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Autism In Girls (Socialising Info YOU Need To Know) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So This is why girls with Asperger's syndrome may struggle
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  with social interactions. Let's get into it guys.
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  Welcome back to the aspy world. My name is Dan, I've autism,
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  ADHD and OCD and dyslexia and I make weekly videos all about
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  this stuff because I believe it's my journey, my passion, my
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  my, my goal in life is to help educate and help boost autistic
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  people to their full capacity of being awesome on the autism
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  spectrum. So if you want to join me on
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  So guys, why? Why do girls with Asperger's
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  syndrome struggle, struggle so much with social interaction?
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  Well, it's really interesting because autistic people in
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  general will have an issue with social interaction because
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  social conventions are something that people pick up generally as
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  they grow through high school and primary school and meeting
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  friends and going out and doing all these things.
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  But autistic individuals are very much more conservative in
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  their value of where they go and how they communicate.
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  And so having a social interaction will be few and far
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  between and maybe a massive struggle for people on the onto
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  the spectrum because they're not as used to it and not as
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  absorbent of those things as typical people.
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  Now, girls in the ocean spectrum have a harder time with this.
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  And this is because social interaction between women or
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  females is very different because females are more of AI
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  don't know how best to say it, more of a clicky type of of
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  interaction where girls want to impress other girls so they feel
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  part of that tribe, right? And this means that girls will
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  try to do a lot of things to fit in.
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  But when you're fitting in with a group of people that you don't
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  really fully understand how to communicate with, you're going
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  to come across problems. Now these problems could come
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  out in all kinds of ways where you you don't really know how to
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  maintain friends properly. You're not going to be able to
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  talk to friends in a way where you know your boundaries, what
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  you could talk about, what you can talk about what, what's kind
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  of like really sensitive topics and things like that.
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  And then also how to keep up with friends, messaging them,
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  maintaining their friendships for a long time.
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  Like knowing that, hey, don't reach out every single day and
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  talk to that person incessantly because that's going to annoy
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  somebody. All of these factors come into
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  social interaction and are big issues for girls in the autism
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  spectrum. This is why you'll see autistic
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  girls of girls diagnosed with autism or Asperger's syndrome
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  will have quite 1 hatch issues on maintaining friendships with
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  other girls. They may actually have an easier
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  time maintaining friendships with other boys because boys
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  have a different way of kind of communicating their their
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  emotions in terms of masking and things like that.
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  They kind of just just fall into it really, they just kind of go
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  along with it and and boys are a little bit outside of the area
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  of trying to oppress each other to be a part of a group.
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  They're quite a more accepting, incisive group.
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  Now, I'm not saying that all girls, even when they try to
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  make people conform to their ideas, our social ideas.
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  That's what I'm trying to say. What I'm trying to say is that
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  the behavioural traits of hunter gatherers are more kind of like
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  they want to be accepting because mothers are protectors,
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  they're carers, they're people who who pulled the tribe
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  together as when we were going back to gather days would be the
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  people who were pulling the people together, making sure
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  that we were safe. The men would be out hunting and
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  fighting off saving to tigers where the women would be keeping
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  a social commune very close together.
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  So This is why all the other females want to be very accepted
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  till they can move the tribe on. That's the kind of like
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  anthropological idea there. So I do understand that girl
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  synopsis factual will have issues with social interactions,
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  but there are ways to overcome it by spending time more with
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  people who are more social than you.
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  So you can ask questions and learn from those people.
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  And then also putting yourself out there in more social
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  situations will get you more accustomed to what typical
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  conversations are like. Super interesting, guys.
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  If you'd like to download my PDF Life Hacks autism book, you can
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  do from autismhacks.net right now.
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  I'll see you in the next video, guys.
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  Peace.