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Behind Hollywood's Glamour: Eliza Roberts Gets Personal · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: Welcome, moms.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to Inside the Moms Club. I'm your host, Monica Samuels,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm here with my very good friend and co-host,
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  Speaker 2: Julie Orkin.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, Julie.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, how are you? I am terrific.
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  Speaker 1: Good.
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  Speaker 2: How are you?
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  Speaker 1: Good.
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  Speaker 2: I'm doing good. I didn't know what you had to
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  Speaker 2: hear about the kids. I know. I know. I have
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  Speaker 2: two daughters, a single mom.
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  Speaker 3: And I can tell you that I saw this meme
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  Speaker 3: on Instagram where, you know, the girls are saying, why
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  Speaker 3: do you think that I can last this 11-minute drive
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  Speaker 3: without calling you? Like, how rude of me not to
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  Speaker 3: pick up the phone. So last night I picked up
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  Speaker 3: the phone and had a long conversation with my daughter
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  Speaker 3: who lives in Los Angeles. who would love to be
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  Speaker 3: an actress. She's a stage manager and she's in a
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  Speaker 3: play in Santa Monica.
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  Speaker 2: And it's grueling.
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  Speaker 3: And I was listening to her and I said to myself,
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  Speaker 3: can you imagine, Monica, living in L.A. and being in
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  Speaker 3: the biz since the very beginning? I mean, there's great.
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  Speaker 2: Parts to it. But you have to have thick skin
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  Speaker 2: and you.
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  Speaker 3: Got to really be able to take criticism and, you know,
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  Speaker 3: live that life if that's what you want. I'm all
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  Speaker 3: about the dreams. But it's not easy.
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  Speaker 2: So what do you tell her when things are getting tough? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I just say, yeah, adulting sucks. Did you remind her
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  Speaker 2: that she was thinking about the doctor at one point? Well, yeah, right. No,
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  Speaker 2: I just told her.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, you know, problems are going to come.
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  Speaker 3: We don't need to create them. Let's just remain calm and,
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  Speaker 3: you know, go from there. I mean, she definitely is. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I just try to give not too much. Much advice,
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  Speaker 3: you know, kind of not like my mom would be like,
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  Speaker 3: I told you so.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 3: So anyway, I just thought it was fascinating. I told
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  Speaker 3: her you're working hard. Keep at it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm always fascinated by what people that are determined to
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  Speaker 2: be make it in Hollywood and to make it in Hollywood.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Is she still doing the job at Universal where she
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  Speaker 2: loads the pyrotechnics into the... Oh, it's crazy. She climbs
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  Speaker 2: up and, like, loads fireworks into the fireworks.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: That kind of scared me. I have two sons. I
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  Speaker 2: don't think I want them to do it.
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  Speaker 3: I told her she's the only one who will have
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  Speaker 3: that on her resume.
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  Speaker 2: That's true. That's going to be a conversation piece for
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  Speaker 2: her for the rest of the life. Hopefully. You know,
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  Speaker 2: with all her fingers. She has, like, three jobs.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 2: So.
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  Speaker 3: So she was just learning them. She's like, is this
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  Speaker 3: what you do? You go at it all day and
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  Speaker 3: then you wake up and do it again?
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  Speaker 2: I was like, yes. You got it, girl. That's it.
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  Speaker 3: So I think it's maybe a college letdown.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. Well, there is that, too. That's what
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  Speaker 2: my kids are experiencing. Well, we wish her the best
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  Speaker 2: of luck. Yeah. Look for Georgia or get a credit somewhere.
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  Speaker 2: One day. Someday. One day. Thank your mother. That's right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Well, we, speaking of Hollywood. Yes. A guest today who
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  Speaker 2: is an actress, casting director, producer, and acting coach whose
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  Speaker 2: work in television film has spent five decades.
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  Speaker 1: Unbelievable.
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  Speaker 2: Her credits include the comedy classic National Lampoon's Animal House,
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  Speaker 2: as well as numerous films alongside her husband, Eric Roberts,
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  Speaker 2: which she also manages. Oh, Lord. Yeah, that's a whole different.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to her about that. She's the mom to Keaton,
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  Speaker 2: a musician, and Morgan, a chef and baker. which led
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  Speaker 2: her to a project called the National Child Project and
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  Speaker 2: a lifetime in storytelling to both sides of the camera.
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  Speaker 2: Please welcome Eliza Roberts. Welcome to the Mom's Club. Hi, Eliza.
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  Speaker 1: Hi.
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  Speaker 6: Hi.
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  Speaker 3: I would like to add something to that. And a
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  Speaker 3: woman who has a, you have a beautiful smile.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, thank you so much. I was just doing that
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  Speaker 1: intro and then you just made it even better. That's fantastic.
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  Speaker 2: Well, thank you so much for being here. So let's
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  Speaker 2: just jump right into it because we've just talked about
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  Speaker 2: something that I think you can address. So your parents
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  Speaker 2: were screenwriters. You've grown up in this business. What was
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  Speaker 2: that like? I mean, do you feel like, what's your
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  Speaker 2: perspective on, I mean, the difference between someone coming in
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  Speaker 2: there and doing what George is doing, just dropping in
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  Speaker 2: on it versus growing up in that environment? What was
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  Speaker 2: that like for you?
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's so funny because Of course, it's all
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  Speaker 1: I know. And I hear stories about our business all
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  Speaker 1: the time. Of course, they're out there. And I never
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  Speaker 1: really experienced any of it. You know, the really bad things,
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  Speaker 1: the real negative stuff. And it's not to say that
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  Speaker 1: it didn't happen. And certainly, if you go back several
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  Speaker 1: decades to some of the stuff that happened for Shirley Temple,
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  Speaker 1: Judy Garland, that stuff is real. And it's very, very sad.
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  Speaker 1: But that was not my experience. My experience was much
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  Speaker 1: more these artists together, I would fall asleep to the
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  Speaker 1: sound of, of, you know, Lee Grant and Eli Wallach
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  Speaker 1: and my parents making up stories and, and, you know,
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  Speaker 1: writing scripts and laughing and, you know, and then it
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  Speaker 1: was so interesting to see the next generation, which was ours.
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  Speaker 1: We kind of did the same thing when we were
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  Speaker 1: young and then my kids' generation. And so it was
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  Speaker 1: just a very kind of creative, extremely loving and sort of,
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  Speaker 1: very embracing environment. I went to the United Nations International
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  Speaker 1: School and home was the same. There's people from all
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  Speaker 1: over the world, all cultures, all everything getting together to
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  Speaker 1: do good things. That's what it felt like.
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  Speaker 3: So was it without a doubt that you would be
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  Speaker 3: in the biz?
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like you grew up that way.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, was there ever never like interested in orthodontics? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's what it's like. You know, this is what I
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  Speaker 2: want to do. Is it always?
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  Speaker 1: Well, maybe not orthodontics, but I did. I was interested
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  Speaker 1: in being a doctor. I didn't ever want to admit
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  Speaker 1: that I wanted to act until I already had some footing.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't want it to be like this dream that
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  Speaker 1: felt far away. So in all my old diaries, when
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  Speaker 1: I was 10 years old, I was going to be
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  Speaker 1: a hospital doctor. I wanted to take care of children
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  Speaker 1: and animals. I would drive my mom crazy by saying
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to be a housewife when we used to
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  Speaker 1: have that term. Because she knew nothing but work. She
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  Speaker 1: didn't think of herself as a woman writer, director, producer.
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  Speaker 1: She just was a writer, producer, director. But I did
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  Speaker 1: crave the idea of just being home with kids and
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  Speaker 1: baking cookies. Not that I know how to bake. That's
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  Speaker 1: how my daughter became a baker in self-protection. But I
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  Speaker 1: did have aspirations in other areas. But then it just,
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  Speaker 1: you're right, it was inevitable. It really was.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, I read something about your life, which coincides
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  Speaker 2: a little bit with my life, because my parents met
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  Speaker 2: on an airplane. My mother was a flight attendant, and
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  Speaker 2: my dad was a difficult, disgruntled passenger who she appeased
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  Speaker 2: in a way that's made him so excited that he
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  Speaker 2: had to get her name and number and then that's
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  Speaker 2: a whole other story. But so we, I'm actually someone
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  Speaker 2: who knows something about meeting someone on an airplane. You
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  Speaker 2: met Eric on an airplane. Is that correct?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I did. But that's true. First of all, are
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  Speaker 1: your parents still together?
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  Speaker 2: Well, my father passed away, but yes, we always tell
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  Speaker 2: this story because I'll tell the really quick story. He
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  Speaker 2: came on the plane and my, the flight attendant working
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  Speaker 2: with my mother, he brought his coat to her and
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  Speaker 2: she said, sir, if you'll just sit down, I will
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  Speaker 2: pay it for you in a moment. Well, he sat
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  Speaker 2: down for two seconds, stood back up, walked up and
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  Speaker 2: dropped it at her feet and walked back. And my
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  Speaker 2: mother ran and picked it up and hung it up.
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  Speaker 2: And that's when he decided, oh, I have to marry
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  Speaker 2: that woman. This is the 50s and 60s. This is
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  Speaker 2: that era.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And so, yes, it became a family joke about how, like,
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  Speaker 2: how did this happen? Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: If he didn't have coffee, he'd just hold his coffee
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  Speaker 2: cup up. Oh, Lord. And he was... No, they were
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  Speaker 2: together for 55 years until he passed away. So, you know,
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  Speaker 2: there is that.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Well, tell us about how you met. I mean, because
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  Speaker 2: these airplane romances do happen.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. And of course, I have a million questions about
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  Speaker 1: whether your dad that remained his personality and how that
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  Speaker 1: affected you. But that's a whole other.
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  Speaker 2: I'll talk to you about that later.
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  Speaker 1: With Eric, there's a few similarities, actually, with Eric. These
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  Speaker 1: were the. These were the days when you could change
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  Speaker 1: your flight at the last minute. So I was actually
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  Speaker 1: in New York. I was working on a movie with
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  Speaker 1: John Travolta and Benjamin Bratt and some other people. And
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  Speaker 1: I was in New York and I was scheduled to
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  Speaker 1: go on MGM Grand back home to LA, changed my
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  Speaker 1: flight and then finished the work early and changed it
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  Speaker 1: back to the original flight. Ran to the airport, no
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  Speaker 1: makeup on, not even mascara, nothing, pair of jeans and
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  Speaker 1: shirt and just ran and just got on the plane.
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  Speaker 1: and happened to be seated next to Eric, who I
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  Speaker 1: had never seen his movies because I like romantic comedies
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  Speaker 1: and his movies are all, you know, they're intense and
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  Speaker 1: kind of scary, a little violent, but I of course
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  Speaker 1: knew who he was. Part of the reason was my
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  Speaker 1: dad had won an Oscar for Out of Africa on
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  Speaker 1: the same year that Eric was nominated for Runaway Train.
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  Speaker 1: So I watched that year and I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: there's that, you know, pretty boy actor who everybody says
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  Speaker 1: is so good. That was what I thought. He was
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  Speaker 1: seated next to me. He had his cat on his lap. And,
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  Speaker 1: you know, nowadays you travel with your animals in the cabin.
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  Speaker 1: But in those days you didn't. But he was allowed to.
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  Speaker 1: The cat's name was Tender. I, of course, thought he
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  Speaker 1: was gay. Not the cat, but Eric. Because his cat
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  Speaker 1: was named Tender. And he had the cat. And he
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  Speaker 1: had a big bottle of Evian water there with him.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember thinking, I think the guy is like
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  Speaker 1: kind of trouble and sort of has some drug issues.
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  Speaker 1: So now he's showing off that he's drinking water. So
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  Speaker 1: I just had a whole profile in my head of just,
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  Speaker 1: you know, don't talk to him. But I had a
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  Speaker 1: script of my father's with me called Intersection, which was
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  Speaker 1: later made. And I was going to read it. And
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  Speaker 1: then I didn't want to because I didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: talk shop. And apparently Eric had a script too and
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  Speaker 1: did the same thing. So, but at a certain point,
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  Speaker 1: the food had come because in those days they give
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  Speaker 1: you food on an airplane. The food had come and
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  Speaker 1: I need to get up and go to the ladies
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  Speaker 1: room And he was really sweet. He took my tray
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  Speaker 1: and handled all that. And I thought, wow, he's sweet.
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  Speaker 1: He's a nice guy. So in the bathroom, I put
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  Speaker 1: on a little mascara and went back and sat in
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  Speaker 1: my seat. And then we started talking. He was asking,
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  Speaker 1: one of his first questions was great. He said, do
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  Speaker 1: you think it can work to have a relationship between
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  Speaker 1: a person in our business and a person who's not, um,
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  Speaker 1: because he had dated, um, somebody who was a nanny
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  Speaker 1: and school teacher. And he was, um, he was thinking
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  Speaker 1: this isn't going to work. We just, she just doesn't understand.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't understand her world. And, um, and so
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  Speaker 1: we just kind of talked about that. It was like
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  Speaker 1: talking to, uh, you know, another woman. I And he
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  Speaker 1: did take my phone number. Apparently he wrote it on
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  Speaker 1: his driver's license because that was the only thing he
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  Speaker 1: didn't lose. Although he loses his driver's license a lot now.
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  Speaker 1: I wish that he didn't lose it anymore. And then
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  Speaker 1: when I got home, Jeffrey Dean Morgan, the actor, was
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  Speaker 1: my nanny at the time. And he was at the
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  Speaker 1: house with the kids. And when I got home, I
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  Speaker 1: was rushing to go do a play. I had a
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  Speaker 1: performance that night. And Jeff came out with, you know,
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  Speaker 1: one of those huge phones that, that is, but not
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  Speaker 1: a cell phone. He said, Hey, call it's Eric. And
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know anybody named Eric. I
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  Speaker 1: got to go. And Jeff was like, I think this,
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  Speaker 1: this is Eric Roberts. It sounds like Eric Roberts. And
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  Speaker 1: he knows I'm talking to you and he's scary. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going to tell him you're not here. You're taking
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  Speaker 1: the call. And Eric asked me to come to his
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  Speaker 1: set of best of the best. He had no idea
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  Speaker 1: where it was. He just knew it was downtown and
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  Speaker 1: downtown Los Angeles and, is very hard to navigate.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, it is.
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  Speaker 1: But I managed, I was friends with all the agents,
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  Speaker 1: being casting director, actress. I managed to call his agent
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  Speaker 1: on a Sunday night. And she was like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know where he is. Try this, whatever. And I found him.
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  Speaker 1: And really, at the beginning, we ended up becoming friends
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  Speaker 1: for a long time. I was, you know, there was
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  Speaker 1: a lot of warnings about Eric. So I was very careful.
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  Speaker 1: I took it really slow. But we did meet on
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  Speaker 1: a plane. It almost didn't happen.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it's fascinating.
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  Speaker 3: I did sit next to Eric when we were in
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  Speaker 3: Round Top, you know, when we were out there in Texas.
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  Speaker 3: And I wish he had told me the story for sure.
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  Speaker 3: For sure.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm glad we're sharing.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: That's a great story. So you're his, you manage him.
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  Speaker 2: You're his manager. Is that correct? What is it like
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  Speaker 2: to be the manager for your husband? I mean, I
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  Speaker 2: can tell you, it would not go well if I
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  Speaker 2: tried to do that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's better that we keep our lives separate, I think.
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  Speaker 2: But so how does that work for you all?
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  Speaker 1: Well, everybody's different. I can see we have a lot
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  Speaker 1: of friends where that just would not work. With us,
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  Speaker 1: it wouldn't work if we weren't doing that. He, at
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  Speaker 1: the beginning... First of all, actors can be, and I
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  Speaker 1: am one, so I'm probably guilty of this too, can
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  Speaker 1: be the worst judges of everything, whether it's choosing their photographs,
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  Speaker 1: their wardrobe, which project to do. The list is very long.
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  Speaker 1: Actors and artists are notorious for this. They're always trusting
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  Speaker 1: their gut when they shouldn't. And at first he had
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  Speaker 1: a manager, but I was ending up doing everything anyway.
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  Speaker 1: And it really, in order to integrate our life and
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  Speaker 1: his work, And my work, there was sort of no
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  Speaker 1: other way taking that extra step to another person. And
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  Speaker 1: it's really more, it's kind of personal management also. It's
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  Speaker 1: also stuff like, you know, hey, this production doesn't have
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  Speaker 1: the same budget as the one that you did last week.
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  Speaker 1: So you got to understand there may not be a
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  Speaker 1: dressing room, whatever. Just really kind of getting him through
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  Speaker 1: all the minutia. And this way we have a shared experience.
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  Speaker 1: There's a shorthand. And I can take care of all
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  Speaker 1: the stuff that he really wouldn't be good at. And
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  Speaker 1: he can take care of the stuff that I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: be good at. And we're partners. And it just, it
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  Speaker 1: works really great. If we broke up, I probably would
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  Speaker 1: still manage him. That's what's so crazy. So it's kind
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  Speaker 1: of in a way, it's our core. And it just,
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  Speaker 1: but then I go around kind of managing everything.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I mean, it sounds like it works for you.
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  Speaker 3: And you can talk him off the ledge and explain
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  Speaker 3: little things that different that a manager couldn't. So, I mean,
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  Speaker 3: you know, it's fascinating. You guys also have a combined family,
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  Speaker 3: don't you?
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  Speaker 1: We do.
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  Speaker 2: You have two children. He has a daughter.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And your children, your grandmother as well?
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Yes. My daughter and her wife have two little girls,
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  Speaker 1: seven and three, who live across the street and are
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  Speaker 1: our whole life. They are our whole life. If, if, if,
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  Speaker 1: If my daughter needed help taking care of the kids today,
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  Speaker 1: they'd be sitting here with me really ruining this entire thing.
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  Speaker 1: But I can't say no to them about anything. And
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  Speaker 1: then he's got a he's got a grandchild also. We're
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  Speaker 1: just all like mushed together. It's fabulous.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's fun. And both your kids, one is a
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  Speaker 2: musician and the other is, you know, a chef and
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  Speaker 2: a baker. Did they ever consider any other kind of career?
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  Speaker 2: How did you guide them through? I mean, they're both creative. So,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, is that just naturally part of what your
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  Speaker 2: family is about? Or did you ever try to steer
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  Speaker 2: them in any other direction?
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  Speaker 1: They're really in the business because Keaton is also, my
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  Speaker 1: son is also an actor. He's on Californication. He's done
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  Speaker 1: a lot. His IMDb page is very filled with scoring
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: and songs, the songs on suits and private practice, Grey's Anatomy.
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: and also performing. So he's in our business and he
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: acts also. And my daughter, she's a wonderful actress also.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: And when she was little, David Duchovny wanted her to do,
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: I think it was called The Raffle. No, not The Raffle, Something.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: The Something, so it starts with an R. Anyway, a
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: movie with him and she, the script was very scary.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: She didn't want to do it because it was scary.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: And of course I would never push or anything. But
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: she caters movies and she's also casting. Right now I'm
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: casting five things. It's kind of overwhelming. And she's casting
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: with me. She came to work with me starting when
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: she was a little kid. She ran the camera when
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: she was seven years old. She did a project with
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: me when she was 19. And now she's back at it.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: So they're in our business. And she hates being in
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: front of camera. He's very used to being in front
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: of camera. There was a huge... a season of Celebrity Rehab,
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: which Keaton participated in with Eric because Eric was there
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: and Keaton was there as a family member. And then
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: I never did that thing. So many parents in our
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: business discourage their kids from going into it, which I
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: think is really hypocritical. I mean, I understand they're being protective, but,
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: you know, saying, no, you have to wait until you're
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: 25 or whatever. And when you didn't, I mean, that
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: just seems kind of crummy. So, no, I tried to
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: talk them out of it.
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah. What is it like being a casting? When you
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: cast things that you're put in a position of judging
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: people and you know that every person you're rejecting is
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: going to be devastated briefly. I mean, what has that
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: been like for you? How's that? Because people are always
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: curious about that. What's that like? And you're on the
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: other side of it.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: Yes. Just as we started this, I was trying to
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: have all electronics off, but I was actually texting because
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: one of the people who had a callback his agent
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: was writing to me to ask the status of it.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: And I just felt I couldn't wait. I shouldn't wait
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: an hour before I answer. It's really hard because of
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: being an actress. And you know what? All casting directors
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: feel this way. I want everybody to get the part.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: I want everybody to at least get an audition. I
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: want to work with them and help them do their
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: very best. I want them to understand how it almost
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: always has nothing to do with whether they did well
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: or not. It has to do with a million other factors.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: It is very tricky. You're absolutely right because your heart
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: just goes out to everybody. So it's, I, I'm notorious
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: for bringing way too many people in to read. And, um,
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: my producers, a lot of times will be like, Oh
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: my God, this part has one line. Why are we
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: seeing this?
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: Because you know what it's like. That's why. You know exactly.
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: You can play both sides for sure.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Well, my sons would be remiss. I would be remiss.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: And my sons would be really mad at me if
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: I didn't ask you, what it was like being in
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: animal house. What was that experience like?
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: Well, that was so I had done schlock John Landis's
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: first film when I was 17 years old. And so
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: John called me and, um, and said, I'm doing another movie. Um, it's, it's,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: it's one that he'd had I'd seen early, early renditions
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: of it, like really early when we were kids, because
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: he'd already started writing that and American Werewolf. He had
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: these seeds of things. Anyway, he said, I have a part,
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: but the girl has to take off her shirt. So
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: they're having me go through these painful auditions where there
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: has to be a secretary that used to be a
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: word secretary in the room because we have to see
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: the girls with their shirts off. And it's just making
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: me feel so bad for all these girls. So you
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: do it. you play the part.
• 20:35
  Speaker 6: Okay.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: I don't want to see, I have any more auditions. And, um,
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: and I was like, um, okay, but I should tell
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: you I'm pregnant. Cause I was pregnant with Keaton at
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: the time. He said, Oh, I said, when are you shooting?
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I can get away with it, but I'm not sure
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: that's going to work with the shirt off. If you're
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: going to wait a few months, he goes, I'll call
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: you back. And he came back, um, called back that day.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: He said, we're not shooting for a couple of months.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: And so I'm writing a different role for you. And
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: that's when he wrote the role of Brunella, where I'm
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: wearing like a poncho. I was the youngest member of
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: Animal House. I mean, you've been a fetus at the time.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: And I just we shot in Oregon. It was low budget.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: We we had Thanksgiving dinner. at a really terrible dinner
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: at a really crappy hotel. We all loved every single
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: bit of it. I was nauseous the entire time. They
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: were kind of protective of me that those shots when
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: we're slamming into the, you know, Derek and the whatever,
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: the club. They wanted to do it all in one shot,
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: but the stunt guy was saying, you have a pregnant
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: woman in that car. We can't really do that. So,
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: you know, I felt very protected on that set. immediately bonded.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: We're still a family to this day and will be forever.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: And it was really fun. A lot of it was
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: inside jokes. We weren't sure the jokes were going to land.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: We're kind of concerned about a lot of material. And
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: we kept hearing that the studio loved the dailies. You
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: always hear that. It's usually not true. We were very
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: surprised that the film was, and we were shocked that
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: the film was successful, to be honest.
• 22:21
  Speaker 5: Oh, wow.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was wondering what you thought the result was
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: going to be, but yeah, it's iconic.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: Wow, we were all sneaking around trying to watch Animal House.
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: Now every time I see it in the future, I'll
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: have to, she was pregnant. Now we have some behind
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: the scenes. I love that. Well, it's so much fun
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: talking to Eliza, and we have someone else that's joining
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: us who's going to talk to us about something really exciting,
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: and we met her through the MS Gala. So, Julie
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: and I have gone to the MS Gala. We have. Because,
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: for a very important reason, we very much support their cause,
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: which is... Very near and dear to my heart. for
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: multiple sclerosis. You have that. Yes, I do. I am
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: very much, you know, wanting to do my part, so
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: we always enjoy going. And there we met a dear woman,
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: Regina Oswald, and she has written a book I absolutely love.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: liberation from the diet prison. Now, all you ladies out
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: there know, diet is a prison. It really is. Yeah.
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: When I read it, I was like, that's a perfect
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: way to describe it.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: But this book is going to break you free.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: It's breaking you out.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. So welcome, Regina. Welcome to to the Moms Club.
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: And thank you for supporting the MS Gala.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Well, tell us a little bit about your book.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: What inspired you to write it? And what do you
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: hope women get from it when they read it?
• 23:52
  Speaker 7: Well, this book was inspired by my own journey of
• 23:56
  Speaker 7: 30 years being in the diet prison. And it's not
• 24:01
  Speaker 7: the best place to be.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: And I.
• 24:06
  Speaker 7: Inherited those beliefs that we are predisposed to be big
• 24:12
  Speaker 7: in my family, where I was surrounded by a lot
• 24:15
  Speaker 7: of overweight people. And from early age, I got direct
• 24:19
  Speaker 7: and indirect messages. So direct messages are basically when I
• 24:26
  Speaker 7: got comments about my body parts or about my eating habits.
• 24:31
  Speaker 7: And indirect parts is when I witnessed my caregivers the
• 24:38
  Speaker 7: way how they treated their bodies. And that's the influence
• 24:44
  Speaker 7: I got from an early age. So I was still
• 24:48
  Speaker 7: a teenager and my cortex was not fully developed to
• 24:53
  Speaker 7: understand that this is wrong. And this is how I
• 24:56
  Speaker 7: started treating my body. And I continue doing that because
• 25:00
  Speaker 7: it's almost like a language that you learn and you
• 25:03
  Speaker 7: use that language and you don't even doubt it until
• 25:07
  Speaker 7: one day your body starts breaking apart. And for me,
• 25:11
  Speaker 7: that was compulsive overeating. That was on the mental health.
• 25:16
  Speaker 7: It was hair loss. It was, I got osteopenia and
• 25:22
  Speaker 7: I'm only 48. I got early menopause and I got
• 25:27
  Speaker 7: iron deficiency anemia. So my body basically was screaming that
• 25:32
  Speaker 7: we cannot go this way. And you are just 48
• 25:35
  Speaker 7: and we cannot go. It also was scary because every
• 25:39
  Speaker 7: time I was in front of the food, I overate
• 25:42
  Speaker 7: because this is what diets do to you.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: And it's a learned behavior and it's a lot of mental.
• 25:51
  Speaker 7: It is learned behavior. It gives you the illusion of control,
• 25:55
  Speaker 7: that you can control your body. You can control your weight,
• 26:00
  Speaker 7: but we have to take care of our body. We
• 26:04
  Speaker 7: don't have to control it.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: How do you, the message of the book, I've read
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: a little bit of your book, which I love, and
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: I cannot wait to read it, you know, from front
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: to back. But how do you get to, you know,
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: body-minded harmony, as you put it?
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: And, you know what I mean?
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: And taking really good care to get to that harmony place.
• 26:29
  Speaker 7: Okay, I'll give you a little prehistory because I call
• 26:31
  Speaker 7: myself a storyteller. So when I was a teenager, I
• 26:35
  Speaker 7: got this beautiful card from my cousin and it said,
• 26:38
  Speaker 7: who you are is God's gift to you. Who you
• 26:42
  Speaker 7: become is your gift to God. And I was so
• 26:45
  Speaker 7: young and not mature enough to focus on the full sentence.
• 26:51
  Speaker 7: So I focused on the second part where I focused
• 26:56
  Speaker 7: on perfecting myself and improving myself and becoming leaner and
• 27:01
  Speaker 7: becoming better and becoming more educated. Meantime, if I could
• 27:06
  Speaker 7: only go back and focus on the first part and
• 27:09
  Speaker 7: do all of this things, because I'm enough and because
• 27:14
  Speaker 7: I'm the gift from God. So is all of us.
• 27:18
  Speaker 7: And that would bring me to completely different way of
• 27:23
  Speaker 7: treating my body. I would treat my body as a
• 27:26
  Speaker 7: God's gift. And that's something that I have to fix.
• 27:31
  Speaker 7: It's not a project. It's something that I enjoy living in.
• 27:35
  Speaker 7: This is my home. So that body-mind harmony, it's when
• 27:41
  Speaker 7: we change the language from control to care. When we
• 27:45
  Speaker 7: value our body as a temple for our soul and
• 27:49
  Speaker 7: we take care of that temple. Not because it has
• 27:52
  Speaker 7: to be fixed, not because it has to be broken,
• 27:55
  Speaker 7: but because we value it, we treasure it.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: So we start with worthiness.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 28:03
  Speaker 7: And that's actually, that part was linked to a wrong source.
• 28:10
  Speaker 7: So when we attach it to the way how we
• 28:13
  Speaker 7: look or to our performance, we get wrong way of
• 28:20
  Speaker 7: treating ourselves.
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: No, I think that's great. I mean, I think putting
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: it all together and making it like, thinking of it
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: that way is so much better than just in pieces back,
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: just dieting. Because I know that when I was ever dieting,
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: the psychological part was always going to play out the
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: same way, which was I lost five pounds. Oh, I've
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: lost the five pounds. That means I can eat cake
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: again for a little bit. I've lost some so that
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: I'm gaining some and I lose some. And it wasn't,
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: it wasn't effective at all. But I think if you're
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: really looking globally at like, changing the way you think
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: about it yourself and what you're just not being so
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: focused on a number on a scale but on yeah
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: your overall well-being i think.
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: That's i don't land that word control i didn't say
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: so let me see this book again it's a beautiful
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: book i it is actually we're just saying else you
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: just enjoy like looking through it at the picture how
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: is it just a beautiful book where can people find
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: this where can ladies find this.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: Very easy.
• 29:23
  Speaker 7: It's Amazon. It is Barnes & Noble. And we have
• 29:28
  Speaker 7: it also in electronic version. So for Kindle readers, it
• 29:31
  Speaker 7: would be very easy.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: Well, great. Well, absolutely. So ladies, liberate yourself from that
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: diet prison and check out Regina's book. And I know
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: some women who have some questions for both you and Eliza,
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: and those are our Zoomer moms. So welcome to Zoomer moms.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: Welcome to the Moms Club. Welcome, ladies. I'm so thrilled
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: to have you with us today. And I'm going to
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: introduce each one of you. And I want you to
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: tell our guests your name, where you're from, a little
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: bit about yourself. And then if you have a question
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: for either of them, Eloise, please tell us a little
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: about yourself.
• 30:09
  Speaker 5: Well, thank you so much for having me on here.
• 30:12
  Speaker 5: This has already been great discussion. I am from San Antonio, Texas,
• 30:18
  Speaker 5: and I did marketing for a nonprofit for 16 years.
• 30:22
  Speaker 5: And about two years ago, got a little burned out
• 30:24
  Speaker 5: of that. Um, and so it was kind of trying
• 30:26
  Speaker 5: to figure out what I wanted to do. And, um, Regina,
• 30:30
  Speaker 5: I still resonate with everything you're saying. Cause around the
• 30:32
  Speaker 5: same time I hit my forties and I was like, wow,
• 30:35
  Speaker 5: my body is not reacting how it used to before forties.
• 30:39
  Speaker 5: So definitely going to grab a copy of your book
• 30:42
  Speaker 5: because literally everything you're saying is like.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: Pulling at my heartstrings and my body.
• 30:47
  Speaker 5: So, um, but Eliza, I wanted to ask you, um,
• 30:51
  Speaker 5: When I left my career, I have a son who's
• 30:54
  Speaker 5: in sixth grade, a daughter who's in seventh grade, and
• 30:56
  Speaker 5: part of leaving was to be more available for them.
• 30:59
  Speaker 5: So what I started doing was substitute teaching at their
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: schools because it was a way to make a little income,
• 31:05
  Speaker 5: occupy my day. but be involved in their lives and
• 31:08
  Speaker 5: kind of see their world. And in addition to that,
• 31:11
  Speaker 5: my husband is a high school teacher. So it allowed
• 31:15
  Speaker 5: us to kind of come home at the end of
• 31:16
  Speaker 5: the day and relate to each other. So I definitely
• 31:19
  Speaker 5: appreciate where you're coming from with your husband. However, I
• 31:24
  Speaker 5: feel like right now we're in the same universe, but
• 31:26
  Speaker 5: not on the same planet because sometimes he wants me
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: to actually substitute for him. And I'm a little hesitant
• 31:34
  Speaker 5: because if I sub for him, then we're really affecting
• 31:39
  Speaker 5: each other's careers kind of at that point. And I
• 31:42
  Speaker 5: can't come home and complain about the teacher that didn't
• 31:45
  Speaker 5: leave great sub notes or he can't complain about the
• 31:48
  Speaker 5: sub that didn't get anything accomplished. So I know you
• 31:51
  Speaker 5: kind of touched on it earlier, but I'd like to
• 31:53
  Speaker 5: know like woman to woman, wife to wife. When you're
• 31:57
  Speaker 5: actually dealing with things that you need to have conversations
• 32:01
  Speaker 5: with each other that, well, this affected me this way,
• 32:04
  Speaker 5: this affected me this way. How do you keep it
• 32:07
  Speaker 5: where you don't get your feelings hurt? Because I would
• 32:10
  Speaker 5: love to sub for him. I'd love to see daily
• 32:13
  Speaker 5: what he does up close and personal.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: But I am a little nervous that.
• 32:17
  Speaker 5: I emotionally won't be able to handle feeling like I
• 32:22
  Speaker 5: didn't do a good enough job for him.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's such a great situation. Yeah. This is a
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: case where you should trust your gut. You said it.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: You'd love to sub for him. It's all about expectations.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: So you already know what happens. The teacher complains about
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: the sub. The sub complains about the teacher. First of all,
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: it's so fantastic that you guys are both. That's what
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: I wanted my parents to be. I wanted them to
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: be teachers instead of this uncertain profession that they had. So, um, it's,
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: it's so great that you're subbing at your kid's school.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: That was my dream to have my parents teach at
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: my school. And I want to teach at my kid's school,
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: my grandkids school. So I think you should sub for him. I, I, I,
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: there's no question in my mind because you already can
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: embrace and accept what's going to happen. Yes. It's going
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: to be not perfect. You're a sub. The kids are
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: going to take advantage of that.
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: Especially cause you're his wife. Um, And you are going
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: to see, you're going to get a little inside look
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: at what he does professionally. You have humor about both
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: of those things. It's not going to be perfect. It's
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: going to be that he teaches and you're the sub,
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: but it's wonderful little peak. And I think you guys
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: can totally support each other in that. And yeah, it's
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: always hard to bring up stuff. You don't have to
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: correct him as a teacher. You'll find little moments where
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: maybe there's something and you can say it in a
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: really constructive way. I mean, you can focus on the positive. Say,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: I love that you do this. The walls look great.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: The kids this. They're really eager to learn. Maybe a
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: little more of this would be good. I don't think
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: it's a trap for criticism and hurt feelings at all.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: I really don't. And it's very unique.
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: I'm laughing because I can't imagine Monica sitting at Mark's
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: desk for the day.
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: No, that would never have happened. Just seeing Eloise and
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: thinking about substitute teachers who I'd have to admire. What
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: a job. I remember when I was in seventh grade,
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: our Latin substitute teacher, all the kids in the class,
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: except for me, because I'm a big rule follower. He
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: sure is. We're all annoying. Climbed out the window of
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: the classroom. And it was just me and her. And
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: she was about in tears.
• 34:39
  Speaker 5: It was.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But yeah, you have a tough job. So, but
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: you know, it's tough enough with just being a sub
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: in general. Yeah. Go and substitute for your husband. I
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: would just remind your children what you did for them.
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: That's right. Absolutely. To be closer to you.
• 34:53
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: Rhonda Varee, one of our favorite Zoomer moms. Welcome to
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: the Mom's Club. Tell us a little bit about yourself.
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: And do you have a question?
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  Speaker 8: Yes, once again, it's always great seeing you, Monica and Julie.
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  Speaker 8: I appreciate the opportunity. I'm originally from Los Angeles, California,
• 35:10
  Speaker 8: yay for LA, but I currently reside in Shreveport, Louisiana.
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  Speaker 8: And ladies, you both gave such great information. Regina, I
• 35:19
  Speaker 8: wanted to talk to you just a second about how
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  Speaker 8: the transition took place because I understand as a mentor
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  Speaker 8: of women that sometimes we get, like you stated, half
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  Speaker 8: of it, But then when the first part actually came
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  Speaker 8: into fruition, how was that transformation for you?
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  Speaker 7: Great question, doctor. And in my book, I take very,
• 35:45
  Speaker 7: very tiny steps. So it's almost like you learn new
• 35:50
  Speaker 7: alphabet in the new language. And the good news is
• 35:57
  Speaker 7: that language was in our original settings. We just forgot it.
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  Speaker 1: So.
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  Speaker 7: We have to remember it. And I always give this example.
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  Speaker 7: I came to this country when I was 22 by
• 36:08
  Speaker 7: myself and my first language is Russian. I was born
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  Speaker 7: in Soviet Union in 1978. So I had to change
• 36:17
  Speaker 7: the language in order to understand and to be understood.
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  Speaker 7: Otherwise I would not be able to proceed with my career,
• 36:25
  Speaker 7: with my education, with anything. So the same way, if
• 36:30
  Speaker 7: we want harmonious relationships with our bodies. We have to
• 36:34
  Speaker 7: change the language and we cannot learn the language in
• 36:37
  Speaker 7: one day. We have to slowly, slowly learn new words, right?
• 36:44
  Speaker 7: Bring more empathy, bring more love, more care into our vocabulary.
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  Speaker 7: So my book, it's almost like an alphabet. You start
• 36:55
  Speaker 7: with it. We cannot put women exactly into new kind
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  Speaker 7: of program and say, okay, now you're not controlling anything. No,
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  Speaker 7: they can't do that because I mean, that would not
• 37:06
  Speaker 7: be possible for me. So you do it step by
• 37:09
  Speaker 7: step through. I provide a lot of information, a lot
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  Speaker 7: of studies, but in a very simple language that could
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  Speaker 7: be divided into steps and it's a nine weeks. And
• 37:23
  Speaker 7: every week you do something new, you add something new
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  Speaker 7: to your, you know, to your language.
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  Speaker 3: Regina, I want to say the layout of your book
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  Speaker 3: is really, really, really good.
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  Speaker 2: So, yeah, I think it's doable.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it is.
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's you can do it. In fact, our producer
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: is doing it. That's right. When I heard and she's
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: getting tremendous results. So that is amazing, as we say
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: here on The Mom's Lunch. Well, our next Zoomer we
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: are so excited to have. And if you like the
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: look that you're seeing right here on the screen, it's
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: thanks to this woman because she is also our makeup artist.
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  Speaker 3: She's brilliant.
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  Speaker 2: She's the best. Paloma, welcome to the Mom's Club. Oh,
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: and if you don't like the look, it's all my fault.
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: Don't blame her. Paloma, welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Thank you.
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  Speaker 6: I'm so excited to be now a Zoomer mom. Regina,
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  Speaker 6: I want to tell that I can relate to you
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  Speaker 6: because I came to this country when I was 24
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  Speaker 6: and I had to learn a new language. So it's
• 38:27
  Speaker 6: something really, really hard. So I totally understand what you're saying.
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  Speaker 6: I used to work as an engineer. Now I'm a
• 38:35
  Speaker 6: makeup artist. I work with Julie and Monica. Every time
• 38:39
  Speaker 6: they have the podcast, they call me. I love them
• 38:41
  Speaker 6: as a friend. And if you ever need me, my
• 38:45
  Speaker 6: Instagram is Paloma R.
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  Speaker 1: Loya.
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  Speaker 6: I'm in the Austin area. So call me.
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: And yeah.
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  Speaker 6: I have a question for Eliza, because I know you're
• 38:56
  Speaker 6: busy with your career. You say you work with your husband.
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  Speaker 6: You mentioned that sometimes you have your daughter with you
• 39:04
  Speaker 6: on set. And because what I do, I've done commercials
• 39:08
  Speaker 6: and photo shoots. And I know there's like long hours.
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  Speaker 6: There's multiple emails to respond. There's like a lot of people,
• 39:16
  Speaker 6: a lot of communication. And that for me as a
• 39:18
  Speaker 6: makeup artist sometimes can be So my question for you is,
• 39:24
  Speaker 6: how do you do self-care for you? How do you
• 39:28
  Speaker 6: disconnect from work, from kids? from husbands, for everything and
• 39:33
  Speaker 6: take a minute for you to decompress, to recharge, to
• 39:37
  Speaker 6: be like refreshed and have the energy for the next day?
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  Speaker 6: What's some things that you do?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a great question. Yeah, because you can't when
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: you try to disconnect from work, but your work isn't done.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: It's very difficult because in the back of your mind,
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: you're like, oh, and so you feel like you're playing
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: hooky or that you're making it worse for yourself because
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: the mountain is growing. So it really is a dilemma.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: You know, when people talk about a lot of times
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: you'll hear about a celebrity who decided to take some
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: time off to be with family. And usually that's a
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: person who can afford to do that, which most of
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: us can't. and B, that they have a lot of
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: people keeping their business affairs going while they're taking care
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: of themselves. So it's not, you know, don't give yourself
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: a hard time about that being difficult because it is
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: actually difficult. You know, for one thing, I really employ
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: as much, as many resources as I can, even sometimes
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: like a little bit of AI, a little bit of clawed,
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: Because if I'm going to search through emails to find
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: something like today, I almost missed that Eric has a
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: meeting with the people from Law & Order Special Victims Unit.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: Because I'm so piled high with casting that that almost slipped. Okay, so,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I have learned from my kids how to
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: use a little bit of that kind of technology to
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: keep me organized so that I can step away and
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: know that I'm not going to miss anything. And also...
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: I do a lot of exchanges of favors, like the
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: kid who walks my daughter's dogs. He also likes to
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: do other little errands and stuff. And in exchange, I
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: coach him as an actor. So that kind of takes
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: some things off my plate. I think that if you
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: plan and organize so that you know that the top
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: priorities are always taken care of, that then you absolutely
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: have to afford yourself a certain amount of time. And
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: sometimes if you do it with kind of a time limit,
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: you say this two and a half hours, I don't know,
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: I'm going to watch a Hallmark movie or whatever it
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: is that you're going to do. And you just really
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: assure yourself that that is going to actually give you
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: the energy to be that much more productive afterwards. But
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: the first thing is to realize that this is not
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: just a simple thing, not in today's world anymore. We're
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: in demand more than ever. The more ways that there
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: are to take care of things, the more access people
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: have to us. And, you know, there's the to-do list
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: just kind of grows.
• 42:19
  Speaker 3: Well, I like that you said, give yourself some grace
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: to Paloma, um, because it is difficult and it is hard. And,
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: you know, Paloma's being very humble because her way of
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: relaxing is training for this half marathon that she's doing. So,
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: I mean, that is, she does take, you know, the
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: time in all of that. So I'm super proud of her. And, um, Yeah.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: It's really, yeah, it's really hard to take time for yourself.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: Especially now. And I think Eliza touched on it too.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: I remember the days, I barely remember them, when people
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: couldn't find you instantly, like, or expect to find you
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: any minute. My husband, he gets calls and texts all
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: night long and he can put himself on silent or
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: you go away or whatever. And all he gets is
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: angry ones in the morning. Like, well, where were you?
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: Or this is urgent or I mean, there's not a
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: lot of peace in knowing that everybody's looking. I mean,
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: you can be found at any time and you're expected
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: to respond instantly. And when do you give yourself that,
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: you know, take a deep breath? You have to give
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: that to yourself.
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: I mean, the explosion of text, if I took myself
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: off live 360 with my children, would be in.
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: The hundreds. Why are you at that store?
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: Why'd you turn it off?
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's the funniest thing to me with my kids.
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: If I bother them, Then there's, why do you bother?
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: What do you want? If I don't answer within a
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: half a second, what kind of mother am I, really? So, yes,
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: I get it. Well, thank you, ladies. This has been
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: so much fun. Thank you so much to our Zoomer moms,
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: as usual. You were all amazing, wonderful, and enjoyed every
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: bit of it. Thank you, Regina, for sharing her book
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: with us, Liberation from the Diet Prison. Pick it up
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: on Amazon or Barnes & Noble. And thank you so much, Eliza.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: It was so much fun talking to you. Is there
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: a place where our audience can find you on, well,
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: here we are. Let's find you. Yeah.
• 44:21
  Speaker 3: She's like, I don't want to be found.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: I have Instagram. It's at mom, Eliza Roberts. And then,
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: you know, Eric's is Eric Roberts actor. And he's also
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: on Facebook. And when I say he, I mean, we.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: So we're just kind of out there. And then my
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: kids are on YouTube. So if you go to our
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: IMDb pages, then you find the whole family. And then
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: you can click around and see what they're kind of
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: up to.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: It's pretty fun.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: And Paloma thinks we're making us look like new people
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: when we walk in this building.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: You're amazing. No one will recognize that when I walk out,
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: you walked in. Trust me, they won't have no idea
• 45:02
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• 45:33
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• 46:14
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