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What happens when you call out a narcissist? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what happens or how do narcissists feel when you call
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  them out, when you finally decide to expose them to the
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  world or, or when you finally decide to call them out to their
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  own face? Like what happens?
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  How how do they react? How do they feel inside?
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  That's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  Here to give you the perspective of a narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode to the Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back y'all, welcome
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  back. I'll be bouncing around to the
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  theme music. I'll be getting hyped.
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  I'll be getting my height. I would get my energy super high
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  so I can bring y'all this heat so I can set this set this video
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  on fire. Yes, y'all yes.
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  So OK, stop calm, calm down. Let's get it, let's get into it.
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  Narcissistic people absolutely cannot stand to be called out.
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  That's one thing boy, that thing is crawl across the board,
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  right? You know, there's certain things
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  like I try not I try not to speak in absolutes.
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  And I also hate when other people speaking absolutes about
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  anything, especially about about narcissistic people, right,
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  because I know no, no two narcissists are the same, right?
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  So if No2 narcissists are the same, I can't speak in
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  absolutes. But this is one of the things
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  right here that I think you can kind of speak in absolutes about
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  because I don't think any narcissist likes to be called
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  out. Any of them, any of us, me,
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  that's me included. I don't want to be called out
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  either, but I don't want to be called out.
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  I don't want to be. I don't want that, no.
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  So I don't think any, I really truly don't think any other
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  narcissist wants to be called out.
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  I think we hate it. We hate it like that.
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  We're going to go into two different parts of this, right?
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  We can go to the part where you called them out to their face or
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  you called them out slash exposed them to the world as
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  well, right? So I don't think any of them
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  like it. Regardless of whichever 1 you
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  decide to do, I don't think there's a narcissist out there
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  that will be like, you know what?
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  I really appreciate the fact that you called me out to my
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  face and told me everything that I've done wrong.
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  Told me how horrible a person I am, how you wish I was never
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  born, how you can't wait for me to pass away so I can go to the
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  seventh layer of hell. I, I, I appreciate you saying
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  that to me, 'cause I, I know, I know it's true, right?
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  I don't thank anybody. I don't think any narcissist out
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  there wants that to happen. I don't think any toxic person,
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  any narcissistic person would it would enjoy that happening to
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  them, right? So I say that to say this,
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  they're like, there's very different ways that they're
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  going to respond. And the first part we like said
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  we're going to happen too is if you called them out to their
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  face, what will they do? How will a narcissist respond if
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  you called them out to their face?
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  Like what would they do in this situation, in this scenario?
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  So a lot of times when you, when you look at them directly in
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  their face and call them out, when you finally stand up for
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  yourself, there will be the initial shock, the Pikachu face,
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  right? Because they're like when you
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  stand up for yourself, it's damn near like you shocked their
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  system. Like they, it's like a, it
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  causes like a system or they, it causes them to reboot, reboot on
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  the spot, like a little narcissistic reboot.
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  They're like, and then there was, then, then they'll, it's
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  like they're trying to think of what to say to you because
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  they're shocked by it. Because they're so, yeah,
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  they're not expecting you to be strong.
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  They're not expecting you to exude strength.
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  So they will be shocked that you did this right when you called
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  them out. A lot of times they will be
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  shocked that you did this. And how would they respond?
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  Some of them will respond with anger.
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  You already know that. Some of them will absolutely
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  come at you with some the vicious anger of 1000 Suns.
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  They coming for you, right? They coming for you.
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  They you might get some narcissistic rage here, y'all.
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  You might get some narcissistic rage.
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  You might get the silent treatment.
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  You not like I said you they not going to clap for you.
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  They're not going to clap for you.
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  Like I'm proud of you for for calling me out to my face.
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  I'm so proud of you. Good job.
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  Good job honey. Good job son.
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  Good job baby girl. Good job.
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  They're not going to do that, right?
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  They are not going to do that type of stuff.
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  They're not going to do that. They like I said, they're not
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  going to thank you for calling them out.
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  Most times I don't think they will.
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  But like I said, the narcissistic people, they
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  they're going to be shocked and they will try to retaliate
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  against you. That's just factual right there.
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  They're going to try to retaliate in some way, shape or
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  form, right? So not only will they be shocked
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  and yell and scream at you or give you the silent treatment of
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  Stonewall you, this is going to surprise you right here, y'all.
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  Some of them will actually be happy that you called them out.
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  Come with me, Come with me. Like, come here.
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  Come with me on this ride right here.
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  Well, Lee, how the hell? Why would the hell would they be
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  happy? What if that narcissistic person
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  was trying to set you off? They was trying to get you.
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  They were antagonizing you on purpose, and then you react and
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  now you're calling them out, but you're yelling and screaming at
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  them while you're calling them out.
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  You're throwing stuff at them while you're calling them out.
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  And guess what happens? They whip their phone out,
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  record you, and now they're smiling because they got you.
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  You see what I'm saying? This is not me telling you not
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  to call them out. Be careful if you call them out.
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  This is me saying if you do decide to call them out to
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  control those reactions, you see what I'm saying?
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  Because sometimes they'll setting you up.
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  You didn't think about that one, did you?
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  Y'all thought it was like yelling scream.
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  You didn't think about 'cause I look, I put my narcissist hat
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  on. When the narcissist hat goes on,
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  like the thoughts come out, the narcissism comes out.
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  I'm like, look, I might want you to, I want, I might want you to,
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  to, I might want to set you off so you'll call me out so you
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  yell and scream at me. I might want you to do that,
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  right, because that benefits me in the long run.
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  So be careful with that right there, y'all.
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  Now, what happens if you call them out in public or you expose
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  them in public there, If you call them out in public, y'all
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  be prepared. Be prepared, 'cause I'm, I'm
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  gonna just build off what I just said about calling them out in
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  private to their face. Some of them again, are trying
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  to intentionally antagonize you. Some of them want you to call
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  them out. Some of them are do it y'all
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  over here? I'm gonna do a longer video on
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  this in the in the future and I've done, you know, it's called
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  dog whistles. You ever hear of dog whistle?
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  It's when they, they are covertly trying to trigger you.
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  They're they, they're saying and doing things that they know will
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  trigger you that will set you off.
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  So sometimes again, they want you to have those reactions.
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  They're trying to set you off. They're trying to antagonize
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  you. They're trying to do things to
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  you in order for you to reach out to them, in order for not
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  reach out to them, in order for you to call them out.
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  So you have to be prepared for that as well because that
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  happens to a lot of people right there.
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  Well, they will absolutely call a lot of people.
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  They will absolutely lose their minds and do a lot of try to do
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  a lot of damage to you. They'll lose their minds and try
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  to become and do a do a try to do a lot of manipulation to you.
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  They'll record you. They don't like, say, if they
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  do, if you do it in public, if you call them out in public and
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  you're yelling and screaming at them, saying all the bad things
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  about them to them, guess what happens?
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  They don't have to record you because now they have witnesses.
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  Now they got witnesses. Can I get a witness?
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  Oh, yeah. We're in the background.
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  Yeah, they, they actually, they got a witness now.
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  So now they don't necessarily have to record you because now
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  everybody else sees it for themselves.
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  Everybody else sees how crazy you are.
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  Everybody else sees what I have to deal with.
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  Everybody else sees what I have to come home to and what goes
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  y'all don't see? Y'all thought she was nice and
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  kind and cool, but look what I got to deal with behind the
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  scenes. Y'all see, it ain't all sunshine
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  and rainbows. She's she's completely different
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  behind the scenes than she is in public.
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  And I just, yeah, she just snapped in front of y'all.
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  Gotcha, gotcha. That's something that you have
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  to think about right there as well.
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  This is something that you have to put inside of your mind and
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  think about because narcissistic people, I'm telling you, some of
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  them are intentionally trying to set you up the two intentionally
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  trying to set you off in public or just so you so you try to
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  embarrass them. So you are the one that looks
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  like the aggressor, so you look like the abuser, right?
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  And the next part y'all is that if you expose them in public,
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  you call them on the public, some of them, well, it you know,
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  some of them will absolutely come back at you.
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  They'll yell and scream at you. They'll some of them throw hands
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  with you, right? They'll yell and scream at you.
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  They'll throw stuff at you. They'll they'll lose their minds
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  on you in public during this public call out.
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  And again, they'll blame you because you they'll make it seem
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  like you started it. I didn't want to say this.
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  I didn't want to do this. You brought this upon yourself.
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  You made me say this, you made me do this.
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  And a lot of them will go, go, go with it from that perspective
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  right there. So you again, have to be
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  prepared for this to happen too. Because again, they will lose
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  their damn minds again, they will they narcissistic people
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  tend to they'll go crazy. Somebody will absolutely go
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  crazy on you if you expose them in public in front of their
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  faces or you call them out in public in front of their faces.
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  So the camera unfocused about to make me my head hurt.
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  But then again, some of them will play the victim.
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  Somebody will play the victim and be shocked Pikachu face and
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  then just be surprised that you did it anyway in public, public,
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  private, whatever. They'll be shocked that you did
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  it regardless. They don't, it'll mess with
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  them. So like I say, narcissistic
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  people, a lot of stuff starts going through their mind and
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  sometimes they'll just try to expose you back.
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  Like you just try to expose them or call them out or whatever and
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  tell everybody what's been going on.
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  Some of them just, it just starts a they will just start a
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  smear campaign. Some of them will start a smear
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  campaign on you because you called them up because you
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  exposed them. Any type of evidence, anything
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  that can be taken out of context, anything that can be
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  misconstrued, they'll do over and over again.
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  They will they'll do it over and over and over again.
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  This is the mentality of an abusive manipulator, y'all.
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  So This is why you have to protect yourself against
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  narcissistic people. Now, if you call them now, if
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  you call them out online, be careful because I say again, if
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  you call them out online, they a lot of times they, they, they
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  narcissist reputations are everything.
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  So if you called me out online, you I had to see me in person,
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  right? If you called me out online, you
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  don't have to see me in person. We going, we going to have this
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  conversation face to face. So if you called them out online
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  again, I'm not look, yeah, I'm not saying don't do this.
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  I'm not saying be afraid of this person.
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  I'm saying use caution, of course, use discretion, of
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  course. That's what I'm saying.
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  I'm not saying you should be very, very afraid.
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  We're hunting rabbits. You know what I'm saying?
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  I'm not saying you should be Elmer Fudd and be be very, very
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  quiet and take the abuse. No, I'm not saying that.
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  I'm just saying if you do decide to call them out, if you do
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  decide to expose them, just be careful because you'd never know
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  what this person is willing to get.
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  What was this person is willing to lose in order to try to hurt
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  you back? Because that's what they, that's
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  what they're going to take it as.
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  They're going to take it as you trying to hurt them.
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  So they're going to try to take it as you trying to hurt them or
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  hinder them or, or just break them down or whatever the case
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  may be. They're going to take it that
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  way. So that's what you have to
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  prepare for. This is the mental, this is the
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  mental part of it. This is the, you know, the part
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  where narcissistic people do this type of stuff to mess with
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  your heads, to mess with your mind.
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  So you have to be prepped for this type of stuff.
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