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Stress and being able to pivot · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Continuing our little series on stress today.
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  And today we are going to talk about pivoting.
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  So what do I mean? When I say pivot I mean when you
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  find yourself in that stressful situation, which is going to
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  happen, let's face. It is going to happen.
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  There's no question about it. You have to be able to Pivot if
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  you want to be able to move yourself through it, and not
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  feel like you're adjusting this swill pit if you will of being
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  stuck. Pivoting is an art and it
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  combines a few different tools. When you break down the process,
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  when someone says, oh, you got to learn to Pivot.
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  Really, what you have to do is the very first thing is.
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  Again, you got to come back to awareness and you guys must get
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  so sick of hearing me say this, but it's really what the Crux of
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  the whole thing is you have to be able to get back to that
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  piece where you can be ultimately aware.
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  So critically aware of what's going on around you so that you
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  can You know, decide what your next play is.
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  But you can't do that if you don't ultimately have the
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  awareness to know, you're even stuck in the spot.
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  So, awareness is number one. Number two is, you've got to be
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  able to look at a situation and say, this is not where I want to
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  be, and I don't like this. I don't, I'm not going to be
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  resourceful and I think that's for me.
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  That's one of my most important distinctions for myself, is that
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  I say, I am not going to be resourceful here.
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  If I stay in this state, if I stay in this, Place in my head.
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  There is no way that I'm going to be able to be resourceful in
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  the process. I can assure you that your
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  resourcefulness goes down immensely when you are under
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  stress. Now we may think that we
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  operate, great under stress. Can't tell you how many times in
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  my career. I've heard someone say to me,
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  well I do really well under stress and I say no, you don't
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  do really well under stress. You have just learned to make
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  things work under stress and that is Not necessarily doing
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  really well. All that is is being, you know,
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  adaptive you've just said, okay, I know I can I can do well under
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  this but it's not really the best you can be and if you stop
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  and think about it, it's really not the best.
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  You can be a lot of people have. I am not one of them, I do not.
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  I know, like I did not grow up, putting myself in stressful
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  situations just to get through them, i.e. taking exams, a lot
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  of people believe. Oh, well, I'm under pressure.
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  I do really well. You know, you might get the job
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  done. But that doesn't mean you're
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  doing it. The best you can do it.
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  It doesn't mean you're going to remember anything you studied.
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  It doesn't remember mean, you're going to benefit from that
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  pressure that you put yourself under.
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  It just means that you've been adaptive.
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  You found a way to make it work, but in this case does not work
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  well and I don't suggest that you go about it and do it.
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  Okay, so just keep that in mind. Pivoting also means number three
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  that you recognize, there's an alternative method to take on.
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  So you can say, ask yourself a better question.
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  What's another way? I can handle this situation?
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  What's another way I can show up?
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  What's another way? I can make something happen and
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  if you don't ask yourself that question, you won't find the
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  answers because you'll just go right back to the Adaptive
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  behaviors you created before. So it's really, really important
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  that you ask the right questions because when asking the right
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  questions, you will get better, stronger, different answers.
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  And it's really important that you do, so.
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  So you have those questions right at hand?
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  Have those questions ready for yourself, so that you can make
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  it work, so that you can get something that you're really
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  considering a Wrong direction to go in available to you.
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  Now again, I say it with such an emphasis because when we are
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  under stress, we don't always think clearly.
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  So we have to think about these things ahead of time, we have to
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  have the ideas ahead of time so that when we are technically out
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  of stress, we come up with our ideas and then they're available
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  to us when we are in stress, if we try to come up with ideas in
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  stress, they just tend to be crap.
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  Eid has quite honestly that's why people end up in prison.
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  That's why people end up doing stupid things.
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  That's why we go for, you know, short-term Solutions just to
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  relieve some of the pain if you will, but it doesn't work
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  because they're not. Well, thought out remember when
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  emotions go up intelligence goes down and there's just no way
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  around that you don't think clearly when that happens so
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  please take the time to have some you know prepared thoughts
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  on this. What's another way I can handle
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  it? Another person that I can bring
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  in, have your short list of 1 2 3, ready so that you can work
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  your way through it, right? In those moments that it's
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  necessary and you don't keep going back to the same things
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  and you really can pivot on a dime and say no.
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  So I will tell you, one of my favorite ones for this for me is
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  I will say okay I need like 10 minutes to collect my thoughts.
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  So for me, that 10-minute thought collection is just
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  sitting down and writing everything.
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  On a piece of paper, The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly.
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  And I usually divide it, and I usually put it in list and I
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  usually sit there and say, okay, here's what's, here's what's
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  happening? That's not great.
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  Here's what's happening, that irritating me, here's what's
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  happening that? Stressing me.
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  However, you want to do it. Then you go over and say, okay,
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  what could I what could possibly make this better?
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  What are things that can make this better?
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  Just do a brain dump, doesn't matter.
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  If you don't know how to make them happen, just do a brain
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  dump of something that could possibly make this better and
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  then You can go, okay. Is there a way that I can ask to
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  get this over to the next place? Is there a way that I can ask
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  for help? Is there a way that I can put
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  somebody else in this with me? That can help me?
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  And if there's not, you still keep looking for a solution, you
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  don't give up, but you don't take on that immediate emotional
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  stress of it, trying to make it work that in itself is never a
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  good idea. Never a good idea.
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  So hopefully this makes sense. Hopefully you're going to be
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  able to work yourself through it, a little bit and you're
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  going to Pivot on a dime and get yourself back to at least a
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  place of neutral where you can do a brain dump, think about it.
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  And say, okay, there have to be other ways to handle this but
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  staying in that heightened stress point is not going to
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  help. Okay, so go out there today,
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  make your list pivot pivot pivot.
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  Don't stay in the same place and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.