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Hot Takes With the Murphman Episode 50 - Reading The Room · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

• 1:17
  Welcome to Hot Takes with the Murph man.
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  I am the Murph man here, my Co host Connor.
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  How you doing, Connor? Doing good today, Murph.
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  Man, how are we doing today? It's been an interesting week.
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  Interesting. Why do you say that?
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  Well, we start school next week at college.
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  Yes, we do. And I had to do a lot of prep
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  work for that. And I'm going to be starting use
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  this new platform called Lumen. I got to learn how to use that
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  like the week before. I decided to just do everything.
• 1:43
  Yeah, the day before, actually. Yeah, and how?
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  How about you? You ready for school next week?
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  Yeah. Yeah, honestly, I don't have a
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  bad schedule like I did last year.
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  No, you don't. I really don't.
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  The the advantage of your your schedule is it's all during like
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  from 11 to 3 like. Lunch to end of school, Yeah.
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  So you could literally miss the traffic coming home, right?
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  Because yeah. When middle school gets out
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  because. But I'm the major traffic.
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  Oh yeah, people getting off work and everything.
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  And then you can actually stay there later if you want to go to
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  the library and study and do everything right.
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  So yeah, yeah, I think I think you have a pretty good schedule.
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  Let's see how that goes today, right.
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  I got to tell you what, Speaking of college, one thing that I was
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  doing this past week was looking for a loan.
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  Connor HUD gets financial aid to get school.
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  He gets scholarships and all that.
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  But I wanted a little extra money for him to pay me rent.
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  Yeah. To pay for the gas for the.
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  Because we got we got him his car up and running.
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  We got it fixed. So he's going to be able to
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  drive his car to school. He's been driving my car, but
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  now he has his own car, which is pretty cool, right?
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  Yeah. Yeah, it's a stick.
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  So I got to learn how to drive stick, but oh, interesting.
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  I, I think it'll do fine, you know, 'cause when you first
• 3:01
  started trying to learn it, you had trouble because of the, the,
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  what's it called? Learning how to drive on top of
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  learning how to drive stick, you know, So, but now that you know
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  how to drive, we're gonna teach how to drive stick and you're
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  gonna have a little sports car. So that's pretty cool.
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  It's an old sports car. How old is it?
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  Connor in 24 in January. It could be considered a.
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  Classic car. So I was telling my brother
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  about it and he thought it was funny as hell.
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  Like it's a classic. I'm like, yeah, it's a classic.
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  You can get an antique plate on it.
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  That's funny. You know how they tell you you
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  don't buy your kid a brand new car, You get him?
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  A + 20 + 20 yeah. So, like, if you Rex, it's like,
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  OK, oh, I lost $3, you know? Yeah.
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  Although we put it in a hell of a lot of money to fix that car.
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  It sucks, but it's a really good car.
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  It runs great and you're going to love it.
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  Trust me on that one. But anyway, so we were looking
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  at getting a school loan for his living expenses to pay for the
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  gas and maintenance of the car and you know, a few, a few other
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  expenses like a meal plan at school, books, you know, all the
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  things that may not be covered. Like what else was there?
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  The rent in groceries and utilities at the house,
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  basically. So you.
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  Don't have to get a job and I applied for the loan and I I I
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  applied for the amount with tuition included.
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  We don't need that. I'll just return that money.
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  But I wanted to know what it would cost because I was
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  curious. This is my first time applying
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  for a college loan. I had the the VA right.
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  Yeah. So I had the GI Bill, I didn't
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  have to pay for it. I had tuition assistance with
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  the military, right? I got a master's degree debt
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  free, so I never had to take a college loan out.
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  And I said, let me, I'm curious. Everyone always says college
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  loans are so expensive, right? I'm paying on college loans
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  forever and hasn't nothing's gone down.
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  Well for the $13,000 loan I was looking at, our payments would
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  have been at a 17% interest. OK.
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  After you graduate from college, it's deferred for six months,
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  but in the whole time, 3 or 4 years from now, it is accruing
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  interest and our payments would be $500 a month for 15 years to
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  pay back a total of 53,000. All right, $53,000 for a $13,000
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  loan interest is crazy right now.
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  You can pay along the way, you can make payments every month
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  and it lowers your rate. So once it kicks in, that's what
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  you actually charged interest on because you've been paying the
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  interest all along and you know there's ways around it, but.
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  But damn. Yeah, to pay the interest on the
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  loan, we have to pay 200 a month.
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  So that's why when you have a house and you have a loan on it,
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  you don't want to refinance it for between 7 to 10 years
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  because you haven't paid any of the debt down.
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  It's all interested upfront. So like if I have $1000 payment,
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  900 goes to interest and 100 goes to the house, maybe even
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  only 40 goes to the house. Is that ridiculous or what?
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  Right. Yeah.
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  Same thing with cars. People are buying cars that are
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  more expensive than or not more expensive, but you know, almost
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  a house payment, right? The car I want to buy and you
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  know, this is my my not my dream car, but I wanted a Toyota
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  Camry, right. The hybrid and I've changed a
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  little bit. I researched a little bit.
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  A new battery for a Toyota hybrid is about $10,000 in about
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  10 years. So I look at the Lexus ES hybrid
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  and that battery is only four to 5000 now is making this more
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  expensive and everything. Yeah.
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  But actually it turns out that the Lexus might actually last
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  longer than Toyota Camry. So I, I'm looking at that right
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  now, you know, and then I'll give you my car now you know,
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  and then we can say what you want to do with this up.
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  Yeah. Right.
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  But yeah, so I'll be. Like my project car, if
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  anything, yeah. Like you and your friend, you
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  get together and you fix his car, He can come and fix yours.
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  Yeah. You know, although everything's
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  been fixed on, it's mostly cosmetic.
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  Yeah, it's just like the maybe a new radio.
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  The radio's good. You need speakers.
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  Oh yeah, I need the speakers. Sorry, I forgot I need speakers.
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  You don't hear this like as we're talking, you don't hear
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  all this. No, my headphones are down so I
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  tried turning it up. Oh.
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  Your OK? Well, your headphones are down.
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  Well, leave it. Just leave it No.
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  Your headphones are up there. We turned down then.
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  OK. Yeah, sorry.
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  OK, Yeah. I need a new I don't even know
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  what it's called on top of the radio where the time would be.
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  Or it's the display the. Display not.
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  Not the whole dash display, but just a certain display on this
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  vehicle. Yeah, it's just small stuff like
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  the, but I just want to get it fixed also.
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  That's it, yeah. It's mostly cosmetic stuff.
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  So, yeah, you know, it's, it's funny because as we're getting
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  to do this, going through life, learning about the parent side
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  of it, college side of it, you know, student side of it,
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  there's so many different things going on that I think it's
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  pretty interesting to, to talk about it cuz people don't talk
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  about this. You know, they say get a school
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  loan and that's why you got to pay, you know, you know, what
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  happens if that you don't pay your loan, they garnish your
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  wages. So they actually contact your
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  employer and say he owes us this money.
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  We'll take your money away from you.
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  Now, the other thing that would be cool is you get a job with
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  the government and they forgive your student loans.
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  Sometimes when you do like healthcare and certain stuff
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  that helps people, like social work, sometimes they will
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  forgive your student. The government will pay them for
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  you. OK, You're doing computer
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  science. I don't know that that's even a
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  possibility, right? But I think we can't count on
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  that. But you got to.
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  I just wanted to see what what the whole deal was with school
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  loans because I've never done it.
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  And I looked at them like, damn, that's crazy, that's crazy.
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  So imagine, imagine four years of college at that.
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  You're looking at a $2000 payment when you get out of
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  college, if that's how it works, because maybe they'll lower your
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  interest rate from higher amounts.
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  I don't know. It's crazy.
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  It just, yeah, it just ridiculous.
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  Anyway, welcome to hot Takes with the Murph.
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  And that is my hot take for today.
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  Yes, students, student loans or BS, Yeah.
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  They get to go to college. Yeah, but God, dude, I got to
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  that's. See, luckily your tuition's
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  paid, you know, like you have the Hazelwood Atkins, you know,
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  any financial aid scholarship, you know, that stuff is taken
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  care of and the scholarships are not that much.
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  But I just wanted, I was curious, let me just see what he
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  can get, you know, 'cause like, if you wanted to live on your
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  own, I wanted, I was curious, like, how much would it cost?
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  And that was only with a $400.00 payment.
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  Imagine if we went for the full $700.00 rent and then your own
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  groceries, your own utilities, your own everything.
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  Damn. Oh, insurance for the car.
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  Yeah, yeah, it's God damn. The school loans are such ABS
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  thing. That's a scam.
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  I've always heard of that being a scam.
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  And it's like crazy. Anyway, welcome to the show.
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  Today we're going to be talking about corporate culture, reading
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  the room, understanding the situation that we're in when we
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  join a go to work or something. But I do want to let you guys
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  know that we're going to go ahead and ignite today's fuse on
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  the show. Welcome to Hot Takes with the
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  Murph Man. Today we are talking about
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  reading the Room, A beginner's guide to Corporate culture.
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  This episode helps you decode company culture so you can
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  adapt, contribute, and thrive without losing your All right,
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  So all right, A beginner's Guide to Corporate culture.
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  The episode helps you decide, decode, sorry, decode company
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  culture, and thrive without losing your authenticity.
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  Connor, you asked me about that. What does authenticity mean when
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  you're talking about this? What do you think it means?
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  I'm just curious. Authenticity being real.
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  Being real, yeah, yeah, OK. When you go into a place of
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  work, and I've talked about this the last couple of months,
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  business edit, kids, stuff like that, right?
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  Yeah. But when you go into a new place
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  of work, you're not really aware of what the culture at the work
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  is, right? So you go in there a little
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  cautious and you're not yourself.
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  When you start a new job, you're not.
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  And sometimes the side of you that is real doesn't ever come
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  out. You know, with me, I, I don't
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  try to put up a fake front. I'm, I'm very confident in who I
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  am. And when a new employee comes
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  in, I don't say, OK, this is how it's supposed to be done, but
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  this is how we're going to do. No, no, no.
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  It's like, this is how it's done, period.
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  You know, if they find a shortcut their own way, that
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  they find their shortcut their own way.
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  But I'm talking about like when I started a new job, I'm funny.
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  I like to make jokes and being a counselor, people don't take me
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  seriously. They're like, how can this guy
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  be a counselor? Like he's counseling kids,
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  families, adults. How right.
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  Yeah. And I, I didn't, I didn't care.
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  I knew I was a good counselor. I am a good counselor and I know
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  I've helped people. And I remember one day I had to
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  do something and I had to take over situation.
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  And my Co worker was with me, was just sitting back.
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  And she says I'm I'm so impressed with how you, you do
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  everything, you know. And I said being funny and
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  joking and inappropriate maybe has no bearing on who I am as an
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  employee. OK, but it does affect us
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  because it's your perception. If you have a boss who perceives
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  you as unprofessional and their counseling is you need to be
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  more professional. You got to really think about
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  that. Now, I will tell you the moment
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  that it became very clear to me that I should dress a little
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  better at work because I was dressed in jeans and polo
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  shirts. I went to a district event and
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  they had the kids from the alternative school come up on
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  stage and I was working with them.
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  So they introduced me right at this event and their outfit,
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  their school uniform was black pants and a white polo shirt.
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  Guess what? I was wearing black pants in the
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  white polo shirt. Just coincidental so that my
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  picture came out in the newsletter, the newspaper, I
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  don't know which. And my friends, like, dude, you
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  look like one of the students. And I was like, yeah, maybe I
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  need to dress a little better. What do you think?
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  And he's like, yeah, I think you do, too.
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  So I started changing the way I dressed a little bit, not too
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  much, but I bought button up shirts about, you know, better
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  stuff than just polo shirts. I, I wear polo shirts because
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  it's just easy. It's just easy.
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  I just wash them, throw in the dryer.
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  I'm done, you know. Well, it's not what you do with
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  every laundry. You have to iron polo shirts are
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  like wrinkle free so you just hang them up.
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  It's. Wrinkle free, but yeah, well.
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  Well, they're not. Nothing's 100% wrinkle free, but
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  you know you can hang it up and it stays good.
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  True, true, you know, but so when you're being authentic,
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  that is basically what I want to teach you guys about today, how
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  to be authentic. But you have to read the room.
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  So let's talk about that and let's get to today's burning
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  question. Today's burning question is what
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  is the difference between cultural fit and a cultural
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  multiplier? A They are the same thing.
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  B Cultural fit means you align with the culture.
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  Cultural multiplier means you enhance it.
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  C Cultural fit is a good thing. Cultural ad is a bad thing.
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  D Cultural fit is about your personality.
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  Cultural ad is about your skills.
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  The. Heat is rising, Connor Fan those
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  flames. All right.
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  So cultural fit, all right. Do you think it is they're the
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  same thing as multiplier means you align with the culture and
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  the culture multiplier means you enhance it.
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  Do you think cultural fits a good thing and cultural Well,
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  it's supposed to be cultural multiplier is a bad thing or is
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  cultural fit about your personality and cultural
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  multiplier is about your skills. I.
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  Think it's going to be B where it says cultural fit means
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  you're aligned with the culture and then culture multiplier is
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  you enhance it but a culture. Multiplier is someone who
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  enhances the team's culture by bringing in fresh perspectives,
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  unique value to the team, and previously missing rather than
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  just fitting in, mirroring the existing views.
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  All right, while companies look for a cultural fit, the modern
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  approach to look for is cultural multiplier.
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  Now let's talk about that. I know you guys don't believe
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  me. You look at me, I'm Mexican
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  American, OK, or American Mexican, I guess.
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  But you don't you don't see that in me, right?
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  And when I went for my job interview, like my boss, she
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  hired me. She and I spoke Spanish because
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  I didn't interview another part of the company.
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  So she never even tested my Spanish.
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  And she threw me into the Cigundo barrio here in El Paso,
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  which is like the the Latino part of town.
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  And she basically thought because the way I, I, I joked
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  about I don't want to work with kids, right?
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  That within two or three months I'd quit.
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  And she's like, you know, so I just put you in the place where
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  I said, oh, he can sink or swim. I didn't really, he didn't, she
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  didn't really care at the beginning.
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  And what was funny was as she saw me working with kids, my we
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  would be in the conference room and kids would walk out past her
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  office to the lobby and she see kids sitting in the lobby with
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  attitudes and anger and whatever, right?
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  Whatever perceptions and stereotypes you could think of
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  as you see these kids, they go see me.
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  They came out laughing, joking, and I was still being a jerk
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  with them. Like, dude, you know, like
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  better straighten out or I'm going to come in, you know,
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  whatever. And she's like, I don't
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  understand why the kids like you.
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  She says you're mean to them, you're rude to them.
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  And I said, well, that's just me joking with them on the way out.
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  But but you meet somebody and you're joking with him like that
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  in session sometimes, you know, and like I, I had a kid who stay
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  at the runaway shelter one day. And when she went home, she told
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  me, hey, they stole my pair of pants.
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  So one of the caseworkers and I got together and we got all the
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  kids, set them down. And I took the lead on it,
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  right? And I said, all right, we know
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  something has been stolen. Now notice I said something has
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  been stolen. I didn't say who it belonged to.
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  I didn't say what it was. I said, I know something has
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  been stolen. I'm going to give you guys one
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  chance to get what you stole and bring it back here.
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  And, you know, all six or seven kids leave and they all come
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  back with a bunch of stuff, right?
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  And the caseworker who runs a the shelter sitting there
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  looking at this and I looked for the pair of pants and you know,
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  pair of pants weren't there obviously, right?
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  They all had little stuff. And I said all right, I said
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  none of this is what I'm looking for.
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  I said try again. And they got up and my Co
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  worker's like damn, like where do they keep doing all this
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  stuff? I said obviously you need to do
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  a better job taking care of the shelter.
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  Kids come back with a bunch of stuff and the pants.
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  And I told Anthony, call the police, dude, call the police.
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  They're they're not turning it in.
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  I had a feeling because of who I am, kids hide stuff.
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  I could sense it, right? And one kid says, hold on, comes
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  back with a phone and a ring. They stole my boss's ring.
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  They broke into her office and stole her ring.
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  We didn't even know that they had a, a phone, a landline that
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  they would plug into the room and they would call people.
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  One girl was calling her boyfriend in Japan.
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  The bill hadn't arrived yet. So I I told him I said, all
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  right, get out, you know, like, rude, like, get out.
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  And Anthony was just like, God damn her ring.
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  Like, we were just like, it exposed so much poor
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  supervision. People lost their jobs.
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  OK, but when I told my boss about she goes, how did you do
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  this? And I said the tough guy came in
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  and said give me one chance. And then I just because of who I
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  am, I'm like, this is not everything.
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  And I saw their reaction and I'm like, go get it, come back.
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  I saw one kid and I'm like, OK, something is missing.
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  You know, when we found everything, my boss was like,
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  how do I, how do I address this? I said address the staff because
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  the staff wasn't supervising them and we need to like not
• 21:28
  leave stuff laying out, whatever, whatever, right?
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  Change our whole habit. But she was just like, how did
• 21:35
  you get these kids to admit all this, 'cause I was tough with
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  them. The next day the kids were like,
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  hey, Mr. thanks for not calling the the police or thank you for
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  not arresting us or whatever. I said I'm that's still in the
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  works. It's not 100%, but it's not my
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  decision to make. And she's like, these kids are
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  coming to you saying thank you and you're like, it's the same,
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  you're welcome. You say no, you're still in
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  trouble. She says why, Why?
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  She didn't understand. And I said because the kids know
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  I'm being real with them. True, yeah.
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  And kids know when you're trying to fake that you care.
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  Kids know when you fake that you're trying to do certain
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  things right. And it, it's, it's, it's funny
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  because being authentic got me to do so many different things,
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  which is really awesome, right? I'd like that.
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  I'd like the fact that people realize, OK, even though I'm
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  tough and I'm mean and I'm this crazy joker kind of person, I'm,
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  you know, I'm not bipolar. This is all a part of me.
• 22:48
  I'm a great counselor. I joke around.
• 22:50
  I'm serious. I, I did whatever the situation
• 22:53
  applied that matters. Now when we had like real
• 22:57
  serious situations, I took care of them.
• 23:01
  You know, it wasn't a big deal because I was able to be
• 23:07
  professional and do the job that was required of me.
• 23:10
  So as we're doing all this, when you think about being authentic,
• 23:14
  realize being authentic is being real to yourself within the
• 23:19
  culture of the business. And that's what we're going to
• 23:21
  talk about today. So let's go ahead and get to my
• 23:24
  second hot take of the day. In today's hot take.
• 23:36
  Today's hot take is this. The only way to truly thrive is
• 23:41
  to be a cultural ad, not a cultural fit.
• 23:44
  Trying to blindly fit in by suppressing your authentic self
• 23:48
  leads to burnout and obscurity. The best employees bring a
• 23:52
  perspective the team is missing, not just a mirror of the
• 23:56
  existing perspective. That's the core.
• 23:59
  Now let's stack the fuel. Let's talk about that.
• 24:03
  Let's thank you. OK, a cultural ad, Are you
• 24:16
  adding to what they have or are you fitting in and conforming?
• 24:23
  Am I saying go in and bulk it and buck the norm?
• 24:27
  Bucking is pushing out of the way and that's I'm not using the
• 24:29
  B word instead of something else.
• 24:31
  OK, OK, buck it. Like Kick It Out of the way and
• 24:34
  do it your own way. No, I'm saying go in there and
• 24:38
  fit in and find your spot and enhance it and do better.
• 24:42
  OK. When when you do all that you
• 24:45
  have better rapport with your Co workers.
• 24:48
  OK, You're not trying to just be funny, you're not trying to be
• 24:53
  serious, you're not trying to be something you're not, but you
• 24:56
  have to know how it all starts and you day one, you can go in
• 25:02
  there to a job interview and be like, yo, what's up?
• 25:05
  How you doing? You know it doesn't work that
• 25:07
  way, right when when you go into a job interview being cocky.
• 25:12
  Sometimes I've, and I've talked about this cock being cocky
• 25:15
  sometimes can be against you. When you have a boss who's cocky
• 25:20
  and someone comes in cocky, it's automatic challenge and you got
• 25:24
  to figure out a way around that. And good, good managers let the
• 25:27
  cockiness flow. They don't take it as a personal
• 25:30
  threat. They're like, I hired him
• 25:31
  because he's a badass. OK, You can't hire a badass and
• 25:37
  then say whoa, chill out, slow down like that.
• 25:40
  One girl did the YWCA with me right.
• 25:43
  Yeah. She hired me 'cause I was a
• 25:48
  great fit for the job. And then she regretted it
• 25:50
  because I didn't put up with anything.
• 25:53
  I mean, I quit within a week and a half.
• 25:54
  Damn. And I'm not a quitter, man, but
• 25:59
  I, I, I, I knew. I knew that wasn't the culture I
• 26:02
  wanted to be in, you know? But yeah, so are you a fit or
• 26:09
  are you fitting in, I should say, or are you adding to the
• 26:11
  culture? That's what going to ask
• 26:13
  yourselves while we go to break, you guys.
• 26:15
  We'll be right back from break. It's time for a break.
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  matters to the Murph man deeply. He was inspired by Ryan
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  Spencer's song Make 22 Zero. Again, I'd like to remind you
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  Remember, you are not alone, all right?
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  Yes, just like he said, suicide prevention is a big deal for me.
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  If you're feeling like you want to do harm to yourself, please.
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  Call. 988 and press one. You don't have to be a veteran.
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  It's the veterans hotline, it's the crisis helpline, it's
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  everything hotline. Someone's there 24/7, 365 to
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  call you or talk to you, I should say.
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  So call and get some help, OK. And by the way, that song was
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  Ryan Spencer's Make 22 zero again, if you don't know what
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  that is, it's very interesting song.
• 30:33
  You should hear it. I right?
• 30:34
  I like it, yeah. You know, it's one of those
• 30:36
  songs that when I first started playing, I remember the first
• 30:40
  time I heard it, I was like, what?
• 30:42
  You know, there's no song I play at the end of the at the end of
• 30:45
  the show today called Adios Amigo by Dallas Alexander.
• 30:48
  That's another one of my friend, the world's longest sniper shot.
• 30:52
  Adios Amigo. It has a double meaning.
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  Good. So glad I see you.
• 30:57
  Anyway, it's good to today's definitions that we need to
• 31:02
  learn the segment called today laying down the coals, the
• 31:14
  coding corporate norms now value define the ask.
• 31:19
  Before we dig in, let's clarify some of the key terms we'll be
• 31:23
  using today while laying down the coals.
• 31:26
  Corporate culture. The shared values, behaviors,
• 31:29
  and norms that shape how people work together in an
• 31:32
  organization. Cultural fit versus cultural
• 31:36
  add. Fit means you align with the
• 31:38
  culture. Add means you bring something
• 31:40
  new that enhances it. Situational awareness.
• 31:44
  The ability to observe and interpret what's happening
• 31:47
  around you. Now that the coals are laid, the
• 31:50
  foundation is solid. Now let's see it in action.
• 31:54
  So let's talk about corporate culture, Connor, the shared
• 31:57
  values, behaviors and norms that shape how people work together
• 32:01
  in an organization. Now, I, I, I've been doing a lot
• 32:05
  of business stuff lately, right? And one of the things I noticed
• 32:08
  is there's a guy who gives tips and he says, sorry, I stepped on
• 32:17
  the dog. No, OK, we don't have a dog.
• 32:24
  Chick-fil-A has this culture of saying thank you for everything,
• 32:29
  right? Yeah.
• 32:31
  And you, when you're training someone, if you're if I'm
• 32:36
  training you, Connor, and someone asked me a question,
• 32:39
  like answer them, but I don't say thank you or whatever the
• 32:41
  reply's supposed to be, right? What are you going to do as an
• 32:44
  employee? You're going to say, oh, we
• 32:45
  don't have to say it. You watch this guy over here
• 32:48
  say, oh, sure enough, anything, whatever is this person respond
• 32:52
  differently. And you're like, OK, we don't
• 32:53
  have to say thank you. Has that person bought into the
• 32:55
  culture of the business? No.
• 32:58
  Was he taught the culture of the business?
• 33:00
  No. When you go to places like that
• 33:06
  and you have a culture of how things are done, like Coyote
• 33:11
  Ugly, they dance on the the bar. OK, It's a it's a bar.
• 33:16
  You have to be willing to do that if you're going to work
• 33:19
  there. OK, If you go to Twin Peaks, you
• 33:25
  got to dress a certain way. Hooters, you got to dress a
• 33:27
  certain way, right? But when you go to places like
• 33:35
  IBM or Raytheon or the government or whatever,
• 33:40
  different cultures every, everywhere has different
• 33:42
  cultures. How they would dress, how we
• 33:43
  talk, how we act. And, you know, it's it's
• 33:50
  customer service, but it's nice when everyone is on board with
• 33:54
  it. What ends up happening is
• 33:57
  everyone does it. So it becomes a norm.
• 34:00
  And that's the cultural norm. Now there's a movie called
• 34:04
  Waiting. Do you remember that movie with
• 34:06
  Ryan Reynolds with the the game? Oh.
• 34:09
  Yeah, the the game host game. Yeah, the game I was, I was
• 34:12
  talking about hosting like the waitress.
• 34:18
  What the? Wait, the waiter one?
• 34:22
  Yeah, that's what I'm saying. That's what I was going to say.
• 34:25
  All right. Anyway, in that movie, he's
• 34:28
  going around teaching a new guy how to talk, I mean, how to do
• 34:31
  the job. And he gives them all the
• 34:31
  insurance and outs of everything, right?
• 34:34
  And he is very inappropriate, let's just put it that way.
• 34:41
  But there's this waitress, and do me a favor, look her up.
• 34:46
  This is some actress I want to talk about the waiting actress.
• 34:56
  What's her name? Is the girl with the dark hair
• 34:58
  there to the right? What's her name?
• 35:02
  Alana Obach. Alana Obach.
• 35:06
  She plays this really rough waitress and she's in the back
• 35:15
  and she's cursing up a storm and she walks around the corner.
• 35:17
  You get this really pleasant waitress talking to the
• 35:22
  customers all nice, and she runs the bag and starts cursing up a
• 35:24
  storm again. You know, does she fit into the
• 35:28
  culture? Yeah.
• 35:29
  You got to be professional at work.
• 35:30
  But around the Co workers, they're very different, right?
• 35:33
  Yeah. Now she Alana Obach.
• 35:36
  He changed it on me. Oh, sorry.
• 35:39
  Is the mother on Ted? But she is also an accomplished
• 35:45
  singer, like Coco. Look up Alano sings.
• 35:54
  Look up her video real quick. I'm just curious so you can see
• 35:57
  how good she sounds. Anyway, she plays his character
• 36:00
  and she has this way to switch and she's a great actress.
• 36:03
  I love her to death. But I just want you to hear it
• 36:07
  real quick. You can just play it and go to
• 36:08
  the middle and just hear it. Yeah.
• 36:15
  Look, that's her. See.
• 36:19
  That's funny, I didn't know that.
• 36:22
  Wow. So Alana Ubach is someone have
• 36:24
  actually started researching because I've, I've seen more
• 36:27
  videos over say I, you know, TikTok, you see one video, you
• 36:30
  see more videos and everything, right?
• 36:31
  Yeah, in waiting. There's a culture at work.
• 36:36
  They're all professional with the customers, but in behind the
• 36:39
  scenes, very inappropriate. And I, I love that as an
• 36:42
  example. And Speaking of TikTok, I got to
• 36:44
  give a shout out to MBR Talk Roku that we're live on right
• 36:48
  now. Our buddy out there, H Train is
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  doing the show for us, which we appreciate you sharing it for
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  us. Joel, I got to tell you, I
• 36:56
  didn't have the screen refresh it when it first started and it
• 36:59
  didn't show you live. So I was like, oh, I wonder
• 37:02
  where H is and kind of like just refresh your screen.
• 37:04
  So I haven't had a chance to tell you thank you and give you
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  a quick shout out. You're listen, if you're
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  watching us on pure hot takes, you can catch us on YouTube,
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• 37:16
  And you can also find us at MBR Talk, Roku at on TikTok, MBR
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  talk in other places. But you can also go to Roku,
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  look up MBR, find the military broadcasting radio icon black
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  and white and go to and check us out on Saturday.
• 37:30
  You can catch us there live as well.
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  So, you know, I think those of you who come in and talk to us
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  and shared everything with us, so, you know, give you a quick
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  shout out and give a quick shout out to broadcast Beaker.
• 37:40
  If you don't know what broadcast beaker is, Adrian has a thing
• 37:46
  about ducks. He has his character he uses
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  called Beaker and he has ducks, and ducks can weather any storm.
• 37:54
  They can make it through anything.
• 37:56
  So they're very resilient, very strong.
• 37:57
  And that's why he uses the symbol of ducks.
• 37:59
  And what I think is interesting about that is he has this
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  character. We've done animations and you
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  can catch those animations on on all the military broadcast radio
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  channels and some of them here on your hot takes.
• 38:12
  And we're working on animations right now.
• 38:14
  So it's really cool that we're doing there and partnering there
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  with military broadcast radio. So I want to give them a quick
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  shout out is if you look at our bumpers, we have the little shot
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  the MBR situations are going to say.
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  And then Cassie also just joined us.
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  Cassie, thanks for joining us. I appreciate that.
• 38:36
  So going back to the, I don't know, getting back to the show,
• 38:43
  we were talking about the different corporate cultures.
• 38:46
  We also have the term cultural fit versus adding.
• 38:50
  Do you align with the culture or do you bring something new?
• 38:53
  OK, that's also very important. And situational awareness,
• 38:57
  that's probably the most important thing, the ability to
• 39:00
  observe and interpret what's happening around you, right?
• 39:05
  Because if you don't know what's happening around you and you're
• 39:06
  oblivious to it, how are you going to know what's going on at
• 39:09
  work? You can't.
• 39:12
  So I'll tell you what let's talk about, give you a quick story
• 39:15
  because I can tell people, I can share all my stories, but let me
• 39:18
  give you an example in our statement called Story from the
• 39:20
  Fire, Tuning in, not blending in.
• 39:31
  In today's Story from the Fire, Avery joined a startup where
• 39:35
  everyone wore hoodies and called the CEO by her first name.
• 39:39
  At first, he held back, but after observing how others
• 39:43
  communicated and contributed, he found his voice and fit in
• 39:47
  without losing his edge. He learned that reading the room
• 39:51
  isn't about blending in, but about tuning in.
• 39:54
  That was a story from the fire theory turned to reality.
• 39:59
  Now, here's your map to the gold.
• 40:03
  All right, so in this startup, everyone wore hoodies and called
• 40:06
  the CEO by their first name. That takes a little getting used
• 40:10
  to. Right, I have a thing.
• 40:13
  Me personally, if someone introduces me to you, whatever
• 40:17
  name you give me, that's what I'm going to use, you know?
• 40:22
  And actually an example, when I was doing comedy one night at
• 40:24
  this bar, this guy comes in and goes, you know, hey, my name is
• 40:28
  silent and all, right, cool, whatever, right?
• 40:32
  Silent. Then later on, I was doing
• 40:34
  business and someone calls me called Thaddeus.
• 40:37
  I think that was his name. I might be wrong.
• 40:39
  If I am silent, don't kill me. But I was like, it was something
• 40:45
  different like that. And I'm like, where is it?
• 40:48
  You're Hispanic. Where do you get the name?
• 40:50
  Like, I forgot what it was. It was something, but it sounded
• 40:53
  like a very white name. You know, when you're doing
• 40:58
  comedy, you meet all kinds of people and you can say anything
• 41:02
  like, you went to a comedy show, you liked it, right?
• 41:04
  How? Did they like it?
• 41:08
  You know, you see all times all kinds of people there, but when
• 41:13
  you talk about like people going by their first name or anything,
• 41:15
  if I introduce me as a certain way, that's what I'm going to
• 41:17
  call you. So if you introduce me as Sandy,
• 41:19
  that's what I'm going to call you.
• 41:21
  If people call you Sandra, I want to keep calling you Sandy.
• 41:25
  You know someone's name, like Margaret, I call her Maggie.
• 41:33
  I don't know where that came from.
• 41:34
  It just happened. There was a girl we used to have
• 41:37
  in our club. We'd called her Lilo because she
• 41:40
  looked like Lilo. And she's like, why do you call
• 41:43
  me Lilo? You're the only one that calls
• 41:44
  me Lilo. I'm like, what do you mean I'm
• 41:47
  the only one that calls you Lilo?
• 41:48
  Like she says, no one else calls me Lilo.
• 41:53
  No one else calls me Maggie. I'm like, didn't Am I just
• 41:56
  making up these names? Right.
• 41:58
  So I I take it real serious when someone introduces themselves at
• 42:01
  work, I try to remember their name.
• 42:04
  OK, Now it's funny. Like my boss, Patsy, she
• 42:08
  introduced herself first as I'm Patricia Rivas, you know, like,
• 42:11
  oh, OK, now she's Patsy. You know, she never said, OK,
• 42:17
  you can call me Patsy. It's like I was calling to
• 42:19
  Patricia, right? Yeah.
• 42:22
  And everyone else called her Patsy.
• 42:25
  And so I just said, OK, one day I want to call you Patsy.
• 42:27
  And I was OK I'm like, OK, you know.
• 42:31
  But you have to observe how others communicate, how they
• 42:33
  contribute. And you got to find your voice
• 42:35
  and fit in without losing your edge.
• 42:38
  OK? Reading the room is the most
• 42:40
  important skill anyone can have. And I talked about comedy, you
• 42:44
  know, like the community we went to go see.
• 42:46
  He made a comeback after so many years.
• 42:49
  And a lot of his act was the same from before 'cause it was
• 42:52
  funny. And, you know, it's been 30
• 42:53
  years. No one knows it.
• 42:54
  But for someone who's been there before, OK, whatever.
• 42:58
  Yeah, it is. It's just interesting because
• 43:06
  when you meet people like that, right, you're just, he's a great
• 43:10
  guy. And I call him by his stage
• 43:13
  name. People call me Murph or Murph,
• 43:15
  man. No one calls me my first name,
• 43:18
  right? Yeah.
• 43:19
  That's yeah, I don't hear Sean or Adrian or anything the.
• 43:22
  Only one that calls me Sean is you.
• 43:23
  Yeah. And then the girls that they
• 43:25
  call me Daddy, but that's a different story all together,
• 43:27
  right? OK.
• 43:31
  Yeah, you liked that one, didn't you?
• 43:34
  Totally, totally. Anyone can be a father, but take
• 43:39
  someone especially called daddy, that takes on a very different
• 43:43
  meaning when you're an adult. Yeah, it does.
• 43:46
  Really. Oh, my God, You know, So yeah,
• 43:49
  it's one of those things when, when you think about it, right,
• 43:53
  you've got to read the room. You got to understand what's
• 43:56
  going on, be situationally aware of everything going on around
• 44:00
  you because there's things that you do and you don't even
• 44:04
  realize it. Like parking at the parking lot.
• 44:06
  Where do the employees park? You know you're supposed to park
• 44:10
  is far away from possible. Whatever, right?
• 44:15
  As a teacher at the college, I have parking, but sometimes I'd
• 44:20
  go into the parking lot and it would be empty.
• 44:22
  Sometimes I'd go in and it would be full.
• 44:25
  So I had to plan accordingly for that.
• 44:27
  We talked about you and your your parking for school.
• 44:30
  Yeah, right. I said, oh, just park there and
• 44:36
  ride your scooter in. You know, there's a lot of
• 44:38
  people on the sidewalk and stuff and they block the road.
• 44:41
  So go on the other side. I thought about this last night.
• 44:45
  Go on the other side. Yeah, I don't.
• 44:49
  Know that would be legal because you're in a scooter, right?
• 44:52
  Went against traffic, but everyone's going to the college.
• 44:56
  If you drive on the other side, you're away from everybody.
• 44:58
  That's the thing I thought of. But if I'm going here, I got to
• 45:01
  worry about people coming up the hill.
• 45:03
  But. Yeah, but there's not.
• 45:03
  The traffic is not bad because most people are going in, not
• 45:07
  out, so anyway. But yes, read the room,
• 45:11
  understand the culture is probably the most important
• 45:14
  thing you can do in any situation.
• 45:17
  OK, I remember one time in high school, I was at a party and
• 45:21
  someone said something about Jefferson High School, and I
• 45:25
  said Jefferson sucks. My friend was going to high
• 45:30
  school at Jefferson. The entire party was Jefferson.
• 45:35
  Oops. Right.
• 45:39
  Oops. Yeah, that was that was a little
• 45:43
  crazy because I was like, OK, hold on, what's going on here?
• 45:48
  You know, and I I literally said Jefferson sucks.
• 45:52
  From that day forward, I've learned don't, don't bat my
• 45:54
  daughter's schools because you never know who's there right now
• 45:58
  everyone talks about there's a school here in town.
• 46:01
  You know, Jeff and Booy are the two rivals.
• 46:03
  There's a lot of rivals in town, but Jeff and Booy are the owner
• 46:05
  of the oldest schools and they have this rivalry and
• 46:08
  everything. But what's funny is there's a
• 46:09
  joke that I met a girl one time, right?
• 46:12
  And so I'll let you go out with me and you can figure out what
• 46:15
  school I go to. And I said, OK, can you give me
• 46:21
  the 1st letter in your school name?
• 46:23
  Now let's see what you can, what you come up with for this,
• 46:25
  right? She says L Loretto.
• 46:29
  Loretto. No, not Loretto.
• 46:33
  Laura's in all girls school. If she was a guy, I wouldn't
• 46:35
  have said Loretto. I said Lydia Patterson
• 46:38
  Institute. That's another one, right?
• 46:41
  She's like, no, she says you have one more guest.
• 46:44
  And I said I I really don't know.
• 46:46
  She was. See.
• 46:49
  See, that's a real thing. People call it La Jeff.
• 46:52
  Is that Bowie? Yeah, I, I was thinking, I'm
• 46:54
  like, can't you be talking about a lot of Jeff?
• 46:57
  I'm like, probably I wouldn't be surprised.
• 47:01
  And yeah, I was. Literally talking about
• 47:03
  difference in high school, I thought you would catch the clue
• 47:05
  and and go well, I caught. It at first I was like, what?
• 47:07
  No, come on, it's got to be something else.
• 47:09
  Loretto it was just it was funny, you know, I heard that
• 47:12
  joke and I just think it's still funny to this day.
• 47:15
  If you know El Paso, you'll let Jeff, you know, just the way
• 47:18
  people talk about certain things around your your town.
• 47:22
  One time we were in DC and one thing I like to do is I like to
• 47:25
  drive and we're just driving like literally like he was.
• 47:31
  What were you, 13? Let's see, 2019 you would have
• 47:35
  been. 13. 13 right? Yeah.
• 47:38
  And I was like, OK, Connor, let's get lost.
• 47:41
  We were. 12 going to 13. OK, yeah, you, I said let's
• 47:46
  let's get lost. And you're like, what do you
• 47:47
  mean? I said, just pick left, right,
• 47:49
  pick this exit, go here, go there and you get to pick five
• 47:52
  and five and whatever. And let's see what we get
• 47:55
  because we always have GPS to get back home.
• 47:57
  And it wasn't like we were going to get lost.
• 47:58
  And we ended up in this one part of town and we were looking
• 48:03
  around and it was all Mexican, all Spanish.
• 48:07
  And you looked at me and they go, why don't we go back to El
• 48:11
  Paso? And it was a different community
• 48:15
  in a different state, different part of the country looked
• 48:18
  exactly like El Paso, Right. It was crazy.
• 48:22
  They even had the models for sale, you know?
• 48:25
  Yeah. It it's like, now, had I been
• 48:29
  driving through that and I had gone to one of the stores, would
• 48:33
  I have spoke English or Spanish? Think about that for a second.
• 48:40
  Why Spanish? Because.
• 48:42
  That's everything around me was Spanish.
• 48:44
  Yeah. If I walked in and I saw a
• 48:47
  blonde haired blue eye girl, how would I speak to her?
• 48:49
  Hey in Spanish. A blonde hair, blue eyes.
• 48:55
  Looks does not mean you're not Mexican.
• 49:01
  Yeah. OK, The point being is, where
• 49:04
  was I? I was reading the room, which is
• 49:07
  the community. It's Hispanic community.
• 49:10
  Obviously she's got to speak Spanish.
• 49:11
  Unless if she's just like you and just happened to be in
• 49:14
  there. This is working as if someone's
• 49:18
  working and I walk in. But when I spoke Spanish to her,
• 49:24
  she looked at me like, yes, Sir, can I help you?
• 49:26
  Like I spoke Spanish to you, you know, I don't know, like I have
• 49:33
  people that'll, that'll talk to me and I hear their accents.
• 49:36
  And it's, it's I don't want to be insulting and say, can you
• 49:38
  just speak in, in Spanish like you did to your mom, right?
• 49:44
  Do you remember this? I told you the story.
• 49:45
  I know you were too young to remember, but Connor was
• 49:48
  learning how to spell and he had words like tub, TUB, right?
• 49:54
  And then you add an E makes the vowel a long sound.
• 49:57
  It becomes tube, right? Like I, I can't think of other
• 50:02
  examples, but that's, that's let's just stick with that one.
• 50:05
  So his mom, whose first language was Spanish, and she, she
• 50:09
  learned a lot of English on her own.
• 50:10
  She really did. But she tells him tube, tube,
• 50:18
  tube, tube. And Connor is like trying to
• 50:27
  understand. He's like, it's the same word,
• 50:29
  mom. You're not really changing
• 50:30
  anything because tub and tube are two different words and
• 50:33
  she's saying the same thing tube, but tube and tube she's
• 50:36
  saying longer. Oh sound right, the O sound
• 50:39
  because there's two OS in the pronunciation of it.
• 50:42
  Tub, tube. That's how she read it.
• 50:45
  And Connor's like trying and I'm sitting there and I'm, you know,
• 50:48
  I'm, I'm laying her to her parenting thing.
• 50:50
  And Connor just turns to me and he goes, dad, can you help me?
• 50:57
  And she was like, what's wrong with me?
• 51:00
  And I and I tried. I'm like tube, tub, tube, tub,
• 51:05
  not tub, not tube and tube. And she's like, I, I don't
• 51:10
  understand the difference. And there was other words, and I
• 51:12
  really can't think of a word like rub and rube, but you know.
• 51:18
  Bath, Bathe. No.
• 51:19
  No, no, no, no. You had E at the end.
• 51:21
  Bathe. Well, I get OK.
• 51:22
  Yeah. All right.
• 51:23
  Yeah. Bathe.
• 51:25
  Bathe. Yeah.
• 51:25
  Bathe. But you know, the way you looked
• 51:35
  at me like, Dad, can you help me?
• 51:40
  I felt bad. And even your mom was like,
• 51:43
  what? I'm doing it good.
• 51:44
  I'm like, no, you're not. Hold on you guys.
• 51:47
  That's funny. I.
• 51:49
  Say you're you're really not doing anything good.
• 51:51
  And then one time like she would talk to me and she would say, if
• 51:58
  you know me, I have a lot of bad stuff happen to me, right?
• 52:00
  Like literally this morning. Want to tell him?
• 52:05
  You go ahead, dude. Go ahead.
• 52:06
  Well. No, I I was like, OK, I put my
• 52:08
  drink down. I said, OK, I do my sound check,
• 52:10
  we're good. And as I come back, I knocked
• 52:12
  this drink all over me, right? And kind of goes, you literally
• 52:16
  said we're good. And then you put water on
• 52:19
  yourself. Yeah, all I hear.
• 52:20
  I think we're good for the show. And then you, I don't know how
• 52:25
  you spill that. And you're like, oh.
• 52:27
  I went over and I came back this way.
• 52:29
  It drenched all over the carpet. We, we, we just even try.
• 52:34
  We had a full cup of water. We didn't even try to like stop
• 52:38
  it. We just let it run.
• 52:40
  Not just that, the show's about to start.
• 52:42
  Yeah, in like 5 minutes. Yeah, I'm sitting.
• 52:44
  Here in a puddle of the water, sitting like I'm soaked and I'm
• 52:48
  like, I don't have time to go change, right?
• 52:49
  Anyway I. Just looked at it, fall on the
• 52:51
  ground. I'm like go get the towel.
• 52:53
  Bad things happen to us or to me.
• 52:56
  And your mom one time tells me I you got such butt lock.
• 53:04
  And I was like, what? Butt lock, you know, it's bad
• 53:11
  luck. Butt luck is Constipation, you
• 53:18
  know? And yeah, so we do that.
• 53:20
  And anyway, you got to read the room.
• 53:24
  But sometimes, like reading the room, you want to give a person
• 53:27
  a chance. You can see they're struggling.
• 53:30
  You got to let them find themselves.
• 53:32
  Does that make sense? You know, language wise, culture
• 53:35
  wise, Like for example, when the we went to Twin Peaks for the
• 53:47
  Mexico game when FIFA was playing, right, the culture
• 53:51
  there was a lot different. Oh, yeah.
• 53:55
  Than others have taken me, right.
• 53:58
  And had I gone into that room and said Viva USAI, don't think
• 54:04
  I would have left her alive, right.
• 54:06
  Oh. No, it would have been worse if
• 54:08
  you said like Colombia or something.
• 54:09
  Well, well. But they weren't playing in the
• 54:11
  USA. But what I'm getting at is.
• 54:14
  It was set out the team. Yeah, you know.
• 54:16
  Other than Mexico? You're gonna read the room.
• 54:19
  Everybody's wearing green and you show up in red.
• 54:21
  Yeah. Something like that right
• 54:22
  between Spain or whatever it was.
• 54:24
  And yeah, you got to read the room.
• 54:26
  That's probably the most important skill I can tell you.
• 54:29
  And that's probably the most interesting thing that we have
• 54:34
  going on for us is, you know, the culture where we are.
• 54:38
  So I'll tell you what, let's let's get to those actionable
• 54:42
  steps you can take to help you do better in your show, in your
• 54:47
  show, in your work. Here's our segment called Heat
• 54:51
  Map. Observe, interpret, and thrive.
• 55:03
  The heat map will show you where to focus your efforts for the
• 55:06
  most impact. Observe how people communicate.
• 55:09
  Formal or casual, e-mail or Slack.
• 55:13
  Pay attention to meeting dynamics.
• 55:15
  Who speaks, who leads, who listens.
• 55:18
  Ask a trusted colleague about unspoken norms.
• 55:21
  This is a great way to get insider knowledge.
• 55:24
  The map is drawn. You've got the road map now
• 55:28
  let's avoid the land mines all right so observe how people
• 55:33
  communicate whether it's formal or casual e-mail or through an
• 55:37
  app. WhatsApp is everyone's popular
• 55:40
  thing, right? No.
• 55:44
  Well, when you for. You for Mexico?
• 55:47
  Yeah, but mostly it would be Instagram.
• 55:52
  Instagram for you. Well, I was going to ask you,
• 55:54
  what do you, what app do you use?
• 55:56
  But you started talking until then it comes, you get there and
• 55:59
  you got there. Instagram.
• 56:05
  I have people that use Messenger, like, yeah, my cell
• 56:07
  phone. Yeah, text me there.
• 56:09
  You know all of that, right? Secondly, pay attention to
• 56:18
  meeting dynamics. Who speaks, who leads and who
• 56:21
  listens. I was at a meeting on Thursday
• 56:25
  night and I was very involved in the discussion because this guy
• 56:33
  was talking to me and we're having a group discussion.
• 56:36
  And the boss was running the the meeting and I said something and
• 56:40
  he just goes to someone else across the other side of the
• 56:44
  room. You had your hand up, and I was
• 56:48
  like, shut up, right? Were you telling me to shut up?
• 56:52
  No, but he wanted to acknowledge the person who raised her hand.
• 56:56
  We were having a real discussion, but then someone
• 57:00
  raised her hand and he acknowledged her immediately.
• 57:03
  He didn't wasn't telling me to shut up.
• 57:04
  He was just saying she raised her hand.
• 57:06
  She has a question, let her ask it.
• 57:07
  You know, I didn't. I was like, hey, I'm talking
• 57:10
  here. Literally.
• 57:11
  Joseph and I, we looked at each other.
• 57:13
  We're like, OK, it's not our turn to speak.
• 57:18
  But when, when you're in a meeting, you got to know who's
• 57:22
  running the meeting. You got to know what's being
• 57:23
  said and what your role is in that.
• 57:26
  And it was funny because one of the things that I have 25 years
• 57:30
  there, I'm one of the senior teachers, you know, and we have
• 57:34
  all these new people and they're asking questions and stuff.
• 57:36
  And I'm like, well, we have this option.
• 57:39
  This option is something I like this option because this is
• 57:41
  this. And they tell me, well, you got
• 57:42
  to use this platform. That's the what I was talking
• 57:44
  about earlier. That's OK, I will.
• 57:47
  You know, just because you all convinced me I'm going to use it
• 57:50
  and I got a free iPad out of it. That's true.
• 57:53
  Yeah. You know, he just, he comes home
• 57:55
  after the meeting with just a brand new laptop.
• 57:57
  I'm like, oh, not a laptop, iPad.
• 57:59
  I'm like, oh. Yeah, wow, Yeah, I'll learn.
• 58:03
  This platform did. You win a raffle?
• 58:05
  No, I just learned a new system. And, and the program that runs
• 58:09
  the platform was giving us the iPads because they want us to
• 58:13
  use their platform. So for them, it's an investment
• 58:16
  in their platform because people buy the platform and for.
• 58:18
  You you have to switch everything into that program.
• 58:22
  I just log in online. Mobile you have to learn in like
• 58:25
  go training oh. Yeah, yeah, there.
• 58:27
  I have to do a lot of work for my class.
• 58:28
  Yeah, I'll probably start that in the spring anyway.
• 58:31
  And the last one is ask the trusted colleague about the
• 58:33
  unspoken norms. And this is a great way to get
• 58:36
  insider knowledge. What does that mean?
• 58:40
  You know, a on Friday mornings, I had my meeting, my first
• 58:44
  meeting yesterday, right? Where should I sit?
• 58:48
  Because everyone already has their seats at the table, right?
• 58:52
  And I I want to, I know you're in college and you have like 300
• 58:54
  people in your class. It doesn't really work, but when
• 58:57
  you had those 300 people in your classes, did you have the one
• 58:59
  seat you sat in almost every time?
• 59:01
  Yeah, Right. Why didn't you change seats?
• 59:07
  I would tell my college students.
• 59:09
  It's like school same same thing like assigned seating or you sit
• 59:14
  there that's your new seat for the year or the semester or for
• 59:17
  the. But is that unspoken?
• 59:19
  That's your seat for the rest of the year.
• 59:20
  Or can you change seats? You can.
• 59:22
  Change. But since we've grown into that
• 59:26
  from like elementary all the way to college, we just stick with
• 59:30
  whatever. We pick the seat that we want.
• 59:33
  If you like it, you stay. If not, go find another seat and
• 59:37
  stay there. One thing I tell my college
• 59:40
  students, you know, I have between 30 to 40 students per
• 59:42
  class. I tell them, I'm going to ask
• 59:45
  you to do something for me. If there's not an assigned
• 59:48
  seating chart by the teacher, go sit in a different seat in the
• 59:52
  classroom and just watch the chaos.
• 59:56
  You start because the person was supposed to sit in your seat
• 59:59
  either comes up and goes, yo, you're in my seat, or they're
• 1:00:02
  like, OK, I'll just let me sit over here.
• 1:00:04
  Now that person comes up and they're like.
• 1:00:06
  Hey, you're in my seat and before you know it, it creates
• 1:00:09
  this whole chain reaction where everyone's in a different seat
• 1:00:11
  and the teacher walks in, looks up and is like, what's going on
• 1:00:17
  here? That's one of that's one of my
• 1:00:23
  favorite tricks. Brings the plan teachers.
• 1:00:26
  I'll tell you, we're at the top of the hour here on MBR talk
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  But it's free to play. So if you're interested in that,
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  come by and check us out. Right, Connor?
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  Yep. You like trivia?
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  Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:05:35
  Depends on what it's about. It's about history, No?
• 1:05:40
  If it's. About candidates, What's it a
• 1:05:42
  boot? If it's Canadian trivia, it's
• 1:05:46
  what's it about about? That's how they say it anyway.
• 1:05:50
  Yeah, of course. The thing is when you have
• 1:05:52
  general trivia and they just ask you all these questions, it's
• 1:05:54
  just I can't, you can't have a back to school theme.
• 1:05:56
  But it has a lot of stuff about schools.
• 1:05:58
  Just it could be a sports question about a school.
• 1:06:01
  So it's really hard to say category, you know, if I say
• 1:06:04
  it's a Star Wars trivia. Oh, then Star Wars.
• 1:06:07
  But. I could talk about the director,
• 1:06:08
  I could talk about the production company.
• 1:06:09
  I could talk about a vehicle. I could talk about a character.
• 1:06:11
  I could talk about a specific movie.
• 1:06:14
  You know, there's a lot of different things there.
• 1:06:17
  But yeah. So join us every Wednesday at
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• 1:06:22
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  broadcast radio. All right, let's keep this show
• 1:06:27
  going here. Let's talk about those pitfalls
• 1:06:29
  you're going to get, you're going to fall into.
• 1:06:31
  So let's help you prevent getting burned.
• 1:06:33
  I'm sorry there's Identify the pitfalls you're going to fall
• 1:06:36
  into when you're having trouble with this.
• 1:06:47
  Authenticity is not a pitfall. Facts.
• 1:06:50
  Let's talk about where you'll get burned.
• 1:06:53
  These are some common pitfalls, assuming all workplaces are the
• 1:06:57
  same. Every culture is unique.
• 1:07:00
  You must adapt to your specific environment.
• 1:07:03
  Overcorrecting and losing authenticity.
• 1:07:06
  Adapt, don't erase. You can fit in without losing
• 1:07:10
  yourself. Ignoring red flags.
• 1:07:13
  Culture fit matters. Trust your gut.
• 1:07:16
  If something feels off, it probably is.
• 1:07:20
  Danger zone identified. You know the pitfalls, now let's
• 1:07:24
  gear up to stay safe. So authenticity is not a pitfall
• 1:07:31
  being real. Excuse me?
• 1:07:35
  Authenticity is not a pitfall. Being real is being yourself,
• 1:07:39
  being genuine. That's very important to you
• 1:07:41
  guys, being authentic. Assess our workplace because
• 1:07:45
  they are not the same. Every culture is unique and you
• 1:07:47
  must adapt to your specific environment.
• 1:07:50
  Now, if you work with a certain culture, one of the biggest
• 1:07:57
  issues that people have is the break room and food that's
• 1:08:02
  cooking, right? Yeah.
• 1:08:06
  If I like to eat fish and I go cook fish in the microwave, that
• 1:08:09
  smells, that stinks, right? But if that's my culture to eat,
• 1:08:14
  you know, we eat a lot of fish. Can you say anything?
• 1:08:19
  No, no. So.
• 1:08:22
  Maybe an outcast and be like I don't want fish.
• 1:08:25
  What? Right.
• 1:08:26
  OK, but those kind of things also, you know, the way people
• 1:08:30
  talk, the way people dress, the way people act, it's all that
• 1:08:32
  you got to be aware of. There are some things that like
• 1:08:38
  in the Hispanic culture, when you visit someone, you're
• 1:08:41
  supposed to offer them a drink and they have to take it.
• 1:08:45
  Did you know that? No.
• 1:08:48
  So you go somewhere and you're like, I'm not thirsty, you know?
• 1:08:51
  Like when I was in counselling, I was visiting 7 Hispanic
• 1:08:54
  families in a day. Every house I'd go to, they'd
• 1:08:56
  offer me something to drink. Sometimes it'd be a little drink
• 1:08:59
  and sometimes it'd be this big glass like this, right?
• 1:09:02
  Isn't it like, just like courtesy I guess?
• 1:09:05
  No, it. Yeah, but it's a culture thing.
• 1:09:07
  Oh. I thought that was just the.
• 1:09:08
  Culture is also to accept it. Even if you just take a little
• 1:09:11
  sip and put it back down and never touch it again, you've
• 1:09:13
  accepted it. Just like when we went to Mexico
• 1:09:17
  and they told us to try papaya. We had to.
• 1:09:21
  They did. Not say that we no, no, we
• 1:09:23
  literally. Well, they didn't say yet.
• 1:09:25
  They served it to us. They served it to us and we had
• 1:09:27
  and we're. Just dumb.
• 1:09:28
  And we're like, oh, watermelon. Oh well, no, no, we said
• 1:09:32
  cantaloupe First off, I. Said watermelon.
• 1:09:34
  Oh. You said well, OK, I thought it
• 1:09:36
  was cantaloupe. I didn't know.
• 1:09:37
  Cantaloupe like bright orange that was like that was that was
• 1:09:39
  like a. It was orange, red, yes.
• 1:09:41
  The point being is they offered it to us.
• 1:09:44
  We had, we had, we tried it. Question.
• 1:09:46
  It I had a question it kind. Of gave me his stuff.
• 1:09:49
  I'm going to reap up by it again and we've tried twice and it's
• 1:09:53
  not going to happen. The Golden Corral, I see it
• 1:09:56
  there and I get terrified every time we have.
• 1:09:58
  PTSD. Yeah.
• 1:10:00
  Papayas stress traumatic disorder that just can't even.
• 1:10:09
  Papayas stress traumatic disorder.
• 1:10:11
  Oh my God. Anyway, overreacting and losing
• 1:10:14
  authenticity. You have to adapt.
• 1:10:16
  Don't erase. You got to be who you are.
• 1:10:18
  You guys. Don't forget that.
• 1:10:19
  You got to be who you are. You can fit in without losing
• 1:10:22
  yourself and ignore red flags such as culture fit matters.
• 1:10:26
  Trust your gut. If something feels off, it
• 1:10:28
  probably is. You know, you may not be aware
• 1:10:32
  of a culture, you may not understand what's going on.
• 1:10:35
  So it's very important to ask. You know they're, I'm trying to
• 1:10:44
  think where they came from. I don't know who's Nigeria or
• 1:10:49
  Guyana, but I had a friend of mine who had some people moving
• 1:10:53
  next to her and they had these, this fish that was fermenting
• 1:10:58
  outside and it wasn't trash, that was them fermenting it.
• 1:11:04
  And it was too strong for their house.
• 1:11:06
  They put it outside and in apartments, you have two doors
• 1:11:09
  right next to each other, right? So she'd walk out and have to
• 1:11:11
  smell it all the time. And she told them, you know,
• 1:11:13
  this is not appropriate, that we're supposed to put it.
• 1:11:16
  She was you don't somewhere else there's.
• 1:11:19
  An apartment. Put it in the back or put it in
• 1:11:21
  the quad. Put it somewhere, not in front
• 1:11:23
  of another person's door. But.
• 1:11:24
  That's where they live, that's where they cook, that's where
• 1:11:27
  they eat. You got to understand cultures.
• 1:11:29
  So I, I, she told me this and I said, look, talk to them and
• 1:11:32
  say, look, I understand your culture, so and so forth or
• 1:11:36
  whatever, whatever. Give her some tips.
• 1:11:37
  And they, they came up to an agreement, you know, she says,
• 1:11:41
  I'm not here at these times. If you can put it out there
• 1:11:45
  during that time, that'd be best, right?
• 1:11:47
  You know, So they, they worked it out.
• 1:11:51
  But yeah, it's one of those things, food culture, the
• 1:11:55
  culture of food culture of talking, cultural dressing.
• 1:11:59
  You know, what I think is so funny is those people that are
• 1:12:01
  very Hispanic, I always talk about Hispanic because I'm
• 1:12:04
  Hispanic. There's people that are very
• 1:12:06
  Hispanic and they celebrate the holidays big time.
• 1:12:10
  And there's some that only celebrate it once in a while.
• 1:12:13
  Like, for example, you're Mexican, right?
• 1:12:16
  More Mexican than me. I keep throwing.
• 1:12:17
  I'll keep to say that for the rest of my life.
• 1:12:21
  We were in Mexico City. We went to the Socalo where they
• 1:12:24
  had the grito for the cry of the revolution, for freedom.
• 1:12:29
  We were there, you know. What?
• 1:12:35
  No, sorry, I thought I heard something.
• 1:12:37
  And that's a big part of Mexican culture to be, to go there, you
• 1:12:42
  know, to be there on New Year's Eve, that's a party.
• 1:12:46
  That is a huge. You think Times Square is a
• 1:12:49
  party? No, barely.
• 1:12:52
  Everybody's is so packed there, nobody can move.
• 1:12:55
  The SoCal was the same way, OK, but it's a lot larger area.
• 1:13:01
  It's crazy, crazy. Even more packed.
• 1:13:03
  Yeah, OK, yeah, it's, it's crazy, you know, But when
• 1:13:08
  someone says, you know, have you ever gone to Mexico, Conor can
• 1:13:12
  say, oh, I've traveled Mexico. I spent a week here and a week
• 1:13:14
  there. We've done this, we've done
• 1:13:15
  that. You know, you probably don't
• 1:13:16
  remember where you went, but for a Mexican to say, yeah, I've, I
• 1:13:21
  visited Mexico and I, I, I didn't just go to Juarez, you
• 1:13:24
  know, I actually went to Mexico. I went to Acapulco.
• 1:13:27
  We went to, you know, we saw, we walked up to the pyramids.
• 1:13:30
  We, you know, we've been there and everything.
• 1:13:32
  Amazing stuff, right? Hated.
• 1:13:34
  The pyramids. Oh.
• 1:13:35
  Because you were dehydrated. No, I was hungry.
• 1:13:37
  I haven't eaten all day. You take me on a hike up a
• 1:13:40
  pyramid. OK.
• 1:13:41
  OK. Going side to side, mind you,
• 1:13:44
  not up. We was going to side.
• 1:13:46
  Does a long line side to side? To side.
• 1:13:48
  We had a weight also. Yeah.
• 1:13:51
  It was horrible. I'm not going to it.
• 1:13:52
  Was horrible, we had to do that two times where we going to do
• 1:13:56
  it 2 times but then I was like no I.
• 1:13:59
  Was agree there was more. I'm tired, yeah.
• 1:14:03
  I don't even know what time that was at.
• 1:14:05
  It felt like high noon with the sun directly right above us it.
• 1:14:09
  Was it was horrible. It was I'm not going to like,
• 1:14:12
  and Mexico is human and everything, you know, No.
• 1:14:14
  Definitely. So, yeah, you know, being
• 1:14:19
  Mexican, I can say I've taken him to the capital.
• 1:14:22
  I've taken him to see the majority of the places where I
• 1:14:26
  would want him to see in or I want to see in Mexico.
• 1:14:28
  I can say that, you know, do I still want to have other places
• 1:14:31
  I want to go? Yes.
• 1:14:32
  But does he want to go? No.
• 1:14:34
  But if I said let's go to Cancun for spring break, I'd be that
• 1:14:39
  old creeper to where Cancun. I'd be that old creeper there.
• 1:14:43
  No, I can't do that. As much as I'd love to party,
• 1:14:46
  that's not going to happen. All right, so we talked about
• 1:14:50
  those pitfalls you have. Let's talk about the Shields
• 1:14:53
  that we have that help you protect you from getting burned.
• 1:14:56
  These are 7 heat Shields. It's time for a break.
• 1:14:59
  Hot takes with the Murph man will return after the Your
• 1:15:10
  corporate culture heat shield is the authenticity anchor.
• 1:15:14
  The heat source is the pressure to conform and lose your
• 1:15:17
  identity cultural fit. Deploy the shield by following
• 1:15:21
  these three strategies. Define your core values.
• 1:15:25
  Identify the three principles you bring that make you a
• 1:15:28
  cultural ad to any team. Adapt, don't erase.
• 1:15:33
  Use situational awareness to adjust your communication style
• 1:15:36
  without sacrificing your unique perspective.
• 1:15:39
  Trust your gut. If you feel you must suppress
• 1:15:43
  your identity completely to fit in, that is a sign the
• 1:15:46
  environment needs a review. The armor is on now.
• 1:15:50
  It's time to process the heat. A quick shout out to into the
• 1:15:54
  weeds. If you guys haven't seen that
• 1:15:57
  podcast, I'm on share broadcast radio.
• 1:15:59
  You got to check it out. You know, she gave us a quick
• 1:16:01
  like so I want to give a shout out to her.
• 1:16:02
  Enjoy thanks for joining as well.
• 1:16:05
  Hope everything's going well. Now the heat Shields.
• 1:16:08
  Let's talk about that real quick.
• 1:16:09
  OK? The Cobra culture is important
• 1:16:13
  because you have the authenticity anchor.
• 1:16:17
  The heat source is the heat shield is to conform and lose
• 1:16:25
  your identity is what you want to avoid, right?
• 1:16:27
  You, you want to, you don't want to just fit in.
• 1:16:29
  You want to add to the culture. Define your core values,
• 1:16:31
  identify your 3 principles. You bring that you make a
• 1:16:35
  cultural add to any team. Like what can you bring to the
• 1:16:37
  team? Adapt, don't erase.
• 1:16:41
  Use situational awareness to adjust to your communication
• 1:16:44
  side without sacrificing your unique perspective.
• 1:16:47
  And trust your gut. If you feel you must suppress
• 1:16:50
  your identity to completely fit in, that's a sign that the
• 1:16:53
  environment needs a review. The environment needs a review.
• 1:16:58
  If you feel like you have to fit in, you can't be yourself.
• 1:17:00
  Because if you can't be authentic, where are you
• 1:17:03
  working? Right.
• 1:17:05
  Yeah, there. There's a few things you never
• 1:17:11
  talk about at work. Religion and politics and money.
• 1:17:19
  OK, you should talk about your paychecks.
• 1:17:25
  It doesn't cause a problem. I'll tell you right now, there's
• 1:17:27
  not a lot. You can't be cautious if you
• 1:17:30
  ever do. But religion and politics are
• 1:17:32
  two things that can create a lot of issues, a lot of issues.
• 1:17:42
  Certain religions have certain beliefs.
• 1:17:44
  Certain times of year, they celebrate certain things.
• 1:17:47
  If you don't know, ask. There's nothing wrong 'cause
• 1:17:49
  you, you don't know, right? You don't know the culture you
• 1:17:52
  got. You can ask.
• 1:17:53
  It's OK. Yeah, OK.
• 1:17:58
  At the same time, though, if they respond to you in a
• 1:18:01
  negative way, that's not cool either.
• 1:18:04
  You know, 'cause you're trying to be genuine and you're asking,
• 1:18:05
  Hey, tell me more about this, this holiday of yours, right?
• 1:18:13
  Do me a favor, look up when did Kwanzaa start?
• 1:18:19
  Kwanzaa KWANZAI want. I want to see if this is right
• 1:18:25
  before I say it. Kwanzaa, December 26th, 191966.
• 1:18:32
  OK, that is that I just said we're not talking about
• 1:18:36
  religions, but here's an example of what I'm referring to.
• 1:18:40
  Kwanzaa is the African American celebration of in during
• 1:18:43
  Christmas time. Have you ever heard of that?
• 1:18:46
  I've heard of Kwanzaa, yeah. And I had a kid come into my my
• 1:18:51
  office for, for counseling one day and she's dressed up in
• 1:18:54
  African regalia. She's dressed up in exactly what
• 1:18:58
  you would any stereotype you would think of, right?
• 1:19:01
  You think of African regalia and she's like, I'm celebrating
• 1:19:05
  Kwanzaa. I said, good for you, good for
• 1:19:08
  you. I said, tell me more about it.
• 1:19:11
  And she's like, oh, it's this old, old traditional religion
• 1:19:15
  coming back from Africa from many, many years ago.
• 1:19:19
  And I was like, oh, interesting, you know?
• 1:19:22
  And her father was like, no. And the girl was like, what?
• 1:19:30
  And he says it started in the during the civil rights
• 1:19:32
  revolution as a way for Black Americans to celebrate their
• 1:19:35
  heritage. And because of all the racism
• 1:19:39
  and everything with Martin Luther King coming out with
• 1:19:42
  civil rights and all that, you know what I mean?
• 1:19:44
  They came up with Kwanzaa. It's not this traditional thing
• 1:19:48
  from years and years and years ago.
• 1:19:50
  That's what I think is, is people don't know that.
• 1:19:53
  I didn't know that, right? But the father knew, obviously
• 1:19:55
  he celebrates and he, he understood why.
• 1:19:58
  But it makes me think like, why do we start celebrating
• 1:20:01
  Christmas? Why do we celebrate Valentine's
• 1:20:03
  Day? Why do we celebrate Easter?
• 1:20:04
  It's all candy related. Yeah, right.
• 1:20:09
  Birthdays also. Yeah.
• 1:20:12
  Whoa, OK. One of the one of the strangest
• 1:20:20
  traditions I've ever seen is the Mexican pinatas.
• 1:20:24
  Why? OK, you got to go beat this
• 1:20:27
  pinata up to get candy out. No big deal.
• 1:20:31
  I went one time to Central Texas.
• 1:20:33
  I was at a party. They got a pinata and it wasn't
• 1:20:36
  tearing, it wasn't breaking. I went in and I reached my hand
• 1:20:40
  into it to tear it apart and it was a woven basket.
• 1:20:45
  I cut my hands up on that basket.
• 1:20:48
  They're beating this basket. Nothing's coming out is the
• 1:20:51
  worst peanut I've ever seen. In the old days, they used to be
• 1:20:54
  made with clay pots so you would crack it and you know, but what
• 1:20:59
  I think is the horrible thing about a pinata is we have themed
• 1:21:05
  parties, right? OK, you can pick a children's
• 1:21:08
  theme. Yeah, pick 10, Spider Man.
• 1:21:13
  Spider Man. OK, let's do a Spider Man theme
• 1:21:15
  party. Let's buy a Spider Man pinata.
• 1:21:17
  Now here's a stick. Go beat up your favorite
• 1:21:18
  character, right? You know no one.
• 1:21:24
  I've never had seen a kid go oh, that we can't, we can't do that.
• 1:21:27
  No, that'd be go and beat the crap out of that character,
• 1:21:30
  right? Yeah, he's helpless.
• 1:21:34
  Boom, yeah, right. But you have to spin around a
• 1:21:39
  couple times and you know, there there, if you look in TikTok and
• 1:21:43
  look up Pinetta fails, there's some oh.
• 1:21:45
  Yeah, dude. Horrible stuff.
• 1:21:46
  I. Saw one where she was trying to
• 1:21:49
  hit it and they get like taught like moving it so she kept
• 1:21:53
  missing and her grandma or something just recording right
• 1:21:56
  in front of her. They put it up, swing it hit the
• 1:22:01
  phone and the face of the grandma and she just fell and
• 1:22:04
  I'm like, oh, that's got to hurt.
• 1:22:07
  I didn't see her move after that.
• 1:22:09
  I think she's like, well, the, the knock down, she was like
• 1:22:14
  just just you see. The phone on the ground, you
• 1:22:17
  know, one of the other traditions, part of the pinata
• 1:22:20
  process is the person hitting the pinata doesn't get a lot of
• 1:22:22
  candy. I know that's BS and it's a
• 1:22:25
  birthday person. Well, not always, but you know,
• 1:22:29
  anyone could break it. But The thing is that kids
• 1:22:31
  swinging the stick, right? Dali, Dali, whatever, we sing,
• 1:22:36
  right? And then all of a sudden cracks,
• 1:22:38
  there's candy all over the place and the kids blindfolded can't
• 1:22:44
  see where they're going. Everyone else is running down.
• 1:22:46
  They're still swinging because I think they're trying to hit the
• 1:22:48
  pinata. They don't know it's over.
• 1:22:50
  Kids are going to hit with sticks.
• 1:22:51
  It's just an amazing thing. It's fun if you're not a, if
• 1:22:56
  you're not aware of that Hispanic tradition, and you take
• 1:22:58
  your kid to this party and the pinata breaks and there's candy.
• 1:23:04
  Your kid runs out and gets the candy.
• 1:23:06
  And he was a parent, like, no, stop.
• 1:23:08
  Right? That's the only way they're
• 1:23:10
  going to get candy, right. I saw another pinata one time
• 1:23:14
  where they actually, they pull a string and it slowly unravels on
• 1:23:18
  the pinata and it spins it. And when it gets to the very
• 1:23:20
  bottom, the whole thing opens and it just shoots candy in all
• 1:23:23
  directions. Yeah, yeah, that's cool.
• 1:23:25
  But people want to hit stuff. Yeah, it was.
• 1:23:27
  I don't want to see something. I want to do something.
• 1:23:30
  Yeah, I want to. It's the.
• 1:23:31
  Most violent violent event at a party, right?
• 1:23:39
  Kinda. Where else can you get hit with
• 1:23:42
  a stick at a party? Well.
• 1:23:43
  Not a state, but like violent. What else is violent?
• 1:23:46
  Jumping balloon, dude. Oh, the brinka Brinka.
• 1:23:49
  That's what we call it in Spanish.
• 1:23:51
  Every time there's a jumping balloon, there's always people
• 1:23:54
  fighting in there. Tell, tell, tell people what a
• 1:23:58
  beating company gun is at a party.
• 1:24:01
  Why? Why you?
• 1:24:04
  It sounds like you have a story. I don't.
• 1:24:06
  Know when, when, When everyone thinks of a jumping balloon,
• 1:24:09
  they think of kids going up and down and up and down and up and
• 1:24:11
  down you. Know we're thinking of rest like
• 1:24:12
  a boxing ring. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:24:16
  What was one of your goals as a kid?
• 1:24:19
  Everyone person you know, but everyone runs to one side and
• 1:24:22
  tries to knock it over. Oh.
• 1:24:24
  Well, yeah, we used to do that, yeah.
• 1:24:27
  And you always want to get the kids that aren't really rough,
• 1:24:29
  throw them into the Nets. They get stuck on the side and
• 1:24:31
  hanging off the edge. It's violent.
• 1:24:34
  It's fun, but it's violent. Especially if it's a family
• 1:24:38
  gathering. Yeah, right.
• 1:24:39
  And then you always have those, the drunk you, you know, why do
• 1:24:41
  you have to have beer at a kids party 'cause that's what we do.
• 1:24:45
  You know, people get drunk at a kids parties.
• 1:24:47
  Like what is people who are not aware of the culture of the
• 1:24:49
  Hispanics that we, the way we celebrate.
• 1:24:51
  It's just very interesting for to me because you take someone,
• 1:24:54
  they're like, what is this? What's happening?
• 1:24:55
  What's you know, what, what are they singing?
• 1:24:58
  You know, there, there's a lot of stuff there that I just think
• 1:25:02
  that's pretty funny. Yeah, it is.
• 1:25:04
  It is right. I'm just going to pinatas.
• 1:25:07
  Really. Yeah.
• 1:25:08
  One time we were in Ridoso and we we had a bat.
• 1:25:12
  Oh God, we had clay pots back then.
• 1:25:15
  It wasn't these little sticks and someone hits the pot and
• 1:25:19
  breaks off the top of the bat and it flies and has my dad in
• 1:25:22
  the face and we were all just like, are you OK here?
• 1:25:28
  Deal. Grab the stick.
• 1:25:30
  Let's keep going. We get another bat.
• 1:25:32
  It was like this. Just what we did.
• 1:25:35
  You know, it's crazy. Anyway, let me take a quick
• 1:25:37
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  girl would be like one of those, you know, they play clips of
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  people talking. Yeah, she's like, I'm with the
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  DJ, you know, and then boom, everybody.
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  'S with the DJ, yeah, No, no. No, but that that was a clip of
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  downtown and I bump into my brother and he goes, what are
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  you doing here? And I said, oh, I'm here with
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  the DJ. And he started laughing.
• 1:31:22
  And then all of a sudden the DJ goes, well, Sean Ruffy DS come
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  to the DJ booth. I work with the guy and he saw
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  me, so he's like, hey, come over and say hi, you know?
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  But it was like literally it. Was perfect What?
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  Are you doing here? I'm with the DJ.
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  Ha ha. That's funny, dude.
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  Well, he's going to DJ booth. He's like, that's funny.
• 1:31:50
  All right, so back to the show. Let's talk about the afterburn.
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  Let's let's reflect on some of the things we've learned today.
• 1:31:55
  Connor. OK, OK.
• 1:32:05
  What culture helps you thrive? Reflect on your value in today's
• 1:32:10
  afterburn. Here are some questions for you
• 1:32:12
  to reflect on. What kind of culture helps me
• 1:32:15
  thrive? How do I observe and adapt
• 1:32:18
  without losing myself? What's one question I can ask to
• 1:32:21
  better understand my workplace reflection Complete.
• 1:32:25
  The reflection is deep. Now let's take this to the
• 1:32:28
  digital front. All right, So what kind of
• 1:32:34
  culture helps me thrive? That's very important to know.
• 1:32:40
  What kind of culture do you need to fit into?
• 1:32:44
  One thing I hate is micromanagers.
• 1:32:47
  You know what those are? Yeah, deal with that.
• 1:32:50
  Try picking at everything and just you need to do this, do
• 1:32:55
  that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, right.
• 1:32:57
  And then not a manager. Right, I had a friend of mine
• 1:33:01
  trying to help me out when I first started my job and I'm
• 1:33:03
  like dude please light. Back off please, It's.
• 1:33:06
  Annoying me. It's not helping me, it's
• 1:33:07
  annoying me. You know, I hate micromanagers.
• 1:33:11
  When someone says do this and here's your deadline, here's
• 1:33:16
  what you know, you have to do these things.
• 1:33:18
  I, I excel, I, I do great. I'm like, OK, you know, last
• 1:33:26
  year I want to start the podcast at the beginning of August, and
• 1:33:29
  I spent the entire summer prepping for the show, right?
• 1:33:33
  And every now and then, you know, I try to do the episodes
• 1:33:36
  of slides, everything ahead of time.
• 1:33:37
  And every now and then I'm like, oh God, I haven't done anything
• 1:33:40
  yet. So there I am Thursday night or
• 1:33:41
  Friday night working on last minute.
• 1:33:43
  I hate that. But, you know, micromanagers is
• 1:33:47
  a culture I don't fit into. So when someone says, what's
• 1:33:49
  your greatest weakness? I'll say a person who
• 1:33:52
  micromanages because I understand I need to be told to
• 1:33:55
  do things, but tell me to do them if I'm wrong, correct me if
• 1:33:59
  I'm right, you don't need to tell me I'm doing a good job.
• 1:34:02
  Just let me do my job. Just leave me alone.
• 1:34:07
  That's that's part of the hardest thing for a manager to
• 1:34:09
  do is to let go of an employee like that and giving them free
• 1:34:13
  reign, you know, But I, my boss, I'd love her to my new boss,
• 1:34:17
  love her to death because like one time I had to cover for a
• 1:34:19
  teacher. I mean, I was covering for a
• 1:34:21
  teacher because she was on vacation for a week.
• 1:34:23
  She got a cruise or something. So I said let's go to I'm, I'm
• 1:34:29
  covering her class. I'm, I'm grading papers and I
• 1:34:31
  have a queue. Do you know the queues?
• 1:34:33
  Like a list of papers I got to sign?
• 1:34:35
  I'm great. So I'm grading them and I'm
• 1:34:37
  going through and finally I have about half the day through, I
• 1:34:40
  see a different teacher's name in my queue and I, I go to my Co
• 1:34:46
  worker. I'm like, oh dude, like why am I
• 1:34:49
  in? Like what?
• 1:34:50
  You know, I'm creating her papers.
• 1:34:53
  It must have been a mistake when they added this other teacher to
• 1:34:55
  me or something. You know what I mean?
• 1:34:56
  Yeah, at. The end of the day, about two, I
• 1:34:58
  get out at 3:00. At 2:30-ish, my boss texts me,
• 1:35:01
  hey, did you notice this teacher's in your classes?
• 1:35:02
  I'm like, yeah, it's just OK. Just want to make sure you were
• 1:35:05
  aware of it. You're going to be taking over
• 1:35:08
  the class for the rest of the semester.
• 1:35:11
  Oh, you're going to be taking the class until we find a
• 1:35:13
  replacement, which I knew was this semester.
• 1:35:17
  And I said, OK, thank you. That is what it's so much
• 1:35:21
  appreciated 'cause she basically gave me a second job and she's
• 1:35:27
  like, you got this right. I'm like, yeah, good.
• 1:35:31
  I hope you got it. That's the only option we have.
• 1:35:35
  Right. But that's the face she has in
• 1:35:38
  me as an employee and the relationship I had with her as a
• 1:35:41
  boss. Because I can literally just
• 1:35:43
  say, Hey, I, I, I need help or, or I can't do this or whatever
• 1:35:49
  the case may be, right? Having that micromanager, just
• 1:35:52
  one of those things, how do I observe and adapt without losing
• 1:35:55
  myself? Same thing, you know, you, you
• 1:35:58
  have to know who you are and where you fit in.
• 1:36:00
  And one question you can ask to better understand your
• 1:36:03
  workplace. Ask yourself that.
• 1:36:06
  What is a question I can ask right now to understand what's
• 1:36:09
  going on, right? And I remember one time I was
• 1:36:14
  really frustrated at work, and I told someone to do something.
• 1:36:17
  I wasn't their boss or anything. And this girl looked at me and
• 1:36:20
  she says she's not a girl, she's a lady.
• 1:36:22
  She looked at me. And she says, you're not mad at
• 1:36:26
  me, Don't take it out on me. And I said, I'm, I'm sorry.
• 1:36:34
  You know, most people have been like, I'm not taking it out on
• 1:36:38
  you. I'm not mad.
• 1:36:39
  No, I was mad and I was taking it out on her and I just felt
• 1:36:43
  bad. And that's it.
• 1:36:44
  You know, when it's when I know I'm wrong, I'm like, OK, I
• 1:36:49
  messed up. Thank you.
• 1:36:51
  And we move on. That was it.
• 1:36:53
  We never talked about it again. It was it was fixed.
• 1:36:55
  You know, Penn and Teller, you know, remember them, they don't
• 1:37:01
  really talk much. They're not the best of friends.
• 1:37:04
  Usually when they argue, they argue about the show.
• 1:37:08
  They never apologize to each other.
• 1:37:10
  But Teller knows he's better with Pen than without, and Pen
• 1:37:14
  knows he's better with Teller than without.
• 1:37:16
  And they know the most important thing in their life is that
• 1:37:19
  show, and they can put everything else to the side
• 1:37:23
  because it's for the show. They don't have to be friends,
• 1:37:26
  really, but they're together everywhere they go, right?
• 1:37:31
  Like Beyoncé and Jay-Z, although I don't think they're together
• 1:37:37
  right now. No, actually, no, Jay.
• 1:37:42
  Z is still in jail, right? Oh.
• 1:37:44
  Yeah, Jay-Z is in Oh. JD or P Diddy No.
• 1:37:46
  That's two different people, no? Yeah, they're two different
• 1:37:50
  people, Yeah. So it's not Beyoncé and Jay-Z
• 1:37:54
  who's with P Diddy. P Diddy.
• 1:37:57
  OK, who's the one that got caught with the the whole
• 1:37:59
  scandal? The Oil Baby Oil P.
• 1:38:02
  Diddy P. Diddy.
• 1:38:03
  OK, who's dating P Diddy? I see Beyoncé and Jay-Z.
• 1:38:07
  They're still together. Yeah, I don't know why he has a
• 1:38:17
  history, but he's dating no one right now.
• 1:38:19
  Well, his last one is. Someone's bitch in jail.
• 1:38:25
  Dana Tran. OK, so it wasn't Jay-Z.
• 1:38:28
  I I don't know. I just, I thought Jay-Z and
• 1:38:30
  Beyoncé and I thought Jay-Z went to jail, but no, he didn't.
• 1:38:31
  My bad. I apologize for that.
• 1:38:32
  No, Jay. Z did go to jail for what?
• 1:38:39
  Abusiveness. Something hold.
• 1:38:46
  On why? Did he go to jail?
• 1:38:49
  I don't, I don't know what isn't the Jay-Z show.
• 1:38:53
  Oh, he hasn't? What?
• 1:38:54
  Yeah, it's, it was PDD. That's what I'm saying.
• 1:38:57
  Everyone thinks it was Jay-Z, but no.
• 1:39:00
  All right, so that was the afterburn.
• 1:39:03
  Well he he was in a civil suit for sexual assault.
• 1:39:08
  Where is PDD? That's OK.
• 1:39:10
  I I knew they were related somehow, but yeah, OK I.
• 1:39:13
  I thought he got to jail for that.
• 1:39:15
  Wow. OK, never mind.
• 1:39:18
  Yeah, so. Ish, he should have been.
• 1:39:23
  Oh yeah. So anyway, those are the
• 1:39:25
  reflections for today. But let's talk about the digital
• 1:39:28
  inferno because technology can help you with this.
• 1:39:33
  So here's something called the digital inferno.
• 1:39:44
  Slack. Etiquette is situational.
• 1:39:46
  Slack is the new water cooler. Digital communication requires
• 1:39:51
  heightened, heightened key chains.
• 1:39:53
  Use AI writing assistance before sending messages to ensure your
• 1:39:57
  formality matches the team's established workplace norms.
• 1:40:00
  Verify the channel. Always double check your
• 1:40:03
  recipients and the channel before hitting send to avoid
• 1:40:06
  public etiquette mistakes. Align with the norm.
• 1:40:10
  Observe if your team prefers direct messaging for urgent
• 1:40:12
  items or channel based communication.
• 1:40:14
  Then follow that lead. The machine is optimized.
• 1:40:18
  Now for the final word. All right.
• 1:40:21
  So the final tip, I'm sorry, did you move it again?
• 1:40:24
  No. Sean, you've been doing that.
• 1:40:27
  I had to move it back. I just forgot to.
• 1:40:31
  Perform a tone check on your writing using a assistance like
• 1:40:34
  Grammarly and things like that will help you write better.
• 1:40:37
  OK, when you need to write something harsh, you know, check
• 1:40:42
  it with your AI, make sure it's a good tone.
• 1:40:45
  You can actually go to Word. Word has that too.
• 1:40:47
  You can check it for professional writing and it
• 1:40:49
  corrects it for you. Oh yeah, where?
• 1:40:52
  Yeah, verify the channel. Always double check your
• 1:40:54
  recipients and the channel before sending because there's
• 1:40:56
  nothing worse than sending a reply all to people that you
• 1:40:58
  don't want to replay all to and align them with the norms.
• 1:41:02
  Observe if your team prefers strict messaging or urgent
• 1:41:05
  items. Let's talk about that real
• 1:41:06
  quick. In our in our team, we have a a
• 1:41:14
  teacher thread where they put out information for the
• 1:41:16
  teachers, but then the teacher has a question and then the
• 1:41:20
  people start answering and the bosses come in and go.
• 1:41:22
  This is only for putting information out.
• 1:41:26
  If you have a question, please message to your directors.
• 1:41:30
  Yeah, right. Because all of a sudden the
• 1:41:33
  message is not lost in the thread.
• 1:41:35
  You don't know where it went. Here's one thing as a teacher,
• 1:41:40
  you know, we, we discourage the use of AII use AIA lot, but you
• 1:41:45
  don't want it to replace your work.
• 1:41:47
  You want to enhance your work. As a teacher, you use Grammarly
• 1:41:52
  and you could say you write really poorly, right?
• 1:41:55
  And you use Grammarly. You're making all these
• 1:41:57
  corrections and everything and it comes out 99% AI because you
• 1:42:02
  did all the corrections using Grammarly.
• 1:42:04
  We're asking you to use Grammarly.
• 1:42:09
  At what point is it too much? So we were, we were talking
• 1:42:12
  about this at the meeting on Thursday.
• 1:42:13
  I was talking about missed the first week of class, came in the
• 1:42:16
  second week, took the test and in 5 minutes she got 100.
• 1:42:21
  So she obviously used AI although I don't know how she
• 1:42:23
  actually used it or she just knows her stuff.
• 1:42:26
  Hold on. So the teacher reached out to
• 1:42:28
  her and says I. Need to come talk.
• 1:42:29
  I need to come to the office and talk to.
• 1:42:30
  Me and she comes in and she tells the kid what's going on.
• 1:42:33
  You know, did you explain to me how you were able to do this?
• 1:42:35
  Let me ask you 3 questions and she says a medium, a easy medium
• 1:42:39
  and a hard question. She didn't know any of them.
• 1:42:42
  It's just how were you able to answer 100% correct on my test
• 1:42:45
  it's. Just I used AI.
• 1:42:48
  And she's like I. Figured you know, so you got to
• 1:42:52
  rewrite. The paper and do this I said I
• 1:42:55
  have had students use AI and one of the things I look for is M
• 1:42:58
  dash, which is a double dash I've showed you.
• 1:43:00
  Remember it's a little longer than regular dash.
• 1:43:03
  If it's bolded, that's another AI thing.
• 1:43:05
  I don't have to like read it to to see if it's AI or not.
• 1:43:09
  The other thing is I add like keywords like in white right?
• 1:43:12
  I told you that. I highlighted and I say, OK, you
• 1:43:14
  know, yeah, talk about Freud, right?
• 1:43:19
  But I had AI, have had more than one student.
• 1:43:24
  When you replay the AI, it says, OK, here's what you're asking
• 1:43:27
  for. I've gone ahead and I've
• 1:43:28
  organized everything about Freud.
• 1:43:30
  Then gives a list of Freud and it says, is there anything else
• 1:43:34
  you would like me to add? Right, You hit copy and you hit
• 1:43:38
  paste. It copies the entire feedback
• 1:43:41
  from the AI, including the statement of here's what she
• 1:43:44
  asked me to write for you, and here's what you know, if you
• 1:43:47
  actually do that, if you get a cheat, do it right.
• 1:43:50
  Yeah, like come. On I.
• 1:43:52
  Used to click and drag it like. Don't double click and try to
• 1:43:56
  copy everything on the page with the new platform I'm I'm using
• 1:44:00
  if a kid tries to highlight a question to copy and paste into.
• 1:44:02
  AI it actually tells you you're you know a lot of copy and paste
• 1:44:05
  this oh wow yeah, you know, you can respond there's a lot
• 1:44:09
  there's a. Lot of things to do to avoid
• 1:44:10
  cheating. But the latest thing they're
• 1:44:12
  doing now. Let me see what I want to get
• 1:44:14
  your opinion on this, OK? I I have not.
• 1:44:15
  Again, everything's this. He's never asked me anything off
• 1:44:19
  the cuff, OK. I don't prepare him for these
• 1:44:21
  because I want honest reactions. And are you going to get what?
• 1:44:27
  And like and the answer you're going to get is just.
• 1:44:30
  Oh yeah. OK, You taking the test?
• 1:44:33
  50 questions on the computer. Oh right, OK, you have to have
• 1:44:37
  your webcam on and. Your phone has to.
• 1:44:40
  Have a second webcam from the site so you can see if anyone's
• 1:44:46
  sitting. Wow, what about it?
• 1:44:50
  That's the new standard for what test?
• 1:44:55
  For testing like star testing. No, no, no, we.
• 1:44:59
  Don't do start testing. We do start testing in person.
• 1:45:01
  I'm talking about like, oh, like online, yeah.
• 1:45:06
  How do you feel about that? You're not getting on.
• 1:45:10
  My phone so. Just so I could put a webcam to
• 1:45:13
  make sure no. One's there.
• 1:45:14
  That's BS. That's why I at UTEP there's a
• 1:45:20
  they use something where you have to like literally turn your
• 1:45:23
  laptop around to show the surrounding from the webcam.
• 1:45:27
  Like there's no one around me or anything, but at any given
• 1:45:30
  moment or at the beginning or start beginning, OK, then
• 1:45:32
  someone can. Sit down next to obviously,
• 1:45:34
  yeah, but someone can sit like have you seen those those
• 1:45:37
  commercial those TIK? Toks Where they have, they have.
• 1:45:39
  An AI phone right here. An AI phone.
• 1:45:43
  Oh OK, Their phone with AI. Open.
• 1:45:45
  OK, better. Language.
• 1:45:47
  OK, yeah. And the phone's there and
• 1:45:54
  they'll ask a question and then AI answers it.
• 1:45:57
  You're like, oh, so how would I do this?
• 1:46:00
  Well, first I would do this. Second, I would do this.
• 1:46:02
  Show me your hands. I'm not using the phone, you
• 1:46:06
  know there. Have you seen those videos?
• 1:46:08
  Yeah, it's all fake. But yeah, it's all it's AI.
• 1:46:12
  Know that? Yeah.
• 1:46:13
  What I'm saying is that's not, you know, I have the phone that
• 1:46:15
  you're not. Going to see it, right?
• 1:46:18
  Oh yeah, there are ways to cheat.
• 1:46:21
  I I could show the whole room and.
• 1:46:23
  Then someone comes sit down. Afterwards I can have the.
• 1:46:24
  Camera here and have you. Sitting right behind the camera.
• 1:46:27
  Yeah, there's no point in putting, but now the A is
• 1:46:31
  getting smart. And it can say you're looking to
• 1:46:32
  the side. You're looking away, so you're
• 1:46:36
  not paying into the test. Yeah, I don't know.
• 1:46:42
  Whatever. I look at my phone because it's
• 1:46:44
  notification because. It's my phone.
• 1:46:46
  Well you're right, if I get in trouble for that, then don't let
• 1:46:49
  me have my phone. Out honestly well.
• 1:46:51
  That you're not supposed to well the guy make me use it for a
• 1:46:54
  webcam, but it's. It my notification is going to
• 1:46:57
  pop up. Anyways, right, they can't tell
• 1:46:59
  me to shut it off or anything. You it's standard.
• 1:47:02
  Well here here's the thing. What I do and my boss is like,
• 1:47:06
  why do you do? This and I said look SBS my job
• 1:47:10
  as a teacher is to teach you a test ensures.
• 1:47:13
  I'm teaching you correctly. OK with the way I do my papers
• 1:47:18
  and everything. You're literally writing a
• 1:47:19
  10,000 page paper by the end of the semester.
• 1:47:22
  A book in some ways. OK damn.
• 1:47:27
  When you're taking a test, it's just.
• 1:47:29
  I have to give tests. But I give you from Wednesday to
• 1:47:32
  Sunday to do the test, right? You can start it, stop it
• 1:47:35
  anytime you want until you get submit.
• 1:47:38
  If you're in school Connor, and you have 5 friends sitting in
• 1:47:41
  the class with you, what are you going to do?
• 1:47:42
  Be honest obviously if if they haven't done it yet.
• 1:47:49
  Or if. It's at the same time.
• 1:47:52
  Because you said for a couple days.
• 1:47:58
  Me personally, I would. Forget about it till the day of
• 1:48:01
  and then I'd be. Like OK but.
• 1:48:02
  That's not the question. I would if you're if you have 5
• 1:48:05
  friends that have the same class if we're.
• 1:48:06
  Going to do it. Together.
• 1:48:07
  Yeah, you're going to do. It together.
• 1:48:08
  So what I do is. I randomize the questions.
• 1:48:12
  Meaning all 50 get randomized for everybody.
• 1:48:15
  OK, and they randomized the answers.
• 1:48:17
  So the question could be what is cultural fit?
• 1:48:23
  Oh that's number 44 in mine. What's it on?
• 1:48:26
  Yours 2 What's it on yours? 5 Whatever.
• 1:48:28
  OK, the answer's C It's A. Here it's B.
• 1:48:33
  There. It's D here.
• 1:48:35
  Yeah, they. Don't catch on to that.
• 1:48:38
  Some people don't. Yeah, OK.
• 1:48:41
  The biggest. OK.
• 1:48:43
  When I catch someone so blatantly cheating that they're
• 1:48:45
  stupid about it, I get angry. If you can beat the system.
• 1:48:50
  I don't agree with it, but I'll give you props.
• 1:48:52
  One guy we had to answer questions out of the book right?
• 1:48:57
  And it was ACD. So you would answer the
• 1:48:58
  questions in print and he would turn in the papers, right?
• 1:49:03
  This guy told his friend. Hey, can I borrow your?
• 1:49:05
  Papers so I can do the answers. Yeah, he gives him the papers.
• 1:49:09
  The guy comes back the next day and hands in a copy of his
• 1:49:14
  friend's questions. He didn't do the work and it's.
• 1:49:19
  Literally a copy of a highlighted.
• 1:49:21
  Paper so I was able to get the kid who highlighted it because
• 1:49:25
  there wasn't a lot of. Kids who highlighted.
• 1:49:27
  And his paper and look at it and be like, this is the same exact
• 1:49:31
  copy. So I I said, I need these two
• 1:49:35
  students to stick around after class.
• 1:49:37
  Sat them down, and I said, all right, let's talk about this.
• 1:49:41
  I said, it's not a question. I know you lent your paper to
• 1:49:45
  him or he stole it from you. One or the other.
• 1:49:47
  That's not a question, I said. But you get a 0.
• 1:49:53
  The one that copied it. Yeah.
• 1:49:57
  And you get a 0 for giving. It to him.
• 1:50:02
  Any question? Yeah.
• 1:50:06
  You know he goes. I have a.
• 1:50:07
  Question and what he goes How did you know we?
• 1:50:09
  We did this, I said because you highlighted your paper, he goes,
• 1:50:13
  well done. I'm like he copied it.
• 1:50:17
  He turned to him and says, you still.
• 1:50:20
  Whatever, right? And I said just don't do it
• 1:50:23
  again next time. I'm sending you guys to the DNQ
• 1:50:26
  out of school. Damn right again.
• 1:50:29
  I'm not hard. I'm a hard ass, but you know.
• 1:50:31
  It it. It surprises me how people could
• 1:50:34
  be just so blatantly stupid. About some stuff you can't fix.
• 1:50:38
  Stupid man, people are stupid. They're like when they the.
• 1:50:41
  Stupid. You know how they say there's no
• 1:50:42
  such thing as a stupid question? There are stupid questions.
• 1:50:46
  I'm going to tell you the stupidest question I've ever
• 1:50:48
  heard. Can I use the book on a take
• 1:50:50
  home test? That's a real question, Connor.
• 1:50:56
  I'm like, all right, no. And he failed.
• 1:50:58
  The test. That's an honest to God true
• 1:51:00
  story. Another class I told.
• 1:51:02
  So you couldn't use the book for at home?
• 1:51:04
  No, you could. Oh, that's the whole point.
• 1:51:06
  He said no, that's why like take home.
• 1:51:08
  Test I told him no being a smart ass.
• 1:51:10
  Oh that's who I am. Anyway, he fails the test, so a
• 1:51:21
  couple classes. Later I'm there and I'm saying.
• 1:51:24
  OK, listen, they say there's no such thing as a stupid question.
• 1:51:27
  There are stupid questions. And the example I give is this
• 1:51:30
  right? But don't be afraid to ask.
• 1:51:32
  I'm not going to make fun of you asking.
• 1:51:33
  You know, this is obviously a stupid question.
• 1:51:35
  I'm sorry, if it's an obviously stupid question, you deserve to
• 1:51:39
  be called out for it. Yeah, so we're going through the
• 1:51:43
  syllabus and this one. Go raise their.
• 1:51:45
  Hand she was I. Have a question?
• 1:51:47
  Can we use the book on a take home test?
• 1:51:49
  Like the whole class was like what?
• 1:51:51
  Like it was, it was just funny. It was funny.
• 1:51:55
  I was like seriously? Do you remember the whole
• 1:51:58
  conversation I just had with you about 5 minutes ago?
• 1:52:01
  Yeah, just it's it's crazy. Anyway, technology can help you.
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  Can it hurt you too? Let's take one quick final.
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  Let's see. It is 1152.
• 1:52:12
  No, we're not. We're going to take the final
• 1:52:13
  break. We'll just go to the final.
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  Know your worth. Show your work the final take
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  from. Today's discussion is reading.
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  The room isn't about blending in, it's about tuning in.
• 1:52:31
  Observe, adapt, and bring your best self to the table.
• 1:52:35
  The final flame has been struck. The lesson is locked in.
• 1:52:39
  Time to wrap the show up. All right, so real.
• 1:52:43
  Simply observe. Adapt and bring your best.
• 1:52:46
  Self to the table. The final flame has been struck.
• 1:52:50
  That's the end of the show. Done right, Because there's
• 1:52:52
  nothing else to say about that. See where you fit in.
• 1:52:58
  See where you fit in and figure it out.
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  That's the hardest thing. You got to figure out a way to
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  do it right. Read the room.
• 1:53:06
  That's been the title of the class.
• 1:53:08
  Reading the room. A cultural competence.
• 1:53:14
  OK, understanding that. You need to know what's going
• 1:53:18
  on. Around you, you need to know
• 1:53:19
  what's going on, how things work.
• 1:53:21
  You know, everyone has a different way of doing things.
• 1:53:24
  And like I myself, I'm different.
• 1:53:28
  I just do things differently. Yeah, I agree with that when I
• 1:53:35
  sit there. And I'm.
• 1:53:39
  Just, I don't know, in a new place I.
• 1:53:46
  Look around and I and I, you know, I'm a little quiet.
• 1:53:49
  Just to judge everything right and just to see what I can or
• 1:53:54
  cannot do. And if.
• 1:53:56
  I like it. I'm like, OK, cool.
• 1:53:59
  You know, if I don't like it, I'm like, what can I change or
• 1:54:01
  what can I do to like this better?
• 1:54:04
  And one of my favorite things is we got to eat right.
• 1:54:07
  OK. Do you think the food you eat is
• 1:54:14
  culture related? Well.
• 1:54:18
  Yeah, right. Every food's culture.
• 1:54:19
  Yeah, every food's culture. Exactly.
• 1:54:22
  When you go to certain restaurants and you.
• 1:54:23
  Try new food. Like we went to a new restaurant
• 1:54:25
  last weekend. Was it last weekend or two weeks
• 1:54:27
  ago? Maybe 2 weeks?
• 1:54:29
  2 weeks? Wait, what's it called?
• 1:54:32
  We went to. A place that sells FA two weeks
• 1:54:35
  ago and I ordered the you ordered spring roll.
• 1:54:40
  I ordered all the egg rolls and spring rolls.
• 1:54:41
  I want to try them and one of them had egg in it and I'm just
• 1:54:46
  like, what? Well, it's a different type kind
• 1:54:49
  of. It's not Chinese food.
• 1:54:50
  It was a different kind of cuisine.
• 1:54:51
  Vietnamese. Yeah.
• 1:54:52
  So. Yeah.
• 1:54:54
  So they do it differently. It's.
• 1:54:55
  Big also. It wasn't bad.
• 1:54:59
  But it wasn't what you but it wasn't worth.
• 1:55:01
  Going back for me. And that's why I think it's so
• 1:55:04
  funny, right, that you're sitting there and you're like,
• 1:55:08
  OK, how does this, you know, like, I don't like this food.
• 1:55:12
  And I, I felt bad sending it back, but I'm like, I didn't
• 1:55:14
  like it. I didn't like it.
• 1:55:16
  It it was bland. It was like, I just, I didn't
• 1:55:19
  like it. So when you go out to eat, be
• 1:55:22
  aware of all that and understand that things happen.
• 1:55:25
  You know what I mean? Yeah.
• 1:55:27
  And cultures. All of that is so important.
• 1:55:30
  Because. Rest eating out is culture, you
• 1:55:35
  know, doing things a certain way.
• 1:55:36
  Like before COVID, at Texas Roadhouse and Logan's
• 1:55:39
  Steakhouse, they would give you a bucket of peanuts.
• 1:55:43
  Not even in a bag, it was just a bucket of peanuts.
• 1:55:45
  You'd get bucket. Peanuts at the front.
• 1:55:48
  And then you'd just throw the shells on the floor and people
• 1:55:52
  just throw stuff on the floor. OK.
• 1:55:56
  At the at night they'd go clean it up so the managers could see
• 1:56:00
  if the floor was clean or not. Makes sense, right?
• 1:56:04
  So it's it's. Interesting because as.
• 1:56:06
  You do that every culture, every restaurant.
• 1:56:09
  There's some restaurants that say you can't wear a tie in here
• 1:56:12
  and they'll cut your tie off without your permission.
• 1:56:16
  OK, They have a sign up front. That that says we're going to
• 1:56:19
  cut your. Tie off if you're walking over
• 1:56:20
  the tie and they hang your tie up on the wall.
• 1:56:23
  Wow, OK, there's some places the exact.
• 1:56:26
  Opposite, you must wear a tie to.
• 1:56:28
  Come in here. Or they just have the they just
• 1:56:31
  have ties on the wall. Yeah, they do.
• 1:56:33
  And here, like I have my jerseys, right?
• 1:56:36
  With my numbers on it, they can claim these are gang colors and
• 1:56:40
  I can't wear it. Yeah, that's happened to me.
• 1:56:44
  Yeah, happened to me also. You know.
• 1:56:46
  So for wearing black. Yeah, dressing up.
• 1:56:49
  Yeah, right. There's all those.
• 1:56:52
  Things that you got to be aware of.
• 1:56:53
  So just remember when you're going out, going to work with
• 1:56:56
  your friends, your friends are a different culture group than
• 1:57:00
  you. Yeah, but I'm getting.
• 1:57:03
  More. You're learning it, yeah.
• 1:57:05
  Right, but it's taking time. You can.
• 1:57:07
  Just walk in there and know everything.
• 1:57:10
  Oh yeah, right. So yeah, it's one of those
• 1:57:13
  things that think about it and be aware of it.
• 1:57:17
  And when you come back next week, we will talk about more
• 1:57:23
  college stuff and see how your first school goes.
• 1:57:27
  Can't wait to hear that. Until then, you guys, I am the
• 1:57:29
  Murph. Man, who is Connor?
• 1:57:32
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