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Finding Work-Life Balance | How to Avoid Burnout in an Always-On Culture · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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  Inside I shall end in a spider lands already.
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  Can't come up man to start the show.
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  All right, welcome to hot takes the Murph man coming to you live
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  here form from Porter Studios in El Paso, TX.
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  I am the Murph man and this is my Co host Connor.
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  How we doing today, Connor? Doing good today Murph man, how
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  you doing today? I'm doing pretty good.
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  I am doing pretty good. I got to tell you before I begin
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  the show, we're wearing our Crush Cancer team jerseys.
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  If you've been watching the show for a while, you know, my wife
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  passed away from cancer about almost 11 years ago.
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  And every October, we always wear pink as much as we can.
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  So you know one thing, since you're a football fan, Connor,
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  you know, football used to, everyone used to wear pink.
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  You know why they're not wearing pink now?
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  Why? Because they've gone to the
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  rainbow colors to support all cancers.
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  So people are saying, you know, like, oh, the NFL doesn't
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  support breast cancer anymore. No, they just chose to not focus
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  on breast cancer because there's other kinds of cancer, such as
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  the one I had skin cancer, right?
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  Yeah. So, yeah.
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  So it's one of those things that you really don't realize how
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  many people get cancer until you're part of that, that group,
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  right? How many people have you known
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  that that's what you had? Cancer?
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  Seven people. A handful.
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  A handful, right? With me, it's a lot more than
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  that. I had a friend of mine who had
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  testicular cancer and he's he passed in.
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  He's good now and then every time I see him, I always ask him
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  how he's doing. He says he's good.
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  So yeah, you know, you never know what's going on with it.
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  So we support Cancer October and if you wear pink on Wednesdays,
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  you are a He's yawning. If you wear pink on Wednesdays,
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  you are. AI don't know.
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  Mean girl wear pink on Wednesdays I've.
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  Never seen the movie. I know we were talking about
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  this last week. One Wednesday, I was on the
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  playground and I was wearing my pink jersey and someone walks by
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  and says, oh, I didn't know you were a mean girl.
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  I said, I'm not. I'm supporting cancer.
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  I made her feel so bad, so bad. But yeah, so it's one of those
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  things that get checked early for any cancer, anything.
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  You see, we had his godfather passed away from stomach cancer,
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  didn't even know anything was going on.
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  And he, you know, it just happened that fast.
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  So please, if you have some symptoms that are not normal, go
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  get checked. We would really appreciate that.
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  OK, but let's get back to the show today.
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  Before we begin also, I want to mention this is our show.
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  We are not experts. We are father and son.
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  We talk about whatever comes to mind and we try to stay on focus
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  on the show. But sometimes we get
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  sidetracked, like one time we talked about nuclear bombs
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  because we live close to refinery and we're if it
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  explodes the power of nuclear bomb, etcetera, etcetera.
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  So we get sidetracked a lot, but we're not experts.
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  And because we are father and son, sometimes we get a little
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  heated in our conversations and adult language might slip out.
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  We apologize for that in advance.
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  Right. And I want to say I keep getting
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  planned on TikTok because I don't have the AI content
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  overlay. You don't, huh?
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  I don't. That's why.
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  That is why I just realized that.
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  I just realized we don't have that.
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  Label. Label.
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  Wow, that solves our issues. That's well, maybe right.
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  I'll tell you what in the first break, we'll go ahead and add
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  that in there so only we can get get allowed to go out live.
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  But I say let's go ahead and get the show started and ignite
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  today's fuse. Welcome to Hot Takes with the
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  Murph Man. Today we are talking about
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  finding work life balance. How to avoid burnout in an
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  always on culture. In a world that glorifies
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  hustle, balance is a radical act.
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  This episode helps you protect your energy, set boundaries, and
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  build a life that includes both ambition and peace.
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  The fuse is lit Murph man, take the mic all.
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  Right, we are back. So episode 57, Finding work life
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  balance, How to avoid burnout. We are always on, we're always
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  doing something and that's why it's hard to turn it off before
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  you get home. You turn the TV on or you don't
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  and that was it. You didn't have people bothering
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  you on social media, all your friends texting you, chatting
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  with you, sending you stupid memes or GIFs or whatever.
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  We could unplug a lot easier now.
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  We can't. OK.
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  You know, in a world that glorifies hustle, balance is a
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  radical act because people don't balance their life.
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  And you can get burned out, you know?
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  And it doesn't have to be just work.
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  It's work life balance, school life balance, family and life
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  balance, you know? What do you think about couples
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  going out on nights separately? Lie away from each other.
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  Yeah, Good that that's healthy because you keep your friends
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  and he, you know, here he gets to keep his friends.
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  OK. Why is that important?
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  Well, sometimes you don't like their friends.
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  Yeah, that's the truth, right? Sometimes you don't like their
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  friends, so you don't want to hang out with them.
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  But at the same time, we don't want to make your spouse not
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  hang out with the people that they want to hang around with.
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  So you want to be real careful with that.
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  Because I'm telling you, I've been married 26 years, two
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  different women. The first wife, I wish I would
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  have done that more. I wish she would have done that
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  more. And she didn't.
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  So it's one of those things that I wonder if it would have
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  changed with the first wife. My second wife, we did that.
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  She'd go with her friends. I go with my friends.
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  I never, I always invited her to come out with me.
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  But when she went out with her friends, I I didn't want to go.
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  I loved her friends, you know that I told her.
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  But this is your time with your friends.
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  And I'll go out with my friends whenever I go out.
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  But it's OK if you hang out with me.
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  I don't really mind, you know? So learning how to balance that
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  work life is so important. Connor, you, you have no idea.
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  You know, at the same time, look at it the other way.
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  If you hang around too much with your friends, doing too much
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  partying, socializing, you lose focus on school.
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  So that's where the balance comes in.
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  It has to be both ways, OK? We have to be both ways.
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  And we have to be able to understand what life requires of
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  us. And that's what I hope to teach
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  everyone today. So I'll tell you what.
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  Let's get to today's burning question, and let's find out how
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  much Connor knows about effective ways of avoid burnout.
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  Today's burning question is what is the most effective way to
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  avoid burnout? A Taking a vacation.
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  B working longer hours to finish a project.
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  C Setting and communicating clear boundaries.
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  D Multitasking To get more done. Let's go to the Murph Man for
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  today's Flashpoint. All right, so we have a vacation
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  working longer setting and communicating, clear boundaries
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  and multitasking. What do you think it is, Connor?
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  I think it's C setting and communicating boundaries.
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  Very good. Because one of those things that
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  you have to do is set those boundaries because otherwise
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  you're going to let work take over your life.
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  And I will tell you when I was a counselor, that was the thing
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  that that would happen to me all the time is I had work to do and
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  then I always took a priority because I was a counselor and
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  kids lives matter to me. But 7:00 was my cut off, you
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  know, so, but I'd come home 6:00, maybe deal with any
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  emergencies or whatever. If it was an emergency at night,
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  I, I'd take care of it every now and then.
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  I had one, but it wasn't anything major, you know.
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  But after your mom passed away, I, I told you the story.
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  I was working a lot of hours trying to make up my numbers
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  because I spent a lot of time with her in the hospital.
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  And it was one day I was coming back from Fabian's 8 at night.
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  You were daycare and I just said his mom just died.
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  Why the hell is he in the daycare?
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  He needs to be with me. So went to my boss and said I
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  can't do this anymore and I need to leave.
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  And they let me go, you know, so that's what I loved, you know,
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  they let me leave and it, it affected our life in a lot of
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  ways, but my family life was more important to me at the
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  time. And, and it has always been my
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  priority and everything that I do, including this podcast, This
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  is why I started it. I don't know, they love giving
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  this advice. And after he took all my advice
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  and got to where he's at, I said, OK, let's share this with
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  other people. So that's what we've been doing.
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  But let's move on. And let's talk about today's hot
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  take. Yeah, all.
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  Right, let's let's hear what I have to say about this.
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  Today's hot take is this work life balance is a myth created
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  by managers to shift responsibility.
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  The goal is not balance, it's integration.
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  You have to actively build boundaries and systems that
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  protect your energy because your employer will always happily
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  take 100% of the time you offer. Murph, man, it's your turn to
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  fan the flames. All right, so the last sentence
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  in this phrase, OK, says you have to actively build
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  boundaries and systems that protect your energy because your
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  employer will always take 100% of your time that you offer.
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  And if you don't set, if you don't have the the boundary set
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  with your boss, you're not going to be able to work.
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  So that's one of those things that you got to be very careful
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  and understand that as you go forward, setting those clear
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  boundaries are very important. You know, can you do that in
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  your job interview, Connor? Can you say, hey, you know, I
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  can't work past five. Get used to it.
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  Yeah. You can I.
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  Mean you could. Will it be good?
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  Probably not. OK, true, you can do anything
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  you want. It's a free country, right?
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  But you're going to have consequences for your actions.
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  Yeah, I mean, it's not bad if you tell them your availability.
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  Well, right when you when you're discussing a job interview, you
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  want to tell them, OK, here is what I'm I'm able to do and not
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  able to do. And you want to be realistic
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  with them. You want to be truthful with
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  them. You want to be able to, to find
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  out what their, their schedules are because like for example, if
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  it says work from 7:00 to 3:00, that's where my schedule is
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  right now. Seven to three, OK.
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  And I go in at 7, sometimes a little bit early, right?
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  That is early. Oh yeah, but I'm like 5-5
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  minutes early if I'm if I'm up and I'm ready, I just and I work
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  at home. So I just walk over to the desk
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  right Or get a drink then go to the desk.
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  But at 3:00 I'm out. They don't ask me to stay after
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  3 o'clock. That's their.
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  They gave me the expectation. You're off at 3.
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  Now. I'm in clubs and I'm in.
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  I do things like we have a movie night that we play for National
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  Honor Society. We do different kinds of
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  activities where we share with the students and all that stuff.
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  So it's one of those things that you don't really realize it, but
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  you have to stay late sometimes. And we all understand that,
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  right? Yeah, but when you can't stay
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  late, like, for example, when I was counseling a kid and they
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  tell me they were suicidal and I had to go to the hospital with
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  them, what are we going to do? You know what I mean?
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  Yeah. So sometimes you're going to end
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  up staying late, and it's not easy, but it is what we do, you
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  know? But staying those clear
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  boundaries, saying, OK, so I understand occasionally I have
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  to work past three. I I get that.
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  How often do you, excuse me? How often do you expect that to
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  happen? And they say, oh, oh, it's very,
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  very rare. OK.
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  And what happens in the first two weeks?
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  I have to say three times I'd go to my boss and be like, when you
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  interviewed me, you told me it was going to be rare.
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  But now it's been 3 out of 10 already.
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  That's 30%. That's a lot.
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  You know, that's the same, that boundary.
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  And she might say, you know what?
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  Why are you staying late? What are you doing that you
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  can't manage your time inside work?
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  And she starts getting into managing stuff.
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  But doing that thing together and working together and seeing
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  those boundaries really sets the setup for everything.
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  So, you know, I, I think it's important to, to look at that
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  and understand this is what we have going on.
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  And I hope we're able to communicate our concerns.
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  OK, so I'll tell you what I'm going to communicate that we
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  need a break. OK, so.
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  We're going to take a break and when we come back, we're going
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  to talk about those terms that we're going to discuss on
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  So I hope everyone is took a real quick break, got some
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  drinks once the restaurant did what you had to do.
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  I hope it all worked out well for you.
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  You know we did, yeah. So one of those things that we
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  did was we were talking about the different times I've been
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  burned out because the Connor asked me like, Hey, so when have
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  you been burned out? And I'm like, well, that, that
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  all that matters a lot because there's so much going on, you
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  know, in life that I have those high stress jobs and I was
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  always getting burnt out. So it it was always an issue for
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  me forever and ever. I've always had an issue.
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  I was in the army. You never need your schedule in
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  the Army. You know you could.
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  Everything could be good and all of a sudden you go out and then
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  next thing you know, guess what? You are completely out and
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  before you know it, you're done for the day.
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  You know, sometimes they let you go early, but most of the time
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  it's right on time because the Army does run on time, right?
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  Yeah. So it's one of those things that
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  you, you got to really think about what I put it.
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  What do you consider a good balance, you know, because like
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  I said, if you can't handle it, you're going to get burnt down.
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  And we don't want that, do we? You know, So it's one of those
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  things where we can't really do that.
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  We hope that as as we move forward, OK, that we'll be able
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  to balance it a lot better as we learn the job.
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  You know, there's been some jobs that we have that totally just
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  it's too much. It's too much.
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  And you're like, damn, what did I do?
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  You know, and you know, right away if it's too much, you know,
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  to handle, don't you? Sometimes when you, well, when
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  you take a class and you're like, oh man, I'm going to hate
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  this class. I already know it based on what
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  the syllabus says. Not even the syllabus is like
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  the way the teacher acts. Honestly, yeah, that's true.
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  Sometimes if you have a good boss and good staff, you can put
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  up with more BS, yeah. Right, I I had to do that my
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  junior year in history. Yeah, you know.
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  Hated the teacher. I had my friends in there in a
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  group so we did everything together.
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  That's that's when they got me my meats on my history what not
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  star test my. EOC.
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  Yeah. EOC is end of course test for
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  those of you that don't know, students have to take that in
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  high school now so. And now there's something going
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  on with school, they have to take like a bigger test or
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  something instead of star test. No, they're, they're, they
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  already started that because Texas is trying to get rid of
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  the star test. So now they have more tests
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  throughout the semester and they test what they've been learning.
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  So it's it's a little different. It's not as much pressure as a
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  star test, but it is as much pressure as a star test.
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  Yeah, they're going to do instead of the star test, what I
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  saw that they were just going to do like a bigger PSAT and TSI
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  testing. Well P the PSATSATACT and TSA 2
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  are all tests you take for college.
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  You you suffice test by subject with the new testing.
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  The star test tests you by subject also.
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  So it's going to be different than the star test, but it's
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  still similar to that in that aspect.
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  It's not going to be all subjects at once, you know, But
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  yeah. So sometimes having the right Co
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  workers makes a difference. Sometimes having the right
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  teacher can make a difference. I had a student come in, I'm
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  covering a class right now for history actually.
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  And I asked him to come in to see me and we were talking and
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  he had to take a third test. I had to reteach him everything
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  and you know, like I told him, I don't know what your teacher
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  teaches you. What I do know is she uses these
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  notes that you have access to. So let's look at those notes and
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  we looked in those together and then he took the test and he
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  passed it with a 96, right. But the system took the other
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  two tests and averaged it in. So give him less than a 90
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  because you have to have a 90 to pass In our school.
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  That's what that's what's considered passing is 90.
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  It's a very high expectations. So he sends me an e-mail and
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  he's like, yo bro, check it. And then that was a subject
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  line. He's like, yo, I, I passed the
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  test. I thought now I can't, you know,
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  I was like, oh, I told him you're good.
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  You know, I fixed the grade for him.
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  But I just thought it was funny. He was like, yo bro, you know,
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  he had just made me that day. I don't know if he said that
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  with everybody or he felt comfortable with me, probably
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  both. You know, he doesn't know how to
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  or he had no social skills. Yeah, right.
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  That, that that's one thing teachers have to really deal
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  with at school right now is that we have to deal with all those
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  students who do not do their do their, what's it called, their
• 25:02
  job. Because you have all these
• 25:03
  students doing other stupid stuff.
• 25:05
  So yeah, it's it's it's not a fun thing, right?
• 25:11
  But I'll tell you what, let's talk about some of those terms
• 25:13
  in our statement called laying down the coals, and we'll
• 25:16
  discuss what we're going to be talking about today so you can
• 25:18
  get some more information and definitions of what we're
• 25:21
  talking about. Before we dig in, let's clarify
• 25:34
  some of the key terms we'll be using today while laying down
• 25:37
  the coals. Work life balance.
• 25:39
  The ability to manage work responsibilities while
• 25:42
  maintaining personal well-being. Boundary setting.
• 25:45
  Clearly defining what you will and won't accept in terms of
• 25:48
  time, energy and availability. Rest as productivity.
• 25:53
  Recognizing that rest isn't the opposite of work, it's what
• 25:56
  makes work sustainable. Now that the coals are laid,
• 25:59
  Murph man, let's discuss the foundation.
• 26:04
  Yes, let's discuss the foundation work life balance,
• 26:08
  boundary setting and rest is productivity.
• 26:10
  That's what we're going to be talking about today.
• 26:13
  Work life balance is the ability to manage work and
• 26:15
  responsibilities for maintaining personal well-being.
• 26:18
  Boundary setting, clearly defining what you will and won't
• 26:20
  accept in terms of time and energy and rest is productivity.
• 26:24
  Recognizing that rest isn't the opposite of work, it's what
• 26:28
  makes work sustainable. All right, you have to be able
• 26:32
  to work and do your life stuff. OK, A good example of that is
• 26:43
  washing dishes, right? You dirty dishes, if you don't
• 26:48
  wash them right afterwards and say I'll get them later, later,
• 26:52
  you're never going to get them. You're never going to get them.
• 26:54
  It's going to take, you're going to cook again the next day and
• 26:57
  be like, OK, I'll get them later.
• 26:59
  You know, and if you don't deal with it right then and there
• 27:02
  because you're always rushing, then that's something you have
• 27:04
  to really look at and understand that you really need to
• 27:07
  understand you have to do certain things on that day, you
• 27:13
  know, like a shower, right? I have to take a shower.
• 27:16
  OK, You know, I'll take a shower and go on and on and on, right?
• 27:20
  So the after that is when you're doing the work life balance is
• 27:25
  are you trying to do too much at once?
• 27:28
  And Connor, let me ask your opinion on this.
• 27:31
  Do I have a good work life balance in your opinion?
• 27:37
  No. Why not?
• 27:38
  All you do is work. All you do is work.
• 27:40
  All you do is work. Like give me an example of that.
• 27:43
  After school you go straight to the studio and you work on it
• 27:48
  till 10 in the afternoon. Most of the days you do it.
• 27:53
  Some days you're like you have an appointment to do or you're
• 27:59
  going out once in a while, but every time it's mostly you're at
• 28:04
  home after school, you do work. And I'll agree with you 99%.
• 28:08
  99%. 99% because I do that. I know I do that when I work
• 28:17
  from 7:00 to 3:00, right? Yeah, I'm doing the school job
• 28:21
  then I teach at the college. I have the grade papers there.
• 28:23
  So it takes an hour or two sometimes.
• 28:25
  And then I have to do stuff for the business that we're getting
• 28:27
  off the ground, doing contracts and all of that stuff, right,
• 28:29
  Getting it ready. And then at some point, I got to
• 28:32
  get the show ready for next week.
• 28:34
  I got to do all our clips. And you know, yeah, I'm doing
• 28:37
  too much. Yeah, but I need to do those
• 28:42
  things. But that's in a day.
• 28:45
  What you just described. You got to do that five times a
• 28:48
  day or five times a week. Sometimes I don't have to grade
• 28:53
  papers, sometimes I don't have to work on the contract,
• 28:55
  sometimes I don't have to work on the website.
• 28:58
  It's a it's a different task every day.
• 29:02
  So it's not, it's still work, right?
• 29:04
  For the studio, it's still work, but it's not the same thing day
• 29:08
  in, day out. I'm feeling contracts right now
• 29:11
  are what's taking my time. Yeah, I feel like you have done
• 29:13
  this though for the past week because.
• 29:15
  I'm trying to get the contract out because I haven't even
• 29:17
  tonight, so I want to be able to take in contract people.
• 29:22
  To people or to the venue? People, they want to hire me, I
• 29:27
  can tell them here's what we're going to.
• 29:28
  Do oh don't give them the whole packet at the event.
• 29:33
  Well, it's not the, there's different things and they have a
• 29:36
  contract that's different in the packet, the packets, I have a
• 29:38
  promotional packet to describe what I'm doing.
• 29:41
  I have a master agreement with the dance hall that they have to
• 29:44
  follow when they hire me. And then I have my individual
• 29:48
  contracts. That is that's where I can
• 29:49
  change things and say, OK, I'm not going to charge you this.
• 29:51
  I'll charge you this, I'll give you this discount or you want me
• 29:54
  to work on the holiday. Here's $75.00 fee.
• 29:56
  You have to pay extras or if it's a big event, 25% of the
• 30:00
  fee, whichever is greater, you know, and then I've, I've got it
• 30:05
  again, checked out with lawyers and I was on the phone to stay
• 30:07
  with lawyers. I had an accident and they
• 30:10
  didn't make claims. I have to work on that.
• 30:12
  So you see, life happens, you know, and there's times where I
• 30:17
  don't do anything like today, today's show.
• 30:20
  When did I work on it? Last night, last night, because
• 30:24
  I I had usually on my head a week or something.
• 30:27
  I've had, like he said, I've been doing this all week.
• 30:29
  This was a rough week for me. You know, I had to get my class
• 30:32
  started for next semester. I start Monday for Community
• 30:36
  College so I had to get my class ready for that.
• 30:39
  Why next week or next month? What'd you say?
• 30:43
  I start Monday. Yeah, why next week?
• 30:45
  I'm a mini Mr. in October. It's mid semester.
• 30:51
  Yeah. What did you just get done doing
• 30:52
  this week? Midterms.
• 30:56
  But you do. I thought mini master was just a
• 30:58
  month in December. No, there's that.
• 31:00
  No, there's a winter master, May master, which is here December,
• 31:03
  January and then and then May, May and June before the classes
• 31:08
  start in June. Those are May measures.
• 31:11
  There's mini measures that are 10 weeks, 8 weeks, 5 weeks that
• 31:16
  are different for every semester.
• 31:19
  I thought I always started in December for the winter and
• 31:22
  then. No, and I, I, I'd have too much
• 31:26
  to cover. You know, I, I have some
• 31:27
  teachers say we don't cover every chapter in the book.
• 31:30
  I do because it's general psychology or introduction
• 31:33
  psychology, right? There's a lot of people know it.
• 31:36
  And the 16 chapters are basically the chapters you can
• 31:41
  specialize in if you want to learn more about it.
• 31:43
  So like, for example, when I was in my master's program, every
• 31:47
  class you took, every chapter in general psychology was a class I
• 31:51
  took in my master's program. Like I studied the brain one
• 31:57
  time, the biology of the brain, but that was a whole semester
• 32:00
  course on the brain, right? And the brain's amazing.
• 32:08
  It's the stuff it does. It's just amazing.
• 32:09
  I know, but it's a pain. It is.
• 32:13
  Did you make a little play DoH project also?
• 32:15
  No, no, I didn't do that. But I will tell you what, many,
• 32:20
  many years later, that was in 1999, 16 years later, I'm, well,
• 32:29
  15 years later, I'm dealing with your mom having brain cancer.
• 32:32
  And she had to have surgery to remove some tumors, right?
• 32:34
  And she had to have radiology to remove some tumors.
• 32:37
  And as I was walking up to her, I waved at her and she waved
• 32:41
  back. And then I walked up to her and
• 32:44
  I said, so can you just move your hands and feet real quick?
• 32:47
  She says, yeah, I'm, I'm good. And she talked to me.
• 32:53
  So I tested her sight, her sound, because she was able to
• 32:57
  hear me, her feeling was able to move.
• 33:00
  I didn't taste her touch, you know, I mean, but then I held
• 33:03
  her hand and she held me back. I didn't go up to her and go,
• 33:06
  I'm going to hold your hand now. I just grabbed her hand and she
• 33:07
  squeezed. So I tested her five senses.
• 33:11
  And the nurse was standing there was like, you just do an
• 33:14
  assessment on her. I said, yeah, I did.
• 33:17
  You know, I had to know, you know, and of course the doctor
• 33:21
  would have told me if there was a problem, I hope.
• 33:23
  But with brain surgery, you never know.
• 33:25
  It swells and actually, and that's what end up causing her
• 33:28
  to pass away. It was the infection she got
• 33:30
  during the surgery and whatever, whatever.
• 33:32
  But we did do the the and every class is a class.
• 33:39
  So I believe you have to cover all 16 classes in general
• 33:41
  psychology because if you don't then someone wants to become a
• 33:44
  counselor that that one chapter you skip might be the one that
• 33:49
  would be best in. So intro to psychology, you
• 33:56
  talked about every class that has to do with psychology and
• 34:01
  one book. Yeah, you didn't do anything
• 34:06
  else. Your whole course was just that
• 34:09
  book. Yeah, I mean, my assignments and
• 34:13
  everything, they have to go somewhere else and look for
• 34:14
  information and everything. But yeah, it's just that one,
• 34:18
  the 16 courses. Why do you seem so confused?
• 34:23
  The audio cut out. It did, right?
• 34:27
  Yeah. We're we're back, so it doesn't
• 34:28
  matter. Hopefully they hear you.
• 34:32
  Yeah, they are. Let me take sounds over here
• 34:35
  real quick. And as we're talking here, we
• 34:42
  have yes it sound to drop out. It was weird, but so I covered
• 34:49
  all the chapters because that's the basis for everything, right?
• 34:54
  Yeah. And you need to be able to
• 34:57
  understand all the different chapters.
• 34:59
  So like when you took intro psych or engineering, you learn
• 35:02
  about different kinds of engineering, right?
• 35:08
  No, no. No, just basic concepts.
• 35:12
  OK. Like binary?
• 35:13
  When you took interest in computer science, you learn
• 35:17
  about networking, they learned about coding and thing.
• 35:23
  Whereas CCTE or like high school or college school, high school.
• 35:27
  Intro class, Yeah. So CCTE, OK, now, now you're in
• 35:30
  college and you're taking intro classes.
• 35:32
  What are you learning there? The same, honestly.
• 35:37
  Well, no, I lie. What is the same but?
• 35:39
  No, I lie. CCTE was so different because I
• 35:44
  was hardware and learning about computers.
• 35:47
  This is learning mostly about coding, like programming.
• 35:53
  And let me think, yeah, programming, we're actually
• 36:00
  doing more software than I did ever, right?
• 36:05
  We're just crazy. That's what computer science is,
• 36:08
  all coding. Well, but all the other topics
• 36:12
  that I did freshman year. Have you ever seen the Tik Toks
• 36:17
  where they talk about if the code works, don't touch it?
• 36:20
  Yeah, no, the train that goes off the track and comes back and
• 36:24
  gets on the track again. Yeah.
• 36:26
  You know, yeah. Sometimes there's no solution.
• 36:29
  You don't know what it is. It's just, you know, that's what
• 36:31
  makes coding so difficult, because 1 little letter
• 36:33
  difference can change the whole the whole meaning of the line.
• 36:39
  Now you tell it check out line 19 and you forget the one.
• 36:43
  I've never seen that. No one has ever talked about
• 36:47
  going to a starting line. I don't.
• 36:49
  I don't know where you I've never seen that.
• 36:52
  None of my teachers have talked about it yet.
• 36:54
  I don't know if I'm going to, but I've never.
• 36:58
  OK, let's see here. No, what you're going to search
• 37:01
  for is coding in the Commodore 64.
• 37:09
  This is an old computer, one of the first laptops that made it
• 37:11
  out. What is it, Commodore?
• 37:14
  What? Yeah, just Commodore and see if
• 37:16
  that's. And the Commodore 64 was built
• 37:20
  OK. And it's called BASIC and it it
• 37:25
  gave you all the commands here. This is in.
• 37:27
  List, Yeah, OK. Line 10.
• 37:30
  Line 30. See.
• 37:34
  OK. But well, if, if for example,
• 37:37
  there it says 147, right? If I didn't have 147, I only put
• 37:42
  47, that one wouldn't show up because literally it says print
• 37:47
  and then it says print, hello, right?
• 37:50
  And that's it. Those are lines, those lines of
• 37:56
  code. That's how it all started,
• 37:57
  Connor. Well, I know that, Sean, but
• 37:59
  you're saying, yeah, if you do like this on line 10, you go to
• 38:04
  line 16. Yeah, that doesn't show it
• 38:07
  there. Do a formula with go to line.
• 38:11
  So I was saying, you know, I, I learned computers when they
• 38:14
  first started and it's a basic formula.
• 38:20
  Basic is a language and right there, that code right there, it
• 38:27
  tells it to print hello and then go to 10, which is the first
• 38:31
  line. And what is happening, Connor,
• 38:33
  is that writes the word hello all over your screen, dude.
• 38:36
  Well, when the computer first started, you couldn't do a lot.
• 38:40
  We're just happy to like, I'd go in there and type in my
• 38:41
  girlfriend's name and put it on the computer and walk away and
• 38:44
  then show it to her, you know? Yeah, it's just.
• 38:47
  But that's the go to I was talking.
• 38:49
  About that, OK, so it's basically?
• 38:52
  Basic. It's a loop.
• 38:56
  OK, that makes sense. Well, it is a loop, but you can
• 39:00
  also program it to do a lot more.
• 39:02
  You that's a do while loop or just a while loop or if else.
• 39:09
  If else, yeah, like if then. Like if this you know print that
• 39:17
  else you print that else like else if print that.
• 39:21
  Yeah, the if, then stuff. If this is true, then you write
• 39:25
  this. If this is true, you say this.
• 39:27
  Yeah, but that's so it's basic. And that's what I've been
• 39:30
  telling him, you know? Yeah, my eyes, my allergies.
• 39:36
  And you want to know how to learn about all the different
• 39:37
  languages that were in computer at the time?
• 39:40
  How? Tron the game because all their
• 39:46
  levels were different languages until you got to user, which is,
• 39:54
  you know, the admin level. Really.
• 39:55
  Yeah, I was actually like, I could have entered the World
• 39:59
  Championship if if I knew how to get to it for Tron.
• 40:02
  I was really, really good at Tron.
• 40:04
  Like, amazingly good. I thought Tron was just the
• 40:08
  bikes. No, that's one, though.
• 40:11
  There's actually 4 four types of spiders.
• 40:14
  Then there's the cone, there's the bikes and the tanks.
• 40:16
  You know the tanks, the red ones that are right?
• 40:21
  Yeah. So the bikes they call tanks, I
• 40:23
  don't know what they're called like.
• 40:25
  Because there's actual tanks. Yeah, they look like tanks in my
• 40:28
  book. You know, I don't know if it was
• 40:31
  actually tanks or not. All I know is there's some games
• 40:33
  you had to like, play and kill to get to the to get safe.
• 40:37
  And there are some that you couldn't even bother killing go
• 40:40
  so fat you had to just dive into the spot.
• 40:42
  If you tried shooting 1, you died.
• 40:46
  God. And then the game Dragons Lair,
• 40:51
  we talked about something flashes, you have to move to it,
• 40:54
  you know, get code and there's we didn't have cheat codes back
• 40:58
  then. We had to learn it quarter by
• 41:00
  quarter. Well, there's still no cheat
• 41:02
  code for that game. What I could think of?
• 41:06
  Well, there's steps you can actually take.
• 41:07
  It'll tell you splice, jump down, go to The Cave, go here,
• 41:13
  you know it tells you. But Speaking of games, one of my
• 41:16
  favorite games is Street Fighter.
• 41:20
  Yeah, I still like mortal combat better, but yeah.
• 41:22
  I do too, but Street Fighter to me is the OG stuff and we saw
• 41:29
  the movie last night. So what do you think of the
• 41:31
  movie? 9 out of 10. 9 out of 10, yeah,
• 41:36
  I think it was a really good movie.
• 41:38
  And all the characters, the actors playing the characters.
• 41:43
  They did good, yeah. Well, but it was funny because
• 41:45
  like there was 1. I mean, I can, I can say their
• 41:48
  names. They they already know, right?
• 41:49
  It's not going to ruin the movie if I say their names.
• 41:54
  You see the actors name. Yeah, well.
• 41:57
  They know the actors names. But Guile was played by Cody
• 42:00
  Rhodes, the wrestler. And as soon as he came on
• 42:02
  screen, I'm like, Oh my God, that's Cody Rhodes.
• 42:04
  I, you know, I recognized him, right?
• 42:07
  And then Blasco was Mamoa. Jason Mamoa and I that that
• 42:13
  character is funny. It's just just Momo does a good
• 42:17
  job the way he presents the character.
• 42:19
  But the evil guy we both were like he looks familiar but we
• 42:21
  can't figure it out. The evil guy.
• 42:25
  Yeah, not not the one running the tournament, the bad energy
• 42:31
  guy. Bad energy guy.
• 42:34
  Oh yeah. He looked familiar and we didn't
• 42:37
  confirm till very end it was Roman Reigns.
• 42:40
  You shouldn't have stopped. That why?
• 42:42
  Again, we didn't know it till the end.
• 42:47
  Well, no, he looked familiar. We just couldn't play.
• 42:49
  Yeah, I'm not giving away anything from the movie.
• 42:51
  Even then you still couldn't tell it was just that good of
• 42:55
  CGI. Well, yeah, that.
• 42:57
  Well, yeah, but he still look familiar.
• 42:59
  Yeah. But you know, it's a good movie.
• 43:02
  It is a good movie. And the actors did a good job, I
• 43:04
  think. They did, yeah.
• 43:07
  You know, but old games, and there's actually a TikTok I'll
• 43:12
  send you, there's a computer that took the steps the computer
• 43:19
  was taking and map them out. So like, for example, the
• 43:24
  computer would say in this 4th of a frame, it did this move
• 43:30
  this many centimeters away, this many millimeters, you know,
• 43:33
  whatever the case was. And it would actually test its
• 43:35
  theory by playing the other character against it.
• 43:39
  Like, for example, there's some games you can play.
• 43:41
  And I had a, I've had a friend who actually will do this
• 43:44
  nationally. He was a gamer and he says, you
• 43:48
  know, when you're watching the game, you can see the split
• 43:51
  second that you have to hit the button.
• 43:53
  If you go before or after, you'd lose.
• 43:56
  So this computer program actually programmed out Street
• 43:59
  Fighter and it said, OK, he does this when he does this.
• 44:03
  And like, for example, there's one where Vega goes on the fence
• 44:06
  and Rio is fighting the character in the background, an
• 44:12
  MPC. You can't see Vega.
• 44:15
  And the computer got confused by what it was looking at.
• 44:18
  So eventually it said, OK, that that's what I've learned, and it
• 44:22
  learned how to build all the characters.
• 44:25
  So it's a really cool way they programmed the system.
• 44:28
  It took 40 hours of gameplay to just figure out every person's
• 44:33
  move, and very specifically by pixels in some cases.
• 44:39
  So when you have people that can finish the game, they're able to
• 44:43
  figure that out on their own without computers.
• 44:45
  It's pretty cool, huh? Well, yeah, yeah.
• 44:48
  Like for example, if you're too far away, this move won't work.
• 44:52
  You can do it, it's not going to do anything.
• 44:54
  If you're too close, it's good, not going to work.
• 44:57
  You have to be the right pixel away for things to work.
• 45:01
  Isn't that crazy? So anyway, that's my story about
• 45:07
  high school gaming. OK.
• 45:10
  Yeah, so I get a little sidetracked there.
• 45:12
  Sorry. I told you at the beginning of
• 45:13
  the show, we get sidetracked about to what?
• 45:15
  This up here in my story just here from the story from the
• 45:17
  fire. In today's Story from the Fire,
• 45:29
  after burning out in her first job, Priya started blocking off
• 45:32
  no work hours, taking real lunch breaks and saying no to weekend
• 45:37
  emails. Her performance improved and so
• 45:40
  did her happiness. She learned that balance is not
• 45:43
  a luxury, it's a life skill. That was a story from the fire,
• 45:48
  Murph. Man, are you feeling the heat?
• 45:51
  Yeah, so Priya started blacking off.
• 45:52
  No work hours. It's funny because let's see,
• 46:00
  for my job, I do consulting also and I have my calendar set up
• 46:05
  where you can come in, you can book.
• 46:07
  I want to make a meeting with me, right?
• 46:10
  I want a consulting appointment. I want to discuss trivia.
• 46:14
  It has different times for different things and charges
• 46:16
  different things for. Some of them are chargeable,
• 46:18
  some of them are free. But I put down nothing before 3,
• 46:24
  right? Why?
• 46:24
  Because I'm at the other job, nothing on Monday the 25th at
• 46:28
  this time because I have an appointment.
• 46:30
  So you can also black out every Friday afternoon.
• 46:34
  How often do I have something scheduled on Fridays?
• 46:37
  Not that much. That's usually my Family Day.
• 46:43
  Yeah. That's the day I'll do things
• 46:45
  with you if you have plans or not, whatever.
• 46:48
  That and Sunday. And Sunday, you know, that's the
• 46:51
  day of rest. Yeah, I would think the main
• 46:58
  days we do hang out is Friday and Sunday and then if I don't
• 47:03
  have plans, Saturdays. Right.
• 47:06
  Well, you know, we hang out a lot, but Friday nights is a day
• 47:11
  that I don't, I try not to schedule anything now.
• 47:14
  Right now I'm going to massage therapy for my back and I I take
• 47:18
  care of that and then I go out with him, right?
• 47:23
  Yeah. So that's the only thing that.
• 47:24
  Take him over there and then, yeah.
• 47:26
  Yeah, he goes and does some stuff, some side hustles and
• 47:28
  then comes back, you know, so, but I, I block out time.
• 47:33
  That's something I do. You don't really think about it.
• 47:35
  But yeah, Friday afternoons is family time.
• 47:37
  But I really try not to book anything on Fridays.
• 47:39
  Now if I'm offered the the trivia at the VFW, you know hang
• 47:45
  out with you and make 150 bucks. Sorry bro.
• 47:51
  Yeah, I'm, I'm making the money, bro.
• 47:53
  Yeah, we'll hang out another day.
• 47:55
  Well, yeah, that's you took the words right out of my mouth.
• 47:59
  If you can book that day, I'll just, we'll schedule a different
• 48:02
  day. Wednesdays.
• 48:03
  I have trivia with military broadcast radio.
• 48:06
  Tuesdays you go out to eat, sometimes Tuesday or Thursday.
• 48:09
  Tuesday is my date night. Yeah, you know, not I was with
• 48:13
  the same person. Sometimes when I'm dating
• 48:15
  someone for a while, it'll be, you know, Tuesday.
• 48:16
  But if I meet someone that can't do Tuesdays, I move it to a
• 48:19
  different day, you know, and we just it rotates.
• 48:20
  But right now it's Tuesday. So there's there's a lot to look
• 48:25
  at there. OK.
• 48:27
  And right now, if you're watching us on NPR talk, Roku,
• 48:31
  who's who's come on because we have it on this page.
• 48:35
  And I, we just started talking and I didn't get a chance to
• 48:36
  look at that. We got a beaker, we got Rita and
• 48:42
  regard Cassie. Well, welcome, Rita and Cassie.
• 48:45
  And of course, Beaker is always there.
• 48:47
  I love Beaker, right? They love duck the duck.
• 48:53
  Yes, the man behind the duck too.
• 48:57
  He's always telling me just back the duck up.
• 49:00
  And he don't give a duck. God, actually, he does give away
• 49:04
  a duck. That's part of his prizes.
• 49:06
  He'd do really print stuff now, so.
• 49:09
  You should make a plus you. But he makes is himself on his
• 49:14
  printer. But you should make it plushy as
• 49:17
  in. You have to have a factory to
• 49:19
  cut all the pieces and sew them together and everything.
• 49:21
  Kind of. OK, not make them as in partner
• 49:24
  with the plushy company plushy? That that is something that we
• 49:29
  can do. If that's something he wants to
• 49:32
  do, I should say he can do that. But yeah, making a plushy of the
• 49:35
  ducks that actually, yeah, obviously if you hear that.
• 49:40
  Obviously not a whole. Make your own, as in build a
• 49:44
  workshop. Well, you know.
• 49:48
  It's not what I meant. Well, you know, I'm getting a
• 49:50
  laser engraved for all my merch. Yeah, Yeah.
• 49:53
  And if I go somewhere I. Your merch is key chains.
• 49:58
  It's coffee mugs. It's stuff printed onto other
• 50:03
  stuff. Right, but if I can learn how to
• 50:04
  use it real well and I can actually print something on on
• 50:06
  demand, like you can come up to me at one of my shows and ask me
• 50:09
  to print that for you. Yeah.
• 50:12
  So boom, done. You know what I mean?
• 50:14
  Or you can make an order with me or whatever.
• 50:17
  It's it's I have portable, I have non portable.
• 50:20
  I have all this stuff that I'm buying, you know, and that's
• 50:23
  actually, you know, a good time to change, right.
• 50:26
  We were talking about this last night.
• 50:28
  But anyway, yeah, blushes of the ducks would be actually, that's
• 50:31
  a really good idea. So H, if you hear that plushies
• 50:36
  of the ducks, I think it's something that we need to have,
• 50:38
  right? Yeah, I would say that's a good
• 50:41
  thing. You would say that's a good
• 50:43
  thing. I would too.
• 50:46
  I would too. I would like to see that
• 50:48
  actually. So I'll tell you what things I'd
• 50:51
  like to see also is those steps we can take to take action and
• 50:58
  make the work like life balance easier for everybody.
• 51:01
  We're going to talk about that in our heat map.
• 51:12
  The heat map will show you where to focus your efforts for the
• 51:14
  most impact. Set clear work hours and stick
• 51:18
  to them. Don't answer emails or Slack
• 51:20
  messages outside of these hours. Use calendar blocks for meals,
• 51:23
  breaks and personal time. Treat these like non negotiable
• 51:26
  appointments. Communicate boundaries with your
• 51:29
  team or manager. Let them know when you're
• 51:31
  offline and unavailable. The map is drawn back to Murph
• 51:35
  Man for the next segment. All right, So the heat map, I
• 51:41
  said clear work hours and stick to them.
• 51:44
  Stick to them is important OK don't answer emails or messages
• 51:52
  outside of these hours. Now I will tell you something
• 51:55
  when you have a job that's texting you after hours you have
• 52:02
  to set that boundary as fast as you can because if you don't
• 52:06
  what is happening is that boss or Co worker is going to keep
• 52:11
  calling you after hours. Now there was one Co worker that
• 52:14
  called me one time and you know, she calls me and for you know,
• 52:20
  she never calls me, ever calls me.
• 52:22
  And one day she called me and I'm like oh what's wrong?
• 52:24
  And she says I need your help. And I was the only one that
• 52:32
  could do that. Now I'm going to share another
• 52:34
  story with you. We were at a costume party for
• 52:37
  Halloween one year. I was dressed as Frankenfurter,
• 52:43
  the transvestite, the guy in the camisole, the black Speedos and
• 52:49
  that high stockings. Frankfurter.
• 52:51
  Frankfurter from Rocky Horror. You don't know?
• 52:55
  Hold on, go ahead and type it in, Connor Frankenfurter.
• 53:00
  Who was the actor? What even know how to spell?
• 53:05
  OK. Yeah, the second one.
• 53:10
  OK, yeah, I told you we'd know who he was.
• 53:14
  You you could have just said his name, the actor's name.
• 53:21
  But I was like, I didn't dress as the actor, I dress as his
• 53:24
  character. I don't know.
• 53:25
  I've never seen the movie. Anyway, I've seen it.
• 53:28
  I saw like the beginning of it. It wasn't my thing.
• 53:31
  Yeah, I get it. But anyway, we were at a costume
• 53:36
  party and this was a night that I told my boss everyone at work,
• 53:40
  don't bother me, don't bother me, right?
• 53:45
  I'm having a party. I'm going to be drinking, don't
• 53:47
  bother me. And the shelter calls me and she
• 53:52
  says I'm sorry to bother you. Now why did I answer?
• 53:55
  That's who I am. OK, can I say no?
• 53:57
  Yeah, I can say no. But she literally called the
• 54:02
  person on call. They didn't answer.
• 54:05
  She called the boss, she didn't answer.
• 54:07
  She called every other Co worker.
• 54:09
  They all ignored her, right? I answered and she's like, we
• 54:14
  need to go pick up the kid who ran away.
• 54:15
  He's at the fire station, whatever.
• 54:19
  And I said, I am literally dressed in lingerie right now.
• 54:23
  I have makeup on my face. You know, I was like, hold on.
• 54:30
  So I quickly, I had, I always have clothes that I can put over
• 54:36
  if I need to. So I put on my sweatpants and my
• 54:39
  sweatshirt over this and when to go pick up the kid, you know, I
• 54:42
  have wet wipes. I'm wiping the face, my face
• 54:44
  off. Because as soon as the custom
• 54:45
  party's over, we get in the car and we're driving away.
• 54:47
  We're wiping our faces with makeup off.
• 54:49
  I go pick up the kid. I come back and they're laughing
• 54:52
  and they're like, so where's this lingerie?
• 54:53
  And I said right here. And I picked up my shirt and I
• 54:55
  dropped my pants. I made them see that, you know,
• 55:01
  because yeah, you ruined my party, you know?
• 55:05
  But I said no Connor and been totally OK with it.
• 55:09
  Well, no, because if they call you then something happened.
• 55:13
  Right, I was the last resort. Mommy, you were asked to be the
• 55:18
  last resort. Yeah.
• 55:19
  Yeah, you know, so. Not even that, you just said
• 55:21
  don't. Don't bother me.
• 55:22
  Yeah, don't bother me. OK.
• 55:24
  Imagine if I had been drunk. I'd be like, I can't do this.
• 55:26
  I can't go pick a kid drunk, right?
• 55:29
  I can't. You should pick them.
• 55:30
  Up Well, I shouldn't even drive drunk, but I'm saying, you know,
• 55:33
  there's certain things if I had been drinking a lot by that
• 55:36
  point. Well, then that's your fault,
• 55:38
  you know, You drove there. You should, you know, be able
• 55:40
  to. Drive.
• 55:41
  Oh yeah, no. Oh, I always drive back.
• 55:42
  I can have a couple beers and get drunk and then sober up by
• 55:45
  the time I leave. Yeah, because it's like, you
• 55:48
  know, a 7 hour party. God, what party did you go to?
• 55:52
  Connor I've had parties at my house that last three days from
• 55:56
  Friday, Saturday and Sunday. People sleep on the floor and
• 56:01
  they wake up and we keep partying.
• 56:02
  New Year's Eve, we do that. Partying.
• 56:04
  OK, hold on. Let me clarify.
• 56:06
  It's not a party the whole day, not the whole 24 hours.
• 56:11
  They sleep. We have a party, they sleep
• 56:13
  over, we wake up and they go do whatever.
• 56:17
  If they want to come back, they come back.
• 56:18
  If not, then they don't. Right.
• 56:20
  But there's a a whole group of people that stay there.
• 56:22
  And hang out. They go get breakfast or we eat
• 56:24
  breakfast. Or something.
• 56:25
  I, I, I, I, I'll make breakfast, I'll make all the food.
• 56:27
  So there's no reason to go unless they don't want it.
• 56:30
  Yeah. But yeah, we we party from
• 56:32
  Friday to the. Day in the daytime at like 6
• 56:36
  after yes. Why do you think I have 4 air
• 56:39
  mattresses, Connor? So they could sleep over.
• 56:42
  Right. So people do that all the time
• 56:44
  here they. Partying the days we're taking a
• 56:47
  party, Connor, right this you guys don't day trading.
• 56:50
  On New Year's Week and New Year's Day, what do you think
• 56:53
  we're doing on new? Year's Day, that's different,
• 56:54
  that's so different, but. What do you think you could?
• 56:57
  Be talking about like New Year's week and they could sleep over
• 56:59
  now and then Sunday do the same thing.
• 57:02
  Yes, yeah, but you're talking about a holiday that's
• 57:04
  different. OK, but especially New Year's,
• 57:07
  so we watch games. Because there's games.
• 57:11
  Yeah, but we're hanging out and we're talking.
• 57:12
  That's not a party. We're but we're still drinking.
• 57:15
  Oh yeah, that's like life. Killed the keg in a weekend.
• 57:20
  That that's not bad. With 12 people, yeah, that's
• 57:26
  not. Do you know how many beers there
• 57:28
  are in a keg? No 156.
• 57:31
  Like bottles or like cups? Servings of Red Solo Cup.
• 57:36
  Like full to the like line or like to the very top?
• 57:39
  The the oz whatever, it's supposed to be 8 or two, I don't
• 57:42
  know, but it's 12 ounce beers, 155 in a keg.
• 57:47
  That's not a lot I've drink more monsters with.
• 57:51
  Do me a favor and divide 155 by 12.
• 57:54
  Oh, I can tell you that's like 13.
• 57:57
  Yeah, 13 1/2 Fourteen to. 12.9 yeah.
• 58:00
  OK, so aside from all the shots, aside from all the other drinks,
• 58:07
  we finished 12 beers that weekend.
• 58:10
  Not a lot. Not a lot, some some calm.
• 58:15
  But that means all two over drinking.
• 58:17
  Yeah, 12 people. There's some people that don't
• 58:20
  drink beer, like my brother only drinks Jack and coke.
• 58:24
  Yeah, but you're making it 12 beers each or.
• 58:27
  Yeah, 12 beers each, OK, is what the average was.
• 58:29
  If everyone drink their 12 beers, which they didn't, I'd
• 58:32
  say in in reality, it was probably about 20 beers each,
• 58:34
  plus the shots and liquor that we're drinking on the weekend.
• 58:38
  Yeesh. One time Connor wakes up to go
• 58:43
  to the restroom and one of the guys is passed out on the floor
• 58:48
  because back he's like, hey, hey, Alex, he's he's passed out
• 58:51
  on the floor. I ever said hi to him, I was
• 58:54
  like, oh, hey, oh, OK. I turn back and I go to my dad's
• 58:58
  room and I'm like he's passed on the floor again and.
• 59:01
  He didn't make a mess. People respect my house.
• 59:03
  They they, they're actually really good about that.
• 59:04
  He was. He just liked the tiles.
• 59:07
  It was so cold. It was colder, yeah.
• 59:08
  And it was. It was a long bathroom, so it
• 59:11
  was like you walk in. You could lay down on the floor,
• 59:14
  yeah. I would sleep on the.
• 59:16
  Floor. I have slept on the floor
• 59:19
  because I have a lot of issues with my stomach and every now
• 59:21
  and then I get sick. Yeah, me too.
• 59:25
  The one time I was throwing up with Gatorade and it was a red
• 59:29
  Gatorade and I regret doing that ever.
• 59:33
  If you're sick, never drink any red fluid.
• 59:36
  Never. Well, that's a rule, actually.
• 59:39
  You'll cry, the doctors tell you.
• 59:41
  Don't eat anything red, No. Wonder why one?
• 59:46
  Of the funniest times that he got sick, he gets sick and he
• 59:49
  looks at he goes when did I eat cheese?
• 59:54
  You remember that I told him I had a friend of mine that got
• 59:57
  sick. He looked at He goes, When did I
• 59:59
  eat rice? That sounded like we pulled
• 1:00:04
  over. I threw up the exact same
• 1:00:07
  scenario as his friend. Exact same scenario, actually,
• 1:00:11
  yes, just a different food. All right, so we've been talking
• 1:00:16
  about the heat map and, you know, those actions you can take
• 1:00:21
  and then a little more than that.
• 1:00:22
  Let's talk about those pitfalls when we come back from break.
• 1:00:26
  Sounds good. OK.
• 1:00:26
  So we're going to take a quick break and we'll be right back.
• 1:00:30
  It's time for a break. Hot takes with the Murph man.
• 1:00:33
  We'll be right back. Stepping out this hotel window
• 1:01:01
  and floors above, what's missing down there is love.
• 1:01:11
  Thinking through the smoke that fills my mind.
• 1:01:17
  Don't worry, it's not my first time.
• 1:01:23
  It's me go so good seeing you I'll.
• 1:01:26
  Be. Seeing you.
• 1:01:40
  I. Say it's all inside heaven and
• 1:02:01
  hell. What happened to that Angel when
• 1:02:05
  he fell? Give it just one try.
• 1:02:12
  Tell me you don't like it. Be God for a moment and don't
• 1:02:17
  just buy this honey. Yours amigo.
• 1:02:23
  So good seeing you. I won't be seeing you around
• 1:02:33
  Leos amigo. I've been looking for you since
• 1:02:39
  I still put in this town. Step aside and breathe.
• 1:03:11
  Play a little in the street. Hope it's not me they're
• 1:03:16
  sending. Get the kids a little scared.
• 1:03:26
  Holy fences they ain't in mending Leos amigo.
• 1:03:34
  So glad seeing you. I won't be seeing you around
• 1:03:43
  Leos amigo. I've been looking for you.
• 1:03:55
  I'll be seeing you since I've been born
• 1:04:14
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  All right, so. How you doing?
• 1:05:40
  OK 165 how you doing? Sorry.
• 1:05:48
  OK, so here, here's the thing. We have talked about the
• 1:05:54
  different things that you could do, like blocking out time,
• 1:06:01
  scheduling stuff and everything, but we have pitfalls too.
• 1:06:04
  Sometimes those pitfalls don't let us do what we need to do.
• 1:06:08
  So let's talk about those pitfalls now in our segment
• 1:06:10
  called Where You'll Get Burned. Let's talk about where you'll
• 1:06:21
  get burned. These are some common pitfalls.
• 1:06:25
  Saying yes to everything. This leads to over commitment
• 1:06:28
  and burnout. Protect your time like your
• 1:06:30
  health depends on it because it does.
• 1:06:34
  Treating rest as optional. It's essential.
• 1:06:37
  You cannot work 24/7 and be successful long term waiting for
• 1:06:42
  burnout to make changes. Be proactive, not reactive.
• 1:06:46
  You must build these habits before you hit a wall.
• 1:06:50
  Danger zone identified. Back to Murph, man for the
• 1:06:53
  warning. Saying yes to everything leads
• 1:06:59
  to over commitment and burnout. You know it's OK to say no.
• 1:07:03
  We've talked about that, right? Yeah.
• 1:07:05
  You know, protect your time like your health depends on it
• 1:07:07
  because it does. You can get sick because of the
• 1:07:14
  the health issues you could have from the stress of having to do
• 1:07:17
  too much. So think about that, OK?
• 1:07:20
  Because when we're when we're getting sick, there's always
• 1:07:25
  stress behind it. You can always see that stress
• 1:07:28
  is part of it, OK? So you, you don't really realize
• 1:07:32
  that, but it's funny because stress affects us a lot and
• 1:07:37
  burnout is a big, big part of that.
• 1:07:40
  Treating rest is optional. No, it's essential.
• 1:07:43
  You cannot work 24/7 and be successful long term.
• 1:07:47
  You can't, OK. Yeah.
• 1:07:50
  Waiting for burnout to make changes.
• 1:07:52
  Be proactive and not reactive. You must build these habits
• 1:07:54
  before you hit a wall. I will tell you what, last
• 1:07:58
  summer when I started the podcast, ideas and everything, I
• 1:08:02
  was going hardcore on this that I will say.
• 1:08:05
  I was going from first thing in the morning to the last thing at
• 1:08:08
  night. All summer.
• 1:08:11
  All summer. Yeah, you didn't go to bed till
• 1:08:14
  like. Yeah, sometime.
• 1:08:15
  No, it was summer. I'm off.
• 1:08:16
  I was literally off all summers, and I spent my entire summer
• 1:08:20
  vacation working on the podcast. If I could pay myself, I would
• 1:08:25
  have made a bunch of overtime. Oh yeah.
• 1:08:28
  OK, but I found it. It had to be.
• 1:08:33
  It was necessary to get started. Now I will tell you right, every
• 1:08:36
  now and then I do something new and it takes time.
• 1:08:41
  One of the things that I've been doing is I've been working on a
• 1:08:43
  video, an animated video for MBR again and AI is just not doing
• 1:08:48
  what I needed to do and it's really pissing me off.
• 1:08:51
  I have I, I, I'm, I curse at it because I'm so angry because
• 1:08:57
  it's not doing what I ask it to do and I'm, I'm not getting what
• 1:09:02
  I need. I'm having a tip together.
• 1:09:04
  So many clips isn't even funny. But you know, there there's
• 1:09:09
  things I got to do and it's going to take my time.
• 1:09:11
  You know, it just that's the way it is.
• 1:09:13
  OK, At work, when I had a little free time, you know, I could
• 1:09:18
  rest a little bit. And I don't mean like lay down
• 1:09:20
  and sleep, but you know, I didn't have to really do
• 1:09:22
  anything. Now I am busy almost every
• 1:09:27
  minute of the day from Monday to Wednesday.
• 1:09:32
  Like I am constantly doing something and I take a break
• 1:09:37
  here and there, you know, I have back issues and I have an
• 1:09:40
  injured hip. So I have to stand up and do
• 1:09:41
  that. But it's, it's a lot of work
• 1:09:45
  now. It's a lot of work.
• 1:09:46
  And then throw in recovering classes and all that stuff.
• 1:09:49
  So, you know, but when you think about it, you know.
• 1:09:56
  Am I happy, Connor? Yeah, I would say so.
• 1:10:00
  Yeah, I would think so. I am.
• 1:10:05
  You just work a lot. It's AI do like really a lot.
• 1:10:09
  OK, but if I had to ask you, how much time do we spend together?
• 1:10:15
  Like in a day, a week. In a week.
• 1:10:20
  Like a whole day worth 24. Hours. 24 hours.
• 1:10:23
  I would say maybe 2 days. Maybe almost two days.
• 1:10:25
  I was thinking a day and a half. If I were to come to the hours,
• 1:10:29
  that's a lot of hours. That's 36 hours OK In a seven
• 1:10:34
  day week, that means 5 hours a day on average.
• 1:10:37
  Yeah. We come over three, we go to bed
• 1:10:40
  at 10 and we're usually interacting during that time,
• 1:10:44
  right? Yeah, ladies, we go to bed at
• 1:10:45
  11. As well.
• 1:10:47
  To our we go to our rooms at 11 they up to like later.
• 1:10:50
  And you know, when we're in the living room, we're talking,
• 1:10:53
  we're watching ATV show or football game or something,
• 1:10:55
  right? Right now, the sports tonight is
• 1:10:59
  tonight or tomorrow, the Guardians game, the Rays and
• 1:11:03
  Guardians baseball. Tampa tonight.
• 1:11:11
  Is it tonight or tomorrow or last night like I thought the
• 1:11:15
  Brewers were? Oh my God, I miss game four of
• 1:11:17
  the Brewers beating the crap out of the Dodgers.
• 1:11:21
  Yeah, Tampa and Cleveland play tonight.
• 1:11:23
  Yeah, at six. And that's, that's a possible
• 1:11:26
  game four to win the series and move on to the the World Series.
• 1:11:29
  What's really cool though, is. If Cleveland wins, which I think
• 1:11:34
  they're going to lose this game, I think or.
• 1:11:36
  They're playing. At home.
• 1:11:38
  That's why I think they it might be an upset that temper.
• 1:11:41
  'S going to move I, I, I don't know.
• 1:11:43
  I was going to go to two and two.
• 1:11:44
  One of the things that was really interesting is Dodgers
• 1:11:48
  had the number one payroll in all of Major League Baseball.
• 1:11:53
  Shohei Otani made more than teams combined.
• 1:11:58
  Well. He had he had more payout than.
• 1:12:01
  He had more payout than one team had total.
• 1:12:04
  It wasn't two teams. I don't I don't know how many it
• 1:12:07
  was so. He made more money than the team
• 1:12:10
  in 30th place, which is I believe the Guardians.
• 1:12:14
  Then 28th is the Bucks of the the Bucks, the Rays and then the
• 1:12:19
  19th were the Brewers. So the 19th there's there's an
• 1:12:23
  argument for do we have more money, pay more so players and
• 1:12:27
  we get better players, right? And all of a sudden you you lose
• 1:12:35
  four games to to the Brewers. That's crazy, dude.
• 1:12:40
  And it it was like what they played and then a day off and
• 1:12:43
  then they played. Or yeah, yeah, yeah, they
• 1:12:45
  usually it's not back-to-back that's.
• 1:12:48
  Crazy and they just came off World Series also.
• 1:12:52
  Oh, yeah. But we're, I'm, I'm saying like
• 1:12:54
  right now you had the 19th, 28th and 30th ranked payrolls going
• 1:13:02
  to the world's championships, and you're going to have the
• 1:13:05
  19th and 20th or 30th in the World Series.
• 1:13:08
  So the argument is, does it really matter how much you spend
• 1:13:12
  on the team? And it should, right?
• 1:13:14
  But it doesn't always work out that way.
• 1:13:18
  Anyway, let's talk about those heat Shields and prevent us from
• 1:13:21
  those falls that we have. Oh.
• 1:13:34
  Voice over the prep is the protection.
• 1:13:36
  Here are your heat Shields. Intentional Prep Dedicate focus
• 1:13:40
  time to research and self-assessment, ensuring you
• 1:13:43
  are protected from the negative impact of unpreparedness or
• 1:13:46
  external pressure. Systematic Auditing Regularly
• 1:13:50
  review your commitments and energy drains to catch scope
• 1:13:53
  creep before it turns into full exhaustion.
• 1:13:57
  Peer Accountability Partner with a trusted colleague or mentor to
• 1:14:00
  hold you accountable to your off hours and recovery goals.
• 1:14:04
  The Shields are up, Murph man, What's next?
• 1:14:11
  The intentional prep you guys is when you think about it,
• 1:14:15
  dedicate focused. Excuse me, dedicate focused time
• 1:14:24
  on research and self-assessment, ensuring you are protected from
• 1:14:27
  the negative impact or unpreparedness of external
• 1:14:30
  pleasure. What does that mean?
• 1:14:34
  You need to make time to get away from things, you know?
• 1:14:40
  And then what I mean by that is, yeah, I can take a vacation to
• 1:14:44
  Mexico, but if I'm still thinking about work, I'm not,
• 1:14:48
  right? Yeah.
• 1:14:50
  You know, when I went on vacation, you know, like we go
• 1:14:55
  on vacation for a couple weeks. That's also when we do hang out.
• 1:14:59
  Sorry we were talking about we spent 36 hours a week most of
• 1:15:04
  our time. If it's not school hours like
• 1:15:08
  not during school. We hang out almost every day in
• 1:15:11
  the summer. Yeah, on our vacations we
• 1:15:14
  actually spend a lot of time together.
• 1:15:15
  I think that's the most we've ever spent time together was
• 1:15:19
  always vacation. Yeah, well, what vacation?
• 1:15:21
  We spend 7 weeks together. Yeah, when we visited 3 state, 4
• 1:15:27
  states what I say. Yeah, how many states we
• 1:15:34
  visited? In last seven weeks.
• 1:15:36
  I know this is off topic but I'm just like that's the most we
• 1:15:39
  spend together. We went to DC, then we went to
• 1:15:42
  Maryland and we went to Virginia, and then we went to
• 1:15:47
  Atlanta and Georgia. Then we went to Saint Louis.
• 1:15:53
  OK, it was no Georgia. Then we went through Tennessee
• 1:15:58
  and then we went to Missouri and then we crossed over to
• 1:16:01
  Illinois. Oh.
• 1:16:06
  That's where we drove. No, we didn't.
• 1:16:07
  Yeah, we drove from Atlanta to Saint Louis and back.
• 1:16:12
  That's right. So we visited, well, the trip
• 1:16:15
  where we had plans was 4 states or five well.
• 1:16:21
  States was 3 but like Saint Louis and Illinois are across
• 1:16:25
  the river from each other and then DC is literally Virginia
• 1:16:30
  and Maryland together. We stayed in Maryland.
• 1:16:34
  We partied in Virginia. Yeah, you know, but the whole
• 1:16:37
  trip we did take was 7 or 8 States and.
• 1:16:45
  OK. But yeah, so we do spend a lot
• 1:16:47
  of time together. But the point being is when you
• 1:16:50
  go on a vacation like we do for Christmas or Thanksgiving, it's
• 1:16:52
  a week or two, you know, 10 days, whatever.
• 1:16:55
  I'm not thinking about work when I come back, you know I'm not.
• 1:17:00
  I am. I don't get the time off I used
• 1:17:04
  to in high school. Oh yeah, that's different, you
• 1:17:07
  know. Instead of two weeks, we want to
• 1:17:08
  spend like a week or a weekend. For me, for me, the hardest
• 1:17:13
  thing is coming back from a summer vacation and having to
• 1:17:14
  work like just out of the blue, getting back to work one day,
• 1:17:18
  you know? Yeah.
• 1:17:20
  And I hit the ground running as much as I can.
• 1:17:24
  But when you're on vacation, don't think about work.
• 1:17:27
  You know, it's funny because next year I actually asked the
• 1:17:31
  people to send me data over the summer so I can get hit the
• 1:17:35
  ground running and do what I need to do for national society.
• 1:17:38
  So next summer and every summer from then on, I'm probably going
• 1:17:42
  to be working a day or two during summer before school
• 1:17:47
  actually starts. That's not bad.
• 1:17:49
  No, it's not, you know. But again, we talked about
• 1:17:51
  breaking, you know, it's your vacation.
• 1:17:53
  Don't work right. Get away from it.
• 1:17:55
  Don't think about it. I mean if it's your it was a
• 1:17:59
  week before or the week end like Friday to Sunday the more school
• 1:18:04
  starts then I would say work there.
• 1:18:08
  Make sure you have everything. Make sure your courses are
• 1:18:11
  there. Make sure you have all your
• 1:18:14
  stuff like on your desk ready to go.
• 1:18:18
  That's when I would say last day of summer vacation would be.
• 1:18:23
  Prepping to go back. That Thursday.
• 1:18:25
  Yeah, yeah, I'll, I'll give you that.
• 1:18:28
  All right. Another thing that you have to
• 1:18:29
  do is systematic auditing, readily review your commitments
• 1:18:32
  and energy drains to catch scope.
• 1:18:35
  Let me tell you, Friday mornings we would have a staff meeting
• 1:18:40
  and we would go to to the office and we'd have our meeting.
• 1:18:47
  Then we would break and we'll stick around for lunch
• 1:18:50
  sometimes. And before you know it, we have,
• 1:18:59
  I don't know, two hours before lunch.
• 1:19:01
  And then next we hang out, do paperwork, and we have lunch
• 1:19:04
  together. After that, nobody wants to go
• 1:19:07
  and work, right? So Fridays is a wasted day.
• 1:19:12
  And if I'm a boss, I'm not going to schedule a meeting on
• 1:19:16
  Fridays. At least I'm I'm going to try
• 1:19:19
  not to because it's a wasted day of people work in the office.
• 1:19:27
  Makes sense. Yeah.
• 1:19:29
  All right. And last but not least, pure
• 1:19:31
  accountability. Partner with trusted colleagues
• 1:19:33
  or members to hold you accountable to your off hours.
• 1:19:38
  I have a Co worker. Love, love my team.
• 1:19:42
  I love my team. But one time I texted him in the
• 1:19:46
  morning. I texted the group in the
• 1:19:48
  morning and the other Co worker, we're having a conversation.
• 1:19:53
  He never jumped in. He finally answered at 8:45 at
• 1:19:56
  night and she responds with welcome to the conversation, you
• 1:20:02
  know? And then I replied with we're
• 1:20:05
  not talking about this right now.
• 1:20:09
  Done. You have to protect yourself and
• 1:20:12
  them too because sometimes they do a lot more than what we
• 1:20:16
  think. OK.
• 1:20:21
  You good? He's trying to do something.
• 1:20:24
  I don't know what he's trying to.
• 1:20:26
  Do it won't. You can't change it during the
• 1:20:28
  show, it says right at the top. I I I could and live info after
• 1:20:36
  you go live I I could I can now update.
• 1:20:41
  I literally love changing it. OK, because like what you have
• 1:20:44
  the name as? OK.
• 1:20:47
  But it won't work, so Oh well. Well, those of you turning in on
• 1:20:51
  our other channels, we're not playing trivia and bingo
• 1:20:53
  tonight. We play trivia and bingo every
• 1:20:54
  Wednesday at 7:00 PM Mountain, 9:00 PM Eastern.
• 1:20:58
  It is free to play. There are no prizes.
• 1:20:59
  Right now, we're just having fun doing trivia on military
• 1:21:02
  broadcast radio. And if you're catching us on any
• 1:21:04
  of the social medias, what's really cool is if you have a
• 1:21:06
  Roku TV, you can find us there as well on military broadcast
• 1:21:10
  radio channel. You can definitely catch us
• 1:21:14
  there and play trivia on Wednesday night.
• 1:21:15
  We we didn't do anything this past Wednesday, but we are
• 1:21:20
  definitely going to be doing it this Wednesday, I promise you
• 1:21:22
  that. So this week was a really,
• 1:21:24
  really bad week. Why?
• 1:21:26
  Why didn't you guys do it Wednesday?
• 1:21:33
  I got thrown into cover history class.
• 1:21:36
  That's right. And I needed to prepare for life
• 1:21:40
  class the next day. The teacher got sick and I cover
• 1:21:45
  for them. That's what I do.
• 1:21:47
  So yeah, well, I had to cover for that.
• 1:21:52
  How'd you feel about it? Oh, that's not your regular?
• 1:21:57
  It it's OK. Am I good with math?
• 1:22:02
  Yeah. Yeah, I'm good with math.
• 1:22:04
  You're good with numbers, you're not good with math.
• 1:22:09
  What do I say? Math is not supposed to have
• 1:22:12
  letters. Yeah.
• 1:22:15
  Basic math, multiplicative division, Name it.
• 1:22:17
  I'm I'm great. Throw a letter in there.
• 1:22:20
  It's like what? Right.
• 1:22:25
  Yeah, then this time we don't even have any numbers anymore,
• 1:22:29
  all just letters. Oh yeah?
• 1:22:31
  Well, yeah, you get to the point where it's all letters, but
• 1:22:39
  English is my second language and I was horrible at English in
• 1:22:44
  high school. I actually I take ESOL to
• 1:22:47
  graduate. What's your second language?
• 1:22:49
  English. Yeah, my second language.
• 1:22:51
  Wow. Connor, I grew up in a Mexican
• 1:22:54
  house with my mom and my TS and my grandmother being home all
• 1:22:58
  day with me. I only spoke English when my dad
• 1:23:00
  came home at night because no one would speak to me in
• 1:23:03
  English. Yeah, OK.
• 1:23:11
  So yeah. I forget that, yeah.
• 1:23:13
  English is my second language. Of how white you are.
• 1:23:19
  That's so surprising. Yeah, it it and for me.
• 1:23:22
  English is my first language. And you're more Mexican than me.
• 1:23:25
  Yeah. Anyway, the point what the how?
• 1:23:29
  The point being is I couldn't teach English because I never
• 1:23:31
  learned it like that. I was horrible at English.
• 1:23:35
  We have a English is different than just speaking it and I hate
• 1:23:38
  that English classes is always grammar.
• 1:23:41
  This. What's the author trying to
• 1:23:45
  write about? Like no.
• 1:23:47
  Oh. Well, it's it's language arts
• 1:23:48
  too. It's all about reading it.
• 1:23:49
  But I'm saying English itself I I hating.
• 1:23:52
  Novel. Yeah.
• 1:23:53
  Social studies stuff I can do really well in I.
• 1:23:58
  Yeah, I. Know OK, for those of you that
• 1:24:01
  are going to become teachers, let me tell you a little bit
• 1:24:03
  about social studies. If you get certified in social
• 1:24:05
  studies 6 through 12, you end up having to teach whatever the
• 1:24:13
  school needs. It's like, I want to teach
• 1:24:15
  psychology. I'm a college professor.
• 1:24:17
  Put me in a dual credit school teach psychology, right?
• 1:24:20
  Like Oh no, we need you to teach something else.
• 1:24:23
  And I said OK, like what? They said we need APE coach.
• 1:24:27
  I suck at PE, but I could be APE coach, right?
• 1:24:31
  And then they said we also need someone that teaches art.
• 1:24:34
  And I said, you're trying to get APE coach that teaches art and
• 1:24:40
  psychology. I was like, no way that that
• 1:24:45
  just you're never going to find that match.
• 1:24:46
  I said, you're going to have to find one teacher to teach
• 1:24:48
  psychology, maybe art or psychology and PE.
• 1:24:51
  But PE and art, you're not going to catch to find that at all.
• 1:24:55
  And yeah, they end up having to hire two people, you know, But
• 1:25:02
  if I teach psychology and I get certified social studies and I
• 1:25:04
  go get a job in first semester, I teach psychology.
• 1:25:06
  Next semester they come up to me and go We need a history teacher
• 1:25:09
  and we need you to teach world geography and macroeconomics.
• 1:25:14
  Two complete different things. That's not what I'm I want to do
• 1:25:19
  here, right? I can do world Geo, I can do
• 1:25:21
  that for micro no. Right.
• 1:25:25
  You know I. Don't know why they do that.
• 1:25:28
  They try budget cuts, yeah, in time.
• 1:25:32
  People don't do that. Well, OK, if you do, then
• 1:25:35
  Congrats to you, but not what? I'm going to talk about
• 1:25:43
  something you'll be like, what? What you're not going to
• 1:25:45
  understand if I'm going to try. Well, just right now, enrollment
• 1:25:50
  is declining in schools all over the country.
• 1:25:53
  As in teachers or students? Enrollment students, yeah.
• 1:25:57
  So that means you don't need as many teachers.
• 1:26:00
  OK. Do you know why enrollment's
• 1:26:05
  dropping? The students don't care, no.
• 1:26:09
  Two reasons. A lot of students are going to
• 1:26:11
  go to the charter schools. OK, so all the schools that used
• 1:26:15
  to get every student in the district to come to them, now
• 1:26:19
  you have open enrollment so they can go to any school in the
• 1:26:22
  city. So like if someone likes to
• 1:26:24
  start in school, they can go to that school now and you lose
• 1:26:27
  that student in your school. In your district, yeah.
• 1:26:30
  And yeah, sometimes even in the district.
• 1:26:33
  So charter schools have affected enrollment.
• 1:26:35
  So public schools aren't getting as much money as they used to.
• 1:26:38
  So they can't pay as many teachers, but they don't need as
• 1:26:39
  many teachers if they combine classes.
• 1:26:42
  But the second reason, more more importantly, is low birth rate.
• 1:26:47
  We're not having babies like we used to, right?
• 1:26:51
  There's a lot more singles, a lot more adults that have no
• 1:26:54
  kids. So that means there's less kids
• 1:26:58
  to put in school and that is going to stay a problem.
• 1:27:03
  And on top of that, you use AI to grade now, right?
• 1:27:10
  I hate that. Well, but it's true.
• 1:27:13
  So did you know the written essay on the SAT is now assessed
• 1:27:19
  by an AI then? What's the point dude?
• 1:27:25
  Well, honestly, what's the point of going to school at all?
• 1:27:29
  Well, you still have to learn this stuff.
• 1:27:30
  No you don't AI. It's searches the web.
• 1:27:34
  If we're becoming Wall-e, where the fat people just become
• 1:27:37
  fatter and fatter and fatter, and Idiocracy, where we.
• 1:27:39
  Can't even get to that. We can't even get to that
• 1:27:42
  technology. We're just going to be fat.
• 1:27:43
  We're just going to be sitting here.
• 1:27:45
  Can't even get on a ship. Well, I'm already there, so.
• 1:27:50
  Congrats. Did you do a live action movie?
• 1:27:53
  Make sure to call you up. Yes, yes, no.
• 1:27:56
  Even then, I don't know. I like AI sometimes, but if it's
• 1:28:01
  for the benefit of students, especially if they're like
• 1:28:08
  little like in elementary or middle school, it's not going to
• 1:28:12
  work. Everybody's using AI for the
• 1:28:15
  wrong things. And I hate it.
• 1:28:16
  Yes, I will say that. That's that's the point.
• 1:28:19
  I hate it. Let me, let me tell you.
• 1:28:21
  Especially in computer science. Well, yeah, they're using to.
• 1:28:25
  Yeah, they're trying to take our jobs now.
• 1:28:28
  Well, yeah. And it's not working.
• 1:28:30
  That's. Why I told you, maybe you want
• 1:28:31
  to consider going to hardware. No, there was a company that had
• 1:28:34
  AI do their things. It deleted every user from the
• 1:28:39
  from the company. Yeah, because it didn't need
• 1:28:42
  them. No it.
• 1:28:44
  That's what it was, no? It wasn't.
• 1:28:46
  It was trying to list them based on their like ranks and all that
• 1:28:53
  and trying to delete something from like this rank and then add
• 1:28:56
  it to. Here they deleted the whole.
• 1:28:59
  Use your list. There's there's more to it.
• 1:29:01
  Like let me ask you a question. There's AI that they want to
• 1:29:04
  give access to investing funds. Don't.
• 1:29:08
  That gives them the AI permission to buy whatever it
• 1:29:11
  wants. Buy and sell, even with.
• 1:29:13
  Buy and sell. Not their own money, yeah.
• 1:29:15
  Does that mean they're going to do a good job?
• 1:29:17
  What happens if you have $1,000,000 in there and it just
• 1:29:20
  decides to buy $1,000,000 of Tesla stock?
• 1:29:25
  Tesla's actually going good, right?
• 1:29:26
  Now, no it's not. Actually went down after the
• 1:29:28
  roster came out. Really.
• 1:29:29
  Yeah. Oh yeah.
• 1:29:30
  You know how much that? Cost yeah like $250,000 deposit.
• 1:29:35
  Oh well, it was like 500 actually.
• 1:29:37
  Yeah, well, but the cost of the car, so the average person is
• 1:29:40
  not going to be able to use it. So it actually brought down
• 1:29:42
  Tesla stock. Good.
• 1:29:46
  Why do you even make that? Just all that smoke or what?
• 1:29:52
  It's not smoke, it's colder release but.
• 1:29:55
  You're blinding people. What are you going to speed?
• 1:29:59
  You're going to blind everybody on the.
• 1:30:00
  Highway, that's the thing. You can be leapfrogging cars,
• 1:30:04
  you know. Oh, I can't do that.
• 1:30:06
  No, but imagine if a car is cutting you off with a car in
• 1:30:08
  front of you hits a brake suddenly you can.
• 1:30:09
  It'll automatically recognize that and jump over the car.
• 1:30:12
  Like OK, I can, I don't know, I have to go upside down.
• 1:30:16
  But I can understand the suction pulling you to the ground.
• 1:30:20
  It'll make you go faster, zero 16.1 seconds, but because the
• 1:30:25
  car is being pulled to the ground, the cars have more grip
• 1:30:28
  and they can go faster but you pull 3GS pulling out of the the
• 1:30:32
  chute. 3GS3GS and also the thrust with the cold air.
• 1:30:38
  Yeah, no. It OK, but the point.
• 1:30:42
  Being. There's just no point in making
• 1:30:43
  that. The point being is don't give AI
• 1:30:45
  access to your your investment funds.
• 1:30:50
  But yeah, AI is becoming part of everything we do.
• 1:30:52
  I mean, what you see here, let me let me show you real quick.
• 1:30:57
  You go ahead. For the slide.
• 1:30:59
  You have the mouse. No, you have the slides.
• 1:31:03
  Yeah, what you see here, that is not AI in any way, shape or
• 1:31:09
  form. That is settings what?
• 1:31:11
  Do you mean? John, you turn the box screen.
• 1:31:17
  OK, hold on. Where is that?
• 1:31:23
  You didn't have settings open. I don't.
• 1:31:26
  I'm trying to see where it is. Settings.
• 1:31:30
  The settings. It's actual settings but.
• 1:31:33
  It's not. That is, where did you go to do
• 1:31:39
  the display? We don't have that open out
• 1:31:50
  there all. Right.
• 1:31:52
  So let's see if we got this fixed, Connor.
• 1:31:55
  Oh my God, Nope. No, hold on.
• 1:32:02
  He's back to us. Yeah.
• 1:32:06
  Let's fix this real quick, guys. Yeah, no.
• 1:32:13
  OK, go back to the camera. Oh wait, hold on, zoom in.
• 1:32:18
  You can zoom in. Huh.
• 1:32:20
  No, that's the display. I know what it is.
• 1:32:24
  From today. Yeah.
• 1:32:28
  Yeah. Well, I guess, yeah.
• 1:32:30
  Well, change it to camera. Yeah, hold on.
• 1:32:34
  Oops. OK.
• 1:32:36
  So anyway, the point being is the camera that we have OK, has
• 1:32:46
  the screen share. I should say go to.
• 1:32:50
  But the whole point I'm trying to say is this whole podcast,
• 1:32:55
  the whole slides you've been seeing this the the commercials.
• 1:32:59
  Well, not the commercials, the songs are real, but the trivia,
• 1:33:05
  the sections, this whole thing, the intro, outro, everything AI.
• 1:33:15
  Everything you see here is AI. Well, that, that's what I say.
• 1:33:17
  Not everything you see here, that's what, that's what I was
• 1:33:20
  trying to show on the slides, because that's not AI.
• 1:33:22
  Yeah, the only thing that's not AI is the commercials.
• 1:33:28
  That's it. Oh, even even the commercials
• 1:33:30
  are AI, the songs are not. Yeah, the some of the songs,
• 1:33:33
  yeah. OK.
• 1:33:34
  But all right, here we go. Hold on.
• 1:33:43
  Was it last slide? So the Afterburn, OK, that's
• 1:33:50
  like we're going to talk about this next, but that's not AI.
• 1:33:55
  That background is I asked for it in AI and said, hey, do me a
• 1:34:02
  background with Kohl's. Boom.
• 1:34:04
  But the text and all that is just settings in Canva.
• 1:34:07
  OK, so I have to do some work here.
• 1:34:17
  Nope, shortcuts. I can't find that.
• 1:34:23
  All right, sorry. Let me go ahead and play the
• 1:34:26
  afterburn and we'll come back to that question I was.
• 1:34:36
  Just this. In today's Afterburn, here are
• 1:34:39
  questions for you to reflect on. What does balance look like for
• 1:34:43
  me right now? Where am I over committed and
• 1:34:46
  why? What's 1 boundary I can set this
• 1:34:50
  week? Let's get your opinion on this
• 1:34:52
  Murph man. All right, So what does balance
• 1:34:56
  look like for me right now? Well, for me, I need to stop
• 1:35:00
  doing a lot of work. And I, I, I have stopped a lot
• 1:35:04
  of work, but I just have a lot going on right now.
• 1:35:07
  OK. But for you, when you're trying
• 1:35:11
  to do a life work balance, what's your priority?
• 1:35:18
  And you have to say between these hours, work is your
• 1:35:20
  priority. And then after that, what is
• 1:35:23
  your next priority? OK, then we're going to have
• 1:35:28
  where am I over committed and why?
• 1:35:33
  Well, just like being a teacher during finals or during
• 1:35:38
  midterms, I'm going to be busier because those are more
• 1:35:43
  assignments, more tests, more everything.
• 1:35:45
  OK. And then what is 1 boundary I
• 1:35:49
  can set this week? So ask yourself right now, what
• 1:35:54
  can you change right now? OK, hold on this.
• 1:36:02
  We're going to we're going to talk about technology.
• 1:36:04
  And when we come back, we'll talk about what technology can
• 1:36:09
  help you with this in our digital inferno.
• 1:36:11
  Don't worry about it. Technology must be used to
• 1:36:23
  enforce, not violate, your boundaries.
• 1:36:26
  Utilize communication apps like Slack or Teams to set your
• 1:36:29
  status to Do Not Disturb and communicate your end of day with
• 1:36:33
  a simple scheduled message. Most importantly, use calendar
• 1:36:38
  blocking for personal time, sleep, meals, exercise.
• 1:36:42
  This sends an external signal to your colleagues that your time
• 1:36:45
  is valuable and protected. Set up automated out of office
• 1:36:49
  replies or after hours notification filters to
• 1:36:52
  completely disconnect when your work day ends.
• 1:36:56
  Murph, man, let's hear what you have to say about AI this time.
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  Well, we've been talking about that, right Connor?
• 1:37:02
  AI utilize communication apps like Slacker Teams to set your
• 1:37:06
  status to Do Not Disturb. I have Do Not Disturb from 3:00
• 1:37:11
  PM to 6:58 PM or AM. Don't don't text me during those
• 1:37:17
  hours. Now, can they text me on my
• 1:37:21
  phone? Yes, but for work you're trying
• 1:37:24
  to communications at work get all shut off overnight.
• 1:37:28
  Also my phone, I have it right here, right?
• 1:37:32
  I haven't do not disturb because this is my priority right now.
• 1:37:36
  So you can do those kind of things very easily and you know,
• 1:37:42
  communicating your end of day message, you know, I always say
• 1:37:45
  good, you know, have a good day, see y'all tomorrow, something
• 1:37:48
  like that, you know. Really.
• 1:37:51
  Not every day, but I mean when, when I OK, then I'll send it out
• 1:37:59
  when we're working on something and I know this will take
• 1:38:01
  forever and I'm have to do it tomorrow.
• 1:38:05
  I'm not going to stay at late. So I send a message.
• 1:38:08
  All right, we'll pick this up tomorrow.
• 1:38:09
  You guys see you later. Right.
• 1:38:12
  Yeah. Also calendar blocking is so
• 1:38:15
  important. I already talked about that.
• 1:38:17
  Now it says block time out for sleep.
• 1:38:19
  What do you think is more important Connor?
• 1:38:22
  All in the sleep or waking up at the same time.
• 1:38:25
  Waking up at the same time. That's more important.
• 1:38:27
  OK, once you get into that habit of waking up, your body will
• 1:38:30
  wake you up at that at that time.
• 1:38:32
  Now, what's funny is during daylight savings time, you know,
• 1:38:35
  it changes because your body has to get used in the time.
• 1:38:37
  But you can't say, hey, why did you wake me up an hour earlier?
• 1:38:40
  It's, it's fall safe, you know. Yeah, we get an extra hour.
• 1:38:47
  Well, yeah, we fall back an hour, so we get an extra hour,
• 1:38:50
  but your body doesn't know that it's still going to be waking up
• 1:38:51
  at the same time. So instead of seven waking up at
• 1:38:54
  six, Yeah. OK.
• 1:38:57
  You know what that's kind of good for me?
• 1:39:00
  Extra hour of sleep. No.
• 1:39:05
  If it no. If you go to bed at and wake up
• 1:39:08
  at 7, you're going to be waking up at 8:00.
• 1:39:11
  The clock is still going to say 7, but you're waking up as if it
• 1:39:14
  was 8. Did you fall back on that 1?
• 1:39:17
  I think. Oh yeah.
• 1:39:21
  I don't know how any of that works.
• 1:39:22
  That's a villain's origin story there, if he's getting me to
• 1:39:25
  start talking about that, all right.
• 1:39:30
  Also, if you have a regular schedule, breaks for lunch,
• 1:39:35
  breaks for exercise or sleep, communicate that to your team.
• 1:39:40
  You know, maybe not exercise, but lunch for me is every day at
• 1:39:43
  12, right? Well, 11/11/30.
• 1:39:49
  Well, no. It's 12 their time. 11 our time.
• 1:39:52
  Oh. That's right, I forget there.
• 1:39:53
  So they at 12:00 is their lunch. The funniest thing happens at
• 1:39:58
  lunch. All the students are coming in
• 1:40:02
  because they're on lunch too. Look, I got some free time.
• 1:40:04
  I'll go talk to my teacher. We're not there.
• 1:40:11
  And last but not least, set up automated out of office replies.
• 1:40:14
  I don't do that unless I'm on vacation for like a a week or
• 1:40:22
  I'm on vacation three days out. I'll or like when I was in the
• 1:40:25
  like when I was in the hospital, I didn't put an out of office
• 1:40:28
  well, right. Because you're still working?
• 1:40:30
  Yeah. Wait, when you were in the
• 1:40:32
  hospital? Yeah.
• 1:40:33
  When did you go in the hospital? The VAI mean the Beaumont
• 1:40:36
  hospital, remember I was there for a couple days, had
• 1:40:38
  gallbladder surgery. No.
• 1:40:43
  OK, the the timeline was Thursday was Thanksgiving,
• 1:40:45
  Friday I was oh, that's right, Saturday I went emergency room,
• 1:40:48
  Sunday I had surgery my Monday I was my.
• 1:40:50
  My uncle took me there. Yes, I remember.
• 1:40:52
  And then Tuesday I got discharged and I had my phone on
• 1:40:57
  and I told my boss. I said don't worry, I'll answer
• 1:40:59
  messages or whatever. I don't get a lot of messages.
• 1:41:02
  I said, but I I can't do a class.
• 1:41:06
  Obviously I can't grade papers from my cell phone.
• 1:41:10
  But the lot of office is, is funny because like at the start
• 1:41:15
  of the year, I needed to have some things done for national on
• 1:41:19
  society. And I sent the girl a message
• 1:41:20
  and I got a message back out of office.
• 1:41:21
  I'm like, how long are you out of office for?
• 1:41:25
  The date she was going to be gone the whole week that I
• 1:41:28
  needed her to do the stuff that I needed her to do.
• 1:41:31
  So she's an important person at the school.
• 1:41:33
  So when she comes back from vacation, she has a whole lot of
• 1:41:37
  messages. And I sent her one that said, I
• 1:41:40
  know you're just getting back and you have a lot more
• 1:41:44
  important things to do besides me, but when you're ready to do
• 1:41:48
  my things, let me know please. And she's like, OK, two days
• 1:41:53
  later. So now we have a week and two
• 1:41:55
  days late from what I needed her for.
• 1:41:57
  Oh God, she had it all done like that first day because she knew
• 1:42:02
  what she needed to do. She just didn't.
• 1:42:03
  All the things were priorities. And having that out of the
• 1:42:09
  office tells people, OK, don't bother her, she's out.
• 1:42:13
  I did send an e-mail that said, hey, I know you're out, but
• 1:42:17
  boom, boom, boom, right? Did I expect you to return my
• 1:42:21
  message while she's on vacation? No, no, if I needed her, I'd
• 1:42:25
  have to reach out on her cell phone.
• 1:42:27
  But the whole point is they're on vacation.
• 1:42:30
  Yeah, the whole point's still, you know.
• 1:42:31
  Leave them, leave them the hell alone.
• 1:42:33
  And you don't have to answer your phone.
• 1:42:34
  You're on vacation. And there there's a guy on
• 1:42:36
  TikTok, George Stern, I've showed I showed you his Tik
• 1:42:38
  Toks. He talks about like text message
• 1:42:42
  threads with people and the boss will say something like, Hey, I
• 1:42:46
  got some bad news. They got to cancel your
• 1:42:47
  vacation. And the employees like, well,
• 1:42:49
  what do you mean? Well, you know, we're too busy,
• 1:42:52
  you know, because such and such left and we haven't been able to
• 1:42:55
  feel their slot and you're leaving.
• 1:42:56
  It's going to be too hard. You can't go on vacation.
• 1:42:58
  They're like, I'm getting married and I had the planes
• 1:43:03
  booked. I had, you know, like, like, I'm
• 1:43:06
  not going to cancel this vacation.
• 1:43:07
  Well, if you choose not to come to work, you're fired.
• 1:43:12
  That's that's wrong. That's so wrong.
• 1:43:15
  But if you watch George Stern, he has a lot of those kinds of
• 1:43:17
  stories. And it's it's just interesting
• 1:43:20
  to listen to how some managers treat people.
• 1:43:23
  I wouldn't reply if I'm on vacation if my boss is messaging
• 1:43:27
  me. Yeah, but one day you you wake
• 1:43:30
  up and you're fired. Yeah.
• 1:43:33
  Probably even then it's a wedding it's it takes months.
• 1:43:39
  We'll like, one guy was in Italy for a vacation and the boss
• 1:43:44
  texted him and said, I need to hear you tomorrow.
• 1:43:46
  Like, I'm not coming back until Wednesday.
• 1:43:49
  We've already rebooked all your flights.
• 1:43:52
  He's like, I don't care. I'm not coming back, you know?
• 1:43:56
  And then he says you're right, go ahead, fire me.
• 1:43:59
  Yeah, don't come back. As a counselor when I was gone,
• 1:44:08
  I tell my families, don't reach out to me because I'm on
• 1:44:10
  vacation and this is an emergency.
• 1:44:14
  And you have to ask yourself what will causing me change in
• 1:44:18
  that emergency, right? If you just need to talk to
• 1:44:22
  somebody, OK, If you're a suicidal, I'm the only one they
• 1:44:25
  can reach out to, I guess, you know?
• 1:44:30
  But set those boundaries before you go on vacation, right?
• 1:44:33
  I'm a teacher, Mr. Murphy, I need this assignment graded.
• 1:44:38
  No, tough shit. It's not getting graded.
• 1:44:42
  You know, you're Sol. So actually, I had a student
• 1:44:50
  that actually replied to me one day and said, Mr. Murphy, I need
• 1:44:52
  this graded. Or am I just Sol?
• 1:44:56
  I wrote her back and I said I'm not getting a paper right now.
• 1:45:03
  If I have time later today I will and I'll let you know.
• 1:45:06
  So thank you. It's vacation.
• 1:45:09
  She's trying to get caught up, but she emailed me.
• 1:45:12
  She didn't text me, she emailed me.
• 1:45:15
  But I just think that, you know, I could ignore the message and
• 1:45:18
  no one would know. But I know and checking the
• 1:45:22
  assignment, it's literally a 5 minute thing.
• 1:45:25
  If I spare 5 minutes, I did and done, you know?
• 1:45:31
  But when someone's on vacation, you do not want to be that guy
• 1:45:35
  and bother them. Trust me, you don't want to do
• 1:45:37
  that. Never.
• 1:45:39
  OK, and if you're the boss and someone takes vacation, leave
• 1:45:43
  them the hell alone, please. It's your fault that you're
• 1:45:47
  having issues. Yeah, you know, and you know,
• 1:45:51
  you can't say they cut the the budget or whatever because guess
• 1:45:55
  what, you know, that's not their fault, It's yours.
• 1:46:01
  All right, so let's just take, we're not going to take another
• 1:46:06
  break, but we are going to talk about the final burden.
• 1:46:09
  So go ahead and let's queue it up.
• 1:46:21
  The final take from today's discussion is balance isn't a
• 1:46:25
  luxury, it's a life skill. Protect your piece like it's
• 1:46:28
  your paycheck. The final flame has been struck
• 1:46:32
  back to Murph Man to wrap the show.
• 1:46:35
  All right, last night before the movie started, I showed Connor
• 1:46:39
  this. I said, what do you think?
• 1:46:42
  And he goes, that's that's really cool.
• 1:46:45
  And I said, protect your piece like it's your paycheck.
• 1:46:49
  It's a job. You can't just say, oh, it'll
• 1:46:53
  take care of itself. No, it's like a job.
• 1:46:55
  You have to go and ask for the time off.
• 1:46:58
  You have to go and take the time off and you have to decide what
• 1:47:01
  to do on your time off. Right.
• 1:47:04
  Yeah. It's like a paycheck for you.
• 1:47:07
  It's a job, you know? Balance isn't the luxuries and
• 1:47:10
  life skill you have to learn to say no, OK, Saying yes all the
• 1:47:14
  time is not a good thing. You know, if you're that person
• 1:47:19
  that your boss turns to all the time when there's a crisis, OK,
• 1:47:23
  that's your problem because you'd let them turn to you every
• 1:47:27
  time and you fixed it. And if you're a high not earner,
• 1:47:34
  but if you're the expert quote, UN quote and they're always
• 1:47:38
  coming to you for something, you let that happen, right?
• 1:47:42
  Yeah. We've those of us who are high
• 1:47:46
  achievers, we we tend to fix problems without even bringing
• 1:47:50
  to anyone's attention. We just do what we have to do to
• 1:47:52
  fix it and before you know it you start doing things for
• 1:47:57
  people. And a perfect example is the
• 1:47:59
  last school I worked at I left with like 3 days notice.
• 1:48:05
  It's long story. Not because I hated them or
• 1:48:07
  anything, it just that's how it all worked out because of
• 1:48:09
  Christmas vacations and whatnot. But they still called me
• 1:48:13
  afterwards and they still need my help and now I'm OK with
• 1:48:15
  that. But what's funny was I left and
• 1:48:20
  a lot of the issues came up that I was working with.
• 1:48:27
  I laughed because I was like, yeah, dude, I would take care of
• 1:48:30
  that by doing this. I didn't know you did that, you
• 1:48:33
  know? Well, I wasn't bragging.
• 1:48:36
  I wasn't telling people about a problem.
• 1:48:38
  I just took care of things and someone come to me for advice
• 1:48:42
  where they would say, Oh my God, Connor did this again.
• 1:48:44
  Well, tell Connor to this dude or be like, yeah, you're right
• 1:48:47
  to be upset. Tell them to go to hell, you
• 1:48:49
  know, OK. But I was that person we people
• 1:48:52
  would turn to. That was the front desk.
• 1:48:55
  And what was funny was they actually, yeah, they I left and
• 1:49:01
  a lot of it fell apart. Yeah, the school shut down.
• 1:49:06
  Well, that's not no, that's not because of me.
• 1:49:08
  I'm kidding. I'm kidding.
• 1:49:09
  They they consolidated the school into a elementary middle
• 1:49:13
  school. They didn't shut up because of
• 1:49:15
  me. Didn't shut up.
• 1:49:16
  That's funny. I should tell people that.
• 1:49:18
  Yeah. Yeah, if you go back there, it's
• 1:49:21
  not there anymore. What are they?
• 1:49:23
  Going to do with those buildings if you could picture a question
• 1:49:34
  mark in the air over my head. They're still there.
• 1:49:38
  What buildings are there UE? Like the library.
• 1:49:42
  They're using it. They remodeled it.
• 1:49:46
  What am I thinking? Oh, I'm thinking of fan in.
• 1:49:48
  Yeah. That's right.
• 1:49:50
  Sorry. I was like, yeah, what a yeah,
• 1:49:57
  that's my bad. That's another part of town.
• 1:50:00
  This northeast. We're central.
• 1:50:02
  Only 12 miles away. No, it's not 12 miles, don't
• 1:50:05
  even. No, we did not know so.
• 1:50:11
  He's talking about they closed his school after he left and
• 1:50:14
  everything and they haven't done anything with they're trying to
• 1:50:16
  sell the property. 9.2 miles. OK, my bad.
• 1:50:22
  Almost 10. Yeah, I'm like get get your
• 1:50:24
  facts right. But remember, OK, those high
• 1:50:30
  achievers do things and you bring on a lot of stress
• 1:50:33
  yourself if you're a high achiever because people expect
• 1:50:35
  things from you. Just be careful with it.
• 1:50:40
  It's a secret power, a superpower if you will, and
• 1:50:43
  people don't have to know you have it OK.
• 1:50:46
  But once you leave, all of it becomes very clear how much you
• 1:50:50
  actually would do for the for the company before you left.
• 1:50:54
  I myself had a teacher at the school on Matt that there was 1
• 1:50:59
  teacher that had a lot of problems with a lot of people
• 1:51:02
  and I did my best to get along with her.
• 1:51:04
  You know, it was, it was OK for the most part.
• 1:51:08
  All of a sudden she was gone. I don't know if she quit or she
• 1:51:10
  got fired or died or I have 0 idea.
• 1:51:13
  I don't ask. That's not I don't need to know.
• 1:51:16
  Although I am curious. I don't need to know.
• 1:51:18
  But I, I took over her class and I didn't reach out to her and
• 1:51:23
  say hey I, I need your school data whatever, you know what I
• 1:51:27
  mean. She no longer worked for us.
• 1:51:30
  Why am I going to bother her now?
• 1:51:33
  Again, she might have passed away and I don't know, you know?
• 1:51:37
  Who knows? Highly doubt that though, never
• 1:51:39
  would think about that. Oh yeah?
• 1:51:42
  Well, dude. I'd rather her take her hostage
• 1:51:46
  or something then think she's dead.
• 1:51:50
  Oh. I don't know what you mean by
• 1:51:51
  that, but OK. Well, like worst scenario, like
• 1:51:53
  worst case. Scenario.
• 1:51:54
  You would rather think something like that instead of saying
• 1:51:57
  she's dead? Yeah, OK.
• 1:52:00
  We had one employee one time that was in the hospital and her
• 1:52:04
  mom called the office and I told you the story before and the mom
• 1:52:08
  said, hey, this person's in the hospital.
• 1:52:11
  And my boss was like what, what's wrong?
• 1:52:13
  What happened? The mom answers none of your
• 1:52:15
  business. It technically is.
• 1:52:25
  It's not her business. She's right.
• 1:52:28
  Well, no, hold on. You don't have to tell someone
• 1:52:29
  why you're out. I'm in the emergency room.
• 1:52:31
  I'm in the hospital. I won't be back for three days.
• 1:52:34
  That's all you have to tell them.
• 1:52:35
  You don't have to give any personal data.
• 1:52:38
  I guess, yeah. You know you don't.
• 1:52:40
  Well, I was your friend. You know, I broke my leg.
• 1:52:44
  I'm in the hospital getting fixed.
• 1:52:45
  I won't be at work today. All right?
• 1:52:47
  So be it. You know what I mean?
• 1:52:49
  You don't have to explain to the boss anything.
• 1:52:52
  You don't. Period.
• 1:52:53
  You don't have to maybe want to, you can.
• 1:52:57
  But this mom, she's like none of your business.
• 1:53:00
  And my boss was like, OK, thank you.
• 1:53:04
  And she didn't reach out to her. Three days later, we still
• 1:53:08
  hadn't heard from her. You know, she didn't call us or
• 1:53:13
  nothing. The 4th day, she didn't come
• 1:53:16
  into work when she was supposed to.
• 1:53:19
  The fifth day, she didn't come into work.
• 1:53:21
  No messes, no nothing. And then my boss fired her.
• 1:53:26
  Oh yeah. And she's like, I'm still in the
• 1:53:28
  hospital. And say something.
• 1:53:31
  Well, yeah, we we don't know this.
• 1:53:34
  There's a point where, yeah, you don't have to say why you're in
• 1:53:37
  the hospital, but if you only said three days, they expect you
• 1:53:41
  to be gone for three days, right?
• 1:53:44
  They'll be still in there after three days, you know?
• 1:53:46
  So maybe say something and be like oh.
• 1:53:48
  Hey now, now if. I'm still in.
• 1:53:50
  Here I had a student come into my class one day.
• 1:53:53
  I looked at her. I'm like, what did you take my
• 1:53:55
  class like a year or two ago? So yeah, two years ago I said,
• 1:54:00
  did you fail? And she's like, no, she says I,
• 1:54:03
  well, I failed, yeah. But I I was in the car, I was in
• 1:54:05
  a coma for three months and the class ended like.
• 1:54:12
  One day. Nobody reached out to the school
• 1:54:14
  on your behalf to tell them I'm in a coma, right?
• 1:54:17
  Like you. You call me, I'll give an
• 1:54:20
  incomplete. Hopefully you wake up before
• 1:54:22
  those four months, right? Just like no one called.
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  I don't understand this concept, right?
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  If something would happen to you, right, and you can't go to
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  work or to school, I would reach out on your behalf.
• 1:54:39
  That's the courtesy thing to do. I would think so.
• 1:54:42
  Right. And if you're in a coma?
• 1:54:43
  Then obviously you'd be like, hey, yeah, my son won't be going
• 1:54:47
  to school for a while, right? He's in a coma.
• 1:54:50
  Yeah. That I would.
• 1:54:52
  I wouldn't mind saying why I'm in the hospital.
• 1:54:55
  Well, to explain to my teachers. You can like, for example, you
• 1:55:00
  can be generic. You don't have to say specifics.
• 1:55:02
  Oh, yeah. You know, he broke his leg.
• 1:55:03
  OK, well, he's getting casted. He'll come back tomorrow.
• 1:55:05
  Oh, no, they had to have surgery.
• 1:55:07
  Put pins in it. He has, you know.
• 1:55:09
  Then yeah, they don't. They don't understand and
• 1:55:11
  they're still trying to get me. Back to if you say something
• 1:55:14
  minor like, oh it's a broken leg, no, it's a shattered leg
• 1:55:16
  and he'll never walk again. Yeah, I'm a come back different
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  in a wheelchair. You know, little different, but
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  anyway, you know, it's up to you what you want to tell your boss.
• 1:55:26
  Remember that it's not something you have to do, OK?
• 1:55:29
  It's something you want to do. That is true.
• 1:55:33
  OK, but letting them know you're out is something that you have
• 1:55:38
  to do, OK. The specifics, not so much.
• 1:55:42
  Anyway, I think that's it for today, Connor.
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  What do you think? Yeah, I think so too.
• 1:55:46
  You think so too. Yeah.
• 1:55:48
  So next week we will see you. We will be back, OK, and.
• 1:55:59
  What? What episode are we on?
• 1:56:01
  Well, next week's 58 and don't ask me what the episode is
• 1:56:04
  usually on my head and I I never talked about that.
• 1:56:06
  I just wanted to know the number.
• 1:56:08
  That's why I was like when I was trying to change the title for
• 1:56:11
  trivia and bingo. Yeah, I was like, it's 57, but
• 1:56:15
  it doesn't feel like 57. Yeah, we need to change it.
• 1:56:18
  But all right, you know, that's it for today.
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