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When God Feels Distant After Relationship Disappointment | Can I Trust God Again? · Kingdom Spouse Disappointment | Healing, Heartbreak, God Revealed Relationship, The One,

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Have you ever wanted to pray, but you didn't really know what to say because,
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I guess, every word or every sentence felt dishonest?
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You didn't want to lie to God or pretend and say, oh, my soul will rejoice and everything is okay.
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But at the same time, you didn't really want to tell him what you were really thinking.
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Because you might be wondering, what if those thoughts are wrong?
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What if they're disrespectful?
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What if God became angry?
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Today, we're talking about something Christians don't discuss enough.
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What happens when God doesn't feel safe anymore?
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Or you feel a bit apprehensive when it comes to the Lord?
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What happens then?
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Have you ever believed God showed you your future spouse only for the relationship
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to end or never even begin?
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You are not alone. Welcome to Kingdom Spouse Disappointment,
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a space for honest conversations about Christian dating, heartbreak, and healing.
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If you've ever said, I thought God told me they were the one, this podcast is for you.
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Here, we process the pain, rebuild the trust in God, and rediscover hope,
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one honest conversation at a time.
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Hey guys, welcome back to Kingdom Spouse Disappointment.
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I am your host, Lori. Welcome, welcome, welcome.
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So if it is your first time tuning in, I just want to extend my appreciation to you.
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Welcome to our first time listeners and welcome to our recurring listeners.
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Now, today we are talking a bit about when God feels distant or, I guess, unsafe.
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And there is a bit of apprehension you feel towards him or something of the sort, right?
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You believed he revealed to you that a relationship with someone was the one or God ordained.
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But things shattered.
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Things didn't work out as planned and the relationship either ended or didn't even begin.
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And now things just feel different with god no trust might be a bit shaky things
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might feel a bit distant, a bit unsafe, and there's just,
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this sense of apprehension, right?
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This sense of apprehension when it comes on to prayer, this sense of apprehension,
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when it comes on to trust or just this sense of apprehension towards God himself.
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And the truth is that sometimes after disappointment, our hearts develop some
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form of defense mechanism and our hearts begin to try to protect themselves.
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Not because God has changed, but.
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Because of how the pain impacts how we experience him, because of how that situation
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impacted how we experienced Him.
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So this feeling of distance, of unsafety or apprehension might look like I'm afraid to hope.
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I'm afraid to pray.
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I'm afraid to believe. I'm afraid that God will disappoint me again.
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Or even I am afraid to surrender because surrender hurt the last time.
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And that, my dear friend, is what the Bible describes as lament.
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Now, in the Bible, lamenting is technically an expression of deep grief or sorrow,
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or some form of complaint addressed to God, right?
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And it's usually when you're coming to God with your distress,
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with your cares, with your fears, with your pain, and just being honest about it.
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And, you know, there are actually a lot of persons in the Bible who lamented.
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So don't feel like you're committing a sin or being a bad Christian for grieving
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and lamenting this experience.
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God doesn't want to pretend you. He wants the real you who will say,
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God, right now things feel distant or unsafe with you.
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I don't even want to pray. Help me.
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Did you know that the Bible has a lot of lament by persons we would consider
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heroes or prophets of the Bible?
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There is David who laments, Jeremiah who lamented,
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job habakkuk and hannah you know who lamented,
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and even jesus or savior or lord and savior the lamb of god the savior of the
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world who we put our trust in even jesus the son of god,
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he cries out in lament and anguish on the cross saying my God my God why have you forsaken me,
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so scripture does make room for your feeling of anguish God does make room he allows,
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you to lament for you to express those feelings of anguish, those feelings of honesty.
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Like look at Psalm 39.
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So Psalm 39, verse 12 to 13, and this is the Good News Translation.
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It says, Hear my prayer, Lord, and listen to my cry. Come to my aid when I weep.
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Like all my ancestors, I am only your guest for a little while.
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Leave me alone so that I may have some happiness before I go away and I am no more.
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That's verse 13 leave me alone the niv version of verse 13 says look away from
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me that i may enjoy life again before i depart and i'm no more,
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and it's almost like,
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the psalmist is saying god i'm crying out to you right now i just feel like
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i'm just your guest for a little while i i feel like I don't belong here.
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I just feel like I'm just here for a moment and I'm not sure what to do.
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As a matter of fact, just leave me alone so that maybe I'll just have peace
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and happiness elsewhere. I don't know. I might not be here forever.
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So that's just me paraphrasing, right? This emphasis added, right? My own words.
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But talk about being honest. Leave me alone.
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Ouch i don't know i don't know but.
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That's how that's how god wants us to come to him he wants us to be honest and yes the honest will,
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will be coupled with reverence but don't believe that you are a bad christian
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because you're honest before the lord he doesn't want us to be pretend,
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versions of ourselves.
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He wants us the real version of you.
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Right? So, we are going to pause for a moment. Yes.
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And I will be playing some instrumental in the background.
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And I want you to either write down or say something honest to God.
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If you don't if you're on the go you can you know jot it down in your notepad on your phone whatever,
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if if you're just there under the covers in your bed with with the blinds down
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or the blackout curtains you don't want to get up,
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and you feel like laurie i don't even have the energy right now to go and find
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something to write on or to say this mumble it mumble it to God right just be honest with him.
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If you are somewhere where unable to speak and write you know pray in your heart
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but just take this moment to communicate in whatever way possible to God, right?
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Just something honest. And it could look like, God, I don't trust you today,
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but I'm talking to you anyway.
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Or God, I don't know if I believe what I used to believe, but I'm here.
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Or maybe even I'm angry. God, I'm angry. I'm confused. I don't understand.
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But I don't want to run.
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So I am going to go ahead and play the instrumental.
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You know, whatever it may be, he is not afraid of your honesty.
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The Holy Spirit is right there with you.
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So here goes, giving you a few seconds.
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Alright, so I hope you would have gotten or rather taken that time to be honest
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with God and just say or even write a quick prayer to Him.
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Now we have come to the end of this episode of Kingdom Spouse Disappointment.
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My name is Lori and thank you so much for joining today, for joining this week.
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And I just really hope that the rest of your day and the rest of your week will
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be filled with God's mercy, His grace, His truth,
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and His restoration.
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Thank you once again and I'm definitely looking forward to see you guys next week. Bye!