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Episode 36 - You Minding Your Own Business When It Comes To Being A People Pleaser When It Comes To Family. · You Minding Your Own Business

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello everybody. How y'all doing. Welcome to my
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Speaker 1: podcast you Minding your Own Business. I'm your host, Scott's
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Speaker 1: Asha Maria. I'ma I appreciate y'all for joining me for
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Speaker 1: this episode. A little bit about me. I'm a sort
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Speaker 1: of fire recovery, healing and recovery coach. It's all about
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Speaker 1: having people on their paths and their journeys to a
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Speaker 1: new and better youth through self discovery. This particular podcast
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Speaker 1: is all about people minding their own business and instead
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Speaker 1: of focusing on everybody else, you need to focus on yourself.
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Speaker 1: The fact that so many people worry about everybody else
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Speaker 1: accept themselves is beyond crazy to me because I just
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Speaker 1: feel as though people need to focus on themselves and
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Speaker 1: what they need to do versus worrying about everybody else.
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Speaker 1: Because in the end, at the end of the day,
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Speaker 1: you gonna have people that are going to be what
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Speaker 1: I like to call that fake the phone, and you
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Speaker 1: got people that you look at them and you be like,
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Speaker 1: how is it that these people are successful? And yet
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Speaker 1: I'm not. I tell people all the time, stop basing
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Speaker 1: people on what you know other people think as far
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Speaker 1: as your life is concerned, because it's not about them,
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Speaker 1: It's about you and you doing what is best for you.
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Speaker 1: This podcast is all about people becoming the best versions
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Speaker 1: of themselves by focusing on them, not taking care of
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Speaker 1: everybody else in a mamal, not trying to be the
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Speaker 1: person that's dependable, reliable, the person that sits in silence
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Speaker 1: where everybody takes advantage of you. Yeah, this podcast, this
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Speaker 1: episode gone go little bit deep because I've been watching
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Speaker 1: a bunch of these African skits where they've been talking
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Speaker 1: about the fact of the matter that there are women
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Speaker 1: out here and young men that have been taken advantage
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Speaker 1: of by their families. And a lot of these stories
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Speaker 1: start off with their being a favorite sibling or two.
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Speaker 1: And these siblings can't do no wrong, they don't help
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Speaker 1: their parents in any ways, shake from a fashion, but
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Speaker 1: yet their parents are willing to go broke for them.
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Speaker 1: And what I mean by that is these people are
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Speaker 1: willing to buy their kids, their favorite kids in particular,
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Speaker 1: whatever it is. They won't anytime that child calls for help,
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Speaker 1: they'll go above and beyond to help that child. But
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Speaker 1: the other child, they'll tell them they have to do
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Speaker 1: everything on their own. Like, for example, you might have
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Speaker 1: one child that gets thrown these laviage birthday parties, and
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Speaker 1: then the other child basically gets a cake, get a
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Speaker 1: pizza party. They don't even get anything new because everything's
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Speaker 1: handed down by their sibling. So you have a lot
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Speaker 1: of people right now that are in this place and
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Speaker 1: in this space where they were not treated the same
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Speaker 1: way that their sibling was treated. And it's really part
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Speaker 1: of the reasons why we look for love in all
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Speaker 1: the wrong places, because we're looking for some type of acceptance,
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Speaker 1: some type of love, being liked, being appreciated, being valued,
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Speaker 1: to be wanted, to be needed, to be a part
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Speaker 1: of something, to be validated, to be approved of, to
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Speaker 1: be accepted, and for somebody to know your worth. The
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Speaker 1: problem with that is that you got people out here
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Speaker 1: that take advantage of that. And I think a lot
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Speaker 1: of people are more so looking for a parent than
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Speaker 1: a spouse than friends. They pretty much want somebody that's
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Speaker 1: gonna let them do whatever it is that they want
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Speaker 1: to do, and then they don't reciprocate what you give them. So,
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Speaker 1: for example, when I went through my own recovery, I
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Speaker 1: used to ask myself, why am I putting something in
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Speaker 1: my name that I'm never gonna that. I'm never going
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Speaker 1: to be the person that's going to be actually in
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Speaker 1: the car. And I'm not talking about far as like
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Speaker 1: my parents or my child. I did this for one
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Speaker 1: of my exes, so luckily we got out of the
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Speaker 1: car because come to find that the car was never
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Speaker 1: registered in my name. So being that it was never
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Speaker 1: registered in my name, the car ended up getting out
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Speaker 1: of my name. Even though they still call me and say,
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Speaker 1: well the car is told I said that car is
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Speaker 1: not in my name. That car is not registered to me.
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Speaker 1: So when they realized the car was not registered to me,
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Speaker 1: they had to take my name off the car as
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Speaker 1: far as the loan and it was a car that
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Speaker 1: come to find out for BMW that car was actually
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Speaker 1: a Lemon. So yeah, I will never do that again.
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Speaker 1: But when you think about it, when it comes to
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Speaker 1: people and how these people are, I think it's time
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Speaker 1: we have this conversation. There are people out there that
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Speaker 1: will prey on you and they will pray on you
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Speaker 1: just being a nice person, you being a godly person,
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Speaker 1: and they will take advantage of it. They will sit
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Speaker 1: here and they will do you dirty. They will sit
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Speaker 1: here and talk about you like adult behind your back,
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Speaker 1: but in front of your face, they only come around
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Speaker 1: when they want something. So, for example, let's go back
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Speaker 1: to the story that I was just looking at. Not
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Speaker 1: too long ago, there was a girl that their sister
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Speaker 1: pushed them down the steps and they ended up in
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Speaker 1: the hospital. Kind of find out this girl has been
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Speaker 1: trying to unlive, this young girl for quite some time,
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Speaker 1: and her parents overlooked it at like it didn't exist,
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Speaker 1: and they said, maybe they made excuses for the sibling,
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Speaker 1: where now there was too much evidence to prove it.
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Speaker 1: So the grandmother ended up getting custody and the girl
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Speaker 1: ended up going to jail. Because she was a she
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Speaker 1: could only do three years. But the way these parents
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Speaker 1: made excuses for it and the courtroom was ridiculous. They
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Speaker 1: still couldn't acknowledge what their other daughter did to the
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Speaker 1: other daughter, and they still talking about she's dramatic. She
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Speaker 1: need to drop the charges. You need to look out
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Speaker 1: for your sister. You can't put your sister in jail,
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Speaker 1: excuse you. So it's okay for this girl to push
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Speaker 1: this girl down the steps, but it ain't okay for
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Speaker 1: her to press charges. And that's what I mean a
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Speaker 1: lot of times, what go on is a lot of
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Speaker 1: people are sitting up here trying to cover their behinds.
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Speaker 1: So they do something negative, and then there's always somebody
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Speaker 1: making excuse for him. It's always somebody covering it up.
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Speaker 1: It's always somebody bailing them out, somebody letting them get
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Speaker 1: away with it instead of leaving them where they at
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Speaker 1: and letting them deal the consequence because of garma. So
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Speaker 1: the fact that they sold, they pretty much mortgaged their
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Speaker 1: house to get her out on bond, The fact that
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Speaker 1: they were willing to lose everything for a daughter who
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Speaker 1: they knew this girl's behavior was with what it was,
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Speaker 1: but yet she tried to underlive her sister, and yet
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Speaker 1: they were okay with us, and then had a nerve
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Speaker 1: to call the girl a liar, telling Abow she needed
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Speaker 1: not say nothing, that she don't need she needs to
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Speaker 1: keep it to herself. So the whole time this girl
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Speaker 1: was basically beating this girl up, you sat there and
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Speaker 1: watched it happen and thought it was okay. The fact
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Speaker 1: that this girl kept messing up this girl's life, you
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Speaker 1: thought it was okay. Another situation was simp was similar,
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Speaker 1: but the only difference was this the girl kept messing
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Speaker 1: with every boyfriend that she dated. Every guy she dated,
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Speaker 1: she ended up messing with every friend that girl tried
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Speaker 1: to have. She ended up doing stuff to end of
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Speaker 1: her friendships, and she didn't know why. This girl could
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Speaker 1: not explain why people just distanced themselves from her and
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Speaker 1: could not understand. Come to find out, it was because
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Speaker 1: of her sister. So she ended up getting a bunch
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Speaker 1: of evidence proving this girl was doing what she was doing,
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Speaker 1: and she ended up in front of the whole entire
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Speaker 1: family exposing her for what she did. And the parents
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Speaker 1: couldn't even make excuses for it because they couldn't believe
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Speaker 1: that this girl's actually doing this. When the evidence came forward,
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Speaker 1: the parents still were in denial, but after a while
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Speaker 1: they had accept the fact of the truth. But the
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Speaker 1: one thing I learned when it comes to that is
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Speaker 1: that there are parents that sometimes will never see the
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Speaker 1: negative things that their children do, especially their favor. And
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Speaker 1: why is this important? Because it trickles down to the
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Speaker 1: people that are your friends and your and the people
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Speaker 1: you date. It trinkles down to that. So a lot
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Speaker 1: of times we end up dating people that's just like
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Speaker 1: our parents. We end up marrying somebody just like our parents.
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Speaker 1: Good or bad, it ends up happening. If a person
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Speaker 1: is used to abuse, and that's all they know, they're
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Speaker 1: gonna constantly continue to go through abuse until they get
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Speaker 1: help as far as therapy for it, until they learn
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Speaker 1: their work and their value, until they find somebody that
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Speaker 1: actually shows them a different way of living. That is
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Speaker 1: all they know. Other people may become the abuser, and
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Speaker 1: they may start abusing people. Other people may end up
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Speaker 1: just not even trying to even waste their time, and
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Speaker 1: they'll just be staying off fish and cold. So each
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Speaker 1: person that goes through trauma deals with it differently. But
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Speaker 1: why is this important? Because there are a lot of
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Speaker 1: cases where you see parents that ask the one that's
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Speaker 1: successful to pay their bills, but they never ask the
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Speaker 1: one that is their favorite to do it. They always say, well,
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Speaker 1: she's trying to get it together, she's she's fragile, she's sensitive.
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Speaker 1: I hate that we're sensitive, especially when it comes to silings.
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Speaker 1: She's sensitive, she's still trying to figure it out. But
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Speaker 1: yet your other daughter, you expect her to have it together,
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Speaker 1: don't even pay for her college, but you pay for
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Speaker 1: the one that is your favorite. Okay, oh okay, So
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Speaker 1: the reason this is important because this trickles down to
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Speaker 1: your other relationships. It does because you're looking for some
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Speaker 1: type of acceptance. And that's why so many people end
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Speaker 1: up acting out at sixteen because they gonna wanna do
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Speaker 1: what they wanna do, and if you ain't gonna let them,
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Speaker 1: they gonna find somebody else that will. Well, that behavior
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Speaker 1: starts when it comes down and you dropping your child
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Speaker 1: off at daycare. It starts there, so being that it
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Speaker 1: starts when you end up taking your child to daycare,
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Speaker 1: and that is when it's that's where it starts at.
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Speaker 1: That's where your problem begins. The minute you drop the
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Speaker 1: child off. That is no longer your child. Your child
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Speaker 1: is only your child as long as they in your face,
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Speaker 1: and whoever it is they get their hands on your
10:56
Speaker 1: child can pretty much manipulate bamboos and leave them astray
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Speaker 1: because you gave them access to your kid. So when
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Speaker 1: your kid get a certain age and they started sneaking
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Speaker 1: around because they want to go out, they started sneaking
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Speaker 1: around because they want to go and do all these things.
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Speaker 1: And now you're like, wait a minute, now, hold up,
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Speaker 1: you can't be going out like that, you can't be
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Speaker 1: doing all the stuff. Well, guess what. That's exactly what
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Speaker 1: they're doing. Why because they want to get out there
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Speaker 1: and have big fun Like Clara said, when it came
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Speaker 1: to Vanessa, when they went to see the Wretched, that
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Speaker 1: was funny because the way that Claire went off on Vanessa, see,
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Speaker 1: everybody thought, Okay, each one had their share of issues
11:39
Speaker 1: when it came to the Cosby Show. You had Sondra,
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Speaker 1: you had Denise, you had THEO, and you had Vanessa,
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Speaker 1: and you had Rudy. Each one of them gave them
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Speaker 1: problems in a different way. So let's start with Sondra.
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Speaker 1: Sondra didn't give them problems till she married, till she
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Speaker 1: married Elvin, till she became an adult. That's when her
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Speaker 1: problem started when she started acting up when she went
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Speaker 1: and said she wasn't gonna finish law school, and she
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Speaker 1: ended up being in that wilderness, but ended up going
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Speaker 1: back to law school after Awhile, and then Elvin ended
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Speaker 1: up going back to medical school. But they it both
12:15
Speaker 1: ended up going back and they both ended up becoming
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Speaker 1: attorneys and both of them ended up becoming doctors. So
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Speaker 1: that was a good thing. Now, whereas Denise, Denise was saying,
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Speaker 1: Denise did good in high school, but when she went
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Speaker 1: to college it was a whole different. She wasn't prepared
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Speaker 1: for it. Denise was not prepared for college because unlike Sondra, Denise,
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Speaker 1: even though she made good grades, it was more it
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Speaker 1: was all about her partying than it was about college.
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Speaker 1: So and she always had a parents so she never
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Speaker 1: had to worry about Kno. But when she got out
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Speaker 1: there in college, it wasn't an easy as she thought
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Speaker 1: it was gonna be. We all know the bastard what happened.
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Speaker 1: She ended up leaving the show, but anyway, we all
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Speaker 1: know what happened. Then she came back and then she
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Speaker 1: was there for a while. Then she decided she wanted
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Speaker 1: to go off somewhere. She ended up married, and then
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Speaker 1: we remember Olivia Herku steph aka Reverence Mo. So she
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Speaker 1: ended up married, but she did end up going back
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Speaker 1: to school. She didn't end up becoming a teacher, and
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Speaker 1: she showed her parents that basically insention that she got
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Speaker 1: right back to the folk. THEO was always in trouble.
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Speaker 1: Theo was always in trouble. Theo was the one that
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Speaker 1: had actually made the bad grades, but then they found
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Speaker 1: out he was dyslexic. So when they found that out,
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Speaker 1: that explained a lot, because THEO was always somebody that
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Speaker 1: couldn't focus. But at the same time, THEO was a
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Speaker 1: good kid. THEO didn't really get into that much trouble. Honestly,
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Speaker 1: it was more so about him wanting expensive clothes and
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Speaker 1: they were gonna gonna pay for it. But THEO was
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Speaker 1: asking a pretty good kid. Now, Vanessa was actually a
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Speaker 1: problem child. That was a problem child because that one
14:06
Speaker 1: not only did she go see the wretchet, but then
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Speaker 1: she wore makeup, then she kissed the boy. Then she
14:12
Speaker 1: ended up bringing some guy there that she was engaged to,
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Speaker 1: not thinking that they were gonna like him, but they
14:17
Speaker 1: ended up liking him anyway, and that's why she ended
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Speaker 1: up leaving alone because she did not want them to
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Speaker 1: like him. She did that because she did not want
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Speaker 1: them to like him, and when he started basically expecting
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Speaker 1: certain things, she couldn't handle it, and that's when she
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Speaker 1: ended up leaving him alone. But they still were cool.
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Speaker 1: At the same time. Rudy got in trouble a little bit,
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Speaker 1: but it wasn't until she got older. But Rudy had
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Speaker 1: her moments too, So each child had their own moments.
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Speaker 1: They were just all different, but they loved all of
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Speaker 1: them the same. But Denise did say that she felt
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Speaker 1: like Sandra was the favorite. Though Denise did say that,
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Speaker 1: but at the end of the day, they were all
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Speaker 1: families and so so you know, every child out has
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Speaker 1: their own type of thing you have to deal with
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Speaker 1: with them, their own you know, growth spurts, so I
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Speaker 1: would call it, but you have some where there are
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Speaker 1: the favorite. Like I love Tina Knowles, but I don't
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Speaker 1: care what nobody says. She treats Celon and Beyonce very differently.
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Speaker 1: She does. I don't see her post as much about
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Speaker 1: Ceylon as I do her produce posting Beyonce. And I'm
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Speaker 1: not saying that's intentionally and I'm not saying she don't
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Speaker 1: love both of those girls, because she does. She loves
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Speaker 1: Celon and she loves Beyonce, but they are treated very differently.
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Speaker 1: And even Matthew treated Celon different than she treated Beyonce.
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Speaker 1: I mean he, I'm gonna say he he treated beyond
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Speaker 1: treated Beyonce differently than he treated Salon because Beyonce was
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Speaker 1: the one they focused on, but they did not focus
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Speaker 1: on Salan's career the way they focused on Beyonce because
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Speaker 1: she got pregnant, but they never really focused on her.
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Speaker 1: But Solange ended up making her own way and now
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Speaker 1: she's doing the opera, which I'm so happy for her.
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Speaker 1: But I don't see her post as much about Solange
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Speaker 1: as she does Beyonce. But she does post them both,
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Speaker 1: just not as much now. At the end of the day,
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Speaker 1: like I said, with Tina knows, I love Tina, Lord
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Speaker 1: knows I do. But Tina is too involved in Beyonce's life,
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Speaker 1: which is part of the reason her and her husband
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Speaker 1: ended up divorced because she was too much invested in Beyonce.
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Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying. They focused a lot on
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Speaker 1: Beyonce and now I very seldomly see them together. I
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Speaker 1: very seldomly see Solange and Beyonce together. I really don't
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Speaker 1: think they're as close as people think they are. I
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Speaker 1: really don't. I think they love each other and I
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Speaker 1: think no matter what, they'll be there for each other.
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Speaker 1: But y'all remember the Infamous the infamous, Like when Solange
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Speaker 1: was going off on Jay Z and Beyonce, you're sat there.
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, Beyonce, they don't go to back
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Speaker 1: for Solange. The way Solange goes to bad for her,
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Speaker 1: she just don't and a lot of people don't talk
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Speaker 1: about it. So, like I said, you know, it's always
17:17
Speaker 1: gonna be that one child in some cases that everybody
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Speaker 1: focuses on that is their favorite, that no matter what
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Speaker 1: they do, they gonna be there. They're gonna make some
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Speaker 1: type excuse for them. But yet the one that is
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Speaker 1: asked to get kid, they don't focus on, and they
17:32
Speaker 1: want her. Why are you not as popular as your sister?
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Speaker 1: Why are you not this and this and this? Why
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Speaker 1: would you want me to be? And then when she
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Speaker 1: get pregnant, all of a sudden you make an excuses
17:41
Speaker 1: you're happy for her. But if I got pregnant, I
17:43
Speaker 1: get cussed out and I would be every you're a whole,
17:46
Speaker 1: you're a sect, you're a this, and you're a that
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Speaker 1: if I did that. So it happens all the time.
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Speaker 1: But there was another one about a guy that took
17:56
Speaker 1: care of his brother's tuitions that also took care of
17:59
Speaker 1: the family, and they excluded him from going to graduation
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Speaker 1: and he cut him off and they got mad because
18:06
Speaker 1: he cut him off because he's like, how in the
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Speaker 1: world are you gonna exclude me when I'm the person
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Speaker 1: that paid his whole entire tuition. You didn't pay for it.
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Speaker 1: I did. And you have a lot of parents that
18:15
Speaker 1: put that parent responsibility on the oldest child. They really do.
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Speaker 1: And so the fact that you do this or the
18:23
Speaker 1: one that's the more responsible, whether they're older, whether they're younger,
18:26
Speaker 1: the point is always gonna be one that the parents
18:30
Speaker 1: are gonna depend on if they're the adults. So even
18:34
Speaker 1: though the parent should be the adult, they're not the adult.
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Speaker 1: So it's really sad that we hire these type of situations,
18:41
Speaker 1: but unfortunately we do. Unfortunately, but it just truly is
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Speaker 1: what it is, honestly. But there was another one that
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Speaker 1: I saw where there was a girl. They kept saying
18:56
Speaker 1: that she was broke. They kept saying she ain't had
18:58
Speaker 1: no money. They thought that she was living working at
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Speaker 1: a regular nine of five job, not understanding she about
19:03
Speaker 1: to own their company. She about to take over their company.
19:06
Speaker 1: And when they found out, they were pissed. Why you
19:08
Speaker 1: didn't tell us that you basically had this company? Why
19:10
Speaker 1: would I tell you every time I try to tell
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Speaker 1: you never listen to every time I try to tell
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Speaker 1: you about my accomplishment. You didn't care, and now all
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Speaker 1: of a sudden, you can now no, I'm good on that, no,
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Speaker 1: thank you. So you have a lot of people that,
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Speaker 1: like I said, in all honesty, go through this every
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Speaker 1: single day when it comes to them always being the
19:29
Speaker 1: one that's reliable, and people don't come around because they
19:32
Speaker 1: gentally like them. They come around because they have something
19:35
Speaker 1: that they want from them. And it's sad. And that's
19:39
Speaker 1: why a lot of people now are alone because they
19:41
Speaker 1: feel like, what is the point of being in a
19:44
Speaker 1: relationship when every time I'm in a relationship somebody end
19:46
Speaker 1: up taking advantage of me, And so it's really hard
19:50
Speaker 1: for those people to trust. Now, for some people, they
19:54
Speaker 1: end up distancing themselves. They leave the city because they're
19:58
Speaker 1: trying to get away from their parents and it' trying
20:00
Speaker 1: to go from the environment. And I don't see nothing
20:02
Speaker 1: wrong with it. I think getting away from the environment
20:05
Speaker 1: is the best thing to do in the situation. You
20:07
Speaker 1: might as well lead the environment and go somewhere else.
20:10
Speaker 1: Ain't no point of staying there knowing you're not gonna
20:12
Speaker 1: get the respect that you just rightfully deserve. So I
20:17
Speaker 1: completely understand I read them now when it comes down
20:23
Speaker 1: to when you cut these people off and you start
20:27
Speaker 1: basically getting taking your name off stuff. Like some parents
20:31
Speaker 1: put their stuff, put stuff in their kids name using
20:33
Speaker 1: they so scared numb. We all know about some parents
20:36
Speaker 1: that put their their the s the electric build or
20:39
Speaker 1: water bill and their kids' names, and their credit is
20:42
Speaker 1: messed up by the time they turn eighteen. You have
20:44
Speaker 1: kids that are in the industry that when they turn eighteen,
20:47
Speaker 1: they Mama spent all their money and their dady spent
20:49
Speaker 1: all their money. Now they broke, like Emanuel Lewis who
20:52
Speaker 1: had to do an emancipation against his parents. You had
20:55
Speaker 1: Gary Klemens that tried to suit his parents and they
20:58
Speaker 1: ended up the lawsuit and nothing was the same for
21:03
Speaker 1: him since so, like I said, you have a lot
21:06
Speaker 1: of people that focus on one primary child, the one
21:12
Speaker 1: that is the golden ticket, as I like to call them.
21:16
Speaker 1: And this is pretty much called financial abuse. And this
21:21
Speaker 1: is when you are not even considered a person, You're
21:24
Speaker 1: not even considered family. You are considered a wallet. That's
21:29
Speaker 1: what you are, a wallet, and that's what they think
21:33
Speaker 1: you are is a wallet. So being that they think
21:36
Speaker 1: that you are a wallet, they just think they can
21:38
Speaker 1: basically do whatever they want to take advantage of you.
21:41
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah, so on and so on. The sad
21:44
Speaker 1: part is we continue to allow it. And then the
21:48
Speaker 1: crazy part is when you cut them off. Here come
21:51
Speaker 1: all the rest of your family and everybody calling you.
21:54
Speaker 1: Why are you cutting them off? Why are you not
21:57
Speaker 1: there for your sibling? Why are you not dead for
21:59
Speaker 1: thee Wait? Wait, wait, wit, hold up, Why you ain't
22:03
Speaker 1: there for them? Why you not helping them out? Why
22:07
Speaker 1: you not paying their bills? How in the world you
22:08
Speaker 1: gonna sit up here and come to me talking about
22:10
Speaker 1: some I need to help my family, help my family
22:13
Speaker 1: with what you ain't doing it? Why am I helping
22:19
Speaker 1: my family when you ain't doing nothing? Are you helping me?
22:23
Speaker 1: Are you gonna give them the money? Because the only
22:26
Speaker 1: reason I'm doing is to see if any of y'all
22:27
Speaker 1: gonna step up. But yeah, you're calling me, but you
22:31
Speaker 1: won't step up and you won't help them. Now, why
22:33
Speaker 1: is it that you won't help them, but you're expecting
22:35
Speaker 1: me to None of y'all have ever stepped up the
22:39
Speaker 1: help at all, but yet you're expecting me to do. Oh,
22:42
Speaker 1: so it was okay when I was doing it and
22:45
Speaker 1: I was basically not barely being able to get by myself.
22:49
Speaker 1: I'm paying my parents' bills, I'm doing all this stuff
22:52
Speaker 1: with my family, and yet I have no money to
22:55
Speaker 1: even enjoy myself. And yet and still you're upset because
23:02
Speaker 1: I don't want to take care of another month because
23:05
Speaker 1: they're ungrateful and the unappreacchive and I'm cutting them off,
23:12
Speaker 1: and you're mad. Okay, hold on a second, Okay, I'm back.
23:17
Speaker 1: I just want to check something right quick. But anyway, so,
23:20
Speaker 1: and that's like saying that. Let's say you were a
23:23
Speaker 1: woman that don't have any kids, right, you live on
23:27
Speaker 1: your own, you have no kids, and your sister gets pregnant,
23:32
Speaker 1: and now you're the certified babysitter. Every time her and
23:36
Speaker 1: her husband want to go out, or your brother and
23:38
Speaker 1: his girlfriend or wife want to go out, you're the
23:41
Speaker 1: certified babysitter. Every time y'all go on a trip, you're
23:45
Speaker 1: the one that's ending up babysit. So one day everybody
23:49
Speaker 1: plans a trip, so one day you say, no, I'm
23:52
Speaker 1: not taking care of these kids. I ain't doing nothing.
23:55
Speaker 1: I'm not a babysit. So now your sister now only
23:59
Speaker 1: is she just dropping them off without asking. She just
24:01
Speaker 1: drops them off and don't even care. So these these
24:04
Speaker 1: siblings just drop off these kids and just drop them
24:07
Speaker 1: off and just say here, you're gonna take care of them.
24:09
Speaker 1: And you're like, wait a minute, hold up, I am
24:12
Speaker 1: not doing no such thing. So after a while you're
24:15
Speaker 1: telling your siblings, look, I have things that I wanna do.
24:18
Speaker 1: There are gonna be times I'm not gonna be able
24:20
Speaker 1: to watch these kids. And then your parents do these
24:23
Speaker 1: get these guilt trips on you. Well, it's family. We
24:27
Speaker 1: family does for family. When have y'all done something for me?
24:33
Speaker 1: Y'all always pay for her, y'all always do for him, yup.
24:37
Speaker 1: But yeah, for me, you didn't do anything. I had
24:38
Speaker 1: her handy downs, so you didn't pay for nothing. You
24:41
Speaker 1: just gave me handy downs. See, I'm a different breed,
24:44
Speaker 1: I'm a different breath. So when I do my argument,
24:47
Speaker 1: I come with receipts. You gave me her old laptop, oh,
24:51
Speaker 1: her on phone. But yet when I asked in a
24:53
Speaker 1: new computer, when I asked to get something new, oh
24:56
Speaker 1: you didn't want to get it for me. You didn't
24:58
Speaker 1: even want to get me a prom dress. But yet
25:01
Speaker 1: you're saying you did for me. You didn't even want
25:03
Speaker 1: to pay for my college education, but you didn't want
25:05
Speaker 1: to do But you ain't done nothing for me. No
25:07
Speaker 1: what you claim on you did something for me, my fault.
25:10
Speaker 1: So no, no, bum I made different breed. So that's
25:18
Speaker 1: what they do. So at the time, when you're doing
25:21
Speaker 1: all these things, oh, it's expected for you to do it.
25:24
Speaker 1: So one of the stories was the girl got so
25:28
Speaker 1: sick and tired of babysitting that she decided that she
25:32
Speaker 1: was going to basically essentially pretend like she I guess
25:37
Speaker 1: the last time her sister dropped the kids off, she
25:40
Speaker 1: dropped them off and didn't come get them. So then
25:43
Speaker 1: what they did was the night the day before they
25:45
Speaker 1: went on the trip. She decides to drop the kids
25:48
Speaker 1: off the night before they got ready to go on
25:51
Speaker 1: the trip for them to watch for her to watch
25:53
Speaker 1: them kids. Mind you, these kids are tearing up her
25:56
Speaker 1: house and you're not paying to fix not the tortea
26:01
Speaker 1: messed up everything and you ain't even trying to pay
26:03
Speaker 1: for it and replace what they broke or what they
26:06
Speaker 1: messed up or whatever damage that they did. So then
26:11
Speaker 1: they get to the airport and she finds out. They
26:15
Speaker 1: basically essentially they're gonna play her face. She gonna get there,
26:19
Speaker 1: and they gonna make her basically watch them kids. So
26:22
Speaker 1: the whole point of them making her believe that she's
26:25
Speaker 1: gonna be and enjoy herself so they can set up.
26:27
Speaker 1: She finds out because the family member calls and tells her,
26:30
Speaker 1: so she waits until gets there, tells them she has
26:35
Speaker 1: to go to the bathroom, gets on a whole another flight,
26:38
Speaker 1: and goes on vacation. They calling her, where are you?
26:42
Speaker 1: Why did you leave? She not even answering home. So
26:46
Speaker 1: the whole time that she gonna she ain't even a
26:48
Speaker 1: bit more answer her phone than the man in the moon.
26:51
Speaker 1: Another one, she went on vacation and they followed her,
26:57
Speaker 1: and she had them kids the whole entire time, and
26:59
Speaker 1: they end up having better room. Absolutely not, absolutely not.
27:04
Speaker 1: But this is what happens when you're a Captain saber Hole,
27:06
Speaker 1: Build de bears, build a dolls, seat phillers, and people please.
27:10
Speaker 1: This is what happens. This is what happens when you're that.
27:15
Speaker 1: So this podcast is all of y'all, who are people
27:17
Speaker 1: please to seek phillers Captain saber holes, build a bears
27:20
Speaker 1: Bill dolls and people. Please, you are the sibling that
27:23
Speaker 1: is always was raised to be responsible. You're the one that,
27:28
Speaker 1: no matter what, you are responsible taking care of your sibling.
27:35
Speaker 1: So give me one second. Okay, I'm sorry, I'm trying
27:59
Speaker 1: to change my password, so I had to change something.
28:04
Speaker 1: But anyway, so what ends up happening is you end
28:08
Speaker 1: up being the person that, no matter what, you gonna
28:12
Speaker 1: always be the reliable one, the dependable one. You're gonna
28:17
Speaker 1: be the one that every time somebody needs something, you
28:19
Speaker 1: gonna always be there. You gonna be the one to
28:22
Speaker 1: give up everything and they give up nothing. That starts
28:26
Speaker 1: with your parents pretty much, and it just trinkles down
28:29
Speaker 1: to everybody else. So I wanted to talk about this
28:32
Speaker 1: today because I keep seeing these same skins. I even
28:35
Speaker 1: see this when it comes to husbands and wives, when
28:38
Speaker 1: it comes to the people they're married to, girlfriends and boyfriends, fiances. Yeah,
28:43
Speaker 1: they they do all these different stories about these situations,
28:47
Speaker 1: and they're all the same, but they're all somewhat different.
28:51
Speaker 1: The stories are somewhat different, but they're pretty much the
28:54
Speaker 1: same stories. But what I like about them is the
28:58
Speaker 1: way that people go about out the situations would make
29:02
Speaker 1: them different, so each person when it came to how
29:05
Speaker 1: they dealt with the families are pretty much the same
29:08
Speaker 1: and the reactions were the same, but some of them
29:11
Speaker 1: were different. I even't seen one where the sister said
29:17
Speaker 1: she want the girl's car and the boyfriend ended up
29:20
Speaker 1: stealing a car, ended up taking a car, and then
29:23
Speaker 1: the other one she ended up taking a car and
29:27
Speaker 1: the daddy ended up taking a car, so she ended
29:31
Speaker 1: up getting a car back, but she never spoke to
29:34
Speaker 1: them again. You had situations where people weren't People paid
29:39
Speaker 1: for something but yet weren't invited. It was one where
29:43
Speaker 1: the girl ended up paying for her father's for food
29:46
Speaker 1: for his housewarming and the stepmom ended up changing the date.
29:52
Speaker 1: You had situations where family members lost a family member
29:56
Speaker 1: and they stole the inherit, the parents stole the inheritance,
29:59
Speaker 1: or the have the inheritance was never they were never
30:02
Speaker 1: told they had an inheritance, or the will was changed
30:08
Speaker 1: falsely based on fraud. Yeah, it's all kinds of stories,
30:12
Speaker 1: and each one is different. Every story is different, but
30:16
Speaker 1: what I love about it is they all end the same.
30:19
Speaker 1: They end up leaving their families alone, or some of
30:22
Speaker 1: them ended up getting laws suits some of them ended
30:24
Speaker 1: up going to jail. Yeah it I mean, I tell
30:27
Speaker 1: you these stories be good. They being good? Why because
30:31
Speaker 1: each like I said, each one, all of them are
30:34
Speaker 1: the same stories. The only difference is they all are
30:37
Speaker 1: different when it comes to people involved. But they're pretty
30:40
Speaker 1: much the same. It's just some of them go more
30:43
Speaker 1: in depth. Like they all talk about how the sibling
30:48
Speaker 1: is the one that got all of the expensive stuff.
30:52
Speaker 1: The sibling is the one that got paid for, as
30:55
Speaker 1: you know, going to college. The other one was told,
30:57
Speaker 1: you just need to go to community college. You don't
30:59
Speaker 1: need to go to college. You're not meant to go
31:01
Speaker 1: to college. You don't have the grades to go to college.
31:03
Speaker 1: And yeah, I heard this. Trust me, I've been here.
31:06
Speaker 1: Trust me, I've been there. My dad told me my
31:08
Speaker 1: grades weren't good enough to go to college. But I
31:09
Speaker 1: ended up going anyway, and here I am. So what
31:13
Speaker 1: I will say is that when I had to come
31:17
Speaker 1: to this realization of my own and everything, I now
31:23
Speaker 1: when I look at my parents, and I'm just gonna
31:25
Speaker 1: be completely transparent here. I love my parents, but they
31:30
Speaker 1: did the same thing to me. And I was always
31:33
Speaker 1: a responsible one. I was always a dependable one. I
31:36
Speaker 1: was the one that always when it came to my sister,
31:40
Speaker 1: they always asked me to do stuff. Every time she
31:42
Speaker 1: did something, I always got in trouble for it. We
31:45
Speaker 1: never lived in the same house. When my parents separated,
31:48
Speaker 1: they had us, each one had us every year, and
31:51
Speaker 1: then they switched to me and my sister didn't grow
31:53
Speaker 1: up together. But every time my sister went through a
31:56
Speaker 1: buy and my mother always called me to ask me
31:58
Speaker 1: for help, even though I didn't want to. You know,
32:01
Speaker 1: from a mother, I would do it. Now I don't, so,
32:05
Speaker 1: like I said, you know, it was one of them
32:08
Speaker 1: things where there's some things going on now, and everybody
32:14
Speaker 1: used to always look at me and be like, didn't
32:17
Speaker 1: understand what the issues were. Now they do. So now
32:21
Speaker 1: a lot of my family members now understand why certain
32:24
Speaker 1: things were the way they were and why I acted
32:26
Speaker 1: a certain way. Now they understand. Now they get it.
32:30
Speaker 1: So now they have a different philosophy when it comes
32:33
Speaker 1: to me, they have a whole different thing. They now understand.
32:36
Speaker 1: They say, oh, I understand now on both sides of
32:40
Speaker 1: the family. But you know, sometimes that happens, and when
32:45
Speaker 1: you have family members calling you talking about why you
32:47
Speaker 1: not gonna do this for this. No, we ain't gonna
32:48
Speaker 1: do that, because why are you not gonna do it?
32:54
Speaker 1: You're talking about why am I not? Why are you not?
32:57
Speaker 1: How are you contributing? See? The only reason you want
33:00
Speaker 1: me to contribute so they can so they won't ask you.
33:03
Speaker 1: So that's pretty much how that go. But it happens
33:06
Speaker 1: more so than not. And I love these I love
33:10
Speaker 1: watching them. I watch them every day, And even though
33:12
Speaker 1: some of them were like the same skit, same type
33:15
Speaker 1: of stories, it's just funny when I watch them because
33:18
Speaker 1: it just reminds me of my sibling. It reminds me
33:22
Speaker 1: of a lot of people's siblings. So me and my
33:25
Speaker 1: homegirl were talking today and we were talking about, you know,
33:29
Speaker 1: a few things, and I told her she need to
33:30
Speaker 1: put herself first and stop worrying about everybody else and
33:34
Speaker 1: finally live the way she wants to live. And she's
33:36
Speaker 1: now thinking about that now. So again, you know, you
33:39
Speaker 1: don't want to be thirty, forty fifty years old and
33:44
Speaker 1: you haven't accomplished nothing, and you're still feel like you're
33:50
Speaker 1: in a standstill. Because the one thing for me that
33:53
Speaker 1: I'm learning now how to do, and I'm taking this
33:56
Speaker 1: week to do is break habits. Like right now, I'm
33:59
Speaker 1: in a bed right now, So I gotta order my
34:03
Speaker 1: podcast equipment because I got some interviews. Oh yeah, I
34:05
Speaker 1: do have some conversations coming up on the podcast. I do.
34:09
Speaker 1: I have some people that will be on the podcast.
34:12
Speaker 1: I haven't figured out which one everybody's gonna be on
34:14
Speaker 1: as it yet, but as we have these conversations, I
34:17
Speaker 1: would determine which one they're going to be on. But
34:20
Speaker 1: like I said, I'm really excited about these conversations. I
34:24
Speaker 1: really am. These conversations are for people. And like I said,
34:29
Speaker 1: when I have conversations, I don't even call them interviews.
34:32
Speaker 1: Let me explain why, because I like for everything to
34:35
Speaker 1: flow naturally. I do. I like everything to flow naturally.
34:40
Speaker 1: All I need is their introduction and once I have
34:43
Speaker 1: their bio and I read their bio, after that, the
34:45
Speaker 1: conversation is normal. There's a normal conversation, like we're just
34:49
Speaker 1: sitting around talking. So that's all it is. And I
34:53
Speaker 1: love that. And one day I hope to start, you know,
34:55
Speaker 1: having celebrities on my podcast. So I hope to be
34:58
Speaker 1: able to do that. That would be a great thing
35:01
Speaker 1: that I really want, is to have celebrities on my
35:04
Speaker 1: podcast and interview them from a healing and recovery perspective.
35:11
Speaker 1: So I'm really excited about that. So yeah, I mean,
35:15
Speaker 1: what I'd like to do is send them my podcast.
35:18
Speaker 1: If they're interested, they can come home. And what I
35:21
Speaker 1: love about the fact of this is that being that
35:24
Speaker 1: right now my podcast is slowly getting bigger and bigger,
35:26
Speaker 1: which I appreciate, and I thank y'all. I love y'all.
35:29
Speaker 1: But without y'all, there's no mean, there would be nothing
35:32
Speaker 1: without me but the fact that I can do these
35:35
Speaker 1: podcasts and nobody know about it. The fact that I
35:38
Speaker 1: can do these interviews and nobody know about it and
35:42
Speaker 1: post it and then people don't even know until they
35:46
Speaker 1: just click on it, and they'd be like, wait a minute, CARDI,
35:50
Speaker 1: we did an interview with somebody. We didn't even know
35:52
Speaker 1: that they did it exactly. I like the element of surprise.
35:58
Speaker 1: So if I was the interview Christopher Maurice Brown aka
36:01
Speaker 1: Chris Brown, y'all wouldn't know. I would say, do you
36:05
Speaker 1: mind coming to my podcast because I would love to
36:07
Speaker 1: have you, And if he says yes, and we do
36:12
Speaker 1: it and I posted, nobody would know about it. The
36:17
Speaker 1: only ones that would know about it is the people
36:19
Speaker 1: that actually listen to it, and then they don't have
36:21
Speaker 1: somebody saying, wait a minute, hold up, no, Chris Brown
36:25
Speaker 1: is on her podcast. So then I posted and then
36:30
Speaker 1: you know, the title is there, and then the people
36:33
Speaker 1: that listen to the podcast go like, oh my god,
36:36
Speaker 1: she got Chris Brown on her podcast. So then people
36:41
Speaker 1: download it, and then the next thing, I know, somehow,
36:44
Speaker 1: some way it gets to all of these blogs and
36:47
Speaker 1: they were like, this is young lady that did a
36:49
Speaker 1: podcast with Chris Brown and nobody knows she did it.
36:53
Speaker 1: She has posted it. And that's the thing for me,
36:57
Speaker 1: I wanted where if I post something, it just post
37:00
Speaker 1: and that's it, none more, nothing less than that I posted.
37:05
Speaker 1: That's it. Why because when I do these with these celebrities,
37:10
Speaker 1: it's not about me doing it, because it's about letting
37:16
Speaker 1: the world know I did it. It's about letting the
37:19
Speaker 1: world know that I didn't do it and just posting
37:23
Speaker 1: it and that's it. No promotion, no nothing, just post it.
37:26
Speaker 1: And then the next thing I know, you know, all
37:29
Speaker 1: these people gonna download it. Why because Darren shock that
37:34
Speaker 1: I got interviews with Tianna Taylor, interviews with Chris Brown,
37:40
Speaker 1: and they get to listen to it, and yet the
37:43
Speaker 1: actual the visual podcast, they get to post it. And
37:50
Speaker 1: that's the beauty part of it.
37:52
Speaker 2: The beauty part of it is is that I have
37:54
Speaker 2: the actual, you know, interview far as the actual visual interview,
38:00
Speaker 2: and then when Spotify and iTunes and Amazon and all
38:06
Speaker 2: of them hear.
38:06
Speaker 1: The podcast and the labels here, the labels probably more
38:11
Speaker 1: than gonna be the one that's gonna post it. Why
38:15
Speaker 1: because of the fact that I did the interview. So
38:18
Speaker 1: then the label finds out I did the interview and
38:21
Speaker 1: they're like, you know, can we post it? I said, yeah,
38:26
Speaker 1: but you're gonna have to tag me and you're gonna
38:28
Speaker 1: have to pay me. No, you're gonna have to pay me,
38:30
Speaker 1: point blank. Period. So that's the beauty of that. So, yeah,
38:34
Speaker 1: people can listen to it, they can download it. But
38:38
Speaker 1: the beauty part of this is if you posted anywhere else,
38:42
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be able to post it on YouTube.
38:44
Speaker 1: But see, that's the beauty of it all. They can
38:46
Speaker 1: only they can only post the vocal, but they can't
38:52
Speaker 1: actually look at the visual because why, the visual won't
38:59
Speaker 1: even be on YouTube, the visual will be on my
39:03
Speaker 1: website and you'd have to pay for that. That's the
39:06
Speaker 1: beauty part of that. I would only post a snippet
39:11
Speaker 1: of the interview on YouTube, and you'd have to go
39:15
Speaker 1: to the website to pay for it to see it.
39:17
Speaker 1: And there's no way you can download it. You can
39:19
Speaker 1: only listen to it, so you wouldn't even be able
39:22
Speaker 1: to download it. And if it got posted, being as copywritten,
39:26
Speaker 1: they wouldn't be able. It would be taking that anyway.
39:30
Speaker 1: So again that's why I say, for me, I do
39:33
Speaker 1: things differently. So yeah, I do interviews and I do
39:37
Speaker 1: post them, but where I would post them at will
39:41
Speaker 1: probably shock a lot of people. But if I wanted
39:44
Speaker 1: where my audience got to see these interviews, that's where
39:47
Speaker 1: I would post it. That. If I decided to post
39:49
Speaker 1: it on YouTube, you wouldn't know where to find it
39:52
Speaker 1: because like I said, even if you find it, you
39:55
Speaker 1: can't download it. You can only you know, look look
40:00
Speaker 1: at it. But that takes away from the people that
40:05
Speaker 1: actually want to watch it. So that's the thing about it.
40:08
Speaker 1: It's one thing vocally, because the good thing about it
40:12
Speaker 1: is the only thing people can do is review it.
40:15
Speaker 1: That's about it, And they only can post a certain
40:18
Speaker 1: amount of it because the fact that it's a vocal
40:21
Speaker 1: so the only thing they can do is download it
40:23
Speaker 1: and then listen to it. But at the same time,
40:28
Speaker 1: it's not the same as the visual part of it.
40:32
Speaker 1: And the beautiful part about that is if I was
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Speaker 1: to post it, it would probably be on Patreon and
40:40
Speaker 1: you'd have to pay for that, or it would be
40:44
Speaker 1: somewhere where if I decided to show it, it would
40:48
Speaker 1: only be for designated people and you can't record it,
40:51
Speaker 1: and there would be an NDA. So if I had
40:54
Speaker 1: people to watch it, it would be an NDA to
40:56
Speaker 1: where it cannot be recorded. So every person that I
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Speaker 1: would invite it would be an NDA. You wouldn't be
41:04
Speaker 1: able to post it. You'd only be able to see it,
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Speaker 1: and they would only be able to say what they
41:08
Speaker 1: thought about the actual thing, and they would have to
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Speaker 1: give me permission. I would have to give them permission
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Speaker 1: to post it. Not only that, they would have to
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Speaker 1: pay me because I'm not you know, those interviews are
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Speaker 1: not something that I would post like that, And I'll
41:23
Speaker 1: explain why. The reason why I would not post these
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Speaker 1: on YouTube or Instagram is because of the fact that
41:33
Speaker 1: people take your content and it takes away from not
41:37
Speaker 1: only your work, but it also takes away from your views.
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Speaker 1: So if I was to post it, it would be
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Speaker 1: private and the only way that you would be able
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Speaker 1: to see it is if you followed me, and it
41:54
Speaker 1: would be pretty much under a member. It would be
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Speaker 1: a member type of video. Only members would be able
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Speaker 1: to see it before anybody else sees it. It would
42:03
Speaker 1: only be specific people to see it. So for example,
42:07
Speaker 1: if the blogs want to see the podcast before anybody else,
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Speaker 1: then I would let them see it first and they
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Speaker 1: get to see it, but they cannot record it. They
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Speaker 1: cannot do nothing. The NBA's would be signed and they cannot,
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Speaker 1: under any circumstances be able to post it, but they
42:23
Speaker 1: can talk about it. And then I would wait until
42:27
Speaker 1: the podcast has been out for good three two or
42:29
Speaker 1: three months and then post it. So I wouldn't post
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Speaker 1: it immediately. I'd wait awhile why because I want their
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Speaker 1: podcast version of it to post and do well before
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Speaker 1: the actual visual does. But I would have the visual
42:47
Speaker 1: and also the vocal, but I would only post the
42:51
Speaker 1: vocal and then post post it maybe six months later.
42:55
Speaker 1: I would post the actual video and then post it.
42:59
Speaker 1: So then it matter to me because everybody on my
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Speaker 1: podcast heard it first before it visually was shown, and so,
43:07
Speaker 1: like I said, then everybody else would get to see it.
43:10
Speaker 1: And the beauty part about it is they can't on YouTube,
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Speaker 1: you can't download it, which is a good thing. So
43:17
Speaker 1: that's always, you know, a great thing. So but if
43:23
Speaker 1: I was to post it, it probably would be I
43:25
Speaker 1: know exactly where I would post it and people be
43:28
Speaker 1: shocked where I would post it, but there are places
43:32
Speaker 1: where I could post it. So I don't know, but
43:37
Speaker 1: more than likely those type of podcasts would probably be
43:40
Speaker 1: on my actual you know life coaching channel, where people
43:44
Speaker 1: would have to pay to see those interviews. Those interviews
43:47
Speaker 1: would not be where they're posted. The artists would have
43:50
Speaker 1: it and the label would have it. And after the
43:54
Speaker 1: interview has been out for a while, if they say,
43:57
Speaker 1: you know what, can we like, iTunes says, we'll pay
44:01
Speaker 1: you to post the interview and we will make sure
44:04
Speaker 1: you get credit for it. Yeah, by all means post it.
44:08
Speaker 1: They're gonna post it, but they're gonna have to pay
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Speaker 1: me to do it. So for example, if they see
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Speaker 1: it and they like the interviews, and iTunes says, look,
44:17
Speaker 1: we want you to do interviews with celebrities for healing
44:22
Speaker 1: and recovery and we want to pay you by all means.
44:25
Speaker 1: I will definitely have celebrities on my podcast. Absolutely I would.
44:31
Speaker 1: But that's one of my goals though. But you know,
44:36
Speaker 1: but we'll see, we will see. But yeah, I mean,
44:40
Speaker 1: family is family at the end of the day, and
44:43
Speaker 1: family sometimes you have to cut them loose because they
44:48
Speaker 1: the reason why you go through everything else with everybody else.
44:50
Speaker 1: So with that being said, I love y'all, I appreciate y'all,
44:54
Speaker 1: and thank y'all for joining me for this episode. If
44:56
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44:58
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45:01
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45:05
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45:09
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45:12
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45:36
Speaker 1: And with that being said, I love y'all because y'all
45:40
Speaker 1: have been rocking with me through all of these journeys
45:43
Speaker 1: and I'm back, but I may have to have surgery,
45:47
Speaker 1: and if I do, then I may have to take
45:49
Speaker 1: another break. But we'll just see. Hopefully I want them
45:53
Speaker 1: because I have a system my abdomen, I'll still be
45:56
Speaker 1: at to do my podcast, but if they have to
45:57
Speaker 1: do something with my throat, then that's a whole nother empty.
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Speaker 1: So with that being said, good night, Joe. I'll talk
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Speaker 1: to y'all later. Bye.