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Would you cancel your birthday trip for your partner’s family wedding? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang. Hey, wake up!
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  Speaker 2: Anele and the club.
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  Speaker 1: On 947.
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  Speaker 2: Gather around. I need to tell you guys a story.
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  Speaker 3: I'm listening.
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  Speaker 4: Imagine you and your friends, about eight of you, planned
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  Speaker 4: a girls' trip eight months ago. And it made it
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  Speaker 4: out the WhatsApp group.
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  Speaker 2: Flights are booked.
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  Speaker 4: Accommodation is booked. The look book has been done. You
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  Speaker 4: guys are going to wear yellow on the first day.
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  Speaker 4: You're going to wear blue on the second one. On
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  Speaker 4: the third day, you guys are wearing animal print.
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  Speaker 2: It's in Italy. It's 10 days in Italy. Booked, paid, everything.
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  Speaker 3: I can taste the apple spritz.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, babe.
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  Speaker 2: The pizza, the real mozzarella. Oh, my word.
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  Speaker 4: You guys are going to Italy. Booked eight months ago, hey? Then,
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  Speaker 4: your boyfriend's sister.
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  Speaker 1: Boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, boyfriend.
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  Speaker 4: Your boyfriend's sister then sends out the invite to her wedding.
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  Speaker 2: And it is the same time that you are going
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  Speaker 2: to be.
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  Speaker 1: Away in Italy. How close are we with this?
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  Speaker 4: It's your boyfriend. You and your boyfriend are also close
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  Speaker 4: to getting engaged, just by the way. The family knows you.
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  Speaker 4: You're part of the family, but you're just still dating.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: Then your boyfriend says, if you go on that trip,
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  Speaker 4: I don't think our relationship is going to make it
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  Speaker 4: because this is my sister's wedding and it's a big
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  Speaker 4: deal for our family. And they are expecting you to
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  Speaker 4: be there.
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  Speaker 2: You can't.
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  Speaker 3: Well, neither event can be moved.
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  Speaker 4: And oh, by the way, here's a little bit of
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  Speaker 4: a cherry on top for you before you decide which
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  Speaker 4: way you're going.
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  Speaker 2: It's your birthday trip.
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  Speaker 1: This is very easy.
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  Speaker 2: What is it?
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  Speaker 5: Sorry, if we're close with my lay-by in-laws, then they
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  Speaker 5: would know when my birthday is. And this bride-to-be would
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  Speaker 5: have known through some sort of conversation that actually in October,
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  Speaker 5: I've got a trip coming up with my friends for
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  Speaker 5: my birthday.
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  Speaker 1: So no, I'm still going on my trip. Enjoy your wedding.
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  Speaker 2: But what if your relationship doesn't make it?
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  Speaker 5: Well, if not going to your sister's wedding is what's
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  Speaker 5: going to break us up, then maybe we weren't meant
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  Speaker 5: to be, sweetheart.
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  Speaker 3: But maybe for the rest of time, every time, let's
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  Speaker 3: say you stay together, then every time.
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  Speaker 2: It comes up.
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  Speaker 1: It's fine when they divorce, I'll remind him.
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  Speaker 3: Like remember the time when you, yeah, I'd go on
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  Speaker 3: the girls trip. Do you know how hard it is
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  Speaker 3: to get seven women together, guys? Like, my friends have
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  Speaker 3: been trying to see me since my birthday. My birthday
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  Speaker 3: was in May. And every week, I'm like, guys, it's me.
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  Speaker 3: I know, I'm the problem.
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  Speaker 1: I keep pushing and pushing and pushing.
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  Speaker 2: She's like, don't worry.
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  Speaker 3: After this week, I'll be fine. I'll be fine, I'll
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  Speaker 3: be fine. It's just been one of those, like, flaming
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  Speaker 3: horse years. And I just know that, like, it's so hard.
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  Speaker 3: And I can really taste the apples.
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  Speaker 2: It's Italy. A word from the youth. Ndabe, what do
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  Speaker 2: you think about this?
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  Speaker 3: I just.
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  Speaker 1: The idea that.
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  Speaker 6: Someone is going to go, but you don't show up
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  Speaker 6: for my family. You don't show up for me and
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  Speaker 6: my family like every single time.
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  Speaker 1: But also you.
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  Speaker 2: Very close with your sister. So that's your departure point.
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  Speaker 1: That's my issues there.
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  Speaker 3: But would your partner be close to your sister is
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  Speaker 3: the question. So it's not you are going to miss
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  Speaker 3: the wedding. It's your girlfriend that's going to.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, but I'm saying their relationship, even if they're not
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  Speaker 6: close at all, it'll be a matter of, but when
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  Speaker 6: my family needed you, babe, you didn't show up.
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  Speaker 5: The trick with good family relationships is to disappoint them
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  Speaker 5: early so they can manage their expectations if you let
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  Speaker 5: them down early it's like with parents if you let
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  Speaker 5: your parents down by first year oh you'll have a
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  Speaker 5: great relationship going forward take on that.
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  Speaker 2: Black sheep thing it really gives you peace of mind.
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  Speaker 3: But as the bride I actually think I would be
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  Speaker 3: okay I would understand I'd be like you had this
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  Speaker 3: trip planned eight months in advance it's okay like You'll
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  Speaker 3: be there in all the build up. You'll be at
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  Speaker 3: my kitchen tea.
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  Speaker 2: You'll be at the thing.
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  Speaker 1: You'll be one day, you'll be at my baby shower.
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  Speaker 2: All of that stuff.
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  Speaker 3: You had this trip booked because now you're going to
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  Speaker 3: lose money because of my wedding. So I think you also,
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  Speaker 3: brides can often be selfish. I think you just need
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  Speaker 3: to also go hang on a sec.
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  Speaker 2: Like, it's okay.
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  Speaker 3: 011-8838-947.
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  Speaker 4: You've heard the story. You've heard the opposing views. And
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  Speaker 4: now we'd like to hear from you. You and your girlfriends,
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  Speaker 4: eight of you have booked a trip to Italy. This
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  Speaker 4: is a real story, by the way. You and your
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  Speaker 4: girlfriends have booked a real trip to Italy.
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  Speaker 2: There's eight of you.
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  Speaker 4: Your boyfriend's sister then announces that on that weekend that
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  Speaker 4: you guys are going to be in Italy, that's the
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  Speaker 4: weekend she is going to get married. The family is like,
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  Speaker 4: what are you going to do? Your boyfriend is like,
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  Speaker 4: I'm expecting you, please. to be at my sister's wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Also, he's just like, I don't want to go to
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  Speaker 2: a wedding alone. I have a partner. It's you.
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  Speaker 3: He's not your fiancé and he's not your husband. He's
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  Speaker 3: still your boyfriend. Your relationship could end. And then you
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  Speaker 3: will rarely go on the trip of a lifetime to
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  Speaker 3: Italy with eight of your friends.
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  Speaker 1: No, babes, you're teaching English in China when that ends.
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  Speaker 2: 084-000-947.
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  Speaker 4: Send us a voice note. If you are a little
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  Speaker 4: bit triggered by what we're talking about, this happened to you.
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  Speaker 2: You had to pick between your.
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  Speaker 4: Boyfriend's family something, your girlfriend's family something, and your own thing,
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  Speaker 4: your own trip, your own.
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  Speaker 2: Job opportunity, right? What did you do? What did it
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  Speaker 2: mean for the relationship? I'm with Tembe Kile on this one.
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  Speaker 4: The wedding preparations would have been prior to eight months.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, how long does it take to prepare for
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  Speaker 2: a wedding?
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  Speaker 4: The mere fact that there is an ultimatum on the
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  Speaker 4: relationship for her choosing to go on a trip that
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  Speaker 4: she's been planning for eight months.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry to this man. I'd be in Italy. I would
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  Speaker 2: go on this trip. I completely agree with Dembeke.
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  Speaker 1: I am going on my girl's trip. Yeah, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 7: I'm just going to have to find someone new in Italy.
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  Speaker 2: The cows moo at the gate. He's still a boyfriend.
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  Speaker 7: He won't get a privilege of depriving me of a
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  Speaker 7: trip to Italy.
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  Speaker 5: I told you guys, anyone who hasn't proposed to you
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  Speaker 5: or married you, it's basically still a stranger.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know those people.
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  Speaker 4: Frankie, in his sickness, sent a message saying, yeah, I
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  Speaker 4: know she can go to Italy, but we are going
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  Speaker 4: to have a new relationship afterwards.
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  Speaker 3: That's fine.
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  Speaker 1: Don't threaten me with a good time.
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  Speaker 5: I literally have a new crush every seven days.
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  Speaker 1: I've got a new crush. Let's keep it going. It's
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  Speaker 1: a conveyor belt.
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  Speaker 2: Rufino, you're in Boxburg. What do you think?
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  Speaker 7: Good morning. Oh, Shep, it was nice to know him.
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  Speaker 7: And I'm going to tag him on all the pictures
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  Speaker 7: of my holidays so that he sees that I'm having
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  Speaker 7: fun without him. His sister might divorce and I'll attend
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  Speaker 7: the second wedding, but yeah, it was nice to know him.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my word, guys.
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  Speaker 4: No one is coming up for the family wedding yet.
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  Speaker 2: Everyone says go on holiday.
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  Speaker 7: No, I'm a plus one. I'm not part of the wedding.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not the bridesmaid.
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  Speaker 7: I'm not... Uh-uh, no.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 2: Bye.
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  Speaker 4: I've always found it very weird when people have got
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  Speaker 4: a thing around you not being at their wedding. Because
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  Speaker 4: I think this is the most important day of your life.
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  Speaker 4: Outside of the person you're marrying, no one else actually
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  Speaker 4: has to be there.
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  Speaker 2: And it's fine. Like, nothing changes.
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  Speaker 4: The DNA of the wedding doesn't change because one person
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  Speaker 4: didn't make it. And if you, on your wedding day,
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  Speaker 4: are looking out into the crowd and you're thinking of
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  Speaker 4: the one person that isn't there... Instead of the 300
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  Speaker 4: that are there, you are the, yeah, you are absolutely
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  Speaker 4: the problem.
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  Speaker 1: I also don't like ultimatums in general.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like, why are you forcing me to make a certain decision? No.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe the, guys, okay, let me throw a spanner in
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  Speaker 4: the works here. Maybe the boyfriend knows that there's going
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  Speaker 4: to be an ex there who's going to be there
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  Speaker 4: with their partner and he wants to win.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm saying? Then he must also
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  Speaker 1: go to Italy for his safety.
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  Speaker 4: Mkele, you're in four ways.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to us. Hi.
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  Speaker 7: Hi, Anile.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Nkele, how are you?
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  Speaker 7: I'm good, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: You're great. You said you were in a similar situation.
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  Speaker 7: Mine, yes, I was in a similar situation, but it
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  Speaker 7: was with family. So, what is Ubabungane in English?
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  Speaker 2: Ubabungane is your dad's younger brother.
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  Speaker 7: My dad's younger brother, but the son was getting married.
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  Speaker 7: So they wanted me to actually be on the program
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  Speaker 7: to welcome Umako into the family. So when Mbapu Mlani
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  Speaker 7: called to say, hey, Ngele, you're going to be on
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  Speaker 7: the program on this day. I'm like, yo, Mbapu Mlani,
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  Speaker 7: too late. I've already booked my ticket to go run
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  Speaker 7: to Oceans in Cape Town. I've paid my accommodation. So
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  Speaker 7: much me absent. I'm not coming. So I'm saying this girl,
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  Speaker 7: she'll pack her bags and make her way to Italy.
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  Speaker 7: They'll discuss whatever when she comes back, if there's even
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  Speaker 7: a chance to even like discuss those things.
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  Speaker 4: But hang on, did your family try to convince you
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  Speaker 4: to change your whole two oceans trip and like guilt trip?
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  Speaker 7: My dad was not happy, but I said, Dad, are
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  Speaker 7: you going to give me my money back? And also,
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  Speaker 7: I'm missing out on running. It's not only just the trip.
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  Speaker 7: It's me running. And every year when you run, you
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  Speaker 7: are adding your numbers. I'm closer to getting my blue number.
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  Speaker 7: So I'm not missing this one. So I am going
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  Speaker 7: to Cape Town. We'll discuss all those things when I
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  Speaker 7: come back. Yeah, to this day, he's still not happy
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  Speaker 7: with me. But yeah, we're moving on.
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  Speaker 2: Luckily, you can run away from him.
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  Speaker 8: I get it from him.
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  Speaker 4: But wait, did you know, because the thing about wedding
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  Speaker 4: invites as well, they go.
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  Speaker 2: Out long in advance, right?
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  Speaker 4: So did you know about the wedding even before you
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  Speaker 4: were going to run the trip?
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  Speaker 7: No, I didn't. The same goes with the running as well.
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  Speaker 7: Like for next year's Two Oceans, we are already registered.
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  Speaker 2: So by the time.
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  Speaker 7: They call the family meeting to discuss, I had already
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  Speaker 7: booked my accommodation, paid, all these things. And when the
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  Speaker 7: date came up, And who finally did the speech.
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  Speaker 2: To welcome the Makoti?
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  Speaker 7: You really didn't care. Is the Makoti there now, at least?
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  Speaker 7: Do you know her? Do you get along with her?
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  Speaker 7: Surely he knew that his sister was getting married.
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  Speaker 1: Clearly lack of communication here. So what does that say
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  Speaker 1: about their relationship?
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  Speaker 4: Oh, I'm definitely going to the girls' trip that I
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  Speaker 4: have been planning for.
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  Speaker 2: The boyfriend has an issue. He doesn't want her to.
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  Speaker 1: Go on the girls' trip.
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  Speaker 4: He was aware of it and the family was probably
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  Speaker 4: aware of it and they deliberately probably chose the wedding
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  Speaker 4: date to be at the same time.
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  Speaker 7: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to her wedding.
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  Speaker 7: I am going on my trip. It's easy. We're the waiting.
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  Speaker 2: Just say, I'll catch the next one.
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  Speaker 4: Guys, I was thinking more along the lines of, listen,
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  Speaker 4: I actually think you should go to Italy on your honeymoon.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm going to go do the research for you.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, there you go.
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  Speaker 2: And then I'm going to put you on.
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  Speaker 1: And then let you know where to go, what to do.
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: But also, Anil, everyone's saying they're going to go on
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  Speaker 1: this holiday. And I get it. But is it like
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  Speaker 1: the essence of relationships?
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  Speaker 2: Sacrifice.
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  Speaker 1: Inconveniences?
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  Speaker 2: Just a small... Do you know what it is about...
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  Speaker 2: You're right.
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  Speaker 4: The essence of relationships is inconveniences and sacrifices.
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  Speaker 2: But those can't be premeditated.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: We can't plan ourselves into an inconvenience. This was already there.
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  Speaker 4: Now what you're doing is you're planning for an inconvenience.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: Relationships, things must come up and then your guys' immediate
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  Speaker 4: reaction is what keeps you guys going. The highs and
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  Speaker 4: the lows. This is not a high and a low.
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  Speaker 4: Y'all are just being selfish. You know, we've been through
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  Speaker 4: such tough times. This is not a tough time.
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  Speaker 1: It's not a tough time for sure.
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  Speaker 4: A tough time is something that was like a mom
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  Speaker 4: falling sick.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: And then you must drop everything too.
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  Speaker 4: You losing your job. Me losing my job. That's the
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  Speaker 4: relationship inconveniences. Not premeditated things about holidays.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Now you're just being selfish. Your name is Boyce. You're
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  Speaker 2: in Centurion.
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  Speaker 1: Good morning.
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  Speaker 8: Good morning, Anela.
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  Speaker 2: How's it going? We're great, Boyce.
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  Speaker 4: How are you?
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  Speaker 8: I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: I'm good. Thank you. Is it Boyce or is it Boycee?
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  Speaker 8: E-O-Y-C-E.
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  Speaker 2: Uh-uh. How do you say it?
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  Speaker 1: It's Boyce.
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  Speaker 2: It's Boyce, but black people say Boycine.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, Boyzine. If they read my name the first time,
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  Speaker 8: it's Beyonce.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, nothing wrong. Nothing wrong. Get us bodied, Boyzine.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to us. You say your wife would go on
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  Speaker 2: the trip.
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  Speaker 8: My wife? Ah, she would definitely go.
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  Speaker 6: She would go.
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  Speaker 8: But even if she wasn't, while my girlfriend at the time.
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  Speaker 8: But she will make the decision to go to the
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  Speaker 8: trip for sure.
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  Speaker 2: Why do you say that?
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  Speaker 8: I think she's got a very strong character, right? And
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  Speaker 8: I think she will have something to support her statement
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  Speaker 8: to go for the trip because she will mention the
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  Speaker 8: fact that, look, this was planned a long time ago
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  Speaker 8: and come on. And she spent a lot of money.
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  Speaker 8: She can't lose it, whatever the case may be. Me,
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  Speaker 8: I'll be like, oh, okay.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 8: Go go well go shell.
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  Speaker 2: Boise you sound like you're a little bit scared of your.
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  Speaker 8: Wife I mean it is a good idea to be
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  Speaker 8: scared of your wife that was said everything but nevertheless
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  Speaker 8: if a family meeting celebrations parties guess who's not going.
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  Speaker 2: Who me to her family things.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 8: So if, I think, I think it would hurt me
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  Speaker 8: emotionally because it's going to be embarrassing to go to
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  Speaker 8: a wedding. You know, traditional weddings is like two days.
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  Speaker 8: So who am I sitting with in two days?
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  Speaker 2: Excuse me, Pussy. Don't bore me. Don't bore me. It's
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  Speaker 2: your sister's traditional wedding. You should be working. You should
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  Speaker 2: never even be sitting down.
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  Speaker 1: You should be busy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you should be busy. Slaughtering. Taking meat.
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  Speaker 4: You should be working at your sister's wedding. When do
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  Speaker 4: you have time to sit down and be romantic? Don't
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  Speaker 4: bore us here.
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  Speaker 8: But my family is going to say.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, but when they got her, she's in Italy, you know,
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  Speaker 4: drop location, she's in Italy. When they got her, they
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  Speaker 4: didn't sign up for a slave that is going to
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  Speaker 4: do everything they want.
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  Speaker 1: But I'll be heard.
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  Speaker 8: I'll be heard.
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  Speaker 2: You'll be fine.
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  Speaker 8: When people ask me that question that she's in Italy,
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  Speaker 8: by the time she comes back and tell me the plan,
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  Speaker 8: I'll premeditate not attending.
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  Speaker 4: You're lucky she comes back. Have you seen Italian men?
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 4: This conversation is done.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. Thank you. KK, you're in Rosebank. You're wrapping
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  Speaker 2: it up for us.
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  Speaker 7: We're great, KK.
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  Speaker 4: How are you?
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  Speaker 6: Talk to us.
• 15:08
  Speaker 4: Why?
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: Who's disposable?
• 15:09
  Speaker 5: Oh!
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: Okay, but wait, hang on.
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: The reason you guys might break up with this boyfriend
• 15:30
  Speaker 4: and make him disposable is because you picked a trip
• 15:32
  Speaker 4: over him and his family. So, and this is the thing,
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: the catch-22 situation this goes in.
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: If she goes, her relationship may end.
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: She's going to have to find a new relationship after
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: like four years of this guy. And if she stays,
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: then she also runs the risk of not actually getting
• 15:49
  Speaker 4: married to this guy and she made that sacrifice.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: So... Okay.
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: Lalel, Lalel.
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: Lalel.
• 15:55
  Speaker 7: But if you value the things that I value, you
• 15:58
  Speaker 7: will know that my birthday was important for me. I've planned.
• 16:01
  Speaker 8: We have communicated.
• 16:03
  Speaker 7: We've spoken about it.
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: I've booked.
• 16:05
  Speaker 7: Obviously, I would have told you, babe, I'm.
• 16:07
  Speaker 8: Planning a trip with the girls. We're going to Italy.
• 16:10
  Speaker 7: And then when I boom, boom, boom, boom, your sister
• 16:12
  Speaker 7: is getting married.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: But Geke, she's my sister. She's also important to me.
• 16:18
  Speaker 6: And you being there would make the day special for
• 16:21
  Speaker 6: all of us.
• 16:22
  Speaker 7: I understand that, but I'm losing money.
• 16:26
  Speaker 8: Okay, let me give you a scenario. My sister once
• 16:28
  Speaker 8: chucked me out of the house because of her boyfriend.
• 16:31
  Speaker 7: So I know what it means. And she's not even
• 16:34
  Speaker 7: married to the boyfriend right now.
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: But are they still together though?
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: No. Oh, so he left her after you also left her?
• 16:42
  Speaker 8: Yes.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: So who's your sister with now?
• 16:45
  Speaker 8: No one?
• 16:45
  Speaker 7: Her husband.
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 16:47
  Speaker 8: Another guy.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: Oh, she bounced back.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 16:51
  Speaker 7: She bounced back. So you see, no. Agula ring, Agula
• 16:55
  Speaker 7: commitment is nothing.
• 16:57
  Speaker 8: We can build again.
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: No, can I tell you what my fear in canceling
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: my trip to Italy, my birthday trip to Italy with
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: my friends and picking my boyfriend's sister. My fear is
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: not that we're not, like, I think they'll be fine
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: and they'll get married and they'll be fine. But when
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: it's time for the sister to make the same sacrifice
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: for me.
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: If she doesn't make the same sacrifice for me and
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: I feel some type of way about it, the sister's
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: going to be like, I never asked you to not
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: go to Italy. And that's the thing about people that
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: you've been over backwards.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: For and you stretch yourself. They'll say that, 100%.
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: And then you do things for them and you give
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: them the money and you show up for them. Every
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: time when they don't do it for you and you
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: raise it, that line, you remember that line I didn't.
• 17:41
  Speaker 8: Ask you to do?
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: I didn't ask you to.
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: I hate that line because.
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: Okay, you didn't ask me to do it, but we're
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: human beings that show up for each other. So I
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: was being a human being. I never asked you to
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: do it. So that's why me, you must always pick yourself, guys.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: Always pick yourself. Because when it's time to expect somebody
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: else to pick you over them, they'll pick themselves.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: And then they'll say what?
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: What's the line?
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: I just gave a sermon, bro.
• 18:06
  Speaker 6: No, I was deep in thoughts. I'm thinking about my
• 18:10
  Speaker 6: own life situations.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Just say amen and let's get it over with.
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: Hallelujah.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Back to making your morning.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: And the club. I love this show.