Protecting Each Other’s Raw Spots

Heal Your Relationships · Mar 12, 2026 · 16m

Every human being has tender places in their nervous system.

Places where life feels a little sharper.

A little louder.

A little harder to navigate.

Sometimes it’s a time of day.

Sometimes it’s chaos or clutter.

Sometimes it’s certain conversations that require more space and calm.

I call these raw spots.

And one of the quiet, beautiful privileges of loving someone is this:

Over time, you begin to learn where those raw spots are.

Not so you can avoid life.

Not so you can walk on eggshells.

But so that, when possible, you can soften the edges of the world for each other.

Because the truth is…