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Finding Your Quiet Place: Practical Meditation Tips for Everyday Life · Eye Opener Society

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  Hello, everyone. Welcome back to another Wednesday night meditation.
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  This episode, like the other one, it's going to be more involved as far as how we meditate.
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  I enjoy giving guided meditations, but again,
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  because of all the timeframes that I have and putting things together and writing a script for it,
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  It's just a little overwhelming right now But I'd like to sit and just speak
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  to you About the wonderful world of meditation And giving you some tips,
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  some tricks Some things that will put you at ease And help you when you do meditation
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  Regardless of the type of meditation Now I want to preface this show with a little information,
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  There's so many different types of meditations. Now, we've spoken about that before.
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  What I like to do is my own style of meditation. I don't think I can stress this enough.
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  This is me. I don't practice any one type.
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  I practice what works for me. And this should be something that you should be looking into as well.
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  You should be looking into all the different types of meditations that are out
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  there and find one that might suit you.
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  But if none of them seem to work or if you just are the type of person that
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  does better on their own, you could develop your own style.
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  There's really no rules to this.
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  When it comes to certain types of meditations, there will be rules as far as
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  how to go about that type of meditation.
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  This is my meditation. This is my moment.
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  I've just been doing it for so long. I've developed a technique that works for me.
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  And now I'm in a constant state of meditation.
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  I could snap out of it at any time and I could go right back into it at any time.
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  That is what I have learned through my practice.
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  So get yourself comfortable. That's always going to be the first thing is getting
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  yourself comfortable, knowing how to get your body relaxed.
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  Even if I'm in a stressful situation or a stressful environment,
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  I can focus my thoughts immediately to my quiet place.
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  And it's just visualizing a different place than the situation I am currently
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  in and just changing all of my perception, placing myself mentally where it is I want to be.
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  So think about that for a moment.
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  Think about your comfortable spot Think about
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  if you were in a very stressful situation
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  right now Would you be able to take a step back in your own mind And get yourself
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  into a meditative state You do not have to answer yes or no Because based upon
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  your comfort level And how long you've been doing this,
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  it'll come to you naturally eventually it does
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  it works but this is what you
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  have to believe in so let's do this mindfulness i
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  want you to take a deep breath and i'm going to explain something when it comes
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  to breathing because again breathing is 100% natural we don't have to think
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  about it we just do it but the moment we start to concentrate on our breathing.
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  We now have control over that breathing We can hold a breath for as long as
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  we possibly can We could speed our respirations up Or we could slow them down.
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  But automatically, we breathe regardless We don't have to think about it So
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  that's mindfulness When we take that deep breath hold it.
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  And then release it. That's preparing your body for the meditation experience.
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  Now we focus on that breath. And that should automatically get our mind set.
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  Say, oh, we're going to meditate right now.
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  And that's what becomes exciting for the body. And the body starts to relax.
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  And if you're still wound up, that's when you control your breathing.
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  Do not worry about large breaths. Do not worry about air, lung capacity.
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  Just focus on breathing.
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  Do you feel that you're breathing too heavy or too fast? Slow it down.
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  Get a little bit shallower.
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  Think about it. And what you're doing now is practicing mindfulness.
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  And your mindfulness now is placing you right in this exact moment.
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  It's allowing you To concentrate on something That you no longer really Or that
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  you do not really need to concentrate on But it's allowing you To take control of the moment,
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  There's other ways of doing this You could focus on something like a candle,
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  Or a picture And just focus on it Studying the details You're now practicing mindfulness.
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  You're in a moment and you're only focusing on one thing that's occurring at that one time.
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  And it's easing your mind, slowing your mind down because you're concentrating on something.
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  So now let's apply this.
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  If we are getting ready to meditate and our mind is racing and you still got
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  all your thoughts, you sit down in your spot or lay down and you're in your place of comfort,
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  and your mind may still be racing.
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  Let's focus now on the breathing.
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  Let's focus on a candle. Let's focus on a picture and just focus.
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  And what's going to happen to your other thoughts,
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  They'll start to get a little bit mangled up Because right now you're getting
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  ready to relax But your mind doesn't want to We need to train it to do that
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  So by focusing only on our breath Or on that picture or that candle flame.
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  We can now separate the racing thoughts, the current moment,
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  and now what you need to do with these racing thoughts that still are going on, just observe them.
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  Do not think about them. Do not answer them.
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  Just observe them. Let them float until they slowly go away.
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  Focus on your breathing.
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  Focus on your object. Just focus.
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  And you'll start to notice that every time you focus, every now and then,
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  something pops into your head. And that's going to happen.
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  We're human beings. This is how the mind works.
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  There's no real secret to shutting things off. There is it.
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  Every time something pops in, don't worry. Go back to focusing.
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  Go right back to the breathing.
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  Go right back to focusing on the object or fleeing whatever it is.
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  If you have nothing around you and you
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  just close your eyes and you start practicing
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  maybe a mantra i am meditating nothing
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  will disturb me and let that repeat over and over in your head and this is great
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  when you are in these stressful moments and you don't have your space around
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  you your little confines of your security this is what you do when you're in
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  those stressful situations.
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  Everything's going on around you, but you close your eyes and you focus. I am meditating.
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  There is nothing that is going to distract me.
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  And you repeat this mantra a few times until your brain starts to focus on that
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  and that only. It's going to take practice.
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  You're not going to go out there and say this mantra and everything's going
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  to stop. That's not going to happen, but you need to practice.
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  The more you practice, the more you do it, It becomes muscle memory.
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  And every time you open your eyes and you see all that chaos again,
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  just remember you're separate now from it. You're in your bubble.
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  Just observe it, react how you need to, and then go back to focusing.
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  It's a little trick. I even do this at work when things get too much and there's so much going on.
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  And it's very subtle. It's nothing that's going to, you know,
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  out you. Oh, you just shut everything off and you're meditating. No, it's not like that.
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  It's just a mind perception.
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  Everything's going on and all this chaos and all. But I am meditating. I am in my bubble.
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  All this cannot distract me. I'm going to focus. I'm going to slow everything down.
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  The chaos is not that bad. There's really not anything I cannot handle.
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  And eventually, the problem starts to dissolve.
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  It goes into something smaller, more compact.
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  Now you can focus. You're still in that meditative state. You're still concentrating.
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  But here you are, shrinking down the problems,
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  Lowering your stress levels, concentrating on your breathing, and then you can react.
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  But now you can react calmly because you slowed the chaos down.
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  Now, in a fight or flight situation, go to your body's recommendation at that point.
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  But I'm just talking about the everyday stress.
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  Traffic around you, your boss yelling at you, the work's piling up.
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  Things like that is where you can apply this and we start right here we start
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  right here on our wednesday night meditations we practice we go into these states
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  of mind where we're relaxed and calm,
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  and you get guided through a meditation so let's do something right now that
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  would help and it would apply all this let's say you don't have anything set
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  up right and normally i give you a chance to sit down, relax.
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  Maybe you are, but let's just go right into meditation.
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  Boom, there you are. You're now meditating.
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  All you need to do is focus now on my voice.
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  You are no longer in your comfort place.
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  You are now someplace even more comfortable, even more relaxing.
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  Your body is at complete and absolute rest,
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  You feel your heartbeat
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  Slowing Calming You picture the blood outflow of your heart And it's slowing
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  down You can feel Your blood pressure Lowering,
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  You feel it.
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  You accept it.
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  You can tell yourself, I am relaxed.
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  I am calm.
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  I am now meditating. The only thoughts that are going through my head are of
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  peace, comfort, and relaxation.
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  You can picture water flowing calmly The gentle sounds of nature The birds chirping in the background.
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  You can hear it in your mind because you are meditating.
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  You are focused only on my voice that is painting these pictures for you.
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  If my voice was not present, then you would use yours.
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  You can talk over your chaos.
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  You can speak over all of the thoughts that are going on in your head.
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  You push them to the side, you let them be, but only your voice will guide you.
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  You can remind yourself how relaxed you are.
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  You can tell yourself that you will remain relaxed in all situations.
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  And we place this in a part of our mind where we can retrieve it later at a
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  different date or when we really need it.
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  And this is the very heart of meditation, the very start of the meditation process.
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  We need to focus and concentrate only on one thing whether it's your breathing a picture,
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  candle flame one thing and everything else that's in your mind can still occur
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  but you're only focused on the one thing you are focusing on,
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  and that's why guided meditation helps those that just want to focus on their
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  breathing and allow a voice to guide them.
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  You work on your style of meditation. You work on a meditation style that works for you.
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  I've been doing this almost now going on 25 years or so. I don't even remember.
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  Closing my mind off to everything that's going on around me and just focusing
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  on whatever it is I wish to focus on.
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  And because of that, I can remain in a meditative state at all times.
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  So work on this join me on other Wednesday night meditations where I'll go a
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  little bit more in depth and I'll
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  also start providing some more guided meditations for you as well but this,
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  podcast now should have been enough for you to relax,
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  because that's all we spoke about how to do it how to get yourself in that state
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  of mind so apply it and you apply it by practicing.
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  Just keep at it. The longer you do it, the easier it becomes.
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  And then soon, you can develop any type of meditation practice that you wish
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  to do without the assistance of either me or anybody else. It'll be all up to you.
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  So again, I thank you for joining. I wish you all peace, healthy life, happiness.
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  I hope you get everything you want as far as happiness in abundance.
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  And wish you all well. And I will see you again in the next Wednesday night meditation.