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Voddie Baucham - (Biblical Family): Biblical Manhood - Part 2 · Voddie Baucham Sermons

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  Speaker 1: Man doesn't work, don't let him meet. You know, there
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  Speaker 1: are sometimes when in church it is sinful to give
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  Speaker 1: benevolence to a man. If a man is lazy, God
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  Speaker 1: intends for him to be hungry. So if we're giving
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  Speaker 1: to a man who is lazy, we're actually working against God.
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  Speaker 1: And the Bible says here clearly in black and white,
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  Speaker 1: if a man doesn't work, don't let him eat. Don't
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  Speaker 1: feed a man who's not willing to work. Don't do it.
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  Speaker 1: Don't do it.
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  Speaker 2: You are encouraging his laziness. Don't do it.
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  Speaker 1: Hunger is an incredible motivator. Even Adam, before the Fall,
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  Speaker 1: in perfect pristine surroundings, worked the garden. He worked it
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  Speaker 1: turned with me to the right. Look at first Timothy
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  Speaker 1: chapter five.
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  Speaker 2: This is a spiritual issue here verse eight.
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  Speaker 1: If anyone does not provide for his relatives and especially
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  Speaker 1: for members of his household, he has denied the.
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  Speaker 2: Faith and is worse than an unbeliever. A commitment to God.
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  Speaker 1: Honoring labor is a mark of biblical manhood. It is
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  Speaker 1: an absolute necessity, and it's not.
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  Speaker 2: Just individuals who are not willing to work.
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  Speaker 1: Again, my point here is not that you have a
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  Speaker 1: man you know who just.
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  Speaker 2: Didn't like work or is just unwilling to work.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's also if a man doesn't like to work,
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  Speaker 1: if he's not committed to doing all that his hands
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  Speaker 1: fine to do and sees that.
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  Speaker 2: As honoring God.
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  Speaker 1: Everything that my hand's fine to do, I do it
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  Speaker 1: to bring honor and to bring glory to God.
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  Speaker 2: And I see excellence in that. I seek excellence.
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  Speaker 1: I want excellence in everything my hand's fine to do.
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  Speaker 2: That's biblical manhood.
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  Speaker 1: Biblical manhood says, I may be a street sweeper, but
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  Speaker 1: I tell you what, at the cleanest streets in the
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  Speaker 1: whole city, because I clean streets to the glory and
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  Speaker 1: honor of God.
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  Speaker 2: You can go to work every day and still be lazy. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: You can go to school every day and still be lazy.
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  Speaker 1: You can go to school every day and make good
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  Speaker 1: grades and still be lazy.
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  Speaker 2: That was me.
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  Speaker 1: Find out that you can kind of make it. Find
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  Speaker 1: out that you can memorize things. Well, So what do
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  Speaker 1: you do.
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  Speaker 3: Wait until the last minute.
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  Speaker 2: That's a mark of laziness.
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  Speaker 1: When you go into a class, Are you interested in
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  Speaker 1: maximizing your mastery of the subject? Are doing as little
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  Speaker 1: as possible to gain the grade that you need. Which
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  Speaker 1: is it? Answer that question, and you answer whether or
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  Speaker 1: not you're lazy? What are you studying whatever can get
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  Speaker 1: you out the quickest, or whatever takes full advantage of
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  Speaker 1: the gifts, talents, abilities and desires that God has given
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  Speaker 1: you for his glory and for his honor.
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  Speaker 2: What is it? What is it? Ladies? These are the
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  Speaker 2: kind of questions we have to ask you.
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  Speaker 1: See, when you and I sit down together and we're
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  Speaker 1: talking about your future, mate, this is the stuff that
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  Speaker 1: we have to discuss. No lazy men, that's not biblical manhood. Secondly,
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  Speaker 1: not only a commitment to God honoring labor, but also
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  Speaker 1: a commitment to the law of God. Back in Genesis too,
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  Speaker 1: and the Lord God commanded the man, saying, you may
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  Speaker 1: surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of
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  Speaker 1: the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you
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  Speaker 1: shall not eat, for in the day that you eat
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  Speaker 1: of it, you shall surely die. That's the law of God.
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  Speaker 1: We don't even have the Ten Commandments, but we've already
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  Speaker 1: got a law of God. God lays down a law
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  Speaker 1: right here in the midst of perfection. So we don't
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  Speaker 1: have the law of God because of imperfection. Now, before
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  Speaker 1: the fall, we have the law of God. Before the fall,
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  Speaker 1: he must be committed to the law of God. Most
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  Speaker 1: men don't know the law of God, let alone and
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  Speaker 1: commit it to it.
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  Speaker 2: They don't know it.
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  Speaker 1: One of the little tests here, here's an interesting little test.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to think right now in your mind,
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  Speaker 1: of the Ten Commandments?
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  Speaker 2: You know them?
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  Speaker 1: Ninety five percent of Americans do not. And that's as
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  Speaker 1: true of church goers as it is of those who
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  Speaker 1: don't go to church. Do you know the law of God?
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  Speaker 1: And again I'm not saying everything. Do you just know
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  Speaker 1: the most basic? You don't get more basic than the Decalogue.
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  Speaker 1: You don't get more basic than the Ten Commandments? Do
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  Speaker 1: you know the Ten Commandments? And men, If your answer
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  Speaker 1: to that is no, here's what I want to ask you.
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  Speaker 1: How are you gonna sit up here in my face
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  Speaker 1: asking me for my daughter and you don't even know
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  Speaker 1: the Ten Commandments. You're supposed to be a godly man
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  Speaker 1: into whose hands I entrust.
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  Speaker 2: One of the greatest resources.
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  Speaker 1: That God has given to me, and you don't know
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  Speaker 1: the basics of His law. Get out of my house.
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  Speaker 1: That's exactly what I'd say to you and don't come
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  Speaker 1: back again unless you at least know that much of
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  Speaker 1: the law of God. Why because you are asking to
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  Speaker 1: be the father of my future generations, and they will
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  Speaker 1: not be lawless, committed to the law of God, committed
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  Speaker 1: to the law of God. And again, for most of us,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that's just something that's just foreign. We just
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Give me half, give me five, you see.
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  Speaker 1: But again, don't feel bad. This is the culture that
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  Speaker 1: we live in. Remember what I told you. We've been
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  Speaker 1: lied to. This is the culture that we live in.
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  Speaker 1: We sit here going bald bill fall bedroom. Is he
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  Speaker 1: committed to God, honoring labor, he's a great ballplayer? Is
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  Speaker 1: he committed to the law of God?
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  Speaker 3: Is he he's got a lot of money.
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  Speaker 1: If we're interested in biblical manhood, we have to be
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  Speaker 1: interested in the law of God. By the way, part
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  Speaker 1: of his responsibility is to communicate to you, ladies, the
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  Speaker 1: law of God. God gives this law to Adam. Adam
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  Speaker 1: turns around and gives us a law to Eve. And
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  Speaker 1: one of the problems don't know certain because the text
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  Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily say for certain. But when Eve communicates the law,
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  Speaker 1: when she's talking to the serpent, to the serpent. And
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  Speaker 1: by the way, her husband is there, so he's not
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  Speaker 1: protecting his wife.
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  Speaker 2: Huge problem. Three.
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  Speaker 1: Now, the serpent was more crafty than any other beast
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  Speaker 1: of the field that the Lord God had made. He
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  Speaker 1: said to the woman, did God actually say you shall
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  Speaker 1: not eat of any tree of the garden? And the
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  Speaker 1: woman said to the serpent, we may eat of the
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  Speaker 1: fruit of the trees in the garden. But God said,
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  Speaker 1: you shall not eat of the fruit of the tree
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  Speaker 1: that is in the midst of the garden. Neither shall
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  Speaker 1: you touch it lest you die. Wow, that's not what
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  Speaker 1: God said, is it. She hasn't been prom really, disciple.
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  Speaker 1: That's why in Romans five it says through the sin
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  Speaker 1: of one man, Adam, falling come through the sin of Eve.
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  Speaker 1: Fall comes through the sin of Adam. Who's responsible. There's
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  Speaker 1: headship here even here, But wait a minute, I thought
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  Speaker 1: that headship was because of the fall and when there
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  Speaker 1: was the curse, and God curses Eve and it says
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  Speaker 1: that he shall rule over you, And that's why we
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  Speaker 1: got this whole idea of headship, which again is why
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  Speaker 1: some egalitarians argue that when we become Christians, that that
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  Speaker 1: whole idea of headship is no longer relevant because now
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  Speaker 1: we've sort of reversed that idea of the fall, and
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  Speaker 1: because of that, we have this egalitarian idea no longer
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  Speaker 1: this idea of headship. News flash, we see headship way
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  Speaker 1: before the fall. Well, how do we see headship before
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  Speaker 1: the fall? Who was made first? According to one Grinthia,
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  Speaker 1: chapter eleven, Paul says, Adam has head shae because he
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  Speaker 1: was made first. By the way, Adam is exercising dominion
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  Speaker 1: over all of these other creatures, by what naming them.
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  Speaker 1: Eve shows up on the scene. What does he do?
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  Speaker 1: Names her headship before the fall? So what does headship
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  Speaker 1: mean mean? Mind you woman me say you do? Now,
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  Speaker 1: that's not headship. Headship means you don't get to say God,
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  Speaker 1: it was that woman that you gave me. That's what
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  Speaker 1: Adam did. He threw his wife under the bus. Then
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  Speaker 1: he tried to throw God under the bus. What happened
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  Speaker 1: that woman that you gave me? You also see headship
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  Speaker 1: because when Adam is cursed, what does God say, because
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  Speaker 1: you listen to your wife, you did not exercise the
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  Speaker 1: headship that you were given. In Ephesians chapter five, we
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  Speaker 1: see this picture of the husband washing his wife with
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  Speaker 1: the water of the word. In Ephesians chapter six. We
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  Speaker 1: see this picture of the husband in Ephesians chapter six.
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  Speaker 1: And by the way, we get a repeat of part
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  Speaker 1: of the law. We get a repeat of the fifth
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  Speaker 1: commandment in Ephesians chapter six. Children, obey your parents and
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  Speaker 1: the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and
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  Speaker 1: your mother, which is the first commandment of the promise,
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  Speaker 1: that it may go well with you and you.
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  Speaker 2: May live long in the land.
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  Speaker 1: And fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but
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  Speaker 1: you bring them up in the discipline and instruction of
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  Speaker 1: the Lord. Can ask your question, ladies, if it's a
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  Speaker 1: man's responsibility to disciple, his wife and his children, why
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  Speaker 1: on earth would you go get a man who doesn't
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  Speaker 1: know the law of God. Why it happens all the time.
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  Speaker 1: That's not a man. That's a fractured vessel. That's not
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  Speaker 1: a man. And so here you are saying, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to be the mother of thousands in generations to come.
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  Speaker 1: And because I think more about the ball field and
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  Speaker 1: bill folds and the bedroom, I will sacrifice the spiritual
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  Speaker 1: future of generations to come, so that I can be
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  Speaker 1: satisfied with what the world says, it's most valuable. God
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  Speaker 1: help us, God help us, because that's exactly what women
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  Speaker 1: are saying all over the place and claiming to.
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  Speaker 2: Be followers of Christ.
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  Speaker 1: Coming up talking about the possibility of marrying non believers
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  Speaker 1: in relationships with men who are non believers. First of all,
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  Speaker 1: that's black and white, Paul tells us in second Griffians,
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  Speaker 1: that's black and white.
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  Speaker 2: Do not be an equaliok with an unbeliever. Do not.
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  Speaker 1: That's a clear cut command. It's not even an option.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not even talking about that. That's not even worthy
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  Speaker 1: of discussion. If you're thinking about that, I'm going back
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  Speaker 1: to message number one, and I'm questioning whether or not
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  Speaker 1: you're even converted. I'm talking here not just about whether
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  Speaker 1: or not a person is coming into the kingdom by
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  Speaker 1: the skin of their teeth. I'm talking about whether or
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  Speaker 1: not somebody knows the law well enough to teach it
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  Speaker 1: to you and to your children. Until you meet a
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  Speaker 1: man that's qualified to disciple you and your children, you
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  Speaker 1: have not met a man who's qualified to be your
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  Speaker 1: husband' make that clear enough, Do all of my daughters
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  Speaker 1: hear that.
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  Speaker 2: He must be committed to the law of God. He
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  Speaker 2: has to be. He has to be.
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  Speaker 1: Finally, this man must be committed to the primacy of
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  Speaker 1: the family. Back in Genesis chapter two, I want you
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  Speaker 1: to see this there in verse eighteen, we see that
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  Speaker 1: statement is not good, that man should be alone. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to grasp I just, I just I want
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  Speaker 1: you to grasp the magnitude of that statement. Six days
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  Speaker 1: in creation, there is the same pattern, over and over again.
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  Speaker 1: Day one, Let there be, then there was, It was good.
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  Speaker 1: Day two, Let there be, then there was. It was good.
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  Speaker 1: Day three, Let there be, then there was.
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  Speaker 2: It was good.
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  Speaker 1: They four all together. Let there be, Then there was,
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  Speaker 1: it was good. Day five. Let there be, then there was,
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  Speaker 1: it was good. Day six, Let there be, then there was.
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  Speaker 1: It was good every day, same pattern.
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  Speaker 2: First time in.
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  Speaker 1: The creation process God says something is not good. It's
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  Speaker 1: when a man doesn't have a woman. It's the first
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  Speaker 1: time in creation God says something is not good. Indeed,
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  Speaker 1: does this mean that every man has to be married
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  Speaker 1: in order to be complete? No, because we know, for example,
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  Speaker 1: in Matthew nineteen, Jesus refers to some as being eunuchs
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  Speaker 1: for the sake of the kingdom. We know in First
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  Speaker 1: Corinthians chapter seven, Paul refers to those in those circumstances
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  Speaker 1: in First Corinthians, chapter seven, because he says, I believe
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  Speaker 1: it's in verse twenty six. Because of the present distress,
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  Speaker 1: it is good for you to remain as you are.
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  Speaker 1: So we know that there are circumstances under which there
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  Speaker 1: are times when it may be better off for a
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  Speaker 1: man not to take a wife.
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  Speaker 2: And we know that there.
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  Speaker 1: Are individuals who have a special calling and gifting from
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  Speaker 1: God not to take a wife. So we know that
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  Speaker 1: when we look at the totality of scripture, we know that. However,
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  Speaker 1: let me say this, marriage is the preferred position. I
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  Speaker 1: argue from this text every man ought to be prepared
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  Speaker 1: to be a husband, and every woman ought to be
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  Speaker 1: prepared to be a wife. I'm raising every one of
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  Speaker 1: my sons and preparing my sons to be a husband.
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  Speaker 1: I'm raising my daughters and preparing my daughters to be wives. Who, well,
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  Speaker 1: what if God has called them to be single? Here's
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  Speaker 1: the thing. Is there one standard for godly married people
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  Speaker 1: and another standard for godly single people? No, no, there's not.
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  Speaker 1: So I can't go wrong by preparing them to be
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  Speaker 1: the kind of person who's qualified to be a husband
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  Speaker 1: and a wife.
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  Speaker 2: I can't go wrong. I can't go wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Well, well, I don't agree with that because Jesus was single. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's true, but he's engaged. Bible says the church is
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  Speaker 1: his bride and there's going to be a wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Jesus.
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  Speaker 1: Our model of ultimate manhood is engaged. Amen, Hallelujah, Praise
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  Speaker 1: the Lord. And so if we want men to be
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  Speaker 1: christ Like, they need to be men who are committed
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  Speaker 1: to the family. That's not what our culture says. Our
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  Speaker 1: culture says men are to treat marriage like a plague
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  Speaker 1: to be avoided as long as possible. That's what our
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  Speaker 1: culture said, even in the church.
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  Speaker 2: I know this.
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  Speaker 1: I got married the summer between my sophomore and junior
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  Speaker 1: year in college. I just turned twenty years old. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't even have I didn't have a driver's license. I
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  Speaker 1: got a driver's license, so I couldn't get my marriage license.
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  Speaker 2: I did.
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  Speaker 1: I went into the place that I had my student
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  Speaker 1: ID and they said they wouldn't give me a marriage license.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, well, what you need, Well, you can
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  Speaker 1: get a passport and it will take you this long,
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  Speaker 1: or you can get a license and they'll take you this long,
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  Speaker 1: go give me a license. And I heard, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: oh man, Christian people, church folks, they were just it
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  Speaker 1: was like I was getting It was like it was sin.
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  Speaker 1: You're what we get married, get married, you get but
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  Speaker 1: you're you're so young.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah good, Yeah, yeah, I mean we get longer to
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  Speaker 2: be married to each other. What but you have your
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  Speaker 2: whole life ahead of you.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I do. And I'm looking at her. Oh
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  Speaker 1: but see, uh huh. That's not the way the church
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  Speaker 1: teaches young men to think about marriage. Marriage is something
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  Speaker 1: to be put off as long as possible, even in
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  Speaker 1: the church.
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  Speaker 2: You need to go and be and do.
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  Speaker 1: Here's what we're communicating to young men, and we don't
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  Speaker 1: even realize this is what we're saying. You need to
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  Speaker 1: suck all of the joy out of life and then
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  Speaker 1: when you've done that, come to some woman and give
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  Speaker 1: her the leftovers.
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  Speaker 2: That's what we're teaching young.
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  Speaker 1: Not you need to have as a priority in your
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  Speaker 1: mind that you were preparing to be a husband and
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  Speaker 1: a father with a multi generational vision of raising up
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  Speaker 1: arrows to launch for the sake of the Kingdom of God.
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  Speaker 1: In your youth, protect your purity, and when you become
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  Speaker 1: a man, guard yourself and pray that God would perchance grant.
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  Speaker 2: Unto you in your youth.
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  Speaker 1: A woman with whom you can start a Dynasty's how
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  Speaker 1: I want my sons to think that people treated us
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  Speaker 1: like there was a book in the Bible that we
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  Speaker 1: hadn't read yet that said it was you know, second
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  Speaker 1: Hesitations or something you know says thou shalt not marry
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  Speaker 1: until after a graduation. You know, my Bible says when
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  Speaker 1: a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. Amen,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, wait a minute, man, I found my good thing.
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  Speaker 1: You want me to wait? She might get away? Well,
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  Speaker 1: you guys just need to You just need to hold off.
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  Speaker 1: You just need to wait.
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  Speaker 2: Why better to marry.
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  Speaker 1: Than to burn with passion? I want her, but I
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  Speaker 1: will not defile her. Therefore I'm going to marry her. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you just need to wait. Two reasons I can't do that? Well,
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  Speaker 1: what two reasons you can't do that? Number one, if
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  Speaker 1: I asked my wife or my fiance to wait for
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  Speaker 1: me to graduate before we get married, I am saying
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  Speaker 1: to her that my education is more important to me
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  Speaker 1: than my marriage.
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  Speaker 2: And that's wrong.
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  Speaker 1: No way in the world my education is more important
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  Speaker 1: than my marriage, and I won't communicate that to her.
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  Speaker 1: I won't start my marriage off by putting things before
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  Speaker 1: my wife. Problem number two. The wisest man in the Bible,
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  Speaker 1: the strongest man in the Bible, and the most godly
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  Speaker 1: man in the Bible all fell into sexual sin. I
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  Speaker 1: am not wiser than Solomon, I am not more godly
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  Speaker 1: than David, and I am not stronger than Samson.
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  Speaker 2: I need to get married. Is some of you out
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  Speaker 2: there know exactly what I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 1: Because you wanted These people will come up to me
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  Speaker 1: sometime and say things like, yes, we're gonna get married
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  Speaker 1: in the spring of twenty eleven. Help you see, we've
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  Speaker 1: been taught to put everything else before marriage and family,
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  Speaker 1: everything else. First time we see God saying that it's
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  Speaker 1: not good. Here's the other thing that you see see
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  Speaker 1: God saying, for this cause, shall a man leave his
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  Speaker 1: mother and father and be united with his wife, cleave
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  Speaker 1: unto his wife, be joined unto his wife. For this cause,
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  Speaker 1: a man will leave his mother and father. Now, in
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  Speaker 1: order to understand that, you gotta understand something that happens
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  Speaker 1: later on in the law. We're already quoted from Ephesians
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  Speaker 1: chapter six. What Paul says there to the church there
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  Speaker 1: to in his Ephesian letter about the first commandment with
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  Speaker 1: a promise, that's the fifth commandment. All right, so some
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  Speaker 1: of y'all, I just helped you out. Okay, you're just
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  Speaker 1: a little bit closer now to one of my daughters.
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  Speaker 1: That's the fifth commandment.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Now, sometimes the law is referred to as being written
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  Speaker 1: in two tables, the two tables of the law. The
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  Speaker 1: first four commandments are the vertical commandments about our duty
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  Speaker 1: to God, the last six about our duty to man. Now,
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  Speaker 1: here's what's interesting about that. You don't get a promise
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  Speaker 1: until commandment number five. Now that's significant when you understand
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  Speaker 1: what one through four are that don't have promises, and
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  Speaker 1: I'll just paraphrase them for you. Commandment number one, I'm God,
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  Speaker 1: you don't get another.
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  Speaker 2: One, hey man.
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  Speaker 1: That's the first commandment God. Can we get a promise
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  Speaker 1: with that? Nope, no promise. Commandment number two, don't even
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  Speaker 1: make nothing that look like me. Okay, we gotta get
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  Speaker 1: a promise with that one. We can't even make a
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  Speaker 1: little no, no promise, just do it. Commandment number three,
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  Speaker 1: don't mess with my name.
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  Speaker 2: Huh.
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  Speaker 1: That's right. Don't even misuse my name. No, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: give us promise with that one?
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  Speaker 2: Stuff slips halid thing. No, No.
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  Speaker 1: Commandment number four work for six days, not on the seventh.
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  Speaker 1: Don't even mess with my day. Can we get a
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  Speaker 1: promise with that?
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  Speaker 2: No? Commandment number five, honor your father and your mother.
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  Speaker 2: With that one, I give you a promise.
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  Speaker 1: You think that's not significant. It's the first one in
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  Speaker 1: the second table. It's number one on the hip parade.
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  Speaker 1: Honor your father and your mother. This commandment number five,
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  Speaker 1: you know what it comes before. Six don't murder, seven,
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  Speaker 1: don't commit adultery, eight, don't steal, nine, don't bear false witness,
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  Speaker 1: ten don't covet. And so we see there in the
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  Speaker 1: fifth commandment, this importance of honoring your mother and your father.
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  Speaker 2: There's a commandment honor your mother and your father.
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  Speaker 1: But what does God say about marriage, both in Genesis two.
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  Speaker 2: And then again in Ephesians chapter five?
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  Speaker 1: For this cause? What caused marriage? Shall you leave your
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  Speaker 1: mother and father and be joined to your wife for
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  Speaker 1: this cause that I'm gonna give you just just a
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  Speaker 1: little glimpse into the importance of marriage and the economy
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  Speaker 1: of God. Is every man called to be married. No,
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  Speaker 1: there are some very few who have a special gift
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  Speaker 1: or dispensation from God, and that's not part of the situation.
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  Speaker 1: But whether you're married or not, you still are committed
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  Speaker 1: to biblical family. Even in your own family. For example,
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  Speaker 1: back in Ephesians chapter six, children obey your parents and
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  Speaker 1: the Lord.
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  Speaker 2: But this is right.
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  Speaker 1: Honor your father and your mother, which is the first
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  Speaker 1: commandment of the promise. So even in the context of
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  Speaker 1: your home, whether you ever get married or not. Because
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  Speaker 1: here's the question that my daughters want to ask me,
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  Speaker 1: and I know you want to ask me that because
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  Speaker 1: I'm your daddy. I know you okay, and you're going, okay, daddy.
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  Speaker 1: How do we know if a man is committed to
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  Speaker 1: marriage and family he's never had marriage, yeah, but he's
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  Speaker 1: been part of a family. Is he obedient and respectful?
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  Speaker 1: And does he honor his mother and father? If he doesn't,
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  Speaker 1: he's not going to honor his marriage. So, daughters, don't
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  Speaker 1: you bring me a disobedient, disrespectful son, because if I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't willing to raise one, I'm not willing to let
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  Speaker 1: you marry one into my family. Okay, does he understand
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  Speaker 1: the biblical concept of family. Does he have a multi
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  Speaker 1: generational vision? Does he view himself as a father? Is
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  Speaker 1: he committed to children? Is he committed to that? Is
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  Speaker 1: he committed to providing for you in such a way
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  Speaker 1: that you can devote your life to those children.
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  Speaker 2: Is he committed to that?
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  Speaker 1: Or is he some pragmatic, utilitarian, materialistic American who sees
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  Speaker 1: you as another wage earner so he can live in ease.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, this was the minimalist version. There's a
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  Speaker 1: whole lot more to it than this, But if we're
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  Speaker 1: just stripping it down to the bare minimum, he must
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  Speaker 1: be committed first and foremost to God honoring labor. Secondly,
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  Speaker 1: he must be committed to God's law, And thirdly he
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  Speaker 1: must be committed to a biblical multi generational view of family.
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  Speaker 1: That is the very least that one would expect from
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  Speaker 1: anyone who claims to exemplify biblical manhood.
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  Speaker 2: And I know our time we need to start our
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  Speaker 2: other profession