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SEASON 2 DA CREW PODCAST_EPISODE _41_ HOST LATONYA MICHELLE LITTLEJOHN · DA CREW Podcast

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good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome to good evening,
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good evening, good evening, and welcome to another episode of Delay but
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not tonight the podcast episode forty one. Listen, y'all. We had some
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technical difficulties last month like you would not believe, so I had to bring
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my friend Brandy back. So MS Brandy if you would like to join me.
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Hi, how are you good? How are you? I'm good.
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So for those that didn't get to see you on the last episode, can
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you introduce yourself again? Absolutely? And thank you again? Were just bringing
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me back. I really appreciate absolutely. So I am Brandy as Jones,
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I am the CEO of everything Brandy and with every brand, everything Brandy.
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What I do is help individuals. I help individuals rebuild their brands, restore
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their faith, and I revitalize hair. So that's what I do in a
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ntshell. Okay, let me ask you, how do you intertwine all of
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that into doing hair? So with intertwining everything, and that's I happen to.
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For one, have a clientele that are a lot of professionals, and
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not only are they professionals, but a lot of them are entrepreneurs or they're
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wanting to become entrepreneurs. So that's how I combine the rebuilding their brand as
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far as restoring faith and then revitalizing hair. When it comes to ministry and
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combining business, ministry is who I am. I just plan not love God.
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I read his word. You know, he walks with me and he
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talks with me. So It's easy for me to be authentically who I am
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in my workspace and whether I'm coaching, whether I'm doing hair or anything else.
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It's just a part of me and it's something I can't run from.
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Right. I do know a little bit about running. God will meet you
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where you are. He will no matter how far you run. You can't
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outrun him. So what brought you into doing hair? So, my mom
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was a forty year stylist. I grew up in the industry although I didn't
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I honestly didn't even want to do hair. I ran from the industry.
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But it was really guy that really dealt with me, and often we actually
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we pray to God for different things. Like one of my biggest prayers was
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just really getting out of poverty and just really you know, expanding my family,
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introducing them, the more I believed God for more and so really the
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challenge was embracing that generational legacy that had been passed down. So it really
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it just happened to be here that I fell into and I actually fell in
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love with. But my grandfather, he was an entrepreneur. You know in
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taxicab drivers drivers there before uber, you know, they are the cab He
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also owned a motel, you know, so there's plenty of entrepreneurs. So
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what I had to do was really just reach down my bloodline and grab that
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entrepreneur spirit. And like I said, God really dealt with me on it.
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I fought it, but I absolutely loved it. When did you give
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in? Oh? I actually gave him. Right after my mom passed away.
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It was like as if a mantle fell on me. I would have
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different dreams. I remember my pastor coming to me, and I know this
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is something awkward for somebody to hear, but this was when my mom was
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passing away and I knew she was going to pass away. She passed away
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with cancer. Okay, so I knew she was going to pass away.
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But I remember my pastor coming up to me and he was saying, what
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did he say to me? He said, this time your mom won't make
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it. But her things are not for you to store up, it's for
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you to use. And so I really, you know, I was like,
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okay, you know, but God had already started speaking to me about
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it, and I was still kind of running, you know, because the
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fear of the industry, the fear of living up to my mom's legs,
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you see, you know, the fear of going into a new career because
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I was comfortable with where I was. I had just gotten that job,
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had just gotten two races or promotion, all of these things, and I'm
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like, God, you want me to do what either? Right? So
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I thank God that I had a supervisor that believe in God and believe in
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faith. You know what I'm saying, right, And so when I went
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to him, he was like, You're one of my favorite employees. You
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meet all your goals. You're always on time, which was rare, but
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it's like you're always on time. But then he sat back in his chair.
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And this is a very umble man, very umble, white spirit man,
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and he sat back in his chair and he said, but I dare
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not defer God's plan. M Yeah. I cried like a baby. And
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so I found the school that was part time. Then I decided to finally
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just leave my job period finished school because I was looking at how long it
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would take. And when I'm believing God for something I really wanted that happen,
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like I be that face without words is dead. Absolutely. But another
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thing that confirmed it. We were having a church service and a pastor was
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there and he was speaking about entrepreneurship and I don't know, you know who's
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on here that bleeds in prophecy, but I do. I do too,
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Okay, good, I don't really do. But in the atmosphere, he
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said, there's a young lady here who's supposed to be doing hair and I'll
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go as far as to say that she's afraid to go forward. But God
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told me to tell you you have the anointing in your HAIRDS the build franchises
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and oh wow, yeah that was That was the last one I knew.
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I had to say yes then, yeah, yeah, that probably would have
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had me laid out. I'm like, girl could have blew on me and
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I would have hit the floor. I can imagine. I was. I
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can imagine, because you know, not everyone is called to prophesy over someone,
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and when you get those that are, it's just like mind blowing.
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Yes, they can just hear from God enough to tell you, hey,
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you you're sleeping on what God gave. Yeah. Yeah, and it was
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what I needed. You know, it was definitely an act of faith.
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It was scary because you know my mom, you know, she was one
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of the baddest hairstyles. Yes, was you know what I'm saying. So
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that was a hard legacy to live up to and one thing I had to
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do because I tried to fight it. Like I'm my own person, you
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know how I try to be hard on my own person. I don't need
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to be like you know. And I remember just going to God. She
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said to me, girl, you better ride it name right now. You
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know, it's a lot of favor there that I get because of who my
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mom was. Right, so I had to again, I had to embrace
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that, ladacy. Do you ever feel like at any time that you're being
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compared to your mom in that genre? I used super not anymore. And
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even if I am, I'm fine with you because my mom was a great
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person. Yes she was. I remember your mom, I do, and
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she always smiled like you are her all over again, Like your face is
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just you are your mom twen. You are your mom's twin, and your
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girls are like the triplet and the quad grouplet to your mama. So beautiful,
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lady. She used to do my hair when I was little. Yeah,
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yeah, thank you so much. I loved your mom and she could,
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Oh she could wash some hell, yes that she could. I'm just
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sitting here thinking about who the way she just get in there and that was
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her honey, Yes, but do your daughters do hair? So my my
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oldest she used to help a lady with shampaon. But she has a psychology
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degree so she's more into therapy and counseling a little something. Now, My
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baby girl, she can break, so I'm trying to She's going to college
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and stuff soon. I want her to pursue her career. But I'm kind
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of trying to get her to get in the braiding more because I'm like,
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you know, like you know how much money you can make versus working right
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right, So I'm trying to put her there. There is nothing better than
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a great braider. This it's really good. So I don't know if you've
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been seeing my braids and stuff, but she's the one that I have.
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You have you can tell those hands on anointed to I love it, blessed
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than how they favored. What would you say for someone who wants to pursue
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the hair industry and they're not quite sure if they have what it takes to
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get involved, I would say go for it. And I say that because
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the beauty industry is a billion dollar industry and what they're being said. There
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are so many avenues to the beauty industry. So it's not just hair,
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you know. So I don't, you know, like my whole career,
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I've never done extensions except for crochet, but there are people they do.
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But I make just as much income, you know. So I'm more my
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I gear more towards healthy hair and hair loss, you know what I'm saying.
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So it's a broad industry and what you have to do, and that's
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not just in the beauty industry, but as an entrepreneur period. You have
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to find your niche. What are you good at, what can you what's
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your specialty, what do you have a passion for, and when you find
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that passion, continue to work on it and build it and capitalize on it.
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Okay, but I want to dye my hair blond like you had,
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George. So how do I do that without my hair falling out? It's
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about the person that's doing it. Listen, I'm coming. I'm coming.
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I am definitely coming because this is as close to blond as it's gotten.
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But oh yeah, I wanted I saw the right product and the knowledge of
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the stylist. You know, a lot of people are concerned about their are
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falling out. But I do plenty of color and stuff. But it's a
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it's all about you knowing the difference in the type of product and what your
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client can take and things like that, and if your client is even a
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candidate for it. Okay, so you do like what is it called?
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It's looked my mind like when somebody a consultation consultation? Yes, absolutely,
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absolutely, what is what's the reason behind doing that? Because I know a
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lot of beauticians don't. Yeah, so it's when it comes to color or
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hair. Louts are really big on the consultation. But really every client should
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have a consultation. I know only have a consultation, but I have a
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form for people to pull out fill out because I need to know if you're
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allergic to things. But the purpose of the consultation is for one to get
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proper pricing. You also want to know if the client is a fit for
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you and if the stylust is a fit for the client. You want to
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know what their hair is like, are they a candidate for what they're asking
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for at the moment? Do you need to wait? And you also want
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to know some of the concerns about the client as well as their lifestyle.
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So all of those things play off play. So if I have someone that's
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constantly doing interviews or you know, on TV or things like that, they
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may are there speaking engagement, things are bad to bad. They may not
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be a candidate to be a natural client or wear natural styles, you know
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what I'm saying. So they need something more easy. So this is where
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these conversations come in with. You know, they may want a certain cut
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and they cut may not look good on them, So I want to make
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sure. Blat Domind said, although synthetic hair is cheaper than human hair,
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which would you recommend for knockless braids? Most stylists I don't have. Well,
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I'll say this, I don't really have a recommendation because I don't braid.
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Okay, I know some of the brands that they use, but it
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also depends on what kind of style. The cheaper the hair is, the
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more the braider hates it. Yeah, I do know that, yeah,
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because it cuts their fingers. And so you you really want to ask whatever
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braider that you're going to. It's really up to the braider because they normally
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have a type of hair that they prefer using. And DD wants to know,
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how do you know if you're a candidate for coloring. So what we
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do is what we call a pat checks I'm sorry, a patch toy.
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And that's where you take a piece of the hair and you color it the
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color that the client is looking for, and you wait, like even twenty
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four hours. You even test it on the client's skin. But that patch
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chest really is what lets us know if your hair is able to take that
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is a porosity level, okay, and things like that. That makes a
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whole lot of sense. I was listening to what you were saying about the
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consules. You may agree with me that most of the older beauticians back in
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the day, they never did the consult They just were You're gonna get in
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this chair, I'm gonna give you what you want, and out the door
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you go. What has changed in that time period from the way they did
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it to the way you do it? So I thing we say most older
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people, but it's it's really a because there's a lot of us younger generation
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that don't do them either. But it's really again, it's really about the
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stylist and what they prefer and how their salon is set up. So you
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have some salons and some stylists that are more professional than others, or they
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just prefer their own thing of not doing consultation. But the difference between back
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then and now is for one, incomes change. A lot of us newer
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stylists and I'm just including myself, you know, we we can't deal with
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you know, people no shape to people, but a lot of people no
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show you know what I'm saying, right right, It's just a lot of
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things. So just like but it's some stylists that can be really horrible stylists,
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like they they are great at hair, but their customers service is horrible,
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you know what I'm saying. And so it's even again for the client
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to see if that stylist is a benefit to them, you know what I
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mean. And so that it's really not. So it's really not a younger
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older thing. I think a lot of people are saying that, but I
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think it's we're we're and I'm just speaking on behalf of stylists. I think
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we're just tired of being abused with our time that you know, so because
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we a person made book and not show up and so and then you have
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people that are upset because they have to pay deposits. You know, I've
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had that experience. The lady was like, you know, it's just a
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deposit that I got to pay it. In my head, I didn't say
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it to her, but I'm like, and you're one of the ones that
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no showed on me. I do you know? We have to get our
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money. And what we realize between conselations and no shows a stylist, can
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you lose about thirty grand a year just a lot of It's a lot of
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money, a lot of money. Yeah. So we've just gotten tired of
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that and just we come up with more creative ways to run our business because
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we're actually running it like a business. Right right. Black Diamonds wanted to
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know how long should you wait between changing colors? It depends on a color.
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Okay, yeah, why is that? So? Again? It depends
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on your hair and how healthy your hair is and what the color has done
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to your hair. A lot of people, so here's one thing. A
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lot of clients do a lot of them want to be a blonde or platinum,
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but they're also looking at red. So I would tell a person,
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don't go red and then try to go blonde. You want to go to
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oppicee because we can cover a blond easily, but it's hard to pull red
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or black or things like that off the hair to take you to a platinum
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or a blonde. So you want to kind of way in between. When
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it comes to permanent colors, you want to push it out. You always
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refresh them, but you want to kind of push it out. But when
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you're dealing with a rent or something like that, like that's easy, okay,
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but the stylist in what she prefers, but you do want to don't
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go back to back m h. Black Diamond also says if a client has
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a relaxer and then a week later with like coloring, what would you recommend
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even if your client is persistent, I would push you back at least two
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weeks perfectly, okay m hm. And is that just to keep the color
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and the chemicals from the relax Yeah, place the chemicals clashing, and then
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just the integrity of the hair because at the end of the day, the
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client still wants to hair on their head. So you got it right.
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See how fragile the client's hair is. Okay, my husband experienced alopecia due
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to the COVID vaccine. Yeah, Is there a chance of the hair ever
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coming back with alopecia, Yes, So there's different forms of alopecia. A
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lot of people experience have lost during COVID because it's messing with your commune system,
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and so that's when you deal with intelligent effluvium, it's what we call
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it, and it's a lot of shedding of the hair. So hair sheds
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anyway, every day it sheds, but there's more when it comes to telligent
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effluvium, there's like more so chunks of shit. So with telligence, it's
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not just COVID. People deal with it when they deal with postpartum depression or
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just post having a baby, menopause, your hormones are off. So it's
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a lot of factors when it comes to alopecia. Some it could be,
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you know, wearing tear with the hair. It could be chemicals. Some
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is what we call c C C A, which deals more with the immune
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system. The majority of alopecia is dealt with with the immune system, and
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so it's always good to make sure that you're keeping up with your labs,
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making sure your stress level is down. So even with stress, you have
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these stress factors, These these adrenaline glass that are going crazy. This is
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what's going on in your body. Okay, So your body is trying to
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figure out it sees it sees that something this foreign mm hmm, and there's
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danger. So the first thing it does is attack the follow and now your
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hair is following out. If that makes sense, Yeah, I got you.
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Yeah. So it's it's several forms, and you have scarn and you
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have non scoring alopecia. So there are some alopecias that will go back and
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then there's some that won't. Okay, Black Diamond says, she wished that
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she could bottle you up and bring you to the DMV area. Listen,
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how did me because I travel? She says. Her daughter wants to know,
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how do you feel about the eradication of the cosmetology license? She's a
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stylist. I hate it. What she means them getting rid of license?
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Mm hmm. What she's saying, Black Diamond, she she's not understanding.
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Well, we're not understanding your question. Could you asks again please? Because
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I know there's a word out here in several states where they're trying to really
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stop licensing. Why. I don't know. It's a slap in our face
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because I don't respect stylists, and I think and that's it's one thing for
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us, it's stylish to speak up, but it's another thing for clients to
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speak up as well. And that's where the challenge is. That's why they
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didn't mind shutting us down during COVID. People don't take the industry. But
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yeah, that's what she was asking. How do you feel about them getting
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rid of the license. Yes, I think it's horrible. I think it's
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horrible because a lot of us have really invested in this industry. So,
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like I told a friend girl of mine, I said, well, they're
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gonna have to give me back my student loans, right, usually eighteen thousand
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and that then when I did my hair loss, that was another ten thousand.
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So I spent money in my career. That's why I charged the prices
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I charged, and I'm not even at the max. I'm like the minimum.
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Right. I spent a lot of money on classes and information to make
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sure that my clients okay, travel and all of that with their hair,
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and so I think it's a slap in the face. I think if they
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deregulate license, it's going to be a lot more alopecia, as well as
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diseases scout hair and scalp diseases and things like that. As it's already because
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you know, people are just doing it's just a matter of them just not
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liking the They don't respect the industry. But I understand that it's well because
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a lot of us is stylists have not been kept the integrity of the industry.
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Have you thought about have you thought about petitioning? Yes, it's a
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lot of us that have talked about going to the government and just making sure
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we're in rooms when they're having these discussions because I know, you know,
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unless we're hurt, right. I know a lot of stylists have gone to
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like hair school and have to get a certain amount of hours and mm hmmm,
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well it depends on the state, but for a southern line they swell
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hundred. My bonus daughter went to Kenneth Schuler to get her license on well,
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however, you know the steps to getting to that point. Somewhere along
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the line, she got frustrated and she just she she did she'll do hair,
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but she has no I don't think she has the desire to go and
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finish where she started because of the way things were handled at that school.
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So do you know of any people that like bring people in to study up
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under them? Can they do that instead of going to like a cosmetology school.
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So the person still has to be a license accredited instructor in order okay,
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yeah, but there are people and not just a license accredited instructor,
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but you have to also be certified to do SeeU hours m which is that's
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what she's needed in order to do it. Okay, but there are some
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private people out here that do it. And then there's plenty of other schools
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other than Kenne Sulder. Yeah, but you know, Spartanburg is dwindling down
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with certain things, and restaurants are popping up, yeah, on every turn,
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and so you know it's kind of hard to find, you know,
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what it is that you're looking for in that particular industry. Well, I
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always recommend one of my So the school that I went to was Faum Metal
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Beauty School, but that school is no longer open, but the director that
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I had there, she actually opened her own school. So she's by West
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Skate Mam now where David's Bridle was, and so she has her own school.
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I always send people to her. Okay, yeah, her spirit is
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totally different. Okay, mm hmm. Yeah, Okay. The last time
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we chat, we were actually talking about what were we talking about. We
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were discussing our upbringing and things we did as teenagers. And you were talking
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about, you know, your daughters and how you are, how you've raised
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them to not do things that we did growing up. How do you include
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that into your ministry as far as the young girls go. So I started
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off by saying that my daughters are my first ministry mm hmm, and my
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passion for them and what I went through as a younger child, you know,
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being raped and molestic, you know, drinking early, you know,
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smoking, you know, I lived in the hood, so you know,
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we got exposed to a lot, you know, right, and but also
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the negative side of everything. I didn't want my children to go through.
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And so what I found was that a lot of young girls were just drawn
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to me, mainly because I'm so transparent in what I've done in my life,
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right, and so you know, the Bible says and they overcame those
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and demons by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of testimony.
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And so what I've learned is testimony draws them in, and the Bible says,
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with love and kindness, have I drawn them near? And so my
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heart is period for the youth, not just young girls, but young boys,
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but mainly young girls, and a lot of them, you know,
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they have family issues, mother issues, not just father issues, but even
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mother issues, right, And I would get phone calls over in the morning,
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like four in the morning from them, and I just always made sure
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I had a listening ear and not a judging ears if I hadn't done nothing,
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because Lord no, I was up a shame. We both were right,
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But I thank God for Gee. That's just I always just made sure
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I had an open door, and I communicated a lot with my girls.
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I also gave my children freedom of choice, so they knew what I did,
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and they had a foundation in Christ. I remember sitting down with my
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oldest one time, I think she was sixteen or seventeen. She was sixteen,
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and I told her, I said, you know, I have two
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years left to train you as a woman before you leave to go to college.
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And I told her, you know, you know my testimony, and
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you have a foundation in Christ. So if you choose to strass you,
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you know, but you as parents, we have to be okay with giving
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them the space to grow because the same guy that deals with us and speak
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to us is the same guy that deals with them as a parent. How
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do you let go and let God? Because that's something that I struggle with
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And I don't know if it comes from me being adopted. And you know,
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I had my son at sixteen and so for for a long time he
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was my only blood relative. And so even now he's twenty nine, I
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still expect him to check in, not saying that he does because he does
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not, But you know, it's just like it's something like that has a
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hold on me to the point where I have to know that he's okay,
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and I know he can't enjoy his life, you know, the life that
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God gave him with a worry reward for a mom. So how was letting
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go for you? Because I know your oldest daughter is married, right yep,
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she's married now with a baby on the way. They have a girl.
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It was it was hard, but I trusted the process, Okay.
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I knew also that I had done everything I was supposed to do as a
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mom, right and I had to really trust God. So again it was
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one of those the same holy spirit that lives in me lives in them.
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And then it took my daughter also telling me like, Mom, you did
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a great job with us to trust what you put in me, you know
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yeah, And so I'm like, okay, but we And then another thing
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too is we have to realize what God done for us, right, and
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the quicker we let go and let God be got in their life, the
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quicker they can align themselves with who they need to be and the authentic person
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that God has created in the be And so me holding on and me continuing
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to have to allow my voice to be louder than God's because that's what happens.
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We try to allow a voice to be louder than God. Instead of
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going to the Father and praying to the Father and God working it out,
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we tend to get in the way, so the very thing that we're praying
36:22
for, we hinder the process. And so it took all of that.
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Like Seanelle is my older she has been not once has she talked back to
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me or been disrespectful. I am not saying that she ain't want to right,
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she knew that her mama's a little opportune too, But said, it's
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still in there a little bit. It's still in there. I say,
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love and Lord, but she's a little still in there, you know.
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But I had to trust really what I put in her. You know.
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It's because they're all It's like the older they're getting. They're small, they're
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run your ankles, they'll run your kneecaps. But the old they get,
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they get around your heart and you be wanting to but you realize, okay,
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they got to go through their own tests. They are, you know,
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like my baby girl, she's leaving for school. So I had a
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conversation with her. Mm hm, yo, you know what, you know
37:20
what you need to do. It's gonna be a culture shock, it's gonna
37:22
be other religions out there. It's gonna be a lot going on. But
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I need you to know what you've experienced with the father so that you don't
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worry. Yeah. I think they're more so concerned about me now though.
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Yeah, Yeah, that empty nest is something serious. It's something serious.
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My son has a daughter too, she's three, and it's been hard for
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me to just you know, fall back and let him be a father because
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in my mind, my baby was a virgin like his daughter got here through
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Jesus. He didn't. He had no parts to that. She the Second
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Coming. But yeah, all lies, all lies, right, right?
38:15
But you know, and that was something I found my biological family in twenty
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ten. And my biological mom and my son were thick as thieves, Like
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she knew more about him than I did. So when she was telling me,
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you know, Deontas not a virgin, and I'm like, you know,
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my mind frame is lady, we don't even live in the same area
38:38
code. You do not know my son like, but she did. She
38:44
did. And when they came to me and told me that they were having
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a baby, I was like, shut the front door, how but but
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that baby's here, She's loved, she looks exactly like me. But she
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looks exactly like me. But I say that to say that I am learning
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to get out of God's way and let him do him because He's never needed
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my assistance in any anything. So, you know, just stepping out,
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stepping out the way, because I've seen God work. I know what he
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can do. You know, I was told that I wouldn't walk and that
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I wouldn't live past the age of nine years old. I just turned forty
39:44
five in January, doctor said I wouldn't have kids. My son is twenty
39:51
nine, so you know, I I don't know if you've seen my page.
39:57
I was looking for a young man that I was in a foster home
40:01
with before I got adopted. Been looking for this man for years and I
40:07
found him today and that was nobody but God, Nobody but God, because
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I didn't even have a last name for him. All I remember because I
40:20
was eighteen months old when I got adopted, so all I remembered was his
40:24
name and what he looked like. So I made a post and I posted
40:30
you know how old I thought he was, and somebody inboxed me and said,
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you know, I think this is who you're looking for and sent me
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a picture and I was floored. Wow, Like so you know. I
40:45
say all of that to say, you know, don't sleep on God.
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He is. He is always on his job, like you know, and
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he may not you know. That little saying he may not come when you
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want it, but he's always on time used to irk the life out of
41:06
me, but I get it now again. It's like me being adopted and
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looking for my parents for thirty one years. I was thirty one when I
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found them, and I was like, I didn't understand why it took so
41:25
long when they're just forty five minutes away. They live in Right Hill.
41:31
Wow. So they've literally been around the corner of my whole life and I
41:37
never knew. But things haven't always gone the way I had hoped that they
41:45
would have gone. But so now I know that God allowed it to be
41:52
thirty one years to prepare me for this moment because my biological mother passed away
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three years and eleven months after I met her. So God's so strategic,
42:07
right, right, right, And so I'm just like, you know,
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I went into that place of why would you allow me to find her only
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to take her again? You know, but I was able to create memories
42:27
in those three years and eleven months that had I not found her, you
42:32
know, it could have been different. I could have found family and they
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could have told me she was already gone. But you know, God gave
42:42
me that opportunity to get to know her, to spend time with her,
42:45
to love on her, to let her love on me, and let her
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build that relationship with my son that she had, and it was beautiful to
42:54
watch, you know. But I just side track it's the ADHD. But
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let me ask you, out of all the things that you've done with your
43:08
hair, what is the most what what is your favorite style and color that
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you've you've gone through For myself? Mm hmm, probably the Platinum. I
43:23
love it. I loved it too. You rocked that hairstyle. You did,
43:31
you really did. And you you are so like beautiful in your own
43:38
right with even down to the way you dress, like you have your own
43:45
flair and your own girl and so you know, it's just it's it's a
43:53
blessing to know where we've come from and to see us all as adults,
44:01
you know, striving being healthy and yeah and flourishing all days are not not
44:12
great. You know, God didn't didn't say that it wouldn't storm. He
44:19
just promised we wouldn't get wet. So we're out here, you know,
44:23
up under his umbrella, letting it do what he do. But I am
44:30
so proud of you and your walk, your walk. When I joined the
44:37
church that you're a part of and you came back to the back and prayed
44:45
with me, that prayer has sup with me, Like you have no idea
44:51
what you poured into me in in that setting and so for that, I
44:58
thank God for you. I pray over you, and I pray that God
45:04
keeps his hand on your business. And I see you flourishing. I see
45:10
it like you know, just to go by the old building and see how
45:15
you had the poster in the window. I look at my dud. But
45:22
you know, we we literally live right down the street from your old spot
45:28
by the place. Yeah, we're behind the QT so and so you know
45:36
we were playing on the last episode that you have a new location. Could
45:40
you share with us where you're located now? Yes. So I actually closed
45:45
my salan the end of September just to kind of revamp, starting over,
45:52
you know, just restarted my vision over. And that's the thing about being
45:57
an entrepreneur is you have so many ideas, but you gotta bring those ideas
46:00
to one vision, right in order to revamp I start, I close my
46:07
salon and change up a lot of things. So now I'm met salons by
46:10
JC Ivasweet, I mean Rooney Levin. I love the atmosphere. I love
46:15
the mixed culture, and it's comfortable for now. It's not my permanent place,
46:21
but God got things brewing. So y'all, y'all keep watching keep watching
46:27
and if anybody wants to reach out to you for just entrepreneurial advice or whatever,
46:37
how can they reach you. You're gonna everything Brandy dot com. And
46:40
so I have my coaching program on there as well as my hairstyle. So
46:46
everything I do is on Everything Brandy dot com. Y'all definitely check it out.
46:52
I have some I also have some membership programs that I have coming up
47:00
as well as Brunch with Brandy is coming up June twenty second. Y'all have
47:06
got to be there. It is an experience, so I'll be posting it
47:09
soon. But I'm even revamping with Brunch with Brandy. It's gonna turn into
47:15
some monthly things. Monthly bru It's a monthly brunch focused towards women just getting
47:22
healing, deliverance, set free, and becoming whole. And we'll be using
47:28
life coaching strategies, inspirational speakers and different things, different tools in different ways
47:35
and really hard conversations through these brunches. And so I got, you know,
47:42
quite a few things coming up, and I'm super excited about it all.
47:45
I'm also in the middle of writing another book, so I'm excited.
47:50
Oh wow, Yeah, So you already have written one book. Yes,
47:55
so I have my journal which is No Flaws. It's on the website as
48:00
well. Everything brings back, and then I have From Crisis to Clarity for
48:05
entrepreneurs. But now I'm working on a From Crisis to Clarity that targets women
48:10
and just something motivational for us women, you know, because we can go
48:15
through some trauma. I'm I'm actually in the middle of a big transition now
48:21
in my life. I realized I didn't realize. Honestly, I didn't realize
48:25
how much bundage I was in until I mean my transition, and really,
48:32
like they it was. It was one of those things where this may be
48:38
harsh for some people here, but for me, it was life or death
48:44
because people don't realize what's going on in your mind. People don't realize the
48:47
thing you have going on in your body and all of those things. And
48:52
so I'm gonna do everything you know I do is faith based. So it's
48:57
called From Crisis to Clarity, but it's gonna be a women's edition. Okay,
49:02
Well, before we take off, Brandy, is there anything that you
49:06
want the audience to know about you, what you stand for, what you
49:10
believe, what is there anything that you would like to share before we leave.
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I can really just piggyback off of that from crisis to clarity. I
49:21
believe that as a people, we have to make sure that we are being
49:29
authentically who God has created us to be. I always create your own values,
49:35
your own boundaries, your own non negotiables, so that you can authentically
49:40
walk in who it is that He's created you to be. And let your
49:44
light so shine if Bible tells us to let our like so shine so that
49:47
men might see that I could work, but that God will be glorified,
49:52
which is in heaven. And so if anything, make sure that God is
49:57
a part of everything that you do. He wants fail. He absolutely will
50:02
not fail. Okay, but I do have one last question for you.
50:12
Would you mind praying this out? Absolutely absolutely? Let us pray Father,
50:16
in the name of Jesus God. We thank you, lor God. We
50:21
thank you that this is truly a day that you have made. So we
50:23
come and we choose to rejoice and be glad. Any God, I thank
50:28
you, Thank you for this podcast. Lord God. We speak expansion over
50:34
it in the name of Jesus God. Shandia. We speak God that it
50:38
will even God reach the massive, Lord God, reach living rooms. Lord
50:44
God, that people will have conversation about this podcast in grocery stores. Lord
50:49
God, in the name of Jesus, Father, we thank you for resources,
50:52
Lord God, even income that will come to this podcast. Lord.
50:58
I ask God that you will bless those God that are watching. Lord God.
51:01
We thank you, Lord God for them being such a support. God.
51:06
You know what your people need. Lord, so we speak increase in
51:09
that area of Lord God. We believe that you're still a healer God,
51:14
that you're still a sustainer God, that you're still a provider God, that
51:17
you're a mind regulator. Lord God. We even believe God that even the
51:22
concerns that we have about our children, Lord God, you'll give us peace
51:25
that surpasses all understanding. Lord God. We thank you, Lord God that
51:30
even for the entrepreneur's God that will put you back on the throne, Lord
51:36
God, for you set in your word. God. Is that you that
51:38
gives us the ability to give wealth. So Father, we thank you,
51:43
Lord God. We thank you for this opportunity, Lord God, and we
51:46
ask God that you will continue never to leave us nor forsake us. That
51:51
you will continue God to allow your presence to be before us. God,
51:54
we speak restoration. Even now, God, you set in your word God,
51:59
that you will restond to us the years that the palmer worm, the
52:02
canker worm, and the caliprillar have eating. God. We won't get discouraged
52:07
by the things that we've been hearing, Lord God, but we'll continue God
52:12
to believe what's your word declass Lord God, that you can that we can
52:15
do all things through Christ who strengthens us, and that you'll provide all of
52:21
our needs, everything we need, not just financially, but everything we need
52:25
according to your richest in glory. So Father, we thank you. We
52:30
give you our glory in Jesus' names. Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen.
52:38
Well listen, I'm going to have you come back because we do know
52:46
that God is going to increase your territory, so we're gonna want to know
52:53
more. So I'm going to I will be reaching back out sometime this year
53:00
because I know you're not going to be where you are for long. So
53:07
yeah, it's it's gonna be big. So I look forward to speaking to
53:14
you again. Know that I love you and I'm proud of you, so
53:19
proud of you and all that you put your thank you and all that you
53:23
put your hands on. May it just glorify God continuously. But y'all,
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I thank you all for tuning in tonight, for delayed but not denied.
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I always end with saying that even when your delayed was meant for you,
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God will never deny unto you. And so I will be back on Wednesday
53:50
to talk to my cousins about finding me finding their biological cousins. So join
53:59
us Wednesday at eight o'clock, same station, same great time, and until
54:05
next time, goodbye, Oh nursing nursing me. All things ain't one thing,
54:15
you stupid. Where did all the blue skys but boys and the sto
54:23
w bloats from the north and something wow, person pursing me