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My boyfriend bought THREE fridges for yogurt… so I finally pulled the plug! -r/AmITheAsshole | Reddit Stories | EP3085 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 3: My boyfriend bought three fridges for yogurt. So I finally
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  Speaker 3: pulled the plug.
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  Speaker 4: No!
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  Speaker 1: The yogurt's gonna go bad!
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  Speaker 3: I'm 29 female. My boyfriend is 30 male. We've been
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  Speaker 3: living together for two years in a little studio in a.
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  Speaker 2: Very expensive, big U.S.
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  Speaker 3: City. My boyfriend grew up rurally with lots of space,
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  Speaker 3: enough to collect all kinds of things. He collected action
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  Speaker 3: figures and video games and all the normal kid stuff
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  Speaker 3: when he was young. But as he grew older, he
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  Speaker 3: became interested in more unusual things. As a teen, he
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  Speaker 3: had eight guinea pigs. Those aren't items that should be
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  Speaker 3: collectible items.
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  Speaker 2: You don't just collect pets.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, was this like a communism experiment? Like I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to get eight guinea pigs and then one is going
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  Speaker 1: to have a job and it's going to work the fields.
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  Speaker 1: And then the other is going to have another job
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  Speaker 1: and it's going to work the bank. They buy everything
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  Speaker 1: with wood chips. I don't know, man.
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  Speaker 3: As a teen, he had eight guinea pigs of different
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  Speaker 3: types from different breeders. Since Tide Pods were released seven
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  Speaker 3: years ago, he's saved one of every kind of Tide Pod.
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  Speaker 4: What does he actually collect?
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 4: What?
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  Speaker 1: That might actually end up selling for a good amount
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  Speaker 1: of money to the right rich idiot.
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  Speaker 4: You know what? I have a feeling the yogurt, guys,
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  Speaker 4: is like Danimals. Or like some like, yeah, like some
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  Speaker 4: special like childhood collector one. He's like the one who's
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  Speaker 4: going to win like the Suite Life on Deck thing.
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  Speaker 4: Remember that?
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  Speaker 1: He's trying to get, he's trying to win the sweepstakes
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  Speaker 1: to hang out with Zach and Cody.
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  Speaker 3: He's got a big box of international variety of electronic insulators,
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  Speaker 3: those little ceramic hats that power lines wrap around on
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  Speaker 3: power poles.
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  Speaker 4: Dude, this is like the craziest collector. This is crazy. What?
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  Speaker 2: He's not a hoarder.
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  Speaker 3: He's usually neat, just used to having lots of space
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  Speaker 3: for his bizarro collections. At his parents' ranch, he has
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  Speaker 3: two big rooms full of containers of weird and impressive things.
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  Speaker 1: Two?
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  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: And we are here to give some good advice, Goofly,
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  Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers that you may seek.
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  Speaker 3: We're only going to tell you what we would do,
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  Speaker 3: but let us know what you would do down in
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  Speaker 3: the comments.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe we'll respond.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: As OP says, he recently became interested in yogurt. He
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  Speaker 3: always hated dairy products until about a year ago. He
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  Speaker 3: not just started drinking milk, and sharing ice cream with me,
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  Speaker 3: but he's found a love for yogurts. So he now
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  Speaker 3: collects them, of course. The problem is that they're perishable. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that was my first thing. So until earlier today, our
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  Speaker 3: little 550 square foot studio contained about 2,100 cups of yogurt.
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  Speaker 5: What?
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  Speaker 2: Excuse me?
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  Speaker 3: How did he, like, like he just went and got that?
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  Speaker 3: He just can afford all of that? 2,100 cups of yogurt?
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  Speaker 3: How much would that cost? Depends on what kind you get,
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  Speaker 3: but like, even, you know, the 99 cent ones, that's
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  Speaker 3: still $ 2, 100.
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  Speaker 2: How do you do that?
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  Speaker 5: What are we talking about?
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  Speaker 3: It comes in tons of varieties, different types, flavors, textures,
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  Speaker 3: containers made by different companies in different countries.
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  Speaker 2: This is like magic to my boyfriend.
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  Speaker 3: So he tried to pretty much save a sample of
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  Speaker 3: everything he could find.
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  Speaker 4: What fixation is this? This is the weirdest fixation.
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  Speaker 1: I know what fixation this is. We all know what
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  Speaker 1: fixation this is. But I'm not a doctor.
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  Speaker 3: He filled our fridge, bought a new fridge, and then
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  Speaker 3: another tiny bedside fridge. He said he didn't want to
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  Speaker 3: walk to the fridge at night, but it was obviously
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  Speaker 3: a ruse to get more yogurt space.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to walk to the fridge for
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  Speaker 1: my yogis. My little yogurts.
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  Speaker 3: My yogurt hurts.
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  Speaker 1: You just wake up in the middle of the night
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  Speaker 1: and you look over, you just roll over like, and
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  Speaker 1: he's just like 30 yogurt cups and he's just covered
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  Speaker 1: in grease. Yogurt grease.
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  Speaker 3: These fridges all filled up with his yogurts. And if
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  Speaker 3: you keep them for long, they smell bad. Yeah, because
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  Speaker 3: it's dairy and gross. Sometimes the packaging breaks, so our
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  Speaker 3: apartment was smelling like rotten milk for the last two weeks,
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  Speaker 3: and my boyfriend's attitude was, oh, it's fine, and just
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  Speaker 3: deal with it for a little longer. Until I pulled
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  Speaker 3: the plug and threw it all out this morning.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, he's gonna love that.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, girl, I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: No, no, you know what? She, no, she's right.
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  Speaker 1: Why didn't we do a yogurt drive?
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  Speaker 4: This is disgusting.
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  Speaker 1: Why didn't we go pass out yogurt to all the
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  Speaker 1: folks in need in our big American city?
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  Speaker 4: This is foul.
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  Speaker 1: I do.
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  Speaker 4: No, no. This is too much. You can collect whatever
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  Speaker 4: you want as long as it's not perishable.
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  Speaker 3: I was looking at my groceries, which I had to
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  Speaker 3: put beside the fridge because there was no space and
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  Speaker 3: everything smelled like garbage.
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  Speaker 1: Everything smelled like rotting dairy.
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  Speaker 3: And then I kind of snapped and threw it all away.
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  Speaker 3: My boyfriend is understandably upset. We've been arguing about whether
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  Speaker 3: I crossed the line by throwing away his stuff.
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  Speaker 4: No!
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  Speaker 3: It's expired food that is smelling up your house.
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  Speaker 1: It's rotten dairy. Yeah. Your boyfriend has mental problems. If
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  Speaker 1: he can't see that this is a problem, how much
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  Speaker 1: money did he spend on yogurt? And we know it's
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  Speaker 1: all different kinds. So it's not just like, oh, he
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  Speaker 1: bought this one and it was $ 60. It's like he's
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  Speaker 1: buying the cheap yogurts. He's buying the yogurts that cost
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  Speaker 1: $ 8 a bottle. He's buying every brand of yogurt from
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  Speaker 1: here to Timbuktu.
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  Speaker 3: And he's especially upset because he, of course, had rare
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  Speaker 3: yogurts that were hard to find.
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  Speaker 4: What is a rare yogurt?
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  Speaker 3: The ones they don't make anymore, obviously.
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  Speaker 4: Again, it's the Danimals one.
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  Speaker 3: No, in particular, he had some Cuban and Iranian yogurts
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  Speaker 3: that you can't get in the U.S. But I know
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  Speaker 3: that we have trade sanctions against Iran and Cuba, so
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if it was even legal.
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  Speaker 2: For him to have them.
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  Speaker 3: I asked where he got his Iranian yogurt, but he
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  Speaker 3: kept insisting the Iranian yogurt is not the issue here.
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  Speaker 3: And that the real issue was me throwing out his
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  Speaker 3: precious yogurts without his permission.
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  Speaker 4: The issue is it smells like mold in our... This
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  Speaker 4: is disgusting!
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  Speaker 1: The issue is you have over $ 1, 000 worth of expired
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  Speaker 1: rotting dairy in three different fridges. Who's going to want
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  Speaker 1: to buy your expired Iranian yogurt? Can you look that
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  Speaker 1: up for.
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  Speaker 2: Me, please?
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  Speaker 1: Can you look up what illegal expired Iranian yogurt goes
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  Speaker 1: for nowadays online?
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  Speaker 4: Please.
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  Speaker 2: Am I the a-hole here? Thanks in advance. I'm so exasperated.
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  Speaker 1: Like... You are in a way in that this is
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  Speaker 1: his stuff that you threw away without his permission. However,
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  Speaker 1: your boyfriend is insane. He's got a problem in his brain.
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  Speaker 1: And like, clearly you're not going to change that. No
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  Speaker 1: one's going to change that. So you should just probably
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  Speaker 1: leave him.
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  Speaker 3: It's also strange that he is saying, oh, uh, Just
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  Speaker 3: live with it for a little bit longer.
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  Speaker 2: What do you mean? It's not like you're going to
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  Speaker 2: throw it away.
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  Speaker 4: Brother in Christ, you bought three, or let's just go,
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  Speaker 4: two other fridges for yogurt.
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  Speaker 5: Just for your yogurt.
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  Speaker 4: That you're not eating.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like, hey, buddy, at least put it in
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  Speaker 1: the freezer.
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Unless you're planning on eating it all. Put it in
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  Speaker 1: the freezer.
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  Speaker 4: Stop, stop, stop. You know what? I'm stuck on this.
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  Speaker 4: I want to find this man. I need to find
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  Speaker 4: this man. I need to talk to him.
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  Speaker 2: Send him some yogurt.
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  Speaker 1: That's how you find the guy selling Iranian yogurt online
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  Speaker 1: that's expired, and you have found this man. And that's
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  Speaker 1: the end of this story. Let's head to the next one.
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  Speaker 3: My boyfriend knew we were excluded from a trip and
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  Speaker 3: let me book the flights anyway.
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  Speaker 1: You paid?
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  Speaker 3: My boyfriend, 30 male, and I, 28 female, have been
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  Speaker 3: together for five years. One thing we've been fighting about
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  Speaker 3: more and more is planning and communication. He hates planning.
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  Speaker 3: He doesn't like making plans, contributing to plans, or really
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  Speaker 3: even finding out details about plans. If we go on
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  Speaker 3: a trip together, I do all the research and booking
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  Speaker 3: while he just shows up. I feel like that's.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people.
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  Speaker 1: That feels like an unfair arrangement.
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  Speaker 3: The bigger issue is when he invites me to things
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  Speaker 3: with his friends or family. He'll invite me, but then
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  Speaker 3: I can never get basic information about what's going on.
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  Speaker 3: If I ask about timelines, dress codes, who's going, where
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  Speaker 3: we're staying, etc. He either doesn't know or says he'll
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  Speaker 3: find out and never does. Or context, I wasn't always
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  Speaker 3: vocal about this stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Earlier in our relationship, I.
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  Speaker 3: Was very much a go with the flow person. Looking back,
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  Speaker 3: I think I let a lot of things slide because
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  Speaker 3: I didn't want conflict. As I've gotten older and started
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  Speaker 3: actually expressing my needs, we've started fighting more. By the way,
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  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 2: And we are here to give some good advice, goofily,
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  Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers. We only tell
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  Speaker 2: you what we would do, but let us know what
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  Speaker 2: you would do down in the comments.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: As Opie says, the current fight is about a trip
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  Speaker 3: next week. His friend is playing in a tournament and
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  Speaker 3: a group of people are going. Originally, I told my
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  Speaker 3: boyfriend I thought I should sit this one out because
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  Speaker 3: the guys were driving cross-country with equipment and I'd have
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  Speaker 3: to fly. It sounded like kind of a boy's trip
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  Speaker 3: and based on past experiences.
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  Speaker 2: I figured the.
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  Speaker 3: Planning would be chaotic. He really wanted me to come though.
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  Speaker 3: His friend's girlfriend said she'd come too, so we booked
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  Speaker 3: flights based on the dates they gave us. We were
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  Speaker 3: told they'd pick us up from the airport and we'd
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  Speaker 3: all hang out the first day. Since then, getting information
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  Speaker 3: has been like pulling teeth. A few days ago, the
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  Speaker 3: girlfriend found out that there are events during the first
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  Speaker 3: two days that everyone else on the trip is invited
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  Speaker 3: to except us. Apparently, we're not supposed to go because
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  Speaker 3: we'd be bored.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, now don't worry. You wouldn't have any fun on
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  Speaker 1: the trip. Yeah, don't. It's not like the world is
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  Speaker 1: an infinite menagerie of possibilities and experiences that you can
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  Speaker 1: choose to have. You'd just be bored there.
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  Speaker 3: The thing is, these don't sound boring at all. They're
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  Speaker 3: social events and parties related to the tournament. What really
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  Speaker 3: upset me is that my boyfriend already knew this and
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  Speaker 3: never told me.
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  Speaker 4: Of course he didn't tell you. You know why he
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  Speaker 4: didn't tell you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And also, it doesn't seem like he really tells you
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  Speaker 3: anything because he can't speak for himself.
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  Speaker 4: What kind of tournament is this? I want to know.
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  Speaker 2: Something with the sports.
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  Speaker 3: So not only did I find out from someone else,
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  Speaker 3: but apparently the plans had changed and nobody bothered to
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  Speaker 3: mention it. The guys are going to be gone for
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  Speaker 3: a lot of the time after we arrive, which is
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  Speaker 3: completely different from what we were originally told when we
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  Speaker 3: booked flights. When I asked him why he didn't tell
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  Speaker 3: me or why nobody mentioned why literally everyone else was
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  Speaker 3: invited except us, it turned into a fight. His position
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  Speaker 3: is basically that it isn't his event, it isn't his decision,
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  Speaker 3: and he's just repeating what his friend told him. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I don't like this man. He just seems like he's
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  Speaker 3: a horrible freaking communicator. Like, I mean, you got to
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  Speaker 3: tell me something, especially if you want me to come
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  Speaker 3: on this trip. Tell me what I need to pack,
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  Speaker 3: where we're going, what we're doing. Like, it's not that
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  Speaker 3: I need to know every single thing. Like, you don't
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  Speaker 3: need to give me, like, you know... like hourly updates
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  Speaker 3: of like, Oh, we're going to do this. Then after that,
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  Speaker 3: do this. But it's just like, like this day, we're
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  Speaker 3: going to go out. So you should wear something, you know,
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  Speaker 3: kind of fancy this day. We're going to just chill.
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  Speaker 3: So just, you know, maybe spend the day by the beach. Like,
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  Speaker 3: so we're a swimsuit and whatever. Like, it's like, you
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  Speaker 3: have to plan those or else I'm just going to
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  Speaker 3: pack everything or I'm going to pack not enough. And
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  Speaker 3: then be like, Oh, I didn't know we were doing that.
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  Speaker 3: I would have brought like hiking things. You know, it just,
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  Speaker 3: it seems like common courtesy really. And he's just thinking
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  Speaker 3: that it's not a big deal. And, And he, like,
• 12:25
  Speaker 3: she could just read his mind or something.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, ugh.
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  Speaker 1: He doesn't want you there. He's saying this, but what
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  Speaker 1: he's really saying is he doesn't want you there.
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  Speaker 3: My position is that if you're inviting your partner on
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  Speaker 3: a trip, shouldn't you care enough to communicate what's actually
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  Speaker 3: going on? And shouldn't you at least think, hey, this
• 12:43
  Speaker 3: is kind of weird that everyone is invited except our girlfriends.
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  Speaker 3: This isn't the first time either. Last month, we had
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  Speaker 3: a fight because we were attending a wedding, and he
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  Speaker 3: wouldn't even send me the invitation when I asked for
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  Speaker 3: it so I could check the dress code and details myself.
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  Speaker 4: Who is this guy? This guy's weird.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, why is he just not sharing any— does he, like,
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  Speaker 3: not want to be seen with you?
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  Speaker 4: I don't think this guy likes you, Opie. I don't
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  Speaker 4: think your boyfriend likes you.
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  Speaker 3: I've honestly started declining invitations to things because I know
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to spend weeks trying to get information and
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  Speaker 3: then end up frustrated. Am I expecting too much from
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  Speaker 3: him here? Or is it reasonable to expect a long-term
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  Speaker 3: partner to keep me informed when they're inviting me to things?
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  Speaker 1: That depends. Does he have a traumatic brain injury?
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  Speaker 3: And it also depends if you're invited or not. I
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: don't know if he's just trying to save your feelings,
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  Speaker 3: but what he's doing is worse because he's just not
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  Speaker 3: communicating anything. And then you go and buy the freaking flights.
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  Speaker 3: And he's like, by the way, we're not even going
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  Speaker 3: to be there the first two days. What?
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  Speaker 2: Why are you not telling me? Why would I buy
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  Speaker 2: these then? Like, I wouldn't have done that.
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  Speaker 4: Also, why am I doing this for you?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're literally begging me to come. You're like, I
• 13:51
  Speaker 3: want you to come, I want you to come. Oh
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  Speaker 3: my god, no, you should come with us. It'll be
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  Speaker 3: so fun. The other girlfriend's coming too, so like, you know,
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  Speaker 3: it'll be so fun for you guys to hang out
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  Speaker 3: and blah blah blah. And then they coordinate it, like, okay.
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  Speaker 3: And then they're like, by the way, um, you're not invited.
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  Speaker 4: Got the ti- yeah. Honey, I got the tickets for
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  Speaker 4: us that, like, you wanted. Cool, cool, cool. Don't come anymore.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah!
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  Speaker 4: Good job. You did it. I'm so happy. Thank you.
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  Speaker 4: I appreciate it. I like you. Don't love you. I
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  Speaker 4: like you. You're not invited.
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  Speaker 2: It's crazy.
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  Speaker 4: I hope Opie realizes that this is crazy. Why are
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  Speaker 4: we playing a fun game of guess who or guess
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  Speaker 4: what or guess the details when you can just give
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  Speaker 4: it to me because you care?
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  Speaker 3: My advice is he's incompetent and you deserve someone with talent.
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  Speaker 2: Who knows what they want and.
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  Speaker 3: Has clear communication within the household because this guy is
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  Speaker 3: the farthest thing from communicating.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even think he communicates with himself.
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: Fun idea on how to break up with your boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
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  Speaker 6: the next one.
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  Speaker 1: My boyfriend turned bitter over my sister's love life for
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  Speaker 1: a reason I never expected.
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  Speaker 3: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 1: Let me guess, it's because your boyfriend used to bang
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: your sister. Okay, here we go. Am I right? I've
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: been dating my boyfriend, 31, for four years now, and
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: before the last few weeks, I, 28, female, felt like
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: he was the best partner I could ever have. I
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: won't go through a whole list of his qualities or
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: what we've been through together, so I'll just sum it
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: up by saying we click in a way I've never
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: had with any of my exes. which makes it all
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: the more shocking with how weirdly possessive and bitter he's
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: been over my sister's relationship. My sister, let's call her Nat,
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: is 25 years old, dating one of my old college friends, Peter,
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: who is 29 years old. I used to host a
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: ton of get-togethers and parties in my college days, since
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: my parents have a big house and my cousin would
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: help me set things up. Through those get-togethers, I made
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: a tight group of friends, which includes Peter. And that's
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: how he met Nat, but back then it was just
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: polite greetings and small chats between them. Once I graduated,
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: my group drifted off, and you lose contact with people, so...
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: I was a bit surprised when Nat, out of the blue,
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: asked me about him and asked if it'd be a
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: good idea if she DM'd and tried her luck with Peter,
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: confessing she has always had a crush on him. At
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: this point, Nat was close to being 24 years old,
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: already working a lucrative job, and... quite honestly crushing it.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: So obviously, I just wish her good luck and stay
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: out of it. By the way, this comes from Fiaming24,
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: and if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: to the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: I'm once again Savannah.
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: We're going to read this story. We're going to say things.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: You might agree, you might not. That's okay. Let us
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: know what you think down in the comments. What are
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: you going to do about it? N.O.P. says. When my
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: boyfriend found out, he made a quip about Nat being
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: way out of Peter's league, but I figured he was
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: maybe just being a bit protective since he's become close
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: with my family. It's been five months now, and he
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: seems so bothered by Nat and Peter's relationship, making comments
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: about the difference in their looks, how Peter should be
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: ashamed that Nat out-earns him, how there must be something
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: seriously wrong with my sister's head for being head over
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: heels for such a loser. What are we talking about?
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: Loser!
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: Like, does your boyfriend just hate Peter?
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: Huh.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, I hope he didn't bang your sister. That'd
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: be weird, but does he hate your friend Peter?
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: Peter.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: At first, I thought something else was bothering him, and
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: he was just taking out those negative feelings, commenting on
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: other people's relationships. But he's made it clear his problem
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: is with Peter. So I tried to give him the
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt and guessed that he and Peter
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: were just like oil and water and my boyfriend instinctively
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: hated him and didn't understand why. But in his last outburst,
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: he said it wasn't fair somebody like Peter got a
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: great girlfriend without having to do any work. I have
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: asked him several times now if he knows something I
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: don't or if there's more to this than what he says.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: But he keeps insisting it's just that he can't stand
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Nat dating somebody he considers bad. below her league, and
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: how it's not right. Then when I tell him he's
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: taking it weirdly personal, he accuses me of having rose-colored
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: glasses for my friend and how I'm not saying how
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: this isn't good for my sister. I am not kidding
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: when I say there are no red flags. Besides his
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: weird obsession with my sister's dating life and before Peter,
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: he didn't even seem to care. So I don't know
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: what's gotten into him. What can I do and where
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: do we go from here? And OP has elaborated in
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: the comments, my boyfriend is worried Nat's impulses will get
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: the better of her and she won't see that she
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: can do better and she'll tie herself down. Nat even
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: told us she cringes when she remembers how she made
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: a marriage joke in one of her first dates with Peter.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: I thought nothing of it. Awkward jokes because you're nervous
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: are normal. But in my boyfriend's mind, that was a
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: red alert and a reason for telling me I should
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: try to talk my sister. into pumping the brakes and
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: there is an update whoa i mean what could we
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: possibly be so invested in.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: Here yeah so the boyfriend of op wants to be with.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah i don't know He wants to or maybe he
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: did and no one said anything and now he's short
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: circuiting about it or.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: Or he's just like weirdly protective over her for what reason.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Or yeah, he thinks that you're like the stepping off.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: point to getting to your sister.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: Very weird.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: It is. Yeah, that is weird.
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: If someone like if my boyfriend kept talking about. My
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: sister's boyfriend would be like, yeah, he's so stupid, and yeah,
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: I don't like him, and blah, blah, blah. He does
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: this and that and the other thing. Why?
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: Just because.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's at the point where it's like, even if
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: there aren't any other red flags, it's like, your boyfriend
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: might as well be taking a bucket of red paint
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: and just splashing you with it. Like a PETA activist.
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: Like a PETA activist.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: He is. He's a PETA activist.
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: That's a weird thing. Yeah, she's just out of his league. What?
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: You're dating me. You're dating me. What does that mean?
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: I mean, maybe it could be like, Dieter's a bad guy.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: I mean, Alvin has a good point. Do you think
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: they used to date? I feel like they couldn't have
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: because they would have, she would have mentioned that, I feel.
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: You know, unless they just decided to keep it secret
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: and he's like, I'll date your sister so we can
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: still be in contact.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: Oh God.
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: Oh God.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: That would, I would hate my life. Hate that.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so he makes mean comments about the sister's boyfriend.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: He just hates it, but he doesn't give a reason why.
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: It could be just, like, potentially he's just trying to be, like,
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: a good future, like, I'm a future brother-in-law. Like, I'm
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: watching out for you. But it would be better, it
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: would be having a reason.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: All right, now read that frickin' story. Update. Update.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: The snarky and weird comments continued. So wanting to get
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: to the bottom of things, I asked him if he
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: was jealous of Peter. He doubled down, saying he was
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: just worried about Nat getting attached so fast with a
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: guy who doesn't offer her much. I told him he
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: makes her happy and that's all he has to offer.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend got grumpy and outright said, that's BS. He
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: tried to divert the topic with a we'll see how
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: long it lasts comment and then mentioning something else. But
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: this time I dug my heels in.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: Why is he so focused on that relationship?
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's something.
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: I would just keep asking why.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd be like, seriously, be a man, grow up,
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: let's have a conversation.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I told him I needed to know what had him
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: feeling so weird over Nat and Peter and if he
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: was hiding something from me that I needed to know.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: I asked if it was something about college or something
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: about anybody both he and Peter know or if this
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: was about Nat and he responded with a bizarre rant.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: saying how he's telling me what the problem is and
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: he doesn't get how I'm not getting it. He says,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: I busted my ump to chip in with my family's
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: bills while Nat was squarely focused in school and college
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: and how Nat herself has worked hard to get such
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: a good job so quickly after college. And all three
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: of us know the last few years have had a
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: lot of ups and downs, mostly regarding my family. And
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: how when Nat is finally getting a feeling of independence
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: and confidence, Peter swoops in.
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: What is going on?
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: He's gassed up.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: Okay, there's something wrong with Opie's boyfriend. I don't know
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: what obsession he has with this girl, but... That's freaky.
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: And how he's, he can't even like explain it. He's
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: trying every other way to just say what he really knows.
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he's dancing around it. He's beating around the bush
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: kind of thing. And he's like, okay, just get to
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: the point.
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree with Alvin. He seems to know
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: something about Peter that they don't. I completely agree with that.
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: But he's just not saying it. Maybe because he doesn't
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: want to be the bad guy.
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: He's already being the bad guy by being on this
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: subject for way too long.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, true.
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: And not giving me a direct answer by dancing around it.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: I'd be pissed off.
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: I should just go, hey, you want to give her
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: the life? Who's going to give her the life?
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: Why are you so hyper fixated on my sister?
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: With her high salary and feeling comfortable in her own skin,
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: which is nothing crazy. She just had it glow up
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: last year. She immediately hitches herself to the first guy
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: she asks out and is talking about marriage and babies.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: He then made a weird comment about how Nat could
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: land a big shot if she actually tried. Who's the
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: big shot?
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: Peter? Peter's the big shot?
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: I mean, what?
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: I think he's jealous of Peter because he wants Nat.
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: I think so.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: He says Peter's a nice guy, but it doesn't feel
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: right for him to just swing by into her and
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: by extension our lives when things are now going great
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: after merely being casual and then distant friends for years.
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: Dude, what is going on?
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: It sounds like he's mad that he's not dating your
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: sister because she's making a lot of money and a
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: good job.
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: Is he like, I'm the protector of the family?
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: It took me a few seconds to gather my thoughts,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: but I responded by pointing out Nat was dating other
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: guys shortly before Peter, so it's not like she's some
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: naive young girl who is settling. I told him again,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: he makes her happy, and that's what should matter. He
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: responded by saying he's not going to try and meddle
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: with Nat's life or anything. He's just telling me his opinion,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: and he's entitled to not like him. So I guess
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: he resents Peter not having to go through what he
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: went through with me and my family the last few years.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: And I'm not sure how to take that. That's the
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: end of that story.
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: That makes no sense at all.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: He didn't have to put the work in, he said.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: He's putting the work in right now. He's dating her.
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: But he's saying like Nat did all this work and
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: she just falls for the first guy or something.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: Which is also not true because she clearly dated. She's like, oh,
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: she fell for the first guy after she got this
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: really good job and is building her life. It's like. Yeah. Yeah.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: When people get really good and I mean, financial security
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: is the ultimate benchmark for being able to consider like, OK,
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: do I want to start a family? What do I
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: want in my life? And maybe I should get married.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Maybe I should settle down until you have that. That
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: is like a much more like stressful idea to roll
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: through in your brain.
• 25:49
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• 25:51
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• 26:01
  Speaker 3: My girlfriend reconnected with her ex, then called me controlling. Well,
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: you're about to have two exes. I, 24 female, have
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: been dating my girlfriend, Sarah, 26 female, for about two years.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: Things have been really good between us. We live together,
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: we've talked about the future, and I genuinely thought we
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: were solid. About a month ago, Sarah told me she'd
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: reconnected with her ex, Layla, also a woman, on Instagram.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: She said they were just friends now, and there was.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: Nothing to worry about.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: I told her I was a little uncomfortable, but trusted
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: her and didn't make a big deal out of it.
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: Here's where it gets complicated. Over the past few weeks,
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: Sarah and Layla have been texting every single day.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: Nope.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: And that's when I'm like, yeah, no, this isn't working
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: for me.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: I go, about what?
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: Exactly. What else do they have to talk about? Yeah,
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: that makes me a little uncomfy.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: Sometimes until midnight. They also met up twice for coffee
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: without Sarah mentioning it beforehand. I found out both times
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: after the fact. When I asked Sarah about it, she
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: got defensive and said I was checking up on her.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: Last week, I calmly told Sarah that I'm feeling hurt
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: and that I needed a little emotional space to process everything.
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: I wasn't asking her to stop talking to Layla. I
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: just said I needed her to be more open with
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: me about when they're meeting and that I needed some
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: time to sort out my feelings. Sarah completely flipped. She
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: said I was being controlling and that asking for transparency
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: is basically telling her who she can and can't be
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: friends with.
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: That's actually not what that is at all. Those are
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: completely different things.
• 27:32
  Speaker 7: Like when you said that I had to tell you
• 27:34
  Speaker 7: who I was seeing, that sounded like I can't see
• 27:37
  Speaker 7: them anymore.
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: Actually not what I said.
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Rosie Vibes. And if
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: And we are here to give some good advice goofily,
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: but we don't have all your answers. We don't tell
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: you what we would do. Let us know what you
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: would do down in the comments. As OP says, she
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: brought up that I have a male coworker I'm friendly
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: with and said, you'd be furious if I asked you
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: to report your hangouts to me.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: But would you?
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: Two different things though.
• 28:06
  Speaker 7: Yeah, one, those are different. But also like if your
• 28:09
  Speaker 7: girlfriend said, hey, do you mind like letting me know
• 28:11
  Speaker 7: when you're hanging out with someone?
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: I don't think that's that crazy.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: Usually a significant other I would think, and this has
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: happened to me in the past, it would just happen.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: Like you would just be like, Hey, what are you
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: doing today? Yeah, this weekend I'm going to hang out
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: with my friends. Yeah, have any plans?
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: Or like, oh, like what are you doing later? Oh,
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: I'm hanging out with, you know, blah, blah, blah. So
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: I feel like she's, Sarah is being sneaky about it.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: Also just like whatever, like anything X related is involved.
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: I'm like, well, and also the defensiveness.
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't trust.
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: But I never asked her to report anything. I just
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: wanted her to mention it in passing the way couples
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: normally do.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: There you go.
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: Now she's barely speaking to me and told her friends
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: I'm jealous and insecure.
• 28:57
  Speaker 7: Well, okay, so immediately the second that I find out
• 28:59
  Speaker 7: that she's telling her friends, insulting me to her friends,
• 29:03
  Speaker 7: I'm like, hey, I don't think our relationship is actually
• 29:05
  Speaker 7: working out.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: Some of them have messaged me saying I need to
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: trust her.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: Break up. I'm immediately the second. Oh, sorry.
• 29:13
  Speaker 7: The second that she tells her friends and then the
• 29:15
  Speaker 7: second second when she tells, when her friends come.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: To me and say, hey, you should do this. I'd
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: be like, excuse me. Are you telling me what to
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: do in my own relationship?
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: I do trust her. I just felt blindsided by the secrecy.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: So am I the a-hole for asking for space and
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: more openness after she started secretly meeting up with her ex?
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: No, siree not at all i'm done with this lady.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: Here's an update a lot of you told me to
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: trust my gut i wish i had listened sooner oh
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: three days after my original post sarah came home acting
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: completely normal made dinner asked about my day even held
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: my hand watching tv I let myself feel hopeful for
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: the first time in weeks. That night, she left her
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: phone on the kitchen counter while she showered.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: It lit up.
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: I wasn't snooping. I genuinely just glanced over. The preview
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: was enough. It was from Layla. I didn't read the
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: full message. I didn't need to. The first line told
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: me everything I had been trying not to believe for.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: The past month.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: I won't repeat what it said, but it confirmed what
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: most of you already knew. When Sarah came out of
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: the shower, I was sitting at the kitchen table. She
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: saw my face and she knew. For a moment, neither
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: of us said anything. Then she sat down across from
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: me and for the first time since this whole thing started,
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: she didn't deflect and she didn't call me controlling.
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: She just looked at the table.
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: That silence told me more than any explanation could have.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: I asked her one question.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Just one. She answered it. Stop leaving us in the dark.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: If you're gonna come to Reddit, tell us the freaking facts.
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: From my understanding.
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: Layla probably sent her either, like, spicy photo or, like, said,
• 30:51
  Speaker 3: can't wait to see you tomorrow or something.
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: Last night was fun.
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: Something about, yeah, like, a little spicy text.
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: And OP saw it and went, and then she probably
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: was like, are you cheating on me with Layla? She cried.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: She apologized.
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: She said it meant nothing and that she had made
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: a mistake. She said she loved me and didn't want
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: to lose me. Two weeks ago, I would have held
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: on to every one of those words, but that night,
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: I just felt quiet like something inside me had already
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: said goodbye without telling me. I stayed at a friend's
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: place that night. I haven't gone back since. Two years,
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: a shared apartment, a life I thought was mine, and
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: it turned out to be something I didn't fully know.
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: It doesn't just disappear overnight, but I'm also not destroyed,
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: and I think that's because of you. Hundreds of strangers
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: told me my instincts were right before I was willing
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: to admit.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: It to myself.
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: So no, I am not the a-hole, and neither are
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: you for trusting yourself when something feels wrong. I'll be okay, eventually.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: And there's a second update. Oh, now, where is it
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: gonna go from here?
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: Update two.
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: The aftermath, apartment drama, the friend group falling apart, and
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: uncomfortable messages. People keep asking for updates, so here's what
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: the last three weeks have looked like. Spoiler, it's messier
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: than I expected, and the practical stuff hits differently than
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: the emotional stuff. The apartment situation was the first nightmare.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Uh, Sarah and.
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: I are both on the lease and it doesn't end
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: until next September and neither of us can afford it alone.
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: I offered to be the one to leave, but she
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: wanted me to stay and she'd find someplace else. Then
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: she changed her mind. Then she started ignoring my calls
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: about it. I ended up paying for a mediator. A
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: whole session just so we could figure out logistics like adults.
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: During that meeting, Sarah wouldn't make eye contact with me
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: and the mediator noted it. The apartment thing gets resolved
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: next month. I'm taking over the lease and she's paying
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: her portion through August.
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: But here's where it got ugly. The friend group.
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: I lost friends over this. Specifically the ones who had
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: messaged me calling me jealous and insecure.
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: I'm not surprised.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: I'm texting back and say, hey, you guys know she
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: cheated on me, right? Not your friends. Yeah, no, they've
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: never been your friends.
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: When the truth came out, they had some choices to make.
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: I didn't ask them to pick sides, but apparently the
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: group chat had other plans. One friend, let's call her Maya,
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: reached out a week after and basically said, I'm so
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: sorry for not believing you. She admitted Sarah had been
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: venting to them for months about how controlling I was.
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: They had no idea the issue was that Sarah was
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: literally cheating.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: The others?
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: Radio silence.
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: Or worse, they're still hanging with Sarah like nothing happened.
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: One of them posted a group photo to Instagram last week.
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: Sarah is in it.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: I unfollowed all of them. The weirdest part?
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: I got a text from Layla. Not an apology. Not
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: a confrontation. Just a simple message asking if I was
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: okay and if we could talk.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: Girl, what? Why would I want to talk to you?
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: You're the last one I want to see. Yeah, I
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: don't want to hear from you anymore. I think we're over.
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: I think I made that clear.
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: I guarantee you she'd be like, it wasn't Sarah's fault.
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: It was my fault.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: I don't care whose fault it is. Like it still happened.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: And no one.
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: And if I didn't find that text, it would have
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: probably still been happening.
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: I think it's one of the worst feelings to have
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: when like the cheater doesn't really like still has their
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: friends or like people are on their side. You just
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: like I did nothing wrong and people are still.
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: Like siding with that person.
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: What I hate is like when you're like dating someone
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: for a really long time and then like you know,
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: any amount of like two, three months there with someone else.
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, are you acting like, are you kidding me?
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: How, how'd you do that?
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: Because I'm sitting here absolutely freaking miserable and will be
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: for another year and a half.
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 34:48
  Speaker 7: I think, I think some like, I don't, my ex
• 34:51
  Speaker 7: specifically cannot be like, there are people that can't be alone.
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: Some people are like that. Some people are literally, they cannot,
• 34:57
  Speaker 4: they can't be alone.
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: I didn't respond. And my therapist said, that's the right call.
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: Sarah has tried to contact me three times. Once through
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: a friend, I told the friend to tell her to stop.
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: Once directly, I didn't answer. Once through her mom, I
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: was civil but firm. She wants to explain or apologize properly,
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: but honestly, I don't have the emotional energy for that conversation,
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: and I don't think I owe her one.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: You don't.
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: Therapy is helping. My therapist keeps saying I'm grieving two
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: things at once. A relationship and the person I thought
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: Sarah was. That hit hard because it's true. I'm mourning
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: someone who never actually existed. I'm also weirdly angry now.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: Not at Sarah specifically anymore. That's evolving into something more
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: like pity. But at myself for ignoring red flags that were.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: So, so obvious. Good news? I found an apartment!
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: It's small and the neighborhood isn't amazing, but it's mine
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: and I'm moving in next month. No shared lease. no
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: ghost of a relationship haunting the kitchen counter. I'm not
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: healed or whatever people think happens three weeks after a breakup.
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: Some days are still harder than others, but I'm not
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: destroyed either.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: I'm just moving forward.
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: So to the people who said trust your gut, thank you.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: To the people who said I was overreacting, I hope
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: this taught you something. And to anyone reading this in
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: a similar situation right now, your instincts are there for
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: a reason.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: Listen to them. And there's a third update six months later.
• 36:29
  Speaker 4: Any hot takes within this update? Do we think anything
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: with Sarah, with Layla?
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: I would hope that. I would think that Opie's kind
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: of done.
• 36:42
  Speaker 7: Yeah, I hope it's over. I hope we're moved out.
• 36:45
  Speaker 7: We're not talking to those two gals anymore. No moms
• 36:49
  Speaker 7: are trying to call us. Yeah, I think Opie's doing
• 36:52
  Speaker 7: great and she probably has another girlfriend. Yeah, I think
• 36:56
  Speaker 7: For anyone out there whose ex-partner has moved on quickly
• 37:00
  Speaker 7: and you're like, well, I'm.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: Not in a relationship. How'd they find someone so quick?
• 37:04
  Speaker 7: Honestly, just know that you're probably, you know, taking the
• 37:08
  Speaker 7: time that you need to get in a better place
• 37:11
  Speaker 7: and they probably haven't.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: Update three, six months later, I'm finally okay and that's
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: the best part of my life.
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: Some days I felt like I owed everyone closure.
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: Other days, I felt like airing more of my life
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: was just reopening things that were finally healing. But here
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: we are, six months, and I'm genuinely okay. The apartment
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: is fully unpacked now, I hung up actual art, I
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: bought plants, and I keep them alive, which is apparently
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: a personal victory. I got a cat! Her name is Asha,
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: and she's the most unfailingly loyal being I've ever met,
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: which is saying something given recent history. Therapy has been instrumental.
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: My therapist helped me understand that I didn't fail at
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: the relationship. I failed at recognizing that I can't fix
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: someone who doesn't want to be honest. We worked through
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: the self-blame stuff, why I apologized for everything, why I
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: shrank myself. Turns out my parents' marriage was pretty controlling
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: and I internalized that I had to be the easy
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: one to keep the peace.
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: I love that if he's like, turns out, never realized this.
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: Sarah spotted that tendency and weaponized it. I reconnected with
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: some old friends. The ones who stuck by me saw
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: me through the worst of it. The ones who didn't,
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: we're just not in contact anymore. No drama, no confrontation,
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: just a quiet goodbye.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: And you know what? I'm okay with that too. I
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: also made new friends.
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: Met someone at a coffee shop who invited me to
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: a book club. Met another at the gym. I'm slowly
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: building a life that isn't connected to Sarah or that
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: friend group.
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: Or any of that.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: Here's the wildest part, though. I ran into Sarah at
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: a grocery store. We both froze. She looked like she
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: wanted to approach me. I grabbed my groceries and left
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: and I felt nothing. Not anger, not sadness, just a
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: neutral acknowledgement that that was a person I used to know.
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: I think that's when I realized I was actually healing
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: and not just going through the motions.
• 39:08
  Speaker 7: So satisfying when you run into that person in your life. Who,
• 39:12
  Speaker 7: I don't know, it just was in a dark time
• 39:14
  Speaker 7: for you, or like was a dark time for you.
• 39:17
  Speaker 7: And you just, you don't even care.
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: Alright, you know what to do. Go in the car,
• 39:22
  Speaker 4: blast it. Somebody I used to know.
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: About dating, I'm not ready yet, and I'm okay with that.
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: Some people told me I should jump back. in to
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: prove I'm fine.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: No, you don't have to prove anything to anyone.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: I'm not interested in proving anything to anyone.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: I didn't know I was going to say that. When
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: I'm ready, I'll know.
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: And I'll be looking for someone who communicates, who's honest,
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: who doesn't hide things for my own good. The questions
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: people keep asking, no, I haven't heard from Sarah or
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: Layla in months.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: Yes, I blocked them.
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: No, I don't regret it. Yes, I sometimes miss the
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: version of Sarah I thought she was. No, I don't
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: regret leaving. To everyone who commented on the original post,
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: thank you.
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: Genuinely.
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: You gave me permission to trust myself when no one
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: else would. You reminded me that I was worth more
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: than the crumbs of a broken relationship. To anyone reading
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: this while they're in a similar situation, trust your gut.
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: Not as an excuse to be controlling. but as a
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: voice that knows you better than anyone else does. If
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: something feels off, it probably is.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: I'm glad, I'm glad, OP.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: You know what?
• 40:24
  Speaker 7: It looks like you're really making moves.
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: In your healing journey.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: I think that you did everything correctly, and you followed yourself.
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: You followed your true self. You followed your gut. You
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: went into this thinking of this version of this person,
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: and they proved you wrong, and that's okay. You live
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: and you learn. But we're going to go ahead and
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: finish it up. I'm not healed in some final perfect way.
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: I still have rough days. Last month, I saw a
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: couple that reminded me of Sarah and me and I
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: cried in my.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: Car for 20 minutes.
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: But then I went home to my apartment and my
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: cat and made myself dinner and felt grateful for the
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: life I'm building. So no, I am not the a-hole.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: She made her choices.
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: I made mine.
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: And for the first time in a long time, I'm
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: genuinely proud of myself for the choices I made.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: Thank you, Reddit.
• 41:11
  Speaker 3: I think I'm finally ready to stop being a throwaway.
• 41:14
  Speaker 4: Aww.
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: Oh, I love that. That was like a beautiful ending. Yeah.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: Good job, OP.
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm glad that you ended up finding yourself and
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: have taken the time to really reflect and understand and
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: see where all of these different issues lie.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: Because now, look at you. You're doing it. You're freaking
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: doing it, girl. Go out there.
• 41:36
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• 41:38
  Speaker 1: the next one.
• 41:39
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• 41:43
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• 41:45
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• 41:49
  Speaker 3: I confessed a secret to my fiancé, and he revealed
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: a secret of his own. I, 25 female, understand that
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: what I did was wrong. I don't deny it or
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: try to excuse it in any way. I feel horrible
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: about it, and I will do anything I can to
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: make this right. So while I understand calling me names
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: is fair game, I'm really looking for advice on what
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: to do from here. Very early on in our relationship,
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: six weeks to be exact, I went on a trip
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: to visit my sister at her school. The second night there,
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: we attended a huge party. I was dancing and drinking.
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: One guy in particular kept hitting on me. As the
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: night wore on, I started flirting back. I make no excuses.
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: I was drinking, but not wasted. And I made a
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: horrible judgment call, and I ended up going with him
• 42:39
  Speaker 3: back to his room. I knew the moment it started,
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: it was wrong. I got up and left as soon
• 42:45
  Speaker 3: as it was done, and to this day, I don't
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: even know his last name.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: Well, usually you don't.
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: I mean, I don't ask someone their first and last name, so.
• 42:52
  Speaker 5: Half the time, I only ask them their first.
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: My sister was so wasted, she went home with a
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: friend and never knew I didn't spend the night at
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: her place. I went back home and was just guilt ridden.
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: And although I knew it would cost me my new boyfriend,
• 43:05
  Speaker 3: 25 male, I was going to tell him and beg
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: him to forgive me.
• 43:09
  Speaker 5: What shocked me is that you waited until it was done.
• 43:10
  Speaker 5: You knew it was wrong. But after it was done,
• 43:13
  Speaker 5: you just left.
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. It's just like the selfishness of
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: just being. And she's like, I make no excuses. I
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: know what I did was wrong, blah, blah. And it's
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: like you had a choice and you chose to just
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: be like, who cares? When I see him the next day,
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: he is already very down. He didn't get the job
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: offer he thought he was going to get. I decided
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: I didn't want to add to his problems, so I
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: spent the entire day trying to tear him up and
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: be a comfort for him.
• 43:37
  Speaker 5: Sometimes when something like this happens, you just give him
• 43:41
  Speaker 5: more bad news.
• 43:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah. What's the math? It's the two negatives make a positive.
• 43:47
  Speaker 5: And right from that moment on, he will just keep
• 43:49
  Speaker 5: going up.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: Then the next time I see him, he is so
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: happy because he said I was able to make him
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: forget about how crappy his life was.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: So once again, I didn't tell him.
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: Oh! This is going to be a never-ending cycle.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: There's never a good time to tell someone anything. You
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: just do it. By the way, this comes from Artthrow23.
• 44:13
  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 44:15
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• 44:17
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: I'm Riley.
• 44:19
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give you some good advice, but
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: we don't have all your answers. We'd only tell you
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: what we would do, but let us know what you
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: would do.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: Down in the comments.
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: As Opie says, Yes, I know it was wrong both times,
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: but I was young, immature, and scared.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: After those two times, we were getting along so well
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: that I.
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: Just put it in my head that nobody other than
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: myself and the other guy even knew it happened. So
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: I ruined a great thing when I knew I would
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: never do it again, and I would never see or
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: hear from this other guy.
• 44:47
  Speaker 5: No one will know except for you, and you have
• 44:49
  Speaker 5: to live with that every day.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: Flash forward to two months ago. We have been together
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: for years now, and in fact, we've been together longer
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: than any of our friends have been with their significant others.
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: We love each other, and we live together. He asks
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: me to marry him.
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: You sit on a throne of deceit, lies, and cheating.
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: I was overjoyed, and of course, said yes. We told
• 45:14
  Speaker 3: our family and friends, and everyone was happy for us.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: But two days after he asked me, I become overwhelmed
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: by guilt. I called in to work because I couldn't
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: function and spent the entire morning sitting on the couch crying.
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: I was a liar and a cheat and I had
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: tricked my boyfriend into proposing when in fact if he
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: knew about it from the start, he would have probably
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: broken up with me.
• 45:34
  Speaker 5: But now since you have years together, he probably won't. Dude,
• 45:38
  Speaker 5: that's so smart. Oh my gosh. She was thinking the
• 45:41
  Speaker 5: long game, dude. Holy cow.
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: I decided I could not live the rest of my
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: life like that and determined that when he came home,
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: I had to tell him no matter what his mood was.
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: The other part of this that is important is that
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: I am his first and only spicy related partner. He
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: knew I had been with one other guy before we
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: got together, but that never bothered him.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: Or so I thought.
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: He comes home and immediately sees that I'm a mess
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: and asks what's wrong. I told him everything and he
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: is understandably very upset, very emotional. I tell him I
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: will do anything to prove to him that I have
• 46:15
  Speaker 3: never done anything like that since, nor will I ever
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: do anything like that in the future. I offer to
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: let him go through my tablet, phone, Facebook, anything, and
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: he says it won't be necessary because he doesn't want
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: us to live like that. He said he wanted some
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: time to himself to think and said he would sleep
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: on the couch. I told him I would give him
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: all the time he wanted and that I would be
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: the one sleeping on the couch, not him. Next morning,
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: he is quiet but does not show any bitterness towards me.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: He told me that of course he was hurt and upset.
• 46:43
  Speaker 3: He said the hardest thing for him was the time
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: frame because he doesn't know if being upset is justifiable
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: or silly at this length of time. I told him
• 46:51
  Speaker 3: he was certainly justified to be upset and we both
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: went to work. A week goes by and he seems
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: to get a little better every day to the point
• 46:58
  Speaker 3: that we both went out to have a somewhat celebration
• 47:01
  Speaker 3: dinner for our engagement with one of his friends. Everything
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: was fine until Wednesday when he tells me he will
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: be back very late from work. This doesn't bother me
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: at all because it can be a normal occurrence. When
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: they start on a project, they can't stop until it's
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: completed and there have been times it's taken 16 hours.
• 47:19
  Speaker 5: Is that what they're calling affairs these days? Oh, I
• 47:22
  Speaker 5: gotta work on this project. It may take 16 hours,
• 47:27
  Speaker 5: but I gotta do whatever it takes to get it finished.
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: So I spend the evening catching up on some work,
• 47:33
  Speaker 3: watched a movie I knew he wouldn't want to watch,
• 47:36
  Speaker 3: and then went to bed. I woke up the next
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: morning and he still wasn't there. I texted him and
• 47:41
  Speaker 3: asked where he was. He just replied with, I'm on
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: my way home. We passed each other on the street
• 47:46
  Speaker 3: as I had to get to work. I call him
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: and he just says he was longer than expected and
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: was going home for some sleep. Okay, this isn't normal,
• 47:54
  Speaker 3: but he did give me a heads up and he
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: wasn't acting weird, so I just went about my day.
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: I come home and he's sitting in the living room
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: waiting on me.
• 48:02
  Speaker 5: Oh, he probably went on a booty call. I think
• 48:04
  Speaker 5: he went on a booty call to get back at Opie.
• 48:06
  Speaker 5: And he's been interested in a girl for a while
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: at work. And this was the time he could do it.
• 48:10
  Speaker 5: And he's like, I'm just going to do this and
• 48:12
  Speaker 5: then we'll be even.
• 48:14
  Speaker 7: All right.
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: Long story short, he told me that he spent last
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: night with Tracy, a married woman from his work. I
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: just collapsed in the chair. He then goes on to
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: tell me that this was a one-time thing, that she
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: is in an open marriage and that he has no
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: feelings for her and she has none for him.
• 48:33
  Speaker 4: But.
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: He said that he felt completely paralyzed with anger and
• 48:37
  Speaker 3: envy about me not only having slept with this other guy,
• 48:40
  Speaker 3: but over my previous relationship as well.
• 48:43
  Speaker 5: Oh, he probably is like, oh, she's been with like
• 48:46
  Speaker 5: more people than just me. And I've just only ever
• 48:48
  Speaker 5: been with you. And that's not fair.
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: Time to make it even.
• 48:51
  Speaker 5: I guess he's got to sleep with one more other
• 48:54
  Speaker 5: person then.
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: That's just not how that works.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: What? What?
• 49:02
  Speaker 5: An eye for an eye?
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: That's not how it works? What?
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: He said he knew he was wrong, but he just
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: felt like he had to be with someone else just
• 49:12
  Speaker 3: once so he wouldn't feel so insecure about me being
• 49:14
  Speaker 3: with other guys when he had only been with me.
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: I started crying, then got pissed. and started yelling at
• 49:21
  Speaker 3: him then he stops me and says why am i
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: yelling at him i cheated first and when he found
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: out about it he never yelled at me which is
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: true he didn't he says he regrets the action really
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: regrets feeling like he cheapened himself in the process but
• 49:38
  Speaker 3: that while he is sorry it has hurt me He
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: felt like it was something he had to do.
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: That's just like weird. I don't like that. I don't
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: like how it's.
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: Like I just feel like I had to do. Oh,
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: you had to cheat on me. You had to go
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: be with someone else because you felt left out. Like
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: that's not cool. Like, OK, like I didn't even know
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: you and you're like kind of throwing my past in
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: my face.
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: But also, oh, he obviously cheated.
• 50:06
  Speaker 5: If they want to stay together, they just need to
• 50:08
  Speaker 5: get over this and then they're good. This is just
• 50:11
  Speaker 5: the part of you cheated. They cheated. What he did
• 50:14
  Speaker 5: was horribly wrong. What you did was wrong. Do you
• 50:17
  Speaker 5: want to stay together? Cause if you do, this is
• 50:19
  Speaker 5: the only way that it's going to be even in
• 50:20
  Speaker 5: both of your eyes. And it seems like if you
• 50:24
  Speaker 5: going down the line, if one person does something, it's,
• 50:27
  Speaker 5: it's a transactional thing where the other person has to
• 50:29
  Speaker 5: do it. It's not a love thing. Like a love
• 50:31
  Speaker 5: thing is like, I've absolutely loved you and I wanted
• 50:33
  Speaker 5: to be with you forever. The other thing, though, is like, okay, okay, okay. Keon,
• 50:39
  Speaker 5: I want to know your opinion on this, too. Would
• 50:41
  Speaker 5: you rather you cheat and your partner cheats back on
• 50:45
  Speaker 5: you and that's how you're even, or you cheat and
• 50:49
  Speaker 5: they hold it over your head all the time for
• 50:51
  Speaker 5: years to come and it's like, oh, stop talking to
• 50:54
  Speaker 5: the guy and you're kind of on a leash with
• 50:55
  Speaker 5: that stuff?
• 50:57
  Speaker 4: Wouldn't that be the same thing, though? Wouldn't that, like,
• 50:59
  Speaker 4: wouldn't you hold that over each other's heads, like, kind of?
• 51:02
  Speaker 5: Like, looking at this... this would cancel it out. Because
• 51:06
  Speaker 5: I don't think this is a couple that looks at
• 51:07
  Speaker 5: things as if, I forgive you, I'm never going to
• 51:09
  Speaker 5: have resentment over you. It's always going to be like a,
• 51:12
  Speaker 5: how do we even score type of thing. I do too,
• 51:16
  Speaker 5: but which one would you rather take? I know they're
• 51:19
  Speaker 5: both horrible options, but like, this is what OP's looking
• 51:22
  Speaker 5: at though. This is like, what do I want my
• 51:24
  Speaker 5: life to look like going forward?
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: You know?
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: And this is what the guys think. He's like, I
• 51:28
  Speaker 5: can either hold this over her head and every time
• 51:30
  Speaker 5: she talks to a guy, I can be like, stop
• 51:31
  Speaker 5: talking and block him, blah, blah, blah. Or you can
• 51:33
  Speaker 5: just go ahead and cheat on her.
• 51:35
  Speaker 3: Now he wants us to move on like nothing happened.
• 51:39
  Speaker 3: I have no idea what to do from here. I
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: would be the world's biggest hypocrite if I left him,
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: but I'm so hurt that I just don't know how
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: we go forward from here.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: Any advice would be appreciated. There's an update.
• 51:51
  Speaker 5: It's like a chess. It's like a game of chess.
• 51:55
  Speaker 5: So hear me out. So chess is a strategy game.
• 51:59
  Speaker 5: So he put her in a specific scenario that if
• 52:02
  Speaker 5: she moved this way and left him, he could counter
• 52:05
  Speaker 5: and be like, well, you cheated on me first. So
• 52:07
  Speaker 5: if they did break the engagement off, she would look
• 52:09
  Speaker 5: like the bad guy, even if she stayed or left.
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: You cheated on me and you didn't tell me and
• 52:14
  Speaker 4: you continue this relationship for however long.
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: Weird, indeed.
• 52:18
  Speaker 5: Make your next move your best move and leave him.
• 52:21
  Speaker 3: It's like a moral judgment type thing, but also you
• 52:26
  Speaker 3: left your morals back then.
• 52:27
  Speaker 5: And you left this guy on that you want to
• 52:29
  Speaker 5: stay with. Here's my thing.
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: Truthfully, I don't think that there is a right answer.
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: I think there's just wrong answers.
• 52:36
  Speaker 5: I honestly, if I was the one that cheated and
• 52:38
  Speaker 5: then deceived this person and then they cheated right back
• 52:41
  Speaker 5: on me, I'd be really hurt. But I feel like
• 52:44
  Speaker 5: I would owe it to them because I want to
• 52:45
  Speaker 5: marry them. If I viewed this person like I do
• 52:48
  Speaker 5: my girlfriend right now and I'm like, this is someone
• 52:50
  Speaker 5: I want to be with for the rest of my life,
• 52:52
  Speaker 5: I would probably duke it out and stay with them.
• 52:55
  Speaker 5: And I know like an eye in an eye and
• 52:57
  Speaker 5: I'd have a serious conversation of like, We can't function
• 53:00
  Speaker 5: like this growing, like, staying together. Nah, see you owe
• 53:03
  Speaker 5: him freedom, not get back, see.
• 53:06
  Speaker 4: If I really had to pick, Riley, and I don't
• 53:08
  Speaker 4: want to pick, but this is the ultimate, like, this
• 53:10
  Speaker 4: is the options I have in this wild freaking scenario,
• 53:14
  Speaker 4: which is, again, it's like the train situation or, like,
• 53:16
  Speaker 4: the trolley situation of, like, who do you save? For me,
• 53:20
  Speaker 4: having to be like, it just depends on who it is,
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: who it's with, but Out of the two options that
• 53:28
  Speaker 4: Rowdy gave me, I would rather be like, all right,
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: eye for an eye kind of thing. Because if it
• 53:32
  Speaker 4: was just like, my partner's going to hold this over
• 53:34
  Speaker 4: my head or bring it up in any single discussion,
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: you can do that whenever. Nonstop. It's just like, oh,
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: I mean, at that point, just break up, but.
• 53:44
  Speaker 5: At that point, but this is sort of like this
• 53:46
  Speaker 5: will even it out. Nobody will talk about this going forward.
• 53:50
  Speaker 5: No one's going to accuse anybody of everything. This is
• 53:52
  Speaker 5: even the score. Are you staying? A lot of people
• 53:55
  Speaker 5: say no, they're leaving because it just makes it messy
• 53:57
  Speaker 5: and toxic. But he just learned two weeks ago that
• 54:00
  Speaker 5: you cheated on him and then he did a proactive
• 54:02
  Speaker 5: thing and cheated on you.
• 54:04
  Speaker 4: But he did it then also be like, I didn't
• 54:08
  Speaker 4: lie to you. I said it to your face. Straightforward.
• 54:12
  Speaker 4: I think it's just it's so messy because now that
• 54:15
  Speaker 4: the truth's out there, I think he did both. He'll
• 54:19
  Speaker 4: be like, okay, now we're even. But now I can
• 54:21
  Speaker 4: also hold it over you that you cheated on me
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: and you lied to me for years or whatever.
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: I think that he did that in order to be like,
• 54:31
  Speaker 3: I'm better than you because I did it and told
• 54:35
  Speaker 3: you right away.
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: And this is what you should have done type of thing.
• 54:39
  Speaker 5: They both suck. I guess the best choice is to leave.
• 54:42
  Speaker 5: But I don't know. I just I just if I
• 54:44
  Speaker 5: was put in this situation, I was like, I love
• 54:46
  Speaker 5: this person so much. I it's hard to imagine a
• 54:49
  Speaker 5: world without them. I do. I'd stay with them. I'd
• 54:53
  Speaker 5: stay with them.
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: Well, I have an update.
• 54:56
  Speaker 3: All right. This has been a very rough week. I'll
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: start off with this. We are still together. We have
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: agreed to postpone telling people when our wedding will be,
• 55:07
  Speaker 3: but for now, we are still together and still engaged.
• 55:10
  Speaker 5: Oh, I knew it!
• 55:11
  Speaker 3: He has agreed to go with me to couples counseling.
• 55:15
  Speaker 3: We can't get in until the end of next month,
• 55:17
  Speaker 3: but we have it set up and his insurance will
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: cover his portion. We have had several long conversations that
• 55:23
  Speaker 3: have involved lots of crying, mostly me, and one full-fledged
• 55:27
  Speaker 3: mental breakdown by him. I'm not going to lie, after
• 55:31
  Speaker 3: posting this last time, some people were saying they thought
• 55:34
  Speaker 3: She was fictional and he only said he did it.
• 55:38
  Speaker 3: So during one of our conversations, I finally got the
• 55:41
  Speaker 3: courage to ask him if he was just saying this
• 55:43
  Speaker 3: to make me feel bad. Sadly, he continued to claim
• 55:47
  Speaker 3: that this happened and how bad he feels about it.
• 55:49
  Speaker 3: I'll also just admit this now, I snooped. I went
• 55:53
  Speaker 3: to his workplace and started looking for her. I've been
• 55:55
  Speaker 3: there many times before, so security didn't even pay me
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: a second thought. I found her and really truly wish
• 56:01
  Speaker 3: I had not. She is everything I am not. She
• 56:04
  Speaker 3: is tall, big blonde hair, and extremely pretty.
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: As though my.
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: Self-esteem wasn't already in the toilet, this pretty much put
• 56:12
  Speaker 3: a fork in me. I never spoke to her. And
• 56:14
  Speaker 3: I've never told him I've seen her, but the thought
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: of her and him working together every day was making
• 56:19
  Speaker 3: me lose my mind. I know how much he likes
• 56:22
  Speaker 3: Spicy's sleep, and I can only imagine if she is
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: really available to him, he will go.
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: Back for seconds.
• 56:28
  Speaker 3: But this leads me to another part of my update.
• 56:31
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, there's more? Leads into seconds?
• 56:35
  Speaker 4: Ehhh! He's probably like, honey, before we get married, we
• 56:38
  Speaker 4: should probably have an open marriage. This is really fun.
• 56:40
  Speaker 3: I honestly believe he is very emotionally hurt by what
• 56:43
  Speaker 3: he has done. He loves spicy sleep, but he is
• 56:46
  Speaker 3: also very uptight about it, if that makes any sense.
• 56:49
  Speaker 3: He has told me on more than one occasion how
• 56:52
  Speaker 3: he feels like he has betrayed not just me, but himself.
• 56:55
  Speaker 3: He said the entire time was very weird to him initially,
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: but very upsetting to him ultimately, because going through the
• 57:02
  Speaker 3: act without any emotional ties was unsettling and he didn't
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: really enjoy it. I'm calling BS on this, by the way.
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: I've seen her, he doesn't know that, and I can
• 57:11
  Speaker 3: tell you he would enjoy that. I've unloaded on him
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: a few times, probably unfairly on a couple of occasions,
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: and I got so mad one night, I smacked him.
• 57:21
  Speaker 3: I immediately begged him to forgive me because I knew
• 57:24
  Speaker 3: it was wrong.
• 57:25
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to.
• 57:27
  Speaker 3: Pause here because now it has gone into not just
• 57:30
  Speaker 3: emotional turmoil, it is now turning into physical turmoil. And
• 57:36
  Speaker 3: that's not good. Like, you guys need to get out.
• 57:39
  Speaker 3: Someone needs to leave. Someone needs to go. It's not
• 57:42
  Speaker 3: going to work. There is too much resentment here that
• 57:46
  Speaker 3: there is no way you're working past this because it's all,
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: as you said before, it's transactional.
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: All of it is transactional. You do something, I'm going
• 57:52
  Speaker 2: to do it. That's not fair. I want to try it. Like,
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: it's a competition now.
• 57:58
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I feel like OP, the fact that
• 58:00
  Speaker 4: OP is trying to speak for him when he's Like,
• 58:03
  Speaker 4: I didn't like it. I tried to do it. I
• 58:04
  Speaker 4: tried to get over this. I tried to just, like,
• 58:06
  Speaker 4: even it out. And she's like, I've seen her. There's
• 58:09
  Speaker 4: no way you did not like it. I don't know.
• 58:11
  Speaker 4: Maybe this guy was emotionally tied.
• 58:13
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 58:13
  Speaker 4: You can't speak on his behalf. Maybe he was being honest.
• 58:16
  Speaker 4: But at this point, I don't think it's going to work.
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: It's all they talk about. I'm guessing.
• 58:22
  Speaker 3: I don't think they have had a normal day since.
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: I doubt that they now can just move on and
• 58:28
  Speaker 3: be like, oh, how's your day been?
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: Like, without her.
• 58:30
  Speaker 4: Completely thinking, like, This is such a mess.
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: He still has never yelled at me or even raised
• 58:37
  Speaker 3: his voice, but his full meltdown did reveal that he
• 58:41
  Speaker 3: truly feels betrayed. Sadly, he remembers the weekend that my
• 58:45
  Speaker 3: cheating occurred in great detail because he had asked me
• 58:48
  Speaker 3: to attend a family function with him and I had
• 58:50
  Speaker 3: already planned to go to my sister's so I couldn't.
• 58:53
  Speaker 3: He put two and two together and determined that I
• 58:55
  Speaker 3: was having spicy sleep when he was miserable and had
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: asked me to be with him. Basically, we have both
• 59:02
  Speaker 3: hurt each other badly, but we both still want to
• 59:05
  Speaker 3: be together. So we are going to try and make
• 59:08
  Speaker 3: this work. I also asked him again why he did
• 59:02
  Speaker 3: what he did, and he affirmed that he did it
• 59:03
  Speaker 3: to ease his own pain. He said it wasn't just
• 59:05
  Speaker 3: done to spite me or to get even, but he
• 59:07
  Speaker 3: won't deny that maybe somewhere along the way, he did
• 59:09
  Speaker 3: consider it. The ultimate update is this. He has told
• 59:28
  Speaker 3: me he is going.
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: To leave his job.
• 59:30
  Speaker 5: Step in the right direction.
• 59:32
  Speaker 3: He said he does not feel right walking into work
• 59:34
  Speaker 3: and seeing her, both of them acting like nothing ever happened.
• 59:37
  Speaker 3: I did not ask him to do this, and once again,
• 59:40
  Speaker 3: he doesn't even know that I have seen her.
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I am relieved about that part.
• 59:45
  Speaker 5: This is a definition that eye for an eye doesn't work.
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: It doesn't.
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: It's just like, nothing....
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: Him going to sleep with someone else when she had
• 59:58
  Speaker 3: already done that and knew it was a huge mistake.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: And he's like, oh, I also want to make a mistake. Like,
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: that is just stupidity to be like, oh, well, you
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: did it. I'm going to do it.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 3: Like, it's just dumb. I just like don't understand. Like,
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: this is going to fix my marriage if I go
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 3: do this.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: No, idiot.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 5: Think he is still lying and hiding things. She is nuts. Well,
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 5: they're perfect for each other.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 3: Do I think he did it to spite me? Honestly, yes,
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 3: I think there is a part of that in there.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 3: But in talking with him for hours, I just really
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 3: get the feeling that he thought it would make him
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 3: feel better, but it didn't. He now feels like he
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 3: has to deal with the pain of being a cheater
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 3: on top of dealing with the idea of being cheated on.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 3: I'm far more emotional than he is, but I can
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 3: tell you from knowing him so long that he is
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 3: a mess emotionally. He is just trying to cope differently
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 3: than I am. I wish I had a more definitive
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 3: update for you guys, but this is where we are.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 3: We both hurt, we both want to keep trying, and
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 3: we are both trying our best to heal ourselves while
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 3: trying to heal each other. Oh, I know it was
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 3: probably a snotty thing to do, but I demanded he
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 3: get tested for STIs, and he did, came back clean.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 3: I know that was humiliating for him, but I just
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 3: felt like I needed that for my peace of mind. Also,
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 3: we had spicy sleep for the first time since all
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 3: of this last night.
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  Speaker 2: Very intense.
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  Speaker 3: And after it, we eventually ended back into a more
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 3: romantic state soon after.
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  Speaker 2: One day at a time, I guess.
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  Speaker 3: That is a freaking band-aid! You're gonna feel good for
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 3: about an hour. Like, did you write this right after
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 3: doing it? I mean, this is stupid.
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  Speaker 5: He let his flesh take control of him. He did
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 5: not think with his mind. He thought with his wiener.
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  Speaker 4: Little head over big head.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: Exactly.
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  Speaker 4: And.
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  Speaker 5: He let it do it. He let it do it.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 5: And they have this thing. They have this dilemma of
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 5: an eye for an eye. And they could have an
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 5: even score and walk away from it. Because that's the
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 5: definition of it. But they can't. Because there's more than
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 5: just that. It's more than just evening the score. Oh, man,
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 5: I hate her. She's evil.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: She said she and her ex agreed that they weren't
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 5: meant to be together because they're both happy in their
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 5: lives and relationships. The story is exhausting. She's on repeat. Yeah,
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 5: that was crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Crazy to live life through that. And that's the end
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: of this story.