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Rabbi Moshe Haber: The Body, Soul, and Spiritual DNA 8.24.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  A Gemara. I know what you think it is.
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  The Gemas is a story. It seems like a kind of random
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  story. So if you Donna see which is the
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  rabbi from the Gemara, I put together the mission.
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  Actually he had a relationship with Antoninus.
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  Antoninus was the ruler of the time, the non Jewish ruler and
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  had a relationship. This isn't actually a very
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  private thing, because Marc Anthony, that's the that's your
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  name, the Roman Emperor, right? Roman Emperor.
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  Is that Mark Anthony or no? Yeah, the the father of
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  Stoicism. OK, so they had a relationship,
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  a strong relationship. And in fact, they had a tunnel
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  on the ground that connected it to homes.
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  And the reason it had to be on the ground is because it would
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  have to be private. Being that if he, if anyone knew
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  that this man had a relationship with a Jewish rabbi, you'd be in
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  big trouble. So because of that, it was a
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  very private relationship and he would visit all the time at
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  nights and ask the rabbi for his sophomore questions.
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  So what was this question again? My last question was as follows.
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  Amar Le Antonina's leader be this man told the be goof
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  Venishama the body and the soul. The body and the soul are able
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  to have the following claim each one on their own can say I never
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  did anything wrong in my life. You Colleen, they've taught us
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  mom and Nadine, they can say to themselves hate to God, we are
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  not to blame for whatever happened in our life.
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  How so? Because the body, the soul can
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  say rather the body first. The body can say after 120 look
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  at me, I'm in the ground, I'm not moving, I'm not running, I'm
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  not jumping. I can obviously have no power of
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  sin on my own. I'm not the source of sin.
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  You know this argument and the soul can say, the soul can say
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  look at me right now after 120, I'm flying in the air, I'm on my
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  own. I never sent a day in my life
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  anymore. So it's obviously I was not the
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  problem. The body is saying so and the
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  soul is saying so. So what does God do?
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  How could God judge him? This is the question that he has
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  or be or be answered the following.
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  He said imagine on my shop, I'll give you a parable.
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  Imagine a king or someone has an orchard and he hires 2 Watchmen
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  to watch this orchard for the beautiful fruit.
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  One watchman is lame, can see and everything function to be
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  can't walk. Another one can walk fine, but
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  he can't see, says the rabbi, the king.
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  The king has these two Watchmen for some odd reason these are
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  his higher Watchmen and they're watching his fruit.
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  What happens? The one who can see tells the
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  one who's lame. I see beautiful fruit.
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  Let's go back then you know what the lame guy says?
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  I can't walk. So what happens is the lame
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  person who disabled the same, The blind person is unclear to
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  the one who can see it was lame and I see beautiful fruit, let's
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  go get them. So he gets on the shoulders of
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  the blind guy and combined they go ahead and they steal that
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  fruit, says the rabbi. What God does to judge a person
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  after 120 years, He recombines the body and the soul and he
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  just combined. What do they do together?
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  Do they create sin? Do they create myths?
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  Vote what? He looks at the two of them as a
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  pair. He doesn't look at them as
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  separate, looks them as a pair in order to figure out how to
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  judge a person. Hashem cannot judge your soul
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  alone. When can he judge your body
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  alone? He judges them together as a
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  pair because there's a pair combined they create results.
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  This is the guy I learned last year.
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  I was learning with a bunch of boys.
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  I learned this came out. I was, I went to the store and I
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  bought two books. I happened to be in the store.
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  My wife wanted to go to the clothing store.
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  I wanted to go to the bookstore, the rented store.
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  So I went in and looked for two books.
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  I happened to open up two books, both talk about this topic.
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  These two, I bought them both. All right, That's what happens
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  if I go to the Supreme store, I buy at the store.
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  Trust me. She went to get sales and I
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  walked out spending a few $100.00.
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  So now what did I see from this these rabbis on this book?
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  I found her. Miller says the following point
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  on the scheme and he says one second.
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  I don't get it. The body is still nothing.
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  Even after the combination. There's still no, the body is
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  still never to blame. The body is a is a combination
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  of chemicals. It's all physical.
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  What does this mean? The camera, the soul alone.
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  You can't judge. So you combine the soul with the
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  body and then the two of them. I judge, not two of them.
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  There's no two of them. The body is still a very
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  physical thing. The body is nothing on its own.
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  How do you explain? He asks.
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  Right. Miller asks how do you explain
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  this combination and therefore result?
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  I don't see a combination. I still see all soul.
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  That was his question. All right, so he says the
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  following answer, which to me is eye opening and a concept that's
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  very important. We don't mean, he says the
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  physical body. The physical body is like
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  anything else physical. There's no difference in the
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  physical chemicals on my body and this chair.
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  They're both very physical. They don't mean that.
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  We mean the following point when we say body.
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  This is fundamental point. I think it changes how you see
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  people. Let me ask you a question.
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  How do you look at it? We're all over here, right here.
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  We're all a bunch of bodies. God gave us All Souls.
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  Do we look at it like God walked in and gave everyone a soul,
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  which is the power to function and the ability to do misfuge?
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  We're all different bodies, but God gave us all the same kind of
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  soul. Is that how we look at it or do
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  we look at it differently? In other words, is the idea of
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  soul is a spiritual thing, swallows thing from Mountain
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  High helps us function, helps us do this well to connect to God.
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  It's all part of God. So there I shall basically and
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  fuse into a bunch of different bodies, same concept of soul and
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  somehow the result is different or is it deeper than that?
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  That is the question or I'm Allah asks and if you answer
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  this question, you will learn and understand people to a whole
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  different word. So I simply I never thought
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  about this before this sorry, around Miller's question.
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  And I always thought it was actually that I always thought,
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  yeah, Hashem infuses in a bunch of different bodies the same
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  concept of a part of him as a soul and we all function in
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  different ways. What the Ram Miller says is very
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  important. That's not correct.
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  Every person has a very different makeup.
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  That makeup, you want to call it body, you want to call it soul,
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  call what you want. That makeup, he says, is a
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  different kind of soul, a different kind of essence.
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  So Hashem created me. He made me with a certain makeup
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  that's a combination of body and soul.
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  It only comes out when you see that combination together.
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  God gave me, obviously a part of Him, which is the soul part into
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  my body. But really what that is, is it's
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  a makeup that's unique, that's a combination of body and soul.
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  When the soul hits the body, this outcome comes out, he says,
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  and it's a whole different essence between you and I.
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  This is the answer with the Rabos saying DNA, huh?
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  We call DNA, but it's not a physical thing.
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  It's an actually a spiritual DNA.
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  That's exactly what it is. It's an individual DNA, a
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  spiritual one that God sees only through the combination of body
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  and soul only comes alive when you combine these two.
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  It's true that the body alone has a bunch of chemicals.
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  It's true, it's a physical thing, but the body comes alive.
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  It becomes its essence when you make this combination and it
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  becomes its own kind. That is the point that he has
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  and here's why he's a such a key point.
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  The reason it's so key, he says, is because people often type,
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  people often times try to change themselves.
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  All right, come into the Mountain View, people try to
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  change themselves. There are two different ways of
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  changing yourself, and this is fundamental.
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  One way of changing is I'm a guy with a lot of energy.
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  I try to dole down my energy. Good idea, a bad idea, bad idea.
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  Another way of change is if I'm a guy with a lot of energy and I
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  tried to utilize my energy for strength.
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  Let me give you a better example.
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  How many of you are a person who is a strong person, strong
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  minded person, right? One way that person tries to,
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  you know, he doesn't like the fact that he's strong minded and
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  he's getting into fights and he's getting into disputes and
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  he's having he always very strong.
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  So he tries to say, look at the other guy, He never gets upset.
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  He's always calm. I want to be that way.
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  Let me change myself. And he tries to work on himself
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  to calm himself down, which is a good mindset to have.
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  Try to calm yourself down. Ray Miller's point is this.
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  Giman's point is you have a certain combination of body and
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  soul that makes you you. And you try as much as you want.
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  You will not become that soft guy.
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  It won't happen. So what do you do?
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  What you do instead is you try to guide and aim your strengths,
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  your unique elements, and aim them toward the good.
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  And that he says yes. It doesn't mean that you're not
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  trying to end fights. When you aim your strength and
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  your strong willed mentality toward more good, that'll lead
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  to you spending so much time and so much focus on doing good with
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  your strong will. You won't be as busy with
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  fights, but you're not going to be not fighting simply because
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  you calm yourself down to make you Mr. Softy.
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  You're not going to come, Mr. Softy.
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  It's never going to happen. But instead, this is his point
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  and this is the guy's point. You put the combination
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  together, the body and the soul with the right frame of mind and
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  you utilize it for the strengths.
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  The people around us and ourselves.
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  Often we wish this change. We wish the people around us
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  would change one thing. We wish ourselves we changed
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  something. We cannot change our DNA, we
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  can't change our overall mentality, but we can change is
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  how we utilize it. A person can be a stubborn
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  person, stubborn, A stubborn, a good thing or a bad thing, good,
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  bad and good at the same time. Binet is referred to as Amke
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  Sheharif. They referred to as stubborn,
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  which is both a good thing and a bad thing.
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  It led to the Heta Egel, but it's also what helped the Jewish
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  people survived and remain intact through all the different
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  issues that they dealt with. Stubborn and strong willed,
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  which is basically in certain sense connected.
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  They can be utilized as a horrible thing.
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  Jews are stubborn neck people. He meant both good and bad at
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  the same time. He meant you related to bad but
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  also good. Some of the greatest people I
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  know were extremely stubborn, but they also have a good.
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  They were so stubborn, but they utilized it only for certain
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  areas that they cared about. They weren't stubborn about, Oh
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  my gosh, I need to eat meat on Wednesday nights.
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  I can't function if I'm very one word, right.
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  They weren't stubborn at all. Oh my goodness, so and so
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  certain things I need to have, You know, I have the right seat.
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  I need to have the right temperature on these things.
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  It was stubborn about the things that they cared about.
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  If you realize your strengths, which by the way, every one of
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  us have a double edged sword in our existence.
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  I'm a passive guy by nature, shy guy by nature.
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  If I allow that to be my way then I can be very bad.
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  I can make major mistakes with being passive.
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  A passive person allows things to go and let's things fly and
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  at times can allow, even with the norm selves, the wrong
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  things to fly. Passive can actually be
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  beautiful and it can be a very destructive.
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  Every one of us has in our existence of DNA a double edged
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  sword and the goal is not to try to dull that sword.
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  You try to dull it, you try to soften it.
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  You're going to try to put yourself into someone else's
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  existence and it doesn't work. What the commander is telling
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  you, this idea of combining body and soul with God is looking at
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  saying, what is this guy's overall makeup?
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  How does it come out? And his body, I don't really
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  care about his body. Everyone's body is a physical
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  thing. What I care about is what comes
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  out of this person. Take a very, very classic
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  example. Is sensitive people sensitive?
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  You ever notice? Think about it.
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  The word sensitive AS2 means guy has a sensitive nature.
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  It could mean he's often insultive.
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  Sensitive means anything you say to them the wrong way, you rub
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  them the wrong way, they're upset, they're all for a day.
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  Sensitive also means that they pick up on other people's
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  feelings. He recognizes other people
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  getting. Hurt.
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  So compassionate. It really can be compassionate
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  as well, and I've found all the time something surprising.
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  I found that very often the same person has both strengths.
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  They have the fact that anything you say to them, they can read
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  the wrong way, but they also have the fact that they can pick
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  up on other people what they're feeling, what they're doing,
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  same person. I always wondered, is it just
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  because in English vocabulary we have to utilize that same word
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  and the same person has both strengths and weakness or
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  empathy? They have sort of a raw nature.
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  Such people have a raw nature. Raw.
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  What I mean is they're very open to the world.
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  So at the same time, anything that comes to them hits them at
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  the heart and also anything they witness hits them at the heart.
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  For the positive, it's the same person.
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  I've seen this over and over again.
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  Or you can have a person who with a certain sense kind of
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  cold, cold means they just doesn't really bothers them.
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  So with one hand, you say something to them that does
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  offease them. It doesn't hurt them.
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  You ignore them. I know some rabbis, you know, I
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  know some rabbis are both ways. Some rabbis are extremely
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  sensitive, but they also can get the pulse of the community like
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  no one else. Some rabbis who are in a certain
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  sense, they never get insulted. You could not get them, but aha,
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  you can ignore them. You can dig and walk into a room
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  and no one recognizes them. They don't care.
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  At the same time, same time, they may not have the greatest
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  sense. When someone sits down with them
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  and says I'm dealing with this, I'm dealing with that.
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  The other thing, because they don't really care.
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  They say, I'm not saying you're dealing with basic things.
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  What's bothering you? The same person, strength and
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  weakness. And the job is to emphasize the
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  strength and therefore get away with the weakness.
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  You know, I always think about my father in this way.
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  I said stubborn before, and father in nature was one of the
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  most stubborn people in a certain sense that I ever knew.
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  In a certain sense, he was very stubborn.
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  In a certain sense, everything was fine.
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  Nothing bothered him. So he was stubborn and certain
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  things that he valued and he didn't care less, but certain
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  things they didn't value. And that's really has the way it
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  has to be a lot of great people out that way.
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  They emphasize with their physical their DNA strength.
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  They put more effort on A and they therefore care less about
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  the negative side. And when Hashem is saying, when
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  the rabbi is saying that God combines the two together, what
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  God is looking for is what does the combination which develops
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  into a specific DNA. Where's the outcome is the
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  outcome to the bed was this DNA outcome to include Because every
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  one of us, whether it be hot headed, whether it be, you know,
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  very strong, whether it be very soft, it'd be very nice, or it'd
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  be very tough, stubborn, easygoing.
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  All these different traits can be utilized for beautiful
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  strengths or can be utilized for great weaknesses.
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  The classic example of my favorite example of this concept
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  is the fact that many people who have ridiculous values in this
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  country today, many of them, it came and comes from a good
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  place, which means deep down they may get confused by now,
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  but deep down, somewhere along the line in certain they say I'm
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  compassionate, I feel good for others, I feel bad when they
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  have pain. I can't see little chosen in
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  Gaza starving. And before you know it, they
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  developed this mentality that includes hate, fighting,
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  protesting, yelling and screaming all in the name of
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  love. How'd that come out?
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  Some way deep down they might have had maybe their sketch, but
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  is every a part of them that has some level of compassion?
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  And you show them enough videos and clips of kids starving in
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  Gaza, you get them crazy. Take it to extreme 'cause you
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  can be compassionate all you want, but if you don't have any
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  incentive compassion, it can go the wrong way.
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  That's how it works for a person has a very unique individual
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  DNA. The job is to utilize it for
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  strengths. And the other point is this, a
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  lot of times the people around us, we think the following
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  thought, this is about ourselves.
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  How about the people around us, we say, I love them, they're
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  great, but only they could just get away without one trait.
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  Many people have this with their wives and their spouses.
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  It's a common thing with their children.
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  You know, they're very, very highly motivated, but there's so
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  much energy. I wish I could calm down energy.
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  I remember thinking about this with my son this year, this past
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  year, Thank God. You might see by now my second
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  son's got loads of energy. I'm talking about a lot of
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  energy. And I was thinking of time, you
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  know, and he calmed down a little bit, like, you know, it's
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  a lot. She's always running and jumping
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  and yelling, screaming, things fun.
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  He does it very quick and smart. Thank God he's got a lot of
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  energy. And then he got mono, and he got
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  mono for a kid mono. And he was like a lump on a log.
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  He cannot move off the couch for a week.
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  It's only a week, but he couldn't move for a week.
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  And during that week, I said to myself, I said I should stop
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  thinking those original thoughts.
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  Let him have as much energy as he wants, even if it means he's
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  going to sit on top of that fireplace during praying over
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  here and chew. Even if it means that, and even
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  if it means me to run up and down all these things.
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  And yeah, Chala, you know, he uses all for the good.
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  But while he's in this mode, I don't have that energy.
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  And sometimes it's going to rear its head this way.
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  Sometimes it's going to rear its head the other way.
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  A lot of times people do themselves.
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  I wish the people in my family, they're great, they're caring,
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  they're wonderful, but they have this certain trait with that
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  overall DNA that just bothered me a little too much.
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  Wish I would. They're very sensitive to my
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  needs, but those are so sensitive to their own needs.
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  Wish that they didn't have to be such a thing.
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  But the reality is, if you wish for someone show it to not be
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  that way, understand what comes along with what comes along with
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  it always is that they're not that way completely.
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  And often times they lose their they lose their strengths along
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  with their weaknesses. Of course, we hope for everybody
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  to put more emphasis on the strong side than the weak side,
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  but don't try to believe that so and so should drop their DNA,
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  because if they do, they're going to drop their overall DNA
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  and they won't be the people you like.
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  That's part of the makeup of people.
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  That's what I got from Miller's explanation.
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  All of us come right out that when God combines body and soul
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  is not physically the body and soul.
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  It's rather God develops and looks at the overall DNA and
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  then says where they put more emphasis with that DNA, more
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  emphasis on doing good or my emphasis is doing bad.
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  Aggressive people. Do you like aggressive people?
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  Yes, you do. If I hire a worker, I need to be
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  aggressive. If I have a worker, if I have a
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  business and hire a worker that came late or left early, I
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  didn't make the extra phone call.
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  I didn't push it a little harder.
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  I didn't lose my mind because I would do that personally.
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  And I like to work very hard. So I don't like my workers, Huh.
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  Maybe they get it done the other way, but I don't like workers.
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  I do not stand there. I don't like workers that that
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  do have less drive than I have 'cause I have had personally
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  very never stop Drive is my nature.
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  OK, So I like aggressive people in that way.
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  Aggressive people are also never stop work.
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  My nature is and I drive is not stopping, not stop doing things,
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  doing doing whatever. But aggressive people at the
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  same time also at times can be impossible to deal with.
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  There's just too much and maybe they they're trying to cut
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  around you or maybe they're trying to get too far ahead in
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  the company too fast. You become abusive to people.
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  They can easily be. You said your your personalities
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  are more passive. Yeah, I'm not aggressive.
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  I'm very strange. I'm.
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  Personally aggressive. I didn't mean it that way.
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  Oh, it's true. I actually am, personally.
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  You're on his own. In reality, I am your
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  conversation. I'm very passive.
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  Whatever someone says to me comes where I I don't care about
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  these things. When it comes to doing certain
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  things, you know, behind the scenes, I am very, let's call it
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  hard on myself in a certain sense.
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  I push myself like crazy when it comes to the show.
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  I push to an extreme, but it's very aggressive.
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  It's my nature. I don't know where it came from.
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  I don't know. Maybe it's from my father, my
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  mother. I don't know where it came from.
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  Combination of both. Something my grandfather and
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  mother's father, Charles Rio, it's there.
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  It's all over the place in the family, but there's this sort of
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  nature. My all my siblings have it.
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  You all have an extremely a certain sense.
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  You might call it drive that you want to call it aggressive, but
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  they have this way at the same time you have a conversation
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  with them. You'll never show up.
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  Go and see a word of it. It's all the same combination,
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  never has a different way. So for me, you know, you have a
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  conversation with a guy. I don't care what he says.
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  I don't care what happens. I don't care.
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  But at the same time, I'm a highly motivated, maybe one of
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  the most highly the only person you met, the most highly
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  motivated person alive. You met him on your trip.
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  Yes, after I buy for sure, but the.
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  Most highly motivated. Person, but he's unique in that
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  way and he's unique, but he uses it.
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  Thank God for strength, but a person can have that same and
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  that's. I always say then about Hannah
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  actually is that he has the business mentality.
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  You know, he you know, and he utilized it for the strengths.
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  That's what I meant with here's the shit you don't find
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  typically people who grow up as rabbis.
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  They have a different sort of structure than that he's.
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  Raymond Bate is very similar like that.
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  It could be they have a business mind.
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  A lot of people are under. They know what you're.
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  Thinking as you're thinking it. My point is, is that it's
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  certain unique thing. Your point is that the same way
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  a person got that same element and be impossible to deal with
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  because they're so highly aggressive and you have to
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  figure out how to guide these whatever our makeup is tower
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  utilizing for strengths. Any guy that built any
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  institution in this community. Anyone that built anything in
• 22:23
  this community has a makeup that if you is the wrong way.
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  So annoying to be around. So how do you say where if
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  someone has a tremendous like this, anger is one of a temper
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  like a temper there's no good that comes from.
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  A temper. So a good point.
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  So I went to the first. Time I could say you got to, but
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  yeah, you got to look into your actions before you do it.
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  Exactly. So the truth is even a temper
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  has a core and the core is not anger.
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  The core is very hot, which means they get very energized
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  and very, I call frustrated or whatever is very fast.
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  That's what the temper is that that actually the core of it is
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  a strength. The second book, I learned this
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  specifically of the ocean in that book, yeah, I'll assure
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  what it says is, is that a person at the core of every even
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  weak nature is a strength. There.
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  Anger itself is a bad thing, clearly a bad thing.
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  But the core of it, core of cuss might be from someone who's very
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  alive and very strong and very, you know, very jumpy.
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  And there can be the strength there too.
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  That's really the mindset every single meta person has or there
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  would be. Even frustration alone is not a
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  good thing. But frustration has a core.
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  And that core also is similar to anger.
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  It's more life, it's more alert, it's more reactionary.
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  In a certain sense, reactionary is a good thing.
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  In a certain sense, it's a weak thing.
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  Every part of us. Now, what do you do with this?
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  What you do is try to utilize and be involved in good things.
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  You have your makeup, you know, evolve yourself.
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  A good thing is you try to think what Hashem wants and then you
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  channel. All these natures have the
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  world. One of my least favorite
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  concepts in Judaism. That's what people believe.
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  And because everyone's got to be religious, which is understood,
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  people believe that the cookie cutter way is the way to go.
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  I can't stand that. Definitely not.
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  I can't stand the imagination of a picture of a room of everyone
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  looking the same. Why not?
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  Because what culture would you have the same, what developed
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  Zachariah? What development would you have?
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  Think about this community, think about this shoe or any
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  shoe. Think about the color that comes
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  out from one guy doing this and the other guy doing that.
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  Even the different values. Also OK for this mindset, you
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  don't want anyone to have, you know, lack of belief or the
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  wrong belief, but you don't want everyone to have the exact same
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  prayer of mind. I have to have a core directive
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  and the way of. Thinking the same thing in
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  business. Yeah, I have two partners that
• 25:01
  think identical. 1000 might as well not have a partner. 1000%
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  there's nothing to it. You need to have a Ying and a
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  Yang. You need to have things going
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  different ways and if anyone to believe that based on a we
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  follow the same Tara and the same gardens and the same
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  rabbis, that definitely means we should have the same makeup is
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  not understanding why God created you and me.
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  He created you and me because it's something you provide and I
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  provided all of us. And that is this idea of
• 25:26
  individual identity, and that is a Torah's version of
• 25:29
  individuality. You know, people thinking
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  individuality in America today means I have the individual, so
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  I need purple hair. No, an individual means let me
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  be my core self. Don't change yourself.
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  That's making up your own individuality.
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  Let me remain myself and just express it the right way and
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  bring it out for the right purposes, and I can change the
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  world. That's really how the world
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  works, that's how life works, and God wants to see the
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  combination of that body and the soul.
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  When the DNA comes to life, what comes out?
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  Every single medar a person has can be used for strength or can
• 26:05
  be used for weakness. Everyone aggressive, passive,
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  stubborn, strong, angry, funny, everything can be used for
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  strength, be used for weakness. And don't try to imagine
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  yourself as a different person or try to imagine the people
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  around you as different people. They are who they are.
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  You're never going to change their DNA.
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  All we have. So we're channeling for shrinks.
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  That's the idea. But you could.