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BELIEVE IN THE JOURNEY.....TRIVEDA HARRIS LIVE EVERY 2ND SUNDAY & 4TH THURSDAY.........8PM EST · DA CREW Podcast

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Speaker 1: You to go and there we go.
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Speaker 2: All right, Welcome to Believe in the Journey Podcast where
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Speaker 2: I'm your host, Trevita Harris. Tonight we will be talking
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Speaker 2: to phenomenal coach Rachel L. Gary. And when I tell you,
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Speaker 2: this woman is truly amazing. She is all about being
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Speaker 2: the CEO of your own life and most of us
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Speaker 2: are still hiding in the shadows of being the CEO
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Speaker 2: of our own lives. And Rachel is gonna show us
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Speaker 2: how we get to that point. And I promise you
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Speaker 2: you don't want to miss these intellectual nuggets that she
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Speaker 2: has for us on getting on track on being the
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Speaker 2: CEOs of our own lives. Now, before I bring her up,
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Speaker 2: the only thing we got to do first and foremost
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Speaker 2: is go to God and prayer, because if we don't
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Speaker 2: go to him first, that means we are not acknowledging
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Speaker 2: him and thanking him for what he's brought us through. So,
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Speaker 2: Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for bringing us together as
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Speaker 2: you do each and every time we're in front of you.
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Speaker 2: Let the words of our mouths tonight fall upon the
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Speaker 2: ears that need to hear. Let the words that they
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Speaker 2: hear be the milestones and the brick layers of what
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Speaker 2: they need to get off the couch, get out of
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Speaker 2: their comfort zone and get out of their way, and
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Speaker 2: get out of your way, and let them walk into
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Speaker 2: the purpose of which you have called them to do.
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Speaker 2: Everything that we say tonight is going to be something
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Speaker 2: that someone can use to become the CEO of their
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Speaker 2: lives and letting go of the fears. So God, we
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Speaker 2: thank you for bringing us here. Let the words of
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Speaker 2: our mouths fall upon the ears that need to hear,
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Speaker 2: and your precious and holy name. Amen. Now miss Rachel listening,
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Speaker 2: I want you to introduce yourself as well. I know
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Speaker 2: I gave you a small introduction, but I would like
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Speaker 2: for you to introduce yourself and tell them a little
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Speaker 2: bit about you, and then we're going to get into
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Speaker 2: the conversation of the evening.
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Speaker 3: All right, Hey, I am first I want to say
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Speaker 3: thank you very much with Trida for having me today
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Speaker 3: on your show. It is definitely a pleasure. As I
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Speaker 3: was saying behind stage, it was a pleasure to meet
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Speaker 3: you in person when I was in Atlanta. You are
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Speaker 3: a phenomenal individual and I am I feel honored to
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Speaker 3: be able to share this opportunity with you. Tonight and
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Speaker 3: to all you CEOs out there. As she said, I
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Speaker 3: am Rachel el Gary and what I do is just
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Speaker 3: remind people of who you are looking to be. And
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Speaker 3: the CEO that she's talking about is that person that
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Speaker 3: is clearing your actions and powered by your choices and
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Speaker 3: owning your direction so you can fully step in two
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Speaker 3: being the CEO of your life.
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Speaker 2: I like that most people are fearful about taking the
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Speaker 2: initiative to step into what it is that they've been
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Speaker 2: called to do. What is something that helped you to
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Speaker 2: get to where you started being the CEO of your
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Speaker 2: own life? What was something that was pivotal that helped
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Speaker 2: you to get there?
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Speaker 3: I appreciate the question, Trida. What started my journey to
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Speaker 3: being the CEO of my life was taking stock of
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Speaker 3: where my life was and where I wanted my life
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Speaker 3: to be.
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Speaker 4: When I took hey, I'm gonna take you back a
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Speaker 4: little bit. This is gonna aid me. Okay.
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Speaker 3: So it was in two thousand and four. I was
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Speaker 3: sitting on my sister and lost couch. My kids were
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Speaker 3: sleeping on an air mattress.
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Speaker 4: And homeless, but in a home where we were we were,
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Speaker 4: we where we were definitely okay to be However, it
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Speaker 4: wasn't our own.
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Speaker 3: I went on a on a porch and had a
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Speaker 3: real conversation with myself in January, how about this guy's
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Speaker 3: January in Chicago. I set my porch for over an hour.
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Speaker 3: It was when I first went outside, it was twenty degrees.
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Speaker 3: We're not gonna We're not gonna factor in the windshield.
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Speaker 4: Okay.
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Speaker 3: By the end of that an hour or two later,
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Speaker 3: I had written down everything that had gotten me there, okay,
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Speaker 3: so I could understand where it fell apart. But ultimately
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Speaker 3: what I really realized was I had I read it,
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Speaker 3: wrote it all down, but I couldn't.
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Speaker 4: Understand where I wanted to be. Okay. So that day
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Speaker 4: is when I made the decision of who Rachel L.
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Speaker 3: Gary was going to become, to be able to have
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Speaker 3: more clarity in my life and being able to empower
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Speaker 3: myself with the clarity and own everything after that.
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Speaker 4: Okay.
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Speaker 3: So that was the pivotal moment January two thousand and four,
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Speaker 3: when I was like.
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Speaker 2: Enough is And I told people all the time, when
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Speaker 2: I hear people that constantly say I'm tired of this,
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Speaker 2: I'm tired of that, You're never tired until you put
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Speaker 2: actions behind being tired, because when you want something to change,
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Speaker 2: you'll actually do what's necessary to change it. And one
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Speaker 2: thing for me I can say is that I do
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Speaker 2: a self inventory. And this was something I started after
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Speaker 2: my husband and I my ex husband now separated. I
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Speaker 2: needed to figure out who I was again because being married,
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Speaker 2: I was a wife, I was a mom, I was
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Speaker 2: everything to everybody else, but I lost track of who
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Speaker 2: I was. So I had to go and learn how
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Speaker 2: to be to read again. And so when I had
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Speaker 2: to do that self inventory, when I tell you, it
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Speaker 2: was hard to do because I had to let go
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Speaker 2: of the idea of what everybody else thought I was
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Speaker 2: and everything that everybody wanted me to be to get
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Speaker 2: to the core of what I needed. And I think
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Speaker 2: that's a good thing for people to even when they
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Speaker 2: are ready to start, that they can write that list down,
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Speaker 2: and writing that list down definitely helps. What is something
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Speaker 2: that you would tell someone if they're ready to become
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Speaker 2: the CEO of their life? What is one thing that
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Speaker 2: they can do today?
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Speaker 3: Take stock of where you are and be true. They're
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Speaker 3: similar to what Travida said to who you want to become,
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Speaker 3: and this is probably the hardest thing because we all
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Speaker 3: live in a a side of what what what someone
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Speaker 3: wants from us or the things that we we will
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Speaker 3: go from the job that we have to how we
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Speaker 3: show up for our family members, and how we show
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Speaker 3: up for our friends, and how we show up for
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Speaker 3: a relationship. Those A lot of people say, well, I'm
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Speaker 3: a different person in all of those in those arenas.
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Speaker 4: That to me and I'm I'm not here to judge.
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Speaker 4: I don't believe in judging.
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Speaker 3: I don't believe clarifying a message that I've lived through
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Speaker 3: when I when you feel authentically connected to who you
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Speaker 3: are and where you want to go, then all the
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Speaker 3: other limiting things they go by the waistline. Yeah, so
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Speaker 3: when you so like what you really just said, Well,
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Speaker 3: she had to find who she was. It's when once
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Speaker 3: you once you discover who you are, or or even
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Speaker 3: if you're not that person yet, but as you're gradually as.
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Speaker 4: You know that you who you want to become.
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Speaker 3: Because on that porch, I said I wanted to become
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Speaker 3: one thing, a person my children was we could be
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Speaker 3: proud of. I didn't say a parent, I said a person.
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Speaker 3: That meant that I gave myself some laws guys. It
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Speaker 3: was from laws I had to live by to be
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Speaker 3: a person that they were proud of. The very first
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Speaker 3: thing was to be integrity m hm. And having integrity
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Speaker 3: is about what you're doing when no one's watching. So
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Speaker 3: when you're think of it that way, Trada, who do
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Speaker 3: you have to be honest with?
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Speaker 2: You gotta be honest with yourself first.
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Speaker 3: You absolutely, and it's sometimes for a lot of people,
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Speaker 3: what I've noticed is probably the hardest thing to do,
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Speaker 3: because you are we were lying about our age, we're
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Speaker 3: lying about we're lying about our career, We're lying about
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Speaker 3: what kind of car we're driving, We're lying about I mean,
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Speaker 3: I'm not not this is not.
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Speaker 4: Saying anyone personally. I'm saying but small.
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Speaker 3: We're lying about the commitment of just taking our garbage
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Speaker 3: on an everyday basis exactly.
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Speaker 4: So the first thing.
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Speaker 3: That I will say is that I offer a free
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Speaker 3: seven day challenge, and ever so every month we do
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Speaker 3: a challenge, but the first month is free. And the
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Speaker 3: free seven day challenge that I offer starts off with
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Speaker 3: building integrity. Not integrity in my sense, but integrity in
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Speaker 3: believing in you. Because you can't accomplish any goals you
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Speaker 3: can't set any goals if you can't trust the words
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Speaker 3: that you say to you exactly.
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Speaker 2: Have you, guys ever heard this?
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Speaker 4: Have you ever heard this? And toe, I want you
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Speaker 4: to try me in and let let me know. Have
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Speaker 4: you ever heard that?
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Speaker 3: We think and spend more time subconsciously than conscious in
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Speaker 3: our lives. So if we're thinking subconsciously more often, that
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Speaker 3: means it doesn't matter what you're saying consciously.
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Speaker 4: It matters what you're thinking snooker.
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Speaker 3: So if you told if you said, Okay, I'm gonna
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Speaker 3: take the garbage out when I get home from work,
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Speaker 3: but then you get home from work and say, man,
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Speaker 3: I'm too tired to take the garbage out.
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Speaker 4: Now, you giving yourself an excuse not to do what
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Speaker 4: you said you're gonna do for you. Yeah, it seems minor.
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Speaker 3: It seems minor, But we tell the blue white lives
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Speaker 3: all the time.
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Speaker 4: I'll use myself today.
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Speaker 3: For instance, my youngest came into town today and they
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Speaker 3: just left like fifteen minutes ago, so well thirty minutes ago.
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Speaker 3: They left right before we jumped on, and I had
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Speaker 3: told my wife there was some things I.
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Speaker 4: Was gonna do.
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Speaker 3: Now I woke up this morning with a toothache. So
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Speaker 3: now we're gonna talk about the excuses I.
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Speaker 4: Could have given for what I was. Okay, my tooth
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Speaker 4: was hurting.
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Speaker 3: I had a headache because my tooth was hurting, so
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Speaker 3: I couldn't eat yet, because I couldn't eat anything, to
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Speaker 3: take some type of medication for my tooth. All of
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Speaker 3: those things. Now, let me tell you what I did. Okay,
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Speaker 3: what I did was I went. I ate a little
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Speaker 3: piece of something very very small, because you know, when
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Speaker 3: you're two thirds you don't want to eat nothing. You
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Speaker 3: don't want to breathe hardly. I had cotton in my
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Speaker 3: ears to keep the air from coming in. Then I
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Speaker 3: took a pain pill. Now I sat on the couch.
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Speaker 3: I told her give me fifteen to twenty minutes. I'm
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Speaker 3: gonna lay on the couch and do the things I
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Speaker 3: said I.
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Speaker 4: Was gonna do. Because the biggest thing to me my word.
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Speaker 4: Our word is golden.
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Speaker 3: Exactly, and people can rely on what I say, and
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Speaker 3: I can rely on what I say.
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Speaker 4: I told her I was going to do some things.
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Speaker 3: I did exactly what I told her I was gonna do,
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Speaker 3: and I was in pain all up until about an
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Speaker 3: hour of like by fifteen minutes before they walked in
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Speaker 3: the door, the paper and finally quick then I rarely
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Speaker 3: take medication.
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Speaker 4: I mean, for me to take any.
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Speaker 3: Kind of pay medication, I am in excruciating. I mean,
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Speaker 3: there's no okay, this is a slight no, no, it's
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Speaker 3: an almost incapacitating I can't do what you But when
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Speaker 3: I said I was going to do something, I did
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Speaker 3: just that. And now now let's say I have still
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Speaker 3: been feeling bad, I still would to I still would
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Speaker 3: have made baby right here, right now, because I told
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Speaker 3: you you that I was going to be there.
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Speaker 2: And see, I understand that, and I agree with that
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Speaker 2: whole heartedly, simply because I tell people all the time
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Speaker 2: there's a difference between excuses and reasons. Reasons will prevent
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Speaker 2: you from doing something. Excuses is something that you make
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Speaker 2: up that you just don't want to do it. And
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Speaker 2: I'd rather a person tell me they just don't want
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Speaker 2: to do it than to basically make up something and say, okay,
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Speaker 2: you know what, this is what it is. But I'm
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Speaker 2: gonna say this about myself. This is like I deal
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Speaker 2: with Krii malformation. It's a serious neurological condition. It's a
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Speaker 2: brain condition, and I have severe headaches all the time.
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Speaker 2: So if you've ever had a migrain headache, multiplied that
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Speaker 2: by ten, and it has a burning sensation at the
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Speaker 2: base of my neck and my shoulders. So I'm usually
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Speaker 2: in pain a lot of the times. Most people don't
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Speaker 2: ever know because I've been able to maneuver through it.
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Speaker 4: Now.
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Speaker 2: With that being said, before I got to the space
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Speaker 2: to where I'm at now and I can function in
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Speaker 2: a way that nobody ever knows how much pain I'm
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Speaker 2: really in is by I got tired of hearing myself
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Speaker 2: talk about how much pain I was in. And so
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Speaker 2: when I got tired of hearing myself when someone would
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Speaker 2: ask how you feel and how you doing, I'd be like, man,
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Speaker 2: my head hurts, I don't feel good. I can't do this,
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Speaker 2: I can't do that. And one day I was getting
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Speaker 2: ready to say that to somebody when they asked me
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Speaker 2: how I was doing, and I just simply said, I'm good,
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Speaker 2: you know, even though I wasn't. And it was just
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Speaker 2: like after that, I began to tell myself how good
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Speaker 2: I was outside of the pain I was feeling, and
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Speaker 2: it was like, Okay, yeah, you're in a lot of pain,
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Speaker 2: but you don't have to voice that to everybody, because
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Speaker 2: everybody doesn't want to know just how much pain you're in,
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Speaker 2: and not everybody's gonna be understanding, and not everybody's going
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Speaker 2: to be sympathetic to you saying that, and you're probably
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Speaker 2: getting on people's nerves also. But pain and tired of
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Speaker 2: hearing it, just like you're tired of saying it. So
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Speaker 2: I stopped saying it because I got tired of hearing it,
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Speaker 2: And so as I got tired of hearing it, it
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Speaker 2: was like, Okay, well, what else can I do in
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Speaker 2: the place of not feeling well? So I started telling myself, Oh,
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Speaker 2: I feel good today. Now if I'm in really excruciating pain,
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Speaker 2: then yeah, I'm gonna tell you, because number one, I'm
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Speaker 2: not gonna be able to hide it when I'm in
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Speaker 2: that intensive of pain episode, because it's going to show, like,
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Speaker 2: right now my face is on fire because it is suffer,
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Speaker 2: but it's not going to stop me from doing what
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Speaker 2: I need to do. I was in a virtual monologue
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Speaker 2: a couple of years ago, and I woke up in
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Speaker 2: excruciating pain duing to my Kiari, and I knew that
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Speaker 2: there wasn't an undis understudy for me there wasn't anybody
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Speaker 2: who could take my place, and I'm like, I have
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Speaker 2: to help everyone else, you know, because my part is
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Speaker 2: major for this virtual monologue. I have to show up
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Speaker 2: regardless of how much pain I'm in. And so I
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Speaker 2: told the ladies, you know, I'm not feeling well, but
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Speaker 2: don't count me out. I'll do what I need to do.
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Speaker 2: When the camera came on me, no one knew I
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Speaker 2: was in excruciation pain. You couldnot tell. I did not
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Speaker 2: look like it, I did not move like it. And
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Speaker 2: that's one thing, like I tell my kids all the time,
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Speaker 2: if you want to actually be better at something, the
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Speaker 2: dialogue that you have with yourself is the most important
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Speaker 2: dialogue you'll ever have, because if you tell yourself that
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Speaker 2: you can't do something, then guess what, You're not gonna
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Speaker 2: be able to do it. If you tell yourself this
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Speaker 2: right here, what you're thinking about, is gonna fail, then
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Speaker 2: it's going to fail. But you can't ever fail at
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Speaker 2: anything if you don't actually get up and get started.
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Speaker 2: You gotta get to the starting line to get to
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Speaker 2: the finish line. It's not going to be easy to
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Speaker 2: get to the finish line. You're gonna run into some obstacles.
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Speaker 2: You're gonna run into some detours, But as long as
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Speaker 2: the plan is to get to the finish line, you
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Speaker 2: gotta do what is necessary. And I ask people all
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Speaker 2: the time, how bad do you want the thing that
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Speaker 2: you talk about?
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Speaker 4: To say it again? Say together one more time that
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Speaker 4: I use.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, when I find when I find myself lit's say,
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Speaker 3: everyone has a moment of doubt, and everyone has that
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Speaker 3: moment of.
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Speaker 4: Of man, I've been hitting them. I've been hitting I
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Speaker 4: hit a brick, you hit a brick wall. I asked
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Speaker 4: myself the question, how bad do you want?
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Speaker 3: What you said you were moving towards how bad? And
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Speaker 3: and and.
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Speaker 4: I'm not and I want to I want to say this,
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Speaker 4: but I'm not saying that to minimize that. Sometimes it's
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Speaker 4: a lot of things that have to be done.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, what I noticed is that when I take them
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Speaker 3: one focused thing at a time, I want to repeat that,
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Speaker 3: one focused thing at the time. Then I accomplish my goals.
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Speaker 3: When you are taking when you're taking on ten things,
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Speaker 3: you're unfocused and scattered thoughts do not hit targets.
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Speaker 2: They do not say that one more time again.
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Speaker 3: I really mean that, because scattered thoughts don't hit targets
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Speaker 3: if you are. We have been fed a myth, and
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Speaker 3: I want to say it right here. We even fed
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Speaker 3: a myth that you can multitask. Let me explain nothing
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Speaker 3: or no or no. One multitasks that includes a computer,
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Speaker 3: that includes people.
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Speaker 4: We don't multitask. We stop one task to start another.
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Speaker 3: Exactly because when you're doing a task, you're conscious consciously
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Speaker 3: doing them. Now subconscious things they might be going on
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Speaker 3: in the background, like when we walk and talk. Those
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Speaker 3: are two different parts of our brain that are working.
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Speaker 3: They're not the same parts of our brain. So that
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Speaker 3: simulates as if you can do two things at once. However,
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Speaker 3: when you're formulating thoughts or you're formulating their plan, if
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Speaker 3: you're formulating a plan here and a plan here, one plan.
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Speaker 4: Has to stop to start another exactly. So that's why
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Speaker 4: they would focused intentions.
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Speaker 3: You moved to your vot and I take everything one
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Speaker 3: step in time cause I know that I know personally
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Speaker 3: that one thing would focus all your energy behind what
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Speaker 3: you're doing.
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Speaker 4: One thing. You always achieve.
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Speaker 2: It, Yeah, you achieve that. I tell my kids all
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Speaker 2: the time, Like when I got ready to go back
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Speaker 2: to school, now, I was a little hesitant on doing
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Speaker 2: that because I've been out of school for nineteen years.
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Speaker 2: And once I started that journey, I would tell myself,
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Speaker 2: like when they put me in a math class, I
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Speaker 2: was like, listen, I don't know anything about this. Math
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Speaker 2: is not my thing. I know numbers and I know
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Speaker 2: my money, but anything else that when you start adding
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Speaker 2: the letters and stuff and that you don't lost me
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Speaker 2: word problems, Listen, that ain't my thing. And so I
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Speaker 2: would have my children, my boys, check my math homework
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Speaker 2: behind me and they were like, why are we checking this.
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Speaker 2: You're good at this, and I was like, no, I'm not.
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Speaker 2: And they were like, every time you bring me your
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Speaker 2: homework to check you have the correct answers. So I
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Speaker 2: need you to stop bother me with this because you
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Speaker 2: are good at this. And I was like, well, I
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Speaker 2: guess I am. But I never thought about it because
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Speaker 2: for me, I always sucked at math. But I had
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Speaker 2: a good teacher while I was in college. You broke
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Speaker 2: it down to me in a way that I got
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Speaker 2: it but passed. Had always told me I was bad
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Speaker 2: at math. So I had to get used to a
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Speaker 2: new norm of knowing that I was good at something
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Speaker 2: that I thought I was bad at. How do you
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Speaker 2: direct people to let go of a past moment that
22:46
Speaker 2: they felt define them that no longer defines them.
22:51
Speaker 4: First, first of all, I want to love the statement
22:53
Speaker 4: that came before it.
22:55
Speaker 3: And how because it goes to limited belief to talking
23:00
Speaker 3: about we hold ourselves back from a limiting belief limit.
23:05
Speaker 3: We limit our thoughts, we limit our actions, and we liver,
23:08
Speaker 3: we limit our possibilities. How when I'm talking to a
23:13
Speaker 3: talking to individuals about changing the limiting belief, you have
23:18
Speaker 3: to let go of things.
23:20
Speaker 4: That have happened. You cannot change the past. So what
23:24
Speaker 4: we're gonna do.
23:25
Speaker 3: What you can do is you can you can remember
23:27
Speaker 3: that over time you grow, right, and as you grow
23:32
Speaker 3: and those number of problems you you are at a
23:35
Speaker 3: different mind frame nineteen years ago than you are today.
23:40
Speaker 3: You had eight to nine classes that you were doing
23:42
Speaker 3: and usually in college you're doing two to three right,
23:46
Speaker 3: and you have more time with those those counselors. And
23:49
Speaker 3: I mean that's just with that particular situation, but in general,
23:53
Speaker 3: as you are growing, you're gonna grow a new sense
23:56
Speaker 3: of whom you are. So when you start hearing things
24:00
Speaker 3: that are limiting you, you have to ask yourself, this
24:03
Speaker 3: is something I use. It's called fadar. Focus on whatever
24:07
Speaker 3: it is, Acknowledge whatever happened has happened, Debunk debunk that
24:12
Speaker 3: it has any relevance on your current situation, elevate above it,
24:17
Speaker 3: and reprogram your mind by saying that I am the
24:22
Speaker 3: best at or speak it into existence, which I'll use
24:25
Speaker 3: a phrase.
24:26
Speaker 2: For instance.
24:27
Speaker 3: Let's say like, right now, I am on the mission
24:30
Speaker 3: of selling five thousand copies of hashtag poverty to six figures.
24:34
Speaker 3: And to do that, I've never sold five thousand books,
24:40
Speaker 3: so I can say to myself, Hey, I never sold
24:44
Speaker 3: five thousand books. I know nothing about it. So let
24:46
Speaker 3: me say what I said. I am looking into the
24:50
Speaker 3: methods and speaking to people who are able to help me.
24:54
Speaker 3: Elevate to make to sell five thousand copies of hastack
24:58
Speaker 3: poverty to six figures.
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Speaker 4: Limit in there.
25:01
Speaker 3: So you the reprogram is something you have to tell yourself, because,
25:06
Speaker 3: as you constantly tell yourself, your subconscious mind is gonna
25:10
Speaker 3: be hold of you. You've already done it, yeah, and
25:14
Speaker 3: your reality is gonna move you towards it. So, just
25:18
Speaker 3: like Trevida was saying, good or bad, whatever you tell
25:22
Speaker 3: yourself is gonna come to fruition.
25:25
Speaker 4: You are.
25:27
Speaker 3: You are the person who is navigating. You are the
25:29
Speaker 3: GPS for you, sach. So if you're the GPS for you,
25:33
Speaker 3: you give yourself instructions. I gave myself instructions that I'm
25:36
Speaker 3: selling five thousand books in six months now.
25:39
Speaker 4: Since I made that declaration when my book.
25:42
Speaker 3: Came out on June seventeenth, I've met people who sold
25:48
Speaker 3: millions of copies of books a book, not multiple books
25:54
Speaker 3: of a book. I joined a mastermind of people who
25:58
Speaker 3: have who have sold one hundred thousand to a million
26:02
Speaker 3: copies of a book.
26:04
Speaker 4: Now. Reason being is because if I'm looking to do.
26:08
Speaker 2: Something, you gotta connect with the people that.
26:12
Speaker 3: People who have done it, plus and they're gonna drop information.
26:18
Speaker 3: Like one of the ladies that was in the Mastermind,
26:21
Speaker 3: she made one reference of something that was so small,
26:24
Speaker 3: it was so minute, it was something you would overlook. Okay,
26:29
Speaker 3: so she gave me. She said, Okay, you're trying to
26:32
Speaker 3: sell this number of books. How many number of books
26:34
Speaker 3: you want to sell? Permont break it down? She said,
26:37
Speaker 3: what activities are we going to do? She said, so
26:39
Speaker 3: these are the activities I did. So she gave me
26:41
Speaker 3: a list of activities. She did to sell one hundred
26:45
Speaker 3: thousand copies. She's a million cop persons who sold a
26:47
Speaker 3: million copies of her book and has is on Oprah's
26:51
Speaker 3: list of.
26:54
Speaker 2: Okay.
26:55
Speaker 4: So she was explaining how she did it okay, and
27:00
Speaker 4: the biggest thing.
27:00
Speaker 3: Was her small, small, small piece of information. She said,
27:05
Speaker 3: every time you see somebody, you're selling books. Every time
27:08
Speaker 3: you talk to somebody, you're selling books. She said, Yes,
27:11
Speaker 3: you are a leadership coach, but you are a leadership
27:14
Speaker 3: coach who's selling a book that involves leadership. She said,
27:18
Speaker 3: you're not talking, thinking, or being anything else but a
27:22
Speaker 3: leadership coach who sells books, sell books. You're selling books.
27:27
Speaker 3: You're selling books. You're selling books.
27:28
Speaker 4: She said.
27:29
Speaker 3: If you're telling yourself every day, you're selling books. Every
27:31
Speaker 3: time you see somebody, you're offering a book. Every time
27:35
Speaker 3: you discuss something somebody, you're talking about your book. She said,
27:37
Speaker 3: you want to be the expert in your book. She said,
27:40
Speaker 3: every chapter, what's in that chapter?
27:42
Speaker 4: You should know?
27:44
Speaker 3: Yeah, she said, read a piece of your book every day,
27:48
Speaker 3: she said, and your content should match it.
27:51
Speaker 4: Period. Now. Now, now I got a question, how hard
27:56
Speaker 4: was any What she said it was.
28:00
Speaker 2: You are already doing it.
28:02
Speaker 3: Already making content every day, so we're already doing it.
28:07
Speaker 4: But the strategy that she was speaking of was what
28:12
Speaker 4: was missing.
28:13
Speaker 2: The farm tuning basically is what we're necessary. And I
28:17
Speaker 2: think a lot of people, even myself, I'm in the
28:20
Speaker 2: space of fine tuning everything that I do with my
28:26
Speaker 2: publishing business, with the podcast, with helping my clients, and
28:33
Speaker 2: just everything else that I've been a part of. And
28:36
Speaker 2: you know, I did my very first book sign and
28:38
Speaker 2: last weekend Education, Thank you, thank you. It was it was,
28:45
Speaker 2: it was amazing. I mean, I'm still in awe and
28:49
Speaker 2: I've been trying to put into words how to express that,
28:54
Speaker 2: and I can't because my heart is still so full
28:57
Speaker 2: from the experience itself. Now, I had mister Edward asked
29:02
Speaker 2: me a question at the event.
29:05
Speaker 1: And.
29:07
Speaker 2: I've been pondering that one question for a minute, even
29:10
Speaker 2: though I was able to answer it, but I still
29:13
Speaker 2: have to ponder upon it simply because it's a profound question.
29:18
Speaker 2: And the question he asked me was why was that
29:23
Speaker 2: my very first book signing when I've written six books
29:27
Speaker 2: and I've been a co author in six other books.
29:31
Speaker 2: And my response simply was this, because I'm in the
29:36
Speaker 2: healing stage and learning to celebrate myself. I've never been
29:41
Speaker 2: in a space to do that, and so that is
29:45
Speaker 2: part of it. It was also a celebration for my mom.
29:49
Speaker 2: It was the two year anniversary, well not necessarily anniversary,
29:53
Speaker 2: but it's been two years since my mom passed, and
29:56
Speaker 2: last Saturday it would have been her sixty sixth birthday.
29:59
Speaker 2: So and I wrote the book in honor of her,
30:02
Speaker 2: and everything that centered around it was centered around that
30:06
Speaker 2: and to celebrate her and not just to make it
30:09
Speaker 2: a sad moment, but.
30:13
Speaker 4: Took a negative to make it a positive and awesome.
30:16
Speaker 4: That's awesome. Sorry, no, you're Finn, You're fine.
30:20
Speaker 2: But that question he asked me was simply, why did
30:24
Speaker 2: it take so long for me to do that? And
30:27
Speaker 2: as I explained to him, I have never been in
30:29
Speaker 2: the space of celebrating self because I was always told
30:34
Speaker 2: as a little child that I was only going to
30:37
Speaker 2: be a drunk and an alcohol and a drunk and
30:39
Speaker 2: a drug addict, just like my mother, and so everything
30:43
Speaker 2: that the family that raised me, my aunt, they would
30:47
Speaker 2: consistently tell me that those were my only options, that
30:51
Speaker 2: I wasn't going to graduate high school, that I wasn't
30:53
Speaker 2: going to do this and that I wasn't going to
30:55
Speaker 2: do that, and so I got in the habit of, Okay,
30:58
Speaker 2: you're telling me I'm not going to do something, and
31:00
Speaker 2: let me go ahead and do it and prove you wrong.
31:03
Speaker 2: So I got into the habit of proving people wrong
31:06
Speaker 2: when they tell me I can't do something, and so
31:12
Speaker 2: you tell me I can't do it, so now do it.
31:18
Speaker 2: And so I got so used to doing that, so
31:20
Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, I did that, what's next. So I
31:24
Speaker 2: got criticized for writing my first poetry book because it
31:28
Speaker 2: didn't look right. It didn't look it wasn't professionally done.
31:32
Speaker 2: But I wasn't being I wasn't looking for that. I
31:36
Speaker 2: was also being obedient to what God was telling me
31:39
Speaker 2: to do. My best friend had came and said, you
31:41
Speaker 2: need to write your book. You do this poetry all
31:44
Speaker 2: the time, and I would tell her, yeah, okay, I'm
31:46
Speaker 2: gonna do it one day, and then my son told
31:50
Speaker 2: me I wasn't allowed to leave my bedroom. I had
31:52
Speaker 2: to get this done, and so I did. And I
31:56
Speaker 2: was like, God, if this is meant to be, if
31:57
Speaker 2: this is the journey that you want me on, then
32:00
Speaker 2: and this book will get accepted and so the book
32:02
Speaker 2: got accepted on Amazon, and I was like, Okay, it
32:05
Speaker 2: looks like crap, and it did. I mean, it had
32:09
Speaker 2: all kind of different fonts in it, It had all
32:11
Speaker 2: kind of different I mean, it just looked the hot mess. However,
32:15
Speaker 2: if I had taken what every critic had to say
32:20
Speaker 2: about me, I wouldn't be where I am today because
32:24
Speaker 2: I would have listened to them. But my whole thing
32:27
Speaker 2: has always been what is my assignment is my assignment.
32:30
Speaker 2: It doesn't belong to anybody else, and I'm gonna do
32:34
Speaker 2: what I'm supposed to do. And so I've been able
32:38
Speaker 2: to do all my editing, do all my format and
32:43
Speaker 2: do all of these things, and teach myself because I'm
32:45
Speaker 2: a stroke survivor. I also had QRI my information. I've
32:49
Speaker 2: had to learn how to walk and talk twice. And
32:52
Speaker 2: so going from all of those things to where I
32:55
Speaker 2: am now being connected to people who are like minded
33:00
Speaker 2: individuals who are on the road to doing something better.
33:06
Speaker 2: Just like you said in the beginning, you wanted your
33:08
Speaker 2: kids to have someone that they could look up to
33:12
Speaker 2: and model after. And that was one of the things
33:15
Speaker 2: that I told myself, is that I want to make
33:18
Speaker 2: sure that my children are happy and are grateful to
33:24
Speaker 2: even mention my name in spaces, whereas myself growing up,
33:28
Speaker 2: I was embarrassed by my mom. I didn't want nobody
33:31
Speaker 2: to even know who my mom was until I got older.
33:36
Speaker 2: And the difference with that was I had to take
33:39
Speaker 2: the mom title off of my mother and look at
33:42
Speaker 2: her as an individual and look at her life and
33:46
Speaker 2: look at her as a person, and then realize that
33:50
Speaker 2: she went through some things in life that took her
33:53
Speaker 2: down a path, and her journey was never my journey.
33:57
Speaker 2: But I had to get to know her as a
34:02
Speaker 2: person and not just my mom. And when I was
34:04
Speaker 2: able to do that, it helped me in so many ways.
34:08
Speaker 2: And I've been connected to so many people, and I've
34:11
Speaker 2: been in rooms that my family told me I would
34:14
Speaker 2: never even be a part of. And so I've been
34:17
Speaker 2: in spaces where I've had to fight back tears simply
34:20
Speaker 2: because the little girl that they told me was never
34:24
Speaker 2: gonna be in those rooms or walking in spaces where
34:27
Speaker 2: now people know who I am before I even know
34:29
Speaker 2: who they are, you know, And I'm grateful for that.
34:34
Speaker 2: And I'm, like we talked about in the beginning, I'm
34:37
Speaker 2: not a trend I'm not a trend follower. I am
34:40
Speaker 2: authentically who I am. I'm not anything that I'm not
34:45
Speaker 2: supposed to be and I will never pretend to be.
34:48
Speaker 2: So when people say, well they said this about you,
34:51
Speaker 2: they said that about you, Okay, that's fine. You know,
34:55
Speaker 2: whatever somebody decides that they want to say about me,
34:58
Speaker 2: that doesn't necessarily mean that I I am that person.
35:00
Speaker 2: And one thing I am big on. I don't care
35:05
Speaker 2: what people call me. It's what I choose to answer
35:08
Speaker 2: to is what I'm always going to answer to. And
35:13
Speaker 2: do you have a part where what you would consider
35:17
Speaker 2: a breaking point with working with someone and a sense
35:21
Speaker 2: of I would say lack of drive and lack of
35:28
Speaker 2: respect for self because self respect comes to play in
35:32
Speaker 2: a lot of things. And there's so many spaces now
35:34
Speaker 2: where I see people lack self respect that keeps them
35:38
Speaker 2: doing stuff that makes absolutely no sense. You know, I
35:42
Speaker 2: don't know. It's just certain things that I'm like, I
35:46
Speaker 2: think more of myself to even put myself in places
35:49
Speaker 2: in spaces to where it's not going to be beneficial
35:52
Speaker 2: in the long run. Do you have something like that
35:56
Speaker 2: that you feel for yourself that you're just not gonna
35:59
Speaker 2: put yourself in this space to where people were gonna
36:02
Speaker 2: look at you like, how could she do something like that?
36:06
Speaker 4: Well, I would say this verse Tata Tarita.
36:09
Speaker 3: The biggest thing is is that I applaud all of
36:14
Speaker 3: your discipline. I applaud all of your not allowing people
36:19
Speaker 3: to tell you who you are and you stepping into
36:21
Speaker 3: being Trevita Harris and not concerned to what anyone else
36:24
Speaker 3: was thinking, saying, or how they felt about what you
36:28
Speaker 3: were going to do for your purpose in life. So
36:30
Speaker 3: I definitely want to applaud that moment. I always respect
36:34
Speaker 3: as well as celebrate growth and celebrate excellence. And that
36:38
Speaker 3: is an excellent statement, an excellent mindset. Now, the question
36:42
Speaker 3: that was asked now, for me personally, I am a
36:46
Speaker 3: firm believer and being authentically who I am. I have
36:52
Speaker 3: for me self care is really about boundaries, sitting clear
36:56
Speaker 3: boundaries with me, and that allows me to say clear
36:58
Speaker 3: boundaries with people external of myself. So I don't put
37:02
Speaker 3: myself in spaces or places that.
37:05
Speaker 4: Don't align with me exactly.
37:07
Speaker 3: And I'll say this like I'm a person who I
37:10
Speaker 3: don't drink, never drink lett let'st's let's take it this.
37:13
Speaker 4: We're not gonna take it like I stopped drinking yesterday.
37:16
Speaker 4: I have had had two drinks. My I've had two
37:18
Speaker 4: drinks my whole life, okay, and.
37:23
Speaker 3: One of those drinks I don't even remember what happened.
37:25
Speaker 3: And so I'm not a drinker.
37:28
Speaker 4: One.
37:28
Speaker 3: I don't drink, not being I don't drink because I
37:30
Speaker 3: don't like the smell of alcohol. So but I mean
37:33
Speaker 3: not liking the smell of it. I don't do things
37:35
Speaker 3: as if I'm I want to say this why I.
37:38
Speaker 4: Don't believe in being a trend setter. I mean being
37:40
Speaker 4: part of the.
37:41
Speaker 3: Trend because people who are unique make the trend exactly.
37:46
Speaker 3: So I consider myself a trend set So if I'm
37:51
Speaker 3: a trend setter, I can't follow the trend is liquid
37:57
Speaker 3: information and see how that connects to where I'm trying
38:00
Speaker 3: to go in the future. Like I was speaking about
38:02
Speaker 3: the lady when she made this simple statement, her simple
38:05
Speaker 3: statement already aligns with what I'm doing.
38:08
Speaker 4: She's just refocusing how.
38:10
Speaker 2: I do it exactly.
38:12
Speaker 3: So as far as places and spaces I tend. Right now,
38:19
Speaker 3: I'm on a radio show. I have a radio show
38:21
Speaker 3: called wigim CEO is on my radio Chicago phenomenal radio
38:26
Speaker 3: station they do there, but most of the interviews are
38:28
Speaker 3: about like a lot of hip hop R and B.
38:31
Speaker 4: I say, trap music type things. It's not my thing.
38:35
Speaker 3: So on my show, out of all of the shows,
38:39
Speaker 3: I have had one guest that is actually anything has
38:42
Speaker 3: anything to do with music, because my show is about
38:45
Speaker 3: building the community around the individuals that are in the community,
38:49
Speaker 3: and you know, people in those communities so we can
38:52
Speaker 3: have more control over things that our money, our finances,
38:57
Speaker 3: are places that we live. So my whole show is
39:00
Speaker 3: about waking up the person that's inside of you so
39:04
Speaker 3: you can be able to purchase property in those neighborhoods
39:07
Speaker 3: that we complain about, how.
39:10
Speaker 4: To make changes in those neighborhoods.
39:12
Speaker 3: We complain about how to actually learn conflict resolution, so
39:16
Speaker 3: because if you learn conflict resolution, you can teach your
39:19
Speaker 3: kids conflict resolution, which stops all the gun.
39:21
Speaker 2: Violence in our streets exactly.
39:25
Speaker 3: I want to remind people that we have controlled over
39:29
Speaker 3: those those things. So my self care of setting those
39:34
Speaker 3: clear boundaries allow me not to be in spaces or
39:37
Speaker 3: places that don't resonate with what Rachel L. Gary stands for.
39:42
Speaker 3: What I stand for is all aligned with who I am.
39:45
Speaker 3: I'm talking leadership. If I'm on a bus, a plane,
39:48
Speaker 3: a train, in my car, walking down the street, I
39:51
Speaker 3: am who I am.
39:52
Speaker 4: Twenty four to seven, seven days a week. This isn't new. Now.
39:56
Speaker 3: What I'll say is to this point, this one small
39:59
Speaker 3: piece that once I was a line with who Rachel
40:04
Speaker 3: Elgary was. Once I was about the life in which
40:09
Speaker 3: I was ready to lead.
40:11
Speaker 4: I had a moment, a touching moment.
40:15
Speaker 3: My youngest wrote the intro to my course, so people
40:20
Speaker 3: enter my course. The first page is a letter from
40:25
Speaker 3: my youngest to the actual participants in the program. It
40:30
Speaker 3: was unsolicited in the fact of how to write it.
40:33
Speaker 3: It was not revised. How they presented it is how
40:37
Speaker 3: it's there.
40:38
Speaker 4: When I read it, I'm not a cryer.
40:42
Speaker 3: I gotta be honest. I'm not an emotional type person.
40:44
Speaker 3: I'm a very factual person. It's just matrigated, just me,
40:49
Speaker 3: very factual. When I read it, it brought a tear
40:51
Speaker 3: in my eye, and that's why I had the preference
40:54
Speaker 3: that I'm not an emotional person.
40:55
Speaker 4: In that way.
40:56
Speaker 3: But when I read it, I knew had done what
41:01
Speaker 3: I set out to twenty years ago, when I was
41:03
Speaker 3: sitting on a porch, trying to figure out how I
41:07
Speaker 3: was gonna get my kids off of a couch when
41:09
Speaker 3: I was only making seven dollars an hour and couldn't
41:11
Speaker 3: even afford to pay rent somewhere. So that is how
41:17
Speaker 3: I stay out of the spaces and places that don't
41:20
Speaker 3: make sense, and how all of my journey comes full
41:23
Speaker 3: circle when at the point in time, six year old
41:29
Speaker 3: child was sitting there on the air mattress had fun
41:33
Speaker 3: with her. Cousins had no idea we was even homeless.
41:35
Speaker 3: They were just playing to the twenty seven year old
41:39
Speaker 3: child who wrote a letter and it resonated with I
41:44
Speaker 3: had done exactly what I set out to do.
41:49
Speaker 2: And see that that brings me to the point that
41:52
Speaker 2: I tell people, And when I first said this two
41:55
Speaker 2: years ago, people laughed at me and didn't understand what
41:58
Speaker 2: I missed. I'm not in spaces and places where I
42:01
Speaker 2: don't belong simply because I tell people. If God didn't
42:05
Speaker 2: put it on my calendar, I'm not supposed to be there,
42:08
Speaker 2: because I'm going to be in spaces where He directs me.
42:12
Speaker 2: So if you don't see me because you know you
42:14
Speaker 2: get asked a question, well, when you be hiding it
42:16
Speaker 2: I'm not hiding anywhere I'm supposed to be when I'm
42:20
Speaker 2: supposed to be there, So you're not going to see
42:23
Speaker 2: me in spaces where I'm not supposed to be. And
42:26
Speaker 2: so when I said that, they laughed at me and
42:29
Speaker 2: told me I was crazy. I said, you can call
42:31
Speaker 2: it crazy if you want to, but I'm never going
42:33
Speaker 2: to be in spaces where God hasn't called me to be.
42:36
Speaker 2: And each and every person that I've had the pleasure
42:40
Speaker 2: of doing believing the journey with as guests or otherwise,
42:45
Speaker 2: it all brings confirmation to me that I am on
42:48
Speaker 2: the path that God has me to be on. What
42:53
Speaker 2: is one thing, one piece of advice that you would
42:56
Speaker 2: leave them with tonight on how they can actually step
43:01
Speaker 2: back from fear and step into becoming the CEO of
43:06
Speaker 2: their own lives, and how can they get in touch
43:09
Speaker 2: with you because they're definitely going to be reaching out
43:12
Speaker 2: for all of these nuggets that you shared with us tonight, I.
43:16
Speaker 3: Would say, first, fear from from my favorite favorite inspirational
43:22
Speaker 3: leader is Lisa Nichols. Fear is fake evidence appearing in
43:28
Speaker 3: real a when you are afraid, You are afraid of
43:32
Speaker 3: an event that has not even happened, yet you are you.
43:36
Speaker 4: Are afraid of something that has happened in the.
43:39
Speaker 3: Pastus, I want to say this, where you are going
43:44
Speaker 3: to fail, Yes, pay, pay, prepare, prepare, You're going to fail.
43:52
Speaker 3: What you do after the failure is what makes you
43:55
Speaker 3: great because you're gonna fail. Because I have a lesson.
43:59
Speaker 3: I'm just two needs to happen in life. With every blessing,
44:02
Speaker 3: I'm either winning or I'm learning.
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Speaker 2: Mm hm.
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Speaker 3: There is no failure in that. And failure is an event,
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Speaker 3: it's not a lifestyle.
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Speaker 2: Failure is a lesson.
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Speaker 3: Failure means you're moving forward towards progress. So be prepared
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Speaker 3: that you will fail and don't. And the biggest thing
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Speaker 3: is for being as we'll say about fear, fear can
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Speaker 3: can cripple you, but.
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Speaker 4: You know that you are who you say you are.
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Speaker 3: The first thing is being who you authentically are. Take
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Speaker 3: a stock of you. Start there, and as you move forward,
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Speaker 3: you're going to prepare yourself for the challenges that are
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Speaker 3: going to come your way.
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Speaker 4: See, I'm gonna speak to you about fact I'm a candid.
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Speaker 3: Individual because I'm not gonna speak to you and the
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Speaker 3: fact that nothing's gonna happen as you step forward, the
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Speaker 3: path will lay out.
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Speaker 4: It will not, It will not. Now what will happen
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Speaker 4: is a challenge? Will happen?
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Speaker 3: Are you gonna rise to it or back down from it?
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Speaker 3: That is when you are lining up with whom you are.
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Speaker 3: When you are clear. That is why you are the CEO,
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Speaker 3: because you're gonna be clear when you step forward. That's
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Speaker 3: what We're gonna take stock of who you are, take
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Speaker 3: stock of who you are and.
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Speaker 4: Who you're becoming.
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Speaker 3: So if you know that you're ready, that you want
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Speaker 3: to have a company that is worth ten million dollars
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Speaker 3: and right now you are working a job that's making
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Speaker 3: twenty five dollars, don't be afraid of your dream. Slowly
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Speaker 3: make measure steps towards your dream. So that's when you
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Speaker 3: know who you are. You know you're that ten million
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Speaker 3: dollar business owner. That's who you are. You're gonna make
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Speaker 3: steps into it. You're gonna sail along the way. You're
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Speaker 3: gonna learn lessons along the way. Those lessons will move
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Speaker 3: you closer to your goal as long as you continue
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Speaker 3: forward and start getting information that is gonna help you
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Speaker 3: find success. I am a coach. Trevida is a coach.
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Speaker 3: Most people that you are around, have to have information
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Speaker 3: is gonna help you find success. Gravitate towards them, the
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Speaker 3: people that are not on your side. And I am
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Speaker 3: I'm a firm believer in me and a basket affair
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Speaker 3: and who just child, who just checked in. We had
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Speaker 3: a conversation about this the other day. If you are
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Speaker 3: not in my quarter, to see me when you are
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Speaker 3: not in my corner at.
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Speaker 2: All, exactly.
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Speaker 3: So, sometimes it's understanding that everyone's not gonna go with you,
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Speaker 3: nor were they.
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Speaker 4: Supposed to asactly. And as you grow understand you're gonna fail.
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Speaker 3: Success is yours so long as you continue moving forward
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Speaker 3: towards it. You're not gonna have all the answers. You're
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Speaker 3: gonna get knocked down, but how you get up is
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Speaker 3: what's going to allow you to find a success building.
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Speaker 3: The CEO is one building.
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Speaker 4: Block at a time, one habit at a time, one
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Speaker 4: moment at a time. Reflect on your self care. Being
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Speaker 4: self disciplined does not.
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Speaker 3: Mean having everything figured out. It's being focused on one
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Speaker 3: thing successfully free your self esteem. Understand you are great,
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Speaker 3: You are amazing. You amazing the way you are, You're amazing.
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Speaker 3: As you stepping forward towards who you're gonna be. Your
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Speaker 3: self esteem must be aligned with you are great, the
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Speaker 3: greatness and war, the limiting beliefs, understanding the things that
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Speaker 3: in your past, the people in your past, the conversations,
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Speaker 3: just like Trereta said, are were. Sometimes those things were
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Speaker 3: meant to so they were meaning to protect you, but
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Speaker 3: sometimes they were meaning to keep you at a level
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Speaker 3: where people could be comfortable with you.
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Speaker 4: No one has to be comfortable with who you are.
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Speaker 3: Once again, from what Lisa Nichol says, there's no reason
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Speaker 3: for you the limit who you are.
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Speaker 4: You shine so right that you need shades.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely. I love that part when you.
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Speaker 4: Shine bright, So when you need shades.
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Speaker 3: And my final word, my final phrase, I just want you,
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Speaker 3: guys to be successful and successful in whatever that might
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Speaker 3: that means to you. No one can define your success
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Speaker 3: but you. I can provide tools, but my tools are
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Speaker 3: all about working with.
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Speaker 4: The CEO that is you.
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Speaker 3: So when you are clear in your actions, empowered by
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Speaker 3: your choices, and ready to own your direction, you can
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Speaker 3: reach out to me at Www. Say I am Possible
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Speaker 3: dot com. That is Www. Say I Am possible dot com.
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Speaker 3: That is what is about at the end of the day,
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Speaker 3: because that impossible doesn't exist.
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Speaker 4: The word says.
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Speaker 3: I'm possible and be up out and moving to the
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Speaker 3: greatness we all know lies within who you CEOs.
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Speaker 2: I love that. Listen. That is the best way to
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Speaker 2: put it. And you mentioned something that I have Actually
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Speaker 2: I wrote it out on a post it note a
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Speaker 2: couple months ago, and this is why I say. God
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Speaker 2: always sends everything confirmation in everything that I do, and
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Speaker 2: that is I have on my little post it note.
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Speaker 2: It says, pray, prepare, and position. Pray for what it
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Speaker 2: is you need from God, position yourself to receive it,
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Speaker 2: which means you have to prepare for everything that He's
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Speaker 2: going to bless you with, but you have to put
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Speaker 2: forth the actions and the movements to get it done.
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Speaker 2: I want to thank you so much for being here
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Speaker 2: with me tonight because you gave me some nuggets and
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Speaker 2: some things that I can find tune for myself. Because
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Speaker 2: you gotta pray, prepare, and position for whatever it is
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Speaker 2: that God has for you. Now, this is how I
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Speaker 2: close out my show. If you've ever been a part
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Speaker 2: of if you've ever watched the show, you know this
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Speaker 2: is what I say, and that is stay out of
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Speaker 2: God's business. The only thing God needs you to do
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Speaker 2: is be obedient to what He's called you to do.
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Speaker 2: Because God is God all by himself, He doesn't need
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Speaker 2: anything from us, he doesn't need our instructions, he doesn't
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Speaker 2: need anything except for obedience. So I thank you guys
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Speaker 2: for tuning in tonight. I will be back on the
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Speaker 2: twenty fourth, and I will have the Ladies of Sacred
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Speaker 2: Seeds of Wisdom. It is the second group of ladies
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Speaker 2: who have made this book an amazing project. I am
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Speaker 2: honored to be part of that with doctor Carolyn. She's
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Speaker 2: the visionary of that book. And when I tell you y'all,
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Speaker 2: I've just gotten through the first few pages of that
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Speaker 2: book and I did not want to put it down.
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Speaker 2: So tune in come Thursday, July twenty fourth at eight pm.
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Speaker 2: I will be back.
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Speaker 4: Now.
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Speaker 2: Remember, stay out of God's business. The only thing he
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Speaker 2: needs you to do is be obedient to what he
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Speaker 2: called you to do.
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Speaker 4: Then I