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- Lisa Dwoskin: Hello and welcome back to life rescue with Lisa. Thank you all for joining my podcast. Remember if you would like to call in 754-222-4413. I want to hear your comments. I want to hear topics you want to talk about. If this resonates with you, this show, please let me know why, how, when, where just Talk to me, text me, call me. Whatever you want to do, I want to hear from all of you. So I want to start this podcast with some grounding, centering, balancing. I want you to touch the ground, touch your legs, whatever is comfortable for you. Take a deep breath in. I want you to breathe in compassion and exhale out. Hate. judgment, criticizing, and anything negative that you're feeling. You can put your hands in prayer position if you'd like, breathe in compassion. Exhale negative thoughts, feelings of hate or judgment or criticizing. Exhale it out. One more time. Breathe in peace, love and light. Exhale out any negative thoughts, feelings or vibes. Vibe high with positive thoughts, positive feelings towards one another. So I'm jumping right into this podcast. And I took a lot of notes because I don't want to go off on a tangent with my emotions running high, which they are. I'm feeling a bit vulnerable during this podcast. And I like to talk exactly from my notes here about today's episode. Today's episode comes from a very human experience I had recently that made me reflect very deeply within myself. So I want to share with all of you what happened about four or five days ago. I posted something on Facebook. I have a very large following on Facebook and I posted something there with an intention that felt very loving and positive to me. But it was interpret, interpret, interpret. interpreted and I'm not going to edit this at all because I'm real, I'm true, I'm authentic. People took it very differently from what I was trying to portray. What surprised me was not the disagreement. I have no problems with disagreement. Really puzzled me was how quickly people moved into personal attacking. on me, my character, my looks, my body, how I present myself. I mean, it was crazy. Here I was trying to do something about peace, love and light. And it was, wow, taken completely out of context. And here I go off my notes. So let me stay on my notes. Okay. It really hurt. It hurt me very deeply. But you know what? I wanted to leave the post up because I didn't want to back down from what I stand for, which is peace, love and light and trying to spread love to others. But most importantly, raising mental health awareness of what helps people to feel better, be healthier and happier. So I didn't take it down deliberately. for 24 hours and I'll tell you the rest in a minute. Why are people so quick to attack instead of trying to understand where I was coming from? Social media is out of control, out of control. There's so many assumptions and they don't even know you. Like if you don't know me personally, don't attack me. If you know me personally and you have a grudge and you want to attack me or something, pick up the phone, tell me to my face, not on social media. It's ridiculous. Emotional triggers that people have is just wow, out of control. People are seeing symbols very differently and I don't want to bring up the symbol. I don't want to bring up the politics. I'm not turning this into a political podcast. I just want to say that everyone has different opinions and what means one thing to one person could mean something completely different to another person. Differing opinions is fine. I have no problem with that, but do it with respect, with love. with compassion. Don't tear each other down. Don't just hate on one another because that's why I did the post the way I did to try to talk about peace, love and light, not about hate, resentment, tearing each other down. It became out of control that post. So you can definitely Do it with kindness. You can disagree with respect. That is all I'm trying to say. We have all lived through moments where people made different choices based on what felt right to them. Health choices, parenting choices, political choices, beliefs of whatever it is that we're discussing. Somewhere along the way, disagreement started to feel unsafe. And this is just what I really want to talk about today. So I do want to talk about something in specific, not about the political race and red versus blue and left versus right. No. And by the way, I always wear blue. It's my favorite color. I do not have a side for those of you who saw my posts and you're shaming me. on whatever political views you think I have or don't have. I am neutral in the middle. I'm about peace. That's what I'm about. Peace, love, and light. Whoever is going to help our country is who I stand for. I don't hate on anyone. I don't really love on some views and different things going on in the world. Of course I have an opinion, but this is not the time for me to give it to all of you. And many of you on the post were shaming me so hard and wanting me to fight back and to talk about who I stand for and what I believe in. that wasn't what I was trying to do. I was trying to say, let's all come together as one and unify this country in one love. And I played the song one love and boy, they were going off on that too, that Bob Marley would rollover in his grave because I was saying that we want to make America great. That is my words, not the words from MAGA, not the words from Trump, not the words from a hat. No, my words. Let's say make this country great. Let's say make this universe great. You know what? That's what I'm going to say because I'm all about the higher consciousness of living. I'm about the universe, the law of attraction. So how about this? Let's make this universe great by standing together with love, with peace and with kindness. But of course, if I did a post like that, I'm sure I'd get disagreements of whatever I'm saying. And again, that's fine, but don't do it with hate and don't tear each other down because let me tell you something. The things that people were writing. I did a post on Facebook and it was about peace and love and light and making everyone united. Okay. Maybe the terminology I chose the symbol I chose. Okay. I understand why some people were disagreeing. get it. But these people on my post, ⁓ my God, I had like 300 comments and there were women on there. ripping me apart, talking about I'm trying to get my boobs liked on Facebook. I don't need to have all of you like my boobs. I love my boobs. That's all that matters is what I like. I don't care what any of you like about my body, sorry to say. And then another woman was saying that I something about my butt in the mirror. I'm a fitness professional. I wear fitness clothes. I was power walking with a client and taking a picture of me in a workout outfit. ⁓ my God, I'm sorry for showing myself as a fitness professional. Okay. I am going off topic and I didn't want to do this, but I'm fired up about this a little bit. So all I want to say is don't shame each other. Don't shame each other. And I never wrote back to any of those comments. People were getting mad that I was copying, pasting, I honor your feelings, but I really meant that. And I didn't want to start arguing. That wasn't the point. I don't need to argue. And the point is I did take the post down because not because I didn't believe in my post. I didn't believe in what I stand for, which is the world becoming one and that's why I always say namaste. My soul recognizes your soul and we're all one in this collective universe. I took the post down because it started affecting my well-being and my intentions to try to spread love turned into something that was turning into hate. and tearing each other apart, the exact opposite of what I wanted. So the next day I decided to take it down, not because I'm ashamed of what I said or put on Facebook. It's because I have decided in my life, and I talk about this on every episode, to put myself first, my wellbeing first, to set up boundaries in my life. to love myself and respect myself first and foremost. And when I woke up the next morning and put on Facebook and saw the hate was continuing, I decided to take it down because I did not want to put that toxicity into my mind, body and spirit. So I took it down for myself because I know what I'm all about. I don't need to prove to anybody my worth, my love for myself, my greatness and my intentions. I'm sorry for those of you who took it wrong, but that's your problem. That's not my problem. So I will continue to be who I am, stand for what I believe in and keep spreading the love with my rose colored glasses. Yes, rose colored glasses. should have put on a pair. I do have rose colored glasses and guess what? I am never going to change that for anyone or anything because the world is a harsh place. There are harsh people in it. Harsh things happen to good people. Yes, there's tragedies going on. Yes, there's disgusting things going on that very much make me upset. not only with humans, but with animals. But let me tell you something, all of that is not going to change my rose colored glasses because I choose to wake up every day and believe that today is going to be a better day than yesterday. And today I am going to make five people feel great about themselves. Even if I'm not feeling great about myself, you want to know why? Because I want to spread love. Because I know that when I spread love to one person, two people, three people, four people, five people, that's my goal every day. Those five people are going to spread love to another five people and another five people. And it becomes a domino effect. And that is what God filled my heart with when I was born and I heard a voice at five years old telling me that I need to do this and I will never stop. So sorry for you haters out there. Hate all you want, love all you want is not going to change or stop what I believe in and what I stand for and what I will keep doing. Okay, so back to my notes because I got off track there. My intention is not to convince anyone to like me. That is not my intention. My intention is to ask this. What happened to compassion? What happened to kindness, to love? Where did it go? So if you're watching this and you're hating on me right now, Go look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, ask yourself what happened to my compassion? What happened to my kindness? What happened to my love to one another, to myself? Ask yourself that question. Can we allow people to have different experiences, perspectives, and opinions while still treating each other with dignity? That is the question, and I'm going to repeat that again. Can we allow people to have different experiences, perspectives, and opinions while still treating each other with dignity. That is the message that I want to drive home to all of you. Unity does not mean agreement. Unity means respect. And I put that in a video that I posted yesterday actually about today's podcast. hear this loud and clear. Unity, and I like to do the U, U, yes, hurricanes, the U, go canes. Unity does not mean agreement. Unity means respect. Namaste. Okay. So this week, here is my homework for all of you lovers. and haters out there. Are you ready? This week, before reacting to someone who sees things differently, pause. Ask yourself, can I disagree without attacking? Yes. Yes, love, peace, light. Can I disagree without attacking? Lead with kindness, even when it's difficult. Okay, that goes for all of you out there who are thinking about politics who are thinking about whatever you're thinking about your relationship, your love life, your children, your animals, whatever it is your fellow Entrepreneurs, your fellow colleagues, your peers, whatever it is, lead with kindness, even when it's difficult. And that was my last page of notes. So what I want to just say is thank you all for listening and thank you all for just understanding that I am here to do this life rescue podcast. to spread love, to spread peace, to open people's minds up to a different way of living, a higher consciousness way of living, to help heal the universe as a whole, as a collective, not whose side, not what color you are, not what race you are. Yes, there are many people in the world who have done many bad things. And I'm sorry for that. But we cannot control those people. Those people need to control themselves. Yes, we can make the world a better place. And I believe it's through kindness. It's through love, and it's through compassion. And it's through disagreeing, having opinions with respect. So I hope you all have a beautiful day. And don't forget call in 754-222-4413. Leave me messages, texts, comment on this video. And for you haters out there, if you start hating on me, peace, love and light to all of you. Okay. That's all I have to say. Peace, love and light and go on your way. And don't forget to look in the mirror and ask yourself, how do I feel today? How do I bring back compassion, love and kindness into my life, my mind, my body and my spirit? So have a beautiful day and I will see you next week. Namaste everybody, bye.