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What Your Sexual Fantasies May Reveal About Your Relationship Needs · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Roses are red, violets are blue. What you're attracted to
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  Speaker 1: says a lot about you. The same goes for what
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  Speaker 1: you like in the bedroom. Not to wax poetic here,
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  Speaker 1: but it's widely believed that a person's sexual fantasies can
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  Speaker 1: reveal deeper insights into their personality and even psyche. This
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  Speaker 1: shouldn't be too surprising, as studies show that roughly 98%
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  Speaker 1: of people reported having a sexual fantasy at least once
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  Speaker 1: in their life. Analyzing the interesting or even kinky details
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  Speaker 1: of your sexual fantasies can open you up to a
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  Speaker 1: world of self-discovery and awareness, which can help you understand
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  Speaker 1: yourself and those around you much better. Dr. Justin Lehmiller remarks,
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  Speaker 1: our fantasies appear to reflect who we are and seem
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  Speaker 1: to be designed to meet our unique psychological needs. So
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  Speaker 1: let's dive in and explore what our sexual fantasies can
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  Speaker 1: reveal about us. If you like it rough. Do you
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  Speaker 1: like being dominated in the bedroom? How about BDSM? BDSM
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  Speaker 1: is rooted in power exchange dynamics between a couple. Usually,
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  Speaker 1: one person plays the submissive role and the other plays
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  Speaker 1: the dominant role. And it's a pretty popular type of fantasy.
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  Speaker 1: One study shows that over 74% of respondents chose BDSM
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  Speaker 1: as their favorite fetish. So there's that. A desire to
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  Speaker 1: always play the submissive one in the bedroom indicates a
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  Speaker 1: desire to lose control, possibly as an escape and a
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  Speaker 1: way of relieving stress or anxiety. According to surveys in
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  Speaker 1: the book Tell Me What You Want, by social psychologist Dr.
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  Speaker 1: Justin Lehmiller, those who prefer to be dominated in the
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  Speaker 1: bedroom often have anxiety around sex and would rather someone
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  Speaker 1: else take the lead to take some of the pressure
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  Speaker 1: off them. Submission in the bedroom can be an indication
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  Speaker 1: of needing to feel intensely desired or adored during sex,
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  Speaker 1: which is often associated with an anxious attachment style. But
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  Speaker 1: for many, losing control in the bedroom can be freeing
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  Speaker 1: and even work as a stress reliever while reducing anxiety. So,
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  Speaker 1: Fifty Shades freed anyone? On the other hand, those who
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  Speaker 1: prefer to dominate may be craving or lacking power in
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  Speaker 1: other areas of their lives, and may be trying to
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  Speaker 1: compensate for it in the bedroom. Either way, those who
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  Speaker 1: enjoy dominating in the bedroom tend to possess stronger personalities.
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  Speaker 1: Roleplay or cosplay. I think we've all daydreamed of being
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  Speaker 1: a character in our favorite movie, TV show, or even manga.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, how many people dress up as Sailor Moon
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  Speaker 1: or Naruto for Halloween? The excitement of roleplay or cosplay
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  Speaker 1: can definitely translate to the bedroom, and we don't blame you.
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  Speaker 1: If you're a fan of cosplay or roleplay in the bedroom,
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  Speaker 1: then this might indicate that you're seeking a form of
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  Speaker 1: escape or distraction from your regular day-to-day life. According to
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  Speaker 1: clinical psychologist Dr. Joshua Klapao, Roleplay is simply an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to escape our own reality. By labelling it in a
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  Speaker 1: formal way, we are giving permission to act, speak, feel
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  Speaker 1: and think in a way that may be dramatically different
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  Speaker 1: from our true selves. There are various reasons why a
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  Speaker 1: person might choose to escape their reality by engaging in roleplay,
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  Speaker 1: such as needing a break from extreme stress or anxiety,
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  Speaker 1: or even an escape from boredom. Long as it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: interfere with important aspects of life, using roleplay as an
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  Speaker 1: escape mechanism can be healthy and a great way to
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  Speaker 1: spice things up in the bedroom. Just remember that respect
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  Speaker 1: and consent are absolutely necessary when engaging in any type
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  Speaker 1: of sexual activity, so never feel obligated to do something
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  Speaker 1: you aren't comfortable with. Sweetest Taboo Going back to Dr.
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  Speaker 1: Lemeler's study, Those who identify as extroverted are more inclined
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  Speaker 1: to fantasize about adventurous sexual encounters such as group sex
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  Speaker 1: and swinging. It also indicates a strong need for attention.
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  Speaker 1: When people dream of a threesome with their partner and
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  Speaker 1: one other person, it could be because they want all
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  Speaker 1: of the attention on them. However, the study found that
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  Speaker 1: those who identified as introverts reported to prefer kinkier sex.
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  Speaker 1: And surprisingly, they were more open to trying taboo acts
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  Speaker 1: in the bedroom in comparison to extroverts. Dr. Lehmiller explains
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  Speaker 1: the reasons behind this, stating that introverts have a harder
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  Speaker 1: time establishing the types of sexual relationships they want. which
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  Speaker 1: can increase their propensity for developing taboo and uncommon sexual interests.
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  Speaker 1: It just goes to show how different introverts and extroverts
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  Speaker 1: truly are. Foot fetish? Okay, so a foot fetish may
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  Speaker 1: seem super taboo and deviant, but it's actually a very
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  Speaker 1: common fetish. According to research by Lemela, 1 in 14 people,
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  Speaker 1: or 14%, report having a foot fetish or a sexual
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  Speaker 1: fantasy related to feet. But what does fantasizing about feet
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  Speaker 1: say about you? Similar to BDSM, some people may enjoy
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  Speaker 1: a foot fetish when they're either in a submissive or
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  Speaker 1: dominant role, because it triggers arousal. For example, someone might
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  Speaker 1: enjoy someone else playing with their feet in a submissive position,
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  Speaker 1: because it gives them a sense of control and power,
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  Speaker 1: which is something they might crave in their life outside
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  Speaker 1: the bedroom. On the other hand, Someone who prefers pleasuring
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  Speaker 1: someone's feet in a submissive position might enjoy the feeling
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  Speaker 1: of being controlled, which can stem from early childhood experiences
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  Speaker 1: and may even be a way of coping with trauma. However,
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  Speaker 1: fantasizing about feet occasionally doesn't necessarily mean you have a
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  Speaker 1: full-blown foot fetish. It just means you've been turned on
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  Speaker 1: by the idea of feet at least once. Romance and passion.
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  Speaker 1: Do you fantasize about having a steamy storybook romance? If
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  Speaker 1: this is the case, then according to Dr. Lehmiller, you
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  Speaker 1: might be the more anxious and even the needy type.
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  Speaker 1: He says, those who are more likely to have romantic
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  Speaker 1: and passionate imagery in their fantasies could be trying to
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  Speaker 1: calm a sense of insecurity. This type of fetish could
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  Speaker 1: also be rooted in a fear of abandonment, which could
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  Speaker 1: stem from a series of broken or disappointing relationships that
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  Speaker 1: a person has experienced in real life. So, what do
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  Speaker 1: you think your sexual fantasies are trying to tell you
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  Speaker 1: about yourself? Do you agree with the insights from our video?
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  Speaker 1: If you liked this video, make sure to check out
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  Speaker 1: three most common sexual fantasies. We truly appreciate your support.
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  Speaker 1: As always, stay kind and have a wonderful day.