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Be Not Anxious · Have A Little Faith with Delilah

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Speaker 1: Hello, my friend. Welcome, Welcome to Have a Little Faith
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Speaker 1: with Thelilah, our new podcast. I think we are in
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Speaker 1: month two, maybe going into month three of episodes of
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Speaker 1: Have a Little Faith. If you have missed any of
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Speaker 1: the past six or seven episodes, please please check them out.
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Speaker 1: I hope that your heart, your spirit, your soul will
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Speaker 1: be blessed. Today we are going to be talking about
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Speaker 1: anxiety and the antidote to anxiety. Anxiety is so prevalent
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Speaker 1: in our culture, in our society right now, much more
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Speaker 1: so than other cultures that I have been to. I've
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Speaker 1: spent time in one of the poorest places in the world.
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Speaker 1: You don't get much more desolate or desperate than Haiti.
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Speaker 1: And I've been there a couple of times and spent
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Speaker 1: time there and got to know the people. I went
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Speaker 1: to orphanages, I went to hospitals, I sat with nurses.
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Speaker 1: I spent enough time to notice that the anxiety that
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Speaker 1: we suffer in our culture is absent there as much
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Speaker 1: poverty as there is, as much political instability and crime.
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Speaker 1: I didn't notice the type of anxiety that we suffer
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Speaker 1: with in our society. It's always existed since I remember noticing,
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Speaker 1: but COVID and the COVID shut down really exposed it
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Speaker 1: in a way that is palpable. I talk to people
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Speaker 1: across this country every night who are simply scared of
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Speaker 1: everything that's going on big pictures, scared, scared of what's
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Speaker 1: going on in the world, scared of what's going on
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Speaker 1: in the Middle East, scared of what's going on with
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Speaker 1: weather changes, scared of the flooding that's been taking place
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Speaker 1: the last five months. And then there are people like
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Speaker 1: myself who don't suffer from chronic anxiety. I don't suffer
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Speaker 1: from the debilitating type of chronic anxiety. I have family
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Speaker 1: members that do. I have family and friends that it
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Speaker 1: requires medical attention. I don't suffer from that kind of anxiety.
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Speaker 1: I suffer from situational anxiety, where I get myself into
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Speaker 1: such a mess. I get in way over my head
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Speaker 1: with a big problem, and I can't find the solution.
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Speaker 1: I can't find the door, the escape hatch to get
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Speaker 1: out of the mess I've gotten myself into. And that's
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Speaker 1: where my anxiety takes over and my heart races. It
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Speaker 1: feels like I'm going to have a heart attack, my
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Speaker 1: brain races, I can't breathe, and The only thing that
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Speaker 1: seems to get me out of that situation is staying
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Speaker 1: in the present moment, doing deep breathing exercises, noticing my
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Speaker 1: environment around me, and praying. Praying helps to keep me
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Speaker 1: present when I can focus on asking for help and
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Speaker 1: asking for wisdom and asking for God to illuminate the
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Speaker 1: door or maybe a window that I can climb out of,
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Speaker 1: when I've gotten myself into a sticky wicket, that helps
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Speaker 1: to keep me present. I have a call to share
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Speaker 1: with you right now from Toby. Toby is very anxious
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Speaker 1: about a relationship that he is trying to rush to force.
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Speaker 1: He's overthinking things. But the good news is I think
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Speaker 1: he realizes that. Let's listen to Toby right now. Hi, Toby,
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Speaker 1: what can I do for you tonight?
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Speaker 2: Geez?
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Speaker 3: What do I start? I guess I need to do
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Speaker 3: this pretty quick.
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Speaker 1: Huh, Toby, take a deep breath. This isn't a race.
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Speaker 1: There's no time limit. You've got my full attention. Tell
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Speaker 1: me your story, tell me who's on your heart. Just
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Speaker 1: slow down, take a deep breath. I would much rather
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Speaker 1: hear the whole story and get the big picture and
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Speaker 1: hear your heart than have you rush through thinking that
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Speaker 1: there's a time stamp on this. So deep breath, tell
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Speaker 1: me what's on your heart.
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Speaker 3: All right, So I'll start with uh, was married for
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Speaker 3: twenty eight years, and there is things that took place
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Speaker 3: in that marriage. And then that's when I went through
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Speaker 3: my divorce, and through the processes of going through a
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Speaker 3: divorce after being married for so many years was devastating.
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Speaker 3: It literally took everything out of me. Gosh, it made me,
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Speaker 3: I guess, really feel like I wasn't even a man anymore,
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Speaker 3: to be honest. Kept fighting and fighting, and then went
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Speaker 3: through therapy, went through lots of prayer. And one day
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Speaker 3: I had been going be course, I was on my
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Speaker 3: own den and had just finished my divorce, and I
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Speaker 3: was at a place in my life where I found
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Speaker 3: myself every morning, every evening, knelt down at my couch
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Speaker 3: and basically just begging God to send somebody back in
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Speaker 3: my life that could redirect me before I made very
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Speaker 3: bad decisions. And so I had been going to this
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Speaker 3: particular laundromat doing my laundry, and this one particular day
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Speaker 3: I had was good doing my routine, was going there
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Speaker 3: was there at the laundromat this this particular day, it
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Speaker 3: was on a Wednesday, and this lady and her son
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Speaker 3: walked into the laundromat and she immediately caught my attention. Uh.
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Speaker 3: She is a beautiful woman, I will say that, but
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Speaker 3: it was something different about her. It was almost as
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Speaker 3: if there was some kind of I don't know, spiritual
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Speaker 3: connection or something that it was like everything in that
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Speaker 3: room stopped, and I remember looking at her. I thought, wow,
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Speaker 3: I've never seen this lady before. So I'm thinking to myself, Okay,
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Speaker 3: is this just by coincidence or is this something that
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Speaker 3: guy's like, Hey, here's your you know, here's your here's
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Speaker 3: your prayer. But so anyways, I'm sitting there trying not
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Speaker 3: to stare at her because I didn't wanted to think
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Speaker 3: I was weird or anything like that. And I think
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Speaker 3: I was at the point I was drying my clothes
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Speaker 3: and she came in. That's exactly what she was doing.
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Speaker 3: Her and her son were drying her clothes, and I thought, man,
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Speaker 3: I wish I had the nerve to talk to this woman.
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Speaker 3: But I said, when I went through my depression and thing,
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Speaker 3: I literally felt like I had nothing to offer another
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Speaker 3: woman ever again in my life. And so finally I
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Speaker 3: had come time to take my clothes and put them
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Speaker 3: on the table and start voting them. And I remember
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Speaker 3: looking at her thanking, Mariam, why can't I talk to her?
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Speaker 3: I forel like a sixteen or seventeen year old boy
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Speaker 3: that has no nerve at all to say anything. Well, lo,
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Speaker 3: behold she gets her clothes over dryer and she sets
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Speaker 3: them on the table, this long table, and it is
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Speaker 3: right beside me. And I glanced over it and I
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Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, she's standing right right beside me.
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Speaker 3: I was like, man, I still can't say anything. What
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Speaker 3: is in the world wrong with me? And I was like, okay, God,
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Speaker 3: you gotta give me something to say. I need something
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Speaker 3: to break the eye. What can I do? What can
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Speaker 3: I say? And I had looked over and I noticed
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Speaker 3: that she had several clothes that were inside out, and
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Speaker 3: I went, oh, my son does the same thing. It
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Speaker 3: drives me insane. So I looked over and I said, oh,
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Speaker 3: it looks like you have the same problem that I have.
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Speaker 3: And she looked at me and kind of smiled. She said,
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Speaker 3: what do you mean. I said, those your clothes? And
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Speaker 3: she said, oh, all three of these kids, mind do
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Speaker 3: this something.
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Speaker 2: Oh.
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Speaker 3: So we began our conversation, and then I think it
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Speaker 3: was the next Wednesday we met again, and then, of
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Speaker 3: course of conversation come up easy that I didn't see
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Speaker 3: her for a couple of weeks, and I thought, well,
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Speaker 3: I guess she completely disappeared. And then I made it
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Speaker 3: a point to make sure I was there every Wednesday
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Speaker 3: just to see if I can get a conversation with
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Speaker 3: her again. And the conversation has been getting to get
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Speaker 3: more in depth, and so I asked her.
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Speaker 4: I said, are you married?
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Speaker 3: Are you saying She's like, no, I'm not, and she
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Speaker 3: said I'm separated. And I was like, oh, okay, and
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Speaker 3: I said, so we'll just continue doing what we're doing
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Speaker 3: and she's like, yeah, let's looks to a talk. So
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Speaker 3: week we continue this conversation, and that conversation, I don't know,
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Speaker 3: a month and a half later of something of that nature.
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Speaker 3: We exchanged phone numbers and then we begin to talk more,
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Speaker 3: and then we went out on a couple of dates.
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Speaker 3: And I'm still seeing the same woman even now, and
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Speaker 3: the feelings that I get with her is I don't know,
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Speaker 3: it's kind of like I wasn't in many relationships as
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Speaker 3: a young man growing up.
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Speaker 2: I just I don't know.
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Speaker 3: I was a shy guy. But it's like the more
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Speaker 3: I know about her, the deeper I fall in love
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Speaker 3: with this woman. I've even told her before. I was like,
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Speaker 3: I could see myself being married to you that most definitely.
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Speaker 3: It's like we have so many things in common. What's
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Speaker 3: between us, It just continues to grow and grow to
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Speaker 3: depth I've never experienced before in my life. And uh,
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Speaker 3: in course, I'm at a point now I still have
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Speaker 3: uh you know, I'm still seeing all by myself and
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Speaker 3: we're we're not considered we don't consider ourselves a couple,
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Speaker 3: but we don't see other people. We're just She's not
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Speaker 3: ready to call it anything, you know, a relationship or
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Speaker 3: anything of that nature yet. But again, the more and
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Speaker 3: more I learned about her, I was like, man, I
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Speaker 3: just this woman just amazes me every time I watch
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Speaker 3: her do things, and it's just Watch takes care of her.
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Speaker 3: She's got three teenage boys. Watch takes care of these boys.
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Speaker 3: Wat takes cares of her home. And I'm fifty one
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Speaker 3: years old now and I'm kind of at a point
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Speaker 3: in my life to where I'm like, I just want
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Speaker 3: to be settled. I want to be married and I
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Speaker 3: want to be a husband. I just want to be
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Speaker 3: you know, grandfather. I just want to be all these things.
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Speaker 3: And she tells me I don't know twice now that
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Speaker 3: she said, I see that you and I can have
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Speaker 3: a very bright future together. And she said, I want
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Speaker 3: a future with you. And she said, let's continue doing
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Speaker 3: what we're doing. We're taking things nice and slow and
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Speaker 3: we're not pushing anything here. But in the midst of
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Speaker 3: learning this woman, she has taught me so much, not
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Speaker 3: only about things that I'm capable of doing, but about myself.
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Speaker 3: She has gave me my confidence back in myself, you know,
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Speaker 3: as a man. She shows me what love really looks like, and.
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Speaker 1: Feels like she's certainly showing you what friendship looks like.
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Speaker 1: She's showing you what healthy boundaries look like. But she
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Speaker 1: hasn't from what you've said, she hasn't done anything to
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Speaker 1: indicate that she's in love.
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Speaker 3: That question came up one evening. I said, so, I said,
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Speaker 3: what is your true feelings about me? And she looks
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Speaker 3: at me and she says, I'm in love with you.
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Speaker 3: I said, what is in love with you mean? She said,
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Speaker 3: what do you mean? I said, what does it really
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Speaker 3: mean to you, I said, because I'm like literally head
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Speaker 3: over heels about you. And she says, no, I'm in
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Speaker 3: love with you.
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Speaker 1: How long have you known this woman.
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Speaker 3: Well, you have known each other for one year now.
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Speaker 3: She has been through some rough relationships in her past.
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Speaker 3: And it's I think moving like because that's what I
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Speaker 3: got in trouble with her about in the beginning, because
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Speaker 3: I was wanting to move so quickly. I'm like, oh
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Speaker 3: my lord, this loan. But and she's like, no, no, no,
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Speaker 3: We've got to slow down. She said. I like what
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Speaker 3: we're doing. She said, this is gradually growing. And uh.
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Speaker 3: And then she asked me to go out and meet
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Speaker 3: her parents or we went out and dinner stuff for
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Speaker 3: their parents. We've hung out at their parents' house, and said,
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Speaker 3: I've met most of her family now. It's I never
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Speaker 3: really dated much when when I was a kid growing
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Speaker 3: up very little. So the whole this whole dating thing
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Speaker 3: for me, even when I when I was married in
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Speaker 3: the past, that marriage was six months dating and we
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Speaker 3: were kids when we of course when we're married in so,
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Speaker 3: I never had really a lot of experience on sitting
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Speaker 3: updates and going out and doing things. It's like now
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Speaker 3: I go to the extreme. If if we're going to
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Speaker 3: stay here at the house, you know, I normally will cook,
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Speaker 3: I'll have everything set up so when she comes and
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Speaker 3: everything's just taken care of, she can kind of relax.
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Speaker 3: She has a job that's extremely demanding on her body.
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Speaker 3: She works in extreme temps at what she does for
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Speaker 3: a living, and so when she comes to my place,
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Speaker 3: so if we go out, it's like, I want just
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Speaker 3: want to I want her to be relaxed and uh
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Speaker 3: and and so I try to make that work out
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Speaker 3: as the best as we can. But time for me,
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Speaker 3: time with her is is precious.
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Speaker 1: So you're you're not friend zoned. She does say she's
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Speaker 1: falling in love with you. You're taking it slow, but
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Speaker 1: you're building towards a forever future.
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Speaker 3: That yes, ma'am, that's what I feel myself. At first,
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Speaker 3: I didn't. I felt like, Okay, this is not going
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Speaker 3: to work out because I'm wanting this and she's not
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Speaker 3: wanting this right now. And then I got to thinking,
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Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, if I push this,
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Speaker 3: it's gonna be over with completely. And I just came
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Speaker 3: out of divorce. I know it's good for me to heal,
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Speaker 3: and but it's like through that healing process, she has
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Speaker 3: helped me so much.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, don't rush things, honey, don't rush things. She's she's
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Speaker 1: a wise woman to tell you to cool your jets.
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Speaker 1: I met my husband and he wasn't He was not,
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Speaker 1: he was just beginning the separation process. He asked me
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Speaker 1: to marry him for six years. I said no, not
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Speaker 1: because I didn't love him. I did love him, but
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Speaker 1: I knew that he was on the rebound and I
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Speaker 1: didn't want to be the rebound girl, you.
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Speaker 3: Know, Yeah, And I don't want her to be my
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Speaker 3: rebound either.
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Speaker 1: I wanted him to heal. I wanted him to be whole,
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Speaker 1: and he wasn't. You know, he was so broken from
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Speaker 1: everything he went through in the divorce that I didn't
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Speaker 1: want to marry a hot mess. I'd done that before.
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Speaker 1: So she's got a lot of wisdom saying slow down,
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Speaker 1: let's take this slow, because if it's going to last forever,
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Speaker 1: you can slow down.
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Speaker 3: It has taken me probably two or three of those
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Speaker 3: months to really understand that. And it's like now now
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Speaker 3: where I'm at in my life at this moment, it's
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Speaker 3: like I see my changes in myself from where I
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Speaker 3: was and where I am now, I don't know. She
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Speaker 3: was like my saving grace kind of person. I call
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Speaker 3: her my angel with no wings.
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Speaker 1: So let me pick a song for you and call
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Speaker 1: me back in a few weeks or a few months
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Speaker 1: and let me know if it's still growing.
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Speaker 3: Thank you so much, God.
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Speaker 1: Bless you good luck. Up next, we have a call
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Speaker 1: from Lindsey. Lindsay's struggling in her marriage and most of
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Speaker 1: that most of those struggles stem from her anxiety. It's
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Speaker 1: kind of like a catch twenty two when you have
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Speaker 1: a lot of anxiety that causes problems, and those problems
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Speaker 1: then trigger more anxiety. Lindsey and her husband love each
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Speaker 1: other very much. Just like that first caller, Toby, she
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Speaker 1: is trying to control the situation instead of turning it
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Speaker 1: over to God. When you're trying to control a relationship,
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Speaker 1: control the outcome, control another person never works out that way.
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Speaker 1: I'm going to share my conversation with Lindsay right now.
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Speaker 5: Hi, Delilah, this is Lindsay.
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Speaker 1: Hi Lindsey, what can I do to make your summer
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Speaker 1: night a little more peaceful?
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Speaker 3: Oh?
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Speaker 5: I can tell you I haven't been having the best summer.
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Speaker 5: My husband and I of twelve years. Have been going
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Speaker 5: through a really hard time since about March of this year,
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Speaker 5: just break down and communication and stressors that have happened
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Speaker 5: since COVID. We just have had so much happening and
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Speaker 5: it's taking such a toll on our relationship. We've been
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Speaker 5: on the brink of divorce lately, and you know right
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Speaker 5: now we're trying again to fix things and get back
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Speaker 5: on track. And I love him so much, and you know,
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Speaker 5: the wonderful father to our two kids and a wonderful man.
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Speaker 5: And I just just praying that everything will work out.
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Speaker 1: And lindsay, I want you to do me a favor. Yes,
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Speaker 1: I want you to take a deep breath, two or
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Speaker 1: three deep breaths, because you are so stressed out right
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Speaker 1: now and so nervous you're going to have a heart attack.
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Speaker 5: I know you're telling me, yep, absolutely, so deep breath.
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Speaker 1: Just be quiet for a second and breede deep. Okay,
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Speaker 1: breed deep, Relax, feel peace in your heart. Okay. So
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Speaker 1: you and Habby are going through challenging times, yes, but
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Speaker 1: you love each other so much, yes. And you have
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Speaker 1: a family together.
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Speaker 5: We do. We do beautiful family.
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Speaker 1: And who are you turning to for counsel to help
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Speaker 1: walk you through these struggles so that you can improve
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Speaker 1: communication and be on the same page.
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Speaker 5: While we're in coupled counseling. We weren't so successful with
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Speaker 5: our first counselor, but we start with a new one
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Speaker 5: next week. So I'm really going into this with so
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Speaker 5: much hope and you know, putting a lot in their
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Speaker 5: hands of helping us, you know, figure out how to
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Speaker 5: understand each other better and communicate. So I have that.
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Speaker 5: And also I have the best family in the world,
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Speaker 5: the best support system with them and with my best
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Speaker 5: friends of in elementary schools, and they're right by me too,
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Speaker 5: so I have a very good support system.
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Speaker 1: So, Lindsey, if I were to bring two of your
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Speaker 1: best friends into my studio and two of your husband's
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Speaker 1: best friends into the studio and they had insight into
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Speaker 1: your struggles, what would your best friends say would be
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Speaker 1: a good course of action for you to take?
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Speaker 5: I think, and this is what we're trying to do,
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Speaker 5: have said, and we'll continue to say, to try to
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Speaker 5: give some space for each of us to individual legal
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Speaker 5: grow and reflect and to be able to you know,
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Speaker 5: be better for ourselves and our own internal peace and happiness.
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Speaker 5: And then you know, be better for each other than
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Speaker 5: as a result. And I've heard that also from my
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Speaker 5: family and from our counselor too, So that's what we're
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Speaker 5: trying to do. But it's so hard because I love
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Speaker 5: him so much and I have to just try to
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Speaker 5: have faith that that space will ultimately be what helps
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Speaker 5: us to mend and come back together. But it's so
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Speaker 5: hard for me too to be okay with being away
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Speaker 5: from him so much too.
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Speaker 1: So when you say space, you guys are no longer
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Speaker 1: living together.
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Speaker 5: We live together. He is now sleeping downstairs. I'm sleeping upstairs,
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Speaker 5: and we're co parenting. But we'll have our nights where
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Speaker 5: I'll go out either on my own or with friends
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Speaker 5: and vice versa. We'll just try to have you know,
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Speaker 5: that space, even if it's not, you know, twenty four
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Speaker 5: to seven, you know we are still living under the
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Speaker 5: same roof, but you know that's making it now a
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Speaker 5: little more peaceful. But I have more of that anxious
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Speaker 5: personality you can probably tell, and he's a little more avoidant,
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Speaker 5: so that's where we run into that push and pull too.
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Speaker 5: So I'm trying to give him what he needs and
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Speaker 5: what I ultimately think will help us, but it's it's
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Speaker 5: so hard for me to not have that pull to
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Speaker 5: just always want to be with him.
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Speaker 1: At the same time, what do you think is pulling
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Speaker 1: you to apart? Like if I were to put all
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Speaker 1: your problems in a pot on the stove and boiled
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Speaker 1: down all the irrelevant matter. What is pulling you apart?
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Speaker 1: Is it drugs? Is it alcohol? Is it addictions? Is
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Speaker 1: it finances? Is it another person? What is pulling you apart?
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Speaker 5: Yeah, finances have sometimes been a bit of a struggle
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Speaker 5: with COVID the courts shut down, of course, and he
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Speaker 5: works in the legal system, and you know that was
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Speaker 5: tough for his business. He owns it own business related
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Speaker 5: to that, so you know, we had some struggles there financially,
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Speaker 5: But it was the communication that was what you know,
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Speaker 5: stressed me out, where the lack thereof of communication really
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Speaker 5: of him not feeling as comfortable sharing a lot of
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Speaker 5: those stressures and struggles because I have the tendency to
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Speaker 5: have that sort of chicken little Skuy's falling and you know,
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Speaker 5: not maybe be that safe soft space for him to
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Speaker 5: land when there are the struggles and such that he
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Speaker 5: needs to talk to me about. And he's always been
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Speaker 5: my rock, so I wanted to be more of that
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Speaker 5: for him too, And I think that's really what's needed
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Speaker 5: for him to feel okay being vulnerable again and open
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Speaker 5: and trusting of me to be his you know, safe
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Speaker 5: space emotionally especially, and for any other stressors that come
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Speaker 5: our way in life. I think that's really the core
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Speaker 5: of it.
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Speaker 1: So can I ask you? Are you a person of faith?
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Speaker 5: I am. I've been going even more often now.
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Speaker 1: To church, and I didn't ask if if you're a
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Speaker 1: religious person or what church.
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Speaker 5: You go to. I'm both. I would say I'm of
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Speaker 5: faith and that I find solace also in religion as well.
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Speaker 5: I'm from Catholic.
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Speaker 1: So do you believe that the Lord is the lord
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Speaker 1: of your life?
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Speaker 5: Yes?
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Speaker 1: And what does God tell us about worrying?
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Speaker 5: Dude? To have to be trusting into let them and
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Speaker 5: guide us.
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Speaker 1: Be not anxious about anything, but with praise and petition,
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Speaker 1: bring your request before the Lord, and He who is
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Speaker 1: faithful will answer you. Be anxious for nothing, Be not
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Speaker 1: anxious about anything. It doesn't say be not anxious about
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Speaker 1: anything unless you're lindsay, in which case, please get yourself
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Speaker 1: wound up tied as the top and worry about every
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Speaker 1: little thing. It won't do any good, but it's your
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Speaker 1: go to.
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Speaker 5: You're absolutely right.
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Speaker 1: Yes, it doesn't say be not anxious about anything unless
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Speaker 1: your name is Lindsey and everything feels out of control
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Speaker 1: and you can't wrap your head around what is going on,
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Speaker 1: and so you overthink everything for yourself and for your
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Speaker 1: partner just in case he's not doing that.
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Speaker 5: You're so right. Yes, you're absolutely right.
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Speaker 1: It says be not anxious about anything. Yes, it also says,
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Speaker 1: lindsay you have not because you ask not. God says,
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Speaker 1: come to me, ask, ask for anything, And if I
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Speaker 1: believe you need it, and He already knows whether we
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Speaker 1: do or not, I'll answer you. And the answer might
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Speaker 1: be no, the answer may be not now, but a
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Speaker 1: lot of times the answer is yes. Most of the
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Speaker 1: time the answer is yes. You lost your keys, pray,
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Speaker 1: say Lord, please just show me in my mind's eye
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Speaker 1: where to find my keys, because I don't have all
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Speaker 1: data to spend looking for them. Bam, right, bam. He's like,
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Speaker 1: thank you for asking. You left them on the night
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Speaker 1: stand last night. I go to the night stand. There
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Speaker 1: they are.
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Speaker 5: Yes, Yes, that's so true. You're right.
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Speaker 1: He wants to be in the littlest details of finding
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Speaker 1: your keys, but he certainly wants to be in the
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Speaker 1: huge details of putting your family back together in a
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Speaker 1: healthy way. Absolutely, he wants you and your husband and
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Speaker 1: your children. He believes in family so much so that
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Speaker 1: he invented family. He created family not to enslave us
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Speaker 1: in bonds that we want to escape, but to bless
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Speaker 1: us with love.
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Speaker 5: Right.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely, So if what I'm hearing is you overthink things, yes,
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Speaker 1: and over analyze things, and then you get very, very
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Speaker 1: anxious when you're husband isn't communicating everything that you think
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Speaker 1: you need to know about things, yes, right, yes, and
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Speaker 1: you end up pushing him away in your frustration and
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Speaker 1: in your desperation to control things. That has nothing to
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Speaker 1: do with your husband, I know, and everything to do
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Speaker 1: with the fact that you did not feel secure as
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Speaker 1: a child, and so now you feel like you have
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Speaker 1: to control circumstances so that your life won't feel out
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Speaker 1: of control.
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Speaker 5: That's so true, Yes, but.
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Speaker 1: Guess what, trying to control circumstances, you are destroying your
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Speaker 1: serenity and the serenity of folks around you.
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Speaker 5: Absolutely, yep, you're right.
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Speaker 1: So learn this expression and learn it well, Let go
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Speaker 1: and let.
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Speaker 5: God another deep breath. Thank you, let.
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Speaker 1: Go and let God.
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Speaker 5: I will be that.
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Speaker 1: Say, God, come into my marriage. Help me to understand
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Speaker 1: my husband, help him to understand me. Help us to
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Speaker 1: dig out financially, and knit us together with chains of
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Speaker 1: love that cannot be broken. Amen.
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Speaker 5: Amen, thank you, and then.
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Speaker 1: Just let God work. Thank you God, Bless.
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Speaker 5: You, Honey, bless you too.
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Speaker 1: Thank you, Delilah, Lindsey. You will never know how strong
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Speaker 1: you are until being strong is your only option. Be
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Speaker 1: not anxious, Be not anxious about anything, but with prayer
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Speaker 1: and petition, bring your requests before the Lord, and he
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Speaker 1: that is faithful will complete it. He will fix this.
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Speaker 1: Each night I open up the phone line so I
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Speaker 1: can find out what in the world, What is going
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Speaker 1: on in your world, so I can celebrate, if you're
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Speaker 1: falling in love, so I can help you through the
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Speaker 1: tough time, so I can rejoice if there's good news
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Speaker 1: in your life. In just a moment, I'm going to
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Speaker 1: talk with a young man who, in three minutes or
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Speaker 1: less is gonna tell me there is great news, there's
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Speaker 1: horrible news, there's heartbreaking news, there's great news, all in
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Speaker 1: what conversation, and we're going to see if we can't
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Speaker 1: ask for a little miracle on his behalf. Stay tuned
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Speaker 1: for that coming up next. Good evening. Welcome to the
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Speaker 1: Delilah Show.
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Speaker 4: Who is this?
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Speaker 1: It is really me? Who's this?
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Speaker 2: This is Sammy?
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Speaker 1: Sammy Welcome. What can I do for you?
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Speaker 4: I'm calling because my girlfriend, Jamie, she's my best friend.
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Speaker 4: I know her for eighteen years and he recently just
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Speaker 4: got back together. She was in at bad relationship mentally
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Speaker 4: and physically, and who's having to come back reunite. And
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Speaker 4: she got really sick, to a point where she can't
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Speaker 4: work anymore, barely walk. So I've been her caregater for
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Speaker 4: four years. I've been working two jobs, trying to go
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Speaker 4: to school become a neurosurgeon, and it's just a lot,
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Speaker 4: you know. So I'm just trying to keep my faith
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Speaker 4: in God. So recently last week, I just found.
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Speaker 2: Out that she was pregnant.
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Speaker 4: So we went to a doctor's office and they said, yes,
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Speaker 4: she is pregnant.
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Speaker 2: She's twenty eight weeks pregnant. And by the way, you're
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Speaker 2: having twins.
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Speaker 1: Wow, and you're going to school to become a brain surgeon.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: I work overnight at the hospital and right as I
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Speaker 4: got working a ten hour shift, I go straight to school.
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Speaker 4: I'm there for like eight hours. So I'm trying my
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Speaker 4: best to give her the best life I can while
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Speaker 4: she's still here on earth.
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Speaker 1: Well, it sounds to me like she's gonna have stick around.
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Speaker 1: She doesn't have the option of being sick. If God
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Speaker 1: is blessing you with twins. Yes, we're just gonna have
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Speaker 1: to pray for a complete and total healing, don't.
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Speaker 2: You think, Yes, yes, I really do.
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Speaker 1: Ain't nobody got time for sickness when you're when she's
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Speaker 1: carrying twins, I know.
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Speaker 4: Right, it's a great feeling. She's happy and I'm happy
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Speaker 4: where so that's impossible for you to get pregnant and
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Speaker 4: now we got two feelful babies.
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Speaker 2: Is on the way of boy and a girl.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're just going to have to pray that God
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Speaker 1: heals her completely, because if you're going to school and
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Speaker 1: taking care of her and going to be daddy to twins, Uh,
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Speaker 1: we're just gonna need her to get well, that's what
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Speaker 1: I think.
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Speaker 2: Yes, I agree, Delilah.
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Speaker 1: When I answered this call, I said, good evening, blah
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Speaker 1: blah blah, and you said, my girlfriend, right, Yes, she's
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Speaker 1: carrying two of your babies, and she's just a girlfriend.
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Speaker 1: We haven't even moved into the fiance category.
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Speaker 4: Yes, I'm working on. I'm getting ready to get her
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Speaker 4: a ring and propose to her.
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Speaker 2: So that's the next step. Delilah.
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Speaker 1: Trust me, she's less concerned about what kind of ring,
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Speaker 1: and she just wants to know that you're all in.
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Speaker 1: Not that a ring means that, because God knows, I
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Speaker 1: had a ring from somebody somebody's that weren't all in.
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Speaker 1: But we like having something on our left hand, most
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Speaker 1: of us. Yeah, what's her name, Jamie, Jamie, and she
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Speaker 1: is carrying little Delilah. And what's the boy's name.
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Speaker 4: Oh, we haven't decided yet. We're still trying to stid
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Speaker 4: on his names, so hopefully we'll decide pretty soon.
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Speaker 1: Did you like how smooth I was with that.
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Speaker 2: Yes, you're very smooth with it.
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Speaker 1: You just let me slide that one in. You didn't
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Speaker 1: even say anything. You didn't say, oh no, no, I'm
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Speaker 1: naming her after her grandma. You just let me slide
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Speaker 1: that in.
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Speaker 2: I'll do it first before I started.
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Speaker 1: Conversation, Sammy, don't be afraid. God has blessed you richly
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Speaker 1: twins on the way work, school and looking out for
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Speaker 1: the love of your life. I know, I know that's
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Speaker 1: a lot on your plate. Just keep praying and for
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Speaker 1: goodness sakes, put a ring on it. Marry that woman.
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Speaker 2: Thank you, Eliah, God bless.
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Speaker 1: God, bless you, and I pray for complete healing for
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Speaker 1: your for your soon to be fiance.
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Speaker 2: Yes, Ezac, she will be really really sold.
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Speaker 1: Good night. Thank you for giving me your time today.
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Speaker 1: I do not take that for granted. Call me this evening,
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Speaker 1: any evening Monday through Friday, and we will talk about
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Speaker 1: it and we will pray about it. One eight eight, eight, six,
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