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An acquaintance DEMANDED an ambulance... because I refused to give her food! -r/PettyRevenge | Reddit Stories | EP3061 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Carly.
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  Speaker 2: And this is Kion, your favorite OK Storytime host, and
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  Speaker 4: An acquaintance demanded an ambulance because I refused to give
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  Speaker 4: her food.
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  Speaker 5: I know you wouldn't do that to your friend, though.
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  Speaker 4: Let's set the stage with our cast of four. I
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  Speaker 4: have a best friend I met in college. During our
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  Speaker 4: post-college years, she invited me to a weekend event she
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  Speaker 4: attends annually with some of her high school friends. I've
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  Speaker 4: never met the other two attendees before, but I'm game
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  Speaker 4: to spend a good time with my best friend and
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  Speaker 4: split costs with two other people for our hotel room.
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  Speaker 4: Let's go.
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  Speaker 5: All right. Seems like a fun girls trip.
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  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Sapphire Ashes. And if
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  Speaker 5: I am Sophia's brother, Riley.
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  Speaker 3: It's true.
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  Speaker 4: And as siblings, we're here to tell you what we know.
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  Speaker 4: But we don't know everything. We don't even know where
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  Speaker 4: we came from. So let us know where you came
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  Speaker 4: from and what you know about this story. OP says,
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  Speaker 4: The only problem is I had heard of one of
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  Speaker 4: the other attendees before, and I would unfortunately not be
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  Speaker 4: splitting our hotel costs four ways between four people. See,
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  Speaker 4: while my best friend and the fourth person of our
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  Speaker 4: group were perfectly capable of being responsible, financially responsible adults,
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  Speaker 4: there's no easy way to put this, but the last
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  Speaker 4: member of the group was a mooch. I had heard
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  Speaker 4: stories about this mooch-er character from my best friend over
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  Speaker 4: the years we had known each other, and what a
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  Speaker 4: mooch-er she was. Why is your friend friends with her?
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  Speaker 4: Why is she coming on the trip? I'm talking, she
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  Speaker 4: refuses to get a job and throws tantrums until her
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  Speaker 4: boyfriend would buy her big ticket items. She makes plans,
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  Speaker 4: then decides six hours after the agreed upon start time
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  Speaker 4: to cancel said plans. If something wasn't convenient for her,
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  Speaker 4: she would throw a fit and pretend she was sick.
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  Speaker 4: Apparently she used ERs as her drama props and would
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  Speaker 4: visit them just because she felt slightly sick. Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 4: I'm talking about taking an ambulance to the ER because
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  Speaker 4: she couldn't be bothered to use her rescue inhaler for
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  Speaker 4: an asthma attack because she couldn't be bothered to find
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  Speaker 4: the inhaler. This is compounded by the fact we live
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  Speaker 4: in the States and she's unemployed. So taxpayers are subsidizing
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  Speaker 4: her free ER visits since she cannot pay for them.
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  Speaker 4: And has no health insurance.
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 4: I'm sorry, she's not paying for any of that? She's
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  Speaker 4: taking free ER visits?
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  Speaker 5: Having a lifestyle like this, how much do you think
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  Speaker 5: it's costing her a month? Or, sorry, the taxpayers.
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  Speaker 4: I don't even know. Must be a lot. ER visits
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  Speaker 4: are like ambulance. It's like $ 3, 000, $ 4, 000. Yeah, I'm thinking
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  Speaker 4: she's blowing at least.
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  Speaker 5: $ 4, 000 to $ 5, 000 a month minimum. Gurley, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, fine, we have a mooch along. I guess I
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  Speaker 4: can observe her in person and not let her ruin
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  Speaker 4: my weekend with my best friend. Why is she coming?
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  Speaker 6: I don't understand.
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  Speaker 4: But alas, the beginning of the trip should have clued
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  Speaker 4: me in on my naivete. For you see, the pre-event
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  Speaker 4: agreement was everyone brings food we can share and store
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  Speaker 4: at our hotel room for snacks between events. This amazing
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  Speaker 4: idea ended up not really happening. since the shuttle between
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  Speaker 4: the event and the hotel wasn't frequent enough for anyone
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  Speaker 4: to want to use it in the middle of the day.
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  Speaker 4: There was at least an hour wait between shuttles.
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  Speaker 5: Hour wait?
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  Speaker 2: Hour wait?
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  Speaker 5: Why is there a shuttle?
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  Speaker 4: Oh boy.
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  Speaker 5: You know they use that shuttle to launder money, whoever
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  Speaker 5: made it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, they're like, sorry, our shuttle's just around the corner.
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  Speaker 4: It's coming up right now. It's actually, it's like going
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  Speaker 4: over state borders. There was at least an hour wait
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  Speaker 4: between shuttles. But to the point, this snack agreement should
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  Speaker 4: have been my first clue into the moocher's nature. Because
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  Speaker 4: guess who didn't bother bringing any snacks to share? And
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  Speaker 4: guess who also immediately dove into the snacks and ate
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  Speaker 4: what she wanted with no remorse when we got to
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  Speaker 4: the hotel?
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  Speaker 5: This is on you. You knew you had a moocher.
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  Speaker 6: You knew.
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  Speaker 5: You just gave her the have what you want snack policy?
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  Speaker 4: Honestly, if I knew there was someone I really did
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  Speaker 4: not like going on a trip, I'd be like, I'm
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  Speaker 4: going to. I'm going to sit this one out. What
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  Speaker 4: a great first impression of the mooch. It got worse
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  Speaker 4: when my best friend and I realized that the fourth
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  Speaker 4: group member who paid for the hotel expected us to
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  Speaker 4: pay for one third the hotel costs instead of the
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  Speaker 4: one fourth we expected. Because, you know, there's four people
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  Speaker 4: sharing the room, so we each should pay a quarter, right?
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  Speaker 4: But given that the fourth member already paid up front
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  Speaker 4: for the hotel was our carpool ride to the event,
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  Speaker 4: Anne paid for the event tickets for the Mooch out
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  Speaker 4: of her own pocket. My best friend and I talked
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  Speaker 4: it over between us and decided we weren't going to
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  Speaker 4: let the Moocher completely financially screw over the fourth person.
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  Speaker 4: And we paid a third of the hotel costs.
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  Speaker 6: No.
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  Speaker 4: Why are we? If we had agreed to this, I'd
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  Speaker 4: be like, no, sorry. Whoever wants the Moocher to pay nothing,
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  Speaker 4: they have to cover her. I'm not paying for her.
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  Speaker 5: Honestly, I wouldn't even do this weekend trip then.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I wouldn't have gone. If I knew that this
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  Speaker 4: person was like this, I would not have gone on
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  Speaker 4: that trip. And I certainly would not have agreed to pay.
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  Speaker 5: See, that's how I do things. If I'm going to
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  Speaker 5: go on a group trip with people, I'm going to
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  Speaker 5: make sure I like who's going there. And I like
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  Speaker 5: the financial stance.
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  Speaker 2: Of all of this.
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  Speaker 4: Honestly, my interactions with the wider group didn't get much
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  Speaker 4: better from there. I observed as the other two members
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  Speaker 4: paid for food and would let the Mooch wheedle and
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  Speaker 4: whine her way into getting a share of their food.
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  Speaker 4: I also watched as the Moocher bought all the merchandise
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  Speaker 4: her little heart wanted, but somehow never had the money
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  Speaker 4: to buy her own food. Quite frankly, it was annoying
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  Speaker 4: to watch her walk all over her high school friend's kindness,
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  Speaker 4: one of whom is my best friend. It came to
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  Speaker 4: a head in the middle of the event, midday on Saturday.
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  Speaker 4: At this point, I was done with the moocher's crap
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  Speaker 4: and doing my best to ignore her as much as possible. Unfortunately,
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  Speaker 4: she wouldn't ignore me, but I decided I was the
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  Speaker 4: only one hungry at that moment and bought some food.
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  Speaker 4: You see, there were food trucks that Saturday, and my
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  Speaker 4: best friend had waxed poetic about the poutine truck that
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  Speaker 4: visited each year. Having never had poutine and feeling hungry,
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  Speaker 4: I decided to get some.
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  Speaker 5: All right.
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  Speaker 4: As the only one who currently had food, I was
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  Speaker 4: the instant target of the mooch. Who wanted some of
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  Speaker 4: my precious poutine?
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  Speaker 2: No!
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  Speaker 4: Because she had no money to buy her own poutine.
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  Speaker 4: I said no when she begged. I said no when
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  Speaker 4: she pleaded. And I didn't change my mind when she whined.
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  Speaker 5: You were so harsh, Opie.
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  Speaker 4: In fact, I reminded her if she was that broke
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  Speaker 4: and that hungry, she could take that infrequent shuttle between
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  Speaker 4: the event and her hotel where we had a room
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  Speaker 4: filled with snacks she could eat for free. Miraculously, the
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  Speaker 4: Mooch somehow didn't want to waste time traveling in the
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  Speaker 4: middle of the event day just to eat some food. So,
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  Speaker 4: deprived of my poutine and the snacks that she could
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  Speaker 4: access within an hour at any time via a shuttle ride,
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  Speaker 4: the Moocher whined and put up a fuss until it
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  Speaker 4: culminated in her declaring she was lightheaded that evening because
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  Speaker 4: she wasn't given poutine and no one else in the
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  Speaker 4: group bought food after my poutine that she could mooch from.
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  Speaker 4: She kicked up a tantrum, even visiting the on-site medical
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  Speaker 4: staff at the event, then demanding our carpool driver come
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  Speaker 4: pick her up because she needed to take an ambulance
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  Speaker 4: to the ER because she was lightheaded from lack of poutine.
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  Speaker 4: But here's where it started to backfire on the Mooch.
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  Speaker 5: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 4: My best friend later told me that the Moocher was
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  Speaker 4: on the last goodwill of everyone in their shared high
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  Speaker 4: school friend group. And I think this latest bout of
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  Speaker 4: dramatics was the last straw for both my best friend.
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  Speaker 4: And the fourth member of the group.
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  Speaker 5: Opie, I'm kind of mad at you. You didn't name
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  Speaker 5: the fourth member of the group. Why is she just
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  Speaker 5: number four?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she doesn't get any name.
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  Speaker 5: And why is Mooch not number four? Why is she three?
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  Speaker 4: She should be number four. She's the worst.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, what's happening here?
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  Speaker 4: I got to watch as the fourth member of the
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  Speaker 4: group chewed out the Mooch by declaring she wasn't going
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  Speaker 4: to waste her time picking up the leech if she
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  Speaker 4: decided to go to the ER after being told she
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  Speaker 4: would be stranded at the ER if she took an ambulance.
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  Speaker 4: The Mooch miraculously felt better and decided against going to
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  Speaker 4: the ER.
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  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 4: Wow, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 5: I would love to see her parent dynamic and how
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  Speaker 5: much the Mooch stresses.
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  Speaker 2: Out her dad.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, so much, so much. For how much she irritated me,
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  Speaker 4: I like to think I was the tipping point for
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  Speaker 4: the other two members of our group to finally stand
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  Speaker 4: up for themselves and cut the Mooch off.
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  Speaker 6: All right. Here we go.
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  Speaker 5: That's how you get rid of leeches. You cut off
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  Speaker 5: your leg.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, cut it off. When I said no, I like
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  Speaker 4: to think they realized how unreasonable the moocher had become
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  Speaker 4: and started saying no as well. And there is a
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  Speaker 4: little bit left to this story. Any final thoughts?
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  Speaker 5: This is a beautiful thing to have happen to you
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  Speaker 5: in your early 20s.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Because you know and can learn from this. It's so awesome.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Just like don't go on trips with people you
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  Speaker 4: don't like.
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  Speaker 5: That's true. That's true.
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  Speaker 2: I agree.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, sometimes you go on people, you go on
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  Speaker 4: trips with people, and you figure out that you really
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  Speaker 4: don't like them on that trip. But either way, trips
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  Speaker 4: reveal all.
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  Speaker 5: Traveling with people definitely does too.
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  Speaker 4: But we've got a little bit left. Of course, I'm
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  Speaker 4: also reasonable, and I think the fourth member being informed
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  Speaker 4: that her mom shelled out money for the mooch to
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  Speaker 4: get her GED, high school graduation certificate, since she was
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  Speaker 4: a high school dropout. only for the Mooch to fail
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  Speaker 4: the GED exam, not because she was dumb or didn't
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  Speaker 4: attend the GED classes the fourth member helped drive her to,
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  Speaker 4: but because the Moocher just decided to not show up
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  Speaker 4: to take the exam. Well, that would do it.
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  Speaker 5: There's layers to this.
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  Speaker 4: That would do it.
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  Speaker 5: So Moocher is applying this to every single level of
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  Speaker 5: her life.
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  Speaker 4: She just sucks as a person.
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  Speaker 5: Every single aspect.
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  Speaker 6: Dude, how do you have a boyfriend?
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. Well, I think we all saw the
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  Speaker 4: ugly truth of what was in that Moocher's heart that weekend.
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  Speaker 4: And it is my pleasure to announce I've never seen
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  Speaker 4: that Mooch again. And she lost her remaining high school
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  Speaker 4: friends to Mooch. All because she wouldn't take a no
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  Speaker 4: to my sharing food with a Moocher. Look at you go, Opie.
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  Speaker 4: You freaking took down the Moocher. You're a hero.
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  Speaker 1: You're a god dang hero. And that's the end of
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  Speaker 1: the story. We're going to go on to the next one.
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  Speaker 4: My bridesmaid demanded I make her my maid of honor,
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  Speaker 4: so I removed her entirely.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, that sounds about right.
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  Speaker 4: My fiance, Mike, and I are getting married next year.
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  Speaker 6: Mike and Ike?
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  Speaker 4: Mike and Ike. And we've asked most of our wedding
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  Speaker 4: party to stand up. Mike chose one of his friends
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  Speaker 4: from high school, Tim, to be his best man. By
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  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from DoCrazy3593. And if you want
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 6: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
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  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
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  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
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  Speaker 4: And Opie says, Last August, Mike and I were best
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  Speaker 4: man and maid of honor in Tim's wedding. I wasn't
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  Speaker 4: originally the maid of honor, but Tim's wife, Heather, had
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  Speaker 4: a falling out with her original maid of honor, and
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  Speaker 4: I was next in line to step in. For context,
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  Speaker 4: their wedding had three bridesmaids and three groomsmen, all of
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  Speaker 4: whom were couples paired with their significant others. It wasn't
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  Speaker 4: always that way, but once her original maid of honor
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  Speaker 4: stepped out, things shifted, and she added one of the
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  Speaker 4: groomsmen's finances into the party, so everything lined up. The
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  Speaker 4: first issue came when Mike asked him to be his
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  Speaker 4: best man. But I didn't ask Heather to be my
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  Speaker 4: maid of honor. Heather, I was your second choice. Why
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  Speaker 4: would I ask you to be my maid of honor?
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  Speaker 6: It's just not how, like, maid of honor, that's not
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  Speaker 6: how you choose those things.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not just like I was your maid of honor,
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  Speaker 4: so you have to be mine. I still asked her
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  Speaker 4: to be a bridesmaid. And when I gave her the
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  Speaker 4: proposal basket, she seemed genuinely happy. A few days later, though,
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  Speaker 4: she told me it hurt that she wasn't my maid
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  Speaker 4: of honor since she had chosen me as hers. I
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  Speaker 4: explained that I still wanted her to be a big
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  Speaker 4: part of my day and that I valued our friendship
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  Speaker 4: just as much. I simply have a different relationship with
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  Speaker 4: my maid of honor and I consider things like availability
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  Speaker 4: and responsibility when making that decision. I apologized for hurting
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  Speaker 4: her feelings and told her I'd find ways for her
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  Speaker 4: to feel more involved. I left that conversation thinking things
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  Speaker 4: were resolved. You thought she was reasonable. You thought wrong.
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  Speaker 4: You fool. A few weeks later, Heather came to me
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  Speaker 4: again and said she was uncomfortable with my wedding party choices.
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  Speaker 4: She had never met my maid of honor, but claimed
• 12:39
  Speaker 4: she got bad vibes from her. I heard that her
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  Speaker 4: name was Stacy, and I just don't like that. And
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  Speaker 4: didn't feel comfortable with her walking alongside Tim, since they
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  Speaker 4: had just gotten married in August. She mentioned that our
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  Speaker 4: wedding would be the first time she'd have to watch
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  Speaker 4: Tim walk down the aisle with someone other than her.
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  Speaker 4: She asked if I would let her and Tim walk
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  Speaker 4: into both the ceremony and reception together instead. I told
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  Speaker 4: her that Mike and I prefer the best man and
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  Speaker 4: maid of honor to walk together as is tradition. Heather
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  Speaker 4: is paired with Mike's brother, whom she has no issue with.
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  Speaker 4: It was specifically Tim and my maid of honor walking
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  Speaker 4: together that bothered her. This conversation went back and forth
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  Speaker 4: for months. Every time I kindly held her ground, she
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  Speaker 4: told me I wasn't considering her marital boundaries and that
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  Speaker 4: I was being selfish and a bad friend. She eventually
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  Speaker 4: suggested that all the bridesmaids and groomsmen could walk into
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  Speaker 4: the reception together rather than in pairs. Wait, like you
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  Speaker 4: want them all to hold hands and crowd the stage?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, let's do that for sure.
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  Speaker 4: Sorry, what? Mike and I talked it over, but we
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  Speaker 4: really didn't want to budge. We've attended and been part
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  Speaker 4: of several weddings and have a clear preference for how
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  Speaker 4: we want our entrance done. Heather is the only one
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  Speaker 4: in our wedding party with an issue. Over the following week,
• 13:56
  Speaker 4: she pulled back significantly. We went from texting nearly all
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  Speaker 4: day to one message from her regardless of how many
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  Speaker 4: I sent.
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  Speaker 6: It's so crazy that this is all coming from my
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  Speaker 6: marital boundary of like what?
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  Speaker 2: Walking.
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  Speaker 6: Another woman can't walk next to your husband?
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  Speaker 4: He can't walk next to anybody. Actually, I don't want
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  Speaker 4: him to walk near anyone. She also started posting what
• 14:20
  Speaker 4: seemed like targeted messages about losing respect for people and
• 14:23
  Speaker 4: others showing their true colors. I reached out and asked
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  Speaker 4: if something was wrong, since I thought our last conversation
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  Speaker 4: had made some progress. I had even suggested she meet
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  Speaker 4: my maid of honor in person to see if it
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  Speaker 4: helped ease her discomfort. And she had agreed to try.
• 14:38
  Speaker 4: Her response was that everything was fine. and she had
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  Speaker 4: just been away from her phone, which I didn't fully
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  Speaker 4: believe based on a conversation I had with a mutual friend.
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  Speaker 4: At this point, I'm considering asking her to step out
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  Speaker 4: of the wedding if she can't accept our decision and
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  Speaker 4: be more supportive. That would likely mean Tim removing himself
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  Speaker 4: as well, but Mike and I agreed that would be
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  Speaker 4: his choice to make and would speak to where his
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  Speaker 4: values lie. I just want to make sure I'm not
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  Speaker 4: missing a perspective where I'm in the wrong. I feel
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  Speaker 4: like I've left out a lot of context, but I'd
• 15:07
  Speaker 4: love some outside opinions so I can reflect properly. Ann
• 15:11
  Speaker 4: Opie says, Context, there was a two-year period where Heather
• 15:14
  Speaker 4: and I didn't speak because she refused to apologize for
• 15:17
  Speaker 4: some harsh things she said. I wonder why Heather had
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: a falling out with her maid of honor.
• 15:22
  Speaker 6: Who could possibly imagine?
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: I just can't put my finger on it. During that time,
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: she also wouldn't allow Tim and Mike to see each other,
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: whether in public or at each other's homes. So I
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: know that if Heather and I stop talking, Tim will follow.
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: Neither of us blame him for choosing his wife. That's
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: what a good husband does. It just hurts that his
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: and Mike's friendship gets caught in the middle. OP says
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: Mike had already messaged Tim a few weeks prior after
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: we started hearing rumors from mutual friends that he might
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: step down. Tim promised he wouldn't. That said, if Heather
• 15:57
  Speaker 4: steps out, I'm sure he'll follow. As for what Tim
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: thinks of Heather's demands, he tends to agree with whatever
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: she says. When Mike tried to talk to him one-on-one,
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: Tim said it was a conversation they needed to have
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: with Heather present. He really doesn't say much on his own.
• 16:13
  Speaker 4: And OP on speculation about Heather's falling out with her
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: original maid of honor, wondering if she has a pattern
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: of causing problems. OP says, I've thought about reaching out
• 16:22
  Speaker 4: to her original maid of honor myself, but Heather won't
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: talk about it. All she's ever said is that her
• 16:28
  Speaker 4: original maid of honor wasn't a good friend and didn't
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: make enough effort. OP on the hypocrisy in Heather's position
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: since Mike would have originally walked with someone other than
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: her too. OP, she's aware. She actually admitted once that
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: she knows she's being a hypocrite but can't help it.
• 16:45
  Speaker 4: I just can't help being a hypocrite. It's in my nature.
• 16:49
  Speaker 6: It's fully time for her to just get like a
• 16:52
  Speaker 6: sharp correction from you.
• 16:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you get the spray bottle out. Ah, hey, hey,
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: knock it off.
• 16:58
  Speaker 6: Hey, you're actually being intolerably difficult right now, and I
• 17:02
  Speaker 6: don't know where you get off thinking that you can just, like,
• 17:05
  Speaker 6: borderline ghost me and then pretend like I'm the problem,
• 17:08
  Speaker 6: but you fully pulled back and you, what, you think
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: that there's going to be no consequences to that? What
• 17:14
  Speaker 6: are you doing? You're not my maid of honor. Get
• 17:16
  Speaker 6: over it or get out of the wedding.
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: Stop it. Opie and Heather's apparent view that their relationship
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: with Opie's maid of honor is less legitimate because she
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: and her partner aren't legally married. OP says even if
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: Tim tried anything, my maid of honor is in an
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: eight-year relationship that she moved across the country for. She
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: has one child and plans for more. She has zero
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: interest and Heather knows this. But because they aren't legally married,
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: Heather seems to view the relationship as illegitimate and thinks
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: she could be a risk. We all call them husband
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: and wife because that's what they are. It just isn't
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: on paper. And OP on whether walking into the reception
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: together as paired partners is actually traditional. OP says, I've
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: seen processionals done the way you describe, but every wedding
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: I've personally attended has groomsmen paired with bridesmaids. Regardless, it's
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: what Mike and I want. They'd be introduced as maid
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: of honor and best man, walk in together, and then
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: take their seats at the head of the table on
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: either side of us. There's no expectation for them to
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: sit together all night or share a dance or anything
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: like that. And we've got an update three months later,
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: but yeah.
• 18:27
  Speaker 6: That's not even in the conversation. There's no plan to
• 18:30
  Speaker 6: make the maid of honor and the man of honor
• 18:33
  Speaker 6: cosplay as husband and wife. Best man, whatever.
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: The man of honor. He's the most honorable man.
• 18:42
  Speaker 6: Where's the honor?
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: Where's your honor? I think that LP actually has plans
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: to make them do a bridesmaid best man kiss.
• 18:52
  Speaker 6: They say, now you have to kiss legally. You have
• 18:54
  Speaker 6: to kiss. Legally, before I end the wedding and get married,
• 18:58
  Speaker 6: you guys have to kiss now.
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: And Heather goes, no.
• 19:02
  Speaker 6: And also, you're getting divorced. You get divorced. If you're married,
• 19:05
  Speaker 6: if you just got married in the last two to
• 19:07
  Speaker 6: three months, you get divorced.
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: It's the rule. So much has happened since I first
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: wrote in, so buckle up. After posting a mutual friend
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: at a wedding that both Heather and I attended, she
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: made no effort to speak to me, and when I
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: approached her for small talk, I was brushed off within
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: a few words. I was also told by another mutual
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: that Heather and her mom spent a good portion of
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: the reception gossiping about me. The next day, I reached
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: out and told her I noticed the avoidance and didn't
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: want unresolved conflict between us. She responded saying she didn't
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: want to talk about it. At that point, we had
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: been having issues for over three months, and from what
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: I was hearing, she was still upset about the walking order.
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: I sent her a message saying that if that was
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: what this was about, our decision wasn't changing, and if
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: she or Tim weren't comfortable with it, I needed to
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: know by the end of the week. She didn't respond
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: until a week later, asking if we could call. I
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: don't remember everything word for word because emotions were high,
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: but here's what I do remember. Heather came out saying
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: she would never be comfortable with Tim walking with my
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: maid of honor because she thinks she's trashy. She said
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: she was not comfortable with Tim speaking to her or
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: touching her in any way. Why is he touching her?
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: Why would he be touching her?
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: Why are you even married?
• 20:28
  Speaker 6: Why are you married to this guy you have zero
• 20:31
  Speaker 6: trust in?
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: None.
• 20:33
  Speaker 6: Also, very smart move calling someone's maid of honor, you know,
• 20:36
  Speaker 6: typically someone they hold in high value in their life.
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: Trash it.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:42
  Speaker 6: Great way to get yourself into the good graces there.
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: So smart. And that she herself would not be speaking
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: to or acknowledging my maid of honor at all. So
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: much has happened since I first wrote in, so buckle up.
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: After posting a mutual friend at a wedding that both
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: Heather and I attended, she made no effort to speak
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: to me, and when I approached her for small talk,
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: I was brushed off within a few words. I was
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: also told by another mutual that Heather and her mom
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: spent a good portion of the reception. gossiping about me.
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: The next day I reached out and told her I
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: noticed the avoidance and didn't want unresolved conflict between us.
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: She responded saying she didn't want to talk about it.
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: At that point we had been having issues for over
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: three months and from what I was hearing she was
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: still upset about the walking order. I sent her a
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: message saying that if that was what this was about
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: our decision wasn't changing and if she or Tim weren't
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: comfortable with it I needed to know by the end
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: of the week. She didn't respond until a week later,
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: asking if we could call. I don't remember everything word
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: for word because emotions were high, but here's what I
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: do remember. Heather came out saying she would never be
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: comfortable with Tim walking with my maid of honor because
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: she thinks she's trashy. She said she was not comfortable
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: with Tim speaking to her or touching her in any way.
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: Why is he touching her? Like, why would he be
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: touching her?
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: Why are you even married?
• 22:08
  Speaker 6: Why are you even married to this guy you have
• 22:11
  Speaker 6: zero trust in?
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: None.
• 22:13
  Speaker 6: Also, very smart move calling someone's maid of honor, you know,
• 22:16
  Speaker 6: typically someone they hold in high value in their life, trashy. Yeah,
• 22:22
  Speaker 6: great way to get yourself into the good graces there.
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: So smart. And that she herself would not be speaking
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: to or acknowledging my maid of honor at all. The
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: only way she'd allow the processional and reception entrance to
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: happen was if Tim and my maid of honor had
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: zero contact. No talking. No touching. I asked how they
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: were supposed to coordinate the reception entrance since we're asking
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: the wedding party to do something fun when they walk in.
• 22:48
  Speaker 6: Crazy. Honestly, at this point, crazy that you just haven't
• 22:51
  Speaker 6: pulled the rug yourself. Yeah. It's crazy at this point
• 22:53
  Speaker 6: that you didn't just go, well, okay, since that's how
• 22:55
  Speaker 6: you feel, then you're not in. You're not doing the
• 22:57
  Speaker 6: wedding anymore.
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: You're not in this anymore.
• 22:58
  Speaker 6: You can still, you're a guest.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: Because you're crazy.
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: You're being crazy. She said my maid of honor could
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: communicate through her.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: What?
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: What? I'm sorry, your husband has to have a translator?
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: She'd play telephone. I told her this wouldn't work and
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: would only create drama for the entire wedding party. I
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: said I didn't expect them to be friends, just civil.
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: And that I wasn't okay with her making harsh judgments
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: about someone she had never met. I told her that
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: our wedding decisions weren't changing and that she should talk
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: to Tim about their next steps. She then screamed at
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: me for over half an hour until I finally hung up.
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: Immediately after, she sent a text apologizing, saying she cared
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: about me and Mike and wanted to focus on our friendship.
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: I told her I needed space.
• 23:44
  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah. That's going to be a big yikes from me.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: We're over.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: We're over now.
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: After that call and many conversations with Mike, I made
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: the decision that I was no longer comfortable with Heather
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: standing in our wedding. Yeah, that was a lot of
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: stuff that you went through before you made that decision.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: The way she had been treating me, and specifically the
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: way she spoke to me on that call, had done
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: damage past the point of an apology. I wanted to
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: give Mike time to talk to Tim before I said
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: anything to Heather. A few weeks later, Tim came over
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: to our home alone to talk to Mike. I left
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: to give them space. According to Mike, Tim said he
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: needed to step down and asked if he could walk
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: with Heather instead. Mike told him how I had been
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: feeling and that we had decided to remove Heather from
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: the wedding party. Tim said that if she was removed,
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: he wouldn't be allowed to participate either, so he'd have
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: to step out completely. Tough, I guess. After Tim left,
• 24:47
  Speaker 4: I let Heather know she was being removed. I did
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: it over text, which wasn't my preference, but after how
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: the phone call went, I didn't want to risk a repeat.
• 24:54
  Speaker 6: Yeah, honestly, this person would not be my friend anymore.
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: No, it's done. It's done. It's just a ridiculous reaction.
• 25:02
  Speaker 6: Yeah, you just have to get them with the, hey,
• 25:04
  Speaker 6: I wish you the best. Hey, I wish you the
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: best moving forward, but we're not really doing this anymore.
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: No, I'm too stressed about this wedding already, and you're
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: not making it better. I explained how her words and
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: actions over the past months had been hurting me and
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: that I was firm in my decision. She told me
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: there was no going back from this and that I
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: was only making things worse and she was going to
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: cast a curse on me.
• 25:28
  Speaker 6: Yeah, what do you mean there's no going back from this, babe?
• 25:30
  Speaker 6: That's what I'm saying.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: I don't want to go back. I want to go
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: forward without you.
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: You're gone.
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: She never replied after that. It's been a little over
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: a month since then and things have exploded. Her mother
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: messaged a mutual friend. Basically insinuated she'd be a horrible
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: person if she stayed friends with me and didn't pick
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: Heather's side. Her mom said that?
• 25:52
  Speaker 6: Yeah, doesn't fall far from the tree, the apple.
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: That friend and her husband, both of whom stood up
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: in Heather and Tim's wedding, have cut ties with Heather
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: and Tim entirely.
• 26:03
  Speaker 6: Wow. Yeah, if as a grown adult I get a
• 26:06
  Speaker 6: call from your mom saying I need to take your
• 26:08
  Speaker 6: side in a drama, I automatically know whose side I
• 26:11
  Speaker 6: should take.
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: Heather has been telling her family and coworkers that I
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: removed her because she wasn't okay with Tim and my
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: maid of honor exchanging phone numbers, which is a dramatic
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: distortion of everything that actually happened.
• 26:22
  Speaker 6: Which is also a cringy and weird thing to say.
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: I mean, she had to change the story to get
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: people on her side.
• 26:28
  Speaker 6: And that was the change that you were like, this
• 26:30
  Speaker 6: is genius. I'll tell everyone I don't trust my husband
• 26:34
  Speaker 6: to have a woman's phone number who isn't me. You're insane.
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: It still wasn't bad enough for anyone to be on
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: her side. I had to block her on all social
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: media because she was watching everything I liked and reading
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: into every post. Once she realized she was blocked, she
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: started checking my pages through Tim's account. So I had
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: to block him too. My maid of honor had to
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: do the same for the same reasons. From what I hear,
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: this situation is basically all Heather talks about.
• 27:02
  Speaker 6: Put yourself in Tim's shoes right now.
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah, tough. He just lost his best friend.
• 27:06
  Speaker 6: Lost his best friend. Honestly... If I'm Mr. Tim, I
• 27:10
  Speaker 6: lose my wife over this.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:12
  Speaker 6: This is insane. Even if it is some BS of
• 27:15
  Speaker 6: like between her and it's like, oh, the maid of honor.
• 27:20
  Speaker 6: I needed to be the maid of honor. It's not fair.
• 27:21
  Speaker 6: She was my maid of honor. I need to be hers.
• 27:24
  Speaker 6: You're telling everyone that you don't trust me and that
• 27:26
  Speaker 6: you think I'm going to, I don't know what, cheat
• 27:28
  Speaker 6: on you with this woman just because I walk next
• 27:31
  Speaker 6: to her?
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah. It is so just rude and disrespectful.
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: To basically tell your husband this. OP continues, she told
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: a mutual friend she expects me to show up at
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: her door and apologize, and she won't reach out until
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: that happens. It also sounds like she's now on the
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: path to damaging the last remaining couple from her own
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: wedding party, which would mean she no longer has a
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: relationship with anyone who stood up at her wedding. She
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: hasn't tried to contact me, and I'm okay with that.
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: I'm just trying to live my heather-free life and tune
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: out the obsession as best I can. planning has been
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: great distraction i'm hoping she eventually lets it go and
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: that i never have to write another update on this
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: uh one commenter asks how mike and tim's friendship is
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: holding up op says they've only seen each other once
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: since tim stepped out by chance and not planned and
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: mike said it was pretty awkward they still text occasionally
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: but it's rocky mike doesn't really expect him to show
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: up to our wedding as a guest at this point
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: And another commenter asks about Heather's behavior and question how
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: Tim could stand being treated like that. Yeah, that's very
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: on the nose, especially about Heather and her mother-in-law. They
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: apparently can't stand each other. That makes sense. A comment
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: said it sounds like Heather needs to be removed from
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: Opie's life entirely, not just the wedding, and noted that
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: Opie's other friends seem to be recognizing the situation clearly.
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: It seems like that's what Opie's doing. It feels like
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: OP's on the, she's out.
• 29:04
  Speaker 6: Yeah, she is fully offloaded as a person in her life.
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah. OP says, that's where things are heading. We're extending
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: a courtesy guest invite for Mike and Tim's sake, but
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: we really don't expect them to come. If Tim doesn't
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: show up, Mike said he'll cut ties completely. A comment
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: expressed sympathy for Tim and suggested Mike keep the door
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: open for him in case he eventually walks away from
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: the marriage. OP says Mike has already said that if
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: Tim and Heather ever divorce... Tim has a place with
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: us while he gets back on his feet. But for
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: Mike's own mental health, he's had to create some distance
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: while Heather is in the picture. We've all tried to
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: check in on Tim's home life, and he always says
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: everything's fine, so there's not much more to do but
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: be there when he's ready. A comment suggested Heather may
• 29:47
  Speaker 4: have developed an inflated sense of importance during her own
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: wedding planning that never quite wore off, and that she
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: seems to view the wedding party as permanently indebted to
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: her rather than people who showed up for one day.
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: OP says, I agree completely. She had a two-year engagement
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: and wanted everything from everyone throughout it. During that time,
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: Mike and I had several major life events that we
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: weren't allowed to bring up around her because it would
• 30:12
  Speaker 4: upset her and pull focus. After her wedding, she told
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: us she had postpartum wedding depression. That's not a thing!
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: And said she'd live in her wedding day forever if
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: she could. I think a lot of that never fully
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: left her. And once I started planning my own wedding
• 30:26
  Speaker 4: right after hers wrapped up, those feelings got redirected. The
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: more I said yes to her as a maid of honor,
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: the more she asked. Nothing was outrageous on its own,
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: but it was exhausting. And I genuinely believe her demands
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: would have kept escalating if I had kept accommodating her.
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: As for Tim, Mike is just deeply disappointed. It's going
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: to be a strange dynamic when Tim's parents attend our wedding,
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: and Tim and Heather do not. Yeah, that is really weird.
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: That will be super strange.
• 30:57
  Speaker 6: Oh, poor Timmy.
• 30:59
  Speaker 5: Timmy, Timmy, Timmy.
• 31:00
  Speaker 6: Poor Timothy, man.
• 31:02
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• 31:04
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• 31:05
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• 31:24
  Speaker 4: As soon as we sat down with our coworkers for
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: the first time, Allie, the most senior member of the team,
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: immediately lets us know how horrible our boss is. how
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: we have to watch out for ourselves and be aware
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: of the hypocrisy and stupidity. She laid it on pretty thick,
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: making it seem like we made the worst possible decision
• 31:43
  Speaker 4: by getting hired. By the way, this comes from Nalotai.
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 31:59
  Speaker 4: And OP says, There was a moment of uh-oh between
• 32:02
  Speaker 4: me and Nancy about what cluster F of a job
• 32:05
  Speaker 4: we landed ourselves in. Then we discovered that Allie does
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: absolutely nothing. All day. Since we have flexible hours, 7
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: to 10 to 3 to 6, she clocks in at 7,
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: waits 3 hours, doing absolutely nothing, then goes on a
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: coffee break at 10 when our boss clocks in and
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: doesn't return until 1, which coincides with our lunch hour.
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: So it seems like the coworker that warned you guys
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: thinks that your boss is super strict because she does nothing.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: She does absolutely nothing. Yeah.
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: She's like, guys, she just... Tells me what to do.
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to do it.
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: But she's pretty mean.
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: It's like when you're in school and someone's like, oh,
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: this teacher's the worst. This class is so hard. And
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: it's because they never do any of that work.
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: They sign homework and they teach.
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: And I hate it.
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: It's the worst.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: I came here to nap.
• 32:57
  Speaker 4: She then returns to do one to two hours of
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: work and clocks out at three. We have four major
• 33:02
  Speaker 4: events we host throughout the year. Allie plans her vacations
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: to coincide with them. Honestly, we commended her on sticking
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: it to our boss and cheesing her way through work.
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: Why break your back over someone who's clearly horrible? Our
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: boss is a bit much sometimes, temperamental and moody, but
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: not completely unmanageable. Then the annual evaluations came in and
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: Allie became hysterical. She's gotten ones across the board. Shocker!
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: Gee, that adds up.
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: Her bonus becomes critically impacted. She throws a fit, notifying
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: the head of HR and letting anyone with a sympathetic
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: ear know the injustice that was committed.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: Guys, I haven't been working and they're cutting my pay?
• 33:45
  Speaker 4: I do nothing and they say I deserve nothing?
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: I don't get a bonus for not working hard?
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: She tells us she's applying elsewhere, that she's done with
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: this job. Okay, bye. She goes from at least partially
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: working to nothing at all. She comes to work to
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: collect a paycheck and that's it. The new year rolls around. Shockingly,
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: she never got a job offer and our first major
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: event of the year is coming up. Like clockwork, she
• 34:13
  Speaker 4: puts forth her vacation, but this time it gets rejected,
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: thus ensuring another fit and cry over the injustices. Allie
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: is already booked. Everything is paid for. Her husband got
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: his time off approved. Another trip to the head of HR.
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: Did I call it or did I call it?
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we're all shocked. Yeah. Allie gets to go on
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: her trip, personally approved by HR, and she's smug upon
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: her return. HR told her she's getting a new boss
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: and gleefully tells us about how our boss is clearly
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: going to be replaced. This didn't end up happening. Instead,
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: HR tells us how our department will split into two.
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: They're looking to transfer half the team to the new department. Coincidentally,
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: a different co-worker is being let go during a round
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: of layoffs.
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: Time out. What? So she still survives. She's not voted
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: off the island, but somebody else is?
• 35:03
  Speaker 4: Yes. This is confusing.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: Why aren't we just firing her?
• 35:08
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: What does she exactly bring?
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: So far, we just have departments get split in two.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: Allie thinks this is her moment. She signs up to
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: transfer to the new department, and she's convinced this will
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: make our boss fight for her. After all, it would
• 35:23
  Speaker 4: only be me and Nancy, the two newest and most
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: inexperienced members, left. Obviously, our boss would fight tooth and
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: nail to keep her, then have the department shrink down
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: to just two people. Except, our boss doesn't take the bait.
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: personally approves the transfer. You bet on the wrong bluff.
• 35:41
  Speaker 4: Did not go well for.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: You, Allie. I feel like she doesn't do well in
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: Vegas either.
• 35:45
  Speaker 4: Allie is notified by HR via email. Another fit ensues.
• 35:50
  Speaker 4: Our department was originally something like the A and B departments,
• 35:53
  Speaker 4: and now A and B are separated. Well, Allie based
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: her entire career on B and not A. She thinks
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: A is entirely in a different field. It's not really.
• 36:03
  Speaker 4: And that HR has condemned her career to end early
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: of stagnation. completely forgetting that she literally signed up for
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: it in the first place.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: It's going to get to her sooner or later. Yeah.
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: So why not sooner?
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely. Let's see. I think that Ally's going to realize, oh,
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: I've made a huge mistake. I think she's going to
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: get moved to that other department. And I think this
• 36:26
  Speaker 4: new boss is going to realize, oh, you're useless. I
• 36:29
  Speaker 4: don't want you.
• 36:31
  Speaker 6: Goodbye.
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: I'm surprised she's been here for this long.
• 36:34
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: She has to have something here that makes her valuable
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: or some information. I don't know. I haven't seen anything
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: positive that she brings to the workplace other than not
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: doing anything. Yeah.
• 36:46
  Speaker 4: Because, I mean, it's one thing to do the minimum,
• 36:50
  Speaker 4: you know, of what you're expected if you feel that
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: you're not being fairly compensated or whatever. But to do
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: literally nothing, well, you're going to get fired. But there's
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: a little bit left.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: You can't do that to her. She's been here for
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: so long. I've been here so long.
• 37:02
  Speaker 5: Please.
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: I've got to go on vacation. She goes down HR again,
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: who is no longer willing to hear her out. She
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: comes crying to us, and we try to be sympathetic,
• 37:11
  Speaker 4: but we have actual work to do. She ends up
• 37:13
  Speaker 4: having a new GM for that department, and he's not
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: so willing to accept the extended coffee and lunch breaks. Shocker.
• 37:21
  Speaker 4: He gets to work just as early as she does
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: and makes sure to send her some work to do
• 37:24
  Speaker 4: that keeps her busy, much to her horror. So she's
• 37:28
  Speaker 4: still here, I guess, for now.
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: How?
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: How is she still here?
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: I don't know. Maybe there's some reason why they can't
• 37:35
  Speaker 4: fire her, but at least she's getting, you know, she's
• 37:38
  Speaker 4: getting actual work now. So hopefully they realize this person
• 37:42
  Speaker 4: is not helpful at all.
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: And either she, yeah, why don't we fire her? Or
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: maybe she steps up. I don't know.
• 37:50
  Speaker 5: Ugh.
• 37:51
  Speaker 4: We'll see.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story. We're going to
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: go on to the next one.
• 37:55
  Speaker 4: My coworker said I was wasting a day meant for
• 37:58
  Speaker 4: Jesus because she wants my holiday off.
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: For the big J-man?
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: I booked Easter off months ago to go snowboarding. I'm
• 38:06
  Speaker 4: not close with my family, so I wasn't planning on
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: seeing them, but I won't have an opportunity to go
• 38:10
  Speaker 4: to my favorite mountain again this year. I'm just going
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: to go have fun and other things I probably shouldn't mention.
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: It's legal in Canada. Calm yourself.
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: Wow. Way not to be suspicious about it.
• 38:21
  Speaker 4: What's legal in Canada?
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: Everything. Fun.
• 38:23
  Speaker 4: Everything's legal in Canada. By the way, I have to
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: tell you that this comes from Working Glass 5672. And
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: if you want to spend your own stories, go to
• 38:31
  Speaker 4: the r slash OK Storytime. I'm Sophia.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: I'm Hudson Williams.
• 38:35
  Speaker 4: And that's Keon, or Hudson Williams, and we're here to
• 38:38
  Speaker 4: give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers.
• 38:40
  Speaker 4: We only know what we'd do, so let us know
• 38:42
  Speaker 4: what you would do in the comments and Opie says.
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: Several of my coworkers are scheduled, but they want to
• 38:47
  Speaker 4: travel to spend time with their families. It's not really
• 38:49
  Speaker 4: my problem. If it was important, they would have booked
• 38:52
  Speaker 4: it off in the system. Our system is completely fair,
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: I think. You get points for every holiday you put
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: down availability, whether you're scheduled or not. So I volunteer
• 39:01
  Speaker 4: to work most holidays because I don't care. But when
• 39:04
  Speaker 4: one I do want off comes up, I have priority.
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: So last year, starting in August, I volunteered to work
• 39:11
  Speaker 4: every holiday from Labor Day until New Year's Eve. I
• 39:14
  Speaker 4: only ended up being scheduled for a couple, but I
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: still got the points because I was willing. I was
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: talking about my trip with a friend at work and
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: someone overheard and tried to guilt me into switching. I said, no,
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: I have my hotel booked and I'm road tripping with
• 39:27
  Speaker 4: a friend. My co-worker said that I was wasting a
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: time meant for families to celebrate Jesus. I'm not religious.
• 39:34
  Speaker 4: I asked about how chocolate, rabbits, and ham are about Jesus.
• 39:38
  Speaker 4: I wasn't trying to be smart with her. I wanted
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: to know. She offered to pay the cancellation fee for
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: my hotel and take the next weekend I'm scheduled for.
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: I said I would do it if she paid my
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: cancellation fee and paid for my hotel next weekend and
• 39:49
  Speaker 4: worked it. She didn't think it was a good idea,
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: but she did go to our manager and complain that
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: I was trying to sell days off. That is a
• 39:56
  Speaker 4: violation of policy, but it happens on the down low.
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: HR had to investigate. I didn't get in trouble because
• 40:03
  Speaker 4: she had approached me about the shift change. All I
• 40:05
  Speaker 4: did was a counteroffer. I said that it wasn't a
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: serious offer and was only meant to get her to
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: back off. Yesterday, she came to me and said she
• 40:12
  Speaker 4: would do what I had asked. But then if you
• 40:15
  Speaker 4: say yes, she's going to go back to HR and say,
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: I got him, your honor.
• 40:20
  Speaker 6: The officer.
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: Officer, I got him.
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: He was trying to bribe me.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: HR, in the clause of our deal, no takesie-backsies.
• 40:27
  Speaker 4: She was trying to 21 Jump Street him. She's like, oh,
• 40:31
  Speaker 4: I'm undercover, and I got you. I said, no way.
• 40:35
  Speaker 4: I said she was trying to get me in trouble again,
• 40:37
  Speaker 4: and I wanted no part of it. I told her
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: I would go to HR myself if she asked again.
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: This is.
• 40:42
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: Counter offer to her. What would Jesus do?
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: What would Jesus do? He would turn the other cheek.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 40:51
  Speaker 4: But we got a little bit left. A few people
• 40:53
  Speaker 4: have talked to me about how everything went down. She
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: has young kids and blah, blah, blah. I asked if
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: any of them would trade their weekend with her. They
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: would not. Well, then stop throwing stones from glass houses.
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: Love it.
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: Yes. So am I in the wrong here? I offered
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: a fair deal, I think. I know the woman I'm
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: going to the mountains with would be able to take
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: next week off, no problem. I was actually willing to trade,
• 41:16
  Speaker 4: but not for nothing. OP's a businessman at heart.
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Would you take that deal? Would you take that deal?
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Ask everyone. Also, not my fault that
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: you want to take Easter off and you now want
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: to trade with me or offer me on this.
• 41:35
  Speaker 6: It's not my fault.
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: You should have asked this a long time ago.
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story. We're going to
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: go on to the next one.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: My coworker tried to ruin my job, but it was
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: caught in a video.
• 41:45
  Speaker 4: Joke's on you.
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: I'm a relatively new employee at my job, about four
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: months now. And since I work in the accounting department
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: and it's tax time, my team is working on some
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: weekends to get the corporation's tax documents together. It's been
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: pretty laid back on weekends and we have some downtime
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: while waiting for other offices in other countries to send
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: us info. By the way, this comes from user Burning Cranium.
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.
• 42:11
  Speaker 6: I'm Kian.
• 42:12
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give goofy advice. We're just a
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: couple of goofballs. You know, we just hang out here.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: Comment down below on why you're a goofball, and we'll
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: get back to the story. As Opie says, Yesterday, my
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: team was waiting for our counterparts in another country to
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: send some documents, and so a few of us were
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: just chatting. There's one member of the team, I'll call
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: him Jesse. who mostly works from home, so I've only
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: interacted with him in person about three times before yesterday,
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: so I barely know him at all. Sometime in the
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: group conversation, I mentioned my girlfriend, Morgan, and I'd tried
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: a new type of restaurant that just opened, and how
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: we both really liked the food, so I was going
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: to try to find some recipes from that country, and
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: I'd have her to my apartment to just try the
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: dish and try and make it. Jesse asked how long
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: we've been going out, and I said almost three years.
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: He looked confused. and asked why we don't live together
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: if we've been dating for that long. I answered that,
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: due to our religious beliefs, we won't live together until
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: we're married. For background, my girlfriend and I both grew
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: up in religious families. And we still believe in what
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: we were taught growing up. We both believe in waiting
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: until marriage for spicy related activity of any kind, as
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: well as living together. If other people want to live differently,
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: that's great for them. I don't think they're wrong for
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: making their own decisions. Everyone lives their own life. And
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: as long as their choices don't harm others, I couldn't
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: care less. Live and let live.
• 43:33
  Speaker 4: Also so weird that Jesse was like, let me ask
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: you super personal question. I know we've only met three
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: times in work.
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You have girlfriend? Why don't you live with girlfriend?
• 43:44
  Speaker 4: Tell me. Tell me why. Tell me about your relationship
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: in depth.
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: That's the most bothersome thing I've heard this entire time.
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: Weird.
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: But when I said we don't believe in living together
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: before marriage, he got this sour look on his face.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: And he said he lives with his girlfriend.
• 44:02
  Speaker 4: Cool, bruh.
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: Cool story, dude.
• 44:03
  Speaker 4: Nice.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: He said he lives with his girlfriend and asked if
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: I judge him for that. I said he's free to
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: do whatever he wants. I don't judge others for doing
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: things that differ from what I do. Then he started
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: on a rant about how I'm clearly controlling my girlfriend
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: by not allowing her to express her spicy related self.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: And how I'm making all the rules in the relationship
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: because I think I'm better than my girlfriend. And what
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: I say is law because that's just how people like
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: me are with women.
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: Holy projection.
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: Whoa.
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: Where'd that come from, Jesse?
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: Whoa.
• 44:35
  Speaker 4: Jesse, keep your thoughts to your girl.
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: Whoa.
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: Insight thoughts.
• 44:41
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: You're calling me a lot of things here and i've
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: only talked to you three times jesse so.
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: Weird i feel like that does happen sometimes where you
• 44:49
  Speaker 4: have people who like have totally different views than you
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: and they're like you think because i have different views
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: you're judging me you're better you are you think you're
• 44:56
  Speaker 4: better than me and they're.
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: Like and you just go where did you get that
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: from i don't live with my girlfriend.
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: And then you go i do think i'm better yeah
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: i am actually better.
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: Than The others in the group looked confused and told
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: him to relax because he doesn't know me or my girlfriend,
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: much less our relationship dynamic. Our supervisor came out of
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: his office and asked what was going on, which made
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: Jesse rant again about me being harmful.
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: So weird.
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: I chose to go back to my cubicle because I
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: just wanted to disengage that point. Throughout the next few hours,
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: he walked by my cubicle making passive aggressive comments about me,
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: which I ignored. At the end of our day, because
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: she was picking me up for a date and had
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: borrowed my car for the day. Jesse comes out.
• 45:40
  Speaker 4: Oh, Lord.
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: He gives me a nasty look and walked toward his
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: own car. Morgan pulled into the parking lot and got
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: out of the driver's seat so I could drive.
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: Oh, no.
• 45:50
  Speaker 6: Oh, no.
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: Jesse's going to be like, see? Oh, of course. Women
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: can't drive.
• 45:55
  Speaker 5: Is that what you're thinking?
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: He's probably like recording you. He's like, I called it.
• 45:58
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: I guess this set Jesse off because he walked back
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: over to where we were and loudly berated me for not...
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: allowing Morgan to drive even though she was literally just
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: driving and then asked Morgan if she was okay and
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: Morgan doesn't.
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: Know what like anything that's going on so she's probably.
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: Like um I'm just tired why do you I have
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: the biggest gut feeling yeah and maybe I'm completely just
• 46:24
  Speaker 3: throwing something in the dark here I feel like Jesse
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: doesn't have a girlfriend Yeah, I think he's lying.
• 46:29
  Speaker 4: I think Jesse doesn't have a girl and I don't
• 46:32
  Speaker 4: want her to be mine because she's not real.
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: You hear that, Jesse's girl? You hear that? Morgan was
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: confused and said she was more than fine. Jesse launched
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: back into his rant about me being harmful and controlling
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: because I won't allow Morgan to have spicy sleep at
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: all and she deserves a better man more like him
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: since he lets his girlfriend express her spicy side. This
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: confused Morgan even more and she gave me a look
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: that let me know she wanted to get the heck
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: out of there.
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: Yikes.
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: Yikes.
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah. At that point, I'm just like, this is a
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: crazy man. We got to go. And then I report him.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: I would be recording him.
• 47:06
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 47:06
  Speaker 4: I'd be like, oh, sorry. Say that again.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So I opened the passenger door for her to
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: get in and started to walk to the driver's side.
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: Jesse grabbed Morgan's arm way too hard, which was not
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: OK with me. I immediately turned around and yanked his
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: hand off Morgan's arm. then told him to keep his
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: hands off her. I made sure she got in the
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: car and locked the door. Then I told him how
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: I felt about him. I said, that's the way he
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: treats his girlfriend. I feel bad for her. And I
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: hope she rethinks their entire relationship because he's the harmful one.
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: He's a pathetic human. And if he thinks other people
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: having different ways of living is somehow an attack on
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: him and his manhood, then I said if he ever
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: speaks to Morgan in that way again, I'll file a
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: complaint with HR for intimidation. I'm also getting the police involved.
• 47:52
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 47:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Well, I'm going to HR right now. I don't
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: even think it's like if you ever speak to her
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: again like that. I think it's let's go ASAP.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: HR, ring, ring.
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: He's poking the bear.
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: And the bear's going to bite you. Rawr.
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: After that, I got in the car and drove away.
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: Fast forward to today. I woke up to an email
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: from HR telling me I have a mandatory meeting with
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: my supervisor, with Jesse, and with an HR staff member
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: tomorrow morning.
• 48:22
  Speaker 4: Honestly, good.
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: Good or annoyingly stupid?
• 48:26
  Speaker 4: Annoyingly stupid, but also like, let's call Jesse out.
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: All right. I called my supervisor and he told me
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: Jesse filed a complaint on me for blowing up at
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: him for no reason yesterday.
• 48:39
  Speaker 4: Okay, we have proof that that's not true.
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: He's obviously aware of how Jesse was being yesterday, so
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: he's going to back me up. Great.
• 48:48
  Speaker 4: Nice.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: This is good.
• 48:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: He also said he's asking for the security video from
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: the parking lot to be given to HR because he
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: doesn't think I was the aggressor, but the recording will
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: show everything. I doubt I'm going to be fired or anything,
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: so I'm not worried there. But was I wrong to
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: blow up at him for his comment and behavior? Should
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: I have just stayed quiet? This is my first real
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: job out of college, so I'm questioning if I broke
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: some unspoken rule about working in a corporate setting. And
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: we have some relevant comments, but Sophia, first and foremost,
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: is OP an a-hole for blowing up at Jesse?
• 49:18
  Speaker 4: No! do that.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: No, not at all. I mean, the comments was going
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: in one ear out the other. That's totally fine. But
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: when you grab my girl's arm or just someone I
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: care about's arm like that, being aggressive and shouting at them,
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: it's game over. Yeah, yeah.
• 49:36
  Speaker 4: He's just, I mean, he's lying. He's lying, and now
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: you get the chance to tell HR, and now he's
• 49:41
  Speaker 4: going to get fired, hopefully.
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: I just want to know what caused this to rile
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: him up.
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: I don't think he has a girlfriend.
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: I don't think he has a girlfriend. There's no way.
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: I don't think he has a girlfriend at all, but
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: we have some relevant comments. TaylorMay2566 says, You broke no
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: rules and were just avoiding a confrontation until he grabbed
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: your girlfriend. He honestly deserves to be fired for his
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: behavior towards you. Then his manhandling of your girlfriend... But
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: no idea if Animinch would have the guts to do it.
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: You're all good, OP. OP says, I'm only 22. So
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: I was questioning if I broke an unspoken rule about
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: working in that kind of setting. I don't have a
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: lot of experience here yet. And we have an update.
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: Let's just get right into it.
• 50:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: So a rundown of what happened in the HR meeting.
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: I got to work and was told that Jesse was
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: meeting with HR then. So my supervisor and I would
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: be called down in a while. After about 30 minutes,
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: I went to the HR office alongside my supervisor. I
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: went in first and the two reps asked for my
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: side of what happened, which I provided and also told
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: them everything inside the office was witnessed by other co-workers. Wow,
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: so we have other witnesses too. Yeah. Nice. I gave
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: a summary of what happened in the parking lot and
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: emphasized that Jesse grabbed my girlfriend in a violent way
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: and that she was filing a police report at that
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: very moment.
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: Nice.
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: Let's go.
• 50:57
  Speaker 4: Police report gotta make them scared.
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: They asked what, in my opinion, brought on his behavior
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: towards me. And I told them he seems to disagree
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: with my religious beliefs and doesn't like the way I
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: choose to practice them. They asked for more details about
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: what specific practices. And I told them we choose to
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: not live together or have spicy sleep until marriage. And
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: that's about it.
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: Also, like, none of your work's business.
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Like, I mean, maybe for the information of, like,
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: why is this coming up? But for Jesse to bring...
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: grill you for.
• 51:30
  Speaker 4: This yeah uh literally no one's business.
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: Dude i don't know you they can ask any of
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: the members of my team and all would say i've
• 51:37
  Speaker 2: never spoken about religion prior to saturday i keep my
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: beliefs to myself unless it's asked i offered to have
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: morgan write a statement or come in and give one
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: regarding what happened over the weekend but i also reiterated
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: that she was filing a police report and would be
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: giving jesse's name as the person who attacked her Very nice.
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: I was told to wait in that meeting room while
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: they spoke to my supervisor and also called down other
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: team members who were there on Saturday. One of them
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: came back in about 45 minutes later and told me
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: I could take the day off with pay if I
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: choose to. But I wasn't required to because they found
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: no wrongdoing on my part after speaking to witnesses and
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: watching the footage. Since I worked Saturday, I took the
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: day off. When I came back on Tuesday, I found
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: out what went down after I left on Monday. Apparently,
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: Jesse was told he was being suspended pending further investigation
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: and and would be contacted when and if he was
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: allowed back. He got angry, but left, in which time
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: this had his building access turned off so he couldn't
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: come back inside until a final decision is made. My
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: supervisor was almost certain Jesse was going to be terminated
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: because a few officers showed up on Monday afternoon asking
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: for brief statements from coworkers and to get a copy
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: of the security footage. The general consensus was that he'd
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: be charged with a harmful act and the company wants
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: no connection to him.
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: Makes sense. Second, a police report is involved. Company is
• 53:00
  Speaker 4: not going to be want is not going to want
• 53:03
  Speaker 4: to be involved with that.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: Justice is served.
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: Justice is served and it's delicious.
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: Jesse, what's wrong, my guy?
• 53:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like what's going on in Jesse's life that he's
• 53:15
  Speaker 4: having to lash out like this at random people's relationships?
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: Very weird. Yeah, I don't know.
• 53:21
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I want to know if other people
• 53:22
  Speaker 4: have had issues with Jesse before this. That's what I'm
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: really wondering.
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let us know if any, like, has a co-worker
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: ever been like, oh, you think you're better than me
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: because you do your life totally different from me? You
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: think you're better than me? Yeah.
• 53:36
  Speaker 4: And OP, I know you're young, you're 22, but for
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: future reference, if this ever does happen again, honestly, when
• 53:43
  Speaker 4: you're working in a professional environment, it should never be like,
• 53:46
  Speaker 4: If you do this again, I'm going to report it.
• 53:48
  Speaker 4: It's always report.
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: It's immediate. Don't be afraid. Yeah, don't be afraid. If
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: you're in this situation or you're young and you just
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: got out of college or you have a new job
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: or you're at your job and this has been happening,
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: don't be afraid. You have HR for a reason.
• 54:01
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's better to just have a paper trail. Even
• 54:04
  Speaker 4: if he wouldn't, like, let's say, you know, you called
• 54:06
  Speaker 4: him out for the comments he made in the office
• 54:09
  Speaker 4: and HR didn't terminate him. Still good to have a
• 54:12
  Speaker 4: paper trail.
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: Bingo. But let's go ahead and finish up the story. So,
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: as of today, Wednesday, he is no longer with the company.
• 54:19
  Speaker 6: Woohoo!
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: No word yet on whether he's been arrested or charged
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: with that harmful act. Morgan will be informed of the
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: next steps if charges are filed, though. I'll be mostly
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: working from home for a while so that Jesse can't
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: come looking for me. HR and my supervisors thought it's
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: the best for right now. So, that's where things stand now.
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: Nothing too dramatic, no huge brawls or anything, which is great.
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: I don't enjoy drama at all, nor does Morgan. And
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: on an unrelated note, I'm 75% of the way to
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: buying the ring I have picked out for Morgan.
• 54:51
  Speaker 6: We have 25%?
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: Oh, boy.
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: Morgan's going to love it.
• 54:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you can come back to freaking Jesse and be like,
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: guess what? We're about to sleep together. I'm about to
• 55:01
  Speaker 4: marry her and live together. Joke's on you.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: So if all goes well, I propose this summer.
• 55:08
  Speaker 4: Congrats.
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: Congratulations. I hope all goes well. And we have some
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: final comments here. BMW 5986 says, how is Morgan? Is
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: she okay? Opie responds with, she's still a little bit shaken,
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: but overall okay. She was happy to hear he was terminated,
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: but still nervous he's going to find where we each
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: live and do something. I hope he just lets it
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: go and moves on. I hope so too.
• 55:31
  Speaker 4: Me too. Frightening.
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: I mean, it worked out for your job, but maybe
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: a ring camera or like just some cameras just for
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: safe measure.
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: Just to be careful.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story. We're going to
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: go on to the next one.
• 55:46
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• 55:50
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• 55:55
  Speaker 2: My coworker reported me to HR for not accepting her
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: Facebook request, and that was only the beginning?
• 56:01
  Speaker 4: I just wanted to change my status to friend.
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: For some context, I just started a job at the
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: hospital near me in November. I work in basically reception
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: on night shift. The girl in the story will call...
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: is Macy. Macy is not her actual name. I got
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: hired to take over her spot on night shift as
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: she wanted a day shift. I am 22 female. She is,
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: I believe, 24 or 25 and also female. Now, to
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: the actual story. By the way, this comes from Venus
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: and Mars 888. And if you want to submit your
• 56:31
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• 56:34
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice goofily. We don't
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: have all the answers, guys. We're just some goofy people.
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: So let us know what you do in the comments
• 56:43
  Speaker 2: down below, please. As Opie says, about two and a half,
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: three months ago, I received a request on my Facebook
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: from Macy. Now, in the past, I would have accepted
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: any and all friend requests. However, in late 2024, I
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: purged my Facebook of all random people and people I
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: did not know or talk to a whole lot. My
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: Facebook now consists of family and friends, as well as
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: a few members of my husband's family. I only have
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: about 100 friends on there. I post a lot of
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: life updates on Facebook, whether that may be schooling updates,
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: like how close I am to graduating slash grad school plans,
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: Pregnancy updates with pictures of ultrasounds, selfies of me and
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: my husband at cool places or adventures we'd go on,
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: basically keeping all my close friends and family updated on things,
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: and things that I like, so I don't have to
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: send a million and one different text messages. My TikTok,
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: which I definitely talk more about life in general rather
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: than details in public. My Instagram is also public, but
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: I just filtered pictures with cute captions. Normal 22-year-old Instagram.
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: Before Macy sent a Facebook request, I had noticed on
• 57:45
  Speaker 2: TikTok she was viewing my profile every single day.
• 57:50
  Speaker 4: Weird.
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: Every day. Which, okay, I guess. LOL. I am not
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: on TikTok.
• 57:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: Is that a thing?
• 57:59
  Speaker 4: Viewing the profile every day?
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: Well, like, do you get a notification if someone's viewing
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: your profile?
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 58:05
  Speaker 4: I think so. I think you can.
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: I don't. You're on it. I'm not.
• 58:09
  Speaker 4: I don't post things, though, on TikTok. I just consume.
• 58:11
  Speaker 3: Ah.
• 58:13
  Speaker 4: Um, I think so. I think you get a list
• 58:15
  Speaker 4: of like, uh, if one of your followers is, I
• 58:18
  Speaker 4: guess she's not a follower.
• 58:19
  Speaker 3: Maybe.
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 58:21
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: Interesting. Interesting.
• 58:23
  Speaker 6: I assume. Yes.
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: Let us know. I am pregnant and everyone in my
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: department knows as well as had a few call outs
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: due to pregnancy related issues. I am very high risk.
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: You're very high risk and you're working in a hospital?
• 58:35
  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah, good point. The night shift at a hospital.
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: You're high risk. The night shift at a hospital and
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: you're very high risk?
• 58:40
  Speaker 4: Maybe not the place to be.
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Macy always asks how I'm doing when she sees me.
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: And at first, I was telling her the details. So
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: I didn't think of anything when I saw her viewing
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: my profile. And then the friend request. I did decline
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: the request. There are things I share on my Facebook
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: in which I did not feel as if a coworker
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: needed to know. So, two months ago, I received a
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: call from my jobs HR department. They informed me I
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: was reported by a coworker and read me the report.
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: And this is the verbatim. They said, I tried to add,
• 59:12
  Speaker 2: insert my name, here on Facebook, and she declined my
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: friend request. She also doesn't speak to me about her
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: personal life. So, immediately, I knew it was Macy because
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: she is the only coworker who has tried to add
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: my social media.
• 59:25
  Speaker 4: Weird. OP doesn't have to speak to you about her
• 59:28
  Speaker 4: personal life. That's not owed to you.
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: Also, social media is outside of the workplace. I don't
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: need to do that. It's a crazy thing to bring up.
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: Why is HR getting involved?
• 59:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: HR obviously told me this report was not a valid concern,
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: but they did want to put it on my radar.
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: Since then, I do not share even the slightest personal
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: detail with her regarding anything.
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: Not my pregnancy, not my life, not how I'm doing anything. Nothing.
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: Last weekend, I was working when a coworker that has
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: become a friend and is trustworthy came to me and
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: told me Macy had been talking about me while I
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: had taken two weeks off due to going into preterm labor.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: Let's call my friend slash coworker, my friend coworker, Tori.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: She's 26 females. And also in a few of my
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: college classes. Tori had no idea about my call from
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: HR as I kept that private. Tori informed me that
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: Macy had essentially cornered her while they were at lunch.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 2: Macy had told Tori that she was upset that I
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: did not add her as a friend on Facebook. With
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: everything going on in the world, this is the worst
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: thing in my life.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 4: This is the problem. This is the only problem.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 2: She also divulged that she was jealous because I was pregnant, married,
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: and I seem happy. Tori said that Macy said it
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 2: wasn't fair that someone like me gets to have a
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: baby and she doesn't? Weird.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 4: So weird. This is really weird.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: Also, isn't like, isn't Macy like 24? Yeah, she's 24, girl. Okay.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: Tori asked what Macy meant and Macy stated I was
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: overweight and I had told Macy I had PCOS.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 4: And is pregnant.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: And it's unfair because Macy weighs 387 pounds and she
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  Speaker 2: has PCOS and is infertile. What?
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  Speaker 1: Girl, huh?
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  Speaker 2: That sounds like a trauma dump.
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  Speaker 1: Huh?
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  Speaker 2: Okay. And I'm a bad guy for.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: For just living my life. She also told Tori she
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  Speaker 2: looked in the hospital files. The hospital is under a
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  Speaker 2: group umbrella and that group is the monopoly of the
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  Speaker 2: health care in my area. and looked at my charts
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  Speaker 2: and notes and told Tori how much I weighed.
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  Speaker 4: Legal?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, isn't that HIPAA? What is it?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, well, yes, in the sense that she
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  Speaker 4: just shouldn't, can't be looking at other people's files, especially
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  Speaker 4: not people that you work with.
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  Speaker 2: The issues going on in my pregnancy and attributed all
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: the issues I have encountered to being fat.
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 4: Crazy, like, projection. If she's 387 pounds and is saying, like, well,
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  Speaker 4: OP is fat and I don't like, and she has
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  Speaker 4: a baby. It's like, okay.
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  Speaker 2: This is, this is kind of scary now. Tori told
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  Speaker 2: Macy that is against the rules and she should not
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  Speaker 2: be looking at my files that way. I don't like this.
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  Speaker 4: Nor do I. I would report her. And now you
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  Speaker 4: have an actual valid report, too.
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  Speaker 2: Yep, 100%. No way in heck this was over a
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  Speaker 2: friend request being declined.
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  Speaker 4: She's jealous of you.
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  Speaker 2: 100%. But now it's like, is she parasocial with you?
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: Because she was looking at your account every single day.
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  Speaker 2: She knows a lot about you. She probably knows way
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  Speaker 2: too much about you. Probably more than you know about
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 2: yourself at this point. You're like, what? Ooh.
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  Speaker 4: Now.
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  Speaker 2: It is true that I was overweight before becoming pregnant
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  Speaker 2: and have very severe PCOS. We were not trying to
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  Speaker 2: become pregnant at all as I had lost some weight
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  Speaker 2: via dieting and Metform in what I wanted to lose
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  Speaker 2: at least 75 pounds before trying to conceive. I also
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: wanted to go to graduate school. This was quite literally
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 2: a happy accident. I weighed about 280 pounds when I
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: found out. Now I'm at 310 at 24 weeks. Now,
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: Macy is not small. She actually is about double my size.
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  Speaker 2: So it hurts my feelings as someone bigger would say
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: those things about me. Fast forward to today. Macy just
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: sent me another Facebook request to be friends. What do
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: I do? I again decline.
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  Speaker 4: It's so weird that she's talking about you behind your
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 4: back and also still trying to friend request you.
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  Speaker 2: Very weird. Am I the a-hole for declining to begin with?
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  Speaker 3: Uh.
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  Speaker 2: a couple things yeah for that main question no no
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  Speaker 2: you're not an a-hole you don't have to be like
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  Speaker 2: this is a co-worker on a professional level we could
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  Speaker 2: just be co-workers i don't need to be buddy buddy
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  Speaker 2: with you you don't need to see what's into my
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  Speaker 2: personal life we just work together yeah and that's okay
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: you don't need to be friends with everyone you work
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  Speaker 2: with yeah that is okay um i would report all
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  Speaker 2: this stuff to hr because immediately the her going to
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  Speaker 2: the documents and files illegal And seeing that stuff about you,
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: very illegal. I would also confront her. Why has this
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: not been brought up? Like Tori told you those things
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  Speaker 2: and you just haven't confronted her or gone to HR
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: about this stuff. And you have Tori as a witness
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: and someone who got the information. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Let's confront her. Let's at least with HR. Ring that bell.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you should send her a friend request.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. And then reject.
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  Speaker 2: And then see what she does. And then unfriend her.
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Like, oops. Gotcha.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story.