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Confidence 101 For The Overthinkers ft. Riley Hemson · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigal Land Always was, always
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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hey chicks, I'm sal and I'm
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Speaker 1: out and this is two broke chicks to show that
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Speaker 1: shares life lessons and tips to help make you rich
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Speaker 1: in life.
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Speaker 2: And today we're in.
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Speaker 3: For a bloody treat chickies, because we've got Riley Hampson
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Speaker 3: back on the pod, content creator, founder of fashion brand
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Speaker 3: Remy By Riley, and Georgia.
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Speaker 2: And Joseph and all round style icon.
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Speaker 3: We're going to be talking all things confidence, hacks, tips.
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Speaker 4: True confidence one I want.
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Speaker 5: I don't think there's a better guess we could get
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Speaker 5: to have this episode with because not only is she queen, which.
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Speaker 4: Is a funny bitch.
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Speaker 2: Let's get her in here. Let's do it. Welcome Riley.
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Speaker 3: That's cute, too long, fuck ages because we did it
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Speaker 3: over zoom.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, because we've been in person.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but were so excited to have you on and
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Speaker 3: get into the chat. But before we do get started,
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Speaker 3: we like to start with a life lesson of the week.
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Speaker 2: So what have you got for us?
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Speaker 6: Okay, my life listen of the week is Okay, I
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Speaker 6: have to do a bit of context here. I was
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Speaker 6: on a run and the car was really close and
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Speaker 6: my I was doing like timing runs, so I had
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Speaker 6: like ten seconds lift.
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Speaker 2: And I was like, I can make it back to
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Speaker 2: the car.
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Speaker 6: And I was about twenty seconds, twenty secondsleef make it
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Speaker 6: back to the car, and I started gunning for it,
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Speaker 6: and then I was like, nah, it's too far. Pull back,
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Speaker 6: pull back, And then I started going again, and I
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Speaker 6: fully could have made it if I just keep going.
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Speaker 6: Week it's just like, just don't give up.
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Speaker 2: Actually push in that little bit, yeah, because you actually
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Speaker 2: can do it.
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Speaker 3: It's just getting into that little window of discomfort.
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Speaker 4: That's just the GST. Yeah. Yeah, I love that. What's yours?
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Speaker 2: Okay?
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Speaker 4: Mine?
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Speaker 2: Is a wholesome little quote that I heard.
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Speaker 3: On a podcast this week, and it's that if let's
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Speaker 3: say that you're bad at maths but you're good at art,
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Speaker 3: don't get a maths tutor, enroll in art lessons, so
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Speaker 3: nurture the things that you were naturally good at, rather
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Speaker 3: than trying to force yourself into things that maybe don't
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Speaker 3: come naturally to you but you feel like you have
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Speaker 3: to be good at.
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Speaker 5: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I love that. I actually heard recently.
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Speaker 6: I was on set for something and a one of
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Speaker 6: the hairstyles was talking to me because she was tutoring
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Speaker 6: some like younger like first entry level here like that
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Speaker 6: was super like super young success or. And she said,
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Speaker 6: I said, does everyone that enroll do they all have
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Speaker 6: like a bit of a natural knack for it, you
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Speaker 6: know how? Like some people just grew up like braiding
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Speaker 6: this it's just here And she was like no, and
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Speaker 6: then there's some people that just like stick at it
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Speaker 6: for years and then it takes them so long to
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Speaker 6: get like the most simple task just because it's not
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Speaker 6: the natural.
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Speaker 2: Thing that they can do.
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Speaker 6: So it's that and she just wishes she could say,
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Speaker 6: like pick something else, because you're going to be.
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Speaker 2: So good at something else. Honestly, what's your life lesson?
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Speaker 5: My life lesson of the week is to watch the
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Speaker 5: show that everyone tells you you need to watch, because
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Speaker 5: I'm so ashamed to say that I've gotten to my
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Speaker 5: twenty ninth year of life and I'd only just watch
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Speaker 5: Kath and Kim.
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Speaker 6: Yeah are yeah, I grew up because it was on
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Speaker 6: TV right, so it was just like on all the time.
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Speaker 4: Never watched it, not even one episode.
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Speaker 2: So you wouldn't have like understood any of the little
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Speaker 2: memes and all the rest.
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Speaker 5: I would get some of it because I feel like
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Speaker 5: they've been viral, like little bits and bobs that you
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Speaker 5: just get it. Like if someone's like, oh, you know
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Speaker 5: it's it's unusual, you'd be like, yeah, it'skathin Kim or whatever.
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Speaker 5: Look more like you just knew that was Kath and Kim.
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Speaker 5: But I never understood the heart felt link us Australians
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Speaker 5: have Kath and Kim and anyway, so I watched all
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Speaker 5: four seasons and I'm in mourning because I miss them,
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Speaker 5: and it truly was an educational experience of my life.
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Speaker 4: So my life lesson is.
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Speaker 5: To watch the show that everyone says to watch because
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Speaker 5: it's worth watching.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, especially.
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Speaker 2: So Riley.
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Speaker 3: You absolutely radiate confidence online but also in person, and
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Speaker 3: that is something that we definitely look up to you for.
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Speaker 2: But what is that journey being like for you?
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Speaker 3: Can you give us a bit of a behind the
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Speaker 3: scenes of how you got there?
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: I was talking to someone recently about this actually, and
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Speaker 6: I feel like, obviously throughout my life, I have days
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Speaker 6: where I feel this confident and like moments or things
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Speaker 6: will happen and I you know, that knocks my confidence back,
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Speaker 6: whether it's body confidence or just confidence. And you know,
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Speaker 6: like I studied paramedicine doing that, like I failed a
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Speaker 6: paper once like that. Not my confidence back, I definitely
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Speaker 6: like it comes and goes depending on the vibes at
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Speaker 6: the ti time. But like in terms of body confidence,
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Speaker 6: I've kind of just like always had it there, but
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Speaker 6: I knew that there was always that pressure to like,
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Speaker 6: you know, lose weight or look a certain way and
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Speaker 6: be this way because then boys will like you and
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Speaker 6: you'll be successful if you look like this. I always
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Speaker 6: had that pressure and so I was aware of that
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Speaker 6: all the time. But I think my whole life, I've
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Speaker 6: never let my confidence or like my body stop me
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Speaker 6: from doing the things I want to do. And I
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Speaker 6: think that's the key, Like I'm never going to get
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Speaker 6: to a point where I'm like, I'm going to be
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Speaker 6: confident every single day forever and ever done.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've done that on to the next thing.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, Like it's not like that, but I just I
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Speaker 6: promise myself that I'm just never gonna let that stop
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Speaker 6: me from doing something, whether it's I don't know, taking
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Speaker 6: the photo on the day where you feel like shit
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Speaker 6: and then you look back on it in like a
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Speaker 6: year's time and you.
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Speaker 2: Looks like it's wild.
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Speaker 6: So yeah, I think especially with age, like I'm I
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Speaker 6: just turned twenty nine almost, I'm like.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, terrifying.
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Speaker 6: I just feel like I look back on memories often
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Speaker 6: and I'm just like, oh, imagine if I hadn't have
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Speaker 6: done that or whatever.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: I think confidence will always come and go, but you've
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Speaker 6: just got to like stick with it and know that
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Speaker 6: you have won life and don't let anything stops you
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Speaker 6: and what you want to do.
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Speaker 5: I think that's a good way to look at it
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Speaker 5: as well, because you know how there's like the positive
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Speaker 5: way of being. Like you know when you've got a
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Speaker 5: really fucking good outfit and you're like, yeah, this hits
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Speaker 5: this slabs and you're walking around like on water cookie
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Speaker 5: it do or off its hinges. But you know, when
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Speaker 5: you plan the outfit in your head and it's supposed
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Speaker 5: to look really good and then you put it on,
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Speaker 5: you're like fuck yeah, And I feel like nothing knocks
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Speaker 5: your confidence more than that when the outfit you're planned
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Speaker 5: in your head doesn't line up to like the mysim's version, yeah,
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Speaker 5: and you're like.
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Speaker 6: You're standing in your room, yeah yeah, and as much
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Speaker 6: as we want to say how we look doesn't tap
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Speaker 6: into our confidence.
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Speaker 4: Like when that happens, it feels like self sabotage.
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Speaker 5: How do you like pull your brain out of that
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Speaker 5: and be like, fuck this, I'm gonna be confident.
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Speaker 6: Well, I think, first of all, confidence does come from within,
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Speaker 6: because like on that note, it's all like relative to
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Speaker 6: how you think. Right, someone else could see that outfit
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Speaker 6: and be like that is the fucking coolest outfit I've
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Speaker 6: ever seen, and like, who are you doing it for?
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Speaker 2: Like other people or you? So I think like you
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Speaker 2: can look.
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Speaker 6: Confident at confident and feel confident and show that and
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Speaker 6: push through that like feeling of oh my god, I
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Speaker 6: look like shit, do you?
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Speaker 2: Or like is that all in your head?
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Speaker 3: Do you?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 6: And also I think like at that moment, let's see,
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Speaker 6: you're standing in front of your mirror, you feel like shit,
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Speaker 6: outfit hasn't worked whatever it is. You have two choices, right,
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Speaker 6: I mean three, find a different outfit and look better,
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Speaker 6: or if you have to stand this outfit, you either
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Speaker 6: have a shit time and then you're actually like self sabotaging.
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Speaker 2: And ruining even more. You're the only one who.
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Speaker 6: Is like going to be affected by it or yeah,
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Speaker 6: you just get on with it and have night and then,
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Speaker 6: like I said, you're gonna look back at it in
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Speaker 6: a year's time and think you look fucking good, Like realistically.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, you're My favorite thing is I was watching I
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Speaker 5: think it was like a hale. You were showing some
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Speaker 5: outfits and in it you're like, you're gonna hate this.
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Speaker 2: You like to the game and you're like, you're not.
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Speaker 5: Gonna like it.
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Speaker 4: I guess what I really do, and that's what matters.
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Speaker 6: I'm just like, especially some of my fashion choices, like
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Speaker 6: I like to experiment, and I think that's why fashion
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Speaker 6: is so fun, because like you put the funny shoes
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Speaker 6: on that everyone hates, and at the end of the day,
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Speaker 6: he said, what they come off and we've all got
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Speaker 6: bare feet.
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Speaker 2: Or sock some bit, do you know what I mean? Like,
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Speaker 2: it's it's just clothes.
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Speaker 6: Like if you want to try something, just do it.
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Speaker 6: It's coming off, and like whatever, if you decide you
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Speaker 6: don't like it after wear it once, I mean, not
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Speaker 6: great for the environment, and we don't con in doing that,
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Speaker 6: but then wear something else.
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Speaker 2: Like you give it a shot. It's it's just clothes.
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Speaker 2: It's not that serious.
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Speaker 6: And so when I decide to, you know, like pick
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Speaker 6: something up or show it in a hall on TikTok,
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Speaker 6: like I already know the people that get it and
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Speaker 6: the people that don't and the people.
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Speaker 4: That don't care.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, like it might like I get it, yeah exactly,
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Speaker 5: but I might not wear it, but I love That
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Speaker 5: sounds so condescending.
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Speaker 2: I might not, but I love that you do.
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Speaker 5: So yeah, I have been like they understand free will. Yeah,
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Speaker 5: and that's like where confidence comes from, especially I think
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Speaker 5: with fashion and playing around free will.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Honestly, have you always been like that or do
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Speaker 3: you feel like that's taken time to have that confidence
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Speaker 3: and self assurance?
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Speaker 2: Like, well fuck it if nobody else likes.
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Speaker 4: It, I like it, and I'm comfortable because.
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Speaker 2: You have some iconic looks. Rightly, Oh thank you.
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Speaker 6: I feel like I've always had it, like, especially growing
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Speaker 6: up being the bigger friend. I would always have to
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Speaker 6: like have Mum like sew me up something for an
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Speaker 6: of vin or like I was wearing like a skirt
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Speaker 6: as a top, Like I was always doing different things,
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Speaker 6: and I always remember like I have never liked to
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Speaker 6: blend in like on mufty days at school, like I
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Speaker 6: will be playing my foot and I'll make sure it's
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Speaker 6: like something different, like I don't want to blend them.
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Speaker 6: So I think that's kind of been something that has
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Speaker 6: repeated itself throughout my life. But I do think that
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Speaker 6: in the last couple of years, I can look back
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Speaker 6: on things like a year ago and be like, I'd
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Speaker 6: still wear that, whereas when I was younger, like I'll
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Speaker 6: look back on things and be like, oh, she gave
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Speaker 6: it a go.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. When I look back though on things that I'm like, oh,
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Speaker 5: I can always like, nine times out of ten, I
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Speaker 5: think I was wearing that for someone else. Like if
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Speaker 5: I look back on something that I'm like, that's the choice.
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Speaker 5: I think it's because I was following what was cool
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Speaker 5: a yeah, or what I thought like I should wear,
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Speaker 5: or I was dressing for other people to get to
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Speaker 5: get confidence, which is like low quality confidence yeah right,
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Speaker 5: rather than for my own.
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Speaker 4: Whereas now I think and you guys will get this.
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Speaker 5: As we get older, we experiment and we play with
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Speaker 5: more that I'm like, if I'm reaping cowboy boots, no
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Speaker 5: one can touch me and untouchable.
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Speaker 6: You're just more like self assured, hey, like you know
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Speaker 6: who you are and like, yeah, if someone doesn't like
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Speaker 6: what you're wearing, You're like, well, I'm still me, and
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Speaker 6: like you can hate my boots, but you can't not
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Speaker 6: the cowboy birds allegal cowboy bears, not like cowboy boots honestly.
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Speaker 2: So we've kind of already touched on it lightly.
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Speaker 5: But you've been very open about your journey with body image.
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Speaker 5: What pivotal moments help you shift from focusing about changing
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Speaker 5: the way you look or losing weight to self worth.
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Speaker 6: I think there was definitely a moment there where I
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Speaker 6: had my Instagram going and I lost a bunch of weight,
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Speaker 6: and I kind of got to a point where I mean,
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Speaker 6: I don't think I've ever been skinny in my life,
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Speaker 6: Like I literally have been like a bigger girl my
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Speaker 6: entire life, so I don't actually know what it's like
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Speaker 6: to be skinny, but I was definitely skinny for me,
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Speaker 6: and I kind of got to that point and I
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Speaker 6: remember like looking at photos and being like, oh, like
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Speaker 6: why did I.
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Speaker 2: Think my entire life going to change when I like
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Speaker 2: look different?
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Speaker 6: So I think that was definitely a moment, But my
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Speaker 6: whole life I've just kind of like been you know,
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Speaker 6: I'll jump on that weight loss thing and growing up
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Speaker 6: that was just the vibe. I feel like it wasn't
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Speaker 6: until that point when I did that whole like you know,
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Speaker 6: get to that point where finally, I guess like if
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Speaker 6: you can relate to that and you've like tried to
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Speaker 6: kind of yo yo diet your whole life and like
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Speaker 6: finally lose weight, that that was a point where I
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Speaker 6: was like, oh hmm, okay, like still me, life is life,
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Speaker 6: and like I'm just gonna kind of look after my
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Speaker 6: body no matter what I look like, and it's not
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Speaker 6: about what I look like, but also like I can
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Speaker 6: look good at any size. I think like that was
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Speaker 6: for It's not so much about like going you know,
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Speaker 6: I'm just gonna like I don't have to look like
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Speaker 6: I don't have to look a certain way.
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Speaker 2: I can look whatever. Like I can also look great
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Speaker 2: at a size.
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Speaker 6: Eighteen and whatever size I was when I lost the weight,
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Speaker 6: And it's just that era of your life. Like often
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Speaker 6: people all in love with like you know, pilates and
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Speaker 6: get into that and they might tone up or lose
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Speaker 6: weight without actually trying to and that's just the error
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Speaker 6: of their life. And then find a new partner. You
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Speaker 6: do the you know, going out for dinner dates all
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Speaker 6: the time, and it's just that eerror of your life
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Speaker 6: where you might put on a bit more weight. And
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Speaker 6: I just think, like, if we focus so much on
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Speaker 6: how our body looks all the time, it's exhausting, Like
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Speaker 6: it literally is so exhausting. So yeah, I think there's
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Speaker 6: definitely points in my life where I've gone like, oh,
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Speaker 6: like little light bulb moments. But I think I'm always
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Speaker 6: going to have that in my brain. I'm never going
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Speaker 6: to get to a point where I'm not like, oh,
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Speaker 6: you know, I don't look at my body a certain
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Speaker 6: way or it's just as what it is. I'm a
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Speaker 6: bigger girl. Of course society is gonna look at me
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Speaker 6: some type of way. But yeah, I just I don't know.
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Speaker 6: I think I'm just like, fuck it, I've.
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Speaker 2: Got one life, one life.
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Speaker 6: I'm not gonna not do stuff because of the way
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Speaker 6: that society thinks I should should and shouldn't look.
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Speaker 3: Exactly, And especially as we're and like I'm already in
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Speaker 3: my thirties, you guys are in your late twenties. Like
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Speaker 3: that pressure to look a certain way only gets more
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Speaker 3: and more difficult to reckon with as you grow older.
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Speaker 5: I think it's a slippery slope, like a bit different.
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Speaker 5: But like I started getting lip filler when I was
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Speaker 5: like eighteen and one, Like I've spoken about this before,
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Speaker 5: and I'm like, eighteen year old.
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Speaker 2: Should absolutely not be able to get lip filler.
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Speaker 5: Because I just went down like the biggest train of
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Speaker 5: like that's not enough. Now I've got to get this,
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Speaker 5: and I'm now going to get this. I looked like
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Speaker 5: handsome squid.
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Speaker 4: Word like it was a couple of months was fucked.
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Speaker 5: I had pointy cheeks, bro Like I looked like malefison
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Speaker 5: and not in a cundy way, like it was like
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Speaker 5: an angel, but like it was scary, and like what's
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Speaker 5: worse is that I look at those photos.
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Speaker 4: And I'm like who is that? Like who is that?
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Speaker 5: Because genuinely, you just stop seeing yourself, like it's like
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Speaker 5: you're hiding behind this thing.
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Speaker 4: And I truly thought once I was.
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Speaker 5: Pretty, I would be confident, and it was like this
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Speaker 5: thing that I never ever got confident until I dissolved
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Speaker 5: all of it and I was like, oh, I'm good,
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Speaker 5: and like now I have like I have botox and
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Speaker 5: a little bit of it filler now and stuff like that.
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Speaker 5: But going down and having that journey, which I think
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Speaker 5: when you said the light bulb moments, I just related
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Speaker 5: to you, and you still have moments like I'll still the
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Speaker 5: moments where I'm like, I.
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Speaker 6: See she was so many Like we're constantly consuming hey,
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Speaker 6: like scroll got like something done?
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Speaker 5: No? Maybe, like I always constantly have to check myself
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Speaker 5: with stuff like that.
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Speaker 4: And I kind of like what you're saying. I don't
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Speaker 4: ever think it's like, oh, done, because the world would
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Speaker 4: go into.
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Speaker 5: The pits because I'd be like, how will we get
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Speaker 5: women to shop here.
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Speaker 2: If they're confident?
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Speaker 1: Yeah?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so true.
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Speaker 3: But I think knowing that and almost using that as
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Speaker 3: a form of rebellion, yeah, because that can give you
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Speaker 3: the fire to be like, fuck you, I'm just going
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Speaker 3: to do whatever I want.
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Speaker 2: And something that I absolutely love.
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Speaker 3: That you said is that you can look beautiful and
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Speaker 3: cool no matter what size you are or no matter
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Speaker 3: how you look, really, and it is about that confidence
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Speaker 3: and giving yourself permission and the free will to play
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Speaker 3: with style. Do you have any tips for anybody out there,
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Speaker 3: regardless of what they look like, but who thinks like
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Speaker 3: I can't wear that until I look like this, but
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Speaker 3: they want to play with their style?
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Speaker 6: Yeah, I think you obviously, like in order to feel confident,
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Speaker 6: you also have to look good to you, Like what
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Speaker 6: we're saying, on those days where you put an outfit on,
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Speaker 6: you're just like I actually can't even bear this. Then
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Speaker 6: you're gonna have to really like push yourself through that.
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Speaker 6: So I think, like find that comfort zone and just
17:00
Speaker 6: push that little bit outside of it. Like I know
17:02
Speaker 6: some people, I see tiktoks all the time about you know,
17:05
Speaker 6: outfits to hide your arms, Like lots of people have
17:09
Speaker 6: insecurities about their arms, and people come up with great
17:11
Speaker 6: ideas to like ease people, and like, you know, you
17:13
Speaker 6: can wear like those little I mean, I've got a
17:16
Speaker 6: cardi on today, Like there's ways just push outside your
17:21
Speaker 6: comfort zone. But then just remember, like you're gonna you
17:24
Speaker 6: can wear something else tomorrow that makes you feel more confident,
17:27
Speaker 6: Like just.
17:28
Speaker 2: Do it, try and push through the day, see how
17:31
Speaker 2: you feel.
17:31
Speaker 6: Another thing is like being around people that are supportive
17:34
Speaker 6: and like choose your moment. If you want to experiment
17:36
Speaker 6: when you're going out with the friends that make you
17:38
Speaker 6: feel the best, do it there, yeah, or like wear
17:41
Speaker 6: it around the house, like take pics in the mirror,
17:44
Speaker 6: practice your poses at home before you go out and
17:46
Speaker 6: take pecks like.
17:46
Speaker 4: I do that. Yeah, you have to come in the left.
17:49
Speaker 2: I'll be like, that's the one I say. Just give
17:51
Speaker 2: it a go, push it outside that little comfort zone.
17:53
Speaker 6: It's just clothes, it's just make up, it's just fashion. Whatever,
17:57
Speaker 6: take it off at the end of the day.
17:58
Speaker 4: Yeah.
17:58
Speaker 5: And I also read this once and it was like,
18:00
Speaker 5: you're not a bad feminist, but not feeling confident either.
18:04
Speaker 4: Like sometimes I think we get in our heads because
18:07
Speaker 4: we are so supportive.
18:08
Speaker 5: Of other women that when we're applying it to ourselves,
18:10
Speaker 5: we're like, fucking my failure. Like if you feel self
18:12
Speaker 5: conscious about wearing your arms out and you're like, but
18:15
Speaker 5: you would never see that on someone else, you can
18:17
Speaker 5: kind of internalize that a bit and be like, oh,
18:18
Speaker 5: I'm a bad feminist or I'm not body positive.
18:20
Speaker 4: Or anything like that.
18:21
Speaker 5: I like that tip because it's like it's okay, you
18:23
Speaker 5: don't have to be at the end results straight away.
18:26
Speaker 6: No, and like you can beat the end result on
18:29
Speaker 6: one day and then the next day you're not going to.
18:30
Speaker 2: Be like it's yeah, it's a whole thing.
18:33
Speaker 6: And I also think so many of us think people
18:37
Speaker 6: think things about us when they don't. Like it's like
18:39
Speaker 6: when you think, oh my god, that person's looking at
18:41
Speaker 6: me this way. Like I have a real like anxiety
18:44
Speaker 6: with the gym, Like I don't like going by myself,
18:47
Speaker 6: like I liked it once I'm in there, I'm fine,
18:48
Speaker 6: but it's just like getting in.
18:49
Speaker 2: Getting it and I can't do it, but I'd rather go.
18:53
Speaker 6: And so I I always like the other day I
18:56
Speaker 6: see to him. I was like, like, the big gimman
18:59
Speaker 6: are gonna think I'm fair and ugly? And he was like,
19:02
Speaker 6: they haven't said there and they're probably not even thinking it,
19:04
Speaker 6: like you have made that up about them. So like
19:06
Speaker 6: obviously I was having like a you know, low body
19:08
Speaker 6: confidence day or whatever it is, and I was like, wait, yeah,
19:12
Speaker 6: like I've literally made that up, like I am the
19:14
Speaker 6: problem here. Yeah, Like it's actually not someone else saying it.
19:18
Speaker 4: Yeah, so no one cares as much as you do.
19:20
Speaker 3: Yeah, And you did touch on it briefly before, But
19:24
Speaker 3: you transition from being working as a paramedic into doing
19:28
Speaker 3: content creation full time and then launching several successful small
19:32
Speaker 3: businesses off of the back of that.
19:33
Speaker 2: How did you get through that?
19:35
Speaker 3: Firstly, because I'm sure that would have been you would
19:38
Speaker 3: have had a lot of like conversation with yourself, like, well,
19:40
Speaker 3: I've spent all this time studying, Like it's a big risk.
19:43
Speaker 3: So do you have any advice for anybody else who
19:45
Speaker 3: was thinking of like making the jump between careers and
19:48
Speaker 3: how did you get through that?
19:49
Speaker 2: Yeah?
19:50
Speaker 6: I think for me, I sat on it for a
19:53
Speaker 6: long time. I also spoke to like my colleagues, my friends.
19:58
Speaker 6: I didn't speak to my parents straight away because I
19:59
Speaker 6: kne that they would be like, what are you doing?
20:02
Speaker 6: So I got lots of different opinions. I looked forward
20:07
Speaker 6: into the future and thought like will I regreat if
20:10
Speaker 6: I make this decision, or will I regret for making
20:12
Speaker 6: this decision.
20:13
Speaker 2: I also it was obviously a risk to.
20:16
Speaker 6: Leave, you know, a job, which like when you get
20:18
Speaker 6: into paramedism where I was working, it's like you kind
20:22
Speaker 6: of just stay in it your whole life, Like it's
20:23
Speaker 6: hard to get the job and then you just people
20:26
Speaker 6: stay there till they retire. Yeah, So I knew that
20:29
Speaker 6: that like that would be my life or I you know, I.
20:33
Speaker 2: Was so young, I was what twenty three, right, twenty two?
20:37
Speaker 6: Yeah, and I was just like I just I'm getting
20:40
Speaker 6: like offered to go overseas on these trips and like
20:43
Speaker 6: I've always want to do that.
20:44
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, if I don't do this,
20:45
Speaker 2: I'm going to regret it.
20:46
Speaker 6: I made sure that I had like contracts lined up
20:50
Speaker 6: before I left, so I had myself in that way.
20:54
Speaker 6: But I also think, like you just have to make
20:57
Speaker 6: like a calculated jump, like a calculated risk, and like, Okay,
21:01
Speaker 6: can I get back into you know, what I was
21:03
Speaker 6: doing before if I really want to, Yeah, it'll be hard,
21:05
Speaker 6: but like I've got my degree, so I can get
21:08
Speaker 6: back into it, but I'd have to stay for a
21:10
Speaker 6: very long time to pick all of that back up.
21:12
Speaker 5: Did you ever have like an identity crisis with leaving
21:14
Speaker 5: that job? You know how some people like can feel
21:17
Speaker 5: like their identity is really tied to what they do,
21:20
Speaker 5: and you can say no, like.
21:21
Speaker 2: No, I was so young, and I don't think I
21:24
Speaker 2: was doing it long enough.
21:25
Speaker 6: Like I studied for four years and then I yeah,
21:28
Speaker 6: went into my internship and I was working full time
21:31
Speaker 6: like when I got the job for six months, so like.
21:34
Speaker 2: I early in my career.
21:36
Speaker 6: Really yeah, But I think, like it's so weird because
21:40
Speaker 6: never in a million years would I even think this
21:42
Speaker 6: would even be a job that I do or like
21:46
Speaker 6: a job that I could do let alone, like a
21:48
Speaker 6: job that actually exists ever, because like it wasn't when
21:51
Speaker 6: I started doing Instagram. But when I look back into
21:54
Speaker 6: my interests when I was in school, like I finished
21:58
Speaker 6: art a year early because I was really like creative
22:01
Speaker 6: and that side of things, and then my top subjects
22:04
Speaker 6: were like pe and drama. So like, as much as
22:07
Speaker 6: it's like wild every single opportunity I even get, I'm
22:09
Speaker 6: still just like how is this real?
22:11
Speaker 2: Am I in a simulation? Right now? It also just
22:13
Speaker 2: feels really right, do you know what I mean?
22:16
Speaker 6: So like I feel like maybe parimieds and like, yes,
22:18
Speaker 6: I love the job, and you know, I went and
22:21
Speaker 6: like obviously had to figure out what I wanted to
22:22
Speaker 6: do and like did ride alongs and I studied for
22:24
Speaker 6: so long and did lots of placements and chefs.
22:26
Speaker 2: And I loved it and I loved aspects of it.
22:29
Speaker 6: But like what I'm doing now is me Like it
22:32
Speaker 6: really feels right. So yeah, I feel like I didn't
22:35
Speaker 6: have an identity crisis.
22:36
Speaker 5: I was a baby imposter syndrome gets thrown around so much,
22:41
Speaker 5: but like you work so fucking hard and you do
22:44
Speaker 5: a very great and good job of making it look
22:48
Speaker 5: very natural and very and I'm sure it is like
22:51
Speaker 5: I'm sure a lot of this comes to you very natural,
22:53
Speaker 5: but you do work incredibly hard that I think that
22:55
Speaker 5: is a great way to counter the imposter syndrome with confidence,
23:00
Speaker 5: like yes, like these opportunities are here, but it's not
23:03
Speaker 5: by accident, like I show up every single day and
23:06
Speaker 5: like do what I do. And speaking of that, we
23:08
Speaker 5: have to talk about Remy by Riley, because.
23:11
Speaker 4: Like that obsessed like every other change.
23:15
Speaker 5: Actually, I'm like, this is like the most iconic trio.
23:19
Speaker 5: It's like you guys have to do fun, like some
23:22
Speaker 5: absolutely diabolical Halloween fits this year or something like that.
23:26
Speaker 6: We lift a ways to last minute last year, but
23:29
Speaker 6: I feel like we need to like a Halloween party
23:30
Speaker 6: or something.
23:32
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have so much fun.
23:33
Speaker 6: And obviously I started, well, not obviously, I started the
23:35
Speaker 6: brand twenty twenty and it was started as active wear
23:38
Speaker 6: and then it kind of went more into swimwear and
23:40
Speaker 6: now we do swim and like our comfy tracksuits and
23:43
Speaker 6: all the things.
23:44
Speaker 2: But a result were and I were actually well got.
23:46
Speaker 3: A list club with the accessories.
23:51
Speaker 2: Don't for years the Jewelry, High Tide, Shout Out Jazz.
23:56
Speaker 4: Yeah.
23:56
Speaker 6: No, it's like obviously a really creative outlet for me,
23:59
Speaker 6: and I started it because I didn't have my sizes
24:02
Speaker 6: and the clothes that I wanted to wear.
24:03
Speaker 2: So there's always that story there.
24:05
Speaker 6: But the community that we've been able to build, like
24:07
Speaker 6: over the last year has just been so fun, Like
24:10
Speaker 6: all the little events that we do when we get
24:11
Speaker 6: to Media Roun, like we just did the cafe pop up.
24:13
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, E run's so funny.
24:15
Speaker 6: Hey, Like I actually like they're all our friends essentially
24:18
Speaker 6: at the end of the day, Like they watch us
24:19
Speaker 6: and they think we're funny, and then like we're the
24:22
Speaker 6: same humor.
24:23
Speaker 2: And it's just yeah, it's really cool.
24:25
Speaker 5: How have you like, would you have any tips for people,
24:28
Speaker 5: because I feel like you guys have kind of set
24:30
Speaker 5: a tone within the industry now, like when you see
24:33
Speaker 5: people are hiring, they're like, we want like the Remy
24:35
Speaker 5: by Riley.
24:36
Speaker 4: The Fate, the like the EGC content vibes.
24:39
Speaker 5: Do you have any tips for small business owners or
24:43
Speaker 5: people who want to get into being a creator on
24:45
Speaker 5: how they can tap into authenticity online?
24:49
Speaker 2: Yeah.
24:49
Speaker 6: I think obviously social media is amazing because it's free advertising, right,
24:54
Speaker 6: Like every video that you put out, there's the potential
24:58
Speaker 6: for it to go viral and completely chain your brand's
25:01
Speaker 6: life and your life, like you see sixty stories like
25:03
Speaker 6: that happen all the time. But in saying that, like
25:05
Speaker 6: it doesn't always happen overnight, and you do have to
25:07
Speaker 6: put that effort in. I think when you said authenticity,
25:11
Speaker 6: like that is the main thing. I feel like you
25:13
Speaker 6: can see straight through when like, of course everyone jumps
25:16
Speaker 6: on trends, and that's like the whole thing about social media, right,
25:18
Speaker 6: especially TikTok, Like you'll see the same video a.
25:21
Speaker 2: Million times off.
25:24
Speaker 6: Yeah, So I think having that authenticity to jump on
25:27
Speaker 6: trends because they are like what your vibe is.
25:32
Speaker 2: Obviously find it fun, yes, and it's still showing your personality.
25:36
Speaker 6: Like if you're just jumping on a trend and it's
25:38
Speaker 6: just the trend, like you're very rarely going to get
25:41
Speaker 6: good views because it's not like there's got.
25:43
Speaker 2: To be something else.
25:44
Speaker 6: Yes, But I also think just like having a really
25:47
Speaker 6: great team, like if you all get along generally and
25:51
Speaker 6: it's like so funny and it's the like riffing in
25:53
Speaker 6: the band, like most of our skits. We literally just
25:56
Speaker 6: come up with them on like will be talking and
25:59
Speaker 6: we'll say something, I'll be like, wait, we need a
26:00
Speaker 6: film that Like, So it's it's that authenticity and I
26:05
Speaker 6: think just have fun with it, like it's not that serious.
26:08
Speaker 6: It's TikTok video.
26:09
Speaker 2: Put it up. You might get tim views, you might
26:10
Speaker 2: get tim million females.
26:12
Speaker 5: The key is like you can kind of get a
26:15
Speaker 5: bit like in your head being like what happens if
26:17
Speaker 5: you get two hundred views, It's fine, it doesn't matter, like,
26:20
Speaker 5: just keep going with it.
26:22
Speaker 4: Has there ever because you guys do pranks?
26:24
Speaker 2: He yes, has there.
26:25
Speaker 4: Ever been a prank those girls that was like that?
26:29
Speaker 5: You were like that was diabolical and I'm actually a
26:31
Speaker 5: little bit pissed off about it.
26:33
Speaker 6: Well, Maddie just literally FaceTime me, Oh my god, I
26:36
Speaker 6: was on my way here. She said that all the
26:39
Speaker 6: la boobuos that we run with lafufus, and I like
26:45
Speaker 6: that because we like so much money on those. I
26:47
Speaker 6: was like, have you seen any out like measure someone
26:50
Speaker 6: gets lafufu.
26:51
Speaker 2: I was like, that is like brand damaging, like two
26:54
Speaker 2: point h Yeah, that stressed me out. I was like,
26:56
Speaker 2: that's actually not funny.
26:57
Speaker 6: So yeah, she was FaceTime and she ticks because she
27:02
Speaker 6: tried to call me and I was like doing my bags.
27:03
Speaker 6: I was like I'm not now yeah, and she was
27:05
Speaker 6: like no, like.
27:06
Speaker 2: It's not good. I was like, oh my god.
27:09
Speaker 5: I just like actually have a serious conversation like when
27:12
Speaker 5: because naturally something has to go wrong sometimes and I'm
27:16
Speaker 5: like when, like maybe an order shipping is actually two weeks,
27:20
Speaker 5: like like does it take two hours to get to
27:23
Speaker 5: the point and being.
27:23
Speaker 2: Like no, no, no, it's I know.
27:27
Speaker 6: And even sometimes when I was like is this a prank? No, no, no,
27:29
Speaker 6: and then it is a prank, you guys, But yeah,
27:33
Speaker 6: we do have trustices. But I feel like when like
27:35
Speaker 6: it gets down to it, my sister's one that's organized.
27:38
Speaker 6: Vida is also like very like he's the one that
27:41
Speaker 6: brings us all back down to earth and like the
27:42
Speaker 6: jobs we have to do. But yeah, when we make
27:45
Speaker 6: our tiktoks and like when we're just like fucking about,
27:48
Speaker 6: it's hilarious. Like it's yeah, we almost need like headen
27:51
Speaker 6: cameras because I feel like the content would be like
27:53
Speaker 6: way funnier. We actually had like properly someone just filming
27:56
Speaker 6: our day, like I feel like, yeah, I agree with
28:00
Speaker 6: one listening.
28:01
Speaker 2: Yeah, hello, hullo.
28:04
Speaker 4: We've got three more questions.
28:05
Speaker 5: And I really want to include this because I think
28:07
Speaker 5: it's one of your most iconic series, and it's the
28:10
Speaker 5: unrealistic Running Diaries.
28:12
Speaker 4: Asking for a friend.
28:14
Speaker 2: How do you.
28:15
Speaker 5: Keep doing something or even start something that in your
28:18
Speaker 5: head you're like, I hate, I don't want to do this.
28:21
Speaker 4: Yeah.
28:21
Speaker 6: I think for me, like the dopamine pairing of like
28:27
Speaker 6: filming it and it's funny. That was what made me
28:29
Speaker 6: sort of like start it and stay with it for
28:32
Speaker 6: that first bit, Like when I first was like, oh,
28:34
Speaker 6: like I don't like this, but also I think making
28:37
Speaker 6: it enjoyable, like running and enjoyable, and my brain was
28:41
Speaker 6: like that can't be a thing, like I'm sorry, Like
28:43
Speaker 6: I can't even do it for thirty seconds without wanting
28:46
Speaker 6: to completely like never actually step foot in the Running
28:49
Speaker 6: show again. But I think I thought I knew all
28:53
Speaker 6: these things about running and you had to go really
28:54
Speaker 6: fast from the get go and all of that, and
28:56
Speaker 6: I forgot all about it and I started super so
28:59
Speaker 6: I still run super slow, like my pace is so slow,
29:02
Speaker 6: but I just keep going. And so I think it's
29:05
Speaker 6: a bit of a thing today, but pushing just that
29:08
Speaker 6: little bit outside your comfort zone and you can slowly
29:11
Speaker 6: build on it and you'll get better. And I feel
29:15
Speaker 6: like running has actually done a lot for my self
29:17
Speaker 6: confidence in terms of like what I can actually achieve
29:19
Speaker 6: if I push myself.
29:21
Speaker 2: Like that Nike run that I did in.
29:22
Speaker 6: Greece, when I had to do that, Yeah, I so
29:25
Speaker 6: that was my longest run at the time, and I
29:27
Speaker 6: also had they didn't realize my league of the race
29:30
Speaker 6: was like not really steep.
29:31
Speaker 2: Some people did proper hills, but mine was an incline
29:34
Speaker 2: and there was a bus following behind.
29:36
Speaker 6: Videos on the bus and he was just like, dude, like,
29:37
Speaker 6: you're she's gonna stop, Like she can't do it. And
29:40
Speaker 6: I had run six k's it was so hot, and
29:43
Speaker 6: I was I genuinely was like, I think I need
29:46
Speaker 6: to stop or I can just keep going and then
29:48
Speaker 6: pass out.
29:48
Speaker 2: And so maybe that's probably better if I just keep
29:50
Speaker 2: going and give.
29:52
Speaker 6: It up technically, But yeah, finishing that, I was like,
29:56
Speaker 6: holy shit, like I can actually do some really fucking
29:59
Speaker 6: hard things if I put myself. So, yeah, running has
30:01
Speaker 6: really helped my confidence just in all the things that
30:05
Speaker 6: I find hard.
30:07
Speaker 2: But yeah, I think running can be for everyone, Like.
30:09
Speaker 6: Just go so make it fun, talk about other things
30:12
Speaker 6: that like take your mind off it if you need
30:14
Speaker 6: to listen to your music list podcast.
30:16
Speaker 2: Hey, And again.
30:18
Speaker 4: No one cares.
30:19
Speaker 5: Like it was the same, and I would think that
30:22
Speaker 5: you had to run so much faster than you would
30:24
Speaker 5: have to run.
30:25
Speaker 4: And my boyfriend also.
30:27
Speaker 5: Was like the parallel play of his so you do it,
30:31
Speaker 5: And he taught me this thing called the rob shuffle
30:33
Speaker 5: and it's basically way you just shoffle feet on the
30:35
Speaker 5: ground and that's your running and you just kind of
30:36
Speaker 5: put a bit of a hop in it.
30:38
Speaker 2: And I call it the triple tip moving forward your feet.
30:43
Speaker 4: Basically just going up and down. You go a little
30:46
Speaker 4: bit for it.
30:47
Speaker 6: Time people walk past me sometimes likes that's very humbling.
30:55
Speaker 5: Exactly. Yeah, you're like as well live in Bondie, so
30:59
Speaker 5: like everyone's a fucking half marathon and I'm they're doing
31:01
Speaker 5: the rob shuffle.
31:02
Speaker 4: But again, no one fucking cares.
31:05
Speaker 5: And you think that it's gonna knock your confidence, that
31:09
Speaker 5: you're going slow or that you're not very good, but
31:11
Speaker 5: when you finish because you did something, you're like, I
31:15
Speaker 5: am the king of the world.
31:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, I am allowed.
31:18
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm better than everyone else.
31:20
Speaker 2: I could sign up for the Olympic. Yeah, literally, is
31:22
Speaker 2: that a door?
31:23
Speaker 5: I'm gonna kick it off its hinges, like but seriously,
31:26
Speaker 5: like six months later, you could be in Greece doing
31:29
Speaker 5: a run with fucking Nike. Okay, to wrap up this episode,
31:33
Speaker 5: quick fire question, what is the quickest way to kill
31:36
Speaker 5: your confidence?
31:38
Speaker 2: What's the cookest way to kill my confidence?
31:42
Speaker 6: I reckon like a stab to like, if no one
31:44
Speaker 6: laughs at my joke, that's done. I reckon to say
31:48
Speaker 6: something that you thinks you're a funny and just cricket
31:51
Speaker 6: tough crowd, like, yeah, that's urckon.
31:55
Speaker 5: I love I was like fully expecting like a comparison.
32:01
Speaker 2: My joke, you funny, we have a problem. Yeah, I
32:08
Speaker 2: love that. And what's the quickest way to give it
32:10
Speaker 2: a boost?
32:14
Speaker 5: I love that?
32:15
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. I'm so glad we got to
32:17
Speaker 2: do this in person.
32:19
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for fitting us in your busy,
32:20
Speaker 3: busy schedule, because we know that you are a busy
32:23
Speaker 3: business bitch. And for any of the chicks who aren't already,
32:27
Speaker 3: where can they follow you?
32:28
Speaker 2: And what do we need to keep an eye out for?
32:29
Speaker 6: Oh, you can follow me at what's my handle Raley
32:34
Speaker 6: j Instagram and I think it's Riley Heaps on Tiktic.
32:39
Speaker 2: And I'm getting married next year. We just locked on
32:41
Speaker 2: a date.
32:42
Speaker 5: We're going to have to have you back on for
32:44
Speaker 5: like a wedding episode vibes.
32:46
Speaker 3: Yes, congratulations, thank you.
32:51
Speaker 4: I can't going to be like, that's going to be
32:54
Speaker 4: my royal wedding.
32:55
Speaker 2: It's giving, giving Vogue. It's going to be the best
33:01
Speaker 2: day ever.
33:02
Speaker 3: But thank you so much for coming on again.
33:04
Speaker 2: We really appreciate it. And thanks to your chicks for
33:06
Speaker 2: having us in the ear holes we'd love to be.
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Speaker 3: Here, and to m I K.
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Speaker 1: Mate for making today's episode happened.
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Speaker 4: Bye chee, Bye Chicks.