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Narcissists Aren't Afraid of You, They're Afraid of THIS · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What's going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're talking about narcissists.
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  And are they afraid of you seeking revenge on them?
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  Or do narcissists fear you get in that eye for an eye?
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  Do they fear retaliation like you retaliated on them and
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  getting it, giving them their get back, getting your get back?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  The Narcissist Code. Let's get it.
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  Boom. Welcome back, folks.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Yes, y'all narcissist. Yeah, you, you see a lot of
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  videos about how narcissist will seek revenge on you and how long
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  they'll come after you and things like that, right?
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  Today's going to be a little different.
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  We're talking about the narcissist fear What what we are
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  afraid of, what we're scared of. And one of the main things I can
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  do a totally different video, a longer video on the fears of
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  narcissist and toxic people, right?
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  But one of the main things that narcissist are afraid of, and
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  this is just me hitting you. I'm gonna hit you with this
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  flame. If I'm gonna hit you with this
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  flame real quick is you seeking revenge.
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  I got this beautiful question, beautiful question on TikTok
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  yesterday and I'm on Instagram. I was like, I got to do a longer
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  video on that. I love when y'all see me.
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  I love when I get new questions y'all and then people on my
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  discord and my my support groups and stuff like that ask a lot of
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  good questions as well. Mental illness.net or you just
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  join the channel memberships over here on YouTube and like
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  get some access behind the scenes stuff.
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  But yes, y'all. She asked a question.
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  She said, do narcissists ever ever worry about revenge?
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  I was like, interesting. I saw this, all the beard I got
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  right here, y'all, at 39 years old, I started playing on my
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  beard. I was like, interesting.
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  Yes, Hell yes. Absolutely.
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  Yes. Positively yes, they are.
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  Yeah. We Darcy's afraid of a lot of
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  things. I don't.
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  I can understand why people get it into their head like
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  narcissistic people are these just powerful almighty creatures
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  that you should be afraid of Hell, now you should protect
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  yourself, you know, but being afraid.
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  But I'll say this right here, narcissist, the people do fear
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  you getting your leg back, do fear you retaliate, retaliated
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  on them. This is why like, let's just say
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  this is an easy example right here.
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  This is the easy example I can think of.
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  Let's just say the narcissist cheats on you, right?
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  They cheat on you and then somehow, some way, shape or
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  form, you forgive them, they make excuses, they cry, they
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  threaten to harm themselves, whatever it is, you might just
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  have some kindness in your heart and your y'all got kids.
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  So you want to give it another chance, right?
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  There's so many moving pieces. There's so many different
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  options as to why. So in order to do that right, in
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  order to try to protect yourself, in order to try to
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  move forward with it, you get into your mind.
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  You just like now, so you take them back.
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  The narcissist. This is like damn, I don't trust
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  you. They don't yo, it's crazy.
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  They don't trust you after they cheat on you.
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  So they are thinking that you are going to get them back.
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  That's a fear. That's a revenge, isn't it?
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  You cheating back. That's a revenge.
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  So now if the crazy thing is, let's say you went through the
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  narcissist phone, right, and you caught them cheating.
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  Now they're going to be going through your fault.
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  They're going to be trying to antagonize you.
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  They're going to be searching, hunting you down.
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  They're going to be doing a lot of different things in order to
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  to try to get back into your life and whatnot.
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  I mean, in order to try to protect themselves because
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  they're afraid. They're afraid that you're going
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  to get revenge on them. They're afraid that you're going
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  to match their energy. They're afraid.
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  They're afraid. They're afraid now.
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  They're now you can't go out now you got it.
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  Now they're tracking your location.
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  Now they're worried about where you going at night.
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  Why you coming home 20 minutes later than what you're supposed
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  to come home, while you're going to the gym, while you're
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  dressing nicer, while you're smelling good, while the cheeks
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  are clapping differently, right? Yes, that's a fear.
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  They're afraid of you doing exact same thing that they did.
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  They're afraid that you're going to match their energy.
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  That's a fear that they don't want you to get revenge.
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  That's absolutely, absolutely true.
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  That was a beautiful question. I was like, whoa, come get me.
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  I was like, damn, that's a good question.
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  Because that's a fear. Yes, they absolutely do have
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  this fear that you of you getting them back, of you
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  matching their energy and whatnot.
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  And I tell people, you know, they might not seem like it
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  because some of them might not be outwardly afraid, right?
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  They might not show you, they might not outwardly show you
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  that they're afraid. They might not outwardly show
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  you that they have this fear going on, right?
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  They might not outwardly do that, but hell yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Yes, they are afraid. Yes.
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  They don't want. Yes, yes, they might be cool,
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  calm and collected, but behind the scenes, behind.
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  But I say when I say behind the scenes, I mean behind the
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  facade, behind the mask, behind the face.
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  They're afraid of as hell of you getting back into their lives
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  and trying to ruin it, ruin their stuff.
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  You see what I'm saying? This is what they do.
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  This is this is what they do. So they might not outwardly
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  become paranoid. They might not outwardly start
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  saying and doing a kind of a lot of crazy stuff, but they can
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  absolutely do it behind the scenes.
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  When you go to sleep, they'll check your phone, they'll check
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  your location, right? They'll check and see what you
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  are, where you're making sure you are, where you are.
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  They'll ask who's your friends, who you talking to at work.
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  They'll be afraid of you matching their energy.
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  So yes, I know cheating is just one example, but if they stole
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  them from you before, if they've lied to you before, if you
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  caught them lying about something, if it's there's
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  something about money now, they're afraid that you're going
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  to do the same thing to them, Right.
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  Or they're afraid that you're going to leave them.
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  Like, it's not always you cheating back.
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  Sometimes they're afraid that you're going to leave them.
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  You know, that's a, that's a, that's a revenge that anybody
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  could take right there, right? That's revenge.
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  No matter what they do. If you can seek vengeance by
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  leaving, leaving is your revenge.
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  So they're afraid of you leaving.
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  Yeah, they absolutely are. So it's not always that you want
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  to cheat back. Sometimes they think you're just
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  going to leave. They think that you're going to
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  have one foot in the door and one foot out the door.
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  Like you never trust them again. So they can't trust you.
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  They can't trust you. So the relationship goes
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  sideways. It goes sour, doesn't it?
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  You know? So a lot of times you have to
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  get into these spaces where you're dealing with this abusive
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  person, this manipulative person, this toxic ass person,
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  and just understand this is who they are, right?
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  At the end of the day, this is who they're going to be.
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  This is absolutely who they're absolutely who they're going to
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  be like. This is how the mind of a
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  narcissist works, right? So they're afraid that you're
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  going to get your get back. You know, 'cause like again,
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  y'all, I said this in the shorter video, which I'm going
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  to probably link the shorter video to this longer video that
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  I'm posting today. I said the shorter video.
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  The reason why some narcissist start smear campaigns, it's
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  because they're worried about you exposing them.
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  Oh, they're worried about you telling what they've done.
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  They, they're worried about you telling the world what they have
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  done to you, what they've put you through.
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  They're worried about you doing that right.
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  They're so worried about that they have it into their minds
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  that they, they, they have it directly into their minds that
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  they're extremely worried about how things are going to go and
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  how you're treating them and how you're behaving.
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  All this, you know, goobly, gobbly gook.
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  What do you call it? They're afraid so they start
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  lying about you. They'll start a smear campaign
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  on you after they've done something bad to you because
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  they're afraid of you exposing them.
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  They're afraid of you telling them the truth about them.
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  They're afraid of you. You something like they're
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  afraid of you seeking revenge and getting your get back.
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  They're afraid they're they're scared as hell.
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  Yes, yes they are. You know, a lot of people I'm
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  going to do, I said I'm going to do a longer video about a
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  narcissist fears. But a lot of narcissists
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  absolutely just fear you getting back and retaliating against
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  them. That's a real fear.
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  They are afraid of afraid as hell of you come back and just
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  be you. You come back into their life
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  and just blowing it up. They are scared as hell of you
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  coming back and just like boom, you said you setting it off.
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  They don't want that. They don't want you to set it
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  off. They want you to set it on.
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  You know what I'm saying? But this is the mentality.
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  They, I'm just telling you, it is crazy.
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  When I and when I got that question, I had to start
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  thinking deep. I was like, hell yes, watch them
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  do something wrong to you. Maybe you forgive them, maybe
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  you don't. Maybe they're begging for
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  forgiveness, but watch their behaviors change.
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  And I said when I said watch their behaviors change, behavior
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  changes doesn't always mean that they're going to act or acting
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  nice, right? They could start treating you
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  bad. They could start treating you
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  worse when if you have some evidence or you're going to
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  expose them or you can get revenge in there.
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  Some of them. It doesn't always guarantee
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  they're going to try to treat you good.
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  I would, I would just suffice it to say I don't think anybody who
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  listened to this thinks the smear campaign is a good thing
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  that happens to you, right. I don't think people think the
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  smear campaign, well, you could find a silver lining in it.
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  If the smear campaign to the wrong person and that person you
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  know, ends up being a liar or whatever the case may be, right,
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  that person ends up not not necessarily being a liar.
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  That person ends up being on your side or being a friend of
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  yours, being a, a ear that you, you know, an ear that you can
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  lean on us, whatever like that ends up being your friend and
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  they get exposed for it. This man can make it work out
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  good for you in that space 'cause you can know it, but most
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  times this man can make it's going to be bad, right?
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  It's going to be horrible. So as you are healing, as you're
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  growing, just understand that you have a lot of power.
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  They're afraid of you getting revenge, right?
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  This is why sometimes they'll tell you straight up, y'all,
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  you're too nice to do that, right?
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  You're not going. You wouldn't do me like that.
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  You're not like me. You're better than me.
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  You wouldn't do me like I did you.
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  That sounds crazy, doesn't it? Yo, how asinine does it sound to
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  say you wouldn't do me like I did you, right?
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  They would say that you wouldn't.
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  Do you not like me? You better than me.
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  You're so nice, you're so kind, you're so sweet.
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  They'll try to, you know, bombard you with compliments and
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  things like that to make you feel better about the situations
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  and whatnot, right? They'll continuously do that.
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  So it's up to you. I would say you, you, you, you
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  there's to understand that how the mind of a narcissist or a
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  toxic person works because they're going to keep doing this
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  type of stuff over and over again.
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  Y'all, they just will, you know, they're afraid y'all, y'all you
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  have you, they're afraid. I say this to empower y'all not
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  to just let y'all get hype and just like Lisa, they're afraid.
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  I'm go over here and just start doing crazy.
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  I'm not saying to this. I'm not saying this type of
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  stuff to get you to go so acting a monkey.
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  I'm saying this type of stuff to get you to go out there and just
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  like find your peace and just understand that you have more
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  power that you think that you think you do.
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  They want to convince you that you don't have a lot of power
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  because that benefits them. You thinking that you don't have
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  power benefits them. And like I said, and there a lot
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  of times they will try to convince you that they are not
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  afraid of anything that they don't feel like they've done
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  anything wrong. What do I need to be afraid if I
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  haven't done anything wrong to you?
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  I've only been nice to you. I've only been kind to you.
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  Why, why, why would I be afraid of you getting revenge on me?
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  Why would I be afraid of you coming back and trying to get
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  me? Why would I be afraid of that?
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  Why would I, why would I be scared of that?
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  You see what I'm saying? They'll try to convince you
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  otherwise. Y'all, they'll try to convince
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  you otherwise. So I say that to say this y'all
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  empower yourself. I'm not saying to go here.
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  Yeah, I'm not saying go out here and seek revenge.
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  Look, I'm also not like, let me here's a rant bubble.
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  I was waiting for the I kept feeling it popping up.
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  I kept feeling it coming up, but here it is right now.
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  You don't have to be a pushover, right?
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  I'm not saying that you have to go out here and just try to fuck
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  stuff up. I'm saying you don't have to be
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  a pushover. You don't always have to be
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  passive and do this and do that. You can stand up for yourself
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  because at the end of the day, they don't get to keep getting
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  away with treating you badly and saying whatever they want to say
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  and doing whatever they want to do.
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  Fuck them, right? Hell no, no.
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  So sometimes that revenge that they're afraid of, do the shit,
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  right? Of course use discretion because
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  some sometimes they'll try to hurt you and harm you right, but
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  sometimes they will absolutely try to wreck your life and they
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  just expect you to lay there and take it sit there and take it.
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  Don't react, don't respond. No, controlling your reactions
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  is different than just taking it, taking it laying down and
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  taking everything being being a pushover, being passive.
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  They expect you to be passive. They expect you to be a
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  pushover. Hell no, that's not we.
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  That's not what we about to do. We're not finna be a pushover.
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  We're not fin to we're not fin to be a pushover over here,
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  y'all. We're not going to let them come
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  into our lives, come into our spaces and disrupt our peace
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  without fighting back, you know? So if they're acting weird after
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  they've do something horrible to you and you forgiving them,
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  understand that you do have the power.
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  They're afraid of you telling your mom or your dad or your
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  brothers or your sisters or their family or the friends or
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  sharing it on social media for them to go viral looking stupid
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  as hell, right? They're afraid.
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  They're afraid of you exposing them.
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  Don't let them convince you otherwise.
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  They might try to make it seem like they don't care.
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  Post it. I don't give a damn.
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  Post it. Tell your Mama.
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  Tell your daddy what your daddy going to do?
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  I beat your daddy ass. What your daddy going to do to
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  me, huh? Your daddy a whore.
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  You get your Mama whore. I beat your brother ass too.
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  But send him over here. Send him over.
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  I beat your brother ass too. Watch.
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  Send him all over here. See him over here.
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  See how crazy that sounds? Right.
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  They are. Anyway, y'all, I appreciate
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  that. Tune into another episode.
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  minutes too long, right? Unless I'm doing a live video.
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  So between 11, I'm gonna do a post.
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