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Lessons learnt in the Dominican Republic · Wedding Pros who are ready to grow - with Becca Pountney

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Becca: A few weeks ago, I had the privilege of being invited to speak
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at the I A D W P World Romance Travel Conference in no, other than
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the Dominican Republic, I had the most incredible few days learning.
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Meeting other people, and of course, sharing my knowledge with
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people from the stage as well.
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This episode is gonna be all about the things I learned during my
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time in the Dominican Republic.
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Whenever you go on one of these events, there's always loads of learnings.
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So today I'm gonna be talking about that and sharing what I've learned that you
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can implement into your wedding business.
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I'm Becca Pountney, wedding business marketing expert, speaker and blogger,
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and you are listening to The Wedding Pros who are Ready to Grow podcast.
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I'm here to share with you actionable tips, strategies, and real life
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examples to help you take your wedding business to the next level.
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If you are an ambitious wedding business owner that wants to take your passion
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and use it to build a profitable, sustainable business doing what you
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love, then you're in the right place.
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Let's get going with today's episode.
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Today I wanna give a little bit of a shout out to some of my incredible
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Wedding Pro lounge members.
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The Wedding Pro Members Lounge is for wedding business owners who want
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additional support, accountability, and to learn from incredible guest experts and
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keep on growing in their wedding business.
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Every month now, each month, we get together for a lounge call where we look
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back on the previous month, set goals together for the month ahead, and they
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get the chance to meet each other as well.
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Now at the start of this, Week's call.
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I asked people to share some of their wins from the last month, and I wanted to share
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some of them with you because I wanna give a shout out to my incredible members.
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And also I think it's inspiring to hear what other people are doing.
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So I'm not gonna name them because I didn't ask them if I could do this, but
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I am gonna shout out some of their wins.
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So some of my members, one of them was a guest on a podcast
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and had an absolutely great time.
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I had one member who has quoted for a couple with a massive budget, the
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biggest budget that they've ever done.
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One of my other members said that the last four consultations they've had
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were amazing and all with ideal couples.
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Again, you'll know that if you are looking for certain kinds of couples when you
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start getting them into your business, you know you're doing the right thing
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with your marketing and your messaging.
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One person returned from a holiday and had two replies to their inquiries, which
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is always nice when you've had a break.
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one person had a five star review, someone else said they're nearly
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fully booked for the week ahead.
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And finally, one of my members got a huge contract to perform
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at a TikTok staff event.
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So shout out to you if you're in the members lounge and
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you've had an incredible win.
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I always love to hear about it.
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And if you're listening to this and something great's happened in your
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wedding business from something you've implemented, maybe something you've
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learned on one of these podcasts, drop me a message at Becca Pountney.
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I always love to hear from you.
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And if you're in business and making money and you want additional support
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and community, you should definitely check out the Wedding Pro members lounge.
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As well.
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Just ask me for more information.
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Okay, let's get onto it then.
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The Dominican Republic, oh my goodness.
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It was the most incredible country I've never been before.
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Don't know if you have, it was beautiful.
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I've never seen sea, so crystal blue in all my life.
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It was stunning.
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And I hope to be able to go back there on an actual holiday at some
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point rather than on a work event.
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So in this episode today, I just wanna share with you some of the
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things that happened, some of the things I learned along the way, and
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hopefully they'll inspire you on your wedding business journey this week.
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Now, the first thing I wanna say is I want you to know that you should
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say yes to opportunities even when they feel a little bit uncomfortable,
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and even when your head comes in with all the self-limiting beliefs that we
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tend to have now, I was actually only invited to speak at this event about
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four weeks before the event itself.
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So I received out of the blue a letter inviting me to come and
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be a speaker, in four weeks time.
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And my initial thought that popped into my head was, That's a long way, and
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that's too soon, and it would've been very easy to say no because it's too soon.
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Well, I actually looked in my diary and the dates that they'd sent me.
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I did actually have gaps in my diary for those dates, so I
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was available to make the date.
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So actually there wasn't really a reason to say no.
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Being a little bit last minute probably wasn't a reason I had space in my diary.
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It was an incredible opportunity that I would've been crazy to turn down.
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And so despite everything within me saying no, and despite making
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sure I had 24 hours to think about it before I responded, I said yes.
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And I'm so glad I did because I would've missed out on so many great experiences.
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The people I met out there.
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If you're listening and I met you there, you are amazing.
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I met so many wonderful, incredible people while I was out there.
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Everyone was so friendly.
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I went on my.
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Own, which is scary.
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It is a long way, but people made me feel really welcome.
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And actually sometimes when you go to these things on your own, you make
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better connections because you're forced to make friends, you're forced to find
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people to speak to, and you meet some of the most amazing people as well.
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So do I have any regrets about going?
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Absolutely not.
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Am I glad I said yes to the opportunity?
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A hundred percent.
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I really am.
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No regrets at all.
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I absolutely loved it.
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I learned so much.
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I met some great people.
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And I'm sure I'll be working with many of the people I met
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for the years to come as well.
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And if that's you, then, thank you for making that such an enjoyable trip and
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such an enjoyable experience for me.
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So the lesson learned is that actually sometimes we do need to step back.
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When something comes our way, an opportunity, and it feels maybe a
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little bit uncomfortable or our head starts telling us all of the reasons we
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shouldn't do it, give yourself some space.
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And realize that's just your own head, giving you those self-limiting beliefs.
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And actually why not just say yes, these opportunities don't
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present themselves all too often.
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We know that often if you say no to an opportunity, it
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might not come around again.
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And if it works and you can do it, then to say yes, don't
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let confidence hold you back.
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So that's the first thing.
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I'm so said.
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Yes, opportunity.
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Got opportunity coming up or presenting itself to you
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over the next month or years.
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Think about it and just say yes.
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Even if it makes you feel uncomfortable, what's the worst that can happen?
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And you might just find that something amazing happens as well.
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Okay, my next learning was actually from one of the talks that was given on the
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first day by a wonderful lady called Lynn.
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And she was speaking about lots of different things, but one thing
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she said really stuck with me and it was a quote, and I'm gonna read
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the quote to you now, and I think this will resonate with some of you.
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You will never regret taking the holiday, but you will
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regret the ones you didn't take.
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I'm gonna say that again.
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You will never regret taking the holiday, but you will
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regret the ones you didn't take.
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Now, I wrote this down straight into my notebook during the session
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because that really resonated with me.
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I think as entrepreneurs.
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We are so often our own worst enemies.
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We're maybe chasing after success, whatever our version of success is.
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The world tells us that working really hard and earning more and more
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and more money is the definition of success, which isn't necessarily true,
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and we can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to work really hard and
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to work more hours than we want to.
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And I speak to so many of you that say, oh, we haven't got time to go on
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holiday, or, I don't wanna take time out of the business to take a day off,
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cuz my to-do list will just get longer.
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Actually, it's so, so important that we do take the break, that we do take the
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holidays, that we do go on a spa day or go out for coffee sometimes with a friend
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instead of tackling that to-do list.
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Now obviously we need to have a balance, but actually taking a break is a win.
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Taking a holiday is a good thing.
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It helps us be more productive and what I find when I take a holiday is that it
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gives me that head space to think about new ideas because I'm not in the moment.
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I'm relaxed.
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I'm having fun with my family, and it's definitely true.
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That quote, you never regret taking the holiday.
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I've never been on a holiday and thought.
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I wish I hadn't been on this holiday, and I've really lived
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that this year with my family.
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We went, on holiday in May, and we've actually booked to go away
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again in August because actually we had such an amazing time.
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We're so relaxed, and if we can take the holiday, why not?
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Take it.
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I take most of the summer holidays off myself anyway, because I have the kids
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at home and I have to work with them.
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Now, I know I could work really hard all summer holidays and maybe bring in some
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more money into the business, but actually it's not always about that for me.
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So, I want you to reflect on that.
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If you are the person that never takes the break, never takes the holiday,
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feels like they've gotta keep on working harder and harder and harder to earn
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more and more money, and that they kind of punishing yourself and not taking a
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break, then take a look at your diary and put some time in for you, your family.
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You will never regret taking the holiday.
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You'll regret the ones you didn't.
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Take.
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Love that.
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Thank you for sharing that quote, Lynn, if you are listening.
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Okay.
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The next learning number three that I had while I was out in
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the Caribbean was actually from one of the lovely people I met.
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I met her on the first night.
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And one of the flaws in my personality, especially when I go to events
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like this, is when people start talking to me about their business.
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I can't help but just get super over involved and start doing
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a little bit of coaching or teaching in those conversations.
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So they think they're there for a nice, relaxing drink, and then
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they get talking to me and probably instantly regret it, or maybe not.
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I don't know.
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It's definitely something that I struggle with because sometimes I think
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maybe I should just keep quiet and let them talk about their business.
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Anyway, on the first night at the drinks, I met this lovely girl.
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We had a wonderful chat about her business.
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And I was doing my usual thing of doing loads of posts and
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popping them on Instagram and doing little Instagram stories.
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And so we started chatting about posting on Instagram and I asked her about her own
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Instagram, can I follow you on Instagram?
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Can I tag you on Instagram?
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And she was like, oh, I don't really do social media very much for my business.
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I don't really do Instagram at all.
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I hardly ever post.
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Now you can imagine my response was Why on earth, not like why,
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like you're at this amazing event.
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You are in the Dominican Republic.
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There is so much to talk about.
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Don't tell me you haven't got any content to share.
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You can take photos of everything that's happening here and
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share on your social media.
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It's really good for your business.
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It's really good for your visibility.
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And yeah, basically the poor person got a huge talk from me and we
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had a good conversation about it.
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But when I got to the heart of the reason, and I think again, this will
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resonate with some of you, the reason that she wasn't posting on social media
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was not because she didn't have content.
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It was actually because she felt a bit cringy.
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And she said she felt like she was showing off and she felt like she didn't
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wanna post because people didn't wanna hear what she had to say and actually
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like, why did she need to be doing that?
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And she'd rather stay silent.
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Now we had a really interesting conversation and as I said, I get
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over involved and I challenged her to reset her mindset and stop thinking
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and worrying so much about herself.
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And start thinking about her followers.
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So, as I say, quite frequently when it comes to business, I think we should
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always have an attitude of service.
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So I encouraged her to think about her social media platforms differently.
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Stop thinking about, oh no, I'm just really cringey.
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No one wants to hear from me.
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I'm gonna embarrass myself.
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What's everyone gonna think?
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But instead, turn that around and think, okay, who are my potential customers?
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Who's following me on social media?
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And how is what I'm doing, going to serve them.
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How am I helping them solve a problem today?
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How am I encouraging them or inspiring them in what they're doing today?
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Now she worked in travel, so I said to her, well, if I was going on a trip to the
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Dominican Republic, for example, and you were sharing really great insights about
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the places I should eat, the things I should do, the weather, the hotels, what's
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really great, why I should pack, all of those things are amazingly helpful for
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someone that's never been there before.
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And actually, It's a real service.
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I'm not looking at that content thinking, oh, here she goes again.
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Don't like keep seeing her popping up on social.
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What I'm actually thinking is, this is really helpful.
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Thank you for posting this.
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Please post more of it.
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So when we start changing our thinking and realizing, okay, this isn't
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actually about us, it's about the people that are following us and about
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how we are able to serve them, help them, help them grow, and obviously
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as part of that remain more visible.
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The other thing I explained to her was the attitude of service towards the
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other people that were hosting the event.
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So we were talking about posting about the event itself and how she didn't
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wanna look like she was showing off to people about being in the Caribbean.
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So, Now, obviously this gave me a little pang of guilt for a second
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cuz there's me just posting left, right, and center about being there.
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And then I said to her, well this is why I do it, because actually I'm serving
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the people who have put this event on.
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We're in the Caribbean.
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Yes.
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And it's amazing, but there are some staff who have worked incredibly hard.
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So number one, put the event on.
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Number two, the hotel that's hosting it, the chefs that have spent.
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Hours making the most incredible food displays, the photographers, all of the
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florist decor, or the people who are involved in making that event happen.
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Actually, it would be a disservice for me not to share their work
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with the world, not to say thank you, not to say, wow, look at this
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incredible food display at this hotel.
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Look at the amazing floral decorations, that this event has.
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Pulled together.
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Look at the incredible speakers who have come all this way to
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share their knowledge with us.
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And so actually when we're posting on social media and we're tagging
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people and we're talking about other people and how amazing they are,
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again, that's an attitude of service.
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Those people have worked really hard in that job, and we're actually not
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showing off with thanking them for all of the things that they've done.
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So I hope that this encourages you as well.
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If you are someone that thinks, I hate posting on social, I don't wanna show
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off, I don't wanna talk about me, well start changing that mindset and think,
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right, how am I serving other people?
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How am I serving the people that follow me on these platforms and
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helping them and being visible?
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And how am I serving other people that I'm posting about to
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make their day even better now.
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Through the week, she started posting more regularly.
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I think she had my voice ringing in her ear again, apologies for that.
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But she started posting and she came back to me the next day and said, I've been
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posting quite frequently on my Instagram.
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I've been doing all the things you said.
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I've changed my mindset.
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And she said to me, I've had more interaction over the last 24 hours on my
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Instagram profile than I have had ever.
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So it works.
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Showing up works, being visible works.
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People do wanna hear from you.
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Just think about it as an attitude of service rather than worrying all of the
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time what people are thinking about it.
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And if that's you, I encourage you today think about what you could
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post to serve somebody else and start making their day better.
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Okay.
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The next thing I wanna talk about, taking a totally different train of
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thought is all about business cards.
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Dunno about you.
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I feel like business cards are becoming a thing of the past, but they are still
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really useful when you go to these events, you meet loads of people, you
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are given loads of business cards.
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I tend to shove them in my bag and then try and remember which
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ones I wanna follow up with later.
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And also because I was flying, I didn't have loads of room.
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I didn't wanna take loads of business cards.
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And also I feel like if I give out business cards, people do the same to me.
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They just stick 'em into their pocket and go away and forget about it.
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So I decided this time to implement a virtual business card and a QR code.
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So essentially what I did is on Canva, I created a bunch of, Instagram story
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size things, for my phone images.
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And each one had different information on, so I had one that had a photo of me
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and my contact details on it, and then all of the other ones had QR codes on them.
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So I had one for the podcast with the name of the podcast, and then a QR code.
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I had one for the Instagram, my Instagram with the QR code.
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I had one for my course with a QR code as well, and I made them all on Canva,
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saved them, downloaded them all to my phone, and I've saved them in an album
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on my phone called Business Cards.
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Now, the reason this is working well for me is number one, I don't have to carry
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a business card anymore, and I don't have to worry about people putting it in
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their phone, but I can also present them with whatever is the most useful thing
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based on the conversation we've had.
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So if I'm chatting with someone and we end up talking about the
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podcast and how much I think the podcast will help them, I can just.
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Pull up the podcast thing in my phone.
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They can scan the QR code right there, and then I can tell them to follow the show.
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And then I know that they're getting that into their podcast inbox
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every single week, and they've got the podcast and it's all great.
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Same with Instagram.
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If that seems to be a good place to connect, I'll say to them, just scan
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the code right now while you're here.
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Jump onto my Instagram.
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Yep, that's me.
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Hit follow.
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Drop me a message.
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Let's chat further in Instagram.
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Or if they do want my traditional contact details, they can
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just take a photo of my phone.
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So it's working really well for me.
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It really does take away the faff of the business card.
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It means you can have multiple versions of your business card.
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So for you, you might be able to save some of these with a QR code to your
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pricing packages, or you might be able to have one that goes to your contact form.
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You might have one that goes to your Instagram.
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You might have one that is just more of a traditional one.
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Save them on your phone, put them under an album like, I said, call it business cards
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or something so you can easily pull it up.
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You don't have to go through 5 million other photos to find it,
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and then you can use that going forward for people to either take
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photos of or to scan those QR codes.
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If you dunno how to make a QR code, you can make them in Canva.
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It's very easy to make.
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It doesn't cost anything.
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You can do it on the free version of Canva and then you can add that in.
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As well.
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And basically it means someone can just scan it and then it takes
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them to whatever website U R L you have put in on that QR code.
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If you get any questions about how to do that, technically do drop
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into my inbox at Becca Pountney on Instagram or Facebook, and I can
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point you in the right direction.
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But definitely one to think about.
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Definitely a learning I've had from that trip that it's working really
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well, specifically because I can point people to the right thing as well.
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So if they wanna talk to me more about my course, I can send them straight to that.
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If they wanna talk to me more about the podcast, I can send them straight to.
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And it doesn't have to be one size fits all because it never is.
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These conversations go in different tangents depending on what
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you're talking about at the time.
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So I encourage you for your next networking event or conference that
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you're going to, or even just to have on your phone in case you have
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a chance encounter with someone that's interested in what you do.
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You never have to worry about whether you're carrying a business
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card again, cuz we're pretty much always carrying our phones.
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Get those saved in your phone and you'll be ready to go.
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Okay.
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A couple more things from the Dominican Republic for me to share with you.
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First of all, I wanna share with you that in life we're taking
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stepping stones, not leaps.
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And when you see someone else's success, it's just the next stepping stone.
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Now obviously, speaking of the Dominican Republic was probably one of the biggest
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things I've done in the wedding industry.
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I absolutely loved it and it was an incredible opportunity.
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Now if.
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People have just met me there, or maybe you've followed me on Instagram.
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Maybe you've only come across me recently on this podcast.
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You can look at that and think, wow, that's an amazing opportunity.
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I wish I could do that, and I want to remind you when you see things like
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that on social media and you think, I wish I had those opportunities, that
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for that person or for me, it's the next stepping stone in a much longer
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journey that you may not have seen.
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Now, I'm privileged to have people in my world that have been with me since
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I started this business way back in 2016, and they really have seen every
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stepping stone of the journey they've seen, the things I've done and how
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I've got to where I've got to today.
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But you may not have seen that.
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And when you look at other people online, you look at other wedding professionals
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who are doing big weddings or speaking at events or doing these incredible things,
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and you might think, I wish that was me.
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You don't necessarily see their backstory.
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So yes, I did have an amazing opportunity to speak on this big stage.
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Actually, there's a huge backstory to that.
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I've spoken in tiny little conference rooms.
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I've spoken in little tiny meetings.
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I've spoken in memberships online, all of the things that don't look so
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glamorous, but I've been doing for years to build and build up to this point.
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Now I've got a friend called Lucy Superfox.
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Some of you may have heard of her.
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I think she's wonderful.
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And we were actually messaging just last week about this same thing
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because the week after I was in the Dominican Republic, she was
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speaking on stage in Las Vegas and.
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Again, looked incredible online on her Instagram and people
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were like, wow, that's amazing.
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But we had a little chat in the dms to remind ourselves of what journey we've
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been on, because way back in, I think it was probably 2017, 2018, we actually
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spoke together at this tiny event in Milton keynes it was a little brunch
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event to some female entrepreneurs.
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It was a lovely morning.
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We both spoke, to a small room of people in Milton Keynes and.
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I just said to her, isn't it incredible that we met at this event where we were
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both speaking in these tiny little event?
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And now over the last couple of weeks, we've both spoken on
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these huge international stages.
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What's a journey It's been, but that journey has been years long.
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Now.
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We've done the stepping stones.
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We've taken one step after the next step, after the next step.
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So when you see somebody else's success in the industry, Don't beat yourself up.
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Don't think, why isn't that me?
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Realize there's been a whole raft of stepping stones to get to that point.
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And if that's where you want to be, you absolutely can start stepping on
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those stepping stones to get there.
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Based on some of the things, the messages I got in the Dominican Republic,
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I'm gonna start a new program, which is gonna be launching in September.
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More details will be coming soon for people who want to go on that journey,
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who want to be on stage, who want to be having more of a bigger presence,
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interviewed on podcasts, maybe even starting their own podcast, but
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don't quite know how to get there.
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I'm gonna show them some of the steps in that journey.
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But instead of looking at other people and thinking, I wish that was me, you
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need to look at other people and realize that's just one step in a longer journey.
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And I can get there too.
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I just need to start taking the smaller steps as well.
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And if looking at other people's stuff on social media makes you feel
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rubbish, just stop following them.
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Like, we don't have to follow our competitors.
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We don't have to follow these.
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Big names in the industry that seem like they've got it all together.
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We don't have to do that.
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If that is having a negative effect on you, then switch it off.
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Okay.
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The final thing that I wanna share with you this morning that I learned while I
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was out in the Dominican and before I went and probably after I came back as well,
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is this idea and I'm, I've spoken about it before and it's really stuck with me since
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I heard Carrie Wilkerson speak about it at an event and it's stop worrying about what
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they think because who are they anyway?
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So often we worry about what other people think about us.
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I know you are listening to this and even if you're like, I don't
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care what people think of me, probably deep down, really you do.
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We do struggle with this and we do worry about what other people are thinking
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and we often say, oh, I don't wanna post on social because what will they think?
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I shouldn't do this event cuz what will they think?
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But actually when you start to think about who they are, it's just a figment
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of our imagination most of the time.
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It doesn't really happen.
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And whenever I go on one of these big trips, this invades my mind
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because I'm female and I'm a parent and I've got two young children who
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I adore, and I started this business to spend more time with them.
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And it really shocks people that I could go away for four days to speak
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at a conference and leave them behind.
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And often I'll get comments from other parents in the playground or you know,
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people making jokes or whatever it is about the fact that I'm going away
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and swanning off on these holidays.
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Obviously I'm not, I'm working hard, but.
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We can really worry about what people think and that can stop us doing stuff.
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Actually, we don't need to worry about what they think, because if you've
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made a decision as an individual, as part of a family to do something
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and to take an opportunity, then.
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It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks about it.
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The other reason we worry about what they think is we worry about
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this idea of imposter syndrome.
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So, you know, you think almost if someone catches me out, anyone
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else think that happens if they realize I'm not such a good florist?
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What if they realize that I'm just so and so who's a photographer
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and I'm not really an expert?
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And we start worrying about being caught out now.
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I'm the same.
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I worry people will question my authority, like, how dare she
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speak on stage about marketing?
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What does she know about this subject?
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what is her experience?
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And actually this happened to be while I was away, someone said to me over
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dinner, what's your experience anyway?
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Have you even ever owned in a wedding business?
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And my gut felt sick cuz I thought, uhoh, someone's gonna catch me out.
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They're gonna realize, I dunno what I'm talking about, which is ridiculous.
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And I took a breath and I thought, actually I don't care what they
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think, I know what I'm doing.
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So I explained to them a little bit about my backstory.
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I'm not sure they were that interested.
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I think they were kind of having a little bit of a dig and.
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You know, sometimes these things come from a, a different place,
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or maybe I interpreted it wrong.
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But it really played into that insecurity about worrying about what they think,
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because you know, I do hear a lot of wedding educators who talk about
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their six figure wedding business, and I don't have that experience.
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I, I never had a six figure wedding business.
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Now I did have a wedding business.
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I understand what it's like.
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I owned a wedding videography business.
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It was successful, but it was never a massive.
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Huge six figure business.
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But you know what?
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I do have my own experience, which allows me to do what I do
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now, and that's experience that many people who maybe owned a six
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figure wedding business don't have.
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I worked in television, I worked in radio, I've worked in
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marketing for some huge clients.
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I understand.
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Email marketing.
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I understand marketing on the radio.
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I understand all of these things and I've had lots of lived experience
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and I've helped people over the years grow their wedding businesses
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and I've helped other people grow hugely successful wedding businesses
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through that marketing knowledge.
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Not because I had a six figure wedding business, but actually
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because I understand how marketing.
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Works.
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So I'm glad that that insecurity didn't last with me too long.
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But I think these things can impact us.
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We worry about being caught out.
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We worry that people will think we're not good enough.
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But actually each and every one of you has your own experience.
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You have your own mind.
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You have your own worth that you bring to this world.
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And actually, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks of you because
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you know that you're good at what you do deep down and you know that
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you've got the experience to do it.
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And you know that you can create incredible wedding days for people.
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And you know, you can make amazing decisions and decide what opportunities
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to take or what wants to turn down.
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And I wanna encourage you if you are worrying about what they think or what
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they might say, just remember who's they anyway, and what does it matter.
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It really doesn't.
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All in all my experience out in the Caribbean was incredible.
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If you've never been to the Dominican Republic before, oh
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my goodness, I recommend going.
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It is an eight hour flight for the uk, but it went fast.
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I watched lots of films and it was worth it.
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I was only there for a few days.
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But definitely worth the travel.
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Not too bad for my jet lag.
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I loved every minute of it.
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The people were friendly.
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If you're looking for a holiday destination, I definitely
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recommend the Dominican Republic.
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It was beautiful, and hopefully by me sharing some of my lessons with
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you today, you've learned a little bit more and had some more thoughts
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for your wedding business too.
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