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Happy Hour #151: New House, Who Dis? · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anna and Samantha.
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  Speaker 2: I'm welcome to steff I never told you production by
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  Speaker 2: Heart Radio.
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  Speaker 1: And welcome to another edition of wine. Except I don't
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  Speaker 1: have a wine. I just have water. So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: say hydrated. How about that? Oh yeah, I know, right,
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  Speaker 1: are you slipping on something?
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  Speaker 2: Anny, I am. I think we're in the same boat
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  Speaker 2: as a lot of people in the US right now.
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  Speaker 2: It is very cold. We hope everyone's doing well. I
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  Speaker 2: heated up some water and put a splash of whiskey, lemon, ginger, cinnamon.
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  Speaker 2: Very nice.
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  Speaker 1: Nice, that's actually that was smart. So you can't have teas,
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  Speaker 1: you can't do a hot Nope, that's a good way
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  Speaker 1: to go. Yes, So we are not currently sponsored by anything.
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  Speaker 1: Just FYI, if you are drinking something a B safe,
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  Speaker 1: be conscient, just on what you were taking. Stay hydrated,
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  Speaker 1: stay warm, and yeah, do what you need to to
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  Speaker 1: be at your best self. And then that means just
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  Speaker 1: laying about. Do that because that is also delightful. With
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  Speaker 1: a heated blanket is even better. Annie. Just so you know,
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  Speaker 1: Samantha's really pushing for Reid to get I love heated blankets.
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  Speaker 1: I know there could be some hazards. Don't use it
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  Speaker 1: all the time, but when you're sitting in a cold
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  Speaker 1: office and you wrap it around you, it's perfect. It's perfect.
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  Speaker 1: Just so you know. But today for my hydrated session,
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  Speaker 1: I had the weirdest thing happened. And I've already told
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  Speaker 1: you this, and I'm really kind of like wondering the
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  Speaker 1: level that people really go to for their businesses and
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  Speaker 1: for you know, just trying to make money. And don't
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  Speaker 1: get me wrong, you gotta make money. You have to live.
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  Speaker 1: The system sucks to a certain extent, and doing things
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  Speaker 1: like running your own business, being in real estate, being
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  Speaker 1: any of those things, you have to do what you
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  Speaker 1: have to do to make connections. It really sucks that
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  Speaker 1: a lot of networking is involved to truly actually be successful,
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  Speaker 1: and it's not just all about good work, which I'm
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  Speaker 1: not saying this person doesn't do good work. I have
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  Speaker 1: no idea, but the levels that we go through, and
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  Speaker 1: I think I also think about this with like the pyramids,
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  Speaker 1: pyramid schemes and the MLMs. It kind of just there
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  Speaker 1: seems to be a crossing of boundaries, which I find
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  Speaker 1: kind of concerning. Like I respect you doing what you
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  Speaker 1: need to do, but at the same time, the audacity
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  Speaker 1: and entitlement that it comes with kind of throws me.
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  Speaker 1: And again, if I'm your friend and we have been
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  Speaker 1: there for each other, that's one thing. Like the person
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  Speaker 1: who help me buy my house, y'all know her. She's
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  Speaker 1: a friend of the show Melody. She's one of the
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  Speaker 1: I think, one of the best realtors that could be
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  Speaker 1: out there. She did a lot in making sure I
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  Speaker 1: got my perfect house. But I also trusted her because
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  Speaker 1: she was also a good friend. She is also a
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  Speaker 1: good friend, So I know her, so I know her
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  Speaker 1: business ethics. I know that she knows what I want
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to a house. I know that she
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  Speaker 1: has the ethical level of what I want in buying
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  Speaker 1: that house as well. And so we've even had an
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  Speaker 1: episode about buying houses responsibly and not being a part
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  Speaker 1: of the problem when it comes to gentrification and what
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  Speaker 1: that looks like, especially in areas like Atlanta. So stuff
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  Speaker 1: like that, like that is one thing she's never ever
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  Speaker 1: tried to come at me, be like you should buy
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  Speaker 1: these things, you know, like trying to add things or
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  Speaker 1: trying you know, So like I have gotten several and
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure I'm not the only one posts or or
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  Speaker 1: dms on Facebook on things like hey, you should come
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  Speaker 1: to this little party and the thing you think is like,
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  Speaker 1: for a while it was the zoom things online. Come
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  Speaker 1: to this and you're like, we should want to catch up.
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  Speaker 1: Just a bunch of girls hanging out, and it turns
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  Speaker 1: out they're trying to sell makeup. I've not talked to
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  Speaker 1: you in ten years. I have not talked to some
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  Speaker 1: of these people in twenty five years because I haven't
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  Speaker 1: seen them since high school. But because Facebook connects you,
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  Speaker 1: you start getting random invites, two chats that you want
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  Speaker 1: nothing to do with, and you find out it's for
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  Speaker 1: sponges or some of the most random things. It's kind
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  Speaker 1: of like that one time where I lived with a person.
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  Speaker 1: It was like an emergency situation. She had a condo.
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  Speaker 1: She was looking for a roommate to help alleviate her
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  Speaker 1: rent and I was like, yeah, a kid, I would
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  Speaker 1: love to that's okay, blah blah blah. Everything was okay
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  Speaker 1: until her boyfriend came in the picture. Such strangest thing
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  Speaker 1: where her boyfriend was a part of a pyramid scheme.
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  Speaker 1: I did not know this at the time, and he
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  Speaker 1: brought in the worst paper towels. I hated them. They
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  Speaker 1: were like that you really like it, didn't pick up anything,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the cheap cheap, and then like these sponges
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  Speaker 1: and all these things. I didn't think I knew of it.
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  Speaker 1: He came over a lot, and I was trying to like, okay, whatever,
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  Speaker 1: it's cool, boyfriend. I don't technically own this house, but
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  Speaker 1: we're here and she's a very cool person because she
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  Speaker 1: and I got along really well. And then this was
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  Speaker 1: years ago, and then like he came in and I
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  Speaker 1: had bought sponges or something because I realized we were
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  Speaker 1: low or something or it was old, and I was
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  Speaker 1: like I get this dude comes in. I don't even
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  Speaker 1: think she was there that day because he started he
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  Speaker 1: had his own key and he just kind of walked
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  Speaker 1: in sometimes that I was like, what's going on, hey,
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  Speaker 1: and he's like, you know, oh, my girlfriend's coming later,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, weird. I've talked to her about
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  Speaker 1: this later, but okay. And the one time, like I remember,
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  Speaker 1: I was sitting there and he was like, hey, did
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  Speaker 1: you buy these sponges? I was like, yeah, uh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I thought I saw that we need new ones. And
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  Speaker 1: he was like, oh, that's so sweet of you, that's
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  Speaker 1: so kind. But honestly, we these sponges that I bring.
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  Speaker 1: So if you don't mind, don't worry. I please don't
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  Speaker 1: buy anything else. And I was like, when you don't
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  Speaker 1: live here? Two? What a condescending? What? And so it
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  Speaker 1: it turned out that he had gotten her to buy
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  Speaker 1: all his stuff so that he can make a living.
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  Speaker 1: This also escalated when she was gone on a trip
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  Speaker 1: for a week and I knew she was gone. I
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  Speaker 1: was hanging out in the house. The dude walks in
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  Speaker 1: in the middle of the night, like it was like
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  Speaker 1: ten o'clock at night. It's like hey, and goes to
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  Speaker 1: the bedroom and it comes out and starts eating and
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  Speaker 1: sits next to me, and I'm like, what's happening? And
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  Speaker 1: I texted her. I was like, uh so and so
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  Speaker 1: is here? Why? And she was like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I'll tell him to leave. Dude left
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  Speaker 1: the next day, oh wow, after sleeping there, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like I immediately packed up and left because like
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  Speaker 1: those two things. I was like, no, no, we can't.
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  Speaker 1: We can't be doing this. We can't be having dude
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  Speaker 1: telling me I can't buy things in my own place
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  Speaker 1: that I'm paying rent for as well as just walking in.
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  Speaker 1: But recently I had I have the notifications on my
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  Speaker 1: phone or I get emails rather about what's coming in
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  Speaker 1: the mail. I started doing this because well, there was
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  Speaker 1: a place where I was missing things I was missing,
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  Speaker 1: like letters from Social Security Office and like tax information
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  Speaker 1: from the IRS. I'm like, all right, I need to
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  Speaker 1: know what's coming and I need to complain if things
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  Speaker 1: are missing. Apparently there's this whole thing where in Atlanta
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  Speaker 1: postal service people, not all of them, because I have
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  Speaker 1: a great postal service person, They're very nice whatever, but
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  Speaker 1: had really apparently dumped just letters in a ditch because
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  Speaker 1: they didn't want to deliver them that day, and they
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  Speaker 1: found and the news people found them. So like, I
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  Speaker 1: like to get notifications to know that if I need
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  Speaker 1: to go and like figure out what's going on, it's
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  Speaker 1: coming of package. You know, a lot of bad things
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  Speaker 1: happen and people things that take things out of the mailbox,
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  Speaker 1: all those different things. And I noticed that I was
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  Speaker 1: getting a letter and it was a handwritten personal letter.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, huh, that's very rare. Let's be honest.
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  Speaker 1: In the world of emails and DMS, you don't get
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  Speaker 1: the and it was around Christmas time, so I was like,
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  Speaker 1: maybe Christmas whatever, But it's from a dude that I
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  Speaker 1: have not talked to since junior or maybe sophomore year
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  Speaker 1: of college. So over twenty years, over twenty years talked
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  Speaker 1: to them, have not talked to them on Facebook, have
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  Speaker 1: no interaction whatsoever. Dude doesn't even know if I still
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  Speaker 1: live in Georgia technically, Like, there's nothing that really says much.
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  Speaker 1: For a little while, I was active on Facebook and
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  Speaker 1: giving my status like every other millennial and Gen xer
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  Speaker 1: and still boomers that do it today, but like I
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  Speaker 1: haven't posted anything. I just I go on there for
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  Speaker 1: my one game that I really like that had to
• 9:00
  Speaker 1: bargain with people to get stickers, which Annie was present for,
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  Speaker 1: and as well as telling me events and people's birthdays,
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  Speaker 1: like that's what Facebook is for me. So I was like,
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  Speaker 1: what in the hell is this? Why? How does he
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  Speaker 1: have my address? Again? Remember I just moved to my
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  Speaker 1: place last a year or so ago, and I have
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  Speaker 1: lived in ten ten ten places since since college. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm starting to figure out what is this? Is something
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  Speaker 1: going on? What is happening? Is this? Is this an
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  Speaker 1: issue that I should know. And so I'm like waiting
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  Speaker 1: and like freaking out a little bit. This is causing
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  Speaker 1: me an anxiety, and I run out and it's in my mailbox.
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  Speaker 1: So I pull it out and again the dude, uh
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  Speaker 1: it has opened. I opened it. There's a post it
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  Speaker 1: on a very on a typed or printed letter that says, hey, Sam,
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  Speaker 1: it's been a long time. We should catch up. What
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  Speaker 1: the So I open it up and it's sure, yep,
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  Speaker 1: it is exactly what you think. This dude has decided
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  Speaker 1: to not do what he's doing or what he was
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  Speaker 1: doing and go into real estate and was like, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: I live in this amazing area. I love this place.
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  Speaker 1: You know my family and I felt really at home now,
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  Speaker 1: and you know I've made the huge decision to change
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  Speaker 1: my life and start this new career. I would love
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  Speaker 1: to show you property in this area, which is by way,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, in a completely different state. So I
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  Speaker 1: was like, what the hell? So this person not only
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  Speaker 1: went and looked for my information, which I try to
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  Speaker 1: figure out, like I looked up my own name outside
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  Speaker 1: of like knowing what I do, because obviously anything my
• 10:41
  Speaker 1: name is put typically on anything with the podcast or
• 10:43
  Speaker 1: what we've been doing, or on a podcast, because again
• 10:46
  Speaker 1: I get a lot of credits for being on Behind
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  Speaker 1: the Bus. There it's only four times out of there
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  Speaker 1: millions of episodes, but that's my claim to fame apparently,
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  Speaker 1: not the not our podcast, Anny, not our podcast, of course.
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  Speaker 1: But I was like, what the hell? And yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: I finally found my name and I did find my
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  Speaker 1: address online, but it took me to get to like,
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  Speaker 1: I think, like the the tenth Samantha mcveigh's, and like,
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't know me that well that he would know
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  Speaker 1: my family, so it would be hard to associate. I
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  Speaker 1: doubt he knew my middle name, and so I'm still
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  Speaker 1: trying to figure that one out. And I'm like, how
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  Speaker 1: the And there was another Samantha McVey in Kennesaw. As
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  Speaker 1: we know, my new sister in law is now Samantha
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  Speaker 1: McVey as well, So like all of these things that
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  Speaker 1: he hunted, and I think and if anybody's in real estate,
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  Speaker 1: y y'all can tell me. I have a feeling they
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  Speaker 1: do have access to more information I don't know through
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  Speaker 1: their real estate stuff. But again, I don't know how
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  Speaker 1: it works interstate because he is not he does not
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  Speaker 1: have I wouldn't guess a license in Georgia because he's
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  Speaker 1: in a different state and he's been there for a minute,
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  Speaker 1: and that's where he started his real estate venture. But
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  Speaker 1: like the fact that he looked me up for that,
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  Speaker 1: to send me a random request to buy property in
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  Speaker 1: his area, it feels both insulting and so disturbing. I
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  Speaker 1: really like, I don't want to even reach out because
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to acknowledge that I got it, because
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to confirm that he found me right.
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  Speaker 1: But at the same time, I'm like, I want to know,
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  Speaker 1: what did you do to find my specific information or
• 12:23
  Speaker 1: did you just send out a letter to a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of Samantha mcvays and hoping that one of them was me? Like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't understand, and I Yo, I am really disturbed
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  Speaker 1: by this because we've already talked about so many issues.
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  Speaker 1: I got people trying to find us. We talk about
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: very sensitive subjects sometimes, and like, Annie, you've talked about
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  Speaker 1: being docs for a video that you didn't even you
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  Speaker 1: only produced. So all of these things makes me really
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  Speaker 1: nervous and I'm concerned and I'm like, what is this?
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  Speaker 1: But again, I'm also really annoyed that this dude that
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  Speaker 1: I have no connection to would targets me in such
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  Speaker 1: a way that feels violating to try to get me
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  Speaker 1: to buy property at a place I don't want.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it is. It is upsetting when things like
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  Speaker 2: that happened because you realize, like, yes, unfortunately, people can
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  Speaker 2: get your address. We had an incident several years ago
• 13:25
  Speaker 2: at our office one with the docsing thing, but then
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  Speaker 2: we had a legitimate stalker and we had to get
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: security and stuff. But we used to have a thing
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  Speaker 2: called delete Me. Not currently a sponsor, but they would
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  Speaker 2: go through and they'd find your address, and it was
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  Speaker 2: it was creepy, like it would it would be places
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  Speaker 2: I'd lived barely, Like, how did anybody know about this?
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  Speaker 1: This is?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, of course, because we have to use address,
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  Speaker 2: of course they know about it. But it was just like, wow,
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  Speaker 2: that was very specific. Okay, But it's also upsetting to
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  Speaker 2: kind of think on on the lighter side that when
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  Speaker 2: that stuff happens, you feel like such a commodity, like
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  Speaker 2: they just feel like, literally, I want to I need
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  Speaker 2: to improve my business. Well here's a person maybe I can.
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  Speaker 1: That's the other part is that again I don't live
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  Speaker 1: in that state. Right, if you found my address through
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  Speaker 1: a real estate route, you should know that I just
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  Speaker 1: bought my house, so I'm not seeing it anytime soon.
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  Speaker 1: So what as well as the fact, like again, I
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  Speaker 1: weren't even that close to begin with, we had like
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  Speaker 1: a funny times and we would hang out through groups
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  Speaker 1: of people mm hmm for a little bit, but after
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  Speaker 1: like our groups disbanded, we didn't hang out. And that
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  Speaker 1: was literally for one year of my college life and
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  Speaker 1: since then, and not only that, you write me, you
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  Speaker 1: send me a printed letter that is a generic printed
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  Speaker 1: letter that's literally like an ad where I posted, and
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  Speaker 1: don't even explain how you found like like none of
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: there's so many things to be like. You know, I've
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  Speaker 1: had some bad I guess bad enough when I get
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  Speaker 1: a Facebook mess but at least I know how we
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  Speaker 1: connected it. And I'm like, I'm still annoyed, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: not like offended. You know, you do what you need
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  Speaker 1: to do. I got you. I click out of it,
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  Speaker 1: move on or say no thank you. Right, but this
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  Speaker 1: was like I will say, it got my attention, it
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  Speaker 1: got me annoyed, it has me annoyed more annoyed. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm like I guess maybe it works. Will I use him? No? Sorry?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like there's a strange thing that's going
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  Speaker 2: on there of both, Like there's the idea of like,
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: look how much work I put in, but clearly he didn't,
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: but like the idea I tracked you down. And but
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: it's also we've talked about this in my episode that
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: was like when men don't get it. It's true women
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  Speaker 2: can be creepy and get candy stockers, but if I
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  Speaker 2: get like a letter from a man I haven't heard
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  Speaker 2: from it in a long time, it's like I know
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  Speaker 2: where you live. Essentially that would give me pause. It's
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  Speaker 2: not like you're It's not like I'm like, Wow, he
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  Speaker 2: found me.
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  Speaker 1: He's more like, oh god, he found it. How did
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: you find me?
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  Speaker 2: So I can block at that block And if he
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  Speaker 2: don't even explain, it shows that he doesn't realize how
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  Speaker 2: strange that is and how kind of disturbing it is, right.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, and then I started thinking about it too,
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  Speaker 1: like old school ways like phone books existed and enlisted
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  Speaker 1: your address, but like even now with the yellow pages
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  Speaker 1: and the white pages, it's still a little harder to
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  Speaker 1: do so, and you couldn't do it if you didn't
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  Speaker 1: live in that area. Which does anybody get phone books?
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  Speaker 1: Do they still exist? Do phone books still exist?
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  Speaker 2: Ah, I mean they still exist. I don't know if
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  Speaker 2: they make new ones, but I mean yeah, huh.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway, but like I know what those things happened. I
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  Speaker 1: know once upon a time we were a trusting country,
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  Speaker 1: trusting people that were like, no big deal. But it's
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  Speaker 1: a little more again, he I know, he has to
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  Speaker 1: put this as I'm annoyed, not necessarily scared, except for
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  Speaker 1: the implications that other people could find me obviously, and
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: we know that you can pay for information. Anyone can
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  Speaker 1: pay for information, and we are technically known like we
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  Speaker 1: are social media. We have a social media presence. We
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  Speaker 1: have a media presence at this point. So I get
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  Speaker 1: all of that, but the level that just like the uncomfortableness,
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  Speaker 1: the awkwardness, the anxiety it gave me to see that,
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  Speaker 1: which made me in my own fault again, also like
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  Speaker 1: I'm a little bit paranoid. I've watched a lot of movies,
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: watch too many true prime things sometimes and that I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: maybe he's coming to tell me, like he's someone faked
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: being him, that I had a connection and that this
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: is something else like poison in an envelope? Like that's
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: another thought I had, y'all. I went all through the
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: gamut on this envelope. You know what I'm saying.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: I know, I totally do tell you about my I
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: have somebody who contacts me. If you're listening, I'm sure
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: this is like really is I also have issues with
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: my keyboard. But every message they send, certain letters are capitalized,
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: and I'm like.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: What does this mean? A ransomware co this is some
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: kind of like.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: Coded message, but what is it? So I get you, I.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Understand, Yeah, Like there are so many things, but I
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: was like, what is happening? But again, just the audacity
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: of it that I'm like, I have gotten letters, but
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: like typically I've gotten letters from people who are asked
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: me for my address. M hmm, I have gotten those. Recently,
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: someone sent an email like, hey, when send Christmas cars,
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: give me address, So like that that makes sense to me.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: And I might not have seen them for years or
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: I'm only you know like that, but that actually has
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: like some courtesy to it, and I know it's coming.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: This was a whole level of like what guess this?
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, yeah, yeah, and you and I were talking
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: about LinkedIn recently, uh, and so like I haven't gotten that.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: And I do get as you were saying, you have
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: a business, you're trying to make it work. I understand,
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: but I feel like I get a lot of stuff
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: on LinkedIn that is like send me your dress.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Uh.
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: And it's usually a man who is like, I want
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: I'm running the women led conference and I think you
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: should come, And I'm like, hmm, interesting, right, know how
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: I feel about that? Right right? Yeah, So it's it's
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: hard to because there is that level of you know,
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: people are just trying to make it. But when something
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: like that happens and they're just skip to step and
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: have your address.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: That's the thing. I think if you'd just like sent
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: me a message saying, hey, I wanted to send these
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: out let you know this information, give you some information
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: about my job that was that would have been a
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: lot more understandable, a lot more personable and love more
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: courteous than the post it which kind of as related
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: to a Sex and the City episode we're going to
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: come upon in a few years.
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: I'll look forward to its real the right We're going
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: not a time soon, but yeah, like it just it
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: was such a weird moment of this level of like,
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: good on you for doing new business.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Hopefully it's less stressed for what it was previously. Y'all
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: have done some cool things. I've seen some things on Facebook.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: Never interacted in those, but cool. But that was that
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: point of like, how do you think this makes? This
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: makes no sense and I can't. I wonder, like, I'm
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: sure he did it with other people that he knew
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: from college as well, I guess from college, because I'm like,
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: have you not met more people in the last twenty
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: years that you could reach out to first? There's so
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: many questions though, but again I don't want him to
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: know he found me.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's an email you never you don't
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: cook unsubscribed because then they know you exist unsubscribe. Well
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: it might have changed now, but when I was in college,
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: you were not supposed to hit unsubscribed because then they
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: knew it was actually someone and then they would just
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: like you more.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: That makes sense.
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I said, perhaps the technology has changed, perhaps
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: big companies have gotten sued over it and they don't
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: do it anymore. But for our time, that was the
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: wisdom was you didn't you just pretended like it never
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: you never got it, maybe blocked it as spam or something.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: Block it. Okay, that's yeah, I'll remember.
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: Okay, we're learning it.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: We're learning things today.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Yes, well, I would love to hear from listeners. If
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: you've had this experience, it is it is like you said,
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: the implications are frightening of like the data that we
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: all know this, but it is like, oh okay.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: Still to see it done. You're like, what.
• 22:13
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