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Carried Forward - Episode 25: Miles to Remember, A Conversation with Betty · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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When life shapes us. When love anchors us, when lost
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changes us, we are not left behind.
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We are carried forward, held by faith, rooted in purpose,
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finding our way. This is carried forward, a space
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for stories of resilience, purpose and forward resolve.
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Hi, have you ever had a goal or just something that you've
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carried forward with you over years from be it all the times
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in your life from, you know, 30 years on to 16 years and it just
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stuck with you, but you never really had the time to focus on
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it. But then a time comes in your
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life when you have the capacity and even the friend to do it
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with. That is what I'm talking about
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today here on Carried Ford. I'm Sean and this in your host,
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this is my friend Betty Trivette, and she is here to
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talk about exactly that. We've been friends now.
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For over 16. Yeah, over 16 years and we're
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talking about running the Boston Marathon.
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And Betty and I were had the delightful adventure to run
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Austin Marathon back in 2010, back in 2010 together, we worked
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together at Brooks City Base and we became fast friends.
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And then we both realized that we enjoy running and we worked
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together and we trained together and we got to accomplish that
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goal of running a marathon for the first time.
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But we all always had in the back of our minds that we would
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love to run the Boston Marathon. So that's what I'm here with
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Betty today to talk about. We're going to talk about Betty
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and who she is and in a little bit more about how we met and
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our friendship over the years, and then let you in on some
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exciting news about our journey, which we're going to title Miles
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to Remember, which is going to get us to the Boston Marathon.
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We hope so. Thank you for being here.
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Thank you for inviting me. You want to tell us a little bit
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about who you are beyond our running adventures?
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A mom, a mom of two, my own and two bonus kids, A wife, a
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grandmother of seven. I worked HR for a government
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contractor for many years. That's where her and I met, Sean
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and I met and now I'm a realtor here in the greater San Antonio
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area. She's a really good, Really.
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Yeah. If you.
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Say so. Yeah, she is.
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She is. You can ask all her clients too.
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Yes. But I do want to say Shawna
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actually helped me because I did have a force accident when I was
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16 years old and hurt my back. And so I'd start running later.
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I was like 35 when I started running.
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And then throughout the time I had hurt my back again and I had
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signed up to do the half marathon in San Antonio and I
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hurt my back. And Shawna came to work at Brook
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City Base and we start talking about running.
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And I just said, you know what, I'm going to walk it.
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And she's like, why? I said because in my back.
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And she's like, no, I will train with you.
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And I said, OK, I'm going to give you 2 weeks.
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And if I'm not giving up with you, you're I'm giving you
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permission to let set me free. And we were very blessed that
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that did not happen. And we were.
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I was able to accomplish the one goal of at least running a
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marathon. The Boston has always been my
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destination. And she did.
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She's even to this day, she's a fantastic runner.
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So like she she could probably run laps around me now because
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she's kept up with it maybe. Not today.
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Yeah. But she, Yeah, she gets up at
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5:00 AM and runs on her treadmill.
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And we all have our, you know, our times of recovery and things
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like that. But running has stayed
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consistent and talk a little bit about that, like how running has
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been a consistent part of your life, so I think.
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The one thing about running is as opposed to, well, I guess
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other things, but it can be a individual sport, right?
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And so you need a good pair of shoes.
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That's all I'm going to tell you, a good pair of shoes.
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You can wear anything else you want, but a good pair of shoes
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and it can just, it just transcends you from the I always
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say it cleans the cobwebs out of your head, right?
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Because you can do it by yourself.
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You can do it with a partner. We can't tell you how many
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countless conversations and therapy subjects we had training
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and running and still doing that, you know, So just to be
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able to you can control it. It doesn't matter how fast you
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go, you're in control. And that's the one thing that
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something it can't take they no one can take that from you,
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right, right. And if you can't run, you can
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walk, you know, for the most part, you know, So it just it,
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for me, it's always been that I was a single.
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Mom for a while. So I could come home from work
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and just go run and then take them and do all the things that
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they needed to do and start all over.
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Yeah, because it gives you energy.
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I mean, there are runs that like, take away your energy.
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But like, I'm with you. Like even to this day, it's the
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one thing that all you need is a pair of shoes, you know, and
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lace up and, and hit the door. And I've traveled all over the
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world and been able to run a lot of places.
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And I will say you've learned the area so much better by
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walking or running it right, rather than taking a car just to
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get there or even a bike. I mean, nothing against that,
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but like there's nothing like running an area to get to know
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it. And, and like, it is like, like
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before Betty, I didn't really run with people.
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Like I ran on my own, exception of Andy, my husband, I would run
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with him occasionally, but he wasn't much of a runner.
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I really found the appreciation for it more than he did.
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And so before Betty, I didn't really run with groups.
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I didn't really run with anyone else, so I was a little
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hesitant, even though I didn't challenge her to do it because I
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was challenging myself to run with someone, right?
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And it just Betty and I just worked perfectly because there
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are days that, you know, maybe we're talking of, maybe we
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weren't. Maybe one of us was really
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running really good or good race, right, or are are one of
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us was kind of having an off day, but we allowed each other
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to have those days and we were supported them and we didn't
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hinder the other person. And like if the other person was
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having a better day, then I would say Betty go or she would
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say Shawna go. We'd always circle back and, you
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know, that we checked on each other, but like, we encouraged
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each other. And a majority of the days we
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were on the same, you know, we could just run and talk and just
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go through things. And it was just such a precious
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time. I think that we to this day
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remember. Yeah.
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Yeah, Cherish, actually. So in it and then in that we
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were both accomplishing something that was really hard
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and that we both weren't real certain 100% that we could do it
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right. So that always pushes you to the
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edge when you're like, I think I can do this, but I'm not 100%.
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And then like doing that with someone else just adds to that
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feeling of like, wow, look what we did right?
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Look what you did. Look what you know, the.
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Accountability to each other too.
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I think that that really helped accountability.
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Yeah, because like it, we used to run in the evenings, like
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after work and then we would go on weekends to do our long runs.
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And so for San Antonio. Was what it was.
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Petrenko was farmland and it was gosh, that was I do cherish
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those moments because I remember one Sunday just kind of overcast
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and we had our music. We did that day.
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We had our own music on and just in the zone and you're like,
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wow. And I think that was like an 18
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mile day and it just was. So I, I go back to that day so
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many times when I run because I'm like.
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So that was like the perfect. Right.
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Yeah, yeah. And especially like and when
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you're in the zone, know yourself, but then when you're
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in the zone with someone else, that just adds that much more
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like positive energy to what you're doing.
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Connect you? Yeah.
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So much more to it, yeah. So we do plan to.
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So it's a plan right now and we're calling it a miles to
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remember because we want to run the Boston Marathon and we're
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going to apply to the Alzheimer's Association charity
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in order to get our ticket into Boston.
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Betty could probably qualify for Boston.
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I'm not sure that I could, but that's OK because I've talked to
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some people that live in Boston that are that have done the
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Boston Marathon and they gave me pause to go Shawna, like a lot
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of people use charities to do that, right?
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And because I originally was going, man, like, are we, you
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know, are we cheating? You know, and we're not, we're
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not. Because part of applying to the
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the Alzheimers Association to get a place on their team to run
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Boston Marathon is that we each have to raise $10,000 for that
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organization. And that is why we are talking
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about this now is because we're not raising the money right now
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because we haven't even been accepted into their team.
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But we eventually will be asking our friends and family and just
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whoever wants to support our, you know, miles to remember to
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support us and to support ultimately the Alzheimer's
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Association, right? It's not, it's not supporting
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us, it's just getting us a ticket to be able to run 26.2
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miles, right? So, but you will be supporting
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the Alzheimer's Association, which has done so many good.
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Things. For people with dementia and as
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you guys probably remember, my husband Andy had a form of
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dementia, not Alzheimer's, but Alzheimer's Association supports
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all types of dementia. And then Betty has had also
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dementia show up in her life, and I'll let you talk about
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that. So recently my mother-in-law
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have has come to live with us. She lived in North Carolina and
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she fell and fractured her femur by her hip and when the doctor
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saw her they said that she could no longer live on her own and
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our home was probably the most equipped to take her.
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So we went from empty nesters to having a 686 year old, 5 year
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old really in our home. And she cannot be left alone
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because of her mobility. But she has been diagnosed with
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severe dementia. And so we take care of her.
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We try to keep her, you know, on track.
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Sometimes it's the same story every morning.
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And we, I just smile and act like we hadn't had that
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conversation before. And you know, she's, she's doing
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well. We've had some a couple of bad
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moments, but not a lot. But it was a lot for us.
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We weren't trained, we didn't know what we were getting into.
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We didn't quite understand the mental state.
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But since living with us, she truly is and so much better
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health and she was living by herself and clearly not being
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able to get around and get herself showered and take her
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pills on time and or take him at all.
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We don't know what she was doing.
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So it's very challenging because again, we've now gone from like
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waking up on a Sunday morning going, Hey, let's go to Home
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Depot to we can't go because, you know, so now we have to take
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panic care if we want to go somewhere together.
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And I, I'm a realtor, so I'm out a lot.
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My husband works from home. So it's really challenging on
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him too. But it's, it has definitely
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been, it makes you think. And and then honestly, when I
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met Shawna, we didn't know it and Andy was in the first stages
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of what he was going through. And so even watching what she
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went through and what I, I didn't leave her at the time he
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passed, but I did see a lot of and we talked a lot so.
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You know, it's really difficult. She saw a changes in Andy what
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that and she knew there were changes because I spoke with
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them as being different changes and I would speak of an Andy
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that wasn't really showing up as that to her and she would be
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like huh? And it was way before I knew
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that he had FTD, frontal temporal degeneration or
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dementia, but he just was showing up in the world a little
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bit differently. And then, you know, on our runs,
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I would express that and I didn't know what was going on
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with him. And, and, you know, but it was
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just kind of girl talk of like this is really stressful.
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And, you know, our friend talk, I guess.
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So she and then eventually Betty had moved away, but I eventually
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had to tell her, like, Andy has this rare disease and this is
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like probably some of the things that he was dealing with and we
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didn't even know it. So yeah, that's a lot.
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It's a lot. It's a lot.
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So but Betty, I am able to give Betty some insight into
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different things with her mother-in-law.
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Now. It's not the same kind of
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dementia. So it shows up differently.
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And so she has some different challenges than I do, but I can
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like it, share my experiences that are similar or, you know,
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sometimes helpful. No, I guess because, you know,
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The thing is, none of us know. None of us know.
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And so you've just got to be kind and and helpful.
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And sometimes I walk out of the room and roll my eyes and go,
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what just happened in there? But I don't know where I'm going
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to be. So I always try to be mindful.
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Of that. That.
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She's. Still, we still need to respect
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her. We still need to, you know,
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sometimes you do have to treat her like a child.
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Well, that's when she's A5 girl and it's sometimes that's, that
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is how it, it, it shows itself, right?
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But I still always want to be respectful of her and her life.
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And I know where she is now. Because what I do know is if she
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could be living on her own, she absolutely would be.
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And it's not because she doesn't want to be with us.
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It's because that's what her plan was.
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She wants to be taking care of herself.
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And she just can't like, like we all, they're independent women
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want to, yeah, we don't want to be a burden on anyone.
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And then I would say like with with that, I lost my train of
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thought there, but just in regards to like every day is
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different, right? And it's, and it's the same and
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just like, and it's hard no matter what type of dementia it
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is. And that's where I was going.
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Like dementia is such a hard disease because it's the brain
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and like they look the same on the outside, but then they show
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up different in the world and you are having to adjust.
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But your, your brain is like seeing and connecting all the
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things that you're used to because they look the same, but
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then they act differently and you're having to learn in the
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moment how to deal with that. And like, tell your brain like
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no, this isn't the same person. You're pivoting.
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Right. Yeah, yeah.
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This isn't the same person. You, they may have acted this
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way or you might have had some conflict with them or whatever
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before, but and then you may even have conflict with them
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now, but they're showing differently.
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And a lot of times they don't have control because like, you
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know, just comparing it to someone that has had maybe
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something on their physical hurt, like maybe like an amputee
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or something like that. Like you can immediately go,
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well, this person's not going to act the same because they're not
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the same, right? But when it's someone's brain, I
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always say betraying them, like you, you look at them and you
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think, Oh, they're the same, but then you know that they're not.
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And so sometimes it's hard as you that you're not, you don't
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have dementia, you're not losing your capabilities, but you
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almost feel like you do because you're constant battle.
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You're in a constant battle of your own self-conscious of like
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this person used to be like this and now I have to take care of
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them. And now, you know, and why are
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they're behaving this way, even if it they were really nice and
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then, you know, now they're behaving differently like and
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you're, you're like in the moment having to pivot and that
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can be hard. So just to speak to Betty's
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challenges like I, I've been there in a different form and
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manner and Andy's behaviors were a lot less controllable.
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Yes, yes. I mean, I didn't say it.
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There was a, you know, I mean, nobody wants to go through any
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of it, but you really did have a very difficult.
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Time but just not even to point that out but just like everyone
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out there dealing with like FTD or Alzheimer's like it's going
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to show up differently. You can help others, but it it's
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going to be your own journey, right, Right to transition from
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that because we both have these stories, but more looking at our
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race ahead, right? When you picture the two of us
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on this journey, what makes you smile?
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And then what makes you think, what did we get ourselves into?
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Well, I always think about that when I choose to sign up for a
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long race. What was I thinking?
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And then I go, you got this. What makes me smile is I know
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that we're going to do it because I know us, right?
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I couldn't. I've had other running partners
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in the past, but I'm going to tell you we just it's an we just
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flow. And so I know we're going to,
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we're gonna help each other, we're gonna inspire each other,
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we're going to push each other. And then we're also gonna say
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it's OK if today's not the day, right, Right.
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You know, So cuz some days it's, it's not the day you really want
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it to be, but it's just not going to be.
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So I just know that that's, I mean when she said.
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I'm going to help you do this. I did not know what I was
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getting myself into. And she didn't know she was
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going to. We didn't know we're going to
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have lifelong friends, right. That's true.
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Yeah. Lifelong friends and running
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brothers together. And it kept us.
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I mean, I just know we're going to do this.
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I. It is. 26 miles is a long way,
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people. Yeah, it is.
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I'm just going to tell you. I mean, it's a long way.
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It is. And you think, oh, I love
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people. Go.
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Oh, it's only 26 miles. Really.
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Well, it's the last time you did so and we know it is because
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we've done it before. So there's no, but it's Austin,
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it's meaningful, right? It's and I've told you I was
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before, you know, I didn't start running until I was in my 30s.
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And even before I start running, I knew I was going to do Boston.
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I mean, since I, you know, started running marathon or
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about half and then the full, then I was like, well, yeah, you
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got to like, it's the Mecca, right?
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It's you got to go for the Boston.
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But no to y'all, if you wanted to qualify with Boston, do not
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do Austin to. Qualify right.
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Don't do Austin. Flat surface.
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Do a little more research in this.
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Because I did not. Do.
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That so. That is true.
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That is. True.
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Reach out to him, we'll let you know.
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I think for me, what makes me smile is like, yeah, just
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because we have the history that we do and we've had this goal
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for so long, but I think we're a lot wiser.
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Like we both, we get along so well because they're, we don't
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have a lot of fail in us. Like we're going to get
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something done right. But we've grown in the wisdom of
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like how we get it done. And like we, we still don't want
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to fail, but we know that you can fail and we have failed,
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right? And but we also know like don't
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injure yourself or hurt yourself now because then like maybe the
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maybe you fail right now, but if you injure yourself then, then
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you're never going to accomplish that, right?
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And like you're forever failed. So that no pain, no gain is not,
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that's not right. And it's just, it's not because
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pain means could mean something's hurt that that
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really could debilitate you from doing anything.
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So she knows I was the world's worst about that.
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I'm going to push myself. I'm going to push myself and I'm
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going to push myself. Luckily, I never really got
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injured from running. My injury was from something
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else, never from running. But now to your point, I listen
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to my body so much more. And because she will tell you if
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I walked one step in a race, then I would have to redo it
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because that means I walked one step and now I'm like, you know
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what, I'm out here. A body motion stays in motion.
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So that's. I've, I've had to help her a
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little bit with that one a little bit because I have now
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become friends with people that are in their 70s and they are
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still running. Actually they're doing
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triathlons and I want to be that 70 year old that is doing that.
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So I've listened to their lessons and their and now I do
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like a run walk. I may run a little longer, I may
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walk a little shorter, I may walk a little longer, but it
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allows my body because all the running and not being smart has
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wreaked havoc on my hips. So I was getting to a point that
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I thought that I would not be able to continue the running
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journey on because I was just doing such a disservice to my
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structure. And I wanted to be able to walk
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when I'm, you know, 70 and it was looking like Johnny, you
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keep running, then that's not going to happen, right?
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So I've come across the Jeff Galloway through through my
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friends and they have showed me that and it's just been such a
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blessing and amazing because it's humbling.
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One, it is humbling, especially for runners that run all the
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time, right? It's humbling because you you do
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slow down, you do walk rather than just continuously running.
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And Betty was coming back from some recovery and you know, she
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wanted to run a race. We run a ran a race together to
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raise some money for Beauty from Ashes that have been on here
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before. And I introduced her to the Jeff
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Galloway like Run Walk. Well, I need her.
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Listen, Jeff Galloway like 40 years ago and I was like, I'm
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not doing that. What what that's not running.
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And now I'm like, I was pretty smart.
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Right. Because like, he just passed
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away this year and like, he he was like in his 90s, I think.
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Yeah. If I got that wrong, I'm so
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sorry. 80s or 90s, he was older. Yeah.
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And he was still running up until the end.
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So yeah. If I can still be running, Yeah.
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Yeah. So let's go into why we're going
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to make it a time to remember. Obviously the the one is like me
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and Betty have memories with running right, but our personal
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connections with Alzheimer's and dementia just in general, which
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the Alzheimer's Association helps.
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There's also another good organization, but I don't want
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to like not mention which is the association for frontal temporal
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degeneration. They they do collaborate with
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the Alzheimer's Association, but they do not have an official
25:58
team. So.
25:59
That's why we're not. Or I probably would, but
26:03
Alzheimer's is a kind of a blanket for all dementias and
26:06
they're getting more and more involved in other types of
26:10
dementias. We already talked about our
26:14
personal stories and what we we want to pass on to you guys.
26:22
I'm just looking here make sure do you do you like the miles to
26:30
remember name? Again, I do, I do and I because
26:33
it has more than one meaning. You know it does because I, you
26:37
know, our memories, the running brought us together and
26:43
literally, if I mean we're disconnected, we'll always be
26:49
connected regardless. I Can I tell our funny story?
26:54
Oh yes, I have to tell you, I'll never live.
26:56
This devil will. Not be a second.
26:59
I think she will live down. So when we ran Austin, I'm a
27:04
little bit old and Shawna, she was 32 when I was 48.
27:09
And when we got done, she said, gosh, when I'm 48, I can still
27:15
run a marathon. And I was like, that's not very
27:19
old. What are you talking about?
27:21
I was. You know, yeah, She turned. 48 I
27:24
was like, are we doing another mirror?
27:28
I mean, now clearly I'm a lot older than that, but so we kind
27:32
of chuckled about it and then we're like, yes.
27:34
And we had started to do it and then life got in the way again.
27:39
And then this, we had discussion about Boston again and we just
27:44
said, you know what, now's the time it is.
27:46
And we're giving ourselves plenty of time to prepare to be
27:50
ready. I've showed up on race dates and
27:53
we we train in South Texas, so it's nice most of the time.
27:58
But I have showed up on race days and other places where it
28:01
is raining and cold and Phoenix believe it or not it the day
28:06
before. Was beautiful the day of.
28:09
Drop temperature pouring down rain and you're like, why?
28:14
Are we guys? But but we'll prepare for all
28:17
those things. It'll be April in Boston.
28:20
Which will still be a little. Chilly.
28:21
A little chilly, but yeah, we've ran races that we're not weather
28:27
friendly even though we usually train and pretty pretty decent
28:32
weather exception of the heat like.
28:33
Yeah, we trained in. Hydro.
28:36
Weather we did, you know, when it was 111, we said damn, it was
28:40
a day, but 109 we did on asphalt.
28:44
Yeah. And you know, you get really
28:46
good at staying hydrated. Yeah, knowing like how to stay
28:52
hydrated, long runs. So what do you hope like over
29:01
our time? Because we are, we're going to
29:02
start training soon and then we are going to be training all the
29:07
way up until 2028. So that gives us a lot of time,
29:12
which is good. We need that in our lives right
29:15
now. But what do you hope over that
29:19
time? I don't know, Do you have any
29:22
hopes for that time? So here's what I've learned.
29:25
We start out with this right and then and it gets so much deeper.
29:33
The meaning always gets so much deeper than what how we start,
29:38
right? Yeah, because we're like, oh,
29:39
this is fun. Yeah.
29:40
And we're runners and how cool is that and whatever, right?
29:44
And yes, we're doing this for this organization that we've
29:46
we've both been afflicted with, right?
29:48
And that's great. But I do think that the the more
29:51
you do it, the more we learn, the more the deeper meaning of
29:55
it. So I don't tell the story very
30:00
often. But after 911, they ran the flag
30:04
across America and I got to be 1 of 19 people from San Antonio
30:10
that carried the flag from Shamrock, TX to Amarillo, TX.
30:15
And there was 19 of us. We would stop and we would get
30:19
out the meaning behind that. I just want to run it because I
30:23
thought, oh, I get to run the flag.
30:25
It's so cool. And it was such a raw time,
30:28
right? I think raw is the perfect word.
30:31
And and then after doing it, having those connections and
30:36
hearing stories, and it was a army captain that was heading it
30:40
up and he allowed the other people besides the military to
30:44
be part of that. So even being intermixed with
30:46
military and we both have lots of military ties.
30:52
I went there thinking this is going to be cool.
30:56
I left there with such a memory that I didn't want to share it
31:00
with everybody. It was so personal and it took
31:05
me years to even tell people about it that didn't know.
31:11
So I'm going off of that experience, knowing what that
31:14
was for me, just how cool, right?
31:17
I got to be one of the 19 that's that sounds cool, but then the
31:21
the how deep it got. So I really look forward to
31:26
seeing where this takes us emotionally together as friends.
31:32
The deeper connection, the just the deeper knowledge you know.
31:37
And like, I think sharing it on a more public level, like we
31:42
hope we can bring you along for this.
31:46
Like, and I think that's beautiful.
31:48
Like, and we won't be like recording all our time, like
31:52
we're going to have some time on our own.
31:54
But like we hope that we can just like give you an inside
31:57
look to to like our journey and how beautiful it can be to like
32:03
sharing something with someone like this and then like do it
32:08
for a good cause and accomplish when you're like ultimate goals,
32:14
right yes, and and we won't like we'll share some of our failures
32:19
like the. Bloopers are probably yes.
32:21
It's just bloopers and running. What if you yes, yeah, yeah.
32:28
So we we hope that we, that is our hope is that we can like
32:32
bring you along for the UPS and the downs, but ultimately
32:37
getting to the goal of of running Boston and like sharing
32:42
that with you. Because as we sit here right
32:44
now, we don't even know if we'll be picked up by an all timers
32:47
association, but we are going to ultimately try.
32:51
And if it, if it's nothing else, like we, we may show up to
32:54
Boston and maybe just run our own race there.
32:57
But you know, yeah, no, not. Like yeah, yeah of.
33:01
Course, but like. You know.
33:03
Maybe. There's a 5K dryer?
33:05
I don't know. But, you know, we'll get to
33:09
Boston and run. That's something like, but yeah,
33:13
we're just saying, hey, this is something we want to do, that
33:16
we've always wanted to do. And we know that we need to like
33:21
prepare for it because $10,000 each is not easy.
33:26
Like it's not easy to raise money, especially during these
33:30
times. Everyone is is like watching
33:33
their money because it's hard times.
33:35
But but we also know that this is for a good cause.
33:40
The Alzheimer's Association is huge and more and more of the
33:44
older population is is getting Alzheimer's and I think they do
33:48
need some like funding and support.
33:52
So more and more resources are available because more.
33:56
Research. Yeah.
33:57
And research, yeah, that is true.
33:59
And so I know the Alzheimer's Association in San Antonio, like
34:06
I said, they partnered with FTD to allow us to have support
34:11
group meetings in their building.
34:13
They've worked with us in regards to research at the UT
34:20
science Health Science in San Antonio.
34:23
They have now have a whole, not Alzheimer's Association, but UT
34:28
Health Science has a whole unit just for dementia.
34:33
And, but I'm sure Alzheimer's Association is associated with
34:37
that and helping that. I know FTD is, I'm sure they are
34:41
too. But it, I mean, because our, our
34:46
population is living longer, but some of our brains aren't always
34:50
lasting with that life. So it's, these are important
34:53
things and both of us having first hand experiences and, and
34:59
touches in our life with that, like we know how important that
35:02
is. So I am proud to help them.
35:06
Me too. And, and the other thing I want
35:08
to say, and this is maybe totally off record, sorry
35:10
Shawna, but I know people I don't.
35:14
My mother in law's with me for a reason.
35:16
I don't know why yet, but she's there for a reason.
35:20
There's something that I need to learn.
35:21
There's something that I need to know.
35:23
There's something that you know bigger than me and all anyone
35:30
that you're help supporting and in any, you know, way, shape or
35:35
form that with something stabilitating.
35:39
Just be mindful that and it's hard, but be mindful that
35:45
they're here for a reason and we need to take that in and we need
35:50
to think about that because there is a.
35:53
Lesson in here for. Us.
35:55
I believe that with everything inside of me, because I know
35:58
other people will say it's just not fair why they still here.
36:01
You know, I've heard that many times, but they're not.
36:04
They're probably not here for themselves.
36:06
They're here for us. No, I agree with that because I
36:09
was sharing with Betty actually before this is like how I've
36:13
been really deep diving and and like trying to have a better
36:18
relationship with Jesus, with the Lord, you know, and like
36:23
that has become my focus and everything beyond that has just
36:28
fallen into place. Like the things that need to
36:32
happen are happening and I'm not even having to work at that.
36:36
And and, and I say that is because I've found in my
36:40
relationship with the Lord is that the struggles that I've
36:44
faced, the struggles that I still face, they all come with a
36:48
lesson. So I've tried to change my
36:51
perspective, which is extremely hard of rather than going why?
36:55
And like me, and I hate this, why am I having to deal with
36:58
this? But going why like what can I
37:02
learn from us rather than why, why me?
37:06
It's more like why, why have I been given this?
37:09
I mean and that and they that biblical you know, Paul speaks
37:13
of that all the. None.
38:01
OK, maybe it's still got it is. OK.
38:03
So we're back. We have a little technical.
38:06
Difficulty. We have a little technical
38:09
difficulty, and we don't know why we don't have fun.
38:14
Yeah, exactly. But maybe we need to pause.
38:19
But thank you for being here today.
38:22
We were wrapping up in land, you know.
38:26
Yeah, no, thank you for. She's always organized.
38:30
She's the one who does the roots.
38:32
I show up with my shoes. She's always there.
38:37
You know, she's I'm the one who's like, let's just go run
38:39
and she's like, no, let's run this.
38:41
And I'm like, oh, maybe that's a better plan you.
38:44
Know it's just because I have to have a tracking system and a
38:47
plan. No.
38:48
And she always said I did and I'm getting a little bit better
38:50
now, but but I'm so excited to go on this journey with you
38:54
because it's it is about yes, we want to go to Boston.
38:56
We do. We want to run Boston.
38:58
It's not that we want to go to Boston, we want to run Boston.
39:01
I just know this journey is going to be so filled with so
39:06
many things that will help us in our life.
39:09
Going forward, yeah, No, I. Agree and and on another note
39:14
about running take away that if you can start I'm just going to
39:21
tell you it is therapy you will clean out the cobwebs you will
39:25
feel so much better. Maybe it's not even going to get
39:28
down and walking, just moving and just do knowing that you.
39:32
Did it? You you're doing this.
39:34
No one else is in charge of that.
39:37
You're in charge of that. And it's that is empowering.
39:41
Yeah, it's very. Empowering it is 100% and yeah,
39:46
I mean, it's just you guys will see as we do this, but it's just
39:50
a beautiful relationship. And if you do have someone that
39:54
can run with you like yeah, a partner, it does it, I mean, and
39:59
bring it builds healthy relationships.
40:04
It holds you accountable. The accountability part is huge
40:08
because, listen, there were days.
40:10
Where like. Like I'd be that way and she's
40:12
like, come on. Or she'd be that one, Like come
40:15
on. And it you're just at the end,
40:16
you're like, yes, I'm so glad I did.
40:18
It and you have someone counting on.
40:20
You right, that's your biggest. I always show up probably better
40:24
when it's not just me counting on me.
40:28
But thank you again for and thanks everyone for listening.
40:31
I hope that you will continue to tune in.
40:36
We are going to have a separate miles to remember like page and
40:44
like Instagram kind of stuff. It won't be, it'll still be on
40:47
my carried forward page, but I'll just be a separate little
40:51
piece of that. We're going to try to do some.
40:54
I'm going to test out running with a phone.
40:57
So we'll see how that goes. And yeah, just stay tuned and
41:03
thanks for listening And just remember, we all carry something
41:08
forward with us. Just make it something that is
41:11
worth carrying and and make it love, make it friendship, make
41:17
it running even. And TuneIn next week, actually
41:22
the following Tuesday, because I'm now every other Tuesday so I
41:25
can meet with great people like this because everybody's busy.
41:30
And just thanks again, this is carried forward.
41:32
And get out there and watch other podcasts on the Military
41:36
Broadcast Radio network because there's some really good ones
41:41
that are different from this one and have great topics.
41:44
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