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Girls Gotta Eat · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Babe, La La canne welcome back to then Give
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  Speaker 1: Them La La Acas. I'm pre recording this intro and
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  Speaker 1: we have the amazing girls from the podcast Girls Gotta Eat,
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  Speaker 1: Girls Gotta Eat. I'm pre recording because I'm headed off
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  Speaker 1: to New York to do some press for the paperback
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  Speaker 1: of my book Give Them La La. So many things
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  Speaker 1: falling underneath the Give Them Lalla Umbrella love when that happens.
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  Speaker 1: So that's the drill for this podcast. I'm excited to
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  Speaker 1: have them on because it's all things sex.
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  Speaker 2: All things sex, sex sex.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, can I just tell you I think back
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  Speaker 1: there was a season where James had like or I
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  Speaker 1: think it was Sandoval, like had spilled the tea about
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  Speaker 1: me and Arianna hooking up. And by the way, what
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  Speaker 1: I have so many photos from that night, none of
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  Speaker 1: us hooking up. No, but and it's just like you
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  Speaker 1: can tell, like as we get more drunk, runk, and
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  Speaker 1: it's just like a drunken mess.
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  Speaker 3: But Sandoval explains what I'm wearing that night. Okay, I
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  Speaker 3: have to post the picture. Why is he on point?
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  Speaker 3: Like does he do it?
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  Speaker 1: He remembers it? But now it's like I have pictures
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  Speaker 1: from that yet yes, and it was just all such
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  Speaker 1: a vibe. But I remember this season happening where Sandoval
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  Speaker 1: outs us or whatever, which for me, like it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: like I wasn't trying to keep it a secret, but
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  Speaker 1: like I definitely didn't know where Ariana was at with it,
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  Speaker 1: Like until I know where are Ariana stands, Like, I'm
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  Speaker 1: certainly not going to talk about it, right, So, like
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  Speaker 1: I heard about this Jackson Brittany called me out on it,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, never happened.
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  Speaker 3: I called Ariana. I was like, yo, so lying, what
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  Speaker 3: do you want to do about this?
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  Speaker 2: Was she pissed?
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  Speaker 1: She was pissed at Tom because she was like, this
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  Speaker 1: is bullshit, like it's none of your fucking bus She's
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  Speaker 1: such a gangster.
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  Speaker 2: Well, which is the same energy she kept on the
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  Speaker 2: show as I totally.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, totally.
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  Speaker 1: So anyway, I remember in this Little Boy's Outing when
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  Speaker 1: it comes up, James telling everybody what a bag of fun.
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  Speaker 1: I am in the bedroom and I'm sitting here at
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  Speaker 1: the age of thirty one, sober and a child later,
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  Speaker 1: patting myself on the ass because I'm like, you go, bitch,
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  Speaker 1: you go do them handstands, bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, yes, yeah, you know, and TBD, but
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  Speaker 2: I think you probably still got it.
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  Speaker 3: I won one hundred percent, still got it.
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  Speaker 1: Now it's just about who deserves it or not exactly,
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  Speaker 1: you know.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, let's be real.
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  Speaker 1: My time is precious and I'm getting myself off way
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  Speaker 1: quicker and way more better than any dude could ever
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  Speaker 1: have that happen.
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  Speaker 2: Right, Yes, yeah, you know yourself the best. So why
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  Speaker 2: do you, you know, need to reut?
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  Speaker 3: You've got yourself. I have myself.
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  Speaker 1: I have my little oils, I have my little mirror.
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  Speaker 3: Hate cooking, you know, hey, cooking. Have you ever looked
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  Speaker 3: at it? Not mine?
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  Speaker 2: I yes, and the first time, but this is insane.
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  Speaker 2: I ever looked at my vagina? Oh my god, you guys,
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  Speaker 2: this is embarrassing. But I'm gonna say I didn't realize
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  Speaker 2: he came out of a different hole.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm not kidding.
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  Speaker 4: And I and I was like.
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  Speaker 1: Did you learn it from Orange is the New Black?
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  Speaker 1: Or did you know when you look?
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  Speaker 4: Luckily?
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  Speaker 2: I was a little my best friend told me. I
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  Speaker 2: was like, I think I was sixteen though, or seventeen,
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  Speaker 2: which is oh, okay, you realize that in my best
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  Speaker 2: I said something like, yeah, but when you know, when
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  Speaker 2: you put a tampon it, and then you obviously have
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  Speaker 2: to change it once you pee, because like, hello, it
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  Speaker 2: gets soaked. And my friend was like, well, maybe you
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  Speaker 2: should put it in deeper and I was like, no,
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  Speaker 2: I mean Pete comes out of that hole anyway, and
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  Speaker 2: she's like, no, it doesn't. So I, for the first
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  Speaker 2: time ever, looked at my vagina and was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: it's just.
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  Speaker 3: Very important to look at your vagina.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I a few weeks ago, was.
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  Speaker 1: In Orange County with my mom and one of her
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  Speaker 1: dear friends and we were talking about this and I
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  Speaker 1: said to her friend. I was like, well, just call
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  Speaker 1: her Sally. I was like, Sally, you've never looked at it.
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  Speaker 1: She was like, no, it's sad. I know it looks sad.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, no, it's happy down there. You need
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  Speaker 1: to look at it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm hoping she did.
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  Speaker 1: My mom didn't say anything, so I know that she'd
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  Speaker 1: be looking at hers, and she like, I know she's
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  Speaker 1: looking at hers, right.
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  Speaker 2: Are you supposed to for health reasons anyway? I don't that.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's just important to look at it and
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  Speaker 1: like see what's going on down there, you know, pay
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  Speaker 1: it a little bit of attention, show it a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of.
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  Speaker 2: Love, and see what your partners see.
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  Speaker 3: Correct.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was another thing that we spoke about. I
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  Speaker 1: think this was two years ago on the show and
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  Speaker 1: someone was talking. It was me, Dana and Ariana.
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  Speaker 3: It always goes back to Puss with Ariana and Dana.
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  Speaker 1: But I told I was like, you have to taste it,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you put the finger in, give it a
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  Speaker 1: little swirl. Yeah, give it a little It sounds disgusting
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  Speaker 1: when you talk about it like that, like put it
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  Speaker 1: in right, you just got You just have to know,
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  Speaker 1: like what's happening right area.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's important.
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  Speaker 2: I have always even before before I think before I
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  Speaker 2: well not before, but like shortly after a partner went
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  Speaker 2: down on me for the first time ever. That's when
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  Speaker 2: I was like, wait a second, like because you have
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  Speaker 2: all these I had these thoughts like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 2: it probably tastes wild, and then I'm like, oh no,
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  Speaker 2: this is like great, it is great.
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  Speaker 1: I tasted mine for the first time when I knew
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  Speaker 1: because I had like regular sex before. I talk about
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  Speaker 1: it in my book. Yeah, I had sex with my
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  Speaker 1: high school sweetheart when I lost my virginity and he literally, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't. He had like an obsession with red.
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  Speaker 1: It was very strange. He had like red light bulbs
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  Speaker 1: and the condom he used was red. And you know,
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  Speaker 1: when you're in high school, boys are so weird and right,
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  Speaker 1: so I like lose my virginity to him. He takes
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  Speaker 1: the condom off and he goes, that's from you because
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  Speaker 1: it was red, and I started sobbing.
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  Speaker 3: Because I thought, you know, the cherry popping, and.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, oh wait, like my.
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  Speaker 1: Innocence was gone, and I'm looking at this like condom
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  Speaker 1: that I think is bloody, but it's not. It's just
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  Speaker 1: a strawberry scented colored condom. But after we had sex, right,
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  Speaker 1: I go to my two best friends who were sexually
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  Speaker 1: active at the time, and I'm like, I did that,
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  Speaker 1: but like, I am.
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  Speaker 3: Not sucking the dick okay, because I was concerned.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know that I'm good at that.
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  Speaker 1: How does one suck a dick without teeth involved?
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  Speaker 3: Right? I learned, Trust me, I'm like champion at it now.
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  Speaker 1: But then I got in my head and I was like, well,
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  Speaker 1: if something's going into my mouth, something's going to go
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  Speaker 1: into his mouth too, which is gonna be me and
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  Speaker 1: like I need to make sure we're like tasting right down. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like went in my little bathroom at the age of
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  Speaker 1: seventeen and did.
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  Speaker 2: A little taste test. Were you like okay? Because I
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  Speaker 2: was like pleasantly surprised. I thought I was gonna be
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  Speaker 2: horrified or something.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No, Well when you think about it and you're like,
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  Speaker 1: it's a hole. It's a hole, and like all of
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  Speaker 1: our stuff is on the outside where all the guy's
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  Speaker 1: stuff is.
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  Speaker 3: Like put in a little sausage pat yeah you know, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it gets stuffed sausage. That's stuffed sausage. So I was
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  Speaker 3: pleasantly surprised too.
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  Speaker 1: I just think that, I mean, you know, I I
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  Speaker 1: keep thinking like sex needs to be talked about more,
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  Speaker 1: and then I look at my Explorer page and I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: sex needs to be spoken about less less, Like we
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  Speaker 1: get it.
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  Speaker 3: You have nipples.
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  Speaker 1: We don't need to have you in a mess shirt
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  Speaker 1: on social media. All right, I've done that before. By
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  Speaker 1: the way, I walked through New York City with my
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  Speaker 1: nips out in nash Lingerie too free Home?
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  Speaker 3: Oh was it free? No? Was it free? Like? Because
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  Speaker 3: I showed them. But I felt so like powerful because
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  Speaker 3: I walked into the restaurant and dudes would look at
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  Speaker 3: me and then they'd look at my nips and the
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  Speaker 3: look of shock, and I'm like, I have you in
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  Speaker 3: the palm of my hand, right owners. I just fully
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  Speaker 3: enjoyed caviar. See that.
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  Speaker 2: I get that a lot of people show their bodies
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  Speaker 2: blah blah blahlah blah. But I'm also like, do you
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  Speaker 2: show the nips?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: But then another part of me is like, what if
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  Speaker 2: there's a little kid and a little boy.
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  Speaker 3: But that's where my head went to.
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  Speaker 1: I took a blazer because when I was like, once
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  Speaker 1: it hit a certain hour, it's like the kids are
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  Speaker 1: in bed, and honestly, like the time of night I
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  Speaker 1: was going out, Like no one's taking their kid to dinner. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: at catch at ten thirty at night in New York City.
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  Speaker 3: That's true. Okay, that's a great point.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, But I did take a jacket just because, you know,
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  Speaker 1: just in case the manager approached me.
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  Speaker 3: I had something to cover you. They didn't. It's New
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  Speaker 3: York City. They don't give a damn.
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  Speaker 2: They're like nipples fashion fashion people. Well, the nipples are
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  Speaker 2: out constantly, like in high fashion show everywhere. Now, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: maybe it's always been like that and I haven't noticed,
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  Speaker 2: but I've seen like Bellaheadet's nipples, Candy Jet nipples.
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  Speaker 1: I just knocked all these people and I'm like, now
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  Speaker 1: I totally want to go show my nipples, show your nips. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, I mean, wasn't it Rumor Willis who started it?
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  Speaker 1: She was walking down the street years years upon years
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  Speaker 1: upon years ago and it was the hashtag free the Nipple?
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  Speaker 3: Was it? It was one yes, walking down New York
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  Speaker 3: City fabulous being all woman?
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  Speaker 2: Was it just a mess shirt?
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  Speaker 3: Or totally?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? Interesting? See, because my head goes to like Miley cyrus,
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  Speaker 2: but that's probably not accurate.
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  Speaker 3: You're up in the night? What does that mean?
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  Speaker 2: You mean?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? Where are you mean?
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  Speaker 2: Like you're yeah, you're up in the night.
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  Speaker 3: You say sometimes that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, what does that mean?
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  Speaker 3: What does it mean? Are you being serious? Does no
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  Speaker 3: one know what that means? No?
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  Speaker 4: Up in the night?
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  Speaker 3: One, I think it's me Up in the night means
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  Speaker 3: like you're you're fucking you're up in the night, like
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  Speaker 3: you're clueless. See, Like that's not how it happened.
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  Speaker 1: Like if someone would say like this happened between me
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  Speaker 1: and Fred, and Fred didn't recall it that way and
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  Speaker 1: be like, you're up in the night.
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying I'm gonna start saying that. I'm gonna start
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  Speaker 2: saying that just like I heard someone. Have you ever
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  Speaker 2: heard people say like, oh my god, I'm gonna really
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  Speaker 2: date myself where you say something and they're like bet,
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  Speaker 2: oh yeah, bet, Bet like cool.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, because every guy I've ever dated has always like
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  Speaker 1: when I tell them something and they're like, all right, bet, Bet.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I tried to.
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  Speaker 2: I've been trying to use it and Kyle's like, you
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  Speaker 2: gotta no, it's not I would recommend you don't, like
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  Speaker 2: all right, Bet, and he's like, don't say that, okay,
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  Speaker 2: up in the night. I'm gonna try that one next.
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  Speaker 1: You know, there's certain things that people say and how
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  Speaker 1: they say it, and I'm like, oh, I wish that
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  Speaker 1: I could say things like that. Like sometimes Katie will say,
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  Speaker 1: like be telling a story and like using that word,
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  Speaker 1: and then I use it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, give it back to Katie, it ain't yours, Like,
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  Speaker 3: don't say it again. You sound really foolish. You say yeah.
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  Speaker 3: The first time I heard go toes?
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  Speaker 2: Was you Yes, I love a good go toe gum
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  Speaker 2: bump gums? Was you Johnny whatever a lot? What do
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  Speaker 2: you say like Johnny something something or like you say
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  Speaker 2: like like you and your mom say it and I
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  Speaker 2: think it's hilarious, right, tell me, like like if now
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  Speaker 2: I now, I can't think of an example, I want
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  Speaker 2: to ask you he's not wake up john right. No,
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  Speaker 2: it's like like when someone and then and then he
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  Speaker 2: turns into Johnny talks a lot, But it's.
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  Speaker 3: Not that when you remember, let me know, I'll hear you.
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  Speaker 1: Like to do this thing where if my mom says
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  Speaker 1: things or like we say things together, like certain jokes,
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  Speaker 1: I like to write them down. This sounds so morbid,
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  Speaker 1: but when my dad passed away, there were so many
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  Speaker 1: people that would come up to me and say like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: he used to say this, And I started keeping like
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  Speaker 1: little journal of things that my dad would say. And
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  Speaker 1: there were so many things that he would say that
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, but it's like this isn't the exact way
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  Speaker 1: he would say.
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  Speaker 3: It, Like damn it you know?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, so now I sing its down, God forbid,
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  Speaker 2: But just like I want to remember, yes, No, I
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  Speaker 2: think that's great.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I want ocean.
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  Speaker 1: When I tell her your homework was supposed to be
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  Speaker 1: turned in Monday, she can say, Mom, you're up in
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  Speaker 1: the night.
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  Speaker 2: Do tuesday, Mom, you're up in the night.
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  Speaker 3: I like it. I'm gonna try and use it.
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  Speaker 2: It probably won't sound natural, and then I'll stop using it,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm gonna use it on Kyle.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to and.
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  Speaker 2: See what he says. He now record his reaction. You're
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  Speaker 2: up in the night.
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  Speaker 3: It already doesn't sound good. It sounds so forced.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you're just up in the night.
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  Speaker 3: No like during an argument. But you guys don't are
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  Speaker 3: you are up in the night? Right? I dig it?
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  Speaker 3: Oh so fun to talk to you Jess about anal
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  Speaker 3: beads and just kidding, we never talked about animal It's
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  Speaker 3: just like sex, and then going directly into what ninety
• 14:08
  Speaker 3: year olds say. Yeah, that's how we do things.
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  Speaker 1: So when this airs, my paperback of the book will
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  Speaker 1: be open for purchase.
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  Speaker 2: Will have been released the day before April twelve.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yay coinrat.
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  Speaker 2: With the beautiful red mark that says national best seller.
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  Speaker 3: And you know that's strictly based on copies sold? Is
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  Speaker 3: it really? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: As opposed to like with the New York Times list,
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  Speaker 1: there's like a lot of factors that come into play.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not super educated on what those are, but I
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: do know that it's from what I've heard, there's like
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  Speaker 1: political stuff that comes into play. And obviously when your
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: book's released, who you're up against, and it's like a
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: bunch of different like mumbo jumbo shit.
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  Speaker 3: I don't understand.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, national bestseller is strictly copies sold, motherfuckers.
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  Speaker 3: That's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: BAM entering the pandemic lockdown, No book tour, no nothing,
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: no nothing. Promotion you ask via Instagram and podcasts. We
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  Speaker 1: love the social prim very very proud of the book.
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  Speaker 2: So it smells great, you guys. It feels great. I'm
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: feeling it right now, kidding, have you smelled it?
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  Speaker 1: I know, no, I do that all the time. When
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  Speaker 1: they arrived in the box, I was like like a
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: frustrate you know inhale, exhale. And when this podcast airs,
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: I will have done. Watch Robins live. I'm doing it
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  Speaker 1: with Maya Allen. She's on Summer House.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, fun, super cute.
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  Speaker 1: I've never seen Summer House. People really dig it. Once
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  Speaker 1: I venturing to it, though I'm sure I'll be addicted
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  Speaker 1: and I can't handle one more Bravo.
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  Speaker 3: Show addiction right now.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I just have to get through what I'm getting through,
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  Speaker 1: and then we'll venture into Summerhouse Love, a binge able show.
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing Tameron Hall, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so hopefully it'll all have gone well. I feel
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: like it will have gone well. You guys, this is
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: the first time I'm traveling with Lalla, so that's Are.
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  Speaker 4: You nervous, No, I'm not nervous.
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  Speaker 2: I just wish I could be flying to New York
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  Speaker 2: with you in my It's like I'm gonna be like tomorrow,
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  Speaker 2: like I'm gonna be like prepping and getting I would
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: rather just be flying with you.
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  Speaker 3: It just feels better. I wish that too.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's fine. I will have been I will
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  Speaker 2: be flying from Miami because I will have been at
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  Speaker 2: a bachelorette party, which fingers crossed.
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  Speaker 3: That goes, well, yeah, no, you're gonna have the best.
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  Speaker 2: It's gonna be great, and so I will meet you
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: and then we're gonna be in New York and you're
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: gonna be doing your press stuff and it's going to
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: be great.
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: I have a feeling to happen to live.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: It's gonna be great, tamer and Hall, You're gonna be
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: doing chicks in the office. I don't know when that
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: comes out.
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: Yep, I'm doing a bunch of stuff. I'm super excited.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: And it's a lot jam packed into like like.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: A day, yeah, like like forty eight hours. Like because
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: we land on the tenth, Yeah, eleventh is jam packed.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: Then we have something on the eleventh is jam packed, twelve,
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: the morning of is jam packed, and then we flyn
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: go right to the airport.
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's a quick.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: I have the most anxiety in the world traveling by myself.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: I can't put a finger on why. I'm not worried,
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: Like I'm a great flyer. Once I'm on the plane, yeah,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: I can relax. There's something about going to an airport.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know why. I don't know if it's the
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: seven flights that I missed back to back, like back
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: in the day yea.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: And my dad was furious at me because he's like,
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: how does this happen?
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: I don't it's not I can't understand it that I'm like,
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna miss my flight.
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: My luggage is gonna get lost. I don't know what
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: it is. I just like having a little companion to
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: travel with. So see that's why I give you.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: See that's why I wish I was traveling there with you.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: But we're pretty much flying back together.
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: We kind of are.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: As long as you take me and hold my hand
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: through the airport, which I went me to my flight,
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: I will walk you to your gate and then I'll
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: go to my gate.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I love that.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it'll be great, it'll be fun, it'll be amazing.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: And get the paperback book because.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: Remind me to post the picture of me and Ariana
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: on the night that we.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: Because that's really hilarious. Okay, and my I'm telling you,
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: my houf. It was a vibe.
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: It can be a this comes out Wednesday. It can
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: be a throwback Thursday. So the day after.
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: Perfect love it all right, you guys. When we come back,
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: we have Girls Got to Eat.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: We are back and I have two amazing ladies from
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: the podcast Girls Gotta Eat, Girls Gotta Eat.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: I have Raina and Ashley. Hi you guys, Hi, thanks
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: for having I I'm so glad to be here.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: Thank you for coming on. I mean, you guys have
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: an extremely successful podcast. Are you on tour right now. Yeah,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: we what, we're always on tour. We'enever not on tour.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: We go out and do a few shows every month.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: We just go back from California and we did San Diego,
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: La and San Francisco. It was really really wild. So
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: you guys go and do live shows pretty often.
• 19:35
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but we just kind of like we're not out
• 19:37
  Speaker 5: like a musical artist on a tour bus like stay
• 19:40
  Speaker 5: down on the road. Like we go out, we come home,
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: we go, we come home, like and then we're gonna
• 19:43
  Speaker 5: take the summer off, which is the first time we've
• 19:45
  Speaker 5: ever done that ish, and then we'll go back out
• 19:47
  Speaker 5: in the fall. So we have a bunch of shows
• 19:49
  Speaker 5: from now until June, and then we'll take a little
• 19:52
  Speaker 5: bit of a break. So we just kind of like
• 19:54
  Speaker 5: to live our life, you know. We're just kind of
• 19:56
  Speaker 5: like we'll go here at this time and then we'll
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: come home and then we'll you know, just kind of
• 20:00
  Speaker 5: fit it in when we can.
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: I love it.
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And the shows are just wild, you know.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: We do the podcast every week and then with the
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: live shows, it's just a whole immersive experience. We do
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: a lot of audience participation, bring people up dance, have dancers,
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: have strippers. It's great you have strippers. Ashley gets me
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: a stripper for every show we do. Yeah we well, yeah,
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: we we started doing strippers. They just really take it
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: to the next level. You know. We always get to
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: pick a theme and do they show booby it's a
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: male stripper, a male stripper? Are those fun? Though? Are
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: those fun?
• 20:31
  Speaker 5: There's it's like a bachelorette vibe. You know, they like
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: pick her up and the stripper and san Diego had
• 20:37
  Speaker 5: Usually they stay away from me. It's like a rain
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: of thing. I'm five to ten. I don't need my
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: legs hanging on the stripper's back. They're always shorter than me.
• 20:44
  Speaker 5: So it's like it's like a rain of thing. So
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: but he picked me up. He had me on his
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: lap and sitting on her lap. It was like limbs everywhere.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: I was the chair. He wasn't a fireman. I had
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: his hat on.
• 20:55
  Speaker 5: It was like insane. I locked eyes with Raina.
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: I'm like, what is our life?
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: I show boobs at the show actually gets banged.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: It's a whole thing. Yeah yeah, yeah, well one of
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: you bought the boob tattoo, was it you Rena.
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so somebody bought me.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: I met this guy when I was Fa Francisco and
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: we went to get tattoos on like a day date,
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: and he bought me this boom tattoo that I always wanted.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: He didn't say you have to get those on your arm.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: I love it. I love it so much. It's one
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: of my most favorite tattoos I've ever seen. Oh my god,
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: thank you so much. I drew it myself. Actually it's fantastic.
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: So cheers to the boobs. Wait do you get turned
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: on by the mail stripper? Is it more quirky?
• 21:33
  Speaker 5: First of all, other people get so turned on at
• 21:36
  Speaker 5: our shows, and it's so funny because to us it's
• 21:37
  Speaker 5: just funny, like Rain and I don't get off stage,
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: or we're like we're so wet, you know, like it's
• 21:41
  Speaker 5: just this funny thing.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: But people leave the show and they're like, I got
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: so turned on.
• 21:45
  Speaker 5: I mean there's other stuff we do at the shows too,
• 21:47
  Speaker 5: but they like leave and they like fuck and they
• 21:49
  Speaker 5: have threesomes and they're just like all juiced up, And
• 21:52
  Speaker 5: it's so funny to us because I don't know, do
• 21:54
  Speaker 5: you get.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: Turned off my hotel room alone? Text Ashley a couple
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: of things and go to sleep all times. But yeah, people,
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: just another night on tour. We talk about I mean
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: so much. We were so sacked positive about like whatever
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: you want to do, and we talk about it so much.
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: So yeah, we want people to go home and like fuck, yeah,
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: so how did you two meet and start? Girls got
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: to eat. It's just like the super cheesy love story.
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: We met on the beach in Aruba on an influencer trip.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: We were there like yeah for the Aruba Marea. And
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: this was in twenty seventeen, so in October. I had
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: recently moved to New York earlier that year, and we
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: just bet on this trip and we really like vibed.
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: I mean the first night, it was not a lot
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: of people. It was like five people on this trip.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: We all just ended up staying up and talking in
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: the hotel lobby about like, was it like a fun
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: influencer trip or the kind where like models are like
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: posing with their ass. No, I mean this was kind
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: of like I say, influencer.
• 22:46
  Speaker 5: Just at that time, I was more of a blogger,
• 22:48
  Speaker 5: like I'd just say because that's the word we use now.
• 22:50
  Speaker 5: But this now, at this point was like five years ago,
• 22:52
  Speaker 5: but Raina had a food blog like another girl just
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: wrote for like a traditional media outlet and magazine. So
• 22:56
  Speaker 5: I say it was influencer, but it was like a
• 22:59
  Speaker 5: media trip. Everyone was from New York and it was
• 23:01
  Speaker 5: like four women and one guy, and we just all
• 23:04
  Speaker 5: stayed up at night talking about like relationships and stuff,
• 23:06
  Speaker 5: and Rain and I just end up hanging out the
• 23:08
  Speaker 5: whole rest of the trip, you know. We came back
• 23:10
  Speaker 5: to Newark and it was very like are we going
• 23:11
  Speaker 5: to be friends?
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: Irl? Like now that we're.
• 23:13
  Speaker 5: Back, And we ended up hanging out a couple times.
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: And I had wanted to start a podcast at that
• 23:18
  Speaker 5: point for months, and it was like on my mind
• 23:20
  Speaker 5: and I was like I have to do this, and
• 23:22
  Speaker 5: I just didn't know.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: Who to do it with.
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: By this guy friend, I was like, I just don't
• 23:26
  Speaker 5: feel like this is right because I saw very like
• 23:28
  Speaker 5: big picture business tour the world, like I really did
• 23:32
  Speaker 5: see it being like a thing. I was like, I
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: don't know if I want tour the world with this
• 23:34
  Speaker 5: fucking dude, you know. So I wanted to do it
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: with the woman, and rain and I just were texting
• 23:38
  Speaker 5: more and more, becoming friends and always talking about dating.
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: We were both single with these like flexible lifestyles with
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: what we did for work, and I just asked her like,
• 23:47
  Speaker 5: would you want to start a podcast?
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: And she was like absolutely, I'm in.
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: And that was end of November twenty seventeen, and we
• 23:54
  Speaker 5: got it off that. We started having meetings and stuff,
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: and we got it off the ground in February twenty eighteen.
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: Wow, and you guys just knew, like, this is going
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: to be a sex positive podcast. I think Ashley and
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: I just are naturally really open and sexual people, and
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: we grew up and I think a pretty sex positive environment.
• 24:11
  Speaker 5: Well that's it's funny you asked that, because I said
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: I asked braina like would you want to do a podcast?
• 24:15
  Speaker 5: I think I want to do a funny podcast but
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: about dating, relationships and sex and stuff. And she was
• 24:19
  Speaker 5: like yeah, sold. And then I was like, I don't
• 24:22
  Speaker 5: know where that well. I had had noted for two
• 24:24
  Speaker 5: months at this point, barely, and I was like, well,
• 24:26
  Speaker 5: do you feel comfortable talking about your sex life and stuff?
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: And she was like yeah, like have we met that?
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: So when she whipped her tits out and said absolut fuckingutely, yeah,
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: she sent me.
• 24:36
  Speaker 5: A video of her masturbating. No, I'm just kidding it.
• 24:38
  Speaker 5: It was like, I've always been super open. I had
• 24:40
  Speaker 5: a blog before that where it like, my parents don't care,
• 24:43
  Speaker 5: you know, I do stand up.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: So not everybody is that way. I think it's a
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: little more rare.
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: So I just wanted to make sure she was because
• 24:50
  Speaker 5: that would be that would have been my fear.
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 24:52
  Speaker 5: We start recording and she's like, well, I feel weird
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: because my dad's going to listen, you know, And that's.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: Not the case at all. Yeah, And I think I
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: was always the kind of person and growing up my
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: mom always said, like I marched to the beat of
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: my own drum. I would always say the things that
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: like people like couldn't believe it came out of my mouth,
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: not like an unhinged crazy person, but like I was
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: always the person that like talked about sex, talked about
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: sexuality that people were like, I can't know what she's
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: saying that stuff. And I think that for me, it
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: was natural to like hone that learn how to speak
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: about it in a funny way and an interesting and
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: engaging way. And I talk about my own personal sex
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: life as much as I talk about other people's so right.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: I am willing to put myself out there and say,
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: like I had sex for the first time last weekend
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: with my new boobs, and like what did that feel like?
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: And how often is somebody willing to do that? So
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: I hope to promote a lot of sex positivity and that,
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: like anything is fine. It's so refreshing, by the way,
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: because I feel like I grew up in a very
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: open household. Like I would walk through the front door
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: and be like, I just gave that hot dude a blowjob,
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: and my Dad's like, what, what the fuck? I mean,
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: go Larren, I don't want to hear that. And I'm like,
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: then go away, because we're talking about it. Well, you
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: are very much. I mean, I've been like such a
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: fan of banderd Hen Roles forever, and I worked in
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: restaurants my whole life, so I was like, oh my god,
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: Like a restaurant on television is amazing. And you were
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: always so open about your sexuality and your tits and
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: just like being out there on the show, and I
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: was just like, I like this girl, she just like
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: owns it. She is open with her body. I always
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: thought it was so fucking cool. Yeah, it's amazing. Well
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: thank you.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: So when I hear other people talking about it, I'm like, Okay,
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: this is my bitch, this is you know. I'm down
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: with the people bringing strippers on.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: Stage, getting tit tattoos, wanting to talk about how they
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: came to California and had a lot of bang sessions. Thought, well,
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: you have to tell me more, Like, what do you
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: mean you came to California to do a show? Yeah,
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: we didn't have sex with each other, we'd sex with
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: other people. Yeah, no judgment here. I mean, we just listen.
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: It's not New York is not our fave for dating,
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: for fucking. It's really just not ideal. It's you know,
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: we do our best. We like living here for now,
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: not that much. But but we just seemed to meet
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: more guys on the road. And I will not subscribe
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: to this. Like, but you're in a different mindset, you're
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: out of town. It's not that it's New York. New
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: York fucking suck. What is it about New York that
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: sucks for dating?
• 27:12
  Speaker 5: The way that New York changes men into the garbage
• 27:17
  Speaker 5: of the earth in terms of the way they date,
• 27:19
  Speaker 5: the way they communicate, the way they view women, not
• 27:21
  Speaker 5: all men like we have. We have amazing guy friends.
• 27:23
  Speaker 5: We've friends that have found men here in the garbage
• 27:26
  Speaker 5: can of the dating scene, but we just we don't
• 27:29
  Speaker 5: love it and we're retired by it. So I think
• 27:31
  Speaker 5: we get really rejuvenated to go to different cities and
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: just meet different guys that we like a little bit
• 27:36
  Speaker 5: more than your New York command. So, I mean, we
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: went to San Francisco, we met these guys braina set
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: it up and we had a great time with them.
• 27:44
  Speaker 5: And I met a guy in San Diego and we
• 27:46
  Speaker 5: ended up fucking. Then he came to LA and we
• 27:48
  Speaker 5: were just like, you know, fucking all over the state.
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: It was really great.
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, to echo what she said, I mean, dating here
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: is fine. I've lived here since college. I've dated a
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: lot in New York. I find that men outside of
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: New York are a little more intentional.
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: They follow up more.
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: They not that there's like, you know, I think that
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: you hear a lot in New York and LA, like
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: everybody feels like there's so many options, so you're disposable,
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: And I don't know what I feel like that's the
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: main issue. I don't know.
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: People just move here and they become garbage. People don't.
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: I don't know what to say.
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: My last couple of relationships have all been long distance,
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: out of town guys, and I've enjoyed them more. Yeah,
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: they're not even that hot. Like it's not like I
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: swear like rain and night. I kind of thought I
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: would move here and it would be like the hottest guys.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: It's just not. Listen, we'd love to hear our guy
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: friends are hot with no shade to them, but like
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: it's just we go to other cities in Austin, for example,
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: or you know, even like hot Denver, and we're like,
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: this is where the dick is, Like it's not in
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: New York. Yeah, Charleston, San Francisco. I mean there's hot guys.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: I understand the problems to dating in every city, actually,
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: and I've been doing the show for so many years.
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: I know every city presents its own challenges, but New
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: York and LA seem to be pretty specifically challenging.
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: And I can only speak to dating in New York
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: and it's been a little tough.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: I mean, I can speak for LA and I'm telling
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: you what. I'm scarred from my last relationship.
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: So I brought on a PI for anybody who comes
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: into my life who I want to date. No, you
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: think I'm kidding you so much? Good for you. I
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: mean you're a public figure. Why not I need to
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: know everything, everything, your credit score, what you got going on.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: And I've lost a few based on and I don't
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: tell them. I don't say, like, by the way, this
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: ain't gonna work out because your background check came back
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: a little sketch, because then I look crazy? Right, what
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: is the things that makes you walk away? What is
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: like a red flag? Your background check came back. So
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: this is the end of the road for you, Trevor.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: End of the fucking road. I have no tolerance. You
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: can be as fine as they come. You're cut a
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: big one.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: If you got kids and I see that you've had
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: some maybe like not great track record with child support,
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: you're done. When I see that, like you may owe
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: money to the government, you gotta go.
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: There was one guy who he had like all of
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: these unpaid like parking tickets and then like driving without
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: license and insurance. I'm like, motherfucker, that's the easiest thing
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: to do.
• 30:15
  Speaker 5: If you're doing that, you're not going to be a
• 30:17
  Speaker 5: grown up in a relationship, Like if you're living like
• 30:19
  Speaker 5: that outside of being like twenty one, you know, like, yes,
• 30:22
  Speaker 5: it's not for me. That's a great example of stuff
• 30:25
  Speaker 5: that you should find out.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: I need to know. If you can't do the most
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: simple thing in life, which is just drive with insurance
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: and a driver's license, it ain't gonna work out. Paying
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: a parking ticket takes three seconds if you're not the
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: kind of person to hands it. Actually, I always say, like,
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: I think one of the problems with my previous relationship
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: that I've had is that dated people that I could
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: like handle their shit, and it made me feel insane
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: because like, not only am I paying for everything, I'm
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: also planning it, I'm producing it.
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: I'm doing everything.
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: I'm producing the relationship, and I just want a man
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: that can handle their shit. If you as unpaid parking tickets,
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure that that permeates in the rest of
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: your life. And first of all, why are there so
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: many Why are you in so many un parking tickets?
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: I don't understand. Yeah, the only way, So now you're
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: telling me you can't even park a car.
• 31:08
  Speaker 5: I got a parking ticket recently and it was like
• 31:11
  Speaker 5: I was like, I don't think I'm gonna pay this.
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: What are they going to do? And it went to
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: my parents' house and my mom. My mom called.
• 31:16
  Speaker 5: She was like, it's Father's Day and your father just
• 31:18
  Speaker 5: got a ticket because the car was I was just like, fine,
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: I'll pay it.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: And then they just kept harassing me. I was like,
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: it's fine, I'll pay it. It's fine. One parking ticket,
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: I get it. But this motherfucker who has about fifteen
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: now you gotta go. All right. I want to talk
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: to you guys about how you feel about dating app
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: Do we like them? Are they stupid? We have differing opinions.
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: I mean, I'll just get me out of the way quickly.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: It's not my thing. Every six months so you've tried it,
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: you've tried it.
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: Try it is just a stretch. I'm gone on them,
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: and you look at them, looked at the mine.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: I'm gone on one dating app date too, sorry, two
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: dating app dates. I went on a date like twelve
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: years ago. What is that, Jade, It's it's for Jews.
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: It's back when dating apps weren't even apps their websites.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, Okay, I ran into my ex's best friend
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: while I was on the date with this guy and
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: he told my ex. My ex bet jealous. We got
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: back together, so that was the end of that. And
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: then I think I did one from Tinder like seven
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: years ago. I get on there and I feel really
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: fatigued shopping for human beings. I don't want to do it.
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: I get really like tired out asking the questions of.
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: Like, what did you do it today? Would you have
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: for lunch? I just don't care, and.
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: I just I feel like I lose interest really quickly.
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: That's just I enjoy meeting people in person. I want
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: to see how you like, how you move, how you
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: talk to people, how do you eat. I want to
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: see how you smell. I know that sounds crazy, but
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: I'm like attracted to smells and people totally. And this
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: guy that I was with last weekend, I was saying
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: to his friends one of the reason why I don't
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: like dating apps is like I never would have swiped
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: on him on a dating app because he's shorter than
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: I normally go for.
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: It's not a profession. I would never normally.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: Gravitate towards because he has a significant online following, and
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: I probably would have just been out and I met
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: him and I was like, this is the coolest person
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: I've ever met, and I would have thrown him in
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: the trash on a dating app. Wow, So I steer clear. Okay,
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: I love that, Ashley. What about you?
• 33:11
  Speaker 5: Well, you know we have a dating podcast and online
• 33:13
  Speaker 5: dating is a huge way that people date, so we
• 33:15
  Speaker 5: last thing I want to do it with shit all
• 33:17
  Speaker 5: over it I've done. I've been on a million app dates,
• 33:19
  Speaker 5: like I've been on, starting with Tinder when it first
• 33:22
  Speaker 5: came out, and bumble and hinge and everything, and I've
• 33:25
  Speaker 5: tried rayah and but it's not my favorite way to
• 33:28
  Speaker 5: meet somebody. I have never gone on a second date
• 33:30
  Speaker 5: with someone I met on an app. I'm the same
• 33:32
  Speaker 5: with Rain in terms of, like you just can't really
• 33:34
  Speaker 5: get a vibe for somebody. I've been on so many
• 33:36
  Speaker 5: dates where the person just showed up and like their
• 33:39
  Speaker 5: voice was terrible, or their posture is bad, or they
• 33:41
  Speaker 5: don't seem confident, or they just have terrible manners or
• 33:44
  Speaker 5: whatever it is. So like like Braina says, you don't
• 33:46
  Speaker 5: know how they like walk, talk, or smell or interact
• 33:48
  Speaker 5: with the world. So right, it's not my preferred way.
• 33:51
  Speaker 5: And I've done all the things I could do. My
• 33:53
  Speaker 5: profile is great, you know we have a banter or
• 33:56
  Speaker 5: like it's we know all the hacks. It's just not ever,
• 33:59
  Speaker 5: how aw I've met somebody and I think like kind
• 34:01
  Speaker 5: of like the numbers speak for themselves, like anybody I've
• 34:03
  Speaker 5: ever dated, I met them in person or I was
• 34:05
  Speaker 5: introduced to them somehow.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: So yeah, I get on there.
• 34:08
  Speaker 5: I like to go to a new city and like
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: scope about what it looks like there. But it's just
• 34:12
  Speaker 5: not really for me.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: You use it as the throwback, you use it for
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: some dick and then like if it's fun and you
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: like the person, you're like, I guess I'll come back
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: for a second plate of dick.
• 34:22
  Speaker 5: It's not even that, Like I don't even when's last
• 34:24
  Speaker 5: time I got laid from a guy on an app?
• 34:26
  Speaker 4: Like it's not that doesn't even world.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: What I will say about you is that actually will
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: say like I feel like dating, I feel like finding somebody,
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: and then she will purposefully make a concerted effort to
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: go on a dating app and go on dates with
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: people like Ashley has never been the kind of person
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: and neither am I that complains about something long term
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: and will not fix it. So if She's like, I
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: want to find somebody's going day. I've gone some dates.
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: I I'm like, I want to find somebody. I'll go
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: to a bunch of bars and meet people. Okay, And
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: I do think it's one ie fits one. I want to,
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: you know, credit what she said in terms of like
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: we're dating podcasts. We believe it online dating. Ashley and
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: I have the we're fortunate enough to be out in
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: the world a little bit more for our jobs and
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: meet people. Not everybody has that luxury. Some people are
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: behind a zoom screen all day every day and that's
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: the best way to meet somebody, right, So I think it's.
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: Great for some people.
• 35:11
  Speaker 5: But I mean I also think, like our episode this
• 35:13
  Speaker 5: week is about about setups and like getting people to
• 35:15
  Speaker 5: set you up, and I think there's like could you
• 35:18
  Speaker 5: scroll for hours and try to go in these days
• 35:22
  Speaker 5: with these strangers, or could you like talk to somebody
• 35:24
  Speaker 5: and be like, Hey, do you have anybody you might
• 35:25
  Speaker 5: want to set me up with. Let's think about this together,
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: like a friend or you know, a cousin or whatever
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: it is. So I just think there is soone should
• 35:31
  Speaker 5: be said for someone that you kind of know or
• 35:35
  Speaker 5: someone you know kind of knows them, and I just
• 35:37
  Speaker 5: think it's all about like being open. Like I think
• 35:40
  Speaker 5: this past tour, it was like these guys in San
• 35:42
  Speaker 5: Francisco's like, yeah, we'll go out with them. We had
• 35:43
  Speaker 5: a great time with them. You know, the guy that
• 35:45
  Speaker 5: I met San Diego. I just like, I can be
• 35:47
  Speaker 5: a little closed off and I was like, no, I'm
• 35:49
  Speaker 5: going to like lert this guy, and we ended up
• 35:51
  Speaker 5: hooking up. And it just is like a mindset too,
• 35:54
  Speaker 5: because I just think I'm done ish with the dating
• 35:57
  Speaker 5: apps just because it doesn't work for me.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: I like what you said, Raina, it's one size fits one.
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: But the thing is is I sit here and I'm.
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: Like, I will not join a dating app, but you
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: can slide in my DM, right.
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: Like, what's the fucking difference.
• 36:13
  Speaker 5: I think the difference is like, at least you've seen
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: somebody on Instagram.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: You know, you may have heard them talk, even you
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: can see like videos, yeah, Like, but you can see
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: what they follow, which is a huge important thing to
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: me to see if you follow the same kind of musicians, politicians,
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: fashion brands, whatever.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 36:29
  Speaker 5: Also, I think dating apps like where I think it
• 36:31
  Speaker 5: works better when you're just in your twenties, totally.
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, every reason their twenties.
• 36:35
  Speaker 5: You know, like you know you're in your thirties, you
• 36:37
  Speaker 5: start getting the polls just smaller, you know, unless you
• 36:40
  Speaker 5: really want to go. It just kind of gets smaller
• 36:42
  Speaker 5: as you age. I don't mean that in a bad way.
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: You can also lower your age range. But we know
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: so many successful relationships. Our assistant stating around here she
• 36:49
  Speaker 5: met her now boyfriend on dating app. I'm thinking over
• 36:50
  Speaker 5: friend Jackie and met her fiance and an unbumble like
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: it does work. I think that maybe it's just not
• 36:57
  Speaker 5: my preferred way, and it just gets a little harder
• 36:59
  Speaker 5: as you age a little bit more.
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: Have you ever gone on a date with someone where
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: everything is working? You've been on multiple dates. You vibe
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: with them, you dig it. You get into the bedroom
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: and the dick just ain't right, Like do you sit
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: there and go, oh, but the rest of it will
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: outweigh the small dick. Oh you mean the side just
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: the size of the dick or like it could be
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: the size it could be like he doesn't really know
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: how to do this. Uh huh.
• 37:28
  Speaker 4: So for me, can I tell you one thing? Please?
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: Do I've answered this before? Before you answer on Steve Harvey. Okay,
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: they asked about dick, and I responded. All the girls answered,
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: and then it was my turn. I said, you know,
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: I think if the person's kind and they're good to you,
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: it's gonna be the best sex you've had, no matter what.
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: I got booed. They booed me. No one liked that answer.
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: I see, I can just see you're like, I'm trying
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: to stick up for my man. I love it. Oh
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: my gosh. So I want to know your I want
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: to know what you guys think. So I am meant
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: I can only I'm just gonna speak for I'm an
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: extremely sexual person, and I've learned that if like the
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: dick isn't good long term, that I'm out right so
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: good dick can keep me for a really long time.
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: The first time you have sex with a person, it's
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: always awkward. It might be a home run for some people,
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: but I think like the first time is ever gonna
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: be the greatest. A you're figuring out into those bodies,
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: you're seeing, like what does everything look like, smell like,
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: feel like? I think you're just really feeling your way
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: through it, and I think it takes some time to
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: learn with somebody last. First time always awkward. I'll try
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: a second time if I like you long term, if
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: I have a partner that's enthusiastic, like really present during
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: sex and like want yeah, I can teach you, Like
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: I like a lot of dirty talk that's not natural
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: to everybody, but like, if you're like I want to
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: please her, I want to like, I think that I
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: can work with that. I've dated every end of the spectrum.
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: I dated some it just isn't a super sexual person,
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: not super enthusiastic in bed, and that would never ever
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: work for me. Now. I just never gonna work somebody
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: who's at least sexually enthusiastic. Like I fought this guy
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: like five times on Saturday that I could work with
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: his very enthusiastic in life enthusiastic. So I guess that's
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: my answer.
• 39:16
  Speaker 4: First time.
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: I'll definitely go back for a second time. Five six
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: times it's bad, I will try to work on it.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: But sex is a really really important part of a
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: relationship to me. Yeah, I mean the first time.
• 39:27
  Speaker 5: I mean it just guys get in their head just
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: as much as we do, maybe even more so because
• 39:31
  Speaker 5: they got to make the dick work and they they're
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: supposed to like dick you down, and so I think
• 39:34
  Speaker 5: that nerves play into it and like nothing can be
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: based on the first time. Like I had a situation.
• 39:39
  Speaker 5: This was like a little while back, this a few
• 39:40
  Speaker 5: months ago.
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: I was with this guy and when we started we
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: started making out. His dick was soft, and I thought
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: it was so small. I was like, this is a
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: micro penis, like it was my first wife. Like I
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: was thin, it's so tiny, and so I was like
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: a little upset. I mean, I just was like I
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: don't know what to I don't know what to do.
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: It just he was like the grower to end all growers.
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: It ended up like blowing up, like I put so
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: much work into it.
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: It was like I really put a lot of time
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: and effort into like getting it where it needs to be,
• 40:09
  Speaker 5: and when it was like full capacity, it was like
• 40:12
  Speaker 5: a totally different dick.
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: So that was the thing that I like went into
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: the night like.
• 40:15
  Speaker 5: That's like a fun surprise. It was the best surprise.
• 40:18
  Speaker 5: I felt so proud of myself and you know him,
• 40:21
  Speaker 5: and it was just like a really great thing for anyone.
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: So that was a very a moment of like I mean,
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: whatever like I don't want a body shame guys with smalltics.
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: But it was a very moment of like, oh, that's
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: probably not gonna do much for me tonight. And then
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: little did I know, I was like, we're gonna need
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: some more loop. I had no idea that could grow
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: that big, neither dinyway I had. It was unbelievable. I
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: still can't shake it. I was like telling everybody he's like,
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: just you wait, baby, telling people you should be like,
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: just give it some time. Should be like on a
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: note cardians people like his allergies and then his dickets.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: I'm a grower.
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: Let me ask you, guys, if you ever had this situation?
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: So with my AX, that was probably like the best
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: ex I've ever had, wild, filthy, disgusting journey all the time.
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: The very first time we had sex was one of
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: those moments where like no one came, You're both naked,
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: staring at the ceiling, no one will make eye contact,
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: and you're both like I liked this person so much?
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: That was so bad and what.
• 41:16
  Speaker 4: Am I gonna have you guys, ever had that happen yet?
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: That happened with my ex? Like I was like, God,
• 41:20
  Speaker 3: I just like him. So much, and we kind of waited.
• 41:22
  Speaker 5: He wanted to wait on whatever, and it was like
• 41:26
  Speaker 5: such a letdown. There was no way we were abandoning
• 41:29
  Speaker 5: the relationship. It just was awkward. He was a person
• 41:32
  Speaker 5: that got in his head a lot. I know, he
• 41:33
  Speaker 5: was like so nervous to fuck me for the first time,
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: and the next time was amazing, and then it was
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: amazing every time after.
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: I've had that happen once and I couldn't look him
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: in the eyes and I couldn't wait for him to leave,
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: and I immediately deleted his number. I was like, don't
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: ever come around me again. Different five, so you're not
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: going back for around two. And it's like, so, why
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: was it so awkward and weird? I just think like
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: he was listening to like Celin Dear in his head,
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: where I was listening to maybe like playlist Asap Rocky.
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: You know, we need to get on the same page.
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: That is so funny, different playlists. It was like very
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: very different. And I don't know because then I'm wounded
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: if the first time is like that, like I'm nervous
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: to venture back in to that territory. It's like someone
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: like drowning you right in the middle of the ocean
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: and then being like, we're going to go try that
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: again and see if it's better next time. It's like, no, no,
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: we're not. I almost I almost died. Just leave immediately, right.
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: So one of the reasons I think it was so
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: weird for me was that my axe was sober and
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: I drink and I know you're I know that you're sober.
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: So I think he got like a little in his head.
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: And then I got in my head because I was like,
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: I'm a little buzzed. He's dead sober. What is he
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: going to think about me? This is crazy. I think
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: he got his head too. Do you ever like get
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: in your head like it was sober sex weird for you?
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: In the beginning, I have yet to have sober sex
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: with a new partner. Okay, interesting, I'm super nervous about
• 43:05
  Speaker 3: it and not saying like I need to drink to
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: have sex, but you know, you're with the same person
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: for a really long time. But going going into this
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: new territory of like being sober because I'm a bag
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: of fun. When I'm fucked up, let's do it. I
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: fuck sit up in the bedroom. But now I'm worried.
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna be in my head. I had Emily from
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: sex with Emily on and she was like, You've got
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: to like make it about you because I'm so into
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: Like is it good for the other person, because I'm fine,
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: I'll rub one out later like flick the bean at home.
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: I'll be fine. Fuck that.
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: I'm not doing that anymore. Do some work, Like I
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: need to get mine, just like you've got to get yours. Yes,
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: So I need to get into that selfish headspace.
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: I think that, I mean, sober sex to me is
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: incredible and I'll come over and over again. So I
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: think that your pleasure is just heightened in general, hopefully.
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: I think it's really nice to watch your partner be pleasured.
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: That gives me pleasure. But yeah, I might be like
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: a little scared. But I mean with a new person,
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: like I love sober sex. So I just did it Sunday,
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: Like it was great. I just that's a new part.
• 44:13
  Speaker 5: But we'd had sex one time, you know, a few
• 44:16
  Speaker 5: nights prior drinking. But a sober sex with a brand
• 44:20
  Speaker 5: new person would I think intimidate most people.
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: I am intimidated.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm super intimidated, and I want some big old dick.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: But now you're telling me that this guy was a
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: grower and not a shower. I mean, now I'm kind
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: of like, do I.
• 44:35
  Speaker 3: Give small pp a chance because I may be surprised.
• 44:39
  Speaker 5: The thing with with that situation was that I'm not
• 44:42
  Speaker 5: around a lot of soft dicks, like I'm usually just
• 44:44
  Speaker 5: start like making out with somebody and there they get hard,
• 44:46
  Speaker 5: you know. So it was like but it was just
• 44:48
  Speaker 5: kind of whatever that situation was. But yeah, so if
• 44:51
  Speaker 5: you if there's a small dick that's soft, you've got
• 44:53
  Speaker 5: to give it a chance because you just don't know.
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: You just literally don't know what's going to happen. Can
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: I ask you, though? How did you have to get
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: it up? Have you ever had to put a soft pepa?
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: It's like a slug, It's like putting a deflated balloon
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: in your mouth.
• 45:07
  Speaker 5: It was not good. I got there with hand stuff.
• 45:13
  Speaker 5: I'm just really vigorous, and what you massaged it with
• 45:17
  Speaker 5: your index finger and saw.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: That first Yeah, kill. It was just that's you know,
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: I can't listen. This guy was very hot and he
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: was worth trying. I would have sat there all day long. Really, yeah,
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: oh no, it's just he was that fine yeah, but again,
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: the dick is amazing.
• 45:34
  Speaker 5: It just had to get you know, it just it
• 45:37
  Speaker 5: started small. So I just anyone listening, like, if you
• 45:40
  Speaker 5: don't freak out and be like, oh my god, it's
• 45:42
  Speaker 5: so small, they can run from the room because it
• 45:44
  Speaker 5: could just not grow much, but or it could just
• 45:47
  Speaker 5: balloon up. I was like, let's just see, I can't
• 45:51
  Speaker 5: what do here? Like I'm going to dedicate my inject well,
• 45:57
  Speaker 5: I was like, I want to fuck him, you know
• 45:58
  Speaker 5: what I mean? Like, yeah, and I had an end
• 46:01
  Speaker 5: goal too, so we all have the same goals. I
• 46:04
  Speaker 5: just we had to work together as a team. I
• 46:08
  Speaker 5: told it right about it.
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: I was like, it was a journey. I will tell
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: you it was such a journey, but it probably it
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: probably made it so much better.
• 46:19
  Speaker 5: I was thinking, like in my head because I hadn't
• 46:22
  Speaker 5: really encountered something quite like this before where it like
• 46:24
  Speaker 5: really took a long time to get to that point.
• 46:26
  Speaker 5: And again we've been drinking and stuff like that, Like
• 46:28
  Speaker 5: I don't think I had sex with this guy again
• 46:30
  Speaker 5: and it wasn't a problem at all.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: Maybe there was nerves invaulved whatever it was. So let
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: me let me ask you this. Do you think that
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: there's anything too.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: Like, if you like a dude, you meet up with him,
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: you let him hit it the first night, do you
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: think there's more of a chance of him calling or
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: not calling you back? Or do you think that you
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: should only fuck on the first night if you don't
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: care about them?
• 46:49
  Speaker 4: Tell me, thank you so much. We'll talk about this forever.
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: First of all, Ashley and I do not think there's
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: like a way to game the system. We think that
• 46:57
  Speaker 3: you should have sex when you feel ready and comfortable
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: to have sex, And we say it all the time.
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: Having sex with somebody.
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: Is not going to make somebody not want to date you,
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: and withholding sex is not going to make them date you.
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: I agree, you know, listen, you fuck when you want
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: to and then have no expectations afterwards. But also there's
• 47:14
  Speaker 3: no reason to not wait, so you do whatever feels
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: good to you.
• 47:18
  Speaker 5: I love that we did a whole episode on this.
• 47:20
  Speaker 5: I mean, it's just I think at this stage of
• 47:22
  Speaker 5: my life, if I met somebody, went out with them
• 47:25
  Speaker 5: and they lived in a city that was doable for
• 47:29
  Speaker 5: me to date them, and they felt like a real
• 47:31
  Speaker 5: partner in terms of like looking at somebody like this
• 47:33
  Speaker 5: isn't just like a fling. This isn't some like super
• 47:36
  Speaker 5: young guy that lives across the country or whatever. It
• 47:38
  Speaker 5: is Like, if I really from what we have on paper,
• 47:40
  Speaker 5: they seem like somebody that could be a real match
• 47:42
  Speaker 5: for me. I probably wouldn't sleep in them the first
• 47:44
  Speaker 5: night because I just think we don't have to. But
• 47:46
  Speaker 5: if I was feeling it, I would. I mean, I've
• 47:48
  Speaker 5: just I've done both Ran and I have both fucked
• 47:50
  Speaker 5: guys the first night that turned out to be our boyfriends.
• 47:52
  Speaker 5: There was no like whoa like theyre weren't interested after that.
• 47:55
  Speaker 5: It's also but I think at this point, I'm like,
• 47:57
  Speaker 5: there's no we can make out the first night and
• 47:59
  Speaker 5: we can you know, do it another time, or I
• 48:01
  Speaker 5: think there's nothing wrong with leaving somebody wanting more. So
• 48:04
  Speaker 5: I also think it's how you act afterwards. So I
• 48:07
  Speaker 5: think that if you if you know that when someone
• 48:10
  Speaker 5: penetrates you, you're gonna get really feeling really attached to them,
• 48:13
  Speaker 5: even if chemically. And I think the times when I've
• 48:16
  Speaker 5: slept with somebody the first night and they've pursued me
• 48:20
  Speaker 5: heavily after to like date, it's because I was pretty
• 48:23
  Speaker 5: chill about it. It wasn't like a what are we
• 48:25
  Speaker 5: the next morning? You know, I think it's or you
• 48:28
  Speaker 5: gave them the best cookie of their life.
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, good for you.
• 48:33
  Speaker 5: I did have a drive five hours round trip this
• 48:35
  Speaker 5: past time in California to have sex be so I
• 48:37
  Speaker 5: was feeling pretty good about it.
• 48:38
  Speaker 3: God, I have to like meet you guys in person
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: and you have to take I'm all for all of this.
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: You guys are so much fun. Let's do it. I'm
• 48:48
  Speaker 3: with Ashley too, though, I think for me, at least,
• 48:50
  Speaker 3: sex is better when I'm a little more comfortable with
• 48:53
  Speaker 3: the first I want to like do all kinds of
• 48:56
  Speaker 3: crazy shit and sixty nine if you had talk dirty,
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna let loose like that with a
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: brand new person. And I think about, like the last
• 49:03
  Speaker 3: person I dated very seriously. It was long distance and
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: we were like texting and talking on the phone for
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: weeks before we met in person. So by the time
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: I met him, I was like, I know this person.
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: I'm comfortable with this person. I trust this person totally.
• 49:14
  Speaker 3: I have no problem coming to oury sex. I want
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: to like suck your dick. I want to do all
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: this stuff, but I'm not gonna necessarily feel so like
• 49:21
  Speaker 3: loose and ready with like a brand new person that
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: like lives down the street that I just met. So
• 49:26
  Speaker 3: I'm with Ashley, no reason to not wait. You have
• 49:28
  Speaker 3: all the time in the world. You have all the
• 49:30
  Speaker 3: time in the world. I agree. I'm getting back into
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: this like dating game. I've I've realized I'm not ready
• 49:36
  Speaker 3: to have sex yet. I still need to like get
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: comfortable with my sexuality again and come into my own
• 49:44
  Speaker 3: I'm like a brand new person. Basically, I'm not ready.
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: I'm like nervous. Absolutely, yeah, you don't.
• 49:52
  Speaker 5: But also it's like the thing that we always say
• 49:55
  Speaker 5: is it's hard to think about your body being like
• 49:59
  Speaker 5: ready for sex when we're sitting here in the middle
• 50:01
  Speaker 5: of the day. I think the thing with sex is
• 50:03
  Speaker 5: like we always say, like someone needs to make me
• 50:05
  Speaker 5: want to have sex to them so badly, like oh,
• 50:08
  Speaker 5: I want to be like making out and being like
• 50:12
  Speaker 5: whatever you're doing and be like so hot and heavy,
• 50:14
  Speaker 5: Like you'll know when you're right to have sex, you'll
• 50:16
  Speaker 5: feel it in your body.
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: Maybe that's what it is.
• 50:18
  Speaker 5: Like go into it being like I feel comfortable kissing
• 50:21
  Speaker 5: tonight and make it. You could be making out with somebody.
• 50:23
  Speaker 5: They could get you to a point where you're like,
• 50:25
  Speaker 5: all I want to do is fuck this person. Like, right,
• 50:27
  Speaker 5: I've gone into situations where I'm like, there's no way
• 50:29
  Speaker 5: I'm fucking a night.
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: I'm not in the mood. We just did a show,
• 50:31
  Speaker 3: whatever it may be.
• 50:32
  Speaker 5: And then it comes down to it and it's like, well,
• 50:34
  Speaker 5: this guy's hot and he's doing all the right things,
• 50:37
  Speaker 5: and then your body actually is ready.
• 50:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, before you know it, he's munching the cookie and
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: you're having all the fun in the world.
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: I think you should give yourself time.
• 50:45
  Speaker 3: I think that, like, what you went through is like
• 50:48
  Speaker 3: pretty traumatic in terms of being betrayed by a person
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: that you thought you felt safe with, and so I
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: think it takes extra long to come back from that.
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: If it takes six months, if it takes a year, like,
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: it's not going to feel good if you do it
• 51:00
  Speaker 3: and you're not ready. So why not just take the
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: time to like process what happen, raise your daughter, do
• 51:08
  Speaker 3: it whenever you feel ready, because it's a lot to
• 51:10
  Speaker 3: process somebody betraying your trust. No, you put it perfectly.
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: And also I got to wait for the PI investigation
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: to come back.
• 51:17
  Speaker 3: Which is a few weeks.
• 51:20
  Speaker 4: Oh, I was wondering if the turnaround time it's in depth.
• 51:23
  Speaker 3: He was like, how in depth do you want to go?
• 51:24
  Speaker 3: I was like, balls deep, to the bottom, to the
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: bottom of the barrel.
• 51:29
  Speaker 5: I have just picturing this PI like outside someone's home
• 51:32
  Speaker 5: with like a camera. He's like hiding into the bushes,
• 51:34
  Speaker 5: dressed like you are now just like getting fun.
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: No, I'm sure he's like this bitch is crazy because
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: I just like send him names. I'm like, here he is,
• 51:40
  Speaker 3: this is his age, here's his birthday, here's a picture
• 51:43
  Speaker 3: of him. And he's like sounds good. Yeah. She was like, whoa,
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: this bitch is wounded.
• 51:48
  Speaker 4: They don't hear from you for two weeks. You're like, sorry,
• 51:50
  Speaker 4: my investigator was wrapping up.
• 51:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. Yeah.
• 51:55
  Speaker 4: If someone asked you about You're like, I'll be back.
• 51:57
  Speaker 3: To you in two weeks. Then walked with an answer, No,
• 51:59
  Speaker 3: I have to like go and find dudes that like
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: will not listen to this podcast because they will immediately
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: run away. They'd be like, this bitch calls the PI.
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: I don't want to be on that radar. We need
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: to put this one behind a paywall, and I want
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: a guy that's like, I have nothing to hide, do it?
• 52:15
  Speaker 4: I dare you?
• 52:16
  Speaker 3: Right? Eee?
• 52:17
  Speaker 4: I me that's true.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: That would be hot. That would be enough to be like,
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: I don't think I need to. If you're seemed very
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: into this investigation, what if you end up.
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: Falling for the PI. Like that's the twist, Like, if
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: you know the I think the PI is way too
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: grown for me. He's hot though, he's pretty hot, is he? Yeah?
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: But he's like fifties and been there, done that. Twenty
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: eight is the youngest, and I want to.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: Say, like thirty eight would be the oldest, But again,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: you're talking to a wounded woman right now, So we'll see.
• 52:48
  Speaker 3: We'll say, maybe the PI has another PI friend and
• 52:50
  Speaker 3: they went to the I school together. You know, k
• 52:52
  Speaker 3: you up? Just ask him, We'll ask him. I love it.
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: I think you're in a great age range. They can
• 52:58
  Speaker 3: dick you down the fuck a lot, over and over again.
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: Twenty eight to thirty eight fields, that's that is the
• 53:04
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• 53:11
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• 53:29
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• 53:45
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• 54:00
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• 54:03
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