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8 Lessons To Keep Your Head Above Water Drown Proof From Andy Stumpf · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 2: He well, I was talking about, yes, talking about how
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  Speaker 2: awesome your name is and how much mind sucks.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you have ten and and really Andy, what what
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  Speaker 1: is in a name? But basically is that not a
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  Speaker 1: book cover? And we're not supposed to judge a book cover.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, it's tough not to.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you're right about that. It's like people who wear glasses.
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  Speaker 1: You know I'm gonna judge. And but see that all
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  Speaker 1: the more reason why we should be in love with
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  Speaker 1: your book, because it is coming out at such a
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  Speaker 1: time that we need this. And I think that when
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  Speaker 1: people discover it is when they're down and out and
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  Speaker 1: not when they're selling reading victories, and they need to
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  Speaker 1: go get it now and see where they are on
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  Speaker 1: this map.
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  Speaker 2: I would agree. I wish I could only part my
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  Speaker 2: life out into times that I've been successful for clarity,
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  Speaker 2: There's been very few of those times. I spend a
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  Speaker 2: lot more times in the trenches and troths of trying
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  Speaker 2: to figure out my life. But yeah, it's the preparation
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  Speaker 2: that you do before you find yourself in a bad
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  Speaker 2: situation oftentimes is the determining factor as to whether or
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  Speaker 2: not you can actually get out of it and survive.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'll tell you where. I'm falling in love with
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  Speaker 1: your book and I need it as much as I do,
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  Speaker 1: And the reason why is because I like to write
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  Speaker 1: a story before it happens. And I mean I and
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  Speaker 1: my wife goes well, we only want to be prepared
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  Speaker 1: for if something bad goes happen. But it's still writing
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  Speaker 1: a story before it happens. How do you deal with that?
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  Speaker 2: You got to take the time on the front end.
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  Speaker 2: I wish it was you know, I wish it was
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  Speaker 2: as easy as you know. We'll just hope for the best,
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  Speaker 2: you know, that's part of the sentence. Then the other
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  Speaker 2: part of that sentence is calm, a plan for the worst.
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  Speaker 2: And it's funny, the military career I came from. There's
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  Speaker 2: a bunch of books and TV sh and movies and
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  Speaker 2: it's all basically stuff blowing up in bullets whizzing by right,
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  Speaker 2: And I totally understand why that is, because it's entertainment.
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  Speaker 2: But what's lost in all of those mediums is the
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  Speaker 2: immense amount of time that we spend planning. I'm talking
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  Speaker 2: seventy two hours just sitting in front of computers and
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  Speaker 2: looking at imagery and practicing and rehearsing and working our
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  Speaker 2: way through contingencies, and then we'll go do something that
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  Speaker 2: takes an hour. And that's a tough that's a tough
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  Speaker 2: ROI for people to understand, like, that's not what happened
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  Speaker 2: in the movie, Like I know, because that would be
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  Speaker 2: the most boring movie in the history of movies. People
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  Speaker 2: just sitting here arguing like should we use helvetica on
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  Speaker 2: our PowerPoint? Or what do you think about Times Roman
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  Speaker 2: eighteen bold, which actually happens. We argue about that stuff,
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  Speaker 2: But it's those things. It's the planning, the contingencies, the
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  Speaker 2: what ifs, the rehearsals. That's what allows you to perform
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  Speaker 2: in those moments. If you strip those things away, you're
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  Speaker 2: largely relying on luck, and everybody's luck runs out if
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  Speaker 2: you press it enough.
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  Speaker 1: Well, okay, if you study martial lawrence, we are trained
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  Speaker 1: to walk around the situation, but if you study the
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  Speaker 1: Word of God, we're trained to walk into the fire.
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  Speaker 1: So I mean to me, I can understand all levels
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  Speaker 1: of play there, but it's like which direction do I go?
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  Speaker 1: Which teacher had it right? Well?
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  Speaker 2: And again, I am a black belt in jiu jitsus,
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  Speaker 2: so I love martial arts. Religion for me has It's
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  Speaker 2: never landed with me. It's not that I have any
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  Speaker 2: issue with religion, and I always tell people maybe it's
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  Speaker 2: just not my time yet. But I would say on
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  Speaker 2: both of those concepts, those are great. We could use
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  Speaker 2: those as lighthouses if you want to. But let's just
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  Speaker 2: take a look at each individual's own life. Have you
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  Speaker 2: ever found yourself in a situation where you couldn't walk
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  Speaker 2: around it or you unintentionally found your way in it?
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  Speaker 2: Because once you're in it, you're in it, right. You
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  Speaker 2: can't always throw the truck in reverse and get out
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  Speaker 2: of there. So in your own life, have you found
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  Speaker 2: yourself in situations where you have to navigate your way
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  Speaker 2: out of it? I think for most people, I can't
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  Speaker 2: speak for everybody, but for myself I try to avoid
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  Speaker 2: them at all costs, but I still have found my
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  Speaker 2: way into them accidentally. It's the prep that I put
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  Speaker 2: in that helped me navigate my way out.
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  Speaker 1: Please do not move. There's more with Andy Stemf coming
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  Speaker 1: up next. The name of the book drown Proof. We're
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  Speaker 1: back with Andy Stump. This book is going to be
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  Speaker 1: such a major tool in what I do in working
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  Speaker 1: with broadcasting students as well as everyday people, because you
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  Speaker 1: teach us how to build discipline, and it's building regret
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  Speaker 1: as well, because and the thing is is that regret
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  Speaker 1: is I use that as fuel so that if I
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  Speaker 1: regret it, then figure it out and go get a
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  Speaker 1: solution and get on the right path.
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  Speaker 2: Discipline is a tough one. I like to describe it
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  Speaker 2: as the deepest form of self love that you can
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  Speaker 2: probably have. You are if you think about it, what
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  Speaker 2: are you doing? What does discipline often require? It takes
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  Speaker 2: your near term or immediate desires, and it forces you
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  Speaker 2: to put them aside to become the person you want
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  Speaker 2: to be in the future. And for everybody out there
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  Speaker 2: listening that you in the future deserves those choices because
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  Speaker 2: you want to be able to look back and be
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  Speaker 2: proud of where you are, not regretful of the things
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  Speaker 2: you wish you had done. I can't imagine something worse
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  Speaker 2: than being on a deathbed surrounded by regrets, things I
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  Speaker 2: wish I had done, things I wish I had said.
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  Speaker 2: So I try to go the exact opposite of that.
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  Speaker 2: I will put aside short term I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: say happiness, because that's not the case. There is a
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  Speaker 2: lot of happiness in the quest for improved discipline, because
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  Speaker 2: you can really come to love the process. But I'll
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  Speaker 2: put aside those short term desires because I know my
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  Speaker 2: future self deserves what comes at the end of that.
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  Speaker 1: Man, I'll tell you what my most recent loss of
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  Speaker 1: a great friend Alan. He was a positive the entire way,
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  Speaker 1: and I kept asking him, what are your regrets? What
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  Speaker 1: are your regrets? And he said nothing. I mean, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: you've got to be kidding me, because if I were
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  Speaker 1: in your position and that maybe this book is setting
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  Speaker 1: us up for a moment where we're going to have
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  Speaker 1: to make a pivot, and that pivot is let's learn
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  Speaker 1: from where we're growing, because we're going to get there eventually.
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  Speaker 1: Just learn from it.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, if you can't learn from your mistakes, I
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  Speaker 2: think you're doomed to repeat them, which is a great
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  Speaker 2: quote that I didn't come up with. By the way,
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  Speaker 2: that one's been around for a long time, and I
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  Speaker 2: look it back at my own life. I am sitting
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  Speaker 2: here today. My wife read the book, and here's how
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  Speaker 2: she described it. She goes, you know, she's like, first off,
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  Speaker 2: I really like the book, which she's obligated to say,
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  Speaker 2: of course, and she goes, you know, though most books
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  Speaker 2: they start off with like a hero arc, like it
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  Speaker 2: gets really bad and then it grows, you know, and
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  Speaker 2: they become a hero in the end. She goes, you
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  Speaker 2: didn't really do that. It just was more like mistakes
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  Speaker 2: and failure after another. I was like, yeah, have you
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  Speaker 2: not been paying attention to my life? It's I am
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  Speaker 2: here because of the mistakes that I have made and
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  Speaker 2: what I have learned from those mistakes. Those mistakes, to
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  Speaker 2: me now some of the worst things in my life.
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  Speaker 2: I am so incredibly thankful that they happened because they
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  Speaker 2: allowed me to become the person that I am. Now.
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  Speaker 1: That is so interesting that you just bring that up,
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  Speaker 1: because I was about ready to jump into a new
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  Speaker 1: project for iHeart in the way of going can I
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  Speaker 1: really teach what it is that I know because nobody
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  Speaker 1: else has gone through the same footsteps that I have.
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  Speaker 1: So I ask you, I mean, we've all made these mistakes.
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  Speaker 1: Is that what makes us unique? And is it the
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  Speaker 1: one thing that we can teach or can you teach that?
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  Speaker 2: I wish I could say that we are unique. I
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  Speaker 2: am coming to the conclusion that most of humanity is
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  Speaker 2: defined by its similarity, is not as differences. And you
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  Speaker 2: know this is one thing and I talk about this
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  Speaker 2: in the book. The most dangerous place that you can
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  Speaker 2: find yourself is one where you think you're alone, where
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  Speaker 2: you think you're the only person struggling, the only person
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  Speaker 2: that is dealing with something that is difficult. And this
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  Speaker 2: is really challenging, especially in a social media area where
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  Speaker 2: everybody likes to put up their highlights or the filtered
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  Speaker 2: bs from their life that isn't real. It's so easy
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  Speaker 2: to tell yourself, why don't I have that? How come
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  Speaker 2: I'm not good enough? Why isn't that me? And you
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  Speaker 2: draw yourself inward, and it's so dangerous. You are not alone.
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  Speaker 2: Every single person in life is struggling with something, even
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  Speaker 2: though it is at the topest economic run the elites
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  Speaker 2: to use the popular term of the day. Trust me.
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  Speaker 2: Their life isn't all daisies and gun drops falling out
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  Speaker 2: of the sky. Now they have big money problems, which
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  Speaker 2: is a different issue. But you have to learn from
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  Speaker 2: your mistakes otherwise you will end up repeating them. But
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  Speaker 2: you are not alone when you fail. Everybody is failing
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  Speaker 2: around you at all times. Most people just aren't honest
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  Speaker 2: about it.
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  Speaker 1: Are we setting goals today or are we resetting goals?
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  Speaker 1: And with with drownproof, I feel like that it's like,
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  Speaker 1: whatever your goal is, get the book, study the book,
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  Speaker 1: and take the step.
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  Speaker 2: I'd say both. I'd say set huge goals. But along
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  Speaker 2: the way, I look at myself now I'm closer to
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  Speaker 2: fifty than I am forty. My life and my goals
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  Speaker 2: in my twenties were way different, and my thirties in
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  Speaker 2: way different, and my early forties way different. That's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: As long as I have forward momentum, that's a great thing.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm guarding against the most is losing my
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  Speaker 2: forward momentum. So you should one hundred percent set these
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  Speaker 2: massive goals that scare you to death. That's how you
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  Speaker 2: know that your goal is. You're like man, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if I got this, like, yes, that's the gold
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  Speaker 2: right there. But along the way, if you find something
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  Speaker 2: that speaks to you or you're passionate about, or somebody
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  Speaker 2: that you love and it changes the course of your life,
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  Speaker 2: set another goal, man, you'll be all right.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. Where can people go to find out more about
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  Speaker 1: what you're doing? Because I want them to activate this book,
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  Speaker 1: not just read it. They've got to find activation.
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  Speaker 2: You can go to Andy stump dot com just the
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  Speaker 2: spelling of my name dot com and that's going to
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  Speaker 2: be a portal to everything that I am and that
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  Speaker 2: I have going on. If you want to find the book,
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  Speaker 2: just go to Amazon or just google a drownproof book
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  Speaker 2: by Andy Stumpf and there you go. There's all your
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  Speaker 2: options right there.
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  Speaker 1: You got to come back to this show anytime in
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  Speaker 1: the future. Ten minutes with you is never going to
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  Speaker 1: be enough.
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  Speaker 2: Dude, I'll come back anytime. You'll have me. Thank you
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  Speaker 2: for the offer.
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  Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today? Okay, you as well.