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Pastor Chuck Swindoll | Insight for Living – What is Mentorship? | Wise Words from a Mentor · INSIGHT FOR LIVING: Biblical Wisdom For Everyday Living

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  Speaker 1: Mentoring is a long term, fluid relationship that focuses on
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  Speaker 1: the internal values and core of a person. And that's
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  Speaker 1: what you have what makes a person willing to enter
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  Speaker 1: that relationship because it's constructive, but it's also refining.
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  Speaker 2: Sure it is. I think one of the things is
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  Speaker 2: you have needs and you see in the other person
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  Speaker 2: the ability to help you meet those needs. I was lonely.
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  Speaker 2: I was away from my bride your mother in years
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  Speaker 2: to come when we began to have our children. But
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  Speaker 2: back then she was almost like a newlywed with me,
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  Speaker 2: and there's loneliness that there's eight thousand miles difference between us,
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  Speaker 2: and I never heard her voice during those months I
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  Speaker 2: was away. But I had my friend who understood it.
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  Speaker 2: He had been in the Navy. He understood distance from
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  Speaker 2: home and all, and he had answers for my questions.
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  Speaker 2: He never tried to be the answer man. There's a difference. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: he would. He was a good listener. He had a
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  Speaker 2: great sense of humor. We would do things together and
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  Speaker 2: there was harmony in our doing them. And I realized
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  Speaker 2: later he had a purpose in it that I didn't
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  Speaker 2: see on the front end. That worked its way out
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  Speaker 2: and the development of some character traits that I needed
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  Speaker 2: to develop in my own life. It was marvelous. I
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  Speaker 2: just don't have another word for it. It changed my life.
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  Speaker 2: Some of the insights I have now I gleaned from
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  Speaker 2: those months that I had with him. Many of the
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  Speaker 2: techniques that I use in the study of the Scriptures
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  Speaker 2: I first picked up from him, and that I perfected
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  Speaker 2: during my four years at a seminary. But those foundational
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  Speaker 2: tools you learn from another person, like a mentor, they
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  Speaker 2: go with you. You know, his notes fill the margin
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  Speaker 2: of my Bible. You know. It says in the Scriptures
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  Speaker 2: that Jesus chose twelve that they might be with him,
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  Speaker 2: and that he might send him forth to preach Mark
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  Speaker 2: three fourteen, that they might be with him. There it
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  Speaker 2: is he was with them. You forget. They slept alongside him,
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  Speaker 2: with him, They listened to him. They watched him when
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  Speaker 2: he performed miracles, healing different people. They saw him under
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  Speaker 2: the gun as criticism came and the pharisees landed on him.
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  Speaker 2: They watched him as he kept his cool when being
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  Speaker 2: assaulted verbally by others. You learn from that, and when
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  Speaker 2: you're the recipient of that, you drink that in that's
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  Speaker 2: what you would see if you could watch my two
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  Speaker 2: grandsons and me together when we meet on Saturday mornings.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes they're just writing as fast as they can write.
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  Speaker 2: Other times they're sitting still and pondering, listening. They're hearing
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  Speaker 2: what I'm sharing, and they're thinking about their lives. I'm sure,
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  Speaker 2: and sometime they'll bring that up. And there's no subject
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  Speaker 2: that's off limits because everything is confidential, and there is
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  Speaker 2: no issue it's out of bounds, no struggle that I say, now, no,
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  Speaker 2: we're not got to worry about that. Oh we worry
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  Speaker 2: about that. I call it what it is. I may say,
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  Speaker 2: I struggle with that too, you do. So there's vulnerability.
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  Speaker 2: That's a big part of it. We're coming up on
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  Speaker 2: a chapter in the David book where it's titled being
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  Speaker 2: Big Enough to Forgive. It's a big part of what
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  Speaker 2: David needed to learn, and he learned it well. One
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  Speaker 2: of my questions is going to be to both Parker
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  Speaker 2: and Austin, who do you need to forgive? I would
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  Speaker 2: even probably go further and say, why haven't you already?
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  Speaker 2: So we talk about what holds us back from forgiving?
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  Speaker 1: Were you afraid of those kind of questions.
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  Speaker 2: Probably at first, I'd never been around anyone that could
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  Speaker 2: drill in so deeply and comfortably, So I think I
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  Speaker 2: learned not to be afraid because they were never threatening
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  Speaker 2: type questions or judgmental type questions.
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  Speaker 1: It produced in you qualities that you wanted to develop.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know what else, He loved me. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and I love him. He's gone now, so I have
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  Speaker 2: to remembers in the past tense, But we loved each other.
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  Speaker 2: When you love, you talk truth, and nothing frees you
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  Speaker 2: like truth. Stas