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Our resistance to change. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop so I want to talk to you
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  about change boy. What a big subject, right?
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  Because it compasses so many different parts of our Lives.
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  Personal professional big little small wide.
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  It doesn't matter what it is. It all encompasses, this massive
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  subject of change in our life and as a human beings we just do
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  not typically like change. We will resist it resistant
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  resistant because it takes us out of our certainty puts us in
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  a different state of mind. It it It makes us feel like I'm
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  easy and we don't like that, you know, our nature is to look for
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  the certainty and safety. It's just how human beings are
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  wired, and we're never going to get around that.
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  But our nature is also to look at what's going on in our world
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  around us and we are surrounded by change all the time.
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  I mean mother nature is one of the best ones that is constantly
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  doing that to us. I mean, every single day, the
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  light wherever you live every single The headlight is
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  Shifting. And it's your days are getting a
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  little longer, a little shorter, whatever it might be, there's
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  always tweaks. There's always things happening
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  in every blade of grass. Every little tiny thing.
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  Nature is telling us change is inevitable.
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  It's going to happen, but our pain isn't necessarily because
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  of the change. Our pain is because of the
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  resistance to the change. That's around us because we
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  don't like it and we want things to say exactly the same, you
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  know, there was an episode of Sesame Street years ago where
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  Elmo want. Christmas every day and I always
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  laugh at that one, my daughter wanted to watch it over and over
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  and over again. And you know, after a while
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  Elmo, got sick of Christmas because it was every day and he
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  had to realize that, you know, in order for things to be great,
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  they have to shift, they have to move on.
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  You can't have the same things all the time, everything is
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  always about growing and expanding, and shifting, and
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  changing. And we have to recognize Nice in
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  ourselves, that the resistance, we put up the resistance, in our
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  perspective, the resistance, in our desire for things to shift
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  and change around us causes all of our pain, not the actual acts
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  of things. Sure there are, it's inevitable,
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  that there will be things that happen that cause us pain.
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  We will lose things in our lives.
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  People we love animals, we love. We will lose jobs that we love,
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  we will lose situations. And if we are Pletely, and
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  totally honest, we will recognize that a huge tremendous
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  chunk of that is that, that feeling and emotion that we have
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  happening is because of our resistance to it.
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  So our resistance to the change that is and because we feel so
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  overwhelmed with it and I'm sorry for the dogs barking in
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  the background. Can you hear all that?
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  That's my neighbor's dogs. And, you know, we're just going
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  to roll with it because This is important and it's a change in
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  what we're doing, right? And I'm not going to resist the
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  change, as it's happening. I'm just going to go and we're
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  going to roll with it and see how it goes.
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  So I'm looking. There it goes already away.
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  So I think the most important aspect of what I want.
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  You guys to hear me say today is look at whatever is going on in
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  your life. That is causing pain and
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  suffering and ask yourself how can I change my perspective so
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  that I can move myself out of pain and Offering, because pain
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  and suffering is inevitable, but it's not something that you need
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  to stay in. You can move through it.
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  I promise you, I know that because I've done it so many
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  times in my own personal life, with losses of many things.
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  And it is not something that you have to stay in but it does
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  require an acute level of awareness about where your pain
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  and suffering is coming from and it requires you to be
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  Cognitively aware that you can no longer resist.
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  What is being put in front of you, if you keep resisting the
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  loss. If you keep resisting to address
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  it, if you keep resisting to move through it, you will stay
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  in pain and it will move you eventually one way or another,
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  so you might as well say just like Elmo.
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  Did you know what? I got to?
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  I got to just move on. I can't keep waiting for
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  Christmas every day because goodness knows this isn't feel
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  good. It's like it's not every time it
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  Zap. I'm it's not the same, it
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  doesn't feel good. And I think that When you're,
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  when you're doing this exercise, when you're really coming to
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  terms with the fact that you're looking at yourself and you're
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  saying, I am stuck in a place of resisting, the change that has
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  been presented to me. You have to stop and pause and
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  ask yourself who do I need to be now, you can't just go to it
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  with the person that you've always been.
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  You have to stop and ask yourself who do I need to be now
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  to move through this. Where do I need to shift myself?
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  Where do I need to move my emotions to?
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  Where do I need to move my perspectives to?
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  Because if you can do that, I promise you.
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  That's when the great things start to happen, when you can
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  shift it and you can start to look at, okay?
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  What are the gifts in this? You know?
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  When I lost my dad, I didn't think there was anything great
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  about this at all. I never thought there was one
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  great thing about it. I couldn't figure it out.
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  He was my best friend. He was every meant, everything
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  in World's me and there was still to this day.
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  There was never, I can't I can't put my finger on certain aspects
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  of losing him, but I will say this, when I stopped resisting
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  that he was gone, when I started to realize that I had to do
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  things on my own while I still felt like he was with me and I
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  can talk to him and I have faith that I have connection with him.
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  Still I had to come to terms with the fact that I had to make
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  decisions. Ian's and I had to move in a
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  certain direction when I started doing that my life changed and I
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  know if he had still been here, some of the decisions that I
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  made for myself, that put me right here in this spot, doing
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  this for you, I wouldn't have made and I certainly wouldn't be
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  living where I am. I certainly wouldn't be in the
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  state that I am. I certainly wouldn't be doing
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  the things that I was doing. I would have taken a Different
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  path because I was on a completely different path and
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  once he passed then I shifted. So I can sit back and you know,
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  I can still feel the pain of the loss but I don't have to have
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  the same interpretation of it. So maybe all of this stuff
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  that's out there. Whatever is going on in your
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  life, whatever change is happening that you have to come
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  to terms with and move through and realize the resistance is
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  not necessarily. Lee helping you with this point,
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  I'll tell you to just stop and pause and say, who do I need to
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  be now moving forward. And what do I want to believe
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  about this happening? So that I can move forward and
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  just asking yourself some really better questions will help you.
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  So I hope that this is helpful for you today.
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  I hope that you understand a little bit more about change and
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  resistance to change and I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a blessed day. Bye.