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Twots Take BravoCon 2025 (Guerdy Abraira) · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: To Teas in a Pod which Teddy Mellencamp and Tamra Judge. Hi,
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  Speaker 1: it's Teddy Mellencamp and Tamra Judge. Welcome back to to
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  Speaker 1: Teas in a Pod live from Bravo Con in Las Vegas.
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  Speaker 1: It's such a fun, busy weekend and we want to
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  Speaker 1: make sure you get as many episodes as possible, so
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  Speaker 1: we have a special guest co host for you. Alexis
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  Speaker 1: Billina is here. Take it away, Alexis. I've got Gerdi
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  Speaker 1: and Russell everybody.
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  Speaker 2: I know you're jealous energy over here, and then we've
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  Speaker 2: got it.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, they and I love it. I literally have just
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  Speaker 1: met you. I'm a little bit like, uh, I'm kind
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  Speaker 1: of fangirling right now.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of cool.
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  Speaker 1: And she has the book coming out. When is it tomorrow,
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  Speaker 1: Tomorravacon and it's called From Trauma to Trophies. Okay, this
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  Speaker 1: is unbelievable that I get to actually sit here in
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  Speaker 1: the presence of this right now. Let me get back
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  Speaker 1: to my notes.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, hot chair, the hot seat.
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  Speaker 1: You're in the hot seat. I have some questions for you.
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  Speaker 1: Are you ready, all right, Gertie? Are you ready?
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  Speaker 2: I am right.
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  Speaker 1: Those earrings. You can you could murder someone.
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  Speaker 2: So we're good and away we go.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I want to know, first of all, you have
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  Speaker 1: been to other Bravo cons?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? I have?
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  Speaker 1: How many too?
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: So the twenty two years ago was your first?
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  Speaker 2: Now or four? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: So you've been to three? There, this is your third.
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  Speaker 2: Hasn't happened yet, honey, It's official tomorrow, so you know.
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  Speaker 1: Well, this is this is kind of Bravo con you.
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  Speaker 2: See, like the pre Bravo cons of the Bravo Con.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So how are you feeling about it this year?
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  Speaker 2: I am very excited because I gave birth. Okay, I
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  Speaker 2: gave birth to this baby that have been writing for many, many,
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  Speaker 2: many months.
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  Speaker 1: All I know is that must have taken yeah, a year,
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  Speaker 1: you say months? Was it a year or was it month?
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  Speaker 2: It was close to a year. But I was writing
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  Speaker 2: one therapy session at a time. Honey. I cannot wait
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  Speaker 2: to write a memoir.
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  Speaker 1: All I know is if I get to sit here
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  Speaker 1: with you, I better get one of those books.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's for you.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, See it all works out, It all works out. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: How have you been since the reunion? The Miami reunion thriving.
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  Speaker 2: You know. I mean what you do is you leave
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  Speaker 2: things where they are. And in my book, actually I
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  Speaker 2: talk about this new theory and Meil Robbins, don't you
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  Speaker 2: dare come for me, baby, because Meil Robbins got this
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  Speaker 2: amazing theory which I was actually be a believer of,
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  Speaker 2: which is the let them theory, right, let them tell
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  Speaker 2: lies on you, let them do that and do this,
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  Speaker 2: and you just kind of like, you know, brush it off.
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  Speaker 2: And then I was like, that's not really a gerty trade, right,
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  Speaker 2: So I took ownership of my actions. And that's the
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  Speaker 2: let me theory. So you know what, you want to
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  Speaker 2: go ahead and be selective in the lies, and you
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  Speaker 2: want to be selective in the apologies. I will let
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  Speaker 2: you let them, but I will let me not accept
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  Speaker 2: apologies where they're not do and I will let me
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  Speaker 2: do what I got to do to keep my peace.
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  Speaker 1: You just made me have a sigh. And you know
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  Speaker 1: what therapy always I've been in years of therapy because
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  Speaker 1: Lord knows, my life's not been always easy. And the
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  Speaker 1: therapist always says, when you do that, it's it's a
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  Speaker 1: sign that you are receiving it, and you are it's
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  Speaker 1: actually resonating with you. And that is an amazing tactic.
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  Speaker 1: So my tactic is real quick because I got to stick.
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  Speaker 1: But my tactic is you when you're in a relationship Russell, okay,
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  Speaker 1: we're with Russell right now too, thirty.
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  Speaker 2: Where you go, Where you're going? Where's he going?
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  Speaker 1: Holy heck, thirty years, he's he's here. Mine is you
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  Speaker 1: put something on the shelf. You don't have to talk
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  Speaker 1: about it right then, you take a breath, you put
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  Speaker 1: it on the shelf, You pull it out tomorrow morning,
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  Speaker 1: and it or whatever whatever you both processed and can
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  Speaker 1: talk about it calmly. You pull it off, but you're
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  Speaker 1: let it let them brilliantly.
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  Speaker 2: It depends on the relationship. Right with this one right here,
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  Speaker 2: I got to sleep with this man, so we're gonna
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  Speaker 2: hash it out. It depends on the relationship, because you
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  Speaker 2: know what, the key before you do the let me
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  Speaker 2: theory is to create an environment that's the sanctuary for you.
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  Speaker 2: Because once I let you do you and I don't
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  Speaker 2: really care about the consequences anymore because you've hurt me
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  Speaker 2: so much, et cetera. Then I get to say no
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  Speaker 2: and set boundaries and then come home to my family
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  Speaker 2: and the good times and the good people around me.
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  Speaker 2: So that's why you're able to let go of those
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  Speaker 2: things because I win in life.
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  Speaker 1: You're teaching a lot of reality people with some good
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  Speaker 1: tactics right here. That's why everyone needs that book.
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  Speaker 2: Because speaking of the reunion, people expect that reunion to
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  Speaker 2: be like they're gonna make up and there's gonna be
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  Speaker 2: a beautiful bow tie and we're gonna move on. And
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  Speaker 2: guess what, I'm not cutting that monotony down. I'm gonna say,
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  Speaker 2: you know what, we're gonna gratify this bitch and we're
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  Speaker 2: not gonna do what they really think that we should
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  Speaker 2: do because it's not their life and it's mine. Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: It's called a trophy right there. People. Okay, so what
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  Speaker 1: is your current relationship like with the rest of the
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  Speaker 1: cast at this moment?
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  Speaker 2: To me, For me, it's neutral because I don't have
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  Speaker 2: any beef with anybody. They gotta beef for me, maybe
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  Speaker 2: perhaps I don't know. They're gonna deny it and it's fine,
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  Speaker 2: but obviously actually speak louder louder than words, right So, Lisa, Adriana, Stephanie,
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  Speaker 2: I have no issues with these girls. They really have
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  Speaker 2: showed me and poured into my cup, so I'm poured
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  Speaker 2: back into theirs. And that's the type of friendship I want.
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  Speaker 2: It's gotta be yan yanging.
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  Speaker 1: Are you ready to see them all?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely?
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  Speaker 1: And you're okay, Like will you be?
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  Speaker 2: Will you be?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? Good even though you've had some beef. See, that's
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  Speaker 1: what I love because that's honestly, in this hard world
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  Speaker 1: that we live in of reality TV, you have to
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  Speaker 1: be able to kind of brush things off the shoulder
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  Speaker 1: and go, I mean, unless it cuts too deep. I
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  Speaker 1: get that you touch my man, there's gonna be a
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  Speaker 1: thing problem, but like you you know, like it's it's yeah, yeah, Russell. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: First of all, I need to hear from you because
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  Speaker 1: you're just sitting there so calm and cool and collected.
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  Speaker 1: So you are John is super soft, soft and calm
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  Speaker 1: and whatever. And then I'm like you, I'm this fiery
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  Speaker 1: like like everything.
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  Speaker 2: It works though, it works, so because they love it.
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  Speaker 1: How do you handle all of this? Meaning her?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I mean I gotta let her do her things.
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  Speaker 1: So are you tired at the end of the day? No?
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  Speaker 3: Well sometimes, yeah, you know we we we know each
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  Speaker 3: other very well and you know, going back to that
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  Speaker 3: that thing. We like to face things head on because
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  Speaker 3: we don't like to let things linger. But yeah, but.
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  Speaker 1: With that, with that said, and I love that tactic too,
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  Speaker 1: but there's times when one of the partners can't process
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  Speaker 1: it all at that moment and it's like, look, and
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  Speaker 1: John used it on me the other day and I
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  Speaker 1: was just like, don't use my tool.
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  Speaker 2: That's my tool on the show.
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  Speaker 1: You cannot put it up on the shelf because I
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  Speaker 1: don't want you right now. And he's like, Babe, I
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  Speaker 1: need a minute. Let's just use your tool.
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  Speaker 2: Put it up there.
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  Speaker 1: We'll talk about it tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: And we did it.
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  Speaker 3: It was fine, so I think, and that's that's part
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  Speaker 3: of having a good relationship. I think knowing Okay, normally
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  Speaker 3: we we we face things head on, but this time.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, I need a minute. Yeah, and you go, okay,
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  Speaker 2: let's let's reach and you still go.
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  Speaker 1: To bed happy and there's no problem. It's it's just
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna pull it off the shelf tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: He's my best friend. Like I still look at him
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  Speaker 2: and he walks in the room and I'm like, I
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  Speaker 2: would still I would, And that's what that's when I know.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's when you know thirty years later, God, please
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  Speaker 1: bless me with please Lord, I know me too. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So from your new book, Out the Traumas to Trophy, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: what is like? What inspired you? I think I know already,
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  Speaker 1: but I think other listeners might want to know what
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  Speaker 1: inspired you for this book.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, listen, when you've lost a brother, two nieces
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  Speaker 2: in earthquake, when you beat cancer, when you you've gone
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  Speaker 2: through the trauma of how you came to this country
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  Speaker 2: let alone. I love this room. It's like a party room.
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  Speaker 2: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: This is the room to be Hey, guys, everybody should
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  Speaker 1: want to be here.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, so, like you get to a point where
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  Speaker 2: you just want to like release and you know what
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  Speaker 2: is no longer for you to hold? Release what no
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  Speaker 2: longer serves you. And it's just an amazing process because
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  Speaker 2: it gets you to a place like here, and you
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  Speaker 2: get to become a hashtag traffic group.
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  Speaker 1: And by the way, no one can see you because
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  Speaker 1: this is I think this is voice only. I don't
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  Speaker 1: see any commerce, but you you look amazing. I want
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  Speaker 1: the I want the listeners to know that she has
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  Speaker 1: edgy super edgy gold earrings. On that are like the
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  Speaker 1: bomb and also will kick somebody's booty if they try
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  Speaker 1: to mess with her. But then her black dress, she
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  Speaker 1: just looks the bomb. Okay, so tell us about the
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  Speaker 1: trophy girl movement, Like, what does that mean to you?
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  Speaker 2: The trophy girl movement knows what, she knows what she wants.
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  Speaker 2: She's not lady gagging and just like being a follower
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  Speaker 2: and just doing whatever to get you, go along, to
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  Speaker 2: get along. It's not about that. It's like you could
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  Speaker 2: be the lonely lioness, not a following sheep. And that
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  Speaker 2: said that. I'd said that before and I say it again.
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  Speaker 2: And there's nothing wrong with standing still in your own
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  Speaker 2: shit and just being like, you know what, I'd rather
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  Speaker 2: be in my truth and me my own little world
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  Speaker 2: if that makes me happy and make me feel like
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  Speaker 2: I am, you know, keeping my integrity.
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  Speaker 1: Guys, you've already gotten two slogans from her. Okay, now
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  Speaker 1: we've got the then we've got you know, she's full
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  Speaker 1: of wisdom, but she now says get along, go along
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  Speaker 1: to get along. I mean that is such a That's
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  Speaker 1: something I'm going to take home to my twins. My
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  Speaker 1: seventeen eighteen year old starts saying, and that's when my
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  Speaker 1: mother passed down to me. And I talk about this
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  Speaker 1: in my book. It's like, you know, you're a diamond.
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  Speaker 2: You don't break, you don't you don't follow, you are
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  Speaker 2: the leader, You are your own leader. And that's just
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  Speaker 2: the way I was brought up. And I just can't
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  Speaker 2: shake it off.
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  Speaker 1: Your mom did amazing. Okay, So okay, I've got I've
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  Speaker 1: only got a few minutes, because you know that we
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  Speaker 1: are we are bringing the Bravo celebs in and out
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  Speaker 1: this story. I'm sorry, I'm glad that you're good. Are
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  Speaker 1: there any parts of the book that you were nervous
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  Speaker 1: about people to know or or read? Yes, of course.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. The way I came to this country is a
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  Speaker 2: long story. But the fact is that I was dropped
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  Speaker 2: off pretty much one of seven kids. My younger brother,
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  Speaker 2: me and my younger brother. We just were taken to
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  Speaker 2: Miami and kind of we're told, okay, we'll be back
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  Speaker 2: for you, and we're only I'm only nine and he's eleven.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like three months later. You know, again, it's
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  Speaker 2: seven kids. So I understand the you know, the evolution
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  Speaker 2: of like getting here, but it was like I don't
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  Speaker 2: speak this language? Who are these people? Three months of Hell?
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  Speaker 2: And the book details of what I went through and
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  Speaker 2: how it affected my sense of needing control and thus
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  Speaker 2: being the party extraordinary per Vogue and and Martha and.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Gerty, First of all, I love your al's relationship.
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  Speaker 1: I've known you a brief moment. At the moment, but
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  Speaker 1: I feel so like I feel the love and the
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  Speaker 1: energy and you can always feel that with people. But
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  Speaker 1: where can people find you? And and the book, like
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  Speaker 1: what does give us all the goods?
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  Speaker 2: Traumat Trophies is out, It's alive. It's at the Bravocon Bizaar,
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  Speaker 2: so you can definitely check it out on Bravo dot com,
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  Speaker 2: on BravoTV dot com, as well as everywhere Amazon, Shopify,
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  Speaker 2: the whole thing. But right now it is absolutely exclusive
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  Speaker 2: at Bravocan.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry for y'all that aren't here, but next year get
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  Speaker 1: that ticket.
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  Speaker 2: Streamers can definitely go on.
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  Speaker 1: Guys, it's been a pleasure. I love meeting both of you.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get on with