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Overcoming Self-Doubt · The World Knowledge

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  Speaker 1: Well, good morning, listeners. Thank you for listening to Lament
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  Speaker 1: of Hope podcast. And thank you for listening, watching whichever
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  Speaker 1: platform you're on.
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  Speaker 2: Even in that context, so even in a very urbanized
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  Speaker 2: Italy where people work nine to five, they have to
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  Speaker 2: grab some lunch on the go while they are working.
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  Speaker 2: The Lunch break in Italy still, I feel, and that's
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  Speaker 2: what I've observed, is still much more respected and valued
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  Speaker 2: in Italy compared to Northern Europe, for example. Here in
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  Speaker 2: the UK, the standard lunch for, I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: say everybody, but certainly the majority of people, is a sandwich,
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  Speaker 2: bar of chocolate, and drink. that you grab, you know,
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  Speaker 2: vending machines or a supermarket, whatever you can, order that
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  Speaker 2: you bring from home. To the point that that surprised me, actually.
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  Speaker 2: I saw and realized that some of my British friends,
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  Speaker 2: even when they have lunch at home, they have a
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  Speaker 2: sandwich for lunch, which to me is quite funny to
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  Speaker 2: think of because in the Italian culture, a sandwich does
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  Speaker 2: not qualify as a meal. But in Italy, for example, people,
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  Speaker 2: when they have their lunch break, they tend to sit down,
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  Speaker 2: when I used to work in Milan for my lunch break,
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  Speaker 2: I used to go to the canteen, sit down with
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  Speaker 2: my colleagues, have a proper hot milk, some pasta or
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  Speaker 2: some fish or some meat, and spend a good hour
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  Speaker 2: in my lunch break. So perhaps that image or that
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  Speaker 2: romantic image from the 50s of the whole family coming
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  Speaker 2: together religiously twice a day doesn't exist any longer. But
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  Speaker 2: there is still a different approach to eating together, even
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  Speaker 2: in the busy modern office culture, I would say.
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  Speaker 1: I was going to ask too, I mean, you're very busy,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you're extremely busy. And how do you balance,
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  Speaker 1: and also food is your life, So like, how do
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  Speaker 1: you balance and give yourself rest of mind during meals
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  Speaker 1: that you're not always thinking about maybe the food or
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  Speaker 1: how it was prepared, but also how are you giving
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  Speaker 1: yourself very intentional time to rest and enjoy life when,
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  Speaker 1: cause I, I, it's funny for me to think of
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  Speaker 1: that because I mean, whenever I think of food, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I don't put, obviously I, I, cook food that is
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  Speaker 1: good for me, but I don't put like a lot
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  Speaker 1: of like, Oh, you know, with the flavors and the textures,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not examining that very much. Um, and so I
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  Speaker 1: wondered like how you turn that off and also give
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  Speaker 1: yourself rest in the midst of being this very busy
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  Speaker 1: cook and also, you know, catering and everything.
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  Speaker 2: The, the, the, the honest answer that I have there
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  Speaker 2: is that I haven't cracked it yet. I don't, I
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  Speaker 2: don't give myself enough rest. I overload my life with
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  Speaker 2: things to do. And that is... down to the type
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  Speaker 2: of personality I am. In a way, I keep telling
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  Speaker 2: myself that I shouldn't complain about this, because if it
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  Speaker 2: wasn't for my personality, I wouldn't be today where I am.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't have been on Bake Off. The problem is that,
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  Speaker 2: it's not a problem, but the thing is that I
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  Speaker 2: was raised in a culture where you've got to grasp
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  Speaker 2: every single opportunity. And When you say no to something,
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  Speaker 2: you have no idea what you're actually renouncing to because
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  Speaker 2: there might be way much more behind that request. And
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  Speaker 2: if you close that door and you say, no, I'm
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  Speaker 2: not going to do that, you might be missing out
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  Speaker 2: on something else. And I am the living embodiment of FOMO,
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  Speaker 2: of fear of missing out, which means... that I keep
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  Speaker 2: saying yes to everything and everybody. I never close a
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  Speaker 2: door in front of me. And I find myself today
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  Speaker 2: in a situation where I've got a whole range of
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  Speaker 2: doors open in front of me. And I keep telling myself,
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  Speaker 2: as you've just pointed out quite rightly there, that I
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  Speaker 2: should funnel this down to something that is a bit
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  Speaker 2: more manageable, but I cannot get myself to do it.
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  Speaker 2: So I've got... my engineering work that I still do.
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  Speaker 2: I'm an engineer by the ground. So a few days
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  Speaker 2: a week, I still do that. I got the books
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  Speaker 2: that I'm trying to write my third book and I
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  Speaker 2: try to find the time to do that. And I'm
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  Speaker 2: making wedding cakes for, this is the wedding season. So
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  Speaker 2: I've got orders almost weekly. And then the catering business
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  Speaker 2: and then the classes, it gets too much very easily.
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  Speaker 2: And Unfortunately, I don't have an answer to your question.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't been able to crack it yet. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I might end up on drugs at some point just
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  Speaker 2: because I might need chemical help.
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  Speaker 1: But you don't seem stressed. Maybe you just hold it
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  Speaker 1: very well.
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  Speaker 2: I hold it very well, yes.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.