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When Silence Hurts: Spotting Female Bullying & Protecting Your Identity · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: You might be wondering, is there such thing as female bullying?
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  Speaker 1: As in, isn't bullying the same for both males and females? Well,
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  Speaker 1: we're here to tell you that gender does play a
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  Speaker 1: role in the dynamics of bullying, and it's undeniable that
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  Speaker 1: it manifests differently due to social conditioning and gender roles.
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  Speaker 1: The strategies of a female bully are often more passive
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  Speaker 1: and indirect compared to their male counterpart, which are often
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  Speaker 1: more aggressive and violent in nature. But make no mistake,
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  Speaker 1: these tactics are just as lethal. Much like a poison
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  Speaker 1: that slipped into your drink when you're not looking, the
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  Speaker 1: tactics of a female bully can go undetected until the
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  Speaker 1: damage is done slowly over time. In this video, we'll
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  Speaker 1: be discussing the common strategies used by females who engage
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  Speaker 1: in bullying and why gender shapes these patterns of behavior.
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  Speaker 1: Our mission at Psych2Go is to empower and enlighten our
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  Speaker 1: viewers with educational content backed by research and insights from
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  Speaker 1: mental health professionals. Now let's begin unpacking the three most
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  Speaker 1: common signs of female bullying and what it all means.
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  Speaker 1: Number one, social exclusion. Social exclusion, also referred to as
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  Speaker 1: relational aggression, is probably one of the most familiar tactics
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  Speaker 1: of female bullying. You could even say that social exclusion
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  Speaker 1: is the very foundation of successful female bullying because that's
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  Speaker 1: where it usually starts. And of course, the drama almost
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  Speaker 1: always occurs behind your back. From gossip to smearing your reputation,
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  Speaker 1: women who engage in this behavior have to effectively convince
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  Speaker 1: others that you are problematic in some way. They have
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  Speaker 1: to ostracize you first before you're slowly alienated from the
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  Speaker 1: rest of your peers. You can see this strategy at
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  Speaker 1: play in school, the workplace, and any other group settings,
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  Speaker 1: and it definitely doesn't stop once you reach a certain age.
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  Speaker 1: The bullying just transforms into something more subtle and even
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  Speaker 1: more sinister. Why else is the popular movie Mean Girls
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  Speaker 1: so popular and relatable to the masses? So, why is
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  Speaker 1: this such a common tactic among female bullies? A growing
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  Speaker 1: number of studies show that women are more sensitive to
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  Speaker 1: social exclusion compared to men. And this can even be
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  Speaker 1: linked to human evolution and survival. In an academic article
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  Speaker 1: published by Dr. Tracy Valliancourt, faculty at the University of Ottawa,
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  Speaker 1: she explained, the benefits of using indirect aggression seem clear.
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  Speaker 1: fewer competitors, and greater access to preferred mates, which in
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  Speaker 1: ancestral times would have been linked to differential reproduction rates,
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  Speaker 1: the driving force of evolution by sexual selection. With this
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  Speaker 1: in mind, we can see why social exclusion is an
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  Speaker 1: effective strategy to bully and harm other women, because it
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  Speaker 1: can feel like a threat to our survival and social standing.
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  Speaker 1: Passive Aggression We all know a passive-aggressive remark when we
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  Speaker 1: hear one, such as, Wow, nice outfit. Looks great for
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  Speaker 1: your body type. Or congrats on getting good grades this semester.
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  Speaker 1: That's so surprising. You get the picture. These sneaky indirect
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  Speaker 1: attacks are ones we all know too well. And sometimes
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  Speaker 1: they even come from our sisters, mothers, and close friends.
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  Speaker 1: But what is the official definition of passive aggression? It
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  Speaker 1: means denoting or pertaining to a personality type or behavior
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  Speaker 1: marked by the expression of negative emotions in passive, indirect ways,
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  Speaker 1: such as manipulation or non-cooperation. The key word here is
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  Speaker 1: indirect because the negativity is always masked as a compliment
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  Speaker 1: or words of encouragement. This right here is precisely why
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  Speaker 1: passive aggressive behavior from bullies is so damaging. because their
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  Speaker 1: behavior is intentionally confusing, which in turn makes it not
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  Speaker 1: only more challenging to identify, but also much more difficult
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  Speaker 1: to prove. Females who bully often engage in passive-aggressive behavior
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  Speaker 1: because it leaves their actions in sort of a gray area,
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  Speaker 1: because their words and actions aren't overtly aggressive or violent.
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  Speaker 1: Founder of the popular YouTube channel Healthy Gamer and psychiatrist Dr.
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  Speaker 1: K brilliantly outlined why female aggression is passive in nature.
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  Speaker 1: When it comes to the neuroscience of female aggression, the
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  Speaker 1: first thing to understand is if you look at why
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  Speaker 1: women are less overtly aggressive than men. It's because women
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  Speaker 1: are much more sensitive to the possibility of retaliation. Men
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  Speaker 1: are fundamentally more comfortable with dishing out damage and receiving damage.
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  Speaker 1: So basically, bullying among females is often indirect and passive
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  Speaker 1: to avoid being held accountable and facing the consequences due
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  Speaker 1: to there being a certain degree of plausible deniability. Which
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  Speaker 1: brings us to our next point, plausible deniability. What? I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't trying to be mean. I don't know what you're
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  Speaker 1: talking about. This phrase is probably familiar to most of us.
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  Speaker 1: After being on the receiving end of toxic behavior, the
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  Speaker 1: bully turns around and denies everything. And they're often successful
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  Speaker 1: at doing so because the behavior wasn't overt and direct.
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  Speaker 1: So you can't prove it. Sometimes it even leaves victims
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  Speaker 1: questioning if they're overreacting or imagining it. Dr. K explains,
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  Speaker 1: the majority of victims don't even feel like they're victimized.
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  Speaker 1: They don't even realize that they are the victims of
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  Speaker 1: some form of aggressive behavior. This is the insidious nature
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  Speaker 1: of why some women can get away with tormenting others
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  Speaker 1: for so long because their behavior isn't even viewed as
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  Speaker 1: bullying in the first place. How can there be consequences
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  Speaker 1: if there's no transgression to begin with? By not acknowledging
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  Speaker 1: the toxic behavior in the first place, we end up
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  Speaker 1: normalizing and enabling it. Can you relate to any of
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  Speaker 1: the signs we've mentioned above? Have you experienced bullying? Please
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  Speaker 1: sound off in the comments. We'd love to hear your thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: Your mental well-being and safety are important. So if you're
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  Speaker 1: a victim of any type of bullying, please talk to
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  Speaker 1: someone you can trust and reach out for help. You're
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  Speaker 1: not alone and you deserve support. Your feelings and lived
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  Speaker 1: experiences are always valid. We provided some resources below that
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  Speaker 1: can be helpful. As always, thank you for watching and
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  Speaker 1: take care.