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Monday Mini: Hello, 2022! · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Danny and Samantha, and welcome to stuff
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  Speaker 1: I've never told you proectually. I heart radio. Do you
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  Speaker 1: throw yourself off by the introduction? I threw myself off
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  Speaker 1: on the introduction? You know. I have to still write
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  Speaker 1: it down, even though we've been doing this many years,
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  Speaker 1: and I still mess it up, and sometimes I'll even
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  Speaker 1: mess up my name, and so for a while I
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  Speaker 1: was right, that's amazing. I still write it down to
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  Speaker 1: even though I'm not the one that's doing the introduction
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  Speaker 1: at all. I never do well. I appreciate that. I
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  Speaker 1: appreciate that a lot. Well. Okay, off on that start,
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  Speaker 1: wonderful start. As this comes out, it is officially January two,
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  Speaker 1: which some have that correct me because I wrote down
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  Speaker 1: already making that mistake. Granted we're recording previously to this,
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  Speaker 1: so it's okay, yes, thank you, thank you. I'm sure
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  Speaker 1: it will happen plenty, even though two is my favorite number. Yes, yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: So we're hoping you're all doing well and you had
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  Speaker 1: a nice New Year's um and so yeah, cheat, we
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  Speaker 1: are recording this December, so it's like a message from
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  Speaker 1: the past. But what do you suspect do you have
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  Speaker 1: any plans that you're gonna do on New Year's Eve
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  Speaker 1: or New Year's Day, How do you think you're going
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  Speaker 1: to spend it? I have no idea because there are
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  Speaker 1: so many ups and downs and new things that are
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  Speaker 1: happening for this year. I've already kind of shared that
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  Speaker 1: this is my first time that I'm gonna be spending
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  Speaker 1: with my partner's family for Christmas, and it feels weird.
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  Speaker 1: So I've never done holiday exchange, essentially where you go
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  Speaker 1: with your partner to whatever. He came with me to Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going with him to Christmas. But since his family
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  Speaker 1: lives out of state, of course you wouldn't do it extended,
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  Speaker 1: and my family do not a lot of states. They
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  Speaker 1: just get one day visit. So I have no idea
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  Speaker 1: because we have no plans, and you and I are
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  Speaker 1: trying to make sure that we do have some time
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  Speaker 1: off from the typical recording schedule. So who knows. But
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  Speaker 1: my favorite thing to do is to sit on the
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  Speaker 1: couch with my dog. I think last year I was
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  Speaker 1: wearing a comfy so we'll see how cold it is
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  Speaker 1: this year, whether I find a onesie comfy or my robe,
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  Speaker 1: which I do look like a nice suburban mother in
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  Speaker 1: my robe, something along those lines, drinking a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of champagne just to say Happy New Year, on the couch,
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  Speaker 1: do some texting, going to bed. That's what I assume
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  Speaker 1: is going to happen. Do you ever do anything on
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  Speaker 1: the day? Uh? So you and I have done this,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, Typically I will go out and search for
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  Speaker 1: the typical US tradition of getting colored greens, black eyed peas,
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  Speaker 1: corn bread. What's the other one? Usually it's a pork yes,
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  Speaker 1: some kind of pork dish or such. Uh, And I
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  Speaker 1: will go and search for that. So whether it's going
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  Speaker 1: to restaurant, a barbecue restaurant, which we I have a
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  Speaker 1: favorite here that I go to and we're going to
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  Speaker 1: pick up food to bring it, I do go into
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  Speaker 1: search for that. That is my tradition. Yeah, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: anticipate something similar. I like, I have a I have
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  Speaker 1: a thing with numbers, and also I'm very sentimental, so
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  Speaker 1: I usually try to choose the movie that meant the
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  Speaker 1: most to me that year, the year I watched that,
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  Speaker 1: So it ends right around midnight, and then I watched
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  Speaker 1: the movie that I want that is my favorite movie,
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  Speaker 1: or the movie that I'm like into the most right
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  Speaker 1: then to start the new year. It doesn't have to
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  Speaker 1: happen right at midnight, but the day of I watched it.
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  Speaker 1: It's the first movie I watched Lately. I have been
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  Speaker 1: getting mac and cheese. Ye already got it? Start this tradition.
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  Speaker 1: We did. Yes, Yeah, we were at a local bar
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  Speaker 1: and I don't know why, I just got it in
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  Speaker 1: my head that I needed mac and cheese. Now it's
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  Speaker 1: just become I need mac and cheese. Were at a
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  Speaker 1: local bar on like New Year's near New Year's near
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  Speaker 1: New Year's Eve. It was the day before. Was it
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  Speaker 1: the day before? Because we had made it plans we had, yes,
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  Speaker 1: and we were doing a gift exchange. Yeah, that's the
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  Speaker 1: year I gave you that doll size mattress. Actually, I
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  Speaker 1: have an echo show that shows all my pictures from
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  Speaker 1: like my little Amazon photo. This is not a sponsor Amazon's.
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  Speaker 1: I know the devil, so we're not gonna go to
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  Speaker 1: into it. However, that picture from the bar that we
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  Speaker 1: took pops up pop up right now, that's so cute.
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  Speaker 1: It was. This is me ignoring your comment about you
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  Speaker 1: a gift. Fair enough. She did not like it. It
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  Speaker 1: was a joke. I thought it was hilarious. Um, I
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  Speaker 1: appreciated it. Yeah, and then we usually send pictures of
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  Speaker 1: each other, of ourselves and onesies to each other or
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  Speaker 1: something like that, and then the next day I also
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  Speaker 1: make the traditional Southern meal, but I've started doing it
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  Speaker 1: in soup form because I'm just like one person, so
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  Speaker 1: it's easier for me to make it. Also with the
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  Speaker 1: supply chain stuff, I've already got all the ingredients because
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  Speaker 1: they're all can stuff, so I don't have to worry
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  Speaker 1: about it. But it's just yeah, colored greens, black eyed peas,
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  Speaker 1: and sausage and then a hash champagne. That's usually I
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  Speaker 1: mean in my college years, it was usually a day
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  Speaker 1: of um being hungover, but now it's not more of
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  Speaker 1: a relaxing Yeah, I watched what movies I like? I'll
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  Speaker 1: play like, I'll probably play the last was too. I
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  Speaker 1: like to start with my favorite things at first day. However, yes,
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  Speaker 1: because we live in such a right now, everything feels
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  Speaker 1: up in the air and scary, and every time you
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  Speaker 1: think something is getting better, it gets worse. And last
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  Speaker 1: year we had an insurrection right after the New year. Like,
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  Speaker 1: uh it is. It has become something that I'm like oh,
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  Speaker 1: just please don't something. Do you have any like goals
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  Speaker 1: or anything you're looking forward to. I'm I'm I'm being
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  Speaker 1: open about like everybody, beat chill with the resolutions and goals.
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  Speaker 1: Be easy on yourself. You can still make them. I
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  Speaker 1: can't control anything you do, nor what I want to,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm just saying I think it's okay to do
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  Speaker 1: something that um like mine for instance, is going to
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  Speaker 1: be take better care of yourself. And I have kind
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  Speaker 1: of some specifics around that, because I know if you
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  Speaker 1: don't have a specific I'll never do it. But I
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  Speaker 1: just kind of really let a lot of things go
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  Speaker 1: through this pandemic, which I think, again, it's stressful and
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  Speaker 1: that's okay, but my body is starting to it is
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  Speaker 1: speaking up about its happy. Welcome to my world. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think I don't really have I've never done the goals.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, when I was younger, thinking I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: have a relationship and be the perfect woman, I had
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  Speaker 1: all of these traditions that I pulled from different things
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  Speaker 1: around the world, and I'll go, well, let me try this,
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  Speaker 1: maybe this is a better luck. But for me, I
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  Speaker 1: think I want to definitely I've been talking about this
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  Speaker 1: and I've started to get a little more prepped up
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  Speaker 1: into finding identity stuff. I've started experimenting with actual Korean
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  Speaker 1: food and creating it myself, and I stay delving into
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  Speaker 1: those memories again. So I think I'm going to try
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  Speaker 1: to do more. I've already got my little list of
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  Speaker 1: things that I want to try. Whether I throw it
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  Speaker 1: out into maybe telling my story, connecting with people about it.
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  Speaker 1: That's that would be a bigger goal for me, to
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  Speaker 1: truly sit down with it instead of being so fearful
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  Speaker 1: of it. And then part of that also accumulates to
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  Speaker 1: being lost, feeling lost a lot, so trying to kind
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  Speaker 1: of focus in on that and just just allow it
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  Speaker 1: to be there. I will say I've taken some time
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  Speaker 1: off from being retraumatized because when I was working in
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  Speaker 1: social work, I was so traumatized all the time that
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  Speaker 1: actually words, I'm like, oh, I don't have to think
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  Speaker 1: as deeply into this or have to live in this
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  Speaker 1: as much. So I've kind of just taken a break
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  Speaker 1: from that, including like anything too familiar that was from
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  Speaker 1: my job in social work or from my own trauma
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  Speaker 1: past I was trying to ignore all together. So it's
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  Speaker 1: really trying to dig into that a little more because
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  Speaker 1: I think I'm in a better trauma related space as
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  Speaker 1: versus to the regular social stress anxiety thing that we
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  Speaker 1: I think y'all will be able to kind of get
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  Speaker 1: a preview of soon, but I think I'm in a
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  Speaker 1: better place to search those questions for myself at forty
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  Speaker 1: and yeah, just realizing loving being able to be at
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  Speaker 1: forty and feeling like, Okay, I still feel like I'm
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  Speaker 1: twenty two, which is why we talked about, you know,
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  Speaker 1: my first episode of Are We Failures, because it's it's
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  Speaker 1: like I may have aged out on some of the
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  Speaker 1: things I still continue to do or haven't done, but
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  Speaker 1: being happy and where I am um with that and
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  Speaker 1: still trying the new things even though it feels tiresome. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and were triggering, Yeah, Yeah, I mean it's always like
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  Speaker 1: big proponents of self care and taking care of ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: But on a entertainment note, I'm really looking forward to
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  Speaker 1: Spider Verse the sequel, thanks to everyone who sent me messages.
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to the last of as TV show obviously,
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  Speaker 1: and all the Star Wars and Marvel stuff, So that's
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  Speaker 1: that's exciting. We did want to quickly go over some
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  Speaker 1: things we're watching out for as we go into one
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  Speaker 1: of the big ones being an unfortunately abortion. Yes, we've
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  Speaker 1: already talked at length. I guess the last year that
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  Speaker 1: we can say that was happening, but we're still very
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  Speaker 1: much keeping an eye out for what's going to happen
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  Speaker 1: in the future because it also does affect the Bonds
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  Speaker 1: Against Women's Act. I was just thinking about that recently,
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  Speaker 1: UM and funding in general, and we already know conversations
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  Speaker 1: about the High Amendment that's been had, the conversation about
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  Speaker 1: the gag rule which has been appealed but still in
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  Speaker 1: place for states, and we know all of that, but
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  Speaker 1: definitely watching to see what the Supreme Court is gonna do.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely watching to see if President Biden is going to
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  Speaker 1: to uh expand the Supreme Court, what that looks like.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna see if the testimonies of Kavanaugh and co
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  Speaker 1: and Barrett actually hold to their word saying that it
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  Speaker 1: didn't need to be changed since it was already established.
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  Speaker 1: But we know there's a lot of backtracking to that.
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  Speaker 1: UM her insensitive conversations about adoption. I'm not gonna flye.
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  Speaker 1: It triggered me. It triggered me a lot, and there's
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  Speaker 1: a lot of bigger conversations I want to have about that,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, it's it's interesting to see. And we are
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  Speaker 1: very cautious excited about the FDA ruling, cautious about what
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  Speaker 1: that looks like when the Supreme Court does decide to
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  Speaker 1: tackle the Mississippi law. Also very nervous about what's gonna
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  Speaker 1: happen at state level because we know, again we talked
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  Speaker 1: about it previously. We are we Annie and I are
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  Speaker 1: in Georgia, which is a southern state, though you know
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  Speaker 1: we all we did we were blue, essentially saying that
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  Speaker 1: we as a state gave votes to Biden. So that
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  Speaker 1: was delightful, but we already know things are changing. So yeah, nervous, yes, Well,
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  Speaker 1: speaking of that, we have Stacy Abrams running for governor. Yes, yes, yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I started her campaign and announced it as a governor
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  Speaker 1: finn only enough. David Purdue is back as well, who
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  Speaker 1: felt miserably in his Senate run, thank god, and I
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  Speaker 1: say miserably in that he really didn't know what to
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  Speaker 1: do with the Trumpian I guess tactics that weren't working
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  Speaker 1: in Atlanta because the black women and women of color
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  Speaker 1: in Georgia fought fiercely and victoriously to rally the people essentially,
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  Speaker 1: no matter whatever big things. But well, we'll I'm interested
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  Speaker 1: to see how he does it because I think he's
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  Speaker 1: coming back as a trumpion essentially, and I say that
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  Speaker 1: not condescendingly, but kind of doing the platform of promising
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  Speaker 1: to bring Trump back. So that's his tactics. So it'll
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  Speaker 1: be interesting to see what goes out essentially. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think we all, as a community of sminthy maybe
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  Speaker 1: this is just too much of a generalization, are pretty
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  Speaker 1: big fans of Stacey Amrams. Maybe it's just me. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like it's not. Um So very excited to see
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  Speaker 1: what happens. Hopefully we're gonna make a big turnaround. Also
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  Speaker 1: coming up in a probably a few weeks, our friend
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  Speaker 1: Melody is coming back with some exciting news. You've been
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  Speaker 1: listening to us talking about voting in Georgia for the
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  Speaker 1: last year. So excited. Yes, yes, so look after that,
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  Speaker 1: also related, we are going to be watching what happens
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  Speaker 1: with the Voting Rights Acts and all that stuff around
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  Speaker 1: that and jerryman ring. Yeah, I mean, these are just
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  Speaker 1: the things on on top of our mind right now.
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  Speaker 1: There's a lot going on that we're gonna be talking
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  Speaker 1: about and listeners. As always, we want to know what
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  Speaker 1: you want to hear, what's on your mind, what should
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  Speaker 1: and stuff I've never told you. Thanks. It's always to
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  Speaker 1: our super producer Christina. Thank you, thank you and happy
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