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☀️ Ennea-Summer: Enneagram 1 The Reformer · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast with Amy Wicks, your wholehearted life and business coach.
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  SPEAKER_01: You should know this podcast will inspire you to grow in self-awareness, be passionate about your faith, and get clear on your calling.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_01: If you are new here, then welcome to the community of multi-passionate women who love to go deep on topics like faith, Enneagram, relationships, leadership, and community.
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  SPEAKER_01: This conversation might provide the step you need to make the change you desire.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let's get started.
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  SPEAKER_01: Today I will explore the unique traits of the Enneagram 1.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_01: I'll introduce an upstream practice that helps them embrace imperfection.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm going to feature a powerful story from a wholehearted type 1 client, and then wholehearted coach Deanna Sudem will end with a prayer that seeks balance and grace.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_01: If you know a type 1 or you are one, I hope you take notes and share this fun and easy way to learn about all nine Enneagram types this summer.
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  SPEAKER_01: And of course, if you're not in a place to take those notes or jot that thought down, I hope that you'll go to the show notes and download the free guide sheet on the Enneagram one.
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  SPEAKER_01: And actually, I have created a special guide sheet for all nine types.
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  SPEAKER_01: So whatever one you need, it will be there for your reviewing at your leisure.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now here's a quick snapshot of the type one.
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  SPEAKER_01: A one's core fear is being wrong, bad, evil, inappropriate, unredeemable, or corruptible.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one's core desire is to have integrity, to be good, ethical, balanced, accurate, virtuous, and right.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one's core weakness is resentment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Resentment is repressing anger, which leads to continual frustration and dissatisfaction with themselves, others, and the world for being imperfect.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram one's core longing is to hear that you are good.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now let's talk about the Enneagram wings.
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  SPEAKER_01: Enneagram wings are the two personality types on either side of the primary personality type.
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  SPEAKER_01: For instance, the wings for the type one are the type 9 and the type 2.
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  SPEAKER_01: One of these wings is sometimes used more than others, and that adds a new dimension and depth to the primary type.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's like salt and pepper to potato or cream and sugar is to coffee.
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  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't change that it's potato or coffee.
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  SPEAKER_01: It just adds to the flavor.
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  SPEAKER_01: In addition to internal conflicts that might arise to the unique wing influence, our childhood wounds may also impact our use of our wings.
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  SPEAKER_01: The insights about the wings is to just help provide awareness to our wounded parts so we can become more mended and wholehearted to experience forward momentum in our life.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram 1 Wing 9 tends to be calmer, more relaxed, introverted, cerebral, objective, and a little bit more emotionally detached.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram 1 Wing 2 tends to be warmer, more helpful, vocal, fiery, critical, sensitive, action-oriented, and a little bit more focused on controlling their environment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now let's talk about the Intelligence Center for the One.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Intelligence Center is also known as the decision-making strength.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're going to talk specifically about the one's association with the gut triad.
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  SPEAKER_01: The gut triad is often characterized by its tendency to produce immediate gut level reactions to situations, and then they may integrate emotional and cognitive processes into their response.
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  SPEAKER_01: The lead emotional reaction of the gut triad often includes anger and frustration, which significantly influences their thoughts and actions.
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  SPEAKER_01: The core desire of the gut triad centers on a strong yearning for control, which sometimes might be labeled as a desire for justice or fairness, and this motivates their actions and decisions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Specifically, the type one aims to control by fixing or creating order in their environment, in their life, or in the people around them.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one's communication pattern falls within the dutiful stance in the Enneagram.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this specific stance or communication pattern is known to come alongside others.
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  SPEAKER_01: This means that they tend to be more attuned to what others need, want, or even expect of them.
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  SPEAKER_01: The positive intention of this communication pattern types are to work alongside the ideas or visions of others or even a group.
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  SPEAKER_01: This communication pattern type might get frustrated or overwhelmed by those who feel too pushy or who are non-responsive.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram one's communication pattern strength is being present focused.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they tend to think, what should be done right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: The what happens in the moment informs them of the right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: They tend to recognize what is unfolding and invites others to experience it with them.
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  SPEAKER_01: Have you ever seen those unique lines on the Enneagram diagram?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, all those lines diagonally connecting numbers, where those lines specifically denote stress and growth.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here's the specific details about the lines connected to the Enneagram one.
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  SPEAKER_01: When reacting under stress and with unawareness, the one goes to the low or average side of the four.
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  SPEAKER_01: They feel indignant that expectations are not achieved by themselves and others.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they may internalize and suppress their anger and even become depressed.
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  SPEAKER_01: When a one responds with purpose and intentionality, they're going to exhibit the high or healthy side of the type seven.
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  SPEAKER_01: They become less critical and more self-accepting, they become more enthusiastic and optimistic, they have more fun and are even more spontaneous.
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  SPEAKER_01: Some people experience this as the vacation one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Suddenly, the seven side of them suddenly blooms.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now remember, friend, your starting point doesn't have to be your step point.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when a one practices rhythms of consenting to stillness, it teaches restraint.
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  SPEAKER_01: And in restraint, they can better discern what the Lord is compelling them to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that opens the door to encountering Jesus, the true reformer.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their broken-hearted moments can be transformed into wholehearted healing as they declare these truth statements.
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  SPEAKER_01: May I be at ease, may I breathe deeply, and may I find freedom and rest.
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  SPEAKER_01: Rest meets the deepest needs of the one who is in the idealist triad.
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  SPEAKER_01: This personality tends to be continually agitated, never satisfied, and often upset with themselves for failing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Rest shakes the proverbial fist at Satan and declares their trust in God.
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  SPEAKER_01: As a type one rest and stillness, they can rediscover the simple pleasures of breathing.
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  SPEAKER_01: They can let themselves off the hook for not always giving everything perfectly or needing to fix things around them.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love that author A.J.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_01: Sherrill invites Enneagram ones to observe the church calendar rhythm of Good Friday, called Tenumbrae.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is a meaningful way to observe the crucifixion of Christ.
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  SPEAKER_01: Liturgical observances invites participants to snuff out their candles after the reading of the cross to remember the significance of Jesus' death.
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  SPEAKER_01: This can remind them that they do not have to carry their imperfections alone.
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  SPEAKER_01: Christ died for their sins too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now I am delighted for you to meet a wholehearted client who has been serving on active duty in the Air Force for 14 years.
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  SPEAKER_01: She is a lieutenant colonel, currently stationed at the Pentagon and serving in the position of Chief of the Medical Operations Center.
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  SPEAKER_01: And also, here's a very quick but important disclaimer before you hear from Claire herself.
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  SPEAKER_01: The views expressed are those of the author and do not reflect the official policy or position of the U.S.
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  SPEAKER_01: Air Force, Department of Defense, or the U.S.
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  SPEAKER_01: government.
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  SPEAKER_02: Hi, my name is Claire Reynolds.
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  SPEAKER_02: I currently live in Alexandria, Virginia, and here's my wholehearted journey.
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  SPEAKER_02: I first heard about the Ennegram when my sister Julia introduced me to it.
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  SPEAKER_02: She told me about a book she was reading on it, and when we were discussing it, some of the things she said intrigued me.
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  SPEAKER_02: So I started to do some research of my own.
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  SPEAKER_02: Reading books by the likes of Ian Morgan Cron, Suzanne Stabile, and Matthew Stephen Brown.
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  SPEAKER_02: As well as listening to several different podcasts on the Enneagram and following several different resources on Instagram.
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  SPEAKER_02: As soon as I read the description of the one, I knew that was me.
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  SPEAKER_02: My desire for perfection, to be seen as good and right, plus having a strong inner critic all resonated with me.
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  SPEAKER_02: I could see myself in that description.
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  SPEAKER_02: After I had typed myself, a few people mentioned that they thought I was an eight instead.
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  SPEAKER_02: But when I read that description, it did not resonate with me the same way.
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  SPEAKER_02: Eights can often be combative and confrontational just for the sake of wanting to challenge other people.
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  SPEAKER_02: And ones can look the same way.
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  SPEAKER_02: But ones will be confrontational only if they are convinced they are right, and then they will stand their ground and defend others because they believe it is the right thing to do.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_02: Even though I spent quite a bit of time studying Enneagram, I hadn't really heard about Enneagram coaching and hadn't even really thought about it being a possibility until I heard Amy on the Enneagram and Marriage podcast with Krista Harden, where they mentioned coaching.
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  SPEAKER_02: So I went over to Amy's page to figure out what it was all about, and I ultimately decided to start working with a coach because I enjoy learning and I try to be growth-oriented.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_02: So I thought this might be a good opportunity to try something different and learn something new.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_02: I began to have monthly sessions with Amy and found them to be both challenging and encouraging.
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  SPEAKER_02: Slowly, I began to see some changes in myself.
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  SPEAKER_02: A significant change I experienced was that I came to understand myself better, why I did some things the way I do.
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  SPEAKER_02: I definitely have a greater self-awareness overall.
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  SPEAKER_02: As a one, my perfectionism, or lack thereof, caused a lot of stress, and the inner critic was often ruthless, causing considerable anxiety in my life, especially in my work performance.
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  SPEAKER_02: My learning of the Enneagram continues today.
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  SPEAKER_02: I still read the occasional book on the Enneagram and listen to several podcasts, but I think one of the biggest things about the Ennegram and Enneagram coaching is that it really opened the door for me to be willing to start therapy and intensively work through my internal pain and mourning when I needed it most.
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  SPEAKER_02: Coaching helped prepare me to take that next important step in my journey.
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  SPEAKER_02: I needed to heal, but I couldn't do it on my own.
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  SPEAKER_02: God is absolutely a healer, and sometimes he chooses to use his people to participate in that healing.
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  SPEAKER_02: You cannot truly appreciate and enjoy the glorious mountaintop until you have crawled through the dark, dark valley.
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  SPEAKER_02: The Enneagram has certainly assisted me along my journey, and I am thankful to have had this experience.
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  SPEAKER_02: It truly has made a difference for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I am so grateful for Claire's story.
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  SPEAKER_01: I hope you are inspired as I am.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm truly honored that I have gotten to be a guide by the side in her life.
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  SPEAKER_01: Remember, we are all broken.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_01: We are all blowing it.
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  SPEAKER_01: The brave one does something about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now Deanna Sudom will share her prayer and blessing for the Enneagram one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Type one friend, you are good.
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  SPEAKER_00: You reflect the goodness of God to this world.
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  SPEAKER_00: How you try and make this world better, striving to always improve what is before you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have heard it said like this that ones have seen the Garden of Eden and they spend their days trying to achieve that perfection again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for the order and solutions that you do bring.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for your heart for justice and fairness in a world that needs this desperately.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: Second Corinthians ten three to five brings you direction as you desire for good and right that can help to give grace over the gray spaces you don't particularly love when the messy middle presents.
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  SPEAKER_00: It says, For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does.
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  SPEAKER_00: The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.
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  SPEAKER_00: We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
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  SPEAKER_00: Father, I sense you want to remind these precious ones that they reflect your goodness because of what you have done in them, and that they do not have to create good on their own.
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  SPEAKER_00: As they rest in your goodness, the reflection will come as they are still and know that you are God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Help them see that you carry them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you that you do this, Father, imperfections and all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lord, I pray that you will gently uproot any bitterness or resentment that has taken up residence in their hearts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Help them to remember, as you say in Nehemiah, you are a forgiving God, gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Show them how to rest and practice these parts of your character.
• 14:01
  SPEAKER_00: In the instance of any inner critic spilling over, can you help to put a restraining order on their tongue, Father, and not let any unwholesome talk come out of their mouths, but only what is helpful and builds others up?
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for the way they live with integrity and tenacity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Will you bring balance and build in the fun, Lord?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you bring them release and deep breaths by having some fun to laugh and just be silly?
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  SPEAKER_00: To know that you have them and the world in your hands and it will all be okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Jesus' name.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_01: Now, as we wrap up our discussion on the Enneagram One, I hope the insights and practices discussed will inspire you to embrace imperfection and find grace in the balance of life.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_01: Remember, perfection is not the goal, growth is.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_01: Join me again for more empowering episodes this summer.