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Season 2 - Episode 117 - What energy are you bringing to your children? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so today, I want to talk to you about the energy that you
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  bring two children. And, you know, all these baby
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  chicks. I have out here right now.
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  I really got me thinking about things and especially little
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  little little things, like kids, because I'm watching this movie,
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  group of little chicks that we have, and they are by far.
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  Some of the most confident, chicks we have ever had, and I'm
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  looking at them. And I'm saying, why is that the
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  case, you know, what is so different about this group of
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  little chicks as opposed to the other groups of Checks and it
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  got me thinking about, you know, how we do with our children.
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  And, you know, even in my own situation, I was raised by
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  someone who had one parent that was extremely confident and
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  always like on par and then I had another parent, my, you
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  know, who was much more nervous as I talk to you guys before
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  about it. My mother was very much an
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  anxious nervous person. My father was much more
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  confident. So I was blessed with having
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  both of these traits built into me and I look at now, this is
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  the Second season that this mom has raised eggs and she's so
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  much more confident. And the chicks are so much more
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  confident and what she's bringing to them, and how she's
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  teaching them, and how she's so much more skilled and how these
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  babies are just so much better. So, it's got me thinking about,
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  you know, what energy are you bringing to your children?
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  It doesn't matter their age. They could be too, or they could
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  be 22. It's 42.
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  It doesn't really make much of a difference.
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  But what energy are you bringing to them?
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  Are Bringing and instilling confidence in them or you
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  instilling doubt in there. And oftentimes the questions
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  that we ask are what really pushes it.
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  So my mother was great at asking questions that made me it
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  absolutely instantaneously go down and out.
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  Vortex always scared the crap out of me and made me
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  uncomfortable but that's what went on in her head.
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  My daughter has a very different experience because I
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  purposefully thought I was never going to live that way.
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  Now I wasn't going to put it Out in the world.
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  But I was going to be very conscientious of what went on in
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  my own head, to try to get rid of it didn't mean I didn't have
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  to deal with it but I wasn't going to pass it on my son is
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  even more different because he has a father.
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  My husband is very, very good with my son about being on point
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  in his masculine energy. Teaching my son to be very
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  confident as a young man which is fantastic and I love that.
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  It's my job. Also to instill a little bit
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  more of that. Like, you know, okay, you know,
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  be conscientious be a One more careful obviously just as a mom
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  would do with a male, but at the same time, I don't like to
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  induce doubt. I want him to be confident but I
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  want him to be conscientious and there is a difference.
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  So when you start thinking about the energy that you show up with
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  and you're sharing with your children, I think it's an
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  incredibly fascinating study to think about, well, how am I
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  answering these questions? Am I asking them in ways, that
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  show them that I trust them. A thinking or am I asking them
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  questions in ways that make them doubt they're thinking, am I
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  asking probing questions or am I asking leading questions?
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  Am I giving them good information?
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  Or am I giving them information that's going to make them feel
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  uncomfortable about their choices and their and whatnot.
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  So I'm bringing this to your attention because it's only
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  going to help you be a better person but it's also going to
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  help them in the process. And so many times we think we're
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  doing the right thing by pushing them in.
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  Direction that we would take but their life is their life and all
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  we can do is say well these are the things that I would
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  consider. So one of the things that I've
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  really developed with my daughter is just pointing out
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  and do this with my son to, but he, with my daughter,
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  specifically, I will give her information and I say, well, if
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  I were in your shoes and I knew exactly what you knew, I would
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  consider ABC and then I let her know.
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  But I and then she would say well, which one would you take?
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  And I'd say, well, I'd probably take this one.
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  And for this reason, however, I'm not you, and you have to
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  make the choice based on what your facts are.
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  Not my facts. And I can tell you, I know, for
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  100% certainty that she always says, well that's really
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  helpful. Thank you, because she knows
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  that it's coming from a place of distinctions that are based on
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  her and my experience melded together and that she can look
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  at it and not just think I'm trying to Shove her to a way
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  that I want her to go because sometimes I say I would not do
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  it, but I think you should do it based on, I'm being very honest
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  about it. So, take this all into
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  consideration. Think about what you're bringing
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  to the table. Put yourself into a better
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  headspace before you have conversations with them.
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  Get yourself into that, place of being a thoughtful guider, as
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  opposed to just someone who's living through the habit of
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  where they were. I hope you guys have a very
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  blessed day and I We'll see you all tomorrow morning.
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  Bye. We'll see you all tomorrow
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  morning. Bye.