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The Shedding is Over · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it.
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  Speaker 1: It's that scrubbing in life with my scrubbing in wife.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, we're back.
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  Speaker 1: I tell some people.
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  Speaker 2: Did you see the comments about how when Robbie suggested
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  Speaker 2: that was he.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, referring to me. Yeah, I think so. Oh, but
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  Speaker 1: I think it still applies.
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  Speaker 2: Like a work wife situation. Gotcha, gotcha?
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  Speaker 3: Gotcha.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I think he was like he created it for himself, right,
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  Speaker 1: which was cute. He did his homework, totally cute. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and you just said I'll take that.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much, thanks for your service. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to run with that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. You were out sick last week. I was down
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  Speaker 1: for the count. It was There's a lot of stuff
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  Speaker 1: going around. It's crazy. Ye, Haley has it again. No,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like she got it. I avoided it. You
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  Speaker 1: got it.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't avoid it.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't give it to you. Well.
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  Speaker 2: I was in the studio with you on Monday, far
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  Speaker 2: away from me, close enough, talking at each other. Wynn
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  Speaker 2: was going in my direction.
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  Speaker 1: I was sitting next to Sisney for twice as long,
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  Speaker 1: and she didn't get she has kids.
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  Speaker 2: She has an armor strong Immunes is.
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  Speaker 1: Just sitting next to Mark for twice as long. He
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  Speaker 1: didn't get it.
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  Speaker 2: He also has kids that are like adults.
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  Speaker 1: Still, kids are kids. Anyways, I had a feeling you
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  Speaker 1: blamed me for that.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm just kidding. I really didn't because I went
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  Speaker 2: to Disneyland. Oh that's what took me down. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: it was fun a lot of just because of your
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  Speaker 2: paranoy about it.
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  Speaker 1: I try to be really respectful when I'm sick. Me too.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I was like, listen, you just got better,
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  Speaker 2: and whatever's going around, you can it seems like you
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  Speaker 2: can just catch again.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So sock, I wasn't feeling good on Monday, so
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  Speaker 1: we're like, let's postpone the podcast to Tuesday. And then
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  Speaker 1: Tuesday rolled around and she wasn't feeling any better. So
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  Speaker 1: I did it with Mark. But I saw a lot
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  Speaker 1: of scuttle in the Facebook group about how when we
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  Speaker 1: like postpone the podcast, we don't like give them a
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  Speaker 1: heads up. They're right, and I'm going to start being
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  Speaker 1: better about that. And I took that upon myself and
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  Speaker 1: here we are to do what to make sure we
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  Speaker 1: alert people if we're not going to do a podcast
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  Speaker 1: on Monday.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yes, worked beautifully yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: Yes yes, oh yes, I posted it Oh well Sam, Crystal,
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  Speaker 1: somebody posted it on the scrubbing In. But I last
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  Speaker 1: week I like texted Sam and I was like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: can we be better about when we're not going to
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  Speaker 1: record on Monday letting people know because people look forward
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  Speaker 1: to it and we want to keep those are those
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  Speaker 1: are our girls? Like we want to keep them happy?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: Totally? Yeah, and if Mondays are like their day to
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  Speaker 2: listen to scribb.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like when I get home and I'm ready
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  Speaker 1: excited to watch Love Island and then I turn it
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  Speaker 1: on and it's unseen bits. I'm like so much, you'll
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  Speaker 1: so mutch.
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  Speaker 2: But one thing about you watch.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it depends on the day, but it's such a bummer.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like I understand you and I hear you,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm taking ability and we're gonna be better.
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  Speaker 2: We'll be better.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: There has been a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of missed Mondays.
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  Speaker 2: Well guess there was a holiday, like everyone was off,
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  Speaker 2: and sometimes they have like the pre recorded episodes for
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  Speaker 2: those days, So I understand like sometimes even though they
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  Speaker 2: know it's a holiday, there's expectations because others sometimes we
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  Speaker 2: do pre record Monday holiday episodes.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we've had like two Monday holidays and then you
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  Speaker 1: were sick, I had surgery. It's just been a lot.
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  Speaker 5: So just to give a little peek behind the curtain,
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  Speaker 5: take you guys behind the scenes of scrubbing in. A
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  Speaker 5: lot of your other podcasts, your favorite podcast record like
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  Speaker 5: five days before it airs, they batch them, right scrubbing
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  Speaker 5: in this this stuff is almost live. We're putting it
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  Speaker 5: up as soon as we can, so you know, we
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  Speaker 5: recorded in the afternoon typically, and then there's some production time.
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  Speaker 1: A couple hours.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah really, and like then you know I have to
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  Speaker 5: click and upload it. I mean that takes me four
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  Speaker 5: or five hours at least. I got to drag something,
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  Speaker 5: I gotta click And I'm just kidding.
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  Speaker 1: But I feel like they got pretty fast.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you know.
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  Speaker 5: But but that's why the posting time is kind of
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  Speaker 5: inconsistent on Mondays, because you know, it's we're doing.
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  Speaker 1: It live, baby, But yeah, we're not batching. We're not
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  Speaker 1: a batch nothing against batch podcast. What you got to
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  Speaker 1: do it's.
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  Speaker 2: Not our m o constant, Like, that's not our what's
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  Speaker 2: it called, like our our show isn't batched. Well, it's
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  Speaker 2: not like a script.
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  Speaker 1: It's not the life.
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  Speaker 2: It's not the batchelor, know what I'm saying. Like you
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  Speaker 2: know how people and people have a storytelling podcast, they
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  Speaker 2: can kind.
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  Speaker 1: Of or like a rewatch where they watch a show
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  Speaker 1: and recap it.
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  Speaker 4: Like right, that's not a structure.
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  Speaker 2: That's the structure because we're talking about our lives and
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  Speaker 2: what happened within the last week.
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  Speaker 1: Couple of days. Yeah, so anyway, it's a little bit
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  Speaker 1: about us.
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  Speaker 2: Well, thanks for taking that one.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm taking a lot on because it's the
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  Speaker 1: lunar New Year. It's the year of the horse.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, you feel horse.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so happy for this, like you have no idea? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I am ready for the snake to be done.
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  Speaker 2: The shedding really shed this year.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, a lot of shedding, a lot of shedding.
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  Speaker 1: And the shedding's over. Yeah, and it's time for a new.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you talked about your mojo coming back last week.
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  Speaker 2: Where's the mojo at right now?
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  Speaker 1: Pretty good?
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  Speaker 2: Like where where was it at the start of the
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  Speaker 2: year one to ten?
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  Speaker 1: Ten being negative ten.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's bad, not bad, very bad. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: we're to.
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  Speaker 1: See surgery will do that to you. Yeah yeah, freeze
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  Speaker 1: it to your knees.
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  Speaker 2: And where are we now?
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  Speaker 1: Five?
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Not bad?
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  Speaker 2: Well I mean that's a fifteen point Yeah, room for improvement,
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  Speaker 2: but not bad. Okay, okay, sorry, what have you done?
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  Speaker 2: That's like bringing it back?
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  Speaker 1: I guess just time, I think time heels. I'm also
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  Speaker 1: getting into more like a rhythm. I'm just like feeling
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  Speaker 1: a little bit more like myself. So yeah, yeah, okay, great, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: happy to hear that. Yeah, I had a nice.
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  Speaker 2: I do.
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to make like a I'm trying to make
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  Speaker 1: a reference. I'm trying to make an innuendo. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: had a nice baseball game home run, if you will
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  Speaker 1: I see. Okay, that really brought me back.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, that'll do it, and it'll do it.
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  Speaker 1: It's a little bit about me. But I feel like
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  Speaker 1: a lot has happened because when you weren't here last week,
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  Speaker 1: the Girls Like Girls trailer came out and any guys
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  Speaker 1: saw it in the theater, So there's like a lot
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  Speaker 1: to catch up on.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, last week was crazy and for Haley.
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  Speaker 2: So the poster came out on Monday, and that was like,
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  Speaker 2: a that was so cool because obviously the process has
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  Speaker 2: been really interesting because I knew nothing about what goes
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  Speaker 2: into the movie process, and like, you know, when it's
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  Speaker 2: going to theaters and you're creating the poster and I
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  Speaker 2: that's so cool, Like it's such a fun process, and
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  Speaker 2: it's like narrowing down the options that she was sent
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  Speaker 2: like so many different just posters that had different feelings,
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  Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, and so when they landed.
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  Speaker 1: Multiple posters, oh that she got to pick from, she
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  Speaker 1: got to choose.
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  Speaker 2: I think it was like her top and then like
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  Speaker 2: everyone kind of collectively came together to pick one, you know,
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  Speaker 2: And so that was really exciting. And then obviously she
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  Speaker 2: was so nervous about the trailer coming out because she's
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  Speaker 2: been working. She released the music video and the song
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  Speaker 2: in twenty fifteen, and basically after that is when she
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  Speaker 2: started working on the concept and the script and everything
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  Speaker 2: in the book. And so it's been kind of a
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  Speaker 2: ten year journey or eleven years, and she's put so
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  Speaker 2: much into it and so I think it coming out
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  Speaker 2: and being everyone else's and them getting to have opinions
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  Speaker 2: or you know, seeing.
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  Speaker 1: It's made me think about things in a very different
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  Speaker 1: way because I think about Haley and like, how much
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  Speaker 1: time has gone into this movie specifically, right, and how
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  Speaker 1: much should I talk on Like a lot of TV
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  Speaker 1: shows and movies that I watch. I'm like, this is
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  Speaker 1: like somebody's baby that they've spent so much time on.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just sitting here being like it's suck, I know,
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  Speaker 1: but you.
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  Speaker 2: Know what, I also there's that, but then there's the
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  Speaker 2: opposite where I'm able to that's what I use when
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  Speaker 2: she's you know, worried about are people gonna like it?
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  Speaker 2: Or what if people don't think it's good? And I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: you have to think people were complaining about I think
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  Speaker 2: Margot Robbie's like one of the most beautiful humans in
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  Speaker 2: the world, and people had opinions about her playing Catherine
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  Speaker 2: and Wuthering Heights like they wanted someone younger, they pictured
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  Speaker 2: someone different. It's just like people are always gonna have
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  Speaker 2: a pin And when there's already been a music video
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  Speaker 2: attached to girls like Girls, and there's a book attached
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  Speaker 2: to girls like Girls, it's like people have come up
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  Speaker 2: with this idea of but they're just gonna be opinions.
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  Speaker 2: So I think, if anything, it's kind of like art
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  Speaker 2: is subjective, and it's like some people are gonna be
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  Speaker 2: like this changed my life and like I've never gotten
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  Speaker 2: to see myself portrayed on a big screen. And some
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  Speaker 2: people will be like it wasn't for me because they
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  Speaker 2: might not be a gay girl who struggled with her
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  Speaker 2: sexuality as a teenager. Right, But it's also changed my
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  Speaker 2: perspective too, because I'm like, while these people that release
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  Speaker 2: films that took forever and if they don't do well
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  Speaker 2: or they just feel like bashed by the critics, it's
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  Speaker 2: really sad because I've seen how much just like she's
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  Speaker 2: poured everything into this.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know, think about how Ryan
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  Speaker 1: Murphy felt when what was the show with all the celebrities,
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  Speaker 1: Tiana Taylor, Kim Kardashian in Glenn Close. They got like
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  Speaker 1: a zero on Rot Tomatoes.
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  Speaker 6: You liked it, I liked it, but still I got
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  Speaker 6: like totally shadowed by Murphy.
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  Speaker 1: She just likes Ryan Murphy's doing just.
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  Speaker 2: He has a quick turnaround for his shows and.
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  Speaker 5: Budget important etail though, because people are like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 5: the movie was so bad and it's like it takes
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  Speaker 5: so much work to make a.
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  Speaker 2: Movie at all the money that went into that cast.
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  Speaker 2: But it was really cool because we went on Friday
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  Speaker 2: night because she found out. So Haley knew that it
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  Speaker 2: was coming to trailer the trailer like it's going to
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  Speaker 2: be shown in movie theaters, but she didn't know that
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  Speaker 2: the trailer was going to be shown before movies are
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  Speaker 2: like in multiple theaters. She thought she was gonna have
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  Speaker 2: to take her like poster that she had at home,
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  Speaker 2: put it into like one of the glass things at
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  Speaker 2: a local theater and might take pictures with it. Oh,
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  Speaker 2: So they told her it was showing before Weathering Heights
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  Speaker 2: and she was like where, like like in what theater
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  Speaker 2: and they're like in Regal and AMC theaters. So she's like,
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  Speaker 2: we have to go see it. So we got like
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  Speaker 2: a huge group of people on Friday night to go
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  Speaker 2: watch it, and.
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  Speaker 1: We're so bummed that we couldn't be there.
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  Speaker 2: I know, I know it's bombed, but it was so
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  Speaker 2: crazy because it's like Devil Wears Prada, Hunger Games. No,
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  Speaker 2: it's crazy, these massive movies and then it's like girls
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  Speaker 2: like Girls and it's it's just it's I.
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  Speaker 1: Can't play in front of Wuthering Heights like across the country. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: all weekend, Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Play in front of like you know that she said,
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  Speaker 2: it's playing in front of like all these huge new
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  Speaker 2: movies coming out.
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  Speaker 1: No, Wuthering Heights did like crazy, well this weekend. That
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  Speaker 1: means like a lot of eyeball saw the trailer.
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  Speaker 2: I know, so I want to.
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  Speaker 1: See Wuthering Heights just as side trailer.
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  Speaker 6: I know.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I always, of course, and like walking into the
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  Speaker 2: theater as the movie's about to start. But it made
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  Speaker 2: me go, like everyone needs to go and sit.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm always there. I'm always for every preview I
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  Speaker 1: like to.
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  Speaker 2: I tried to, but I just never make it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: but it was. It's so exciting. I'm so proud of
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  Speaker 2: her and like what a cool I don't know. I
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  Speaker 2: can't imagine sitting there wondering, I guess, never thinking that
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  Speaker 2: it was gonna come out, and then it's shown before
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  Speaker 2: like one of the biggest movies of the year right
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  Speaker 2: off the bat.
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  Speaker 1: It's so crazy because again I know nothing about movies
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  Speaker 1: or movie making, and I know that Hayley's been working
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  Speaker 1: on this, and for some reason, it's like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: Eve envisioned somebody like it looks like all these other
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  Speaker 1: big movies out there, and I guess I had a
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  Speaker 1: different impression that it was gonna look like.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what I thought, Like, I know what
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  Speaker 2: I saw you.
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  Speaker 6: When I saw the trailer, I was like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 6: it's a feature. It's a feature fanel like it's literally
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  Speaker 6: like a movie in the theaters that like is giant
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  Speaker 6: and so beautiful. Like even Robbie was like the color
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  Speaker 6: and the tone and like the visual of the whole thing.
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  Speaker 6: He was like so impressed. And I was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 6: I don't know what I was expecting.
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  Speaker 2: A school movie product, yes, but I know, not.
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  Speaker 1: Meaning that to come across in any way of like
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  Speaker 1: I was just so shook.
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  Speaker 2: But wouldn't you know someone but yeah, you were like
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  Speaker 2: I'm creating a film. I'd be like, okay, right an
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  Speaker 2: instagram real literally that you know, I think the trailer
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  Speaker 2: is gonna be I'm not kidding. When she got the
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  Speaker 2: trailer for the first time, I was like fully sobbing.
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  Speaker 2: As soon as the.
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  Speaker 1: And the way that the song like it at the
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  Speaker 1: right moments, it like gave me chills. And that rendition
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  Speaker 1: of the song is like it's different, right, yeahstril orchestral
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  Speaker 1: or estl. Yeah, it's beautiful. I do want to talk
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  Speaker 1: about something because I think I may have said something
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  Speaker 1: wrong last week and I got a fiery d M
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  Speaker 1: about it.
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  Speaker 2: One DM.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah it was just one person, but I was like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, if this is how they interpreted it,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want anybody to interpret it that way. So
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  Speaker 1: we're going to get into it after the break.
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  Speaker 3: Oh nice, and we're back.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't get to beat you to it.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry, Okay, Well, I've been wanting to tell you this
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  Speaker 1: story and actually didn't send you the DM because I
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  Speaker 1: want to like address it on the podcast in case
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  Speaker 1: somebody else also thought that I what I meant bad
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  Speaker 1: by this, Okay, but I got this DM of somebody
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  Speaker 1: basically being like, I can't believe you're friends with Haley
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  Speaker 1: and Becco. Why would you say that? So you know
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  Speaker 1: how in the trailer it says only in theaters June?
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  Speaker 1: Is it June nineteenth or June nineteenth? Only in theater
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  Speaker 1: June nineteenth? Okay, I guess I'd never pay attention to
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  Speaker 1: things that apparently they all say only in theaters Jun nineteenth,
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  Speaker 1: So in my mind, I was like, is it only
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  Speaker 1: in theaters that day? Like I can't be like, you
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  Speaker 1: have to go.
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  Speaker 5: I will defend you, Tanya. That only in theaters I
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  Speaker 5: think is a new because.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's what we got to. Mark was like,
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  Speaker 1: I think it's so that they know, like it's not
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  Speaker 1: going to be streaming. And I was like, oh, that
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  Speaker 1: makes more sense. I was like, why would it be
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  Speaker 1: in theaters one day? Like that doesn't make any sense.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like explaining that, and we're having this
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  Speaker 1: back and forth and somebody got really mad at me
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  Speaker 1: about saying that I would think it would only be
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  Speaker 1: in theaters one day and how dare I? And I
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  Speaker 1: was like, this was literally just like a legit mistake.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know. Yeah, I've never heard that. And what's
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  Speaker 1: really funny is now every time we see a commercial,
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  Speaker 1: Robbie always points out to me, He's like, only in theaters,
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  Speaker 1: only in theaters. I'm like, I guess I've just never
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  Speaker 1: paid attention to that. I was like, the wording is
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  Speaker 1: so weird, only nineteenth Why do you need.
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  Speaker 2: To do though, because there's so many also, like massive
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  Speaker 2: movies that come straight to streaming, right, So it's like,
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: if you want to see this, you better get to
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: the theater right And let me just say, Scrubbers, I
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: know what you can do. I know what happens when
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: you show up at Numbers.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: But not only June nineteenth.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: You can go off days after but opening weekend, yeah,
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: major opening weekend.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: But yes, I really wanted to clarify that because I
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: was like, I didn't mean anything by it. It was totally
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: a simple mistake. And I love Haley and I'm not
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: trying to like bash the movie at all.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: I don't think Hailey Hurd and I also think she
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: would never think anything of that. So so the person
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: who dmmed Tanya all as well, layoff, back off, back off?
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: Baby?
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: What DoD y'all do for Valentine's Day?
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: So we actually ended up going to Mammoth this weekend
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: Robbie's Birthdays Friday. Oh fun, And we went up to
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: like Robbie's love language is skiing with his family, like
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: that's all he wants to do in his life. And
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: I'm not great at it, but I'm actually I'm pretty good,
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Like I can keep it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I can
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: keep up. But so we went to Mammoth for the weekend,
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: So that's kind of what we did. Friday. I was amazing,
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Like I was, who's like a face a skier, Tanya Harding.
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: I yes, I.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: Was like Lindsay Vaughn. Up there. I was just going
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: down the mountain like just so good, right, beautiful sky
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: is not too cold. I was just like had my
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: warm chili for lunch. Then the next day, the lines
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: were so long and I ended up eating new boots
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: because they were a little bit big for me. So
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: the line was super long. So I was waiting for
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: like two hours, and I get so Robbie's like, if
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: we upgrade to these performance things, you can the lines shorter,
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: upgrade my skis, upgrade my boots, and I realized, per yeah,
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: they were very slippery, and I like the minute I
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: put them on, I was like I knew it was
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: going to be bad, but I was just like I
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: can't wait in another line to like switch them out.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: It was like, let's just go. I'm freaking Lindsay Vaughn.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I got this. I am slipping and sliding, I am
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: tumbling and then at once like I'm just not it's
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: just not it. It's very bad. So then we have
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: lunch and I was like, I think I'm gonna have
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: to just do like one more run and like call it.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: On this last run, I like eat it hurt my
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: knee and I just start bawling like a baby, like
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: I'm like throwing a tantrum, and was like, babe, we
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: just got to get down the mountain, like and then
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: I'll take you home.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: I am not skiing anymore.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: I think it was built up. I didn't think it
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: has anything to do with like the skiing. I think
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: it was just like that's what triggered. Yes, I was
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: just like had to melt down. Like I felt like
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: I was acting like a teenager anyways.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: Younger than a teenager, yeah, five year old, a five
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: year old.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: But I was also hurt.
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: So it was like, well, yeah, you're hurt, you're over
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: stimulated by the clothes.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, So then I just end up pizzaing down
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: the mountain. Yeah. Yes, it's like what they teach like
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: little children you start skiing because I was just like
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: I don't want to fall again and I just want
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: to get down. I just want to get to the room. Todyays,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: that's a little bit about my Valentine's Day.
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: Wait, so I haven't. I've never been. I've been snowboarding once,
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: like forever ago, and I barely remember the process of
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: waiting in lines. So you wait for two hours and
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: then you get to go one time.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: No, no, so just to rent. So if you own
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: all your stuff, you just head out there and you're good.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: But I don't own any of my stuff, so I
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: have rent, so the rentals because it was Presence Day weekend,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: so it's just a busy weekend, which was my bad.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I should have done that, Like after I realized my
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: boots were big, I should have when I returned them,
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: just gotten new ones.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Does Robbie own his? Yeah, so should you get some
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: of your own? So y'all can just so slow?
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: It's so expensive and I do it like once a year,
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: so it's like, what's the point, but.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: You know, just to not have to wait?
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it might.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: Be because how much if you're renting her? How much
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: is it to rent every time?
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Not as much as buying? I mean boots are like
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: seven hundred dollars. Oh yeah, it's not cheap. Wow.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: I don't know much about this that world, nor do
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: I don't like I get over in the cold. I
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: realized when I went to New York for that job.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: I realize that I get so overstimulated with like having
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: to put on layers and being like bundled and not
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: being able to freely move. So I feel like the
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: slopes would overstimulate me.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: So I think that you need to give it a shot.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: I actually think that you would love it because it's
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: cold out, but your clothes, you you're they make the
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: clothes so warm that like you're not cold as long
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: as you're covered with all like your gloves and stuff,
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: like you're not cold, and it's crisp and fresh, and
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: you're just like skiing down this mountain. It's so empowering,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: like it's and you're like one with nature. Like it's
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: really this exhilarating feeling that I really can't explain. I
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: think you would really like it, Okay, and it's like
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: a workout too.
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: Maybe Robbie can. I'll go with you all and Robbie can.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Yes, he's a good teacher. Okay, Yeah, that's a little
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: bit about about Yeah, how about your Valentine's Day? It
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: was chill.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: We woke up and did like we got each other gifts,
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: and then we went and had a cute little lunch
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: at this Italian restaurant and then kind of walked around
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: and then we just played games and watched TV and
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: had a chill night. That's fun.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: That is nice.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I made Haley a homemade card. I am just like, yeah,
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: it was crazy. I am not a craft like I
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: envy people who are crafters because I do. It's such
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: a skill and I don't have it, Like my handwriting's
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: not good. I just have never been super crafting creative
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: like that. But I found this video tutorial that this
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: girl made on TikTok, and I was like, I'm just
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: gonna try because I was sick, and I was like,
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: I have time, so I'm just gonna like. I ordered
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: some left handed scissors. By the way, have you had
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: left handed scissors.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: My whole life? What the heck you use right handed scissors?
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: Don't you old?
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: Like jaggedy? Yes? Yeah?
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: Straight line? No?
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: How do you wrap gets?
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: It's so hard?
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: I'm furiating. Yeah, get left handed sisters.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: I got them. Now. I feel like a craft master.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: So I made it and she she was like she
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: reacted so well because I was so excited to give
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: it to her because I was like I can I
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: cannot believe I made this.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: I'm blown away by what I've blown away by it too, honestly.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: And then she had she was so excited, like she
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: kept looking at it and being like, if you would
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: have just gotten me this, I would have been so excited.
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: So it was fun to do that. And then yeah,
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: the rest of the weekend, we went with her parents
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: and her family to her brother and sister to go
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: see the movie trailer on Sunday, so we did that,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: and then yeah, it was just kind of a we're
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: all like I got better, and then Haley got sick
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: against when I call it the ward, Yeah, gloroxing everything.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: On Valentine's Day morning, we had the kids, so I
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: got like all of them, I made like their I
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: put all their favorite chocolates in like one of those
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: like big hearts, you know, like those little andy boxes
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: heart boxes. So I got like their favorite candies and
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: put them in like boxes. I had like cards for
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: all them. And then when we got home, they like
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: Robbie and the kids tried to create like some sort
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: of like home alone thing where like when I walk
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: in the door trap that there was like hearts that
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: like fell on my face and like didn't work. It
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: was like this giant plaist. I like walked in the
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: door and like what is that? And then like Sebby
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: pulls this string and they come like falling down.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: Time.
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: I know, but I didn't know. I didn't know what
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: to play long and was on the ceiling.
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: Could have been like, hey, when you come in right.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Play along. A little heads up would have been yeah
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: he did give it. He did not, But yeah, they
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: like made homemade cards and stuff. So it's cute.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the whole family involved East and Els and what
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: did y'all do? I know, it was probably something really thoughtful.
• 23:55
  Speaker 5: We we exchanged gifts and then I cooked dinner and
• 24:01
  Speaker 5: then we went to There's this place in Los Angeles
• 24:05
  Speaker 5: called Heritage Square Museum, and it's this really cool place
• 24:07
  Speaker 5: where they took all these old homes from all over
• 24:10
  Speaker 5: southern California and brought them all to this like park
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: so you can like walk up down and see these
• 24:15
  Speaker 5: like beautiful homes from like the eighteen hundreds. They're all
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: just there and they do a lot of like they
• 24:19
  Speaker 5: do like a free form Christmas thing there every year.
• 24:22
  Speaker 5: It's really they do a lot of neat events. But
• 24:24
  Speaker 5: on Valentine's Day they did a ghost hunt in the houses.
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: How random romantic.
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: Allison found it. She's like, we have to do this.
• 24:34
  Speaker 5: So we went and it was so fun because like
• 24:38
  Speaker 5: you get to go in these houses, these are like
• 24:40
  Speaker 5: historic homes. You get to like just poke around with
• 24:42
  Speaker 5: like you know, the little ghost detector thing. And it
• 24:45
  Speaker 5: was so funny because the first house we went into,
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: it was like they're just kind of letting us like
• 24:50
  Speaker 5: walk around and like see if we felt anything. And
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: like they were talking about the architecture of the house
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: was built as a hexagon too, or an octagon sorry,
• 24:57
  Speaker 5: to a lot of like air flow blah blah. It
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: was like historic kind of like a lesson thing. And
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: then the second house we go in and this girl's like,
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: I have this voice box that will like translate ghost voices.
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: We turn all the we turl the lights off, we
• 25:09
  Speaker 5: just hear.
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: Cut out, get out. It's like the scariest thing, but
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: it was so scary, it was so much fun.
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: Wait, so do people live in the home.
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: No, no, no.
• 25:20
  Speaker 5: Mem now, but so no one was like living in there,
• 25:23
  Speaker 5: but people have like died in those houses and they
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: all have like kind of spooky histories.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: Anyway, it was so fun. It was a great ways
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: in Valentine's Day?
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: Do you Okay? I saw this person in the Facebook
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: group and I thought it was a good conversation to
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: bring to the pod. So this girl posted, I think
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: or she posted anonymously, and she was saying that she
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: was just disappointed because she woke up in all day,
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: say her boyfriend or husband didn't get her anything. He
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: didn't get her card, he didn't get her flowers, and
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: she had made like a little gift basket for him.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: She got him flowers, she bought all this stuff to
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: cook the dinner, and he didn't do anything. And I
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: opened the comments and I was like a little bit
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: surprised by the responses because a lot of the advice
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: was like, you should communicate this to him, that you
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: have expectations of what you want.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: What's wrong with that?
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: Because Okay, so my thing is for a lot of
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: things I agree with, like you have to communicate because
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: there are things Haley and I have different brains. Our
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: brains work differently, so there are things where I'm like,
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: I have to communicate that if I have that expectation,
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: I can't just expect her to read my mind. But
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: when it comes to a universal holiday like Valentine's Day,
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: especially in a relationship, and maybe I'm wrong for this,
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: but where there's a man and a woman, I feel
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: like the woman shouldn't have to communicate that she would
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: like a card or flowers or something tiny to acknowledge
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: the day.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: So I like agree with you, but I also feel
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: like men are kind of dumb, sometimes present company excluded.
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: No, I agree that there are several.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Men that are just dim wits and they just don't
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: like there's a lot of comments of people being like
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: does he show up for you in life? Like is
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: he a good partner to you? And she I think
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: she was responding like, yes, he shows up or something
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: like that, and I'm like, that's what really matters if
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: this guy like doesn't. I don't know, I really for
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: some reason, Like I was also one of those people
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: that was like, commute, I think you need to either
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: tell him that you like want to like celebrate Valentine's
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: Day and like make it a thing. But if he's
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: a good partner, like if he's like not a good
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: partner and he's not showing up for you, and he's
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: not like acknowledging you and he's not making you feel
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: special on your birthday or like whatever. Then he just
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: sucks and you like, that's to me a red flag.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: But like I just for some reason, I think some
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: men Valentine's Day is just like.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: I just feel like that on the ground to have
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: to like like someone showing up for you, Like if
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: you choose to be in a relationship with someone, the
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: bare minimum is showing up for each other. And that's
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: why Valentine's Day even though here's the thing, I think
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: Valentine's Day is like a capitalist like it's a people spend.
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: It's crazy like what Valentine's Day has become, and like
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: what it is. I think sometimes I'm like, this just
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: feels like an excuse for companies to make money. Yeah,
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: but I do think that our expectations should be a
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: little bit higher for the people in our lives that
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: we choose to spend our time with when it's everywhere.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: I was born on this one too, because I saw
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: the same posts and I was like, oh, like my
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: knee jerk is to be like screw him, he sucks.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: I was really thinking about it, and I was just
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: like I do think some people are just like oblivious
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: or like.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's hard.
• 28:55
  Speaker 5: I need to communicate that she expects a gift on
• 28:57
  Speaker 5: her birthday.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: That that is what I'm not even like maybe like
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: I think also maybe like he got overwhelmed, and it's
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: like does she want to like do a big, nice dinner,
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: does she want to do a thing? Like what what
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: are your expected? Some people want to be like razzled
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: and dazzled.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: It seemed like they were not high. It seems like
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: if he had acknowledged the day that that would have
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: been okay with her.
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: We need to stop. I'm sorry. I hear you, Tanya,
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: And I.
• 29:28
  Speaker 5: Appreciate when people show up in life, and you know,
• 29:32
  Speaker 5: like if someone's a great partner and then they don't
• 29:34
  Speaker 5: do anything for Valentine's Day, that doesn't automatically make them
• 29:36
  Speaker 5: a bad partner.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: However, I went to.
• 29:40
  Speaker 5: The grocery store on Valentine's Day and bought flowers. It
• 29:43
  Speaker 5: took me five minutes and a total of seven dollars
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: and ninety nine cents, and like that's all you have
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: to do, you know, like like in some cases, well
• 29:52
  Speaker 5: you have to just get a bouquet of tulips.
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: It will take two seconds from your garden.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: You can literally go to your garden and pick a
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: rosa like you just put on their pillow case.
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: That's all we have to do. Make a card. It
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: takes two seconds.
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: I read a little leaf paper out and written a
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: handwritten letter, and I bet she would have been like,
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: I feel so loved. I think that's what it is.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: It's like I guess, and sometimes even when I have
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: to communicate with Haley, I'm like, I'm annoyed that I
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: have to communicate this with you because I don't feel seen,
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: that you don't already know this, And she's like, I
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: get it, and I don't want you to not feel seen.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: But sometimes our brains don't work the same, so like, right,
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: it's like communicating that, but when it comes to something
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: that's so blatantly in your face, and I.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: Agree, Wow, I do. I think communication is key. I
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: think people are just sometimes on totally different wavelengths. Like
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: I don't think Robbie was like as like thoughtful and
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: over like you know what I mean, Like he always
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: makes me feel so special and like these things, and
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: like he shows up for me in ways and you know,
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: randomly bring me flat, you know what I mean, like
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: that type of stuff. I don't think he always had
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: that in him. I think I showed him that, Like
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: I am that way and he wants to meet me
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: where I am? Do you get what I'm saying? And
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: I thinks a.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: Great guy, this girl gave him the back.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: No, I know, but maybe next year he'll like see
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: that and he'll want to meet her there. Like we
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: don't know. This could have been their first Valentine's Day.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: It seemed like it was their first Valentine's Day. Oh
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: do you get what I'm saying? So like he doesn't know.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: He probably just like not even cared about this holiday
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: his whole life, and he probably feels like a total
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: dim wat that he didn't have anything for her. He's embarrassed,
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: so he's just like whatever, saying whatever to her.
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: If you're listening, Anonymous, I need an update if he
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: had duh, if he seemed disappointed in himself, or if
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: he made up for it with something else the next
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: day or the over the weekend.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we need a little more on this. Maybe Sam
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: can reach out on the Facebook group.
• 31:49
  Speaker 5: If there is Alison got me extremely thoughtful, much more
• 31:54
  Speaker 5: thoughtful than my gift was to her she got she
• 31:56
  Speaker 5: got me this incredible assortment of gifts and Fountain's Day.
• 32:01
  Speaker 5: I don't mean to make this about gender, because gender
• 32:03
  Speaker 5: is a construct, and you know, people can celebrate different ways.
• 32:05
  Speaker 5: But I feel like the man should get nothing and
• 32:08
  Speaker 5: the women should get a lot of attention and love
• 32:10
  Speaker 5: and you know in gifts and that like this is
• 32:13
  Speaker 5: a holiday for uh that's supposed to be focused on women,
• 32:15
  Speaker 5: in my opinion, So the fact that he got a
• 32:19
  Speaker 5: basket from her and she got nothing is like it
• 32:22
  Speaker 5: sent me and I don't know, I started screaming when
• 32:24
  Speaker 5: I read this. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, Anonymous. I don't
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: want to make this worse than it already is. But
• 32:29
  Speaker 5: like I was just like flabbergasted.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: No, I was not.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: I guess it's like, let's open the lines.
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: Let's expect more from people, is my my my takeaway.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: I think expect less.
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: Wow, No, no's but you also have an extremely thoughtful partner. Me, yeah,
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: who is like so like I think it's to expect
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: to less. No.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: Yes, But what I'm saying is I don't think that
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: is that was like who he was until he met me.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Do you get what I'm saying.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: Did you have to communicate that you wanted flowers on
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Valentine's Day?
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: No? But I let me tell you what I did.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: I write him cards every single day, Like I show
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: up in a way where I think, did.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: You want to communicate that or did he just see
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: what you were doing and then said.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: It's hard let me match this. I don't remember, if
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: I'm being totally honest, but I've had to communicate a
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: lot of expectations around like birthdays or things like that,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: like yeah.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well we love a different opinion on the show.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: That's what makes it interesting.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: I'm saying anonymous, I was not flabberg acid.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: I am expect more. You deserve more.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: You deserve you don't expect less. But what is this
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: saying like expect nothing and then be grateful, like let
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: people surprise you, but you expect things. That's when you
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: get let down. You know, you have these like high
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: expectations and then you just get totally let down.
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I don't think her expectations were high. Yeah,
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: she wasn't like, oh my gosh, she didn't take me
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: on a romantic getaway. If she said that, I'd be
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: like Okay, like did he did he write you a card?
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: Did he do something? Does he show up for you?
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: It's not always going to be a romantic getaway.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying some some man need to be taught.
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: I'm going to say something controversial here.
• 34:32
  Speaker 5: If you're dating a guy early on and he starts
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: and it's like February fifth, and he starts saying, man,
• 34:38
  Speaker 5: Valentin's Day.
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: Is just a it's just a Hollmark holiday.
• 34:41
  Speaker 5: To be prepared.
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: I heard women say that, Like women say that and
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: sometimes it's just a holiday, and so like it's not
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: what it's not all what we all think it is.
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: And if they believe that, if the women, if the
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: if someone says that and they mean it, well that's
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: their truth.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: Who are we to poo poo their truth.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: We have to take it for fa But if their
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: partner is like poopooing on it, and they're like, well,
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: I don't want to feel like I have any expectations.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: So I'm just gonna to not disappoint myself. I'm just
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: gonna say, yeah, it's not it's a made up holiday.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Anyway, Well we'll never know the answer'll never know.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: But Haley love like Hailey's favorite holiday is Valentine's Day.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: So I go, I'm like, I am not super like,
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: I'm not. I don't need a lot.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: I always get really tough because Robbie's Birthday is always
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: like a week after Valentine's Day, so it's like back
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: to back, and I'm like, which one do I like
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: go all out for? You know, it's the birthday.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: Spoiler alert, So you didn't do anything for Valentine's Day? No?
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: I did brought for him and the kids. I got
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: the chocolates and bat them all cards. Oh yeah, please, yeah.
• 35:52
  Speaker 5: This poster has been they've been together two years. By
• 35:55
  Speaker 5: the way, this person, I'll read the post.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: Really.
• 35:58
  Speaker 5: I know we've talked about this ban. Did anyone else
• 36:01
  Speaker 5: not receive flowers or any sort of acknowledgment for Valentine's
• 36:03
  Speaker 5: Safe from your significant other? I bought the food for
• 36:05
  Speaker 5: our special dinner, we cooked it together, but not a card,
• 36:08
  Speaker 5: flowers or anything. We've been together for two years. I
• 36:10
  Speaker 5: got him flowers, made a little basket for him, and
• 36:12
  Speaker 5: I literally got nothing. I know it's not about that,
• 36:14
  Speaker 5: but I just want to feel loved and noticed. But
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: we will be reaching out to this person.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: So the two years, does sorren that suspicions.
• 36:25
  Speaker 4: I'm curious if like last year was you know.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: Right, like what happened last year? We need to know.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: We need more information for me to really fully assess
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: we will.
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: Reach out to.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: It's almost worse if it's the first year, because the
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: first year is when everything's like grand and like big,
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: and you make everything a big deal. So I think
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: your theory, I disagree because I'm like, if it was
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: his furse, I would hope that he was, like, I
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: am ready to just shower her with like thoughtfulness.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: I need more info before we continue this conversation.
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: And like and also when we when we reach out,
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: does he does he ever randomly surprise you with flowers?
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: Does he ever write to you thoughtful? In other ways?
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: That's what we need on other days, on other days,
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: not just February fourteenth. Okay, there's a couple of things
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: I want to talk about.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: I do too. Oh, I wonder if they're the same
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: thing though, your brick, yeah, talk about the break yeah,
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: and traders. But yeah, I got bricked. So we're going
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: to take a break and we'll be right back. We're back. So,
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: speaking of having a partner who listens and cares. I
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: have been talking about wanting a brick for like I've
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: talked about on the podcast, yeah, like almost a year now. Basically,
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: it's a little device that you you scan your phone
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: and you select the apps that you want it to lock.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: And so, for instance, I started doing it. I wanted
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: to go to bed without being on my phone. So
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: we put the brick in the kitchen. So and you
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: have to scan your phone on the brick and it
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: locks everything, and then we go to bed and then
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: I cannot use those apps until I can.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: Tell the brick which apps. Though, doesn't just shut your
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: phone down.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, you select what you want. So I
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: do all my social media, Okay, I leave my messages
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: and my phone on because I don't want to like
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: be without that in case there's.
• 38:42
  Speaker 6: Heavens, in case there's an emergency.
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: And so it's been amazing and I feel like it's
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: going to help me so much because a lot of
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: times when I'm like doing working or like trying to
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: film a video, sometimes I'll just get distracted and get
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: on my phone and then I'm like locked in on
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: my phone.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: For like a long time beyond.
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: So this prevents you from doing it, but you're also
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: able to like, let's say I brought it in the
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: car and then we went to dinner, which we're doing
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: tomorrow night. Yeah, so on for that uh huh, I
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: could scan it in the car, scan my phone in
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: the car, turn off all my social media apps, and
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: then go to dinner. And that way I could turn
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: off everything, and that way I have no distractions while
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: I'm at dinner with you. It would be like not
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: having a phone.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: So do you have this brick on you? Now?
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: I don't have it on me now?
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: Oh but why would you like put it in your
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: purse if you want to like travel with like, you
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: could travel with it.
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you just put it anywhere. You can take
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: it anywhere, doesn't have to be connected to anything your phone.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: Just like how does it do that?
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: I don't know, but it's amazing. And granted I did
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: have a moment of being like, is it sad that
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: I need this for self control?
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: Sure?
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: But I'm grateful for it.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: Nonetheless, Yeah, you know, sometimes we all need a teacher.
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: Because I love social media like it, ew, it's fun.
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: I love scrolling, I love learning, I love not learning.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: I just I love it so much on social media.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: And sometimes I just like to laugh. Sometimes I want
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: to cry, sometimes I want to stretch my brain, but.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: My algorithm is pretty locked in.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I too, it just because we're getting laughter crying
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: and so, yeah, I love it and so and then
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: I also wanted a Ninja crispy.
• 40:23
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, now that makes like ice cream or something, right, Ninja, Yeah, that'll.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: Be next on my list. It's an airfier, okay, but
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: I have an air fire from like nineteen seventy, like
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: it was so old and so not that old, but
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: I had a really old one, and I started reading
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: about it's funny because micro classics.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: I have to do so many things that are unhealthy
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: that me hearing about microplastics is like pretty hypocritical. But
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: I was like, we need a new one anyway, so
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: why not get a healthier And so I had mentioned
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: the Ninja crispy because anything I put in that I
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: want crisp the air fier would not do it. This
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: thing crisp it up. It's amazing. One.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: I too, stopped using my air fryer because it was
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: like heating heating plastic, like like I try to avoid plastic.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: I don't put plastic in the microwave like heating. So
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: the fact that my airfryer was like hot plastic was
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: like really stressful when I was doing all my Hashi motives,
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: So I really I gave it to a family member
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: and I haven't had one since, and now I think
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna dat is.
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: It comes in glass, and Hailey got the one that
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: had three different sizes so you can cook your food.
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: And then it comes with the lid so you can
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: just take it out of the air fire and if
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: you have like leftovers, just something, put the lid on
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: and then store it. It's like Tumperware. This is not
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: sponsored by Ninja, but if you want it to be Ninja.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: Like, the only thing in my house that's still plastic
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: is my blender. I'm like, how have we? I mean,
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: watch somebody tell me that there's like a glass blender
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: out there? Is there a glass blender? I've tried to
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: find it.
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: Wait, I a glass I thought all all my blenders
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: are glass. What what blender do you have?
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know the name of Vitamix. That's I've had
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: it for a long time.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure ours is glass.
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: The blender itself said, can you do a quick search
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: really fast just to see if there's any blenders that
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: are glass? Because I tried. I've like searched again with
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: all my Hashimoto stuff. I searched for a glass blender
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: and I could not find one. Am I that.
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: Austro makes a blender that is glass?
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: Great? So I'm not dumb.
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: You know a lot of blenders are glass.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: What are you talking about, the part that like the ingredient, Yeah,
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: like the clear part.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yours is glass?
• 42:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I have.
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: One that's like a smaller version. It's plastic, but.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: I need to link to that.
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: And he had six the year of the horse, I know.
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm here blending my albond milk and
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: microplastics for the last like ten years.
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: I think you're okay, you're doing a lot of other things.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: Right, Wait, there was something that we were traders. No no, no, oh,
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: oh okay. We did something over the weekend, and I
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: am shook. And I have to admit it because I
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: have been judging these people my whole life.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: I love a moment of accountability.
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so here's my accountability. I have been judging PEPSI
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: drinker is my whole life?
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: What good?
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: I've always been a Coca Cola girlly. Okay, I don't
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: drink much soda. Yeah, but when I enjoy, I'm going
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: to get a nice cold can of Coca cola. Okay,
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: bottle of Coca cola like a glass bottle, yeah, straight
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: from the teat. So we did a taste test of
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: Coca cola and pepsi this weekend, side by side. One
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: filled with Coca cola, one filled with pepsi. I take
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: a sip of one, taste a little water down. I'm like, mm,
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: take the taste sip of the other. One tastes pretty good.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: So I said, let me get a fresh batch, because
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: maybe one of them is water down. Robbie throws out
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: the ice, fills it with new ice, pours it back in.
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: Same thing. This one's a little water down. I like
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: this one better. It's gotta be Coca cola, right, it's pepsi. Wow.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: I like pepsi better. I like pepsi better, and I
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: have been judging pepsi drinkers my whole life. Wow.
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: So you're you're gonna be a pepsi girl.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: So here to say that I am officially a PEPSI
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: girly goodbye to the water down Coca Cola.
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: What about doctor Pepper? Do you like doctor Pepper?
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: I do like I do enjoy Doctor Pepper.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: You should do. You should add doctor Pepper and the
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: next time the taste tests and see which one needs.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: I would know what doctor Pepper was, though it did
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: tastes so much different, So do those hardly.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: I think they have a very distinct taste. I feel
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: like I could do one of those blind uh.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: But to behind the Carver box, please do it. I
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: love watching those.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: I love watching them too, But you know, I'm so cocky.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: I think I could do all like coke zeros from
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: different fast food restaurants and guess them, that's.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: Sick, that's what It's not an addiction, and I haven't,
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: but like, I am so shook to my core that
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: I'm And then Robbie did it as well, and he's
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: a Coca Cola guy, and I was like proud. A
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: house divided, A house divided, A house that doesn't have
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: soda either way, yeah, but divided nonetheless, a house that.
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: Would be grateful for a nip of either in the
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: right moment.
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: I can't believe it. Like when I go to a
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: restaurant and like on the off day that I'm getting
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: a soda and I'm like, do you have cook cold?
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: And they said, no, we'll have pepsi. I was like, no.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: For years, I'm pretty.
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: Sure our little fish shock only has pepsi or no,
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: somewhere that I love only has pepsi, and I'm always like,
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: but I also like it too.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's delicious. The Polar Bear knows what's up?
• 46:28
  Speaker 5: Or is the polar Yeah, the Polar Bear is coke,
• 46:32
  Speaker 5: but Pepsi's been doing a lot of ads with the
• 46:33
  Speaker 5: Polar Bear.
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: Oh my, it's brilliant. One the Polar Bear PEPSI call me.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: Wait before we go? What did you think of Traders?
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: Okay, we have to talk about it on Thursday because
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: it's too much.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: It's too much.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: It's too much. I have too many thoughts.
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, fine, we will be back on Thursday.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: We have to also say one more thing before we go.
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, we really have to go. Uh. I
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: have been slacking on my Love Island daily recaps because
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: we went away and so I wasn't watching it for
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: a couple of days. But I am caught up, So
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: I'm going to do a whole recap. Don't you worry.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: Who's asking for that?
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: The Love Island sands. Oh oh, people were do you
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: have anything now? They missed my daily recaps, and I
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: was like.
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: Wow, I should do like a ten minute scrubbing in
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: exclusive where you just talk to yourself about Love Island.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: I could thing as I could.
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure they would love for you to
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: do that. Easton so doing fashion segments for girls.
• 47:31
  Speaker 6: I.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: Honestly could because the tea is piping. Wow, I hate
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: that term. Oh it did choge it?
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: Okay, We'll be back on Thursday with Love Trader thoughts
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: and a Dear Bonia episode. We love you so much.
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: I love you bye