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#540 Holiday Highlight - Steve Biddulph · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
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  Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers me now Gooday.
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  Speaker 2: This is doctor Justin Coilson, the founder of Happy Families
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  Speaker 2: dot com dot Au and the Six Kids. Normally I'm
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  Speaker 2: here with Kylie, my wife, missus Happy Families as my
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  Speaker 2: parenting podcast co host. But it's school holidays in Queensland.
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  Speaker 2: I hope that you're having a great school holiday break
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  Speaker 2: with your kids. Kylie and I will be back from
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  Speaker 2: our holidays with a whole lot of new episodes of
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  Speaker 2: the Happy Families podcast starting again on July the eleventh,
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  Speaker 2: but for now, some highlights from recent Happy Families podcasts.
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  Speaker 2: Steve Bitoff is a best selling author, and we talked
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  Speaker 2: to him in episode three hundred and twenty four about
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  Speaker 2: his book Fully Human and his idea of a super sense.
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  Speaker 2: Steve explained what that is and how to tap into it.
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  Speaker 1: We have our normal, everyday brain, but we have a
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  Speaker 1: wider brain that's on the right side, which takes in
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  Speaker 1: everything and it talks to us through our guts and
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  Speaker 1: so everyone listening would know what I mean by a
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  Speaker 1: gut feeling, but it's actually literally true. Just to or
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  Speaker 1: Kylie if you go down inside your belly just right now,
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  Speaker 1: as I'm talking to you, there'll be a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: sensations going on down in the middle of your body,
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  Speaker 1: and people listening the same thing, and it'll be something
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  Speaker 1: about what I'm saying to you. Is it making sense?
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  Speaker 1: Does it sound like a load of rubbish? Or should
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  Speaker 1: I have gone to the toilet before I sat down
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  Speaker 1: for the interview. It's like the wild part of you,
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  Speaker 1: and it's always there, and it's always giving you a
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  Speaker 1: kind of a reading on the situation. And I call
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  Speaker 1: it super sense because it's very very alert and very
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  Speaker 1: wise to what's going on, and it's just you just
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  Speaker 1: go there by traveling down inside your body. And so
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  Speaker 1: if one of your kids comes home from school and
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  Speaker 1: says something and the tone of their voice isn't quite right,
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  Speaker 1: or something about their expression is a little bit just
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  Speaker 1: not quite right. If you're busy and you're thinking fast
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  Speaker 1: and you're doing a lot of things, you won't register that,
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  Speaker 1: but somewhere inside you will notice. And if you think
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  Speaker 1: back to that conversation, somewhere deep down in your guard,
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  Speaker 1: there'll be a kind of just a little twinge of ah,
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  Speaker 1: something wasn't right there. And so what I'm encouraging people
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  Speaker 1: to do is to listen to your supersense, go down
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  Speaker 1: into your body, be aware of what's happening all the time,
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  Speaker 1: because in a way, this is the real you. This
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  Speaker 1: is where you live. You don't live in your thoughts,
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  Speaker 1: you don't live in your emotions. There's a more peaceful place,
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  Speaker 1: and your super sense is where you'll get your feeling
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  Speaker 1: of steadiness from. And so a family is like a cyclone.
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  Speaker 1: You know it's whirling around you. If you go into
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  Speaker 1: your own body, you'll be in touch with you and
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  Speaker 1: that kind of wild creature like a panther or a
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  Speaker 1: big mama bear, that is steady and strong, and that'll
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  Speaker 1: know if you're rushing too much. It'll know if you're
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  Speaker 1: not breathing deeply enough. It'll know if you need to
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  Speaker 1: go into your child's betterm and say what did you
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  Speaker 1: mean by that? And the magical thing about it is
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  Speaker 1: as you start to get in touch with your own
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  Speaker 1: super sense, you will be more present and your children
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  Speaker 1: will experience you as being there for them because we
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  Speaker 1: all say, don't we you know we have to be
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  Speaker 1: there for our children. Now. I used to be a
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  Speaker 1: very anxious person. I am on the autism spectrum, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm just naturally anxious. And sometimes my daughter would say, Dad,
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  Speaker 1: where are you? You know, You're just not here, And
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  Speaker 1: I'd look at her with, you know, with penetrating eyes
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  Speaker 1: and work to try and be there and listen and think.
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  Speaker 1: But it didn't do the trick because so I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: inside myself. And now that I've learned to be to
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  Speaker 1: use super sense and travel down to be like down
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  Speaker 1: in my belly noticing my own sensations, then what happens
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  Speaker 1: is I'm also more aware of my children.
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  Speaker 2: That's Steve Biddoff from episode three hundred and twenty four
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  Speaker 2: of the Happy Families podcast, talking about his book Fully Human.
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  Speaker 2: Your daughter just walked by, eyes glued to her phone,
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  Speaker 2: expression unreadable. You ask her to put it down, but
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  Speaker 2: she balks. You know it's not good for her, but
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  Speaker 2: you're not sure why or how to support better choices.
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  Speaker 2: In the webinar pixel perfect, I joined with psychologist and
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  Speaker 2: teen tech expert Jocelyn Brewer to discuss how to set
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  Speaker 2: screen boundaries that work for you and your daughter. Check
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  Speaker 2: out pixel perfect now on the Happy Family's webshop. Really
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  Speaker 2: Appreciate you listening to the Happy Families podcast. If you
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  Speaker 2: ever find us talking about something that you would love
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  Speaker 2: to have some input on, you can email podcasts at
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  Speaker 2: happy families dot com dot you. We especially love it
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  Speaker 2: when you send us voice memos. Open up your telephone,
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  Speaker 2: click on the voice memos app and just tell us
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  Speaker 2: what's on your mind. Try to keep it to twenty
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  Speaker 2: or thirty seconds. The shorter it can be, the more
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  Speaker 2: likely it is that we can use it on the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Podcasts at happy families dot com dot you send us
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  Speaker 2: your voice memos. We would love to have your voice
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  Speaker 2: as part of the Happy Families podcast, which is produced
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  Speaker 2: by Justin Ruhland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our
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  Speaker 2: executive producer, and if you'd like more and fo about
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  Speaker 2: making your family happier, visit us at happy families dot
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  Speaker 2: com dot A you