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Monday Mini: SMNTY Picks Up a Hobby · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha.
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  Speaker 2: I'm welcome to stuff. I never told your prediction.
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  Speaker 3: iHeartRadio, so I don't know if I'm the only one
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  Speaker 3: who did this. But after the results of the elections
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  Speaker 3: of twenty twenty four, putting a timestamp's November twenty twenty
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  Speaker 3: four for y' all to know, and we are well
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  Speaker 3: past the election results and we are.
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  Speaker 1: Not okay.
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  Speaker 3: But with all of that, after getting past the initial
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  Speaker 3: sad slash for me sleepy morning stage, I started digging
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  Speaker 3: into like a type of survival mode, which include for me, breadmaking. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I bought a breadmaker. By the way, I have made
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  Speaker 3: four different loads of bread you successfully. They've been edible, yes, inedible. Hey,
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  Speaker 3: that's success. That's success for me. Okay, Gardening, or at
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  Speaker 3: least plotting to do a garden. I am now invested
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  Speaker 3: into looking and actually participating in gardening, which is a
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  Speaker 3: weird place for me because I've never cared, not cared.
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  Speaker 3: But I just don't feel like I'll be successful because
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  Speaker 3: all my plants die. But at this point, I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna try. Let's at least, you know, plant the potato.
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  Speaker 3: Apparently that's all year long in Georgia. So we're gonna
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  Speaker 3: go completely Irish Scottish and just do potatoes to survive
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  Speaker 3: on those, and then also really digging into my newest
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  Speaker 3: dangerous hobby of a punch needling.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks TikTok Like.
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  Speaker 3: I saw them doing it and I was like, oh, wait,
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  Speaker 3: I get to stab things.
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  Speaker 1: I can do that. I think I can do that.
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  Speaker 3: And for the record, yes, I have already stabbed myself
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  Speaker 3: over fifty times. Yeah, but I've only bled a couple
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  Speaker 3: of times, so a win is a win. Yes, I've
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  Speaker 3: punctured my skin about three times, but out of fifty
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  Speaker 3: that's not bad.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's pretty good.
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  Speaker 3: I A.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: My partner was like, I think we need to send
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  Speaker 3: the tyser needles fair enough.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, fair probably.
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  Speaker 3: There's a lot of sharp things, but I've really gotten
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  Speaker 3: into them. I needed something to double task. I guess
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  Speaker 3: our multitask as I was doom scrolling and planning my
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  Speaker 3: exit plan just in case I am deported, which has
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  Speaker 3: become a real fear by the way that I am
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  Speaker 3: trying to plan for just in case if any of
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  Speaker 3: our listeners are like immigration you know, lawyers, and want
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  Speaker 3: to call me about my naturalization that I've had for
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  Speaker 3: over thirty years. But you know, as a feminist, maybe
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  Speaker 3: in danger, especially as an Asian person because apparently Chinese
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  Speaker 3: people are the first one, and we know how well
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  Speaker 3: white people do in differentiating. But anyway, so it just
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  Speaker 3: seemed like a good time to pick up a new hobby.
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  Speaker 1: Again. By the way, I have a.
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  Speaker 3: Lot of coasters that resemble resemble either a scenic view
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  Speaker 3: or mushrooms.
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  Speaker 1: I'm still in the learning process.
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  Speaker 2: Any you've come a long way. You've sent me pictures.
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  Speaker 3: I've sent pictures. Well, so funny is the way that
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  Speaker 3: it works. One side looks better than the other side,
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  Speaker 3: But the one side that looks better is not the
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  Speaker 3: side you're supposed to display. Yeah, if you are a punchnateler,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I'm talking about, because the way it loves.
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  Speaker 3: But you can do all these different types of designs.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm figuring that out, y'all. I'm figuring this out.
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  Speaker 3: I'm doing I've got a lot of coasters, unnecessarily because
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  Speaker 3: we don't have that much surface space. But hey, my
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  Speaker 3: partner has like got fifteen of them on his small desk.
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  Speaker 2: Now we're very prolific.
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  Speaker 3: You'll be getting some missions and you'll be getting some
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  Speaker 3: as well. And Katie too, our friend who comes over
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  Speaker 3: and the dog says, I'm like, you have to take
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  Speaker 3: some coasters so they don't look great, but.
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  Speaker 1: Just take them home anyway.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, a lot of us, I think, are in need
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  Speaker 3: of some type of stress relief that comes from finding hobbies.
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  Speaker 3: And of course we have some studies that back us
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  Speaker 3: in this conversation. So here's some information from connect health
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  Speaker 3: dot org about it. It actually reduces stress and here's
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  Speaker 3: a quote. Hobbies are a perfect way to distract yourself
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  Speaker 3: after a busy day. It provides you with the opportunity
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  Speaker 3: to have some me time and gives you an outlet
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  Speaker 3: for releasing stress built up from the day and is
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  Speaker 3: a recent survey on stress and well being conducted by
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  Speaker 3: the Australian Psychological Society four and five participants found activities
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  Speaker 3: like listening to music and spending time on a hobby
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  Speaker 3: was an effective way of managing stress. So take time
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  Speaker 3: out of your busy day to start painting or go
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  Speaker 3: outside and take some photos.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to.
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  Speaker 3: This is a suggestions and from WebMD dot com. Keeping
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  Speaker 3: yourself engaged during your leisure time lowers or stress levels.
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  Speaker 3: Research found that adults who take out time to practice
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  Speaker 3: art found the time they spent to be relaxing, enjoyable,
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  Speaker 3: and helpful. They also shared that the sessions led to
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  Speaker 3: an increased desire to continue improving their skills. More importantly,
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  Speaker 3: the cortisol levels of the participants who took part in
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  Speaker 3: this study was measured before and after these sessions. The
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  Speaker 3: study found that there was a noticeable decrease in cortisol
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  Speaker 3: levels after the sessions. Cortisol is the human stress hormone,
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  Speaker 3: and your body's stress level is linked to a spike
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  Speaker 3: in cortisol levels. So hey, there's proof.
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  Speaker 1: Do your activities.
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  Speaker 3: It improves your mental health. Also so again from connectealth
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  Speaker 3: dot org. Engaging in creative activities such as songwriting, knitting,
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  Speaker 3: visual art, and musical performance have all been shown to
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  Speaker 3: increase positive moods. Particularly, engaging in such activities has resulted
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  Speaker 3: in an upward spiral of increased well being in many
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  Speaker 3: young adults. Young adults y'all hear me. Students found that
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  Speaker 3: more time spent towards creative activities produce more positive emotions. Additionally,
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  Speaker 3: the active activities allow you to expand neural connections in
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  Speaker 3: your brain. This has been linked to the release of
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  Speaker 3: feel good hormones such as dopamine. Spending as little as
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  Speaker 3: two hours per week on a task you enjoy, such
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  Speaker 3: as music or photography, can help you lead a more
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  Speaker 3: positive life. And again back to the WebMD article, having
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  Speaker 3: a hobby leads to improved mental health. If your hobby
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  Speaker 3: involves physical activity, it'll lead to reduced stress and a
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  Speaker 3: lower blood pressure and heart rate. A study that measured
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  Speaker 3: both positive and negative psychological stress found that those who
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  Speaker 3: took time frequently to do leisure activities that they enjoyed
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  Speaker 3: had lower blood pressure, waste circumference, and BMI. Taking your
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  Speaker 3: physical activity outdoors are better. Still, closer to nature has
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  Speaker 3: many benefits, such as improved mood and better focus. You
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  Speaker 3: can achieve this by spending just ten minutes outdoors. Another
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  Speaker 3: study found that those who took part in physical activities
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  Speaker 3: went through fewer days of poor mental health compared to
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  Speaker 3: those who did not exercise. Meanwhile, challenging your brain by
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  Speaker 3: taking up intellectually rewarding activities not only helps improve your
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  Speaker 3: brain activity, but also increases your confidence. Learning new skills
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  Speaker 3: such as wodcrafting or quilting, also helps you contribute to
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  Speaker 3: people's lives by sharing your expertise with others. So so
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  Speaker 3: many great things. I did look at quilting. I wondered
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  Speaker 3: if I could do that, but that just felt like
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  Speaker 3: too much investing.
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  Speaker 4: I have a friend who you know, it's Katie but
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  Speaker 4: not the other Katie that we're talking about, who quilts,
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  Speaker 4: and she's shown me like designs and then told me
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  Speaker 4: how long it's going to take her to do it,
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  Speaker 4: and I'm like wow.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, yeah, it's intense.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but she's given me. She made me a scarf
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  Speaker 2: which was not quilting, and I love it. So it
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  Speaker 2: is true.
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  Speaker 4: It's a nice thing when your friend gets a hobby,
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  Speaker 4: if you get a little I love your coasters.
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna say it could be a nice thing
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  Speaker 1: if they're good at it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but I feel like, if you're really good friends
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  Speaker 4: with someone and you already know I'm really sentimental, I'll
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  Speaker 4: just be like so even if it's you just being like,
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  Speaker 4: please take this.
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  Speaker 1: Do you have mushrooms now for a coaster? It's not
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  Speaker 1: very steady, don't use it.
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  Speaker 2: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I love it.
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  Speaker 4: If it's not functional, that's even better, pseudo functional.
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  Speaker 1: I've been testing it out with all these good things
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  Speaker 1: and why we need these things.
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  Speaker 3: There's also that small caveat it seems women are less
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  Speaker 3: likely to have as many hobbies as men. In fact,
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  Speaker 3: some even argue some men that women shouldn't have hobbies.
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  Speaker 3: I guess women too, because you know people, women sometimes
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  Speaker 3: just fall into that, yeah, we need to be taken
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  Speaker 3: care of our husbands not having hobbies type of conversation.
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  Speaker 3: And I say that very pointedly at a specific group
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  Speaker 3: of women.
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  Speaker 1: And spoiler alert, is.
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  Speaker 3: Also because women don't have as much free time. Here's
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  Speaker 3: a bit from article written in Fashion journal dot com
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  Speaker 3: dot au by Mattie McCown. She says, according to the
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  Speaker 3: ABS's latest time You survey, we girly pops don't get
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  Speaker 3: afforded the same amount of luxurious leisure time. We're spending
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  Speaker 3: an extra hour per day on unpaid domestic work than
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  Speaker 3: our mail counterparts, and it takes an unfair piece of
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  Speaker 3: our free timepie. So as the pink tax stabs us
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  Speaker 3: in the back yet again and bites into our free time,
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  Speaker 3: the pastime divide starts to make itself clear. So here's
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  Speaker 3: some more information from a twenty seventeen article from Telegraph
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  Speaker 3: dot co dot UK, so the Telegraph, women spend less
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  Speaker 3: time on hobbies because their hours are taken up by
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  Speaker 3: housework and childcare. Analysis of ONS's data suggests the first
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  Speaker 3: ever analysis of leisure time carried out by the Office
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  Speaker 3: for National Statistics, has found that men spend around half
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  Speaker 3: an hour every week more than women enjoying themselves, and
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  Speaker 3: the gap is even larger when it comes to hobbies.
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  Speaker 3: Men spend an average of four hours and thirty nine
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  Speaker 3: minutes every week on hobby computing and games, while women
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  Speaker 3: spend just two hours and thirty eight minutes on the
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  Speaker 3: same activities. Overall, men spent six hours and nine minutes
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  Speaker 3: per day on leisure pursuits compared to five hours and
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  Speaker 3: twenty nine minutes spent by women. But of course there
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  Speaker 3: are those who are saying women don't have hobbies or
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  Speaker 3: their hobbies aren't hobbies, which is odd in general. So
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  Speaker 3: again from that fashion journal dot com. The topic for
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  Speaker 3: discussion as we entered part two of this gender hobby
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  Speaker 3: dissection is drum roll please value. As the writer mentioned,
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  Speaker 3: there are few fun activities she considers to be her hobbies,
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  Speaker 3: but their merit has often been questioned. Did she talks
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  Speaker 3: about some of the things that she does, but it's
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  Speaker 3: the activities that tend to be met with that's not
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  Speaker 3: a hobby from the men in her life. As female
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  Speaker 3: hobbies are devalued, the consequence is women and girls are
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  Speaker 3: less likely to talk about them. But you know, let's
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  Speaker 3: keep it optimistic, she says, Just because our hobbies can
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  Speaker 3: be criticized and dismissed, it's not like we don't have them.
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  Speaker 1: It's true.
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  Speaker 3: In another article from the Virago charity, Turcula writes about
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  Speaker 3: the fact that not only do women not have quote
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  Speaker 3: real hobbies, but if they do, they're ruining it. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: here's being sarcastic, so like many others. My eyes at
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  Speaker 3: first opened with a clip from the Good Grow, Bad
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  Speaker 3: Bro podcast, which went viral in twenty twenty two. I
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  Speaker 3: can remember the exact moment I heard him utter the words,
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  Speaker 3: how many girls do you know who actually have hobbies?
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  Speaker 3: A horrified gasp escaped my mouth. My crochet hook plummeted
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  Speaker 3: to the floor. Dread washed over me. It was true.
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  Speaker 3: I'd never had a hobby. However, the sentiment is neither
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  Speaker 3: new nor novel. Whistleblowers have been trying to get through
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  Speaker 3: to the masses for years, but no one was ready
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  Speaker 3: to listen, no one was ready to learn that the
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  Speaker 3: female race is void of any personal interests, at least
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  Speaker 3: a substance, And she continues, unlike women, men actually have
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  Speaker 3: real hobbies. These superior pastimes include watching movies, buying smartphones,
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  Speaker 3: and looking at cars. I have never ever seen a car.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe that's why I keep getting into accidents. But this
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  Speaker 3: can't really be true, can't it? Because it is in
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  Speaker 3: fact well documented that women like to charge their phone, twork,
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  Speaker 3: be bisexual, eat hot chips, and lie. So why can't
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  Speaker 3: my girl math make sense of this equation?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 3: So obviously all of these are very sarcastic in nature
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  Speaker 3: and talking about the fact that men just don't believe
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  Speaker 3: women have hobbies. And to be fair, I fell into
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  Speaker 3: that my own self because I'm like, I need to
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  Speaker 3: find a hobby because I don't do enough stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I just sit here.
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  Speaker 4: Oh we talked about this too, because I also have
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  Speaker 4: a strangeness around saying I have a hobby. But it's
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  Speaker 4: less that they don't feel like hobbies to be and
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  Speaker 4: it is it is this though, because to me, like
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  Speaker 4: when I think of hobby, I think of like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: you made like a lego like.
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  Speaker 2: You do legos.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know, Like I just have a very specific
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  Speaker 4: thing that comes to my head. I would put like
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  Speaker 4: crocheting and stuff in there, absolutely right, But the stuff
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  Speaker 4: I do should also be in there too, So I
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  Speaker 4: think there really there is a strangeness around what we're
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  Speaker 4: allowing to be a hobby.
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  Speaker 3: Right, yeah, right, And that's such a hilarious conversation. But again,
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  Speaker 3: so the same author addresses the fact that when women
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  Speaker 3: start to become interested in quote unquote real hobbies, they
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  Speaker 3: aren't doing it right or they're just plane ruining it,
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  Speaker 3: including the sacred of all sacred hobbies gaming. When we've
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  Speaker 3: talked about this, so she writes, not many people know this,
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  Speaker 3: but the problem in Genesis was it that Eve took
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  Speaker 3: an apple from the tree of knowledge. It's the fact
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  Speaker 3: that she had the audacity to turn the MacBook on,
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  Speaker 3: download Tetris and crush Adam every time he reached a
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  Speaker 3: new high score. For this. For this, women receive the
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  Speaker 3: curse of painful childbirth and the duty of homemaking so
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  Speaker 3: that they would be too busy to even think about
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  Speaker 3: video games. Men, on the other hand, would have to
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  Speaker 3: compensate for Adam's embarrassment with manual labor to prove their
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  Speaker 3: masculinity and motivate them to get good once they return
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  Speaker 3: to the man cave. But this vital lesson has long
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  Speaker 3: been forgotten and modern gaming has been flooded with women
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  Speaker 3: once again. Yeah, she's talking about the fact that women
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  Speaker 3: ruin gaming. Yes, we've talked about this many times. Of
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  Speaker 3: course you already know our opinion in that specific manner.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's hilarious that this is that conversation. Either
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  Speaker 3: that women's hobbies are not real hobbies, but once they
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  Speaker 3: do things that men are interested in, they're bad at it,
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  Speaker 3: or they're ruining it, or they're making.
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  Speaker 1: Sure they don't really know about it. Yeah, they don't
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  Speaker 1: really know about this. They're faking it.
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  Speaker 2: Especially if you're good.
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  Speaker 4: Right, they're all fine to be like, Oh, she knows
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  Speaker 4: how to play Halo, and then you kick it Halo.
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  Speaker 2: Suddenly she is the worst person. She needs to I
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  Speaker 2: never want to see her again.
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  Speaker 3: Catchman games much my gig and they throw the games
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  Speaker 3: against the wall, they break their TV, right, yeah right, Oh,
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  Speaker 3: you gotta love it, you know. With all of that,
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  Speaker 3: let us know about your hobbies. How are you distressing,
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  Speaker 3: taking breaks or multitasking while trying to figure out how
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  Speaker 3: to survive in this moment. How has it helped you?
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  Speaker 3: Do you have suggestions for us? And of course do
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  Speaker 3: you have advice on how to stop injuring myself with
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  Speaker 3: my new hobbies? Also, any good recipes for my breadmaker
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  Speaker 3: because I need that too.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and again I will happily take the bridge of
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  Speaker 2: your new of your hobby. Yes, listeners, we would love
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  Speaker 2: to hear from you about this.
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