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EPISODE #21 · WOMEN MAJORING IN MARRIAGE

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Welcome to the women, majoring in marriage podcast with your
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host Janice L. Vance.
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Girl, if you are a married woman that desire is not just to have
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a surviving marriage, you know, the kind that's just on cruise
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control but actually want a thriving marriage.
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You are in the right place. If you are engaged, this show
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can inspire you to prepare for your marriage, before preparing,
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for that expensive, wedding day. Oh, and all my single ladies out
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there. There that are in their season
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of waiting on God, to send your husband.
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We've got something for you as well, girl, marriage is not
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hard, but it certainly is work. So relax.
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Get your pen and paper, and let us major in marriage.
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Well hello to all of my queens and welcome to the women,
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measuring Mary podcast with yours, truly Janice Vance.
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I am so excited today to be doing episode number 24, and the
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24. Yeah, number 24, I can't believe
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I'm 24. When I was contemplating, should
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I do a podcast and what I'ma Do a podcast on?
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But God has been blessed. And I have been, I have been
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getting great feedback. I Hrp back appreciate the
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feedback that I received on the last one when I talked about
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reset 420, 23, I think my sister Barbara called a shout out to
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her for posting how it really blessed her.
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And I had a lot of things hit home for her and I believe in
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resetting for 2023, all of us got something we can reset and
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start doing, but I am so delighted.
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Dated today to have a guest. Y'all notice, I'm having guests
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that I never met before seeing like my sister, which was my
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first one. I think that was a only
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somebody. Let me think.
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Let me think. Yes?
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No, yes, I am. But God, I prayed, when I
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started doing this, and I said, when I want to invite guests, I
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pray and ask God to God's, you lead me to people that leave
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them to me. And Let them be a bitter lesson
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because I want them to add value.
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That's the whole purpose of the podcast is not about me but that
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people will listen and that they will receive a blessing that it
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will add value to their life. I have this beautiful young lady
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with us today and I'm going to introduce her, her name is Mary.
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Mom Mom. Yes they're Mambo.
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She's a mother of three. Beautiful children.
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She's a sexual assault survival, and a self-published author with
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a co-author Guru takes Burns. Is that correct?
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The Run takes a ride, takes burn the co-author and the day and I
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episode number or I type, it would be I promise, I promise.
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Wow, I promise. Haven't read Mary book.
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The title is so befitting. His sober feeling.
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It was a book. I just told her it was a book
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that, you know, some people can read it all at once, but it was
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one that I had to read put down Reaper down.
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It is so much, like a movie mirror.
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I'm so proud of you. I remember me first.
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Reached out to me that you want to write a book and you had
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already start writing things and getting it together and how you
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did not procrastinate use consistent and you did it and
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look at her book I promise I promise what a blessing.
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What a blessing, what up lesson and and writing a book is not
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easy. It really is, you know it brings
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out Out some hard places. It makes you think it takes you
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bad, you have to go back and and dig up a lot of things and a lot
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of memories and all of that. I'm sure reading that book that
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this that that really wasn't easy for you.
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You had to relive this, this book, this book, this book and
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and another interview I did with enter Friday, Breaking the
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silence. I told her this and I'm telling
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you this this book is going to be a movie.
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Yeah, if y'all know what is book need to get to to, come on Lou,
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let them reach out to me this book.
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Tyler Perry leave me please here at Allah.
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Please him was to be this this book that's why I tell in
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Breaking the silence when you read the bull you get so lost in
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it. I was like okay, let me just
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take a deep breath. Put it down and put it back up.
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When I you all hear her storage, she's not going to tell you all
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the whole thing about she's going to share, what inspired
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her to come up with I promise. And how did she arrive at that
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butt? And she's gonna tell you all at
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the end, how you can go about getting humble, you need to get
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the book, everybody need to get the bull because it's, it might
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not be you. That been in this situation, you
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might know. Nobody else they've been in the
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situation and it's so many women that suffer in silence.
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I say that all the time they afraid to tell their story.
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But more people are coming out now because of people like mayor
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that are telling their story that making them more
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comfortable, the the young lady I was talking about, you know,
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fried I received so many messages or email that.
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Wow. That was so a, I wish I was that
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brave. Oh, this happened to me.
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This happened to me, it's so many things happen to people,
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and they go on through life, not sharing it, not sharing it, and
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it affect, their, it affect their life, as an adult, it
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affect their, it affect their life in relationships, because
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they have to learn themselves, find themselves, all of those
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things. So, ladies, Please get the book.
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It will you get the book for somebody else?
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You know, but I'm not gonna keep talking but I'm gonna let Mary
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come in her own way and tell us tell us about her.
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How she got started? What inspired her and how did
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she come up with the topic? I promise.
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All right, Mary, hello everyone. My name is Mary.
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My mom like she said. I am a mother of three.
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I started writing this book and 2019 took me a minute to even
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decide to write it. I did have someone that I was
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working with that. Always told me.
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You need to tell your story. You need to tell him.
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I'm Your Story. Mr. Thorn Burns is the
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co-author. He was the only person I've ever
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told my full story too and I was able to tell my full story.
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It took me a minute. I think it took us.
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It's been like three years two and a half three years to put
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the Gotta finish it and do everything but it I'm not going
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to lie. It did take me to a dark place,
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the real dark place because I had to act like she said, you
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have to ask me up and run through everything that plays on
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how I came up with the title that new and have to read the
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book to find out because it's in the book.
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Why naming a promise? So once you read it and you go
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through it, you're going to be like ah ha moment.
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Oh wow. Okay, that's why.
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But the reason I wrote the book Is because to me, it was
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therapy. I can't say this.
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I've never been to therapy, but to me it was therapy to tell.
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My story is therapy. To help other young ladies and
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young boys and people young old. It doesn't matter age race and
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religion. It doesn't matter.
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Everybody has a story, but for me, it helped me.
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It helped me just release, help me to breathe and so to help me.
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Having kids, you always want to do things to protect.
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And I was so like this with them, I wasn't able to breathe.
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So once I started writing and just releasing everything that I
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suppressed. So young.
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So I suppressed when I was, you know, young 11 years old, I
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suppress it so bad. I didn't know that I wasn't
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breathing. So by writing this book, allow
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me to breathe. Allow me to love love life, love
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my kids, more than my kids different and seeing different
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views in a different way. So, like I said, this was
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therapy for me. I just just everybody have their
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own way of coping in my way of cocoa or suppressing, like I
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need to suppress things. If I press it, I forget it, but
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it doesn't go away. So, writing this book, I did go
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in the dark spot, and one of the things that I'm gonna give
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praise to his that mr. Diwan Burns.
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Always told me that I'm going to.
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It was powerful too. To me, I'm going to put you, I'm
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going to bring you walk you to a dark place to walk.
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You right out. I'm going to bring you to a dark
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place, but I'm going to walk with you right out.
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So I worked with like I said, the wrong Burns.
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And also work with a TM and teca, who's I work with, it's my
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manager and both of them like together hand in hand, like had
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me go through everything that I have to go through to write this
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book, but they was there when I tell you is times.
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Well, All of us is I'm not writing a book anymore, I can't
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do it but you know they want into a dark place to walk me
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straight out. Also keep in mind I want to say
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this that It's not easy to tell your story to be truthful with
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your story. Everything that's in the book If
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I did not remember it. I did not put it in a book if it
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was to a point where I was like, oh, I think so.
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Oh, I think this happened. I didn't put it in the book.
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Everything I have in that book, it's my truth.
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This is my truth. There's uh no, this is nobody
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else, true. This is not true.
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This is not my kids, true. This is not whoever truth.
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This is Mary, my mood truth. So I just want people to know
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and understand, it's your truth. Go ahead and express yourself
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and tell yourself. It's hard.
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It's really hard. You may keep people what they
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don't believe you but it doesn't matter.
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It's your truth. So the most important thing is
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speaking your truth. And that was my this is my
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truth. How could you tell could you
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give a little more information? What information you want to
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share to let them know? Okay, her story.
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What, what is what it really is? A story tell a little, take us a
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little bit. Keep a curiosity.
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Like, okay, what I know. I know that you said that use a
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sexual assault survival. Could you could you just kind of
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tell them a little bit, your age as a child Telltale a little bit
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to make them want to find out exactly what happened?
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I walked I was molested from the age of 11 years old to 13 years
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old from our remember that was molesting me in my own home so
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for two years I was molested, it goes a little bit beyond that.
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I don't want to tell too much but it's things that happen and
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occur that happened that made things come out that I Journey
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that had to go through. It wasn't just, I was molested
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42 years in this whole book, it's about being molested and
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anything like that, it goes different steps again.
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Like I said I was molested for two years, By a family member
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that end up. Did they go to jail served his
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time? It's still in my family.
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Mmm. And, you know, you know, certain
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certain things occur in certain things happen that I have to go
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through and learn and it's just a different Journey from.
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Like I said, being molested till Going through that as a young
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age and nobody knows, nobody knows what's going on in my
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home, with my parents stared, when my parents still in other
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rooms, couple rooms down, it's still going on for two years
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that I never told anyone and never spoke.
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And the, the journey I go through of those two years for
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being molested, and going through that and having a family
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victim that they looked at as a child.
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Also, they still look at him as they They own also.
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So you know, I go you do you go through the different things of
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as a kid like why didn't? You know, people may ask me
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you're not done before where people?
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Why didn't you tell? You know, when you are sexual
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assault victim, this is me. I'm going to go speak for Mary
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that you have the shame, you have way.
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You don't want to break up the family, you have the
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embarrassment and then you have the, it's going to be my fault,
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are they going to blame me for it?
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So it's different things that you go through.
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A chow for me that I thought in my head.
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As in Libya, you got to think I'm 11 years old and what 1992?
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The, so in that age, that's different from the levels.
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Now then let me always back then, right?
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Is that, you know, with that, you know, I've had to go through
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the, it's my parents don't believe me is my family, go
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break up, you know, are they really going to do this?
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And again, this was a family member but it was a step family
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member. So it was like Is my dad going
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to believe that his. His relative is doing it to me.
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I'm a stepchild, you know, and my dad has never claimed me as a
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stepchild. He's always said his daughter.
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But, you know, as a 13, 11 Euro, you go.
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Do those mental things in your head.
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So I went through all this and then the book explain to me,
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explain how I went through. All those, how we throw
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different phases of blaming myself, not thinking no one's
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going to believe me and you know just everything the Steps.
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And it's also a surprise in the book.
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It's a surprise way. You just wow so it is a journey
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in the surprised. It's not just me.
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Ben lesnick, I tell my stuff. Excuse me, I'm sorry.
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I tell my story thinks I'm getting choked up.
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I tell my story to the best of my ability but I also go in deep
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and give a part of me that a lot of people didn't even know.
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Till I want to say 2012, I had a best friend that we have been
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friends since seventh grade. She never knew I was molested
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until I came out with my story. So I just to Spain, all this
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stuff I suppressed for so long that I dealt with myself by
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myself, you know. I just think and I'm sorry if
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I'm Ram keep going, no, you're fine.
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I think as a woman you get to the point where you don't want
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to hurt you rather not hurt someone you don't want.
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Hurt, anybody else? So you're going to keep things
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to yourself. While you read it hurt yourself
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because you don't want to hurt others.
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You put other people first. But sometimes you got to be
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like, you know what? I got to put myself first.
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I got to make myself happy because if I'm not happy my
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three kids and I will be happy if not I'm not happy my home not
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gonna be happy. So that's one of the things that
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reason why I decided to write this book is because I wasn't
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happy, no matter how much I smile smile for everyone.
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I helped everyone inside. I still wasn't happy, so my
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enemy wasn't happy. So Writing this book released a
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lot released, a whole lot. Wow!
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Wow, wow. Can I ask you?
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At what age was when you told your mom or told a family
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member. I told him.
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I'm at 13 years old. Well that's all my mom.
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What happened to me when I was when I was 13 years old but I
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couldn't hide it. No more.
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I couldn't hide anymore. It was I couldn't hide it.
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No more. It is just had to be told so I
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couldn't hide it and that person.
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So yeah that person you know, served his time and so I was 30
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years old again I'm sorry I was 13 years old when I told.
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Hmm, okay and see what else I need to ask and is there
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anything else? Anything else that you would
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like to share? There's a part of the book that
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I do that. I do want to share that things
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in life happen, for a reason. But it doesn't have to Define
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you. It doesn't have to Define you.
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I want people to know that I was molested for two years straight
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and from a family member, but it didn't Define me.
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It didn't make me where I was out on the streets, I was doing
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this. I was doing that.
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That doesn't Define you just because you and I tell this to
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young ladies and men also because I do work with young
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adults, I tell them just because what happened to you when you
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was younger, does not define what happens.
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You are what goes in when you as an adult, just because this
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happened, doesn't mean, okay? I'm going to be like this,
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because something happened to me and I was younger.
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You make your own choices and tell your story.
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Like, don't tell your story. If nobody believed you go to the
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next person. They don't believe you go to the
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next person at some point. Don't just hold it in because
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you do like me where you suppressing everything is
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suppressed. I didn't trust, I didn't love, I
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learned how to love again. So I learn how to be in love
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again. I know.
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How to love myself, which is most important.
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I say that my book has a lot of surprises, but I just want to
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know when you read the book, be very open-minded, be, very
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open-minded. And just, I hope that my book
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can just give other people men and women of time to say, you
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know what? It's time to tell my truth.
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That's the whole thing. Just tell your truth and nobody
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ain't nobody can do nothing to you.
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That you tell your truth. Ain't nothing else.
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Worried. Right, right as a mother Mary
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with you having to go through what you went through, as such
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an early age. How did how did that make you
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feel as a mother? You more open with your
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children? What's the age of try?
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Know you have some twins? I have twins.
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That's eight years old boy and girl, okay.
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And I have a 28 year old son. Wow, so does that, does that?
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q more open to protecting them and letting them know it's okay
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to talk and not to be afraid and and hopefully this would be and
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this would be a lesson to us as parents grandparents or whatever
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to to, to always to always talk and make the children, feel
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comfortable that they can keep you in tacos.
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Very open with my kids, especially my eight-year-old
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boy. And girl, I'll let them know
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that. You can tell me anything, I
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don't care. You know I had that if you if
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you tell this they not going to believe you tell this your
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parents not going to believe you because they love me more are
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you know I tell my daughter and my son, it doesn't matter.
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Mom is going to believe you. Just tell me, tell me what's
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going on. Even if you think I'm gonna get
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mad, I'm not gonna get mad at you.
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Even if someone tells you you're a mom or your dad or whoever is
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going to get mad at you even if it's Mom or even if it's Dad it.
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Matter, till talk, and I talk to my kids.
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I'm very open with my kids. I talked to him.
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I tell them, you know, talk to them about the private parts in
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the things. No, we don't do Secrets.
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You're not going to tell my kids.
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Oh, you just don't tell your mom or you don't tell your dad and
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we're good. We don't do that.
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They'll come to them. They will tell me.
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They will come and tell me they'll tell you.
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So don't don't come. My key is to be like, you don't
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tell your mom didn't tell you Dad.
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They don't belong. Can you tell me
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if you want? You're not going back.
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I don't let my kids go. Spend the night to other people
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houses and not anything person that this is me.
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But it is person but right, I don't know.
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My kids, I'll just go anywhere to spend a night, two, different
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family, members house and, and I'm just protective, but before
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the book I was really protecting you couldn't do this, you can't
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do that. But again, the book was my
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outlet, I read to this release did not so much, let loose, but
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to say, okay I'm releasing so write this, you know, I am still
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close and really really, I'm closing my 28 years old, my 28
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year old and so we're good. Good.
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That's that's awesome. It helped me build a better
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relationship with him also. Wow, wonderful, wonderful.
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Like she said there's that's why it's gonna be a movie.
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This is gonna be a movie because there's a lot of surprises in
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this book. Just from what she telling
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about, what she went through at such an early age and her
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journey, her Journey throughout mayor, was there a time when you
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Or since your mom found out with us, the time you were, she said
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that, you know, I noticed you was different or I noticed you
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was to yourself. What type of what type of child
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was you prior to this? I wasn't very for what?
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I don't know. They said I was I've always been
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quiet, always been a quiet girl. I've always been quiet so I
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guess that that person was easy, it was easy for them because I
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was always quiet and to myself. That's all.
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I've been lady who did the books.
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She was always quiet. Always quiet it to myself.
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And my family is close, though. I do have a big thing.
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Is my family still close to mean, you don't, Michael Perry
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is closed. So the even though we was close,
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they still didn't notice. Because maybe, maybe I hit it
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too much, because of me thinking I'm protecting, I'm protected,
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certain things. I'm protecting my family because
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I don't want them to get mad. I don't want them to blame me or
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whatever the case, but I've always been like a quiet Just to
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myself her seriously. Wow.
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Well Mary, this has been awesome.
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I appreciate your time. I appreciate you coming on.
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And you also have. Is it a nonprofit organization?
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I do. I do have sorry.
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I do have a non-profit is called Pace, public awareness training,
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education of survivors where I go out and I talk to young men
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and women. We do have multiple sections,
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where I do go talk to Two young ladies about different things.
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It just don't have to be sexual assault, just being a woman and
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growing up and being aware. And then we also have a section
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where we have a group of men that go out and talk to young
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boys and helping them become men.
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Especially these men that these young boy says, transition from
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high school to college, just awareness of what you need to
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pay attention to not to put yourself in that situation.
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Certain things that she say, no is no if she joking laughing
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play haha no no just stop. Just cut it off right there.
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So we had, we did do have two different programs.
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It's the same thing. It's what pays the nonprofit,
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but we do work with me and you do work with young women and
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then we also work with parents, whose been through with kids,
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with sexual assault. So if you need us to come out,
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we drop all over. You need us to come out parents,
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who've been through kids who sexual assault and don't know
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how to deal with it. Don't know how to deal with
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anything that's going on, we do. Go through is help them to the
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kind of cult or just kind of help them understand that child,
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what they're going through and what they might be going through
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the whole process. So my again my nonprofits is
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paid. PA Tes anytime y'all can reach
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out to me. So yes, ma'am.
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Okay, wow. Okay.
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And this episode would, as you all know, I do my episode second
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and Both Wednesday and of course, it'll be.
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When you hear, it'll be already out on the 25th and I would like
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for you all to download the Spotify app, share the app,
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share the podcast. The I'll be posting the link
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constantly posting the link. I'll give it to Mayor.
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She was shared and people can hear her story.
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And a just a bull and purchase a bull and Mary concerning your
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book. How would they be able to
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purchase your book? You can purchase it on Amazon,
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is I promise it's going to be on Amazon.
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And it also, if you would like a signed copy of the book, I am
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signing a copies, you can reach me by phone.
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The number is 28 1318 1300, and they don't think I do, give me a
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call. My number, you can call me text
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me. Again, you can purchase the book
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through Amazon or if you would like a signed copy that I'm
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signing copies and I will ship it off to you.
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You can reach me at 28 1318 1300 and we'll get it out to you.
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Awesome awesome. So ladies I know some I know
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some me and listen to my podcast to now.
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Yeah, me and listen to my podcast.
27:11
So but it is a women. Major name women.
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Majoring in marriage is my platform where I encourage women
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that are married to not just have a survive and married, but
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a thriving marriage and then those that Engaged encouraging
27:32
them to prepare for being a wife before they prepare for the
27:37
wedding day. You know, once they get engaged
27:39
all about the wedding date, or whatever, all about getting
27:42
married. But prepare for being a wife,
27:45
and then also to those that are in the season of waiting, on God
27:49
to send a hug to encourage that woman to love you.
27:54
Find, you know, you, why you waiting on God, to send your
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Osman, prepare for being a wife. I tell, I tell single women that
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want to be married. Desire husband live on yourself.
28:11
Love you find, you know, you because a lot of times, people,
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such as a situation with you sometime people have been hurt.
28:19
They have been abusive relationship or other
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relationships and then they get married, but they never was
28:28
over. I was hurt and I was pain.
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Yeah and they they end up bleeding on the person that
28:34
actually didn't even cut them. Somebody else did thudding.
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But then this person, this husband now got you and he's end
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up being the one that has to deal with this.
28:45
So make sure that you are. He'll make sure your whole make
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sure you love yourself self. Care is so important.
28:54
Get to the root of whatever the issue is and your life like so
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many. People, like, I had several
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people say, I wish I was brave enough to tell my story and same
29:07
to same situation, things like this has happened to them.
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And what person is what parts of older than me?
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And never she told me I'm the second person that she told it's
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true and now she feel you know I'm too old now to let it went
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bad, this long. No you need to help somebody and
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you know what? I'm sorry, one of the things
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that I also found out when I put the book out, more men reached
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out to me for men, reached out to me about being sexually
29:47
assaulted, then the never. So there's yeah, it's a lot.
29:52
So more men reached out to me about wow, wow.
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And then, of course, you know, Women.
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We women sometimes don't hold things in as long as me, and
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we'll and then they and then you got something that'll tell the
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store later on, but they try to be strong and they go on in life
30:20
and then relationship with with the with these issues that they
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have suppressed. Yes, yes.
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Oh, I've I appreciate you sharing your story.
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I know she didn't get, she didn't get into the book that is
30:36
for you to find out. I promised these you get them
30:40
bull, you'll thank me later. Get the book, your thank me
30:44
later. A lot of surprises in the book,
30:47
a lot of surprises in the book. A lot of surprised because she
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couldn't really get deep into the book, but you know her story
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and like she says is more than the sexual.
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All right, you'll see that in the, you read that in the book.
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So get the book ladies, gentlemen, get the book, share
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the book, and I just appreciate her getting on here, too.
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Because we want to encourage people to be vulnerable, be open
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until somebody talk about it. Be what you able to share so you
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can help somebody else. You know, how many people that
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are not telling their story? So this would encourage people.
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So, Amir, I appreciate you. I appreciate you coming on.
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I appreciate you telling us. I pray to God, will bless your
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bless your book. And I know that shadow doubt,
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he's gonna bless because it is definitely a God thing.
31:46
This book is definitely God, they not know that.
31:48
He's I know that Shadow of Doubt that he's got that he's gonna
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bless and I'm just thankful that you've honorable enough and you
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came out to tell you came, You tell your story and how you your
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relief, you feel a relief and you're going around blessing
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others where they'll be able to just tell their story.
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Not only having anything to be sexually being sexually
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assaulted, but whatever, whatever their story is or
32:19
whatever. The situation is, letting them
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know that your past doesn't Define you, you know, and I
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appreciate you so much. We never met.
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Yet. Hopefully one day we'll get a
32:32
chance to hopefully one day we'll get a chance to meet.
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I remember when I wrote my book my best friend Lisa, Renee tall
32:42
but you are working together and she shared the book with you and
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from that point I heard from you and you was telling me how you
32:56
had started a couple of years. Pride and, and what was on your
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man and everything, but you didn't just sit back and talk
33:06
about it. You did something about it.
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And for that, I salute you mayor and I pray to God will bless you
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bless your family but your children and and hopefully one
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day we'll get a chance to meet. Have you been doing?
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We are we going to meet Once when I was younger though, I was
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younger. I was younger.
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I need to come out there. I need to meet you and hang out
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and spend time with. Yeah, maybe I can help you go
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through the book that the parts that, you know, just like, I
33:40
don't know if I want to do that. Well, yeah, but I do truly,
33:44
truly, really appreciate you reaching out and allowing me to
33:48
talk to your audience in getting to know a little bit about me.
33:52
My story, just remember like, Like everybody like read this
33:57
book like is I know, I don't know if you can see it's a glare
33:59
on it. Yeah, I could see like just just
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read it and have an open mind and things that happen in this
34:06
book. Again, it's not just sexual
34:08
assault, it's more. It's more levels to it, it's
34:12
deeper and just please read it. Give me your feedback.
34:16
Let me know what you think, and it's more to come of.
34:20
This book is more to come. So please just, you're not gonna
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thank you. Thank you.
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Doing another book or yet be is more even put to it if you're
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gonna do the other book before the movie or the movie before.
34:32
Look, I like that. I like that.
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I like that. I like I like the way you do it.
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I like it hopefully. Yeah.
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It's more levels to it. I think I don't want to say
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because I'm giving a book away but it this this book is a
34:45
stepping stone. I just know, just know that
34:48
every word everything I do God is with me and it's just showing
34:51
me other things besides just this book this is just.
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All right. I'm showing you this book finish
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this book. Okay, we got something else is
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so much more when you read it. Just please, everyone.
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Please have an open mind and just open mind, open heart in
35:08
feedback, please, feedback and just let me know.
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I have people that say they can't read it because it's so
35:13
much, but they want to finish it and they just like, wow, you've
35:17
been through this and this people just read it straight
35:19
through it one night. Right man, I couldn't put the
35:21
book down so just let me know what you think.
35:25
And he certainly didn't look like what you've been through.
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You don't look like sand through God is really good and I
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appreciate you and I thank you. All right, ladies ladies, you
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all, go enjoy the rest of your day.
35:39
Hope that you have enjoyed this podcast, hope that you would not
35:43
just be shacking up with me. Shit is Pike at y'all.
35:48
Gotta be committed. Yeah, I know there's a lot of
35:54
platforms. A lot of other things you could
35:56
be doing. But let's go to Spotify,
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download the app and the podcast is women major.
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No, it's not. Yes, it is.
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they're married the podcast Jay, and I'm Janice fans, but ladies,
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I thank you all so much for continuing to listen to my
36:18
podcast. I'm so excited.
36:21
I did get. I did get an email.
36:24
Email that my podcast is really growing in South Africa, so
36:32
that's a blessing. So I know for a fact, the
36:35
message would get across is gonna get across here.
36:39
It's gonna get across and I know people will be reaching out to
36:42
you and want to talk to you people, please, please, people
36:49
will. I know that, I know that for, I
36:51
know that for a fact but I do thank you and ladies You are go
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and have a great rest of your day.
36:59
And like, I always say, always try to leave a person better
37:03
than you found them. Thank you so much ladies.
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And next time I'll talk to you then.
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Bye bye. Bye.
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