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ENCORE EPISODE: WOMEN OVER 50 ON THE MEL ROBBINS "LET THEM" THEORY AND BOOK · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to uncluttered and unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back with nationally acclaimed
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  professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed hot
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  damn mess radio and TV personality Eden Kendall.
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  Welcome everybody to uncluttered and unfiltered, the podcast for
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  women over 50. My name is Eden Kendall.
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  Christine Stone is a professional organizer, so any
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  organizing tips you take away from this will certainly only be
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  from her and not me. But be careful, you might just
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  learn something. How are you good?
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  How are you after the race? Oh well.
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  How am I? I just sat there and like
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  clapped and you know, we. We have a very, very big weekend
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  event. Here in North.
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  Florida called the Donna Marathon weekend and our mayor.
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  Coincidentally, she's now our mayor.
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  But she used to be a news anchor found Donna Deegan, who has had
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  three bouts with breast cancer, has this gigantic marathon
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  weekend to finish breast cancer. It's called the marathon to
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  finish breast cancer. I ran the half marathon and it
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  goes right by your house. Yes, which is?
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  So fun. Isn't that funny?
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  Yeah. I love that I get a chance to
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  see you. But it was fun.
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  But what what happened the next day was this always happens on a
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  Sunday. So I ran this half marathon.
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  A lot of people ran the full marathon.
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  A lot of people was first time right?
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  I try to go every year. We had photos here at the TV
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  station and that was on Monday and I only had one air of shoes
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  to match my dress and these are full length photos.
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  I couldn't get them on my feet. See I have these really high
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  heeled shoes, could not get them on my feet the next day after
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  the race. But I had no choice.
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  I had to cram them in and walk around in these shoes because
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  they were what I had chosen already for the photos.
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  But you know, first world problems as they.
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  Well, I laughed so hard that I'm sitting there just clapping
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  away, telling my husband I can't see far away.
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  I can only see close up, find her and let me know so I can
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  videotape it. And he kept saying the whole
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  time, that's her. No, it's not, that's her.
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  No, it's not. I'm like, I'm not going to take
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  you seriously in a minute and I'm going to miss it.
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  So that that's what happens. As you're older, you have to say
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  which one do you want to see better up close or far away You
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  have. To make these.
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  Choices. You have to make these.
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  Hard choices. I saw YouTube before you saw
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  right, so I was able to run and get right in your faces and I
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  loved it and I loved having that video afterwards.
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  Oh my God. It was very rarely do I ever get
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  to see. I always want to see.
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  Do I look like I'm dying? Do I look like I'm having fun?
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  And I Oh, no, you look like you were having fun.
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  I look like I was dying just watching people running.
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  I'm like, that looks painful. Like I would have commentaries
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  of like, God, that maybe I should go give them something.
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  You know what I mean? Some people look like they are
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  in pain, yes. I mean, and that that's very
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  often is me too, but not in this case.
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  Not in this case. So today's episode is about a
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  book that is sweeping the nation.
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  It's by Mel Robbins, who we. Love, I love Mel.
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  And she has written a book along with her daughter Sawyer called
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  the Let Them Theory. And this was after making some
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  videos from her podcast where she was talking about the Let
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  Them theory. And it went so viral that she
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  thought, I need to make this into an entire book.
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  Yes, there was some backlash as to whether or not did she really
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  create the Let Them theory. I don't know that she ever
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  really said she created it. But whether she did or she
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  didn't, she's the one who wrote a book.
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  So that's what we're talking about today.
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  And I think when you get as big as she is, you're going to have
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  backlash because people want to, you know, poo poo all over
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  whatever good things are happening.
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  So I kind of ignore that a little bit.
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  Did. You let them.
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  You just said I. Just said, you know what, you're
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  going to always have those detractors and people who are
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  not happy for your success, whatever it may be.
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  It's, I mean, listen, I I think she's amazing.
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  I. Yes.
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  So. When she speaks, she speaks at
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  you so confidently, like when she says listen and do this.
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  She even has a book or a podcast called This is What You Should
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  Do. She's very specific and
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  intentional. But when we discussed the idea
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  that we should read this book and also the Brooke Shields book
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  and talk about it on the podcast, I didn't realize you
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  were stressing. Out.
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  Oh my God, why? Because I wrote this down
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  because I couldn't even remember the last time I read a book.
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  I mean, a real book was the James Fry when he was on Oprah
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  Book Club, Million Little Pieces.
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  OK, it's. Been a minute.
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  OK. And Prince of Tides.
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  Oh my gosh, so my kids even bore.
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  Me right, no, I wasn't even married.
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  OK, So I was like, how am I going to do this?
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  And then my daughter said do it on tape.
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  And I like, you know, audible, Audible and I go what?
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  She goes, you can listen to it. It's like a podcast, but it's a
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  book. So I go on and I'm listening,
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  but I don't want to tell you because I feel like I'm
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  cheating. What does she know?
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  And I'm an I consider myself a prolific reader.
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  I read, I'm always reading a book.
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  But here's here's what I guess I should also mention when I tell
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  people I'm reading a book, I'm not reading and I'm listening.
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  To OK, well, I didn't know that. Every single book that I've read
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  since you've known me, I have only listened to it because my
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  mind, it's the same thing. I've absorbed everything that
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  the author wrote and what I love about when I read a book, read a
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  book that is a a memoir, I feel like the author told me their
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  life story. Personally, like Cher, I feel
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  like I know her right now so well because she just read me
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  her life story. So it's it's great.
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  And the narration on the Let them.
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  Book is fantastic, is fantastic. You feel like she's your best
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  friend and you're sitting at her house and she's telling I I
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  thought that I thought that's better than reading the book.
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  Sorry, everybody, but I really, really did.
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  I thought that her the way she even gets emotional while she's
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  reading it, it just feels more authentic and more real in my
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  opinion. It was great.
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  I so now what we aim to do is discuss the book, the premise,
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  not in a way where you don't need to go out and get the book
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  right, but in a way where if you're never going to go out and
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  get the book, you at least can benefit from the words that we
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  read. But I think you you're going to
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  want it. And also at least some of her
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  podcasts where she discusses it. Getting opinion from women over
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  50 too. Because you and I both had a
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  couple of opinions. We did everything will get in
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  agreement. Well, not everything was really
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  relatable to people over 50 either, like some of the things
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  so. Yeah, it's a 2 fold premise.
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  It's let them let me. So let them means, oh, your
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  friends all went out and had a happy hour and they didn't
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  invite you and you only just found out from seeing it on
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  social media. Let them, let them.
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  They're grown women. They can invite who they want to
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  invite, but let me think about, should I do some reaching out on
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  my own? Should I be the one maybe
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  suggesting some get together so they know I'm game for the next
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  one? Should I, you know, drop these
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  friends? What should I be doing about it?
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  So let them and then let me. So most of it is common sense.
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  I thought a lot of it was, and what happened was I couldn't get
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  the Jerry Maguire scene out of my head.
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  Let me help you once. She said it once.
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  I'm like, oh God, now I can't get that Cuba Gooding Junior Tom
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  Cruise scene out of my head because that's all.
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  I kept thinking like me help you.
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  But one of the things I love too was she was talking about her
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  son's prom. And this was a classic example
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  of using the let them philosophy, which is he didn't
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  put a lot of planning into his prom.
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  He asked her at the last minute, the date he he is asked by his
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  mom, Mel Robbins, does he want a corsage?
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  And he's like, Nope, she doesn't need a corsage.
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  She does not let them. She goes and gets a corsage
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  anyway because she's like going to be the hero if at the last
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  minute he needs a corsage. And then not only that doesn't
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  plan for where they're going to go eat afterwards.
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  There's a reservation and she's losing her mind versus what let
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  them would be, which is let them go.
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  Let them let them show up to the restaurant and not get a table.
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  Let them stand in the rain because they didn't plan.
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  Let them let these things happen.
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  And I am that mom that would have bought that corsage.
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  Oh, I am the mom. It like I don't know what
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  happened but my older daughter said oh I need a boutonniere.
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  I said the prom is tomorrow. Well I need 1 so of course I run
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  out all over town, people even. Because every prom is.
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  The same time exactly. And even the woman at the
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  florist like bullied me and was like, you're waiting until now.
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  I said it's a long story. Is there any way?
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  I mean, I've done that so many times.
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  So that really rang true for me. But especially when you have
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  girls, you feel like you need to step in and you know better and
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  you've been there. And, you know, I, I just think
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  that that really was exactly what a lot of moms tend to do.
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  They just step in and say, you can't do this without making a
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  reservation. You can't.
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  You know, I think now hindsight, I might have let them, Yeah, you
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  know. Yeah, and that's exactly what
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  happened there. She went ahead and she did pull
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  that corsage out when the girl gave him a boutonniere.
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  Only after she did that did she realize in a very embarrassed
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  state, that she had made her own corsage.
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  So it was kind of an embarrassing situation.
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  Now the girl's like, oh OK, I'll wear it and the the sun's.
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  Furious. Whereas that's when sometimes
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  you just, as you said, have to let.
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  So another part of the book that really stood out to me, and I've
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  struggled with this. I want to save my whole life and
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  now I'm just going to stop. So I say is when someone has an
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  issue with something you do, they think that maybe you're, I
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  don't know, a pain in the neck when you're doing this or they
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  just have these little beefs with you.
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  It doesn't mean they don't love and like you, right?
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  And that's something that for me, I always have stressed
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  uncontrollably about. If I do or say something that I
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  know might have been a misstep, I think that person is going to
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  hate me. And in reality, you have things
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  your husband does that drive you crazy.
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  There are things that my daughter does or my son does
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  that I don't love. About that but.
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  I love them unconditionally. I think with friends some and Co
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  workers and what have you, sometimes you think if you make
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  a mistake that you're they're just not going to like you
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  anymore. That's just not the case.
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  So I took that away from this book.
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  I I liked OK. I wrote it down because I was
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  pretty impressed with the five why's.
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  Yeah, let's talk about that. The reason why I liked that so
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  much, and it's the premise, is if something bothers you about
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  somebody else five times, you're supposed to ask, ask yourself
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  why. So you dwindle it down to the
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  real reason by the 5th why? I that's what I took away from.
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  It So let's put that in practice.
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  How can we do that? All right, let's say the the
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  daughter doesn't have a boutonniere and it's the day
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  before. Why are you upset?
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  Right, because you don't want her to.
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  You don't want her to be the only one that didn't do a
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  boutonniere. Well why?
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  Why would you be upset that she isn't the only because she would
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  feel out of place? Well, why would she feel out of
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  place? You know, like you're really
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  dwindling it down to the point where you're like, really, it's
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  about you. That's what I think the fifth
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  why is always like, well, why do you care?
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  Yeah, well, how is this your? Right, right.
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  How is this your issue? So you could do that with
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  someone who drinks too much, someone who you know doesn't
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  have the same values as you. Anything that you kind of
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  differ, it's like, well, why does that bother you really?
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  What is that? I just love really.
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  I never really thought of it that way before.
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  We you have to keep asking why, And to me that was a really kind
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  of eye opening thing. Yeah, because 9 out of 10 things
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  that I worry about or or stress about that keep me laying awake
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  looking at the ceiling at night are either a text that somebody
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  didn't reply to. What could they be thinking?
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  What could they possibly be thinking?
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  Well, why? Why do?
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  Why does it matter? Right.
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  Why? Right.
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  And also things that are never going to happen, but could
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  potentially happen, right? And for example, you know, say
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  you have a job that this is not a personal experience at all,
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  but say, you know, you have a job at a business that you don't
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  think is going to be a successful business, you know,
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  and you want to look for a new job, but you know, it's going to
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  make everyone else upset. And why, why are you not going
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  to move on that, you know, just a lot of different.
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  You have. To talk to yourself more than we
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  do, I think. Yeah, it's, it's about finding
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  out really, what is the bottom line problem that's making you
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  so upset about this. And without being defensive when
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  you're talking also to the person you know, without, you're
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  not allowed to be defensive. You're not allowed to make
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  statements. It's always, well, why?
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  Why do you feel this way? And they say, I don't know, I
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  just do. And not nagging them, not going
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  on and on and on about it, which, you know, sometimes you
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  can be like, especially as women, I'm not trying.
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  Right, right. Right.
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  Right. Exactly.
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  So that was a big one for me and also friendships later in life I
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  that really made a lot of sense because you know me, we always
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  talk everybody about what a homebody I am and it really made
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  sense. Like if you want to be included
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  in things, then make an effort. If you want, if you move
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  somewhere new and you have no friends, make an effort.
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  And people think everybody should come to them and
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  everybody should call them and include them.
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  And I love that. It kind of turned that whole
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  thing around. Like, no, you, you reach out to
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  people, you make an effort. If they, if they rather than
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  feel slighted right. If somebody has a party and
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  you're not invited, and this is the example we used earlier, let
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  them, but let me do things now that are more actively moving
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  towards solidifying my friendship.
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  So there are parties that I get invited to, right?
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  And that's the difference between just saying let them and
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  then also figuring out, OK, I'm going to let them do their thing
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  and I'm not going to get myself all wrapped up in it, but I'm
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  also going to take some action and I'm not going to sit back
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  and let it happen again. Because, you know, fool me once
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  shame on you twice, shame on me kind of thing.
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  That's not something from the book.
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  That's just saying like, if that keeps happening, sometimes a
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  pattern really is a pattern. And if you're the only
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  consistent in that. Pattern.
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  Then yes, you have to think, OK, I've got to do something
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  different. I love the section, even though
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  it doesn't apply to me on dating because when she's talking to
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  these young women and saying, if you're getting nothing back in
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  your text, that's how he feels, right?
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  Right. You have to.
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  If they want to show you who they are, let them, right?
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  Don't go out of your way to make excuses for them.
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  Let them show you who they are, right?
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  And then I can't remember exactly how she said it, but it
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  was something to the effect of if you're wondering if you're
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  confused there, there's your answer.
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  Because if you're wondering if he likes you and you think he
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  does, there's your answer. If you're confused about his
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  feelings, there's your answer, because when he if he has
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  legitimately good feelings and good intentions or she it's
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  going to, it's not going to be a confusing situation.
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  It's going to be crystal clear. Right, well, and I saw in TikTok
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  one of these where they put a bunch of Carrie and Big scenes
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  together, but they they put them together for how pathetic she
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  was. On constant the city.
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  Yeah, and constantly, you know, going after him even though he
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  wasn't interested. And they, they clipped them all
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  together. And I thought about that because
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  I'm like, Oh my God, when you see it like that, you're like,
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  gosh, she was just driving that man insane and like kind of just
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  really inappropriate when you see it all lined up together and
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  not letting him make any moves or any feelings really towards
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  her, of course, until the movie. But it just, yeah, I mean, like,
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  it's great for younger people, in my opinion, to be reading
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  that chapter because with social media and everything, people
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  read into things when they're dating that I mean.
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  Well, there's a great country song called If he wanted To, he
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  would, right? And it's like, you know, just
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  'cause he wished you happy birthday on your birthday.
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  Right. You know, he didn't text you and
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  say let's get back together, 'cause guess what?
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  If he wanted to, he would. He would.
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  And that's kind of the deal with most people in this world.
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  If, you know, if they wanted to, they would.
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  I mean, I've made millions of excuses for people over the
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  years and I'm sure people have done that for me.
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  But at the end of the day, you got to let people show you who
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  they are. I agree.
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  And the other part that I loved was rescuing people.
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  You need to step back and allow adults to face consequences for
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  their actions. I have to be honest.
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  I don't think I did that until my late 50s, honestly.
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  Maybe, yeah, Late 50s. Oh yeah.
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  Oh yeah. I had to, like, fix everything.
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  I had to. Yeah, I'm a fixer.
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  And I had to, you know, I couldn't just sit back and watch
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  a train wreck. Now I I can do it.
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  It's not easy, by the way. It took a lot of work, but I
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  knew better. I could fix the situation if
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  they would just listen, you know what I mean?
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  And after. This book is for really is the
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  fixers out there. Yeah, I'm a.
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  Former fixer, but. Fixers and the naggers.
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  I'm the naggers and I'm the fixer.
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  The fixer because I have all the answers.
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  And if you would just listen, your life would be so much
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  easier. And people have to learn on
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  their own. And that's what that's why I
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  said some things in this book are common sense, because I kind
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  of learned that way before this book.
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  And you have to let people, they're grown adults, let them
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  fall, let them make mistakes, let them do things you wouldn't
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  approve of. They're grown adults.
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  They're grown ass. Yes, and you just have to let
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  them be. And yeah.
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  So as long as we're on the subject of Mel Robbins, there's
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  something else she made a video about.
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  And I just love it so much. And I, I, I've never done this.
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  If I did anything, my husband would think I'm crazy.
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  And I know you're never going to do it, but it's called
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  Slytherin. Have you ever seen her video
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  about Slytherin? She suggests, look this up, Mel
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  Robin Slytherin, that when you wake up in the morning, you
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  should slither out of bed. And then she does it.
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  She's in her bed. And if I wasn't wearing a dress
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  right now in these ridiculous shoes and I can't walk in, I
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  would show you. But she slithers out of her bed
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  and basically slides into the bathroom or wherever she's got
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  to go next and doesn't even stand up until she's been out of
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  the bed for like at least 1520 seconds.
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  She's just Slytherin from the bed.
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  Her idea being that that's how you're going to very gradually
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  get out of bed and wake up in the morning.
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  You're going to slither out of the bed.
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  You're looking at me like it makes sense.
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  Yeah, well, only because I'd be the one that would like not be
• 21:10
  able to get up like I'd have I. Told you this before.
• 21:12
  I think I have now that I think about it, but it's obviously not
• 21:16
  made an impression on you. Why would you want to do that?
• 21:19
  I don't know. I would never want to do that.
• 21:22
  I know you wouldn't. You know me, I would never.
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  Slip out of bed or do. You No, I don't bolt out of bed
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  because I don't get up to an alarm.
• 21:31
  I automatically get up around 5:30, quarter six automatically.
• 21:35
  It's just in my clock. So I lay in bed and like, you
• 21:40
  know, watch TV for 15 minutes, watch the news for 15 minutes.
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  But I I'm not a pop out of bed kind of person.
• 21:49
  I have to gradually, slowly get up well.
• 21:52
  I'll find this and I'll put it on our Instagram stories or in
• 21:55
  our ladies only Facebook. I'm going to make a prediction
• 21:58
  though. She is the Oprah of this
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  generation. She's going to have her own talk
• 22:03
  show. She's going to have many, many
• 22:05
  books in her future and she is going to be what Oprah was to
• 22:10
  us, to this next generation. I think it's fantastic.
• 22:13
  Everyone needs an Oprah in their generation, but that's my
• 22:17
  prediction just from listening to this book.
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  She has that very Oprah feel to her and she's highly connected
• 22:27
  in the world of having people on her podcast.
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  And I just think she's going to just take this ball and roll
• 22:35
  with it, which is fantastic, so. Yeah, she's got some pearls of
• 22:39
  wisdom in that book for sure. And if you have a daughter?
• 22:43
  I think that's a great. Gift like you gave it to your
• 22:45
  daughter. So anyway, we want to tell you
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  It's called uncluttered and unfiltered ladies only.
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  We'll let you write in and. And we're doing Brooke Shields
• 23:06
  book next. Yeah, next month.
• 23:08
  So ladies, if you want to read along, but I am excited for that
• 23:13
  book. I really am.
• 23:14
  I've heard, I've heard her talk about it on different social
• 23:18
  medias and on, you know, the Today show and stuff.
• 23:21
  So I'm excited to read that book.
• 23:24
  Me too. Me too.
• 23:25
  It's called. Well, not really.
• 23:26
  Read. Listen.
• 23:27
  Shields is not allowed to get old is what it's called.
• 23:29
  So one of the things in Mel Robbins book she talks about is
• 23:33
  the difference between let it go and let them.
• 23:35
  So even if someone comes along and writes a book called Let
• 23:40
  Them and says that it's different than Let it Go, you
• 23:43
  can still read Let them and then let it go.
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  And don't look back.