 36:24
  anymore.
• 36:25
  And,
• 36:25
  like,
• 36:26
  that
• 36:26
  was
• 36:26
  it.
• 36:26
  And
• 36:27
  I
• 36:27
  just
• 36:27
  remember,
• 36:28
  you
• 36:28
  know,
• 36:28
  not
• 36:29
  having
• 36:29
  the
• 36:29
  language
• 36:30
  to
• 36:30
  really
• 36:31
  express
• 36:31
  myself.
• 36:32
  And
• 36:33
  I
• 36:33
  felt
• 36:33
  probably
• 36:34
  not,
• 36:35
  you
• 36:35
  know,
• 36:35
  I
• 36:35
  was
• 36:35
  too
• 36:35
  embarrassed
• 36:36
  to
• 36:36
  express
• 36:37
  myself
• 36:37
  to
• 36:37
  my
• 36:37
  other
• 36:38
  friends
• 36:38
  and
• 36:38
  my
• 36:38
  mom.
• 36:39
  So
• 36:39
  I
• 36:39
  just
• 36:39
  kind
• 36:40
  of
• 36:40
  carried
• 36:40
  that
• 36:41
  my
• 36:41
  whole
• 36:42
  growing
• 36:42
  up,
• 36:43
  you
• 36:43
  know,
• 36:43
  carried
• 36:44
  it
• 36:44
  throughout
• 36:44
  my
• 36:44
  life.
• 36:45
  And
• 36:45
  I
• 36:45
  just
• 36:45
  remember
• 36:45
  sobbing
• 36:46
  in
• 36:46
  that
• 36:46
  gym
• 36:47
  and
• 36:47
  just
• 36:47
  being
• 36:47
  like,
• 36:47
  oh,
• 36:48
  my
• 36:48
  God.
• 36:48
  You
• 36:48
  know,
• 36:48
  it's.
• 36:49
  You
• 36:50
  know,
• 36:50
  it
• 36:50
  just.
• 36:50
  It
• 36:51
  was
• 36:51
  so
• 36:51
  sad,
• 36:51
  you
• 36:51
  know,
• 36:52
  and
• 36:52
  it
• 36:52
  just.
• 36:52
  Things
• 36:53
  like
• 36:53
  that,
• 36:53
  like,
• 36:53
  not
• 36:54
  being
• 36:54
  able
• 36:54
  to
• 36:54
  really
• 36:55
  talk
• 36:55
  to
• 36:55
  anybody,
• 36:56
  which
• 36:56
  I
• 36:56
  hope,
• 36:56
  you
• 36:56
  know,
• 36:57
  is
• 36:57
  definitely
• 36:57
  changing
• 36:58
  for
• 36:58
  our
• 36:58
  girls
• 36:59
  and
• 36:59
  our
• 36:59
  kids.
• 37:00
  But
• 37:00
  you
• 37:01
  just.
• 37:01
  You.
• 37:01
  Those
• 37:01
  things
• 37:01
  get,
• 37:02
  like,
• 37:02
  etched
• 37:02
  in
• 37:02
  your
• 37:02
  brain.
• 37:03
  Like,
• 37:03
  it's.
• 37:03
  You
• 37:04
  can't
• 37:04
  forget
• 37:04
  it.
• 37:05
  It
• 37:05
  leaves
• 37:05
  a
• 37:05
  mark
• 37:06
  on
• 37:06
  you
• 37:06
  forever.
• 37:07
  It
• 37:07
  leaves
• 37:07
  a
• 37:08
  mark,
• 37:08
  and
• 37:08
  it's.
• 37:09
  You.
• 37:09
  You
• 37:09
  kind
• 37:09
  of
• 37:10
  hate
• 37:10
  it
• 37:10
  a
• 37:10
  little
• 37:10
  bit,
• 37:10
  but
• 37:11
  it's
• 37:11
  like,
• 37:11
  oh,
• 37:11
  my
• 37:11
  goodness,
• 37:11
  these
• 37:12
  are
• 37:12
  the
• 37:12
  things
• 37:12
  that
• 37:12
  made
• 37:13
  me
• 37:13
  me.
• 37:14
  And
• 37:15
  what
• 37:15
  I
• 37:15
  hope
• 37:15
  is,
• 37:15
  like,
• 37:16
  okay,
• 37:16
  I
• 37:16
  hate
• 37:16
  that
• 37:17
  I
• 37:17
  had
• 37:17
  to
• 37:17
  go
• 37:17
  through
• 37:17
  this
• 37:17
  horrible
• 37:18
  thing,
• 37:18
  but
• 37:18
  it's,
• 37:18
  you
• 37:19
  know,
• 37:19
  these
• 37:19
  are
• 37:19
  the
• 37:19
  things
• 37:19
  that
• 37:20
  I'm
• 37:20
  going
• 37:20
  to
• 37:20
  be
• 37:20
  a
• 37:21
  better
• 37:21
  person.
• 37:21
  I'm
• 37:21
  going
• 37:21
  to
• 37:22
  be
• 37:22
  more
• 37:22
  inclusive.
• 37:22
  I'm
• 37:23
  going
• 37:23
  to
• 37:23
  be
• 37:23
  very,
• 37:23
  very
• 37:24
  aware,
• 37:24
  so
• 37:25
  I'm
• 37:25
  never
• 37:25
  a
• 37:25
  crazy,
• 37:26
  cruel
• 37:26
  friend.
• 37:27
  And
• 37:27
  so
• 37:27
  we
• 37:27
  can
• 37:27
  teach
• 37:27
  our
• 37:28
  girls,
• 37:28
  like,
• 37:28
  this
• 37:28
  is
• 37:28
  how
• 37:29
  you,
• 37:29
  you
• 37:29
  know,
• 37:29
  this
• 37:30
  is
• 37:30
  how
• 37:30
  you
• 37:30
  approach
• 37:30
  friendship.
• 37:31
  This
• 37:31
  is
• 37:31
  mean
• 37:32
  girl
• 37:32
  behavior.
• 37:33
  This
• 37:33
  is,
• 37:33
  you
• 37:33
  know,
• 37:34
  putting
• 37:34
  a
• 37:34
  name
• 37:34
  to
• 37:34
  it.
• 37:35
  Because,
• 37:35
  yeah,
• 37:35
  there
• 37:35
  are
• 37:35
  a
• 37:35
  lot
• 37:36
  of
• 37:36
  people
• 37:36
  who
• 37:36
  just,
• 37:37
  you
• 37:38
  know,
• 37:38
  they're.
• 37:39
  They're
• 37:39
  traumatized
• 37:40
  by
• 37:41
  this.
• 37:41
  And
• 37:42
  really,
• 37:42
  I
• 37:42
  mean,
• 37:42
  recently
• 37:43
  having.
• 37:43
  We've.
• 37:44
  I've
• 37:44
  had
• 37:44
  two
• 37:44
  episodes
• 37:45
  kind
• 37:45
  of
• 37:45
  dealing
• 37:46
  with
• 37:46
  friendship
• 37:46
  breakups.
• 37:47
  And
• 37:47
  the
• 37:47
  response
• 37:48
  has
• 37:48
  been.
• 37:49
  I've
• 37:50
  had
• 37:50
  so
• 37:50
  many
• 37:51
  people
• 37:51
  respond
• 37:52
  that
• 37:52
  is.
• 37:52
  That
• 37:52
  has
• 37:52
  hit
• 37:53
  a
• 37:53
  nerve
• 37:54
  talking
• 37:54
  about
• 37:55
  female
• 37:55
  friendship.
• 37:56
  Breakfast.
• 37:56
  Whether
• 37:56
  it's
• 37:56
  female
• 37:57
  friendship
• 37:57
  in
• 37:57
  your
• 37:58
  40s
• 37:58
  or,
• 37:58
  you
• 37:59
  know,
• 37:59
  all
• 37:59
  throughout,
• 38:00
  it's
• 38:00
  like
• 38:01
  everybody
• 38:01
  has
• 38:02
  a
• 38:02
  story
• 38:02
  with
• 38:02
  that.
• 38:03
  That
• 38:03
  is
• 38:03
  something
• 38:03
  that
• 38:03
  is
• 38:03
  so
• 38:04
  relatable
• 38:04
  of.
• 38:05
  You
• 38:05
  know,
• 38:05
  you've
• 38:05
  had
• 38:06
  a
• 38:06
  friend.
• 38:06
  You've
• 38:06
  also
• 38:06
  had
• 38:07
  a
• 38:07
  disappointment.
• 38:08
  You've
• 38:08
  had
• 38:08
  a
• 38:08
  heartbreak,
• 38:08
  a
• 38:09
  Friend
• 38:09
  heartbreak.
• 38:10
  And
• 38:10
  I
• 38:10
  mean,
• 38:11
  my
• 38:11
  sister,
• 38:11
  she
• 38:11
  brought
• 38:11
  up,
• 38:12
  I
• 38:12
  think,
• 38:13
  friendship,
• 38:14
  that's
• 38:14
  like
• 38:14
  our
• 38:14
  first
• 38:14
  heartbreak,
• 38:15
  you
• 38:16
  know,
• 38:16
  before
• 38:16
  we
• 38:16
  have
• 38:17
  a
• 38:17
  romantic
• 38:17
  heartbreak.
• 38:18
  It's
• 38:18
  those
• 38:18
  friends.
• 38:19
  And,
• 38:19
  you
• 38:20
  know,
• 38:20
  I've
• 38:20
  been
• 38:20
  blessed
• 38:20
  to
• 38:21
  have
• 38:21
  so
• 38:21
  many
• 38:22
  wonderful
• 38:22
  friends
• 38:22
  just
• 38:23
  like
• 38:23
  you.
• 38:23
  You've
• 38:23
  got
• 38:23
  your
• 38:23
  USC
• 38:24
  friends.
• 38:24
  You've
• 38:24
  got
• 38:24
  these
• 38:24
  soul
• 38:25
  sisters
• 38:25
  who
• 38:25
  have
• 38:25
  been
• 38:26
  everything,
• 38:26
  but,
• 38:26
  like,
• 38:27
  you've
• 38:27
  still.
• 38:27
  You've
• 38:28
  had
• 38:28
  those
• 38:28
  experiences
• 38:29
  that
• 38:29
  were
• 38:30
  traumatic,
• 38:30
  that
• 38:30
  were
• 38:30
  heartbreaking,
• 38:31
  that
• 38:31
  you
• 38:31
  thought,
• 38:32
  oh,
• 38:32
  my
• 38:32
  gosh,
• 38:33
  how
• 38:33
  am
• 38:33
  I
• 38:33
  going
• 38:33
  to
• 38:33
  get
• 38:33
  through
• 38:33
  this?
• 38:34
  How
• 38:35
  am
• 38:35
  I
• 38:35
  going
• 38:35
  to
• 38:35
  trust
• 38:35
  somebody
• 38:36
  again?
• 38:37
  Yes,
• 38:37
  how
• 38:37
  am
• 38:37
  I
• 38:37
  going
• 38:37
  to
• 38:38
  trust
• 38:38
  somebody
• 38:38
  again?
• 38:38
  And
• 38:39
  I
• 38:39
  think,
• 38:39
  like,
• 38:39
  you're
• 38:39
  saying
• 38:40
  it's
• 38:40
  not
• 38:40
  talked
• 38:40
  about
• 38:41
  enough.
• 38:41
  Like,
• 38:41
  we
• 38:41
  need
• 38:42
  to
• 38:42
  talk
• 38:42
  about
• 38:42
  this,
• 38:42
  because
• 38:43
  when
• 38:43
  friendships
• 38:44
  change,
• 38:44
  it's
• 38:45
  so
• 38:45
  traumatic.
• 38:46
  Like,
• 38:47
  and
• 38:47
  even,
• 38:47
  like,
• 38:48
  now
• 38:48
  as
• 38:48
  an
• 38:49
  adult,
• 38:49
  like,
• 38:49
  Starting
• 38:50
  in
• 38:50
  our
• 38:50
  40s
• 38:51
  of
• 38:52
  our
• 38:52
  adult
• 38:52
  friendship
• 38:53
  group,
• 38:54
  there
• 38:54
  were
• 38:54
  two
• 38:55
  women
• 38:55
  that
• 38:56
  kind
• 38:56
  of
• 38:56
  broke
• 38:57
  apart.
• 38:57
  And
• 38:58
  although
• 38:58
  I
• 38:58
  wasn't
• 38:59
  one
• 38:59
  of
• 38:59
  them,
• 39:00
  you
• 39:00
  know,
• 39:00
  we're
• 39:00
  still
• 39:01
  in
• 39:01
  a
• 39:01
  close
• 39:01
  friend
• 39:02
  group,
• 39:02
  and
• 39:02
  the
• 39:03
  rest
• 39:03
  of
• 39:03
  us
• 39:03
  are
• 39:03
  still
• 39:03
  getting
• 39:04
  affected
• 39:04
  by
• 39:04
  it
• 39:05
  because
• 39:05
  we
• 39:05
  love
• 39:05
  both
• 39:06
  of
• 39:06
  them,
• 39:06
  you
• 39:07
  know,
• 39:07
  equally.
• 39:07
  And
• 39:08
  it's
• 39:08
  kind
• 39:08
  of
• 39:08
  like,
• 39:09
  well,
• 39:09
  you
• 39:09
  want
• 39:10
  to
• 39:10
  be
• 39:10
  friends
• 39:10
  with
• 39:10
  both
• 39:11
  of
• 39:11
  them,
• 39:11
  so
• 39:11
  it's
• 39:11
  not,
• 39:11
  you
• 39:12
  know,
• 39:12
  and
• 39:12
  it
• 39:12
  makes
• 39:12
  it
• 39:13
  hard
• 39:13
  for
• 39:13
  the
• 39:14
  people
• 39:14
  around
• 39:14
  you,
• 39:15
  too.
• 39:15
  You
• 39:15
  know,
• 39:16
  I.
• 39:16
  Roxy,
• 39:16
  I
• 39:17
  am
• 39:17
  in
• 39:17
  that
• 39:17
  exact
• 39:18
  same
• 39:18
  situation
• 39:18
  in
• 39:19
  my
• 39:19
  life,
• 39:19
  real
• 39:20
  time
• 39:20
  right
• 39:21
  now,
• 39:21
  where
• 39:22
  big
• 39:22
  group
• 39:22
  of
• 39:22
  friends,
• 39:23
  two
• 39:23
  of
• 39:23
  them
• 39:23
  have
• 39:24
  decided,
• 39:24
  you
• 39:25
  know,
• 39:25
  the
• 39:25
  friendship
• 39:25
  is
• 39:26
  not
• 39:26
  good
• 39:26
  for
• 39:26
  them.
• 39:27
  They're
• 39:27
  not
• 39:27
  friends.
• 39:28
  I
• 39:28
  love
• 39:28
  both
• 39:29
  of
• 39:29
  them
• 39:29
  dearly.
• 39:30
  These
• 39:30
  women
• 39:30
  are
• 39:30
  wonderful.
• 39:31
  But
• 39:31
  it
• 39:32
  makes
• 39:32
  it
• 39:32
  really
• 39:32
  tricky
• 39:33
  because,
• 39:33
  okay,
• 39:34
  we
• 39:34
  do
• 39:34
  group
• 39:34
  things,
• 39:35
  and
• 39:35
  it's
• 39:35
  like,
• 39:35
  you
• 39:36
  know,
• 39:36
  I
• 39:36
  hang
• 39:36
  out
• 39:36
  with
• 39:36
  them
• 39:36
  individually,
• 39:37
  but
• 39:37
  that
• 39:37
  is
• 39:37
  groups.
• 39:38
  It's
• 39:38
  like,
• 39:38
  we
• 39:39
  have
• 39:39
  these
• 39:39
  two
• 39:40
  separate
• 39:41
  little
• 39:41
  hangs,
• 39:42
  and
• 39:42
  it's.
• 39:42
  It's
• 39:42
  really,
• 39:42
  really
• 39:43
  hard.
• 39:43
  And
• 39:43
  it's
• 39:43
  like,
• 39:44
  okay,
• 39:44
  it's
• 39:44
  not
• 39:44
  about
• 39:44
  me.
• 39:45
  It's,
• 39:45
  you
• 39:45
  know,
• 39:46
  like,
• 39:46
  they're
• 39:46
  going
• 39:46
  through
• 39:47
  a
• 39:47
  hard
• 39:47
  time,
• 39:47
  too,
• 39:47
  but,
• 39:48
  like,
• 39:48
  it's
• 39:48
  tricky.
• 39:49
  It
• 39:49
  is
• 39:49
  tricky
• 39:50
  when
• 39:50
  friend
• 39:50
  groups
• 39:51
  kind
• 39:52
  of
• 39:52
  have
• 39:52
  those
• 39:53
  breaks
• 39:53
  and
• 39:54
  cracks
• 39:54
  within
• 39:54
  them,
• 39:55
  and
• 39:55
  then
• 39:55
  they're,
• 39:55
  you
• 39:56
  know,
• 39:56
  like
• 39:56
  these
• 39:56
  bifurcated
• 39:57
  situations,
• 39:58
  and
• 39:58
  it's
• 39:58
  almost
• 39:58
  like.
• 39:59
  A
• 39:59
  divorce
• 39:59
  because
• 39:59
  you're
• 39:59
  like,
• 40:00
  who
• 40:00
  do
• 40:00
  I
• 40:00
  go?
• 40:00
  You
• 40:00
  know,
• 40:01
  who
• 40:01
  do
• 40:01
  you
• 40:01
  would
• 40:01
  go
• 40:01
  with?
• 40:02
  And
• 40:02
  it's.
• 40:03
  Right.
• 40:03
  And
• 40:03
  you
• 40:04
  want
• 40:04
  to
• 40:04
  go
• 40:04
  with
• 40:04
  both
• 40:04
  of
• 40:04
  them.
• 40:04
  You.
• 40:05
  You
• 40:05
  don't
• 40:05
  want
• 40:05
  to
• 40:05
  lose
• 40:06
  either
• 40:06
  one
• 40:06
  of
• 40:06
  them.
• 40:07
  You
• 40:07
  know,
• 40:08
  it's
• 40:08
  a
• 40:08
  real
• 40:08
  tricky
• 40:09
  situation.
• 40:09
  It's
• 40:10
  really
• 40:10
  tricky,
• 40:11
  right?
• 40:11
  But
• 40:11
  I
• 40:11
  feel
• 40:11
  like
• 40:12
  now
• 40:12
  with,
• 40:13
  you
• 40:13
  know,
• 40:13
  maybe
• 40:14
  it
• 40:14
  is
• 40:14
  partly
• 40:15
  hormonal.
• 40:15
  There's,
• 40:16
  you
• 40:16
  know,
• 40:16
  changes
• 40:17
  and,
• 40:17
  you
• 40:17
  know,
• 40:18
  whatever
• 40:18
  it
• 40:18
  is
• 40:19
  Day
• 40:19
  to
• 40:19
  day
• 40:19
  life
• 40:19
  that
• 40:20
  I
• 40:20
  feel
• 40:20
  like
• 40:20
  this
• 40:20
  becomes
• 40:21
  more
• 40:21
  of
• 40:21
  a
• 40:21
  topic
• 40:22
  in
• 40:22
  this.
• 40:23
  In
• 40:23
  this
• 40:23
  time
• 40:23
  frame.
• 40:24
  Oh,
• 40:24
  absolutely,
• 40:25
  absolutely.
• 40:26
  I
• 40:26
  mean,
• 40:26
  it's
• 40:26
  like,
• 40:26
  okay,
• 40:27
  we.
• 40:27
  We
• 40:27
  went
• 40:27
  through
• 40:28
  our
• 40:28
  teenage
• 40:28
  years
• 40:28
  and,
• 40:29
  you
• 40:29
  know,
• 40:29
  all
• 40:29
  that,
• 40:29
  and
• 40:30
  I
• 40:30
  like
• 40:30
  our
• 40:30
  period
• 40:30
  hormones
• 40:31
  and.
• 40:31
  And
• 40:32
  all
• 40:32
  of
• 40:32
  that
• 40:32
  puberty
• 40:33
  and
• 40:33
  that
• 40:34
  was
• 40:34
  tricky
• 40:34
  enough
• 40:34
  with
• 40:34
  friendships.
• 40:35
  Now
• 40:35
  we're
• 40:36
  older,
• 40:36
  and
• 40:36
  we
• 40:36
  should
• 40:37
  know
• 40:37
  better
• 40:37
  in
• 40:38
  a
• 40:38
  lot
• 40:38
  of
• 40:38
  relational
• 40:38
  ways.
• 40:39
  To
• 40:39
  not
• 40:39
  be
• 40:39
  catty,
• 40:40
  to
• 40:40
  not
• 40:40
  be
• 40:41
  judgy,
• 40:41
  to
• 40:42
  not
• 40:42
  be,
• 40:42
  you
• 40:42
  know,
• 40:42
  gossipy.
• 40:44
  Now
• 40:44
  we've
• 40:44
  got
• 40:44
  all
• 40:44
  these
• 40:45
  perimenopause
• 40:45
  and
• 40:46
  menopause
• 40:46
  hormones
• 40:47
  where
• 40:47
  it's
• 40:47
  like
• 40:48
  we
• 40:48
  are
• 40:49
  afraid
• 40:49
  we
• 40:50
  are
• 40:50
  not
• 40:50
  as
• 40:51
  even
• 40:51
  keeled
• 40:52
  as
• 40:52
  we
• 40:52
  once
• 40:53
  were.
• 40:53
  And
• 40:53
  so,
• 40:54
  you
• 40:54
  know,
• 40:54
  realizing
• 40:55
  and
• 40:55
  giving
• 40:56
  your
• 40:56
  friends
• 40:56
  grace
• 40:57
  and
• 40:57
  hoping
• 40:57
  that
• 40:57
  that
• 40:57
  kind
• 40:58
  of
• 40:58
  comes
• 40:58
  in
• 40:58
  return
• 40:58
  of
• 40:59
  like,
• 40:59
  yeah,
• 41:00
  sorry,
• 41:00
  I
• 41:00
  was
• 41:00
  a
• 41:00
  little
• 41:01
  bit
• 41:01
  nutty
• 41:01
  the
• 41:01
  other
• 41:01
  day.
• 41:02
  I'm
• 41:02
  feeling
• 41:03
  better.
• 41:04
  And
• 41:04
  realizing
• 41:05
  that
• 41:05
  it's
• 41:05
  like,
• 41:05
  okay,
• 41:06
  like,
• 41:07
  just
• 41:07
  blame
• 41:07
  the
• 41:07
  pear.
• 41:08
  Blame
• 41:08
  the
• 41:08
  Perry.
• 41:09
  Exactly.
• 41:09
  Perry.
• 41:10
  Perry
• 41:10
  is
• 41:10
  always
• 41:10
  the
• 41:11
  root
• 41:11
  of
• 41:11
  the
• 41:11
  problem.
• 41:14
  She's
• 41:14
  such
• 41:14
  a
• 41:14
  jerk.
• 41:14
  She
• 41:15
  really
• 41:15
  is.
• 41:15
  You
• 41:16
  know,
• 41:16
  I
• 41:16
  will
• 41:16
  say,
• 41:16
  because
• 41:17
  my
• 41:17
  daughter's
• 41:17
  entering
• 41:18
  sixth
• 41:18
  grade
• 41:18
  now,
• 41:19
  she's
• 41:19
  going
• 41:19
  to
• 41:19
  a
• 41:19
  different
• 41:19
  school.
• 41:20
  Her
• 41:20
  going
• 41:21
  into,
• 41:21
  like,
• 41:21
  the
• 41:21
  middle
• 41:22
  school
• 41:22
  world
• 41:23
  is
• 41:23
  triggering
• 41:24
  to
• 41:24
  me
• 41:24
  because
• 41:25
  I
• 41:25
  worry
• 41:26
  so
• 41:26
  much
• 41:26
  for
• 41:27
  her
• 41:27
  because
• 41:27
  I
• 41:28
  know
• 41:28
  how
• 41:29
  difficult
• 41:30
  those
• 41:30
  years
• 41:31
  are,
• 41:31
  you
• 41:31
  know,
• 41:32
  and
• 41:32
  it's
• 41:32
  like
• 41:32
  one
• 41:32
  of
• 41:33
  those
• 41:33
  things
• 41:33
  where,
• 41:34
  you
• 41:34
  know,
• 41:34
  hormones
• 41:35
  are
• 41:35
  raging
• 41:36
  and,
• 41:36
  you
• 41:36
  know,
• 41:37
  friendships
• 41:37
  are
• 41:37
  changing
• 41:38
  and
• 41:38
  the
• 41:38
  dynamics
• 41:39
  and.
• 41:39
  And
• 41:40
  they're
• 41:40
  trying
• 41:40
  to
• 41:40
  figure
• 41:41
  out
• 41:41
  who
• 41:41
  they
• 41:41
  are.
• 41:41
  They're
• 41:42
  letting
• 41:42
  go
• 41:42
  of,
• 41:42
  like,
• 41:43
  childhood
• 41:43
  in
• 41:44
  some
• 41:44
  ways.
• 41:44
  And
• 41:45
  really,
• 41:45
  you
• 41:45
  too,
• 41:46
  as
• 41:46
  a
• 41:46
  parent,
• 41:47
  you
• 41:47
  know,
• 41:47
  they're
• 41:47
  like,
• 41:48
  letting
• 41:48
  us
• 41:48
  go.
• 41:49
  And
• 41:49
  the
• 41:49
  friends
• 41:49
  become
• 41:50
  so
• 41:50
  much
• 41:51
  more
• 41:51
  important
• 41:51
  to
• 41:52
  them.
• 41:52
  So
• 41:52
  I'm
• 41:52
  like,
• 41:53
  I
• 41:53
  know
• 41:53
  there's
• 41:53
  going
• 41:53
  to
• 41:53
  be
• 41:54
  heartbreak
• 41:54
  and
• 41:54
  trials
• 41:55
  and
• 41:55
  tribulations
• 41:55
  for
• 41:56
  her
• 41:56
  and
• 41:56
  everything,
• 41:56
  but
• 41:56
  it
• 41:56
  just.
• 41:57
  I.
• 41:58
  I
• 41:58
  just
• 41:58
  get
• 41:58
  so.
• 41:59
  I
• 41:59
  just.
• 42:00
  I
• 42:00
  think
• 42:00
  it's
• 42:00
  just
• 42:01
  because
• 42:01
  of
• 42:01
  what
• 42:01
  I've
• 42:01
  gone
• 42:01
  through
• 42:02
  too.
• 42:02
  It's
• 42:02
  like,
• 42:02
  it
• 42:03
  can
• 42:03
  be
• 42:03
  really
• 42:03
  triggering,
• 42:04
  you
• 42:04
  know?
• 42:05
  Absolutely.
• 42:06
  Absolutely.
• 42:07
  I
• 42:07
  mean,
• 42:07
  you've
• 42:07
  been
• 42:08
  through
• 42:08
  all
• 42:08
  of
• 42:08
  these
• 42:08
  things
• 42:08
  and
• 42:09
  you
• 42:09
  remember
• 42:09
  it's
• 42:09
  like
• 42:09
  when
• 42:10
  your
• 42:10
  daughter
• 42:10
  comes
• 42:11
  home
• 42:11
  cr.
• 42:12
  Because
• 42:12
  you
• 42:12
  know,
• 42:13
  this
• 42:13
  friend,
• 42:13
  you
• 42:13
  know,
• 42:14
  it's
• 42:14
  like
• 42:14
  history
• 42:14
  is
• 42:14
  going
• 42:15
  to
• 42:15
  repeat
• 42:15
  itself.
• 42:15
  There
• 42:16
  are
• 42:16
  going
• 42:16
  to
• 42:16
  be
• 42:16
  times
• 42:16
  where
• 42:17
  you
• 42:17
  know
• 42:17
  your
• 42:17
  daughter's
• 42:18
  friend,
• 42:18
  that
• 42:18
  she's
• 42:18
  been
• 42:19
  her
• 42:19
  friend
• 42:19
  forever,
• 42:19
  and
• 42:20
  now
• 42:20
  she's
• 42:20
  being
• 42:20
  mean
• 42:20
  to
• 42:21
  her.
• 42:21
  And
• 42:21
  it's
• 42:21
  like,
• 42:21
  you
• 42:22
  know,
• 42:22
  your
• 42:22
  mama
• 42:22
  bear
• 42:22
  comes
• 42:23
  out
• 42:23
  and
• 42:23
  you
• 42:23
  just
• 42:23
  want
• 42:23
  to
• 42:23
  be
• 42:23
  like,
• 42:24
  I'm
• 42:24
  gonna
• 42:24
  kill
• 42:24
  this
• 42:24
  kid.
• 42:25
  This.
• 42:25
  This
• 42:25
  little
• 42:26
  monster.
• 42:26
  And
• 42:26
  you
• 42:27
  want
• 42:27
  to
• 42:27
  intervene.
• 42:28
  You
• 42:28
  want
• 42:28
  to
• 42:28
  intervene
• 42:29
  and
• 42:29
  be
• 42:29
  like,
• 42:29
  texting
• 42:30
  the
• 42:30
  other
• 42:30
  girl's
• 42:30
  mom
• 42:31
  and
• 42:31
  be
• 42:31
  like,
• 42:31
  what's
• 42:31
  going
• 42:31
  on?
• 42:31
  It's
• 42:32
  like,
• 42:32
  oh,
• 42:32
  you
• 42:32
  realize
• 42:32
  you
• 42:33
  have
• 42:33
  got
• 42:33
  to
• 42:33
  be
• 42:33
  hands
• 42:34
  off,
• 42:34
  and
• 42:34
  you
• 42:34
  have
• 42:34
  got
• 42:34
  to
• 42:35
  give
• 42:35
  them.
• 42:35
  You
• 42:36
  know,
• 42:36
  you
• 42:36
  can
• 42:36
  give
• 42:36
  your
• 42:36
  advice,
• 42:37
  but
• 42:37
  then
• 42:37
  you
• 42:37
  have
• 42:37
  to
• 42:37
  let
• 42:37
  them
• 42:38
  figure
• 42:38
  it
• 42:38
  out.
• 42:38
  And
• 42:38
  that's.
• 42:38
  That's
• 42:39
  so
• 42:39
  hard.
• 42:40
  What
• 42:40
  is
• 42:40
  your
• 42:40
  advice
• 42:41
  for
• 42:41
  that?
• 42:41
  Like,
• 42:41
  do
• 42:41
  you
• 42:41
  take
• 42:42
  a
• 42:42
  step
• 42:42
  back
• 42:42
  and
• 42:42
  let
• 42:43
  your
• 42:43
  daughter
• 42:43
  kind
• 42:43
  of
• 42:44
  just
• 42:44
  figure
• 42:44
  out,
• 42:45
  you
• 42:45
  know,
• 42:45
  within
• 42:45
  the
• 42:46
  friend
• 42:46
  group
• 42:46
  what's
• 42:47
  happening,
• 42:47
  or
• 42:47
  do
• 42:47
  you
• 42:47
  step
• 42:48
  in
• 42:48
  as
• 42:48
  a
• 42:48
  parent?
• 42:50
  You
• 42:50
  know,
• 42:50
  it's
• 42:50
  like
• 42:51
  she.
• 42:51
  Since
• 42:51
  she's
• 42:52
  8,
• 42:52
  she
• 42:52
  hasn't
• 42:52
  had
• 42:53
  too
• 42:53
  much,
• 42:53
  but
• 42:54
  she's
• 42:54
  had
• 42:54
  a
• 42:54
  little
• 42:54
  bit
• 42:55
  of
• 42:55
  me.
• 42:55
  Really.
• 42:56
  I
• 42:56
  really
• 42:56
  want
• 42:56
  to
• 42:57
  kind
• 42:57
  of
• 42:57
  tread
• 42:57
  lightly
• 42:57
  of
• 42:58
  saying,
• 42:58
  like,
• 42:58
  oh,
• 42:59
  you
• 42:59
  know.
• 42:59
  You
• 43:00
  know,
• 43:00
  I
• 43:00
  will
• 43:00
  talk
• 43:01
  to
• 43:01
  her
• 43:01
  and
• 43:01
  I'll
• 43:01
  tell
• 43:01
  her
• 43:02
  just,
• 43:02
  you
• 43:02
  know,
• 43:02
  when
• 43:02
  we're
• 43:03
  laying
• 43:03
  down
• 43:03
  for
• 43:03
  bed
• 43:03
  or
• 43:03
  whatever,
• 43:04
  when
• 43:04
  she's
• 43:04
  more
• 43:04
  prone
• 43:05
  to
• 43:05
  listening,
• 43:05
  I'll
• 43:06
  just
• 43:06
  a
• 43:06
  little
• 43:06
  bit
• 43:06
  say,
• 43:07
  oh,
• 43:07
  this
• 43:07
  was
• 43:07
  what
• 43:07
  my
• 43:08
  life
• 43:08
  was
• 43:08
  like
• 43:08
  when
• 43:08
  I
• 43:08
  was
• 43:08
  8.
• 43:09
  And
• 43:09
  these
• 43:09
  were
• 43:09
  my
• 43:09
  friends
• 43:10
  are
• 43:10
  like.
• 43:10
  And
• 43:10
  just
• 43:10
  kind
• 43:10
  of
• 43:11
  like
• 43:11
  opening
• 43:11
  that
• 43:11
  dialogue
• 43:12
  so
• 43:12
  she
• 43:12
  remembers,
• 43:12
  hey,
• 43:13
  mom
• 43:13
  was
• 43:13
  once
• 43:13
  this
• 43:14
  age
• 43:14
  before.
• 43:14
  Mom's
• 43:15
  been
• 43:15
  through
• 43:15
  it.
• 43:15
  She's
• 43:16
  not
• 43:16
  completely
• 43:16
  on
• 43:16
  a
• 43:17
  different
• 43:17
  planet.
• 43:18
  And
• 43:18
  there
• 43:18
  have
• 43:18
  been
• 43:18
  times
• 43:19
  where
• 43:19
  she
• 43:19
  has
• 43:19
  opened
• 43:19
  up
• 43:20
  that.
• 43:20
  Oh,
• 43:20
  so
• 43:20
  and
• 43:21
  so,
• 43:21
  you
• 43:21
  know,
• 43:21
  just
• 43:22
  like
• 43:22
  the
• 43:22
  little
• 43:22
  relational
• 43:23
  aggression
• 43:23
  and
• 43:24
  the
• 43:24
  things
• 43:24
  as
• 43:24
  people
• 43:25
  have
• 43:25
  said
• 43:25
  and,
• 43:25
  you
• 43:26
  know,
• 43:26
  really
• 43:26
  trying
• 43:26
  to
• 43:27
  open
• 43:27
  up
• 43:27
  that
• 43:27
  dialogue.
• 43:28
  But,
• 43:28
  yeah,
• 43:28
  it's
• 43:28
  like,
• 43:28
  it's
• 43:29
  so
• 43:29
  hard
• 43:29
  because
• 43:29
  when
• 43:30
  your
• 43:30
  kids
• 43:30
  are
• 43:30
  little,
• 43:31
  you
• 43:31
  can
• 43:31
  solve
• 43:32
  these
• 43:32
  problems.
• 43:32
  It's
• 43:33
  like,
• 43:33
  oh,
• 43:33
  you
• 43:33
  know,
• 43:34
  they
• 43:34
  broke
• 43:34
  this
• 43:34
  toy.
• 43:34
  Oh,
• 43:35
  whatever.
• 43:35
  Or
• 43:35
  they
• 43:35
  fall.
• 43:35
  They
• 43:36
  fell
• 43:36
  and
• 43:36
  they
• 43:36
  scraped
• 43:37
  their
• 43:37
  knee.
• 43:37
  Like,
• 43:37
  those
• 43:38
  are
• 43:38
  easy
• 43:38
  problems,
• 43:39
  problems
• 43:39
  to
• 43:39
  solve.
• 43:39
  But
• 43:40
  once
• 43:40
  they
• 43:40
  start
• 43:40
  getting
• 43:40
  older,
• 43:41
  it
• 43:41
  is.
• 43:41
  It
• 43:42
  is
• 43:42
  hard.
• 43:42
  And
• 43:42
  it's
• 43:43
  so
• 43:43
  hard
• 43:43
  to
• 43:43
  sit
• 43:44
  on
• 43:44
  the
• 43:44
  sidelines
• 43:44
  and
• 43:45
  just
• 43:45
  realize
• 43:46
  they've
• 43:47
  got
• 43:47
  to
• 43:47
  experience
• 43:48
  this
• 43:48
  for
• 43:48
  themselves.
• 43:49
  Even
• 43:49
  though,
• 43:49
  you
• 43:50
  know,
• 43:50
  you're
• 43:50
  just
• 43:50
  heartbroken
• 43:51
  and
• 43:51
  you're
• 43:51
  gonna
• 43:51
  be
• 43:52
  there
• 43:52
  and
• 43:52
  you're
• 43:52
  gonna
• 43:52
  be
• 43:52
  there
• 43:53
  and,
• 43:53
  like,
• 43:53
  ready
• 43:54
  to,
• 43:54
  you
• 43:55
  know,
• 43:55
  dry
• 43:55
  the
• 43:55
  tears
• 43:56
  and
• 43:56
  ready
• 43:57
  just
• 43:57
  to
• 43:57
  be
• 43:57
  that
• 43:57
  listening
• 43:58
  ear
• 43:58
  and
• 43:58
  realize,
• 43:59
  like,
• 43:59
  I
• 43:59
  know,
• 43:59
  honey,
• 44:00
  it's
• 44:00
  horrible.
• 44:01
  We're
• 44:02
  gonna
• 44:02
  get
• 44:02
  through
• 44:02
  it.
• 44:02
  And
• 44:03
  not
• 44:03
  that
• 44:03
  it
• 44:03
  makes
• 44:04
  it
• 44:04
  better
• 44:04
  to
• 44:04
  be
• 44:04
  like,
• 44:05
  you
• 44:05
  know,
• 44:05
  you
• 44:05
  will
• 44:05
  find
• 44:05
  your
• 44:06
  people,
• 44:06
  but
• 44:06
  it
• 44:07
  gets
• 44:07
  better.
• 44:07
  It
• 44:08
  gets
• 44:08
  better.
• 44:08
  It's
• 44:09
  just
• 44:09
  so
• 44:09
  hard
• 44:09
  to
• 44:09
  not
• 44:09
  be
• 44:10
  the
• 44:10
  problem
• 44:10
  solver,
• 44:10
  to,
• 44:11
  like,
• 44:11
  take
• 44:11
  that
• 44:11
  hat
• 44:12
  off
• 44:12
  and
• 44:12
  then
• 44:12
  become
• 44:12
  the
• 44:13
  listener
• 44:13
  or,
• 44:14
  like,
• 44:14
  the
• 44:14
  vulnerability
• 44:15
  share,
• 44:16
  you
• 44:16
  know,
• 44:16
  it's
• 44:16
  like,
• 44:17
  that's
• 44:18
  where.
• 44:18
  Because
• 44:18
  you
• 44:18
  just
• 44:18
  want
• 44:19
  to
• 44:19
  solve
• 44:19
  it
• 44:19
  and
• 44:19
  make
• 44:20
  it
• 44:20
  go
• 44:20
  away.
• 44:20
  But
• 44:20
  I
• 44:21
  guess
• 44:21
  that's
• 44:21
  not
• 44:21
  the
• 44:21
  course
• 44:22
  of
• 44:22
  life.
• 44:22
  I
• 44:23
  know
• 44:23
  it's
• 44:23
  like
• 44:23
  if
• 44:23
  you
• 44:24
  just
• 44:24
  sweep
• 44:24
  in
• 44:24
  and
• 44:24
  solve
• 44:24
  the
• 44:25
  problems,
• 44:25
  what
• 44:25
  does
• 44:26
  that
• 44:26
  teach
• 44:26
  them
• 44:26
  other
• 44:27
  than,
• 44:27
  you
• 44:28
  know,
• 44:28
  it's
• 44:28
  like
• 44:28
  you
• 44:28
  want
• 44:28
  them
• 44:29
  to
• 44:29
  be
• 44:29
  able
• 44:29
  to
• 44:29
  have
• 44:29
  the
• 44:29
  independence
• 44:30
  because
• 44:30
  guess
• 44:30
  what,
• 44:30
  their
• 44:31
  problems
• 44:31
  are
• 44:31
  going
• 44:31
  to
• 44:31
  get
• 44:31
  bigger
• 44:32
  and
• 44:32
  bigger
• 44:32
  and
• 44:32
  bigger.
• 44:33
  It's
• 44:33
  not
• 44:33
  going
• 44:33
  to
• 44:33
  be
• 44:33
  just,
• 44:34
  just,
• 44:34
  you
• 44:34
  know,
• 44:34
  this
• 44:35
  friend
• 44:35
  said,
• 44:35
  I'm
• 44:35
  not
• 44:36
  her
• 44:36
  friend
• 44:36
  anymore.
• 44:36
  It's
• 44:37
  going
• 44:37
  to
• 44:37
  be
• 44:37
  these
• 44:37
  bigger,
• 44:37
  more
• 44:38
  complex
• 44:38
  things.
• 44:38
  And
• 44:39
  so
• 44:39
  realizing
• 44:40
  in
• 44:40
  the
• 44:40
  perspective,
• 44:41
  like,
• 44:42
  they
• 44:42
  have
• 44:42
  to
• 44:42
  be
• 44:43
  able
• 44:43
  to,
• 44:43
  you
• 44:43
  know,
• 44:43
  they
• 44:44
  have
• 44:44
  to
• 44:44
  solve
• 44:44
  these
• 44:44
  problems
• 44:45
  themselves.
• 44:45
  And
• 44:46
  yes,
• 44:46
  I'll
• 44:46
  be
• 44:46
  here
• 44:46
  for
• 44:46
  advice,
• 44:47
  but
• 44:47
  I
• 44:47
  cannot
• 44:48
  fix
• 44:48
  this
• 44:48
  for
• 44:48
  you.
• 44:49
  So
• 44:50
  how
• 44:50
  do
• 44:50
  you
• 44:51
  deal
• 44:51
  with
• 44:52
  fear?
• 44:53
  Particularly
• 44:54
  as
• 44:54
  you
• 44:54
  started
• 44:55
  this
• 44:55
  amazing
• 44:56
  new
• 44:56
  podcast
• 44:56
  and
• 44:57
  you're
• 44:57
  really
• 44:57
  putting
• 44:57
  yourself
• 44:58
  out
• 44:58
  there,
• 44:58
  which
• 44:58
  I
• 44:59
  think
• 44:59
  is
• 44:59
  so
• 45:00
  resonating,
• 45:01
  you
• 45:01
  know,
• 45:01
  with
• 45:01
  people.
• 45:01
  So
• 45:02
  congratulations
• 45:02
  on
• 45:03
  that.
• 45:03
  But
• 45:04
  how
• 45:04
  do
• 45:05
  you,
• 45:05
  of
• 45:05
  course,
• 45:05
  how
• 45:06
  do
• 45:06
  you
• 45:06
  deal
• 45:07
  with
• 45:07
  the
• 45:07
  fear,
• 45:07
  like,
• 45:08
  of
• 45:08
  just,
• 45:09
  you
• 45:09
  know,
• 45:09
  all
• 45:10
  the
• 45:10
  things
• 45:10
  that
• 45:10
  come
• 45:11
  with
• 45:11
  that,
• 45:12
  all
• 45:12
  the
• 45:12
  things.
• 45:13
  You
• 45:13
  know,
• 45:13
  I
• 45:13
  mean,
• 45:14
  I
• 45:14
  feel
• 45:14
  like
• 45:15
  I've
• 45:15
  had
• 45:15
  to
• 45:16
  almost.
• 45:17
  It's
• 45:18
  almost
• 45:18
  like
• 45:18
  jumping
• 45:19
  into
• 45:19
  a
• 45:19
  pool.
• 45:20
  Like,
• 45:20
  you
• 45:20
  just,
• 45:20
  you.
• 45:20
  If,
• 45:21
  if
• 45:21
  I
• 45:21
  was
• 45:21
  going
• 45:22
  to
• 45:22
  wait
• 45:22
  for
• 45:22
  the
• 45:23
  right
• 45:23
  time
• 45:23
  in
• 45:24
  the
• 45:24
  right
• 45:24
  place
• 45:24
  and
• 45:24
  the
• 45:25
  perfect
• 45:25
  time
• 45:25
  to
• 45:25
  start
• 45:26
  this
• 45:27
  podcast
• 45:27
  adventure
• 45:28
  or
• 45:28
  I
• 45:29
  mean,
• 45:29
  really,
• 45:29
  if
• 45:29
  you
• 45:29
  want
• 45:29
  to
• 45:29
  expand
• 45:30
  any
• 45:30
  adventure,
• 45:30
  it's
• 45:31
  like
• 45:31
  there's
• 45:31
  never
• 45:32
  going
• 45:32
  to
• 45:32
  be
• 45:32
  a
• 45:32
  right
• 45:32
  time.
• 45:33
  There's
• 45:33
  never
• 45:34
  going
• 45:34
  to
• 45:34
  be,
• 45:34
  you
• 45:34
  know,
• 45:35
  a
• 45:35
  flashing
• 45:36
  sign
• 45:36
  that's
• 45:36
  like,
• 45:36
  here
• 45:37
  you,
• 45:37
  here
• 45:37
  you
• 45:37
  are,
• 45:38
  here.
• 45:38
  Go
• 45:38
  for
• 45:38
  it.
• 45:39
  You
• 45:39
  know,
• 45:39
  I
• 45:40
  feel
• 45:40
  like
• 45:40
  first
• 45:41
  I've
• 45:41
  just
• 45:41
  had
• 45:41
  to
• 45:41
  like,
• 45:42
  absolutely
• 45:43
  take
• 45:43
  a
• 45:43
  leap
• 45:43
  of
• 45:43
  faith
• 45:44
  of
• 45:44
  just
• 45:44
  like,
• 45:44
  okay,
• 45:44
  here
• 45:45
  we
• 45:45
  go.
• 45:45
  And
• 45:45
  then
• 45:45
  also
• 45:46
  realize,
• 45:46
  like,
• 45:47
  guess
• 45:47
  what?
• 45:47
  Like
• 45:48
  you
• 45:48
  said,
• 45:48
  you
• 45:48
  know
• 45:49
  what,
• 45:49
  you
• 45:49
  can
• 45:49
  be
• 45:49
  like
• 45:49
  the
• 45:50
  juiciest,
• 45:50
  most
• 45:50
  delicious
• 45:51
  peach.
• 45:51
  Somebody's
• 45:51
  still
• 45:51
  going
• 45:52
  to
• 45:52
  hate
• 45:52
  peaches.
• 45:52
  Like,
• 45:52
  I
• 45:53
  feel
• 45:53
  like
• 45:53
  I
• 45:53
  know
• 45:53
  myself
• 45:54
  enough
• 45:55
  that
• 45:57
  realizing
• 45:57
  there's
• 45:57
  going
• 45:58
  to
• 45:58
  be
• 45:58
  people
• 45:58
  who
• 45:58
  are
• 45:58
  not
• 45:59
  into
• 45:59
  it,
• 45:59
  they're
• 45:59
  going
• 45:59
  to
• 45:59
  people,
• 45:59
  people
• 46:00
  who
• 46:00
  roll
• 46:01
  their
• 46:01
  eyes
• 46:01
  or
• 46:01
  who
• 46:01
  mute
• 46:02
  me
• 46:02
  on
• 46:02
  Instagram
• 46:03
  or
• 46:03
  who
• 46:03
  mute
• 46:03
  me,
• 46:03
  whatever.
• 46:04
  And
• 46:04
  it's
• 46:04
  like,
• 46:04
  that's
• 46:05
  fine.
• 46:05
  I
• 46:05
  don't
• 46:05
  have
• 46:06
  to
• 46:06
  be
• 46:06
  for
• 46:06
  everybody.
• 46:07
  I
• 46:07
  don't
• 46:08
  need
• 46:08
  every
• 46:08
  40
• 46:09
  year
• 46:09
  old
• 46:09
  woman
• 46:09
  in
• 46:10
  the
• 46:10
  world,
• 46:10
  40
• 46:10
  year
• 46:11
  old
• 46:11
  and
• 46:11
  beyond,
• 46:11
  to
• 46:12
  listen
• 46:13
  and
• 46:13
  enjoy
• 46:14
  my
• 46:14
  words
• 46:15
  and
• 46:15
  my
• 46:15
  perspective
• 46:16
  and
• 46:16
  realizing,
• 46:17
  like,
• 46:17
  it's
• 46:17
  okay,
• 46:18
  I'm
• 46:18
  not
• 46:18
  for
• 46:18
  everybody.
• 46:19
  You
• 46:19
  know,
• 46:20
  I
• 46:20
  feel
• 46:20
  like
• 46:20
  it'll
• 46:20
  probably,
• 46:21
  as,
• 46:22
  as
• 46:22
  growth
• 46:23
  goes,
• 46:23
  I'm
• 46:23
  sure
• 46:24
  there
• 46:24
  will
• 46:24
  be
• 46:24
  some
• 46:24
  times
• 46:25
  where
• 46:25
  my
• 46:25
  confidence
• 46:25
  is
• 46:26
  rocked.
• 46:26
  I'm
• 46:26
  sure
• 46:27
  there
• 46:27
  have
• 46:27
  been
• 46:27
  times
• 46:27
  where,
• 46:27
  you
• 46:28
  know,
• 46:28
  with
• 46:28
  you
• 46:28
  and
• 46:28
  your
• 46:28
  career
• 46:29
  and
• 46:29
  with
• 46:29
  your
• 46:29
  podcast
• 46:30
  and
• 46:30
  your
• 46:30
  platform,
• 46:31
  where
• 46:31
  your
• 46:31
  confidence
• 46:32
  has
• 46:32
  been
• 46:32
  rocked.
• 46:32
  But
• 46:32
  it's
• 46:33
  like,
• 46:33
  there's
• 46:33
  never
• 46:33
  going
• 46:33
  to
• 46:33
  be
• 46:33
  a
• 46:34
  perfect
• 46:34
  time.
• 46:34
  Like
• 46:34
  I
• 46:34
  said
• 46:35
  earlier,
• 46:35
  the
• 46:35
  time's
• 46:36
  going
• 46:36
  to
• 46:36
  pass
• 46:36
  anyway.
• 46:37
  And
• 46:37
  I
• 46:37
  do
• 46:38
  not
• 46:38
  want
• 46:38
  to
• 46:38
  live
• 46:38
  a
• 46:38
  life
• 46:39
  of
• 46:39
  regret
• 46:39
  of
• 46:39
  thinking,
• 46:40
  oh,
• 46:40
  I
• 46:40
  should
• 46:40
  have
• 46:41
  done
• 46:41
  this.
• 46:41
  Would
• 46:41
  have
• 46:41
  been
• 46:41
  a
• 46:41
  perfect
• 46:42
  time
• 46:42
  to
• 46:42
  do
• 46:42
  this.
• 46:42
  Because
• 46:42
  I
• 46:43
  still
• 46:43
  think,
• 46:43
  like,
• 46:43
  oh,
• 46:44
  man,
• 46:44
  if
• 46:44
  I
• 46:44
  would
• 46:45
  have
• 46:45
  started
• 46:45
  some
• 46:45
  type
• 46:46
  of
• 46:46
  an
• 46:46
  influencing
• 46:47
  platform,
• 46:47
  you
• 46:48
  know,
• 46:48
  in
• 46:48
  2010,
• 46:49
  when
• 46:49
  Instagram
• 46:50
  was
• 46:50
  baby.
• 46:50
  Instagram,
• 46:51
  whatever,
• 46:51
  you
• 46:52
  know,
• 46:52
  I
• 46:52
  could
• 46:52
  have
• 46:53
  been
• 46:53
  one
• 46:53
  of
• 46:53
  those
• 46:54
  who
• 46:54
  was,
• 46:54
  you
• 46:54
  know,
• 46:55
  shaped
• 46:55
  the
• 46:55
  Internet,
• 46:56
  rolling
• 46:56
  in
• 46:56
  the
• 46:56
  dough,
• 46:56
  whatever.
• 46:57
  Like,
• 46:57
  I
• 46:57
  have
• 46:57
  a
• 46:57
  friend
• 46:57
  who
• 46:58
  she.
• 46:59
  She
• 46:59
  created
• 47:00
  a
• 47:00
  cooking
• 47:00
  blog
• 47:01
  way
• 47:01
  at
• 47:01
  the
• 47:01
  very
• 47:01
  beginning
• 47:02
  of
• 47:02
  Pinterest.
• 47:02
  And
• 47:03
  it
• 47:03
  did
• 47:03
  amazing
• 47:03
  and
• 47:03
  exploded.
• 47:04
  And
• 47:04
  she
• 47:04
  worked
• 47:04
  and
• 47:04
  worked
• 47:05
  and
• 47:05
  worked
• 47:05
  and
• 47:05
  worked.
• 47:06
  And,
• 47:06
  you
• 47:06
  know,
• 47:06
  there
• 47:06
  are
• 47:06
  some
• 47:07
  times
• 47:07
  where
• 47:07
  I
• 47:07
  was
• 47:07
  like,
• 47:07
  oh,
• 47:08
  I
• 47:08
  should
• 47:08
  have
• 47:08
  done
• 47:08
  that.
• 47:08
  I
• 47:09
  should
• 47:09
  have
• 47:09
  done
• 47:09
  that.
• 47:09
  But,
• 47:09
  like,
• 47:09
  I
• 47:10
  truly
• 47:10
  need
• 47:10
  to
• 47:10
  be
• 47:11
  like,
• 47:11
  I
• 47:11
  need
• 47:11
  to
• 47:11
  stop
• 47:12
  with
• 47:12
  the
• 47:12
  should
• 47:12
  have
• 47:12
  dones
• 47:13
  and
• 47:13
  just
• 47:14
  realize
• 47:14
  there's
• 47:15
  never
• 47:15
  going
• 47:15
  to
• 47:15
  be
• 47:15
  a
• 47:16
  great
• 47:16
  time.
• 47:16
  It's
• 47:17
  always
• 47:17
  going
• 47:17
  to
• 47:17
  be
• 47:18
  scary.
• 47:18
  Like,
• 47:19
  just
• 47:19
  freaking
• 47:20
  go
• 47:20
  for
• 47:20
  it.
• 47:21
  Yes,
• 47:21
  totally.
• 47:22
  There's
• 47:22
  never
• 47:23
  a
• 47:23
  right
• 47:23
  time.
• 47:24
  Like,
• 47:24
  you're
• 47:24
  saying
• 47:24
  it's
• 47:25
  the.
• 47:25
  The
• 47:26
  right
• 47:26
  time
• 47:26
  is
• 47:26
  now.
• 47:27
  Yeah,
• 47:27
  the
• 47:27
  right
• 47:28
  time
• 47:28
  is
• 47:28
  now.
• 47:29
  You
• 47:29
  know,
• 47:29
  you
• 47:29
  had
• 47:30
  so
• 47:30
  many
• 47:30
  amazing
• 47:30
  guests
• 47:31
  already
• 47:31
  on
• 47:31
  your
• 47:31
  show
• 47:32
  and
• 47:32
  you've
• 47:32
  talked
• 47:33
  about
• 47:33
  all
• 47:33
  these
• 47:33
  fascinating
• 47:34
  topics.
• 47:35
  Was
• 47:36
  there
• 47:36
  a
• 47:36
  story
• 47:37
  that
• 47:38
  has
• 47:38
  resonated
• 47:39
  with
• 47:39
  you
• 47:39
  so
• 47:39
  far
• 47:40
  so
• 47:40
  much
• 47:40
  as
• 47:41
  to
• 47:41
  really
• 47:41
  kind
• 47:42
  of
• 47:42
  change
• 47:42
  the
• 47:43
  way
• 47:43
  you
• 47:43
  think?
• 47:44
  Well,
• 47:44
  first,
• 47:44
  I
• 47:45
  mean,
• 47:45
  I
• 47:45
  love
• 47:45
  this.
• 47:46
  I
• 47:46
  love
• 47:46
  that
• 47:46
  I'm
• 47:47
  having
• 47:47
  an
• 47:47
  opportunity
• 47:48
  to
• 47:48
  talk
• 47:48
  to
• 47:48
  these
• 47:49
  women
• 47:49
  who,
• 47:50
  you
• 47:50
  know,
• 47:50
  are
• 47:50
  in
• 47:51
  their
• 47:51
  40s
• 47:51
  and
• 47:51
  beyond
• 47:52
  and
• 47:52
  have
• 47:52
  all
• 47:53
  these
• 47:53
  different
• 47:53
  lived
• 47:54
  experiences.
• 47:55
  The
• 47:55
  one
• 47:55
  conversation
• 47:56
  that
• 47:56
  has
• 47:56
  really
• 47:57
  stuck
• 47:57
  with
• 47:57
  me,
• 47:57
  it's
• 47:58
  my.
• 47:58
  One
• 47:58
  of
• 47:58
  my
• 47:59
  good
• 47:59
  friends,
• 47:59
  Sarah,
• 47:59
  and
• 48:00
  she's
• 48:00
  44
• 48:00
  years
• 48:00
  old
• 48:00
  and
• 48:01
  she
• 48:01
  has
• 48:01
  done
• 48:02
  a
• 48:02
  full
• 48:02
  life
• 48:03
  pivot
• 48:03
  and
• 48:03
  she
• 48:03
  joined
• 48:03
  the
• 48:04
  police
• 48:04
  academy.
• 48:05
  So
• 48:05
  she's.
• 48:05
  She
• 48:06
  has
• 48:06
  a
• 48:06
  mother
• 48:06
  of
• 48:06
  five.
• 48:07
  She's
• 48:07
  raising
• 48:07
  her
• 48:08
  children.
• 48:08
  She
• 48:08
  decided
• 48:09
  I
• 48:09
  want
• 48:09
  to
• 48:09
  do
• 48:09
  this.
• 48:10
  And
• 48:11
  so,
• 48:11
  you
• 48:12
  know,
• 48:12
  her
• 48:12
  experience
• 48:12
  is
• 48:13
  so,
• 48:14
  so
• 48:14
  interesting.
• 48:14
  I
• 48:14
  love
• 48:14
  talking
• 48:15
  to
• 48:15
  her.
• 48:15
  But
• 48:15
  when
• 48:15
  we're
• 48:16
  talking
• 48:16
  about,
• 48:16
  you
• 48:17
  know,
• 48:17
  I'm
• 48:17
  so.
• 48:17
  I'm,
• 48:18
  you
• 48:18
  know,
• 48:18
  I
• 48:18
  should
• 48:19
  have
• 48:19
  done
• 48:19
  this
• 48:19
  or
• 48:19
  I
• 48:19
  should
• 48:19
  have
• 48:19
  done
• 48:20
  that.
• 48:21
  You
• 48:21
  know,
• 48:22
  I
• 48:22
  feel
• 48:22
  behind
• 48:22
  in
• 48:23
  life.
• 48:23
  I
• 48:23
  think
• 48:23
  for
• 48:24
  a
• 48:24
  long
• 48:24
  time
• 48:24
  that's
• 48:25
  something
• 48:25
  that
• 48:25
  I
• 48:25
  kind
• 48:25
  of
• 48:25
  struggled
• 48:26
  with.
• 48:26
  And
• 48:27
  she's
• 48:27
  like,
• 48:27
  whose
• 48:28
  race
• 48:28
  are
• 48:28
  you
• 48:28
  running?
• 48:30
  Who.
• 48:30
  Who
• 48:30
  is
• 48:31
  behind
• 48:31
  you?
• 48:31
  It
• 48:31
  is
• 48:31
  your
• 48:32
  race.
• 48:33
  You
• 48:33
  do
• 48:33
  not
• 48:33
  need
• 48:33
  to
• 48:34
  look
• 48:34
  at
• 48:34
  this
• 48:34
  person
• 48:34
  or
• 48:35
  that
• 48:35
  person.
• 48:35
  Like,
• 48:35
  the
• 48:36
  only
• 48:36
  person
• 48:36
  you
• 48:37
  are
• 48:37
  racing
• 48:37
  is
• 48:38
  you.
• 48:38
  And
• 48:39
  so
• 48:39
  that's
• 48:39
  something
• 48:39
  that
• 48:40
  I
• 48:40
  really
• 48:40
  love
• 48:41
  because
• 48:41
  it's
• 48:41
  like
• 48:42
  just
• 48:42
  stopping
• 48:43
  the
• 48:43
  Comparison
• 48:43
  game.
• 48:44
  Because
• 48:44
  it's
• 48:44
  not
• 48:44
  necessarily,
• 48:45
  you
• 48:46
  know,
• 48:46
  oh,
• 48:46
  she
• 48:46
  has
• 48:47
  this,
• 48:47
  I
• 48:47
  want
• 48:47
  this.
• 48:47
  But
• 48:47
  it's
• 48:48
  like
• 48:48
  just
• 48:48
  feeling
• 48:49
  like,
• 48:49
  o,
• 48:49
  oh,
• 48:49
  I
• 48:49
  should
• 48:50
  have
• 48:50
  done
• 48:50
  this
• 48:50
  a
• 48:50
  long
• 48:50
  time
• 48:50
  ago.
• 48:50
  I
• 48:51
  should
• 48:51
  have
• 48:51
  done
• 48:51
  long,
• 48:51
  you
• 48:52
  know,
• 48:52
  this
• 48:52
  a
• 48:52
  long
• 48:53
  time
• 48:53
  ago.
• 48:53
  And
• 48:54
  realizing,
• 48:54
  no,
• 48:55
  now
• 48:55
  is
• 48:55
  the
• 48:56
  right
• 48:56
  time
• 48:57
  for
• 48:58
  whatever
• 48:58
  you
• 48:58
  want
• 48:59
  to
• 48:59
  do.
• 49:01
  I
• 49:01
  really
• 49:01
  have
• 49:01
  loved
• 49:02
  that.
• 49:02
  Whose
• 49:02
  race
• 49:03
  am
• 49:03
  I
• 49:03
  running?
• 49:03
  Nobody.
• 49:04
  It's
• 49:04
  my
• 49:04
  race.
• 49:05
  That
• 49:05
  resonates
• 49:06
  so
• 49:06
  much.
• 49:06
  I
• 49:06
  love
• 49:07
  that.
• 49:07
  Like
• 49:07
  you
• 49:08
  are
• 49:08
  not
• 49:08
  running
• 49:08
  a
• 49:08
  race
• 49:09
  against
• 49:09
  anybody
• 49:09
  else
• 49:10
  but
• 49:10
  yourself.
• 49:11
  Like,
• 49:11
  there
• 49:11
  is
• 49:11
  no
• 49:11
  timeline.
• 49:12
  You
• 49:12
  know,
• 49:13
  throw
• 49:13
  the
• 49:14
  timeline
• 49:14
  out.
• 49:14
  Right,
• 49:16
  Throw
• 49:16
  the
• 49:16
  timeline
• 49:16
  out.
• 49:17
  Throw
• 49:17
  whatever
• 49:18
  expectations
• 49:18
  you
• 49:19
  have.
• 49:19
  If
• 49:19
  you
• 49:19
  think,
• 49:19
  oh,
• 49:20
  this
• 49:20
  person
• 49:20
  achieved
• 49:21
  this
• 49:21
  amount
• 49:21
  of
• 49:22
  success
• 49:22
  at
• 49:22
  this
• 49:22
  age
• 49:23
  and
• 49:23
  I'm
• 49:23
  nowhere
• 49:24
  near
• 49:24
  that.
• 49:24
  Like,
• 49:25
  throw
• 49:25
  it
• 49:25
  out.
• 49:26
  Yeah.
• 49:26
  Because
• 49:27
  truly
• 49:27
  there
• 49:28
  is
• 49:28
  no
• 49:28
  limit
• 49:29
  to
• 49:29
  when
• 49:29
  you
• 49:29
  can
• 49:30
  have
• 49:30
  success
• 49:30
  and
• 49:31
  what
• 49:31
  success
• 49:31
  has
• 49:31
  to
• 49:32
  look
• 49:32
  like.
• 49:32
  Because
• 49:32
  what
• 49:33
  success
• 49:33
  looks
• 49:33
  like
• 49:34
  to
• 49:34
  me
• 49:35
  is
• 49:35
  different
• 49:35
  than
• 49:35
  what
• 49:35
  it
• 49:36
  looks
• 49:36
  like
• 49:36
  to
• 49:36
  you.
• 49:37
  Different
• 49:37
  what
• 49:37
  it
• 49:38
  looks
• 49:38
  like
• 49:38
  to
• 49:38
  my
• 49:38
  neighbor,
• 49:39
  different
• 49:39
  what
• 49:39
  it
• 49:40
  looks
• 49:40
  like
• 49:40
  to
• 49:41
  anybody.
• 49:41
  And
• 49:42
  so
• 49:42
  thinking
• 49:42
  that
• 49:43
  there's
• 49:43
  only
• 49:43
  one
• 49:44
  way
• 49:44
  to
• 49:44
  do,
• 49:44
  to
• 49:44
  do
• 49:45
  this
• 49:45
  right
• 49:45
  and
• 49:46
  to,
• 49:46
  to
• 49:46
  succeed
• 49:47
  is
• 49:47
  just
• 49:48
  so
• 49:48
  limiting.
• 49:48
  So
• 49:49
  I
• 49:49
  feel
• 49:49
  like
• 49:49
  there's
• 49:49
  again,
• 49:50
  what
• 49:50
  we
• 49:50
  said
• 49:50
  before,
• 49:50
  there's
• 49:51
  room
• 49:51
  for
• 49:51
  everybody.
• 49:51
  Yeah,
• 49:52
  absolutely.
• 49:53
  Like
• 49:53
  everybody
• 49:54
  has
• 49:54
  their
• 49:54
  own
• 49:54
  unique
• 49:55
  gift,
• 49:56
  their
• 49:56
  own
• 49:56
  unique
• 49:57
  voice
• 49:57
  and
• 49:58
  you
• 49:58
  can't
• 49:58
  duplicate
• 49:59
  that.
• 49:59
  So
• 49:59
  everybody,
• 50:00
  there's
• 50:00
  room
• 50:00
  for
• 50:00
  the
• 50:01
  table
• 50:01
  for
• 50:01
  everybody.
• 50:02
  Yes.
• 50:02
  And
• 50:03
  so
• 50:03
  not
• 50:03
  to
• 50:03
  feel
• 50:04
  so
• 50:05
  also
• 50:05
  feel
• 50:05
  threatened
• 50:06
  by
• 50:06
  another
• 50:07
  woman's
• 50:07
  success.
• 50:07
  I
• 50:08
  feel
• 50:08
  like,
• 50:09
  gosh,
• 50:09
  some
• 50:09
  women's
• 50:10
  success,
• 50:10
  it's
• 50:10
  like
• 50:11
  it
• 50:11
  raises
• 50:11
  the
• 50:11
  tides
• 50:12
  for
• 50:12
  everybody.
• 50:13
  And
• 50:13
  so
• 50:14
  seeing
• 50:14
  somebody
• 50:14
  that
• 50:14
  is
• 50:15
  having
• 50:15
  massive
• 50:16
  wins,
• 50:16
  massive
• 50:17
  success,
• 50:17
  it's
• 50:18
  like,
• 50:18
  that's
• 50:18
  so
• 50:19
  great.
• 50:19
  I
• 50:20
  never
• 50:20
  want
• 50:20
  to
• 50:20
  be
• 50:20
  the
• 50:21
  person
• 50:21
  who,
• 50:22
  you
• 50:22
  know,
• 50:22
  is
• 50:23
  picking
• 50:23
  somebody
• 50:24
  apart
• 50:24
  and
• 50:24
  saying
• 50:25
  like,
• 50:25
  oh,
• 50:25
  I'm
• 50:25
  jealous.
• 50:25
  Like,
• 50:26
  I
• 50:26
  know
• 50:26
  there's
• 50:26
  always
• 50:26
  like
• 50:27
  the
• 50:27
  little
• 50:27
  green
• 50:27
  eyed
• 50:27
  monster.
• 50:28
  There's
• 50:28
  always
• 50:28
  a
• 50:28
  little,
• 50:28
  a
• 50:29
  little
• 50:29
  bit
• 50:29
  of
• 50:29
  jealousy,
• 50:30
  a
• 50:30
  little
• 50:30
  bit
• 50:30
  of
• 50:30
  envy
• 50:30
  that
• 50:31
  pops
• 50:31
  in.
• 50:31
  But
• 50:31
  like
• 50:32
  do
• 50:32
  not
• 50:32
  feed
• 50:33
  that
• 50:33
  because
• 50:34
  that
• 50:34
  just
• 50:35
  who
• 50:35
  does
• 50:35
  that
• 50:36
  serve?
• 50:36
  Absolutely
• 50:37
  nobody.
• 50:37
  Like
• 50:38
  celebrate
• 50:38
  your
• 50:39
  friends
• 50:39
  wins,
• 50:39
  cheer
• 50:40
  them
• 50:40
  on,
• 50:40
  be
• 50:41
  that
• 50:41
  person
• 50:41
  who
• 50:42
  is
• 50:42
  always
• 50:42
  the
• 50:42
  support,
• 50:42
  support.
• 50:43
  Always
• 50:43
  willing
• 50:44
  to,
• 50:44
  you
• 50:44
  know,
• 50:45
  send
• 50:45
  a
• 50:45
  nice
• 50:45
  text
• 50:46
  to
• 50:46
  share
• 50:46
  to
• 50:47
  say
• 50:47
  like,
• 50:47
  to
• 50:48
  really
• 50:49
  like
• 50:49
  pump
• 50:49
  these
• 50:49
  women
• 50:50
  up.
• 50:50
  Because
• 50:51
  what
• 50:52
  does
• 50:52
  it
• 50:52
  hurt?
• 50:52
  Like
• 50:53
  it
• 50:53
  ends
• 50:54
  up
• 50:54
  coming
• 50:54
  around
• 50:55
  to
• 50:55
  you
• 50:55
  if
• 50:55
  you're
• 50:56
  the
• 50:56
  one
• 50:56
  who's
• 50:56
  always
• 50:56
  cheering
• 50:57
  other
• 50:57
  people
• 50:57
  on.
• 50:58
  You
• 50:58
  know,
• 50:59
  when
• 50:59
  you
• 50:59
  need
• 50:59
  though,
• 51:00
  that
• 51:00
  encouragement,
• 51:00
  it's
• 51:01
  going
• 51:01
  to
• 51:01
  come
• 51:01
  around
• 51:01
  to
• 51:01
  you
• 51:01
  too.
• 51:02
  We
• 51:02
  should
• 51:03
  be
• 51:03
  rooting
• 51:03
  for
• 51:03
  each
• 51:04
  other
• 51:04
  and
• 51:04
  like
• 51:05
  another
• 51:05
  woman's
• 51:06
  win
• 51:06
  is
• 51:07
  a
• 51:07
  win
• 51:07
  for
• 51:07
  all
• 51:07
  of
• 51:08
  us
• 51:08
  because
• 51:08
  that
• 51:08
  only
• 51:09
  advances
• 51:10
  collectively
• 51:11
  the
• 51:11
  group,
• 51:11
  you
• 51:12
  know,
• 51:12
  and
• 51:12
  it's
• 51:12
  like,
• 51:13
  I,
• 51:13
  like,
• 51:14
  I
• 51:14
  think
• 51:14
  that
• 51:14
  too.
• 51:15
  Like
• 51:15
  you're
• 51:15
  saying
• 51:15
  the
• 51:16
  competitive,
• 51:16
  maybe
• 51:17
  like,
• 51:17
  you
• 51:17
  know,
• 51:18
  feeling
• 51:18
  threatened,
• 51:18
  like,
• 51:19
  we
• 51:19
  gotta
• 51:19
  let
• 51:20
  go
• 51:20
  of
• 51:20
  that.
• 51:20
  I
• 51:20
  mean,
• 51:20
  it's
• 51:21
  hard.
• 51:21
  I
• 51:21
  know
• 51:21
  it's
• 51:22
  hard
• 51:22
  because
• 51:22
  it
• 51:22
  is
• 51:23
  natural
• 51:23
  to
• 51:23
  look
• 51:23
  around
• 51:24
  and
• 51:24
  see,
• 51:25
  you
• 51:25
  know,
• 51:25
  somebody
• 51:26
  else
• 51:26
  doing
• 51:26
  something
• 51:26
  maybe
• 51:27
  that
• 51:27
  you
• 51:27
  wanted
• 51:27
  to
• 51:27
  do
• 51:28
  or
• 51:28
  that
• 51:28
  you
• 51:28
  don't
• 51:28
  feel
• 51:29
  like
• 51:29
  you're
• 51:30
  in
• 51:30
  the
• 51:30
  same
• 51:30
  place
• 51:30
  as
• 51:30
  them.
• 51:31
  But
• 51:31
  I
• 51:31
  think
• 51:32
  that
• 51:32
  will
• 51:32
  serve
• 51:32
  us
• 51:33
  so,
• 51:33
  so
• 51:33
  much
• 51:34
  more
• 51:34
  collectively
• 51:34
  as
• 51:35
  a
• 51:35
  group
• 51:35
  of
• 51:35
  women
• 51:36
  is
• 51:37
  letting
• 51:37
  go
• 51:37
  of
• 51:38
  being
• 51:38
  threatened
• 51:38
  or
• 51:39
  feeling
• 51:39
  competitive.
• 51:40
  Because
• 51:40
  again,
• 51:41
  we
• 51:41
  are
• 51:41
  only
• 51:42
  our
• 51:42
  own
• 51:42
  people,
• 51:42
  so
• 51:43
  we
• 51:43
  are
• 51:43
  our
• 51:43
  only
• 51:44
  voice.
• 51:44
  And
• 51:45
  there
• 51:45
  is
• 51:45
  no
• 51:45
  competition
• 51:46
  except
• 51:46
  with
• 51:46
  ourself.
• 51:47
  Right?
• 51:47
  I
• 51:47
  mean,
• 51:48
  truly.
• 51:48
  Absolutely.
• 51:49
  Truly,
• 51:50
  absolutely.
• 51:51
  And
• 51:51
  it's
• 51:51
  like
• 51:51
  you
• 51:52
  think
• 51:52
  of
• 51:52
  the
• 51:52
  things
• 51:52
  that
• 51:53
  you
• 51:53
  would
• 51:53
  say,
• 51:53
  you
• 51:54
  know,
• 51:55
  the
• 51:55
  things
• 51:55
  that
• 51:55
  you
• 51:55
  say
• 51:56
  to,
• 51:56
  you
• 51:57
  know,
• 51:57
  yourself.
• 51:58
  I'm
• 51:58
  trying
• 51:58
  to
• 51:58
  think
• 51:58
  of
• 51:58
  a
• 51:59
  good
• 51:59
  way
• 51:59
  to
• 51:59
  put
• 51:59
  it.
• 51:59
  Like
• 52:01
  the,
• 52:02
  the
• 52:02
  words
• 52:02
  that
• 52:02
  you'd
• 52:02
  want
• 52:03
  to.
• 52:04
  The
• 52:04
  things
• 52:04
  you
• 52:04
  would
• 52:04
  say
• 52:04
  to
• 52:05
  your
• 52:05
  friends.
• 52:05
  You
• 52:05
  know,
• 52:05
  the
• 52:05
  way
• 52:06
  that
• 52:06
  you
• 52:06
  would
• 52:06
  encourage
• 52:06
  your
• 52:06
  friends,
• 52:07
  kind
• 52:07
  of
• 52:07
  turning
• 52:07
  it
• 52:07
  back
• 52:07
  around.
• 52:08
  You
• 52:08
  know,
• 52:08
  the
• 52:08
  way
• 52:09
  that
• 52:09
  you
• 52:09
  would
• 52:09
  encourage
• 52:09
  your
• 52:09
  friends
• 52:10
  and
• 52:10
  be
• 52:10
  like,
• 52:10
  you're
• 52:10
  doing
• 52:10
  amazing.
• 52:11
  You're,
• 52:11
  you
• 52:11
  know,
• 52:11
  I'm
• 52:12
  so
• 52:12
  proud
• 52:12
  of
• 52:12
  you.
• 52:12
  You're
• 52:13
  doing
• 52:13
  these
• 52:13
  great
• 52:13
  things.
• 52:13
  It's
• 52:14
  like,
• 52:14
  you
• 52:14
  know,
• 52:15
  turn
• 52:15
  that
• 52:15
  back
• 52:15
  around
• 52:16
  on
• 52:16
  you
• 52:16
  as
• 52:16
  well
• 52:17
  to
• 52:17
  say,
• 52:18
  you
• 52:18
  know,
• 52:19
  like,
• 52:19
  give
• 52:19
  yourself
• 52:20
  the
• 52:20
  positive
• 52:20
  self
• 52:21
  talk.
• 52:22
  You're
• 52:22
  doing
• 52:22
  amazing.
• 52:23
  You're
• 52:23
  doing
• 52:24
  something.
• 52:24
  You
• 52:24
  know,
• 52:25
  you
• 52:25
  are
• 52:25
  growing
• 52:25
  in
• 52:26
  ways,
• 52:26
  you're
• 52:26
  learning
• 52:26
  in
• 52:27
  ways,
• 52:27
  you're
• 52:27
  evolving
• 52:27
  in
• 52:28
  ways
• 52:28
  like
• 52:28
  pump
• 52:29
  yourself
• 52:29
  up.
• 52:29
  Obviously,
• 52:30
  it's
• 52:30
  like
• 52:30
  you
• 52:30
  want
• 52:31
  to
• 52:31
  put
• 52:31
  all
• 52:31
  the
• 52:31
  goodness
• 52:31
  out
• 52:32
  in
• 52:32
  the
• 52:32
  world,
• 52:32
  but
• 52:32
  also,
• 52:32
  also
• 52:33
  bring
• 52:33
  it
• 52:33
  back
• 52:33
  to
• 52:33
  yourself.
• 52:34
  And
• 52:34
  do
• 52:34
  not
• 52:34
  forget
• 52:35
  to
• 52:35
  congratulate
• 52:36
  yourself
• 52:36
  for
• 52:37
  the
• 52:37
  wins
• 52:37
  and
• 52:37
  to
• 52:37
  recognize
• 52:38
  the
• 52:38
  growth
• 52:38
  that
• 52:39
  is
• 52:39
  within
• 52:39
  you
• 52:39
  and
• 52:40
  the
• 52:40
  ways
• 52:40
  that
• 52:40
  you've
• 52:41
  handled
• 52:41
  situations.
• 52:42
  And,
• 52:43
  you
• 52:43
  know,
• 52:43
  I
• 52:43
  think
• 52:44
  that
• 52:44
  there's
• 52:44
  a
• 52:44
  lot
• 52:45
  that
• 52:45
  we
• 52:45
  just
• 52:45
  need
• 52:45
  to
• 52:46
  just
• 52:47
  give
• 52:47
  more
• 52:47
  positivity,
• 52:48
  whether
• 52:49
  it's
• 52:49
  to
• 52:50
  everyone
• 52:50
  out
• 52:51
  there
• 52:51
  or
• 52:52
  back
• 52:52
  to
• 52:52
  yourself.
• 52:53
  100
• 52:53
  we
• 52:54
  should
• 52:54
  be.
• 52:54
  You
• 52:54
  know,
• 52:54
  we
• 52:54
  do.
• 52:55
  So
• 52:55
  many
• 52:55
  of
• 52:55
  us
• 52:55
  do
• 52:55
  affirmations
• 52:56
  for
• 52:57
  our
• 52:57
  daughters,
• 52:57
  you
• 52:58
  know,
• 52:58
  going
• 52:58
  to
• 52:58
  bed
• 52:58
  at
• 52:58
  night
• 52:59
  for
• 52:59
  our
• 52:59
  kids
• 52:59
  in
• 52:59
  general,
• 53:00
  you
• 53:00
  know,
• 53:01
  doing
• 53:01
  these
• 53:01
  affirmations.
• 53:02
  And
• 53:02
  yet
• 53:02
  it's
• 53:03
  so
• 53:03
  hard
• 53:03
  to
• 53:03
  do
• 53:03
  them
• 53:03
  for
• 53:04
  ourselves.
• 53:04
  And
• 53:04
  I
• 53:05
  think
• 53:05
  we
• 53:06
  have
• 53:06
  to
• 53:06
  be
• 53:06
  able
• 53:07
  to
• 53:07
  look
• 53:07
  in
• 53:07
  a
• 53:07
  mirror,
• 53:08
  stare
• 53:08
  at
• 53:09
  ourselves
• 53:09
  and
• 53:09
  say,
• 53:10
  you
• 53:10
  know
• 53:10
  what?
• 53:10
  You're
• 53:11
  fucking
• 53:11
  awesome.
• 53:12
  You
• 53:12
  know,
• 53:12
  you
• 53:12
  are
• 53:12
  smart,
• 53:13
  you
• 53:13
  are
• 53:13
  intelligent,
• 53:14
  you
• 53:14
  are
• 53:14
  a
• 53:15
  go
• 53:15
  getter.
• 53:15
  You
• 53:16
  are
• 53:16
  creating
• 53:16
  something.
• 53:17
  You
• 53:17
  know,
• 53:17
  whatever
• 53:18
  the
• 53:18
  affirmations
• 53:19
  are,
• 53:19
  you're
• 53:19
  strong,
• 53:20
  you're
• 53:20
  brave.
• 53:20
  Like
• 53:21
  all
• 53:21
  these
• 53:21
  things,
• 53:22
  it's
• 53:22
  so
• 53:22
  Important
• 53:22
  that
• 53:23
  we
• 53:23
  have
• 53:23
  the
• 53:23
  same
• 53:24
  self
• 53:24
  talk
• 53:25
  like
• 53:25
  that.
• 53:25
  And
• 53:25
  even
• 53:26
  to
• 53:26
  write
• 53:26
  it
• 53:26
  down,
• 53:27
  like
• 53:27
  write
• 53:27
  that
• 53:27
  down
• 53:27
  on
• 53:28
  a
• 53:28
  piece
• 53:28
  of
• 53:28
  paper.
• 53:29
  If
• 53:29
  you
• 53:29
  don't
• 53:29
  want
• 53:29
  to
• 53:29
  say
• 53:29
  it
• 53:30
  to
• 53:30
  yourself
• 53:30
  in
• 53:30
  the
• 53:30
  mirror,
• 53:31
  write
• 53:31
  it
• 53:31
  down
• 53:31
  on
• 53:31
  a
• 53:31
  piece
• 53:32
  of
• 53:32
  paper,
• 53:32
  stick
• 53:32
  that
• 53:33
  sucker
• 53:33
  up
• 53:33
  on
• 53:33
  your
• 53:33
  wall
• 53:34
  and
• 53:34
  look
• 53:34
  at
• 53:34
  it
• 53:35
  and
• 53:35
  just
• 53:35
  really
• 53:35
  take
• 53:36
  that
• 53:36
  in.
• 53:36
  Because
• 53:37
  everybody
• 53:38
  has
• 53:38
  a
• 53:38
  gift.
• 53:38
  There
• 53:39
  is
• 53:39
  something
• 53:39
  special
• 53:40
  about
• 53:40
  everybody.
• 53:41
  So
• 53:41
  it's
• 53:42
  just,
• 53:42
  you
• 53:42
  just
• 53:42
  have
• 53:43
  to
• 53:43
  believe
• 53:43
  in
• 53:44
  yourself.
• 53:44
  Absolutely.
• 53:45
  And
• 53:45
  I
• 53:46
  feel
• 53:46
  like
• 53:46
  being
• 53:46
  at
• 53:47
  this
• 53:47
  age
• 53:47
  and
• 53:48
  stage,
• 53:48
  this
• 53:49
  is
• 53:49
  the
• 53:49
  time
• 53:49
  where
• 53:50
  it's
• 53:50
  like,
• 53:50
  bet
• 53:50
  on
• 53:51
  yourself.
• 53:51
  Yes,
• 53:52
  bet
• 53:52
  on
• 53:52
  yourself.
• 53:53
  Like,
• 53:53
  let's
• 53:54
  do
• 53:54
  this,
• 53:55
  let's
• 53:55
  do
• 53:55
  the
• 53:55
  thing,
• 53:56
  try
• 53:56
  the
• 53:56
  new
• 53:57
  thing,
• 53:57
  learn
• 53:57
  the
• 53:57
  new
• 53:58
  hobby.
• 53:59
  You
• 53:59
  know,
• 54:00
  put
• 54:00
  yourself
• 54:01
  out
• 54:01
  there,
• 54:01
  whatever
• 54:02
  it
• 54:02
  is,
• 54:03
  because,
• 54:04
  yeah,
• 54:04
  there,
• 54:05
  there's
• 54:05
  so
• 54:06
  much
• 54:06
  time
• 54:06
  and
• 54:06
  like
• 54:07
  you
• 54:07
  can
• 54:07
  develop
• 54:07
  into
• 54:07
  this
• 54:08
  even
• 54:08
  more
• 54:09
  amazing
• 54:09
  person
• 54:10
  if
• 54:10
  you
• 54:10
  just
• 54:11
  have.
• 54:12
  I
• 54:12
  would
• 54:12
  say
• 54:14
  just
• 54:14
  take
• 54:14
  that
• 54:15
  leap.
• 54:15
  Take
• 54:16
  that
• 54:16
  leap
• 54:16
  of
• 54:16
  faith.
• 54:17
  So
• 54:18
  what
• 54:18
  advice
• 54:19
  would
• 54:19
  you
• 54:19
  give
• 54:19
  your
• 54:20
  25
• 54:20
  year
• 54:20
  old
• 54:21
  self?
• 54:22
  All
• 54:22
  right,
• 54:25
  I
• 54:25
  would,
• 54:26
  again,
• 54:26
  I
• 54:26
  would
• 54:26
  say
• 54:27
  stop
• 54:28
  looking
• 54:28
  at
• 54:28
  what
• 54:29
  other
• 54:29
  people
• 54:29
  are
• 54:29
  doing.
• 54:30
  Stop
• 54:31
  comparing
• 54:32
  your
• 54:32
  journey
• 54:33
  to
• 54:33
  other
• 54:33
  people.
• 54:34
  I
• 54:34
  feel
• 54:34
  like
• 54:35
  that's
• 54:35
  something
• 54:35
  that
• 54:36
  really,
• 54:36
  I
• 54:36
  did
• 54:37
  get
• 54:37
  too
• 54:37
  much.
• 54:38
  I
• 54:38
  got
• 54:38
  caught
• 54:39
  too
• 54:39
  much
• 54:39
  up
• 54:40
  in,
• 54:40
  oh,
• 54:41
  this
• 54:41
  person's
• 54:41
  doing
• 54:42
  this.
• 54:42
  This
• 54:42
  person's
• 54:43
  doing
• 54:43
  this
• 54:43
  big
• 54:43
  thing,
• 54:43
  this
• 54:44
  person's
• 54:44
  doing
• 54:44
  that
• 54:44
  big
• 54:45
  thing
• 54:45
  and
• 54:45
  feeling
• 54:46
  this,
• 54:46
  really
• 54:46
  affected
• 54:47
  by
• 54:47
  that.
• 54:48
  Feeling
• 54:48
  a
• 54:48
  little
• 54:49
  bit
• 54:49
  like,
• 54:49
  oh,
• 54:50
  I
• 54:50
  missed
• 54:50
  the
• 54:50
  boat
• 54:50
  or
• 54:51
  what,
• 54:51
  what
• 54:51
  am
• 54:52
  I
• 54:52
  doing
• 54:52
  wrong?
• 54:53
  And
• 54:53
  I
• 54:53
  feel
• 54:53
  like
• 54:54
  telling
• 54:54
  myself,
• 54:55
  like,
• 54:55
  just
• 54:56
  focus
• 54:56
  on
• 54:57
  yourself.
• 54:57
  Like,
• 54:57
  stay
• 54:58
  in
• 54:58
  your
• 54:58
  lane.
• 54:58
  Stop
• 54:58
  looking
• 54:59
  at
• 54:59
  this
• 54:59
  person's
• 54:59
  race
• 55:00
  or
• 55:00
  that
• 55:00
  person's
• 55:00
  race,
• 55:01
  because
• 55:01
  truly
• 55:02
  it's
• 55:02
  your
• 55:02
  own
• 55:03
  race
• 55:03
  that
• 55:03
  matters.
• 55:04
  And
• 55:04
  I
• 55:05
  think
• 55:05
  if
• 55:05
  I
• 55:05
  would
• 55:05
  have
• 55:06
  listened
• 55:06
  to
• 55:06
  that
• 55:07
  a
• 55:07
  little
• 55:07
  bit,
• 55:07
  that
• 55:07
  would
• 55:08
  have
• 55:08
  served
• 55:08
  me
• 55:08
  really,
• 55:09
  really
• 55:09
  well.
• 55:09
  But
• 55:10
  I'm
• 55:10
  glad
• 55:10
  I'm
• 55:10
  learning
• 55:11
  that
• 55:11
  lesson
• 55:12
  now
• 55:12
  at
• 55:12
  this
• 55:12
  age
• 55:13
  rather
• 55:13
  than
• 55:13
  never.
• 55:14
  Yes,
• 55:15
  it's
• 55:15
  never
• 55:15
  too
• 55:15
  late.
• 55:16
  It
• 55:16
  is
• 55:16
  never
• 55:16
  too
• 55:17
  late
• 55:17
  to
• 55:17
  start
• 55:17
  to
• 55:18
  learn.
• 55:18
  You
• 55:18
  know,
• 55:18
  I
• 55:19
  mean,
• 55:19
  we
• 55:19
  learn
• 55:19
  lessons
• 55:20
  every
• 55:20
  day.
• 55:20
  I
• 55:20
  mean,
• 55:21
  people
• 55:21
  who
• 55:21
  are
• 55:21
  95
• 55:22
  years
• 55:22
  old
• 55:22
  are
• 55:23
  learning
• 55:23
  lessons
• 55:23
  every
• 55:24
  day.
• 55:24
  So
• 55:24
  it's
• 55:24
  never
• 55:25
  too
• 55:25
  late
• 55:25
  to
• 55:26
  learn.
• 55:26
  Right.
• 55:27
  And
• 55:28
  how
• 55:28
  are
• 55:28
  you
• 55:28
  living
• 55:29
  iconically
• 55:29
  right
• 55:30
  now?
• 55:31
  How
• 55:31
  am
• 55:31
  I
• 55:31
  living
• 55:32
  iconically?
• 55:32
  I
• 55:33
  feel
• 55:33
  like
• 55:34
  truly
• 55:35
  putting
• 55:35
  myself
• 55:35
  out
• 55:36
  there
• 55:36
  and
• 55:36
  starting
• 55:37
  a
• 55:37
  podcast,
• 55:37
  putting
• 55:38
  myself
• 55:38
  out
• 55:38
  there
• 55:38
  in
• 55:39
  a
• 55:39
  way,
• 55:39
  in
• 55:39
  a,
• 55:39
  in
• 55:40
  a
• 55:40
  way
• 55:40
  that
• 55:40
  I
• 55:40
  never
• 55:40
  have.
• 55:41
  Like,
• 55:41
  this
• 55:42
  has
• 55:42
  been
• 55:42
  extremely
• 55:43
  empowering,
• 55:43
  extremely
• 55:44
  exciting.
• 55:45
  This
• 55:45
  has
• 55:45
  been
• 55:45
  a
• 55:46
  wonderful,
• 55:46
  wonderful
• 55:47
  exercise
• 55:48
  in
• 55:48
  like,
• 55:49
  what
• 55:49
  am
• 55:49
  I
• 55:49
  able
• 55:50
  to
• 55:50
  do
• 55:50
  and
• 55:51
  connecting
• 55:51
  with
• 55:51
  people.
• 55:52
  I
• 55:52
  feel
• 55:52
  like,
• 55:52
  yeah,
• 55:53
  starting
• 55:54
  this
• 55:54
  podcast,
• 55:54
  starting
• 55:54
  found
• 55:55
  at
• 55:55
  40
• 55:55
  really
• 55:56
  has
• 55:56
  been
• 55:56
  an
• 55:56
  iconic
• 55:57
  move
• 55:57
  for
• 55:57
  me.
• 55:58
  Yes.
• 55:58
  So
• 55:58
  iconic.
• 55:59
  It's
• 55:59
  such
• 55:59
  a
• 55:59
  great
• 56:00
  show.
• 56:00
  Please
• 56:01
  tell
• 56:01
  our
• 56:01
  audience
• 56:02
  where
• 56:02
  they
• 56:02
  can
• 56:02
  find
• 56:03
  you.
• 56:04
  Thank
• 56:04
  you.
• 56:04
  So
• 56:05
  found
• 56:05
  at
• 56:05
  40.
• 56:05
  I'm
• 56:06
  available
• 56:06
  on
• 56:07
  Apple
• 56:07
  Podcasts,
• 56:07
  Spotify,
• 56:08
  and
• 56:08
  on
• 56:08
  YouTube
• 56:09
  and
• 56:09
  then
• 56:10
  on
• 56:10
  Instagram.
• 56:10
  I'm
• 56:11
  at
• 56:12
  found
• 56:12
  at
• 56:12
  40
• 56:13
  podcast
• 56:13
  40
• 56:14
  with
• 56:14
  a
• 56:14
  four
• 56:15
  zero.
• 56:15
  Perfect.
• 56:16
  And
• 56:16
  what
• 56:16
  a
• 56:17
  great
• 56:17
  name
• 56:17
  for
• 56:18
  a
• 56:18
  show.
• 56:18
  It
• 56:18
  brings
• 56:18
  up
• 56:19
  all
• 56:19
  the
• 56:19
  feelings
• 56:19
  and
• 56:20
  all
• 56:20
  the
• 56:20
  things.
• 56:22
  So
• 56:22
  yeah,
• 56:22
  everyone
• 56:23
  go
• 56:23
  check
• 56:23
  out
• 56:23
  her
• 56:23
  show.
• 56:24
  Go
• 56:24
  check
• 56:24
  out
• 56:24
  her
• 56:24
  social
• 56:25
  media.
• 56:25
  You'll
• 56:26
  glean
• 56:26
  so
• 56:26
  much
• 56:27
  amazing
• 56:27
  knowledge
• 56:27
  and
• 56:27
  information
• 56:29
  because
• 56:29
  she
• 56:30
  is
• 56:30
  great.
• 56:30
  So
• 56:31
  definitely
• 56:31
  check
• 56:31
  her
• 56:31
  out.
• 56:32
  Thank
• 56:32
  you.
• 56:33
  Thank
• 56:33
  you,
• 56:33
  Chrissy.
• 56:34
  Thank
• 56:34
  you,
• 56:34
  thank
• 56:35
  you.
• 56:36
  You're
• 56:36
  welcome.
• 56:38
  If
• 56:38
  you've
• 56:39
  been
• 56:39
  waiting
• 56:39
  for
• 56:40
  a
• 56:40
  sign
• 56:40
  to
• 56:40
  shake
• 56:41
  things
• 56:41
  up,
• 56:41
  this
• 56:41
  might
• 56:42
  be
• 56:42
  it.
• 56:42
  Chrissy
• 56:43
  is
• 56:43
  living
• 56:44
  proof
• 56:44
  that
• 56:44
  midlife
• 56:45
  isn't
• 56:45
  a
• 56:45
  breakdown.
• 56:46
  It's
• 56:46
  a
• 56:46
  breakthrough.
• 56:47
  You
• 56:47
  can
• 56:47
  follow
• 56:48
  her
• 56:48
  journey
• 56:48
  and
• 56:49
  hear
• 56:49
  even
• 56:49
  more
• 56:50
  powerful
• 56:50
  stories
• 56:51
  on
• 56:51
  her
• 56:51
  podcast,
• 56:52
  found
• 56:52
  at
• 56:52
  40.
• 56:53
  And
• 56:53
  if
• 56:54
  this
• 56:54
  episode
• 56:54
  gave
• 56:55
  you
• 56:55
  something
• 56:55
  to
• 56:55
  think
• 56:56
  about
• 56:56
  or
• 56:56
  made
• 56:57
  you
• 56:57
  feel
• 56:57
  seen,
• 56:58
  please
• 56:58
  share
• 56:58
  it
• 56:59
  with
• 56:59
  someone
• 56:59
  who
• 56:59
  needs
• 56:59
  it.
• 57:00
  Don't
• 57:01
  forget
• 57:01
  to
• 57:01
  follow
• 57:01
  the
• 57:01
  iconic
• 57:02
  midlife
• 57:03
  on
• 57:03
  Apple
• 57:04
  podcasts,
• 57:04
  Spotify,
• 57:05
  Amazon
• 57:06
  Music,
• 57:06
  YouTube
• 57:07
  or
• 57:07
  wherever
• 57:08
  you
• 57:08
  listen.
• 57:08
  Rate,
• 57:09
  comment
• 57:09
  and
• 57:10
  let
• 57:10
  us
• 57:10
  know
• 57:10
  what
• 57:10
  resonated
• 57:11
  with
• 57:11
  you
• 57:11
  most.
• 57:12
  Your
• 57:12
  support
• 57:12
  helps
• 57:13
  other
• 57:13
  women
• 57:13
  find
• 57:14
  this
• 57:14
  space
• 57:14
  too.