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IS IT OK TO SNOOP WHEN YOU FIND SOMETHING ? · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. So one how do I bring
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  Speaker 1: this up without sounding like a psycho as I don't
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  Speaker 1: want him to know I've stooped again? And two tips
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  Speaker 1: on how to stop myself from snooping? Why is she
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  Speaker 1: like I when I read this initially and chose it?
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  Speaker 1: So I think that snooping and finding nothing is yes, bad,
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  Speaker 1: but snooping and finding something is that even bad?
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  Speaker 2: Relatable The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Audie Clark
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  Speaker 2: aka Mummy, and my partner and crime mister Jake Craig
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  Speaker 2: aka Daddy and Jake. I possibly have had the worst
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  Speaker 2: day ever. I found out the worst thing of my
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  Speaker 2: life and I'm hoping I'm correct. I want you to
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  Speaker 2: confirm it because I do know you know, so anyone
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  Speaker 2: on Patreon knows that I've started dieting and what that
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  Speaker 2: means is no more gyg.
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  Speaker 1: Oh shit, no more.
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  Speaker 2: Goosbird White Goberts. Oh that place, that place is a
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  Speaker 2: special place in my heart. And we've cut before, and
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  Speaker 2: I know we've looked at the nutritional facts about GYG.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I used to go on the all time.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, go look up the nutritional facts.
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  Speaker 2: So I can account for it in one of my
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  Speaker 2: days and eat less food, and I swear the calories
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  Speaker 2: have gone up. Really, yeah, this is what's going.
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  Speaker 1: On in my line right now. I know off my
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  Speaker 1: head what these are. Okay, how much did you think
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  Speaker 1: NATO's were the size we get with the meat and everything,
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  Speaker 1: eleven hundred? Really eleven hundred calories? I thought it was
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  Speaker 1: eight hundred. What about a bowl? What was a bowl?
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  Speaker 1: Burrito bowl? Yeah, the size we would get that was
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  Speaker 1: about eight hundred.
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  Speaker 2: What just fucking mitigates my whole fucking thing.
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  Speaker 1: And I know and I know that if you get
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  Speaker 1: a nacho fries it's like ony ten, nacho fries ony twenty.
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  Speaker 1: There you go. See, I fucking remember what? So so
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  Speaker 1: you thought so you saw that and you're like, it's
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  Speaker 1: going up.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought I thought Nancho's was like eight hundred,
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  Speaker 2: Nacho fries was nine hundred, and the bowl was like
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  Speaker 2: five hundred.
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  Speaker 1: Nah, hasn't gone off a I think I was being healthy.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe maybe what you've looked at in the past, like
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  Speaker 1: there's they have many versions of all them.
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  Speaker 2: Oh maybe I did.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you want to like the mini men too. Yeah, Well,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't read it day. What I've still didn't really,
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  Speaker 1: it's still a bad day because you thought there were
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  Speaker 1: less than they're not. They never were.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I realized, like.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, so every time you've gone in and got like,
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  Speaker 1: I know, a couple hundred calories and heaps, but it's
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  Speaker 1: it's a couple of hundred every time you've gone in,
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  Speaker 1: even just like when you're not dieting or anything, you've
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  Speaker 1: gotten a nachos and you're like, ah, calories, I'm good. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's has been like eleven hundred. Yeah, that's what I've
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  Speaker 1: thought the whole time. Well, it's simple. It was just
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  Speaker 1: nacho like the nacho chips, chicken, a bit of guark.
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  Speaker 1: I don't actually know where the calories come from, and
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  Speaker 1: then some cheese and when I was cutting I used
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  Speaker 1: to not put cheese on it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm thinking I was being this health freak.
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  Speaker 1: Will get backs. I don't know where the calories. Where's
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  Speaker 1: eleven hundred calories from? That's like half my intake. You
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  Speaker 1: know what it's got it? I think it's the chips. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, but then the dorito chips. Why is that
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  Speaker 1: so many calories? Corn chips? That fuck off hunk. I've always.
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  Speaker 2: This has also been one of my problems. Why is
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  Speaker 2: popcorn so popcorn is corn corn? And they had no
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  Speaker 2: calories in them corn chips calorie dance.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the oil.
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  Speaker 2: The oil.
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  Speaker 1: We'll just cooking and what popcorn's cooked in? Popcorn isn't
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  Speaker 1: cooked in anything apart from popcorn is the fucking the
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  Speaker 1: corn kernel microwave.
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  Speaker 2: They don't microwave the big bags. They sure they have
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  Speaker 2: like an oven or something.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, oh you wait, you mean well? Yeah, they would
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  Speaker 1: cook it and you can cook them on the stove,
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  Speaker 1: just add heat. Yeah, imagine there was a big market
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  Speaker 1: fucking point a laser. One would thought.
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  Speaker 2: I thought they juiced it up somehow, like a bit
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  Speaker 2: of oil.
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  Speaker 1: They probably that flavor. Yeah, the bags of popcorn like
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  Speaker 1: light and tasty in Australia. We well, I guess I'm
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  Speaker 1: still sad, but also my bad. How long no goods?
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  Speaker 1: What's this? How long is this lasting?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I've got twelve weeks. I'm not gonna last telve weeks.
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  Speaker 1: Twelve weeks is three months, a three month cut.
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  Speaker 2: I'm an addict. Yeah, I'll see, I'm gone to eight weeks,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm going to count for it and get one
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  Speaker 2: in every two weeks.
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  Speaker 1: I think I thought, yeah, you just skip them here.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, or too skip my whole day at
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  Speaker 2: this rate with Yeah, put some low calorie options out
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  Speaker 2: there with the chips.
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  Speaker 1: Ah what no, what could you do low calorie because
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  Speaker 1: you could get you can get a brito bowl without
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  Speaker 1: the beans.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and without the cheeks. But I just go home
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  Speaker 2: and cook a chicken and rice exactly.
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  Speaker 1: See.
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  Speaker 2: I like the woring something about like you know when
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  Speaker 2: you go to maccas and you smell the Maca's taste
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  Speaker 2: and you get a burger and it smells like Macas, Yes,
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  Speaker 2: chosen Nato fries. That's what you get from when you
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  Speaker 2: go to the bowl.
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  Speaker 1: You're dearly daling on like mad Max territory. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: not fucking I'm not dieting or anything. I can tell
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to start, Yeah, just getting guyg Whenever I
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  Speaker 1: know you're coming, yeah, I know you were at.
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  Speaker 2: We'll have worth have a business meeting here or there,
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  Speaker 2: and oh Cat, I'll just go walk on the stairs
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  Speaker 2: for an hour or something.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think that's.
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  Speaker 2: Yes there an hour on the stairs will be like
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  Speaker 2: six hundred and fifty seven hundred cover is yeah, it
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  Speaker 2: is actual. Yes, what hearts are sweat Like I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: that's just still heart rate. But yeah, yeah, I'll keep
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  Speaker 2: you guys updated if if I break and I get.
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  Speaker 1: Can you actually can you? Could you please do it?
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  Speaker 1: Let's say, like try do no gyg for twelve weeks,
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  Speaker 1: Like that's a genuine hard thing for you, Like you
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  Speaker 1: haven't known. Do you want me to be unhappy? No,
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  Speaker 1: you'll be happy with yourself because once you have done
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  Speaker 1: your cut gyg.
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  Speaker 2: But I've got to find the balance between looking good
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  Speaker 2: and enjoying my food.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but then what's the I understand.
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  Speaker 2: What is my happy place?
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  Speaker 1: But when?
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  Speaker 2: But when you like you know how people like Dad say,
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  Speaker 2: like the happiest moment of their life is like when
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  Speaker 2: they're in a when they have a kid, or they're
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  Speaker 2: in a garage fixing their car. Mine would be when
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  Speaker 2: I had the kid. And then slightly on top of that, GYG,
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  Speaker 2: do you think having a kid is going to be
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  Speaker 2: the bestday.
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  Speaker 1: Of your life? Eat? You? Before we get into what
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  Speaker 1: we want to get into, can we set a budget
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  Speaker 1: how much we're going to spend on Christmas? Because like
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  Speaker 1: out of the businesses, money doesn't feel like it's ours
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  Speaker 1: even so what's the budget? It is Christmas present? Christmas presents? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I actually have an idea for you already. I have
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  Speaker 1: an idea for you. I've already spent a bit of money,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't know what.
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  Speaker 2: A hundred bucks.
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  Speaker 1: A hundred bucks, that's pretty good, okay, sweet easy, happy
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  Speaker 1: with that. Yeah, I've spent seventeen so far already got
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  Speaker 1: you something.
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  Speaker 2: I've spent like, I don't know to check what I got,
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  Speaker 2: maybe like thirty on mehit. Let's I see things and
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  Speaker 2: think of.
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  Speaker 1: You, mate, That's what happened to me. I saw something
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, he's gonna love this.
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  Speaker 2: Alrighty, So let's jump into today's episode and we're hitting
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  Speaker 1: There was too many good ones. We had to get
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  Speaker 2: So you want me to go first? Yeah, Dialamma, I
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  Speaker 2: need a man's perspective. I'm twenty seven and the guy
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  Speaker 2: I'm dating is thirty one. We're in a place in
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  Speaker 2: our lives where we both have good careers, a mortgage,
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  Speaker 2: and are surrounded by people who are getting engaged, married,
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  Speaker 2: or even having babies. We met through an app and
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  Speaker 2: have really hit it off. We've had a few TIFFs
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  Speaker 2: here and there, but have found our resolution every single time.
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  Speaker 2: We have seen each other at a minimum of two
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  Speaker 2: times per week for three months now and do everything
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  Speaker 2: couples do, from the day to day grocery runs to
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  Speaker 2: the intimacy. He's met my friends and I've met his.
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  Speaker 2: My problem is he is yet to ask me to
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  Speaker 2: be his girlfriend, and he's not alluding to not being
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  Speaker 2: ready to make it official, and I'm worried I'm wasting
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  Speaker 2: my time. He's a in quotes former fuck boy. I
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  Speaker 2: think it is emphasis on forma yeah, but I worry
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  Speaker 2: maybe his fuck boy error isn't behind him. When I
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  Speaker 2: ask him about why we're not official yet, he says
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  Speaker 2: things like this is just how I am. I take
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  Speaker 2: my time.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: He's alluded to wanting to introduce me to his family
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  Speaker 2: or have a double date with his brother, but no
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  Speaker 2: plans have been made. I've just been told when you know,
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  Speaker 2: you know, And the people around me seem to be
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  Speaker 2: concerned that he isn't ready or hasn't made it official yet,
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  Speaker 2: So am I wasting my time? Ps? I love the
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  Speaker 2: podcast and your instag reels. You two crack me up.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you very much, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, oh okay, okay, okay, okay, cool ah uffy, very tough.
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  Speaker 2: It's so hard to tell.
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  Speaker 1: That line, he said, rubbed me the wrong way though,
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  Speaker 1: didn't it. I like to take my time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's sort of like, let's just go off the flow.
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  Speaker 2: It's just another way of saying that, isn't it.
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  Speaker 1: It is. It's a rewording of it.
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  Speaker 2: He's smart, this guy.
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  Speaker 1: Will we can dissect it dissected. No one thing I
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  Speaker 1: want to say is I noticed? So she said, he's
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  Speaker 1: hinted at the fact that he wants to do wants
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  Speaker 1: me to meet his parents and also go on a
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  Speaker 1: double date with his brother and obviously his brother's spouse. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: and I and but it hasn't happened yet. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I'm guilty of it. And one thing I like about
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  Speaker 1: Beth is that it's not something she gets mad about,
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  Speaker 1: but it's something that she will It's like she'll call
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  Speaker 1: me out on and and I quite like it. And
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  Speaker 1: it's the fact that, like in the in a moment,
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  Speaker 1: like I don't do it all the time, but like
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  Speaker 1: let's say I have maybe said like, yeah, I want
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  Speaker 1: to go on a double date with Joanna, me and
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  Speaker 1: U Joanna and a boyfriend, just as like the second
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  Speaker 1: the argument, I can't think of an actual example, but
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  Speaker 1: I'll do I do it, and I'm like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like in like I want to do it, but you don't.
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  Speaker 1: I say it in the moment, and I'm like to myself,
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  Speaker 1: you know, yeah, it sounds like a fun thing to do,
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  Speaker 1: what a great gesture, But then I don't organize it,
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  Speaker 1: and so I now I'm getting better at it now.
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  Speaker 1: But it's like there's this whole thing of like, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: don't say it if you're not going to do it.
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  Speaker 2: Action speak louder than word.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's like you don't like Beth or this
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  Speaker 1: girl sitting in the dilemma, shouldn't have to ask again
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  Speaker 1: like no, are we going to do this thing?
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  Speaker 2: But basically what he's saying is like a bottomless gesture.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's an empty gesture.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's an empty gesture because I do the same thing.
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  Speaker 2: That's one of the tips I've sort of like picked
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  Speaker 2: up for me in a relationship for a year is
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  Speaker 2: like I used to do that at the start, like
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  Speaker 2: say like I don't know, maybe I'll I'd love to
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  Speaker 2: take you on a date this weekend. Yeah, and then
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  Speaker 2: I don't do it. I don't do it, and I
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  Speaker 2: might catch up like, oh fuck, I forgot I said that,
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  Speaker 2: and I'd DoD it three weeks later, yeah, or something
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  Speaker 2: like that. Or I say I'd love to do it
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  Speaker 2: and I don't plan it on last minut I'd try
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  Speaker 2: and like scramble together.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Whereas like recently, I've really tried to be a man
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  Speaker 2: of my word and if I say something, I actually
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  Speaker 2: do it. So the fact that he's saying those things
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  Speaker 2: but he's thirty one, I think we picked this up
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  Speaker 2: at twenty four. It's a good point, like good point,
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  Speaker 2: but basically what he said there means nothing because he
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  Speaker 2: hasn't done it. You can, you can say it as
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  Speaker 2: much as you want, but if he doesn't do it, it
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  Speaker 2: means nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Like I think, yeah, you can say I want you
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  Speaker 1: to meet my parents and I want to go on
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  Speaker 1: a double date with my brother and his girlfriend. Do
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  Speaker 1: you if you did, then you'd do it. I think like,
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  Speaker 1: once you say it it's kind of something that you
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  Speaker 1: like then need to plan. Yeah, it's properly.
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  Speaker 2: It's as simple as like I just run a marathon.
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  Speaker 2: It's like me saying like I'd love to run a marathon,
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  Speaker 2: or me running a marathon.
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  Speaker 1: Well, his thing is I would love to run a
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  Speaker 1: marathon too. I'm not going to do it. Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: just like something I'm saying I want to do. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm not screaming to the rooftops I would love
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  Speaker 1: to run a marathon because everyone would be like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: go do it. You're gonna fucking do it, Like.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, actually speak so much louder than words, So I think,
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  Speaker 2: who doesn't want to be that person that's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: ive run a marathon. The fact that he said that
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  Speaker 2: and he hasn't done it, and then he said, like,
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  Speaker 2: let's just see what do you say, Let's just see
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  Speaker 2: where things go.
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  Speaker 1: I like to take things slow. I kind of like
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  Speaker 1: the thought of kind of calling people out because it's like,
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  Speaker 1: obviously you're doing boyfriend girlfriend things and all that type
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  Speaker 1: of stuff, and it's like if I could if you
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  Speaker 1: guys weren't doing boyfriend girlfriend things at all, and you
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  Speaker 1: weren't seeing each other of a minimum two times a
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  Speaker 1: week and you weren't going to grocery shopping and all that.
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  Speaker 1: Like if it was just like you were seeing him
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  Speaker 1: for one hour a week and you guys were sleeping
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  Speaker 1: together and then you'd leave or he'd leave, like there'd
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  Speaker 1: be no cuddling afterwards, then that's obviously just like a
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  Speaker 1: link up situationship type thing, and that's going to be
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  Speaker 1: a relationship. But what you guys doing our boyfriend girlfriend
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  Speaker 1: things and to say I like to take things slow
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  Speaker 1: and leave you hanging is very rude.
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  Speaker 2: What guys like to do is we love the boyfriend
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  Speaker 2: activities boyfriend girlfriend activities, but we really get scared at
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  Speaker 2: that commitment girlfriend face, really get scared of it. And
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  Speaker 2: I think what Jake said, call him out on his bullshit. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you can't be acting like this, saying these things and
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  Speaker 2: not doing them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you could either call him out in his bullshit
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  Speaker 1: by calling him out, or you could stop acting like
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  Speaker 1: a girlfriend. Yeah, like it's one of the other and
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  Speaker 1: be like because it's like it's the same thing. Of
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  Speaker 1: like there's that there would us to be a funny
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  Speaker 1: trend of like people a girl would be filming herself
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  Speaker 1: like stirring a pot, Yeah, cooking dinner obviously, as like
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  Speaker 1: the joke, and then it's like her and be the
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  Speaker 1: writing on it would be like me doing WiFi things
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  Speaker 1: but then looking at my hand and realizing there's no
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  Speaker 1: ring on it. Yeah, it's kind of like, if you
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  Speaker 1: want WiFi stuff, then you put a ring on it.
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  Speaker 1: If you want girlfriend stuff done, put a ring on it.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to be a boyfriend, Like, if you
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  Speaker 1: want to do boyfriend things for me, you have to
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  Speaker 1: fucking ask me to be a girlfriend exactly.
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  Speaker 2: You deserve that.
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  Speaker 1: And it sounds a slight bit.
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  Speaker 2: Toxic because it's like an alder native, I guess, but
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  Speaker 2: I think it's really putting yourself first, and especially because
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  Speaker 2: he's thirty one, you shouldn't have to do this, but say, like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to act like your girlfriend if you're
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  Speaker 2: not planning on me being your girlfriend anytime soon, thirty one, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like just own up to it. And like, I think
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  Speaker 2: a lot of people often think that, like you're still
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  Speaker 2: allowed to get to know someone when they're your girlfriend.
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  Speaker 1: See that way, that was a big I think that's
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  Speaker 1: a big misconception of like I want to get to
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  Speaker 1: know you before I get make even you can still
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  Speaker 1: you don't have to fully know someone. Yeah you have,
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  Speaker 1: Cassidy been together for a year. I guarantee you in
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  Speaker 1: two months time, you're boys likely gonna find out something
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  Speaker 1: new about it.
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  Speaker 2: Undred percent new shit about Beth all the time. And
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  Speaker 2: I know there isn't a good thing. It's not a
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  Speaker 2: good thing to put a time frame on anything. But
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  Speaker 2: like you're wasting your time. Yeah, like you shouldn't be
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  Speaker 2: wasting your time. I think three months is a perfect
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  Speaker 2: time him to grow some balls. Yeah and ask you
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  Speaker 2: out make Yeah, fucking call him out. Okay, mine has
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: a title. You're confused, I'm confused a love triangle. I'm
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: gonna try and keep this short, but oh boy, is
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: the long version more interesting and could have its own podcast.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: I moved to a new city to do my master's degree.
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: Before this, I was in my single hot girl era
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: slash working on myself post breakup phase. But that phase
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: is long over and I'm ready for something serious with someone.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: My first week at UNI, I saw the most gorgeous man,
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: so I had to speak with him. I made my
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: moves and we're talking. But I told him I'm into
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: going on dates, not just hooking up and casually hooking
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: up at that. Luckily, he was transparent in that moment
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: and told me he's fresh out of a long term
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: relationship in brackets. I should have run then and all
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: of this could have been avoided, but I have no regrets.
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: He took me on dates and is so lovely. I've
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: never connected with someone so fast. But eventually, not too
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: far in, he said he couldn't handle it because of
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: his breakup.
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: I respected that. Weeks later he asks to hang out
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: as friends and we did, but it was too much
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: for me. Weeks after that, I ask him to hang
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: out as friends and it's great. A few days later,
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: we hang out his friends again, but he makes moves.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: This pisses me off, and I've avoided him since because
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: it led to so much confusion. A few days later,
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: a new guy asks for my number and takes me
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: on a date. He's wonderful and it's going well and
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: definitely headed towards what I want. Also, he's so hot.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: But Guy number one keeps asking to hang out with me,
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: and I keep making excuses not to see him. I'm
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: a little confused because I know I shouldn't hang out
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: with him. Out of respect for the new guy. But
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: me and the new guy aren't labeled as anything yet,
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: what the hell do I do? It's too soon with
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: the new guy to cut off Guy number one because
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: I'm taken. But also I know that if the roles
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: were reversed, I would be put off by something like this. Wait,
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: she answered the question.
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: She is answered question just at the end of that
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: last little put off by this. I think there's a
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: massive misconception in dating that like if there's no label
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: that were official or where exclusive, that I can see
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: other people. I'm a big advocate for one at a time.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, yeah, at what point in time?
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: It's because like almost like I'm not saying this girl
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: is disrespectful in any way, right, I don't know she's not.
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: But what I'm like, you're saying, like you're right with
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: the misconception of like when you're seeing someone and it's
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: early days, but then someone that you used to see,
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: who you're you're friends with, but like not really friends
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: because you've slept together, but like they reach out and
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: you don't want to be rude because like they haven't
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: done anything to you. It just didn't work out, Like
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: at what point, how many weeks in with this new
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: person do you owe them the respect? In my opinion,
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: you owe them the respect from the start to not be.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: So I think from going on a date with any
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: person you other than the respect to not be seeing
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: anyone else. Yeah, I think one date, not this facts
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: conversation where you're like, so we're exclusive. I think you
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: should be exclusive by going on a.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: Date, I think yeah. And also, you don't have to
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: put a label on exclusivity. I think it should be
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: implied in the terms of like, I'm going on dates
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: with you, I'm not going on dates with anyone else. Therefore,
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: to me, this is exclusive, right. I hope you're mature
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: enough to also think it's exclusive. Yeah, Like, if you
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: feel the need to voice it one hundred percent, then
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: you're on the same page. But also, it's like, just
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: because they haven't said to you I want to be
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: exclusive and not see anyone else, doesn't mean that you
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: should go question seeing someone else.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah. And to me, dating right, you can't fully connect
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: with someone if you're sleeping with someone else.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, or even you know, going and hanging out with
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: someone you used to like, Yeah, Like, I mean that's
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: in my opinion, but it's an opinion thing.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: I think definitely that might seem a little bit like
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: right field, but honestly, you should be getting to know
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: this person and give them the full benefit of doubt
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: and your full attention, not eighty percent, and then the
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: guy you're sleeping with gets to the last twenty percent
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: of you. I know, Like she seemed like she was
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: putting her like she was placing a bet, and she
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: was putting her money in different pools with boy one
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: and boy two, which seems logical because you're like, it's
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: not this hasn't been long enough to jump ship and
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: go to boy two. Yeah, but I think every single
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: time you should have one hundred percent of your money
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: with one boy at a time and one girl at
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: a time.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a good point. Like let's say Boy one
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: gets pissed, Oh soo, Boy one's already off the cards. Yeah,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: boy one, but let's just for the sake of it
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: to say he's not. Yeah, the boy one. You know,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: he gets pissed off that you don't want to see
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: him because you're starting to see someone else, right, And
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: he's like, well fuck you then, but then you know
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: you've gone fully into one door and you're like, fuck it,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna look back. But then it doesn't work
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: out with boy two, all right, if boy one can't
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: fucking grow the fuck up, Like if boy one still
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: doesn't ever want anything to do with you after boy two,
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: I think that's his problem. Yeah, Like he should look
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: at it as like, fuck, she's like respected that guy
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: so much that she didn't even want to like out
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: with me. Man, that's like someone that's someone I want
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: to be with.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: It's props to your character. Yeah, And like, don't get
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: me wrong, I understand that it's nice to be wanted
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: by more people.
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: It's flattering. Fuck yeah it is.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: It's really nice. But like Jake just said, it's admirable
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: to say, hey, no, I don't know if this is
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: going to go anywhere with boy one, but I'm giving
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: it the best chance possible to do so.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Plus, boy two's hot, like you said, yeah, she's fucking hot.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: You shouldn't all be about looks, man, But yeah, exactly,
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: so I think give boy one the full benefit of
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: the doubt. Fuck boy too off. Also because boy one off,
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: keep boy two. Yeah, I say the opposite. Yeah, fuck
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: the one you met first off. Yeah, next dilemma A
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: short and sweet dilemma for you today, But I feel
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: like I don't have enough experience to work it out.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: I'm an eighteen year old girl in her first year
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: of UNI and have never ever been in any sort
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: of relationship or talking stage. I'm pretty sure no guy
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: has ever liked me full stop. I wanted to pause
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: there and say one hundred percent of guys like you before, Yeah,
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: I definitely had a crush on you. Recently, things have
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: been getting a bit interesting between me and a guy
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: I met at a Halloween party through a mutual friend
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: and we got to talking. We chatted a bit and
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: had some great moments. But by the amount of eye
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: contact and banter we had, I'm beginning to think that
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: maybe he might be attracted to me. My main issue
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: is that I wasn't able to get any of his
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: contact details, and I don't see him or any of
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: his mutual friends. I'm not sure when the next time
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: I will see him again. My question for you, guys
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: is how do I go about an initiating something and
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: get in contact to be able to see him again.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: We've only spoken for an hour or so in a
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: group setting. I don't want to see him forward or
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: stalkersh But I really think this guy is super attractive
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: and we had so much in common with similar interest
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: in life goals. Thanks so much for your help, keep
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: up the hard work with the pod. Thank you.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Damn. I want to say she wasn't questioning it, which
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: was great, But I think like, if in your gut
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: you think that someone finds you attractive because of what
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: they're doing, they probably do. Like they definitely do. I think,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: so to trust that gut.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was even going to say, because you
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: were young, I often got stuck in that, like you
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: didn't want to be seeming too forward or coming on
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: too strong. Fuck that. Go find out I'm sure you
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: know his name. Just follow him straight on Instagram, message
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: him and be like, hey, I had a really good
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: time at the Halloween party last week. Do you want
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: to go on a date sometime?
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: I have second that day, Bob.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: I could never do it at eighteen, but now, like
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: if I was single and a girl did that to
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: me after I just had this report a party and
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: you both obviously like each other, He's probably not going
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: to do anyth because he's a little scaredy cat and
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: he's eighteen and he's a boy. Yeah, but you listen
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: to us do it and then avoid all this confusion
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: where you don't know if he likes him or not,
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: put all the cards on the table at once, and
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: then find out.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: I remember my first kiss. The girl I kiss had
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: to initiate it.
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Same, I thing type of He's like, are you going
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: to kiss me? I was like, I've been thinking about
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: it for the last three years. I haven't just been
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: thinking about it, I've been dreaming about practicing. Yeah.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: I remember, what did you do to your first ever kiss? Like,
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: not a hookup? Did you practice in front of the mirror?
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, I've kissed. I've kissed my hand a few times.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: I kissed the mirror a few times. My first kiss
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: was a peck. Same. Yeah, obviously who goes straight for
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: a hookup? That'd be dangerous evan peck with the girlfriend
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: at the time.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: My my first proper makeout was I was sixteen. I
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: think I was late.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: I think I was about sixteen.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I was shit scared of what you have to do
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: with your tongue. Same.
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: I was like, here's the thing, the same.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: I thought I wasn't going to be able to breathe
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: same stop. I also was shit scared about what do
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: you do with your tongue? What if I suck? Yeah?
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I still remember it and it and like since that day,
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: haven't changed my style. Really, no, fuck, you must be
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: shit and no, because it was good.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: I'm kidding so.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Again, I think I've said it a million times, Like
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: I don't. I think a good kiss just means both
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: people have to kiss the same way.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: I was about to say that, like, imagine your first
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: kiss is with like two people who are kiss in
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: a completely different fashion, and you think that's what kissing's like.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: I'd hate kissing, yeah, because I've kissed girls like when
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: single and we don't have the same kissing style, and
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I'm like, with that, that's suck, Like what's going on here? Yeah,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: like teeth shouldn't be clashed, Yeah, like let's be Did
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: you think that was good? Yeah? Yeah? Sometimes I'm like
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: was that bad for you too? I wish I could
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: say that just to just to know, because it's like
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be in their cocky Like I
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: know I'm good kissing because I've had good kisses before.
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, But basically going back to the dilemma. Put all
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: the cards out there and get the answer. Don't waste
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: your time and find out it's gonna be. It's so
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: much better not to waste your time. And also he's
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: not going to make a move, so do it yourself.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, this one's pretty juicy. So I nineteen years
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: have been dating my boyfriend twenty one years for a
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: while now. We spend every night together except for Monday nights.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I have an issue of going through his phone every
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: now and then, never saw anything except for this one time.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: I went on his safari and through the search history,
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: I found his only fans account and he was subscribed
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: to sixteen Fucking Girls sixteen. He was subscribing to girls
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: and paying quite a bit, but but he wasn't messaging
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: them or paying for private stuff, only the subscription. Me
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: being me, So me being me went through all of
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: it and ended up taking his card off of it
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: because I thought it was funny. A week passed and
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: I realized that I know his password, so I logged
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: into his account on my phone and was regularly looking
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: at it. He added his card back on after spending
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: one night apart. The next day I checked he had
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: subscribed to two new girls and had paid and had
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: paid for a full naughty tape for a bit of money,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: and had messaged another one back and forth because I
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: still think I'm funny, subscribed from all of them and
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: took his card off again. The only reason that I
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: haven't brought this up is because he caught me stooping
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: one time and said it was an invasion of privacy
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: and I can ask, and I can just ask to
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: go on his phone, which I get one hundred percent.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: We have had issues in the past about not having
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: sex for weeks and weeks and it's happening again, and
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: I'm worried that I'm not good enough for him, and
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: that's why he's going to OnlyFans. So one, how do
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: I bring this up without sounding like a psycho, as
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: I don't want him to know I've stooped again? And
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: two tips on how to stop myself from snooping? Why
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: is she like I when I read this initially and
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: chose it, so I think that snooping and finding nothing
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: is yes, bad, but snooping and finding something is that
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: even bad? It's still an invasion of his privacy? Yeah,
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: I know, but like it's not right, but like, if
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: you snoop and find out someone's cheating, the snoop was
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: worth it, I know.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: And because she's a baddie, let's give her the benefit
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: for the doubt and help her out.
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I think because you snooped and found
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: something breakup worthy.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: Like I was hoping you were going to say, was
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: on safari and found his pawn, like his classic porn up.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Now I was going to be like, ah, it's easy.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: If that's what it was, I would I wouldn't have
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: even brought it on the episode. Mate, this is too juice.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: This is but sixteen girls.
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: Wait, oh and it's no like and for like, can
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: I please add up how much it cost and send
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: us in how much he spending a month?
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: I'm intrigued because like I actually have never paid for it,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: only fans. How much do we have.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: Friends that have no remember back? Like the first couple episodes,
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: I got done with Brass's like I got I subscribed
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: for free and then I had I paid, Like I
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: think it was like one hundred and twenty bucks or something.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: I remember one month by accident and it was that
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: sounds like it wasn't by accident, but actually was by accident.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: He subscribed on purpose, but it was free. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: I would admit it.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: I was single at the time. So I want to know,
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: like if this guy's will make me feel better about myself, he's.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: Spending more than me I spent nah, na, no, no,
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: I want to know, like what's like for a girl
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: that has an only fans, right, What's what is she
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: charging for just a monthly subscription?
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: Because I don't know, it's all different.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: It's like Patreon. It's like different people charge different. But
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: like I can tell you right now, you know they're
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: not charging five bucks a month, like it's more. I
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: think some are okay fair, but maybe like the subscription
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: isn't like full nude.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: The big dogs are like twenty thirty, forty, I think, yeah,
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: like something like that. But he's he's got sixteen. It's
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: got to be up there.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: It's just sixteen at five dollars each. What's sixteen times
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: five plus two more? He's got eighteen. Now, yeah, let's
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: just do some quick mass. I don't know what that is.
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: H ninety bucks a month, but it's always oh again,
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: I mean, look, I gotta say, let's let's firstly say
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: that that is completely not on when you're in a relationship.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah no, I like, I very much disagree with paying
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: for it. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's especially when
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: it's free. But like that's beside the point good it's doing.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: She was questioning whether or not she's good enough, which
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: one is.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's not the problem here. It's not he
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: doesn't think that these girls are better than you or
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: sexier than you. It's master batting is a completely different thing.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: It's what he's doing. What I think, Yeah, what he's doing,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: Like it's wrong. I agree. Like when it comes to
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: guys watching porn, you know, I think like if you
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: watch it kind of like not very much, then I
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: don't know. Like still, I could also understand arguments as
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: to why porn is the worst thing ever, Like I forder,
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: I could understand arguments, but like, you know, I just
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: think that in this, like in this scenario, fuck, she
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: like his girlfriend, No, the baddie that sent this in
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: she just doesn't even feel good enough. Like I think
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: it's fucking insane. I think that what I oh no,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: what I was going to say.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: What I was getting on was so your boyfriend, you
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: are good enough? And I think your boyfriend still believes that.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: But he's addicted to porn.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: True, he has an addiction, actually doesn't he?
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's addicted to porn, and I'm pretty sure I
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: saw a video about it that there's there's some type
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: of So you can get addicted to normal porn, which
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: is free, but something about buying it and seeing something
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: that other people aren't seeing adds to the addiction a
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: little bit. Yeah, and you have to rush. Yeah, yeah,
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: there's a rush of getting eye yeah yeah, yeah, because
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: other people aren't seeing it or something. It's like any drug,
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: you shouldn't be doing it, so it's better. Shouldn't be
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: seeing this because I'm paying for it, so it's better. Yeah,
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: it's tough, but so based. So like let's say he
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: has an addiction, which that's why we have to tread
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: lightly a little bit because it just sounds so surface
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: level like he's a dog for buying porn, like which
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: it just roast him, which it is, which is, but
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: he is addicted something like who's.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: Like even a logic if he was buying one, that's terrible.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: But because he's buying sixteen, he's obviously addicted. He has
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: to be addicted because it's a lot of money. Yeah,
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: that's a lot of money spaying like porn. He's The
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: thing is like, it sounds like we're making an excuse
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: for him, and I don't want to. But at the
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: same time, it's like because I have I have family member,
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: a close family member that struggles with addiction, and by
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: no means do I think any of it's okay. But
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: it's like an actual disease, so I don't know. Though,
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: It's still like I'm finding hard to defend anything on
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: his side, Like I think she should fucking leave him.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: It's crazy.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: Will you have to ask yourself for everyone or not
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: you want to help him fix this addiction instead of it.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: It's not cheating? Is it cheating? Some message back and forth?
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: Some people.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: Messaging is like message levels.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: Different people.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: This is one hundred percent be cheating to some people.
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: I prescribe, prescribe, subscribe, I prescribe like as a chemist,
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: is it prescribe or prescribe? Prescribes like the doctor gives
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: you a prescribe. Yea, I prescribe. I prescribe that you
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: bring it up with him and you tell him how
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: it makes you feel genuinely because if that doesn't make
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: him want to change, then he's not someone worth fighting for.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: Yes, one undred percent.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: And I think is it also, don't give a dude
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: who cares about snooping? Thing? I was about to say,
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: I say, when you snoop and it works out, it's
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: not snooping.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: What you found mitigates you snooping. Yeah, So bring it
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: up in a way of how it makes you feel
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: and why this is wrong, and if he understands, you
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: can work on it together and try and get through it.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: But if he's like all reflective, like what.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: I do in my own times of to me, I'm
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: allowed to jerk off, then I think maybe a conversation
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: should be had if you leave him or not.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: What was the second part of a question?
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: So the first part was how do I bring it
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: up without seeming like I'm a psycho on? The second
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: part was how do I stop snooping? Oh? Bit hard?
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: When you don't trust him? Yeah?
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: Maybe is it relate? Why why are you snooping in
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: the first place? Is it because you have a little
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: inkling that you don't trust him?
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: Did you fully trust him before you found this? Because
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: if you fully trusted him before you found this, and
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: you felt they need to stoop, then maybe you do
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: have an issue, But I don't know.
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if trust is I've always said that if trust
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: has gone on in a relationship, the relationship's over trust
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: the foundation of it. Like, why are you snooping in
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: the first place? Did you think you were going to
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: find this? Is this why you're looking? Or you're just
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: looking for you seem like a fun girl because you
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: like just for shit and gigs were just doing it
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: because like I.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: Want to call some drama. Yeah, Or you're doing it
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: because like I know he's doing.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: Something I want to find it.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I don't know this few questions to ask yourself.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: This is kind of hard to come back, Like, we
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: can't give you an answer. But I think just hearing
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: what we are and maybe hearing someone's point of view
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: and it might have helped. But I prescribe saying what
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: I did talk to him.
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: The way you sound when you tribe, the way you
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: sound when you say prescribed, it sounds so wrong. Hi,
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: he's just like I prescribed this.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I recommend, I will, I will send you to a
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: spellcialist for Yeah.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: I think this brings up a big problem that a
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: young a lot of young people were going to face
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: growing up because porn and OnlyFans is so prominent in
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: teenage boys. Like like Jake said, I'm not saying what
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: he's done is right or we're defending him by any means.
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: I think it's a terrible thing in action to do
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: and he should realize that.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: But like, I think this is going to be a
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: big reccurring thing the older Like yeah, yeah, one hundred percent, yeah,
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: because you used to have to try and find it
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: in a magazine that you weren't old enough to buy. Yeah,
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: and yeah, and now like fuck, you can do it
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: at the click of a button, mate, I was fucking
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: I would have been like under ten the first time
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: I discovered porn because I was looking for YouTube because
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: YouTube was a pretty new thing at the time, and
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: there was a porn site called red Tube. Just simple
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: little fucking misspelling and I was on a porn website.
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: I know, I reckon. You know how the governments are
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: trying to like ban TikTok and social media for kids
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: under sixteen? Yeah, why don't they ban porn? That'd be
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: so easy to do it. You go to countries and
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: you kind of get on porn. Yeah I know from experience. Yeah,
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: but like surely that's a more manageable task. And I
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: feel like porn's ruining kids, like brain way more than
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: social media.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like he's ruining love life.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: Fair thing that matters, because it's like there's people out there,
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: men and women, you know, because like I don't know,
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: I mean, plenty of women watch porn as well, And
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: it's like there's plenty of people out there, men and
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: women that can watch it and not be as affected.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: But it's the peoples whose brains are easily affected, and
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: there is a lot of them. So I think that, Yeah,
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be opposed to just everyone not having it.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: Fuck it, and maybe ask him if you do give
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: him the benefit of the doubt, you still trust him
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: and he's like really apologetic and realizes he has an addiction.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: Maybe you can ask him like why he's bought so
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: many and like what's the sensation he gets out of
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: buying them?
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: No, you could try and ask a few questions, but
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: I do like the word addictions. Fuck. I think you
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: might be right, Oh, it's.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: Not that many girls he's buying the paper that's imagine
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: seeing your bank account and it says like one hundred
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: dollars a months.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: Gone, and he feels like shit about it.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying and like, but he.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: Does it because that's addiction. Yeah, the messaging is gone,
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: that's gone. Paying for it's gone too far for me.
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: But for the messaging has pushed me even further over line.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, all right, this next dilemma. I
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: think long time listeners will know where we stand. But
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: it's been a little while. Okay, okay, hey lads, love
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: the podcast, first time sending. In my dilemma, I've recently
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: got in a relationship with a guy. We've been dating
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: a few months. Unfortunately, it's gotten to the point where
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: I'm becoming an absolute psychopath, as you do in Bracket
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: cimon Female.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: Come on, don't don't feed into it.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: I just wanted to hear your thoughts and opinions on
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: being in a relationship and hanging out with the opposite
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: sex one on one. He is very open and transparent
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: about it and doesn't hide anything with me or with them,
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: but I just can't wrap my head around it, especially
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: if they aren't long term friends. He said, it is
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: fine if I do the same However, I feel uncomfortable
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: with doing that and have rejected any guys who've asked
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: me to hang out with respect for my boyfriend, and
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: I think it's weird. I don't want to be in
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: a toxic relationship where there are rules where you can
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: and can't do things. I just wanted to hear what
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: you think is normal or if you think I should
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: change my mindset on this.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Thanks much, Love Team. Oh god tough. I mean, I
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: don't know what I think.
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: See, this is sort of going back off what I
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: said in Monday's episode, where like societal norms might tell
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: you that it's okay to hang out of the opposite sex,
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: and you're feeling like you're too much because you think
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: it's not okay to that. I say, I think it's
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: completely fine to not think it's okay in your relationship.
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's noting nothing down to trust or anything
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: like that. You something in your stomach makes you feel
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: like someone who isn't a long term friend shouldn't be
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: hanging out with my boyfriend because they've got an ulterior
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: automotive or something like that. Look, I just don't I
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: think you're allowed to feel that way.
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, honestly, I do agree.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: And I think as a boyfriend, like, they should respect
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: how you're feeling, Like if a new girl, I don't know,
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: why would it, Why would your boyfriend if a new girl.
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: Like at Uni, they've been hanging out in class for
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: a couple of weeks, fine, and she said, oh, let's
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: go get a coffee sometime. They've known each other for
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: two three months and he goes, yeah, sure, Like and
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: you say, I'm uncomfortable with that. I think he should
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: be like, oh, I understand that I'm not going to
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: do that, like our friend is purely going to be
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: at university.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: Look, I fully agree I would. I would need to
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: hear some pretty good arguments as to otherwise. I don't
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: want to say like because because she was saying a
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: boyfriend like super honest about it all. I don't want
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: to say anything that makes him look bad obviously, but
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: like you said, you're allowed to feel like that. Yeah,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: I don't think so let me just think. So, Okay,
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't hang out with a girl without Beth purely
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: based on the fact that I just don't want to.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: I'm just trying to. I've never Beth has never hung
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: out with another guy on her own, So I actually
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: wouldn't really like. I don't know how I would feel.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: I think I wouldn't like it. But at the same time,
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: there's every chance that i'd be like, see he's saying
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: it and listen to it. Sounds like we've been a
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: little bit toxic.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it does, doesn't It sounds like controlling or a
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: little bit toxic.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: There's another thing, though, not doc to compare relationships, but
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: I mean again, I look at my dad. Not once
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: has you ever gone and been like just going for
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: lunch with Stace. Yeah, my dad doesn't have any friends
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: out a girl. Yeah. Maybe that's where I get it from,
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: because I've never seen that. My stepdad in Canada didn't
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: have any friends that were girls, Like I.
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: Don't think any do.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, like something for some people
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: could be normal, like for instance, I don't know, it's weird,
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: it is weird. But basically what I was getting at
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: was I think you should tell your boyfriend how it
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: makes you feel, and that is completely fine to feel
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: that way.
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: It might we feel the same way.
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: It might sound a little bit toxic in your head,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: which is understandable why you send it to Lemerium.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: But your boyfriend your boyfriend out of respect. I think no,
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: it's individualized each relationship. If you're not, no, ok care
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: of But that's fine. So if you tell your boyfriend
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: voice your opinion and he respects that, he'd be like, oh,
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: that's fine. I'm not gonna hang.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: Out them like these Also, these friendships aren't Look, this
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: isn't going to fucking form a twenty year friendship. This
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: friendship that they're going on is potentially to sleep with
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: each other. Look, I gotta say, I look at it
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: black and white like that as well, like girls, there's
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: a whole joke where it's like girls like being friends
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: with guy because guys because it's less drama. But like,
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: really do they? I know guys don't want to be
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: friends with girls unless I sleep with them. I can speak,
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: I can say that from a guy's perspective. I'm sorry,
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: so sorry, Like, well, I don't think I think if
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: you're the girl who's the friend in this situation too?
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: Like if I've said it before, if this guy had
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: the chance to sleep with you, like would he do it?
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: And nine out ten times he would sleep with you? Yeah,
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: Like you're not friends, like every single every single male
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: to female friendship, Like most of the time, the guy
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: wants to sleep with you, Like, we know, guys, man,
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: you're there. I just don't have arguments to I don't
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: have any devil's advocacation. It sounds toxic, but I think
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: I don't have devil devil's advocate because the bad it
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: that sent this in I am like have the same
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: mindset as her. Yeah, so I don't. I don't know.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: But the thing is is like it's also is it disrespectful? Yeah,
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: like she would the new friend thing is weird. I
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: think the fact that it's a new friend. Yeah, we're
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: completely right there. I think we're right. Yeah, if it
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: was an old, old friend, I think I could see
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: some good arguments. Yeah. And like obviously with said all
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: the time, like that's just where we stand. Doesn't mean
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: we're right. Yeah, no, it doesn't mean we're right. I
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: think that the best thing to do in this situation
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: is to tell your boyfriend how you know, how you think,
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: how how it makes you feel, and it's it's okay
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: for you guys not to agree on something like Yeah,
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: it's also completely okay for you guys not to work
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: out because of how different you are. I think, like
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: there's a real big scary thing where it's like I
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: think I I'm guilty of this. We're in a relationship.
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: Maybe I have an opinion on something that that I
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: that my partner disagrees with, and I feel like because
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: it's like maybe early on or maybe even late in
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: a relationship, I need to change my opinion because that's
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: what love is, you know, you need to actually fight
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: for the love. But I think we said it last episode.
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with fucking dying on a hill. Like
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: you're allowed to have beliefs.
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been guilty in the past of not voicing
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: my opinion in a relationship because I was scared of
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: having a fight. Yeah, And I would just pretend to
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: believe what the other person believed. Same, Yeah, just because
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: like I didn't want to. I didn't want the confrontation
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: of the argument. So that's just growing. And like if
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: he thinks it's completely fine to see other girls and
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: think that's how relationships would be, he's not wrong. If
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: you think you don't like that, you're not wrong. He's
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: okay not to agree on things. And if that's what
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: devised the relationship, that's fine.
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: Like yeah, and just fuck Like if you really break
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: it down, look at this, Like so if you went
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: to him and you were like, this is what I
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: believe and he's like, oh, well this is what I
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: believe in it's okay. Well, like what's the happy medium?
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: And it's like, okay, well, I the girl will never
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: hang up with another dude because I find it weird.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: I don't want you to hang out with other people,
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: but there needs to be a happy medium so you
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: can once every two weeks. Isn't that so weird that
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: he's fighting to hang out with another girl. I think
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: the advice we gave for everyone thinks their own way
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: is good. Yeah. Hey j Canaddy aka Mommy and Daddy
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: love the podcast and need your wisdom on this dilemma.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: I'm twenty five and pregnant with my first baby. Exciting
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: but terrifying. My partner and I have been together for
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: a few years and we're living in our current house.
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: Here's where it gets tricky. One of my best friends
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: recently had some issues at home and needed a place
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: to say Naturally, I offer it. I offered her our
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: spare room until she gets back on her feet. Fast
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: forward a few months and now my boyfriend and I
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: are preparing for the baby's arrival. We will obviously need
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: the spare room for the nursery, but my friend hasn't
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: mentioned any plans to move out yet. She's super supportive
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: and helps out a lot, but I'm worried about how
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: this will work once the baby is here. Do I
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: ask her to move out? If so, how do I
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: say it without ruining our friendship? Or do I let
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: her stay longer and just figure it out as we go.
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: I'm just worried about me having to wake up during
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: the night with the baby, or making her feel like
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: I'm neglecting her when I have to take care of
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: a growing, tiny baby. I feel like I'm stuck between
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: being a good friend and making the right decisions for
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: my growing family. Some of your amazing advice would be
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: much appreciated. What would you do? By the way, you
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: guys have got me through some really difficult times, especially
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: in this pregnancy shit.
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: Oh fuck, I just wanted to say.
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: You've got more experience than us girls. That and also,
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: you are a very very nice lady. You are Yeah, facts,
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  Speaker 1: You're a nice person.
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  Speaker 2: This sort of situation has come up a few times
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  Speaker 2: in life where like my type of personality, I say,
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  Speaker 2: be a savage here. Yeah, you have every right to
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  Speaker 2: say whatever the fuck you want to say, and your
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  Speaker 2: friend should still be your friend and realize that they
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  Speaker 2: should have moved out by now. Yeah, and just be
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  Speaker 2: It's just funny because I know my relationships with my
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  Speaker 2: friends and say this exact exact suspiration arose and Jake
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  Speaker 2: needed somewhere to sleep and the baby was due. I'd
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  Speaker 2: be like, man, like, when are you going to sort
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  Speaker 2: your shit out?
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  Speaker 1: After two days on? He be like, Hey, what's the
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  Speaker 1: what's the new house plan?
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  Speaker 2: I'll be like, have you seen my girlfriend? She's about
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  Speaker 2: to blow? Yeah, we need this room for this kid.
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  Speaker 1: Fuck.
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  Speaker 2: But I know some people's relationships are different, so I
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  Speaker 2: think you can't go wrong. And your friend should have
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  Speaker 2: already put two and two together.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't believe they haven't.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, let's put an appropriate strategy for where what conversation.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be the housemaid who's just like planned Fortnite all day,
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  Speaker 2: like been there for like two three months.
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  Speaker 1: Sure that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm kidding, Okay, she's doing things around the house. I've
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  Speaker 2: just put the bins out like her feather dog Jake,
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  Speaker 2: like I've watered the plants, like hey, Jake, how's your day?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah it was good. I'm getting heavy as you can see,
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  Speaker 1: wink wink heavy. How many months are now getting on
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  Speaker 1: eight and a half? Well, pretty close, it's a nine
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  Speaker 1: month term.
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  Speaker 2: You anytime soon?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, baby's going to come out any day now, premature,
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  Speaker 1: I hope, exciting stuff it is. How how was your day?
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  Speaker 2: I'm keen to help when it comes.
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  Speaker 1: You're keen to help out? Oh, auntie Grace Grace, Well,
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  Speaker 1: I actually wanted to talk to you about that. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if you've noticed, but this is a two
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  Speaker 1: bedroom house. Me and my boyfriend have one room. We're
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  Speaker 1: about to have a kid. Yeah, you finished this sentence.
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  Speaker 2: You want me to bunk with the kids?
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  Speaker 1: Not exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I see what he's saying.
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  Speaker 1: In a roundabout way, it's time to pack your shit.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, not gonna lie. I realized. Yeah, I've realized about
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: three months ago. I've been I've been prepping all my stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I've just my I've been just been waiting for the
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  Speaker 2: perfect time to.
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  Speaker 1: Bring it up. I think waiting to kick me out.
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  Speaker 2: I thought you'd be sad if I left.
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  Speaker 1: No, Look, we don't actually need your help more than
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: we going to visit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, genuinely, honestly, you could say absolutely anything, and your
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: friend should realize the situation and be completely fine with it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like it's it's been great, haven't you here?
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  Speaker 1: It's been the best time ever. But I'm really sorry.
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  Speaker 1: We need the spare room for the baby. Yeah. How
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  Speaker 1: would they not understand.
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  Speaker 2: That family comes first?
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  Speaker 1: How the fuck would they not understand that?
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and maybe be like, maybe the best way to
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  Speaker 2: say it is, Hey, the baby's coming in a month,
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: we need the room back. I'm just giving you notice
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  Speaker 2: because so you can get on your feet in the
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  Speaker 2: next month and move out before it comes. Yeah, that's
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  Speaker 2: the perfect thing.
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  Speaker 1: That's probably the perfect thing to say, because it's like,
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  Speaker 1: I just don't I if someone took that the wrong way,
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  Speaker 1: like you need serious mental help.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah yeah yeah, And like, honestly she should have
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  Speaker 2: offered and making it awkward for you, but it sucks
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  Speaker 2: that she's not leaving. Yeah, don't overthink it. I don't
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: think you're going to be in the wrong way. Any means,
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: you could say, get the fuck out of my house
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  Speaker 2: and I think you'd be in the right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you could just be like, so when are you
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: moving out? Like you could do whatever you want. And
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  Speaker 1: I think regardless, Like, I think it's pretty rude that
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  Speaker 1: she hasn't already been like, oh, do you need the room?
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  Speaker 1: Do you need the room, and then giving you the
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  Speaker 1: chance to be like, oh, yeah, obviously we do.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, like she should put two and two together.
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  Speaker 2: Fuck you, honestly, but thank you everybody for this thing
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  Speaker 2: that was dilemmas. You know what to do, submit it
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  Speaker 1: Have a good day.
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  Speaker 2: We hope we help some of you out.
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  Speaker 1: Love you,