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36 | She's Freaked Out! Her Boyfriend's Family Showers Together? · Let's Talk! An Our2Gens Podcast

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Let's talk. Hello.
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Weirdos, welcome back. This is episode 36.
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Yeah. Oh my God.
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Y'all welcome back or welcome to I'm Trinity Grace, your Gen.
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Z host. And I am Danielle Nikki, your
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Gen. Xer.
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Yes, make sure to like, comment and subscribe.
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It says it right there on the screen or I just told you.
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Do what she says. OK.
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Thank you. We're going to get started with
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our story submission. Before I get started on this
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one, I did want to say a trigger warning.
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This one has a mention of miscarriages, so if you feel
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uncomfortable hearing a story about that, please skip to the
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next story. Thank you.
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This one was titled Cancelling my engagement and my
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overreacting for wanting to cancel my engagement.
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I'm 25 and I've been dating my fiance who was 31 for two years.
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We got engaged last October. The thing is, I'd known him for
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years before we ever dated, and I always knew him as this calm,
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kind, and respectful guy. That's part of what made me feel
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so sure about saying yes. When we first got engaged, I was
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genuinely excited. I immediately started planning
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our engagement photo shoot because I wanted to celebrate
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this new chapter. I was very clear with him about
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what I was doing. I showed him the exact suit he
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needed to get and I was searching everywhere for the
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perfect dress. I finally found one but it ended
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up being too big so I returned it.
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While all this was happening I kept asking him about his suit
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and every time he told me he'd handled it.
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Come to find out, he never got it, and honestly, that hurt.
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Not just because of the suit, but because he expected me to
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figure out everything. The location, the photographer,
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all of it. It was like he was just waiting
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for me to carry the whole thing. Eventually, I lost interest and
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let it go. What hurt the most was that he
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never even asked what happened to the photo shoot we were
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supposedly planning together. That was the first moment
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everything shifted for me. After that, I slowly started
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caring less about planning the wedding.
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I used to talk to his sister all the time about ideas and plans,
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but eventually I told her I wanted to pause everything for a
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bit. The reason I paused was because
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I wanted to see if he would even bring it up on his own right.
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I wanted to see if he'd show in any initiative or excitement
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about building this future with me.
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He never did. I know we didn't, and that's
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what's been eating me. He never brings up serious
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conversations about us, our future marriage, or anything
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that engaged couples should naturally be talking about.
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If anything important needs to be discussed, I'm always the one
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who has to bring it up. He's extremely non
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confrontational. If I try to talk to him in
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person about something serious, he just goes silent.
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Completely silent. But if I text him a whole
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paragraph explaining how I feel, suddenly he can respond, right?
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Right. And I'm just sitting there
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thinking, what kind of marriage is that supposed to be?
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Then my family started asking questions when's the wedding?
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And honestly I started lying. I tell them random dates or make
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excuses like oh we moved it because I was embarrassed to
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admit that I didn't even know where my own engagement stood.
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At one point I finally asked him when are you going to pay my
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dowry? And yes I had to ask him because
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he never communicates anything unless I force a conversation
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and he told me by April. April came and went.
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Nothing happened. Yeah, it's it's May right now,
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literally. And we're hearing about it.
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That's what I'm saying. That was the moment I promised
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myself I would never ask again because I'm not about to marry
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myself. Then at the beginning of this
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year, I got pregnant. It was January into February and
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I ended up miscarrying. That whole experience was
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devastating. We were in different states at
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the time and I was so sick. Horrible morning sickness,
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emotionally drained, physically exhausted.
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I could barely function. To his credit, he was there on
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the phone when I needed him, but he never came to see me.
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Not while I was pregnant, not after the miscarriage, not even
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for my birthday in March. OK, and I stayed quiet about it
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because I kept thinking if I have to keep explaining to a
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grown man how to love me, then maybe he doesn't know how.
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Eventually he came to visit and the first thing he wanted was
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sex. Yes, that crushed me because I'd
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already told him multiple times after everything I went through
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that I didn't want to sleep together anymore.
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I told him we could wait until marriage.
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OK, you. Know every single time he'd
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agree yeah cool, whatever you say but then he got at my place
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at 2:00 AM he kept asking for sex until 5:00 in the morning.
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What? And every time I'd start
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drifting off the sleep, I'd wake up feeling him touch my private.
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Areas. Oh my God.
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I was beyond irritated. I felt violated, disrespected
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and honestly disgusted. That whole weekend.
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I didn't even want him near me. That's when everything started
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clicking for me. So I asked him a couple
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questions. Name three romantic things
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you've ever done for me in the past year.
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He couldn't name 1, not one. And when I told him I was tired
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of accepting the bare minimum, he hit me with this.
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I'm sorry I don't appreciate you in the way that you like.
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I'll work on it. Even though I don't buy you
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gifts, I appreciate you in other ways.
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Other ways? What other ways you couldn't
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name them? What other ways?
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Going 5050 on rent, paying the electricity bill because that's
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all he contributes. I'm not asking this man for
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money. I'm not asking for expensive
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gifts. I'm not hard to love.
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If anything, I'm the more romantic one in this
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relationship. And now I'm sitting here
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wondering if I'm crazy for wanting to call off this
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engagement. Because at this point, it
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doesn't feel like I'm preparing for marriage.
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It feels like I'm dragging a man toward an altar he never really
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wanted to walk to in the 1st place, right?
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And honestly, I'm tired. OK.
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OK. Thank you for writing that in,
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because wow. Whoa.
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There's so much to unpack here. OK, so if we start in the
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beginning, he is not interested in getting married.
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He wants what comes along with getting married.
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The sex, the sex, you know, having someone in your house
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doing the things going half on that rent, you know, that all
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sounds really good. But the actual like what it
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takes to be married and even engaged, like he's not even
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engaged in the engagement. Thank you.
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Pick a suit. That's what you had to do.
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He made. No steps to pay the dowry, to
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pick a suit, to help her with the photo shoot, anything,
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Nothing. And then when?
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He let it go. He was like cool, cool, we don't
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have to do nothing. We're good.
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It's great, like he would be OK being engaged forever because
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he's not even involved in the marriage planning.
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Why would you be engaged? Just date forever, you feel me?
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If you want to or just. Like not or not.
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Let her go, let her go. That's what I'm saying, you're
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holding her at this point. Now we move on to the
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miscarriage. Miscarriage, which is so
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unfortunate. She's already like feeling alone
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and then she felt more alone. You weren't there for her during
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it and then you missed her birthday after and then the
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second you thought she was OK you came over and said let's
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have sex. What is wrong with you?
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So gross. Get away from me.
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Get coercion, OK? If it's not an enthusiastic yes,
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it's a no. It think it is a no.
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And you had to coerce her for three hours in the bed she's
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trying to go and she still said no.
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And you just kept trying and kept trying.
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Get away from her. OK?
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I don't know your name, but please, please just choose
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yourself. You're not overreacting for
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wanting to get away from this engagement.
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You have already had to, for your own protection, pull away
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and put up walls around yourself.
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So maybe it's just time to be like, OK, this isn't it.
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We're good. Yeah, you can move on.
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It's OK. I know it might hurt, and I know
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you said you were friends with him for the longest time before
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you even started dating, and this is a relationship that
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you've had and maintained for a very long time.
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But if it's not meant to be, and if it feels like you're putting
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more effort in, you're being more romantic.
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You're planning all these things and he's putting no effort in
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the other side. Except for going half on the
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rent and playing the light bill. Oh my God.
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That's it. Yeah, goodbye.
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He's not doing the most. I understand not being in town
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when she had a miscarriage, but the fact that you made no effort
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to be there for her man, that stings.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it gives me the ick on that
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part, yeah. So maybe this just ain't it.
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It's not it. I'm sorry.
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Yeah. Thank you for writing in.
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Thank you, love. I'd love an update once you dump
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them. Oh, Mother, we can't force her
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to. You should.
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Wink wink. Am I the asshole for urinating
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all over the bathroom floor at my friend's house?
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Whoa. OK, out the gate.
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Feel free to rage on this one because it's going to piss you
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off. Oh.
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God, OK, I'm ready all. Right, the title sounds
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ridiculous but I will explain what happened.
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Last Saturday I, 34 male, went to my friend Chris's place for a
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few drinks with the guys. His wife and their 12 year old
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son were home. We got pretty hammered, beers
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turned into shots and by about one AMI was trashed.
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I went to use the downstairs bathroom and completely missed
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the toilet. Pee everywhere on the floor
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tiles, some on the baseboard. It was a mess.
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Bruh, I know that stinks. Drunk me just thought whatever
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it'll dry and went back to the couch without cleaning anything.
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It'll dry is insane. A bit later, Chris's wife steps
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in. It freaks out and calls him
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over. They smell it, realize it's
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pissed, and start wondering who did it.
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The son had used the bathroom earlier to brush his teeth.
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Don't you dare. I'm sitting there hungover,
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panicking and instead of owning up when Chris asked if I saw
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anything, I quietly pull him aside and mumble.
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Do dude, I think it was your kid.
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That's messed. Up he came out of there right
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before this happened. Probably just missed or
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something. That's so messed up, Chris.
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Believed me instantly. He and his wife put the kid
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downstairs, lectured him hard about being responsible and this
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is disgusting. The kid denies it, gets upset,
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but they make him mop the whole floor and wipe everything down
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while they watch. He looked humiliated.
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That's. Horrible.
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The next day, today, I sneak out early.
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Chris text me later saying thanks for the tip and that they
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handled it with the kid. Apparently the son got grounded
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and lost his PlayStation console for a week because he wouldn't
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admit it. Oh I feel awful now.
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The kid didn't do it, I did. I was too embarrassed and drunk
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to confess, so I let a teenager take the blame and get punished.
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Every time I think about coming clean I chicken out because
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it'll blow up the friendship. Am I the asshole?
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Yes, I'm so happy to finally have one where the OP is
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actually. Full blown at Oh my God we
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don't. Have this often.
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This is my first time. OK, I'm a little nervous.
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Let's go. OK.
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Yes, you are. You are such a chicken.
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Are you kidding me? Yes.
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That's embarrassing that you were a grown man.
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I don't care if you were drunk or whatever.
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Own up to your what you did. What you did.
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You pissed? All over my bathroom.
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I would be livid, livid. But of course he did not
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confess. If even if you're just like, I
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don't know, maybe I was drunk. I don't remember.
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He turned the direction to the sun, he said.
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I think he did he. Didn't even let he didn't even
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let the his friend Chris get to that himself.
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He said no, I'm going to intercept this before it even
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gets there. Excuse me?
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And then put it on the sun. If I was the sun.
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We have beef for the rest of my life because my PlayStation
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gone. I'm grounded for a week.
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Yeah, I have beef with you forever.
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Literally forever. Because, you know, the son knows
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that the friend did it, the OP did it.
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Oh for sure. Because like dad wouldn't do it.
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Who else use the restroom? What do you mean?
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OK, if the son didn't admit it and was like, I swear I didn't
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do it or whatever. I know you hear that really
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often with like kids and stuff, especially teenage boys, but
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you've got to be like at this point, OK, then who did it, you
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know, at least. Riddle him.
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And The thing is that as a parent, if my son was like, I
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didn't do it, I'd be like, OK, who did it?
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He probably wouldn't say that like the OP did it right.
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The son wouldn't be like your friend did it, blah, blah blah.
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But it would feel a little because I would not look at a
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grown man as having pissed all over my my bathroom.
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I'd be like, you did it and I need you to stop lying to me.
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Clean this up. That's why they punished him,
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because they were like he didn't admit he didn't come clean.
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Yeah, so I can't blame the parents here.
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No, you can't. You just got to blame the Opie
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because he's the only one in the wrong here.
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Yes, 100% wrong. Poor son.
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No, he had to clean it up. Clean up another man's.
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Pee. Oh my God.
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Oh, you know, it was like sticky at that point, girl.
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I cannot. I cannot.
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OK, We we had a young boy. I know what that smells like.
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I just. Share a bathroom with that one.
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Gross. Yes I cannot.
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So this one is a clear cut. Yes you are the ass for you
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should be ashamed of yourself and you better call Chris up and
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tell him you did that. Apologize to the Sun and to
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Chris. Yep.
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And buy The Sun another game for his PlayStation.
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Buy a whole nother console. Actually, I had to clean it up.
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Let's not forget that I had to clean it up.
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I'll you are feel ashamed. Yes All right walk with me here
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this is chaotic, but walk with us OK a man back in O 8 was
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charged for dumping his silicone girlfriend all right so I have
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visuals for the visual people on YouTube it's.
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I'm sorry, I'm sorry but this is so stupid.
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Like I said, walk with me though.
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So a 60 year old man, he wrapped his silicone girlfriend in a
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sleeping bag, drove to a remote wooded area and dumped her.
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And the reason he did this was because he wanted to break up
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with her and he didn't know how. And so he also the other option
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because apparently we had to either dump her or chop her up
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into bits and that was the other option and throw her into the
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trash. He said I don't want to be
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cruel, so let me dump her. But like.
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This is a This is a a sex doll. Yes, it's a silicone sex doll
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that the 60 year old man was attached to.
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Literally. He was like, that's part of.
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That's insane. Excuse her, he was emotionally
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attacked. There we go.
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Be clear what you're saying. And he broke up with her, so he
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dumped her. But he did it in such a like a
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graphic way. If you're visualist, you can see
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her. He literally like wrapped her up
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in a sleeping bag, tied off her ankles like her head and like
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her midsection and her hair was just sticking out.
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And her feet it. Looked like there was a real
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body. And so this couple came through
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and the dog found the body and the police were like, we've got
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a murder case. And so they launched an
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investigation. They thought this body was real
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until they started doing the little was it called?
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They go and they open up the body and they figure out an
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autopsy. Thank you, an autopsy.
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And they're like, are we being pranked?
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This is a doll, right? And then so they had a news
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section on the on TV and he saw it and he was like, oh, no,
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that's my girlfriend. And so he calls and he said, I'm
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so sorry, I didn't mean to. And so he turns himself in and
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instead of being charged for murder and dumping a body, he
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was charged for like waste management laws, littering, so
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littering essentially. And he was like, you can't do
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this. Listen, I get it because if you
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can see this video, this picture, and if you can't just
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use your imagination. This is ridiculous.
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It looks like a body because you can just see the hair sticking
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out the top and the feet on the bottom.
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And apparently this was a really, really good sex doll.
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Right, he paid good money, he. Paid good money for her because
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her skin looked real enough that even when they unwrapped her
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they were like Yep, this is a human.
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Proof that you can look good but he'll still dump you.
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Oh my goodness. But felt so bad he was like I
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can't chop her up why would that?
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Would be cool two options instead of.
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Just breaking up with her and maybe dropping her off
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somewhere. I don't know, is there a waste?
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Like what do you do with your used sex dolls?
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Do they? Like can you return them?
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You better not. You better not because it's used
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like used used. This is crazy.
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You can't burn it. What do you do?
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You can't burn it. See put.
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Some clothes on her and prop her up in the corner of the room.
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Do something, anything but wrapping her up like.
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Like a dead body. That's insane.
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He went out of his way, now he turned himself in.
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It's all good. He's not being charged.
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No one actually was dumped or murdered or good but like.
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There has to be a better way. There's got to be a better way.
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Oh my God. Thank you.
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That's Yeah, I'm shocked by that.
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All right, so I spent a lot of time on TikTok, as I'm sure some
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of you do, And M Wallbank asked for unhinged family lore, and
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the comments section did not disappoint.
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You don't mind going to my screen?
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I want to go through a couple of our favorites.
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All right, so my friends and I in junior high found AVHS tape
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that said home movies in their basement, but it turned out it
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was a swingers tape of all of their parents, all six of their
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parents. They were scarred for life.
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Oh my God, all six of them. Yes, that's the only reason
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they're friends. Oh my God, they have a trauma
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bond. Oh my God.
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So my great grandfather's aunt was a maid.
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She worked for a rich family. Her last trip was in 1912.
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She worked on the Titanic and never came home.
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We still have a passport photo of her.
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She's. Still on the Titanic, never came
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home. Oh that's insane.
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That's some good. Lore for you?
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Good lore. My grandmother and grandfather
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were twins, separated at birth. They reunited at 23 years old
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and started dating, had kids, found out that they were related
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in 2020. Did they look like each other?
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I mean. That's the thing with male,
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female twins. They.
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Could that's insane. I know what are the odds?
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There's so many people on this planet and.
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And you found your twin, FIFA real.
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But you know what? I'd heard stories that people
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like women who give up their child, they end up finding their
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son later. And there's like there's a
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connection sometimes. And they always think it's
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sexual. And so they they, they made it
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as far to have kids. I know and didn't find out till
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2020. Probably somebody went and got
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one of those DNA tests done. Oh, that's horrendous.
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Oh my God. Oh my God.
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My mom and dad got divorced because she found out he had
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five other kids with three different women.
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After a while my mom remarried with some guy.
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That guy was my half brother. We just found out in February.
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Guess what, they have a kid. My half brother is also my
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stepdad and my soon to be sibling is also my niece.
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I. Oh, Oh my God.
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Oh my God. Oh my God.
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I actually don't know what to say.
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That's insane. That's insane.
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Their family tree is insane. It keeps going down, but it goes
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up and around. Oh my God.
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Oh my God. My dad sent a hitman on his
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ex-wife and my mom had to call the hitman off 2 years later he
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tried to send the same hitman on my mom and I twice, but the
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hitman didn't do it because he liked my mom.
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Wait wait stop it. How easy is it to find a hitman
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cause normal? People be like, I wouldn't even
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know where to start. Where do I where do I go?
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Facebookhitman.com. Not that I want to like where
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would you go? I would never do that but also
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where do you go? Like I have no idea.
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Mom cheated on dad with the woman next door.
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She paid to have him OFT, but the hitman was an undercover cop
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and she went to prison. Again, again, where do you find
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Hitman? I don't know, it must be
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honestly. You're finding cops, you're not
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finding Hitman. Oh, that's what these people are
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doing. So my cousin suspected his wife
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of cheating. Thinking his son wasn't his, he
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took Adna test. It turned out his son was
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actually his half brother. She was cheating with his dad.
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00 How do you move on from that? I don't.
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I've been raising my brother. You don't move on.
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You don't move on. No, you can't.
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My mom's ex-boyfriend is now her brother.
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My grandparents adopted him after they broke up because he
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was an orphan. I wait, there's the way that.
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He said read it again. My mom's ex-boyfriend is now her
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brother. My grandparents adopted him
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after they broke up because he was an orphan.
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If you would have taught my ex, I would be.
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So it's going to be so so now my ex is living up in my house.
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Exactly. No.
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And we brothers. I wish you would.
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I wish you there couldn't have been anyone else doing that.
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Yeah. I don't care if he's an orphan.
23:02
I don't care if he's my ex, I'm not supposed to see him again.
23:05
You. Know Oh man OK this is the last
23:09
one. I found out my dad robbed a bank
23:12
when he was young but he has Alzheimer's and I can't even ask
23:15
for any details. How do we find out he robbed the
23:24
bank? I know he didn't tell you.
23:28
How do you know? Oh man.
23:33
Insane that way it just. Progressively got worse, worse
23:37
and worse and worse quality. So I want to hear your unhinged
23:43
family lore please. You know we know Z as hell.
23:46
Oh my God. You can put it in the comments
23:48
section or you can go to our website, r2gems.com and submit
23:51
it. Just put in the title that this
23:53
is unhinged family lore. We want it.
23:56
We need it. Oh, my God, I know.
23:59
Oh my God, I can't. We got to go back to the X just
24:01
real quick. Yes.
24:03
How are you going to adopt my X? You know what?
24:05
Force me to be? No, I'm good.
24:09
I'm sorry. I'm good.
24:10
I have no say in this. None and the grandparents are
24:13
like he's fam now. I wish you would.
24:15
Absolutely not. I wish you would.
24:18
Now I'm an orphan exactly. OK so ironically so this next
24:24
Reddit that I have is related to that one.
24:26
Just say this one is a relationship advice.
24:30
My mom 56 female is sleeping with my ex-boyfriend, 34 male
24:35
after my dad took his life. Oh my God.
24:41
So trigger warning is mentioned in this one.
24:44
If that triggers you, please move on to the next story.
24:47
Thank you. So it's a complicated story but
24:50
I feel completely disregarded in these relationships.
24:53
My dad suffered from crippling autoimmune disease and
24:56
depression for all of my life. I'm 32 female and I believe my
25:00
mom 56 female, kept him alive for so long.
25:04
My dad was in so much pain and my mom gave up on him and their
25:07
relationship for the last year of his life.
25:10
I witnessed their relationship deteriorate, especially in the
25:13
last six months before he died. He took his life the day after
25:17
Father's Day in 2025. We were all traumatized.
25:21
I come from a big family and people in my family has adopted
25:24
into their lives over the years. One of the people that has been
25:27
adopted into our family was my high school sweetheart, 34 male
25:32
who is my first love and we dated for three years.
25:36
I broke up with him when I went to college and then married my
25:39
now husband a couple of years later.
25:42
The ex-boyfriend stuck around my family and was mentored by my
25:45
dad in a tradesman job. I dealt with him being around my
25:49
family through the years and just brushed it off.
25:52
I was told often that you broke up with him, not us.
25:55
That's the dynamic. Come on ma'am.
25:58
Bruh. The ex-boyfriend was living on
26:01
my family's property and was there the night my dad took his
26:04
life. He was with my mom when they
26:06
found him. Oh, once the smoke cleared, my
26:11
mom needed help with the family business and took my ex on as
26:15
her business partner. It was a necessity to keep the
26:18
day-to-day running. My mom and him started a
26:21
physical relationship three months after my dad passed.
26:25
Three months Yaw Ozarks. I found out about it the week
26:32
before Christmas. I was disgusted and appalled.
26:36
I felt completely disrespected and disregarded.
26:39
What kind of mother does this to their child, especially while in
26:42
the midst of grief and trauma? I've been in serious therapy
26:45
since my dad passed and to add on this bizarre lair was
26:48
embarrassing and felt like more betrayal from a parent.
26:51
I asked my mother to stop and she didn't.
26:55
Her and the ex are now living together and I'm stuck in the
26:59
weird wing on the outside. So you all live together, I
27:01
think. Everybody's on the parents
27:03
property. Come on, we got to bounce.
27:07
My family has big get togethers and I'm extremely uncomfortable
27:10
participating in this family. As it currently stands, I can't
27:14
be around them. There's a big family gathering
27:17
coming up on our family's property and I asked my mom to
27:19
not have my ex come. I was told that he is a core
27:23
part of the group and that he will be there.
27:25
I told her that I would not be coming and neither would my
27:28
children. She's completely at peace with
27:30
choosing her paramour over me and believes that I'm being
27:34
manipulative. OK.
27:37
This sounds like my new reality when it comes to my family.
27:40
The family of origin that I come from is gone.
27:43
My dad took his life and he's gone.
27:45
My mom is not a mom own anymore. She just wants to be a woman in
27:49
her words. I'm at a loss for what to do or
27:52
where I belong when it comes to family who I desperately love,
27:55
but the choices that are being made are in complete disregard
27:58
for me. I understand that we are all on
28:01
our journey, but this decision effects my mom and I's
28:04
relationship to the core. I don't know where to go from
28:07
here. I don't know if this is relevant
28:10
but my mom is paying an online therapist who is essentially an
28:14
AI bot to help her through her loss. 100%.
28:17
It is contributing to her every move.
28:20
I I know there's so much going on here.
28:24
I know we're going around like this is insane.
28:27
I wish you just get real therapy so she can see beyond her own
28:31
bizarre desires. I love my mother so much.
28:34
I want her to be a part of my life, but I can't be a part of
28:37
her current choices. She's looking to me for grace,
28:40
but to me that just means me bending over backward to love
28:43
her and maintain her sense of normalcy.
28:46
Her. My dad was my Jiminy Cricket and
28:48
hers, Her moral compass is gone. This must be my new normal.
28:53
Where do I go from here? Well, that was a lot.
28:57
I know I don't understand. I mean, I have never been in
29:02
this situation, but we read and see a lot of these situations
29:05
where the your parent will lose their partner and within months
29:10
they have another person in their bed, like months Grieving
29:14
looks different for everybody. And so I try not to judge, but
29:18
in this situation, this guy, it's not like it's just some
29:22
young guy. Exactly.
29:23
This is your daughter's ex who was technically like just
29:26
hanging around in your hat like a son, and you are now in a
29:30
relationship with him. And you expect me to be OK with
29:34
having him around at family gatherings?
29:36
Is he? I mean is he family?
29:37
He's family now. That's insane.
29:40
She may not marry again but she going to keep him around as long
29:44
as she wants. Our producer said Ozark.
29:47
Like if y'all watched Ozark on Netflix.
29:48
I love that show so much, but this was very Darlene coded.
29:54
Darlene That scene traumatized me forever.
29:58
Yeah, she didn't see it coming. It was great.
30:00
It was horrendous. It was great.
30:02
Y'all know which scene we're talking about but it's just wild
30:07
to me. Like yes you deserve to be happy
30:09
and to feel like a woman but this, it has to be this person.
30:13
So many people out there, it has to be have this much baggage.
30:17
Yeah, I know. Attached to it I don't.
30:19
I know. And also get real therapy.
30:22
Real. Not an AI bot online.
30:25
Are you kidding? Does that even mean I didn't
30:27
know? You can get therapy from an AI
30:29
bot? They're just going to tell you
30:31
what you want to hear. Like.
30:33
They're trying to preserve their future, so the chat bots tell
30:36
you exactly what they want to hear, what you want to hear
30:38
like. The one check on my strange
30:40
addiction dating the AI guy. Oh my God I can't.
30:45
The mom is grieving, I understand that, but there has
30:49
to be another way and you can't put all your love into this
30:52
other guy. It just happens to be my ex,
30:55
which, Oh my God. But you have to heal and you
30:59
have to let me allow you to heal and help you.
31:02
And you know what I mean? There's just like so many
31:03
things. And she just jumped straight
31:05
into it. Wow.
31:07
Yeah, no, I choose my kids. I'm not going to be friends with
31:11
your ex. I'm sorry.
31:12
No matter how much I liked them. Right?
31:14
That's your ex. So it's now our ex as well.
31:17
Exactly. You know, I know.
31:21
Am I the asshole for making fun of my boyfriend's family after
31:24
finding out they shower together?
31:27
Mom. Yes, another with the shower.
31:30
I know you. Can't keep doing this.
31:32
Anyway, let me get my red flag. Let's go for context.
31:37
Me 19 female and my partner 20 male have been together for a
31:41
year. We met at church at our
31:43
university. I hadn't been religious for long
31:46
and it was new to me. He warned me that his family was
31:49
weird but a lot of people say stuff like that so I thought
31:51
nothing of it. I was nervous meeting his family
31:54
for the first time but it was OK.
31:56
They were enthusiastic and a bit hands on but other than that we
32:00
had a good time. OK.
32:02
We stayed with his family for a weekend as they live quite far
32:06
from our university. In the evening, I was chatting
32:08
with his sister, 16 and him when his mom shouted to tell everyone
32:12
that she's having a shower and asked if anyone would like to
32:15
join her. Excuse me?
32:17
I obviously thought she was joking.
32:19
I actually laughed. But then his 16 year old sister
32:23
rolls her eyes and my boyfriend looks at me with pure fear.
32:26
Then his other sisters, 14 and 18, run upstairs.
32:31
Whoa. For real.
32:33
Yeah, I asked if she was being serious, and my boyfriend and
32:36
his sister told me how they shower together sometimes.
32:40
They assured me that it wasn't something either of them did
32:43
though, so I assume they found it weird like I did.
32:46
Then I made fun of their tradition a little bit.
32:49
Nothing extreme, just lightish hearted comments like, gosh,
32:52
that's like something out of a psychology case study.
32:55
And that's enough new experiences for today, I
33:00
thought. We all thought it was weird, so
33:01
I made a couple jokes, but my boyfriend looked very tense and
33:04
his sister didn't laugh. I tried to explain that I was
33:07
just joking, but the mood shifted and my boyfriend told me
33:10
to stop. They both left the room, so I
33:13
thought I'd misread the situation.
33:15
Not long after, his mom came downstairs to ask if anyone had
33:18
changed their mind about the shower.
33:20
I politely smiled, but I must have been clearly uncomfortable
33:23
because she asked me if I quote had an issue with their family's
33:27
way of spending time together. Not you making me feel like an
33:32
outsider because y'all are weird.
33:33
Because y'all got weird shit going on.
33:36
I told her that it wasn't something I was used to and she
33:38
explained to me that because I didn't grow up in a Christian
33:41
family, my culture over sexualizes the body.
33:46
They're just trying to normalize openness.
33:49
I smiled along because I didn't want to make things worse, but I
33:52
think it was obvious that I was uncomfortable.
33:55
The rest of the evening was incredibly awkward.
33:57
The next morning my boyfriend told me I had disrespected and
34:01
mocked something that was important to his family.
34:04
He said I made his mom feel judged in her own home and I
34:07
need to apologize. I told him I understood how it
34:11
might be normal for him but is really weird from the outside.
34:14
He says I owe his family an apology but I feel like I was
34:17
put in a really awkward position.
34:19
Am I the asshole? No, I don't think so.
34:21
Not them villainizing her because y'all like showering
34:25
together. That's weird.
34:27
It has nothing to do with actually yes, it has everything
34:29
to do with the sexuality of like your family.
34:33
Like you're not supposed to do that.
34:35
Like there's a there's a clear boundary.
34:37
OK, you guys obliterated that boundary.
34:40
It is gone. It is gone.
34:42
That is so awkward. And putting it behind you,
34:45
you're putting a lot of heavy lifting on your religion,
34:48
saying, you know, because you are not Christian, you don't
34:51
understand. And your culture, like everybody
34:55
else, I guess, over sexualizes the body.
34:57
We're not over sexualizing. We're just showering together.
35:01
I don't understand how you don't see that that is.
35:03
Weird. That is weird.
35:05
So let me ask every Christian that's watching this right now,
35:08
do you guys shower with your family?
35:09
Let me know. OK, because no, you were putting
35:13
a lot on something and you're you're misinterpreting things if
35:17
that's the case Exactly. And.
35:19
Like to each their own I guess but you coming for her so
35:24
aggressively after she thought it was weird is funny to me
35:28
because it's like really? If this is normal in your
35:31
family, OK fine, but you're coming for her because she was
35:34
uncomfortable. You didn't warn her ahead of
35:37
time. Also, why are you showering when
35:39
you have company like you're supposed to, you know?
35:42
You know what I mean? Like what?
35:44
I'm so confused about all the things that they're doing.
35:46
But because she was uncomfortable about it, she made
35:49
a couple like of jokes, which she's hilarious for that.
35:51
She was very funny. They came for her.
35:54
I don't think and that's the thing too, it's like you're
35:57
normalizing this in your family, but it's not normal.
35:59
This would be the same as just because they said the 2 girls
36:02
went up with the mom, we can't brush over the fact that it's
36:05
still inappropriate. You know what I mean?
36:08
Like this could be considered grooming in a way.
36:11
So like I always say, best case scenario, mom is not abusing her
36:15
daughters physically right? But what you're telling your
36:18
daughters is that they have no boundaries, that their body does
36:21
not belong to themselves and that anybody has access to it
36:26
just because they one, claim religion or two claim family.
36:31
And so you are brushing down these girls ability to stop
36:36
themselves from being harmed later, from being able to see it
36:39
coming. You know, not to put any victim
36:42
blaming, but that's the first thing that I thought.
36:44
And it was like, why are you normalizing this?
36:46
This is abuse and I don't I don't like that at all.
36:50
And then when somebody comes into your family and says, oh,
36:53
well, hold on, this is weird. And they're like, actually, no,
36:56
you're. Weird.
36:57
You're weird because. Absolutely not.
37:00
Yeah. So you are not the asshole.
37:02
You are not overreacting. Whatever it was, girl.
37:04
Run. Yes, run.
37:06
And then I would probably, you know, it's like when we posted
37:09
about the last showering video, which was very, very disturbing.
37:14
A lot of people are talking about how you might live in a
37:16
state where you're a mandatory reporter, where you have to
37:19
report things that you see that pertain to abuse with children.
37:23
And so you might want to look into that.
37:25
You want to talk to somebody? Because I don't like that this
37:28
14 year old girl is. Showering with her mom.
37:31
Yeah. And it's so normal for her at
37:33
this point. How long?
37:35
You know what I mean? It's been since she.
37:36
Was a child, clearly. They went running up the stairs
37:39
like yes, I'm next. Like absolutely not and I don't
37:43
like for their families in the future.
37:46
I hope they don't take this and move it on to their families.
37:49
Like her boyfriend and everything was super defensive
37:51
and got super like snappy about it.
37:54
I hope he's not expecting his children to shower with him and
37:58
his wife. Like I don't need that.
38:00
Like moving on from this family needs.
38:03
To end here right now. Why do you do this?
38:09
What I found, people put it out there.
38:13
Oh. God, that is horrendous.
38:15
Apparently dolphins are getting high from chewing on puffer
38:20
fish. And if we can go to my screen,
38:22
please. Thank you.
38:23
And when I was like writing the notes for this, I came up with
38:27
the term passing the puffer if you want to take that and thank
38:32
you. I believe I ate with that.
38:33
You ate passing the puffer. OK, I didn't pass it.
38:38
So these, so in the documentary back in 2014, I believe it was
38:45
dolphins spy on the pod. They were filming these young
38:48
dolphins basically passing the puffer.
38:51
They were chewing on this puffer fish that when you chew on it or
38:55
you manipulate it, it like releases a toxin that has sort
38:58
of narcotic effects. And so the dolphins, the young
39:02
dolphins, I want to specify that it was young dolphins figuring
39:05
this out, but they figured out that you chew on the puffer just
39:09
a little bit, spit it out, tossed to the next person, you
39:12
can start floating and getting this narcotic effect.
39:15
I know. It was so, so funny.
39:17
And I found this picture. Oh, you actually.
39:21
Of this puffer fish. He is the poor puffer.
39:25
His face is like he is saved for life.
39:30
And the Dolphins like, let me just chew on you a little bit.
39:32
Let me. Let me just get a little nibble.
39:37
It's not, it's not really much to it, he said.
39:39
That young dolphins are fighting drugs in the sea.
39:43
Amazing. And these puffer faces just have
39:46
to deal with the abuse. So it doesn't kill them?
39:49
No, they just nibble. You just nibble a little bit,
39:51
enough to release the toxin, and then you inhale the toxin, pass
39:57
the puffer, and you're good. Pass the puffer.
40:00
I'm gonna keep saying it because I ate OK.
40:03
Dolphins are so smart, so, so smart because you can see what
40:06
where they live. They change their hunting
40:08
patterns based on where they live.
40:10
They kind of torment other animals because they literally
40:12
are the smartest things in the ocean and for them to realize
40:15
that you can get a little high off of puffing the puffing the
40:19
puffer puffer. And they literally are like
40:22
sitting around in the circle. It's lit like, come on now.
40:25
You eat it, you pass it on to the next guy, he eats it a
40:28
little bit, you pass it on to the next guy, and then you let
40:31
the puffer go. That poor puffer, he's going to
40:32
have a story to tell when he gets OK.
40:34
He's a Dick, let me tell y'all. So like I was chilling and then
40:38
these dolphins just started nibbling on me, right I.
40:40
Cannot I love it though? It's amazing.
40:44
So really not much to the story other than the puffers just got
40:47
added trauma and these dolphins are trying to get high and
40:49
they're amazing. I'm sorry.
40:51
Dolphins are my favorite because they're so they're so smart and
40:53
they're really cute too. I like their little sound.
40:56
I know, thank you. So you may not have heard, but
41:01
Denmark wants to buy California. You know I'm for this.
41:04
Will you go to my screen please? So there is a satirical petition
41:09
to crowdfund a trillion dollars so Denmark can buy California,
41:14
You know. So as of today, there are over
41:17
267,000 signatures at Denmark ification.com if you want to go
41:23
inside. I'm a go.
41:24
Sign So this happened because Denmark owns Greenland, right?
41:29
And this comes after the American president shall not be
41:33
named, threatened to take overtake Greenland.
41:35
Yeah, that. Yeah.
41:37
Was that earlier this year? Yes.
41:39
So they were like, okay, bet we're going to go take your
41:42
highest GDP state and take it for our own period.
41:48
Because we all know California could be its own country.
41:50
Exactly. So the website is really funny
41:53
because it goes through and it lists the benefits.
41:55
It lists why they think the president will go ahead and do
41:58
it right. So the benefits to their
42:00
citizens. So sunshine galore.
42:03
You can swap your rain boots for flip flops because California
42:06
has 300 days of sunshine per year.
42:08
We do. We do tech dominance.
42:12
You know, we got a lot of tech Bros, naturally.
42:14
They were like, who doesn't want more tech Bros?
42:16
You know, avocado toast forever. Goodbye, goodbye.
42:20
Because California grows 90% of our country's avocados.
42:26
We love us some guacamole. OK to protect the free world.
42:30
That part that goes without. Saying I love how that's like
42:33
near last. And Disneyland, they're going to
42:36
rename it Hans Christian Andersenland.
42:40
They were like Mickey and a Viking helmet.
42:41
Hell yeah. So a bunch of fairy tales that
42:45
we know came from his books, which I thought was funny that
42:48
they put it on Disneyland because it's like The Little
42:50
Mermaid, the Princess and the pea ugly duckling.
42:52
They got a lot of a lot of sparks from Hans Christian
42:56
Andersen books. I mean, so, you know, give
43:00
people credit. Exactly.
43:02
I'm for it. Exactly.
43:03
Avocado toast. Free world if let's talk about
43:07
this life and you think that Denmark should go ahead and
43:10
purchase California gone over to the website add your name.
43:13
I want to sign, right? I want to sign, see, absolutely.
43:16
I want to sign. And don't they have like crazy
43:18
less taxes? Healthcare is free, something
43:20
like that. Yeah, the benefits to us are
43:22
high. Or exactly because they were
43:24
just talking to their own citizens.
43:26
But as a Californian. I'm for this.
43:30
I'm absolutely for this. Thank you.
43:32
Come on now. Yeah, I'm not mad at it.
43:36
I'm not. But I love how they're just
43:38
like, let's toss it around, who wants California?
43:41
Yeah, because I'm telling you like we what it what it, babe?
43:44
What do we have as the highest GDP?
43:46
Are we the third highest GDP in the world?
43:48
6th, Something like that. Yeah.
43:51
California makes money. Yes, we do.
43:53
Yeah. So we're very, you know,
43:55
marketable. We're the shiny new girlfriend
43:59
everyone wants. All right?
44:03
I have my last Reddit. This one is an off my chest.
44:06
My boyfriend said he sort of wishes he was the father of his
44:10
female friend's new baby. Oh my goodness, no.
44:14
Yeah. Yeah.
44:16
You ready to rage? All right.
44:19
My boyfriend, 24, male and I-23 female, have been together for a
44:23
year. I feel like I'm competing with
44:26
another woman and her newborn, and I don't know if I'm
44:29
overreacting or just finally seeing things clearly.
44:32
He has a friend who was a girl who he's known for several
44:35
years. They worked together when they
44:37
were 19 and 20 and have two other male friends they also
44:41
worked with and remain friends with.
44:43
She had a baby three months ago. The father is not involved and
44:47
she doesn't talk openly about who he is.
44:50
He just didn't want to be involved and ever since then my
44:53
boyfriend plus the two other guys have basically stepped in
44:57
to help. At first I told myself it was
45:00
just them being good people and for the most part I still think
45:03
that's what it is. I just don't know if it's that
45:06
simple anymore. He cancels plans with me to go
45:09
help her. He goes over to her place and
45:11
doesn't even think to mention it.
45:13
When we're all together it's like I don't exist.
45:16
He's completely focused on her and the baby.
45:19
She's nice to me but also doesn't include me.
45:23
She doesn't try to build any kind of friendship with me and
45:26
the dynamic is basically her and the guys.
45:29
Like if we're all hanging out as a group, the guys all fawn over
45:32
her and the girlfriends are off to the side together as another
45:35
group. She never hangs out with me and
45:39
the other girlfriends there. She does have at least one
45:42
female friend that I know of and she lives with that person.
45:45
So she has a friend that she lives with.
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Why does she need my boyfriend going over there multiple days a
45:51
week to help her so she can shower and take a nap?
45:53
Multiple days a week. During an argument I asked him
45:59
if he wished he was the baby's father and he said I don't know,
46:02
maybe I sort of do. Like I don't care if it was said
46:10
in frustration, that's not a normal thing to say if you're
46:13
fully invested in your relationship.
46:15
Maybe he said it out of frustration because we were
46:18
arguing at the time, but I can't unhear it.
46:20
Because why would that even come up, unless you've thought about
46:23
that before? OK, that's what.
46:24
I'm saying. Now I feel like I'm watching him
46:28
emotionally Playhouse with someone else while I'm just
46:31
there. I feel like I've spent long
46:33
enough trying to be the cool girlfriend who is fine with him
46:35
having a female friend. I pretended to not be jealous,
46:38
and I don't really know if it's what he's doing is actually
46:41
inappropriate or if it's just me overreacting and being selfish.
46:45
That's the end. That's the end.
46:46
OK, I didn't want to jump in. OK Please.
46:48
Yeah, please. Like, are we done?
46:53
Yes, please. That trying to be the cool girl
46:56
never benefits us. For any other woman out there
46:59
who's like, I'm the cool girl, I put up with this and this
47:03
because I want to be no, OK, At no point does that benefit us.
47:08
Thanks. All right, number one, number
47:09
one. And #2 so she is a single mom
47:13
and she needs a man that isn't Herman to come over a couple
47:17
times a week so she can shower and take a nap.
47:21
Yeah, okay. Yeah.
47:22
So when I was sorry, I'm just like, what?
47:31
I just want to make sure I have this correct.
47:33
Okay, let me lean over here. So when I was a young mother,
47:37
there were days when you don't shower and there are days when
47:41
you're like, I am so exhausted. And I have a partner, a very
47:44
involved partner. That is just how it goes.
47:47
Those kids need so much. I will be damned if I ask
47:52
somebody else, a friend, anybody to come over and to do that for
47:55
me. My mom would come do it.
47:58
Maybe my bestie, but some dude that you used to work.
48:03
With three dudes. What is it about this young
48:08
woman that has got these men fawning over her like that?
48:13
Like ignoring their girlfriends. There are girlfriends that are
48:15
right there to fawn over. Her.
48:18
And this baby. I understand the baby.
48:21
I mean, that baby might be special.
48:23
I understand the baby you're supposed to find over babies,
48:25
but her? What is it?
48:28
What? What did she tell you?
48:29
What did she do for you that made you?
48:31
I'm sorry, It's like, I am so pessimistic about this, but what
48:35
did she do for you to make you do this?
48:38
Because no man is going to be doing that for nothing, for
48:41
free, just because they're a friend.
48:43
What? I don't believe it.
48:44
I don't buy it. I need more information.
48:46
There are holes in this story. I love it.
48:52
You're like, no, no. I don't understand and I call
48:58
bullshit. I'm trying to be the cool
48:59
girlfriend. Yeah, no, let's.
49:01
Just move on because this boundary has been crossed.
49:04
Yeah. And like I said earlier, what do
49:06
you mean that you kind of do? You've thought about it.
49:09
So lying ass said, no, I don't know what maybe.
49:11
I think I kind of do. You knew that was a harsh thing
49:14
to say, and so you didn't say it in, you know, in pain.
49:18
Were you guys arguing about her? Like, why did that come up?
49:20
I have so many questions and I don't think she's over.
49:23
What is it off my chest? They don't ask questions.
49:28
I'm like, what was it? What are you asking me?
49:32
If you were asking my opinion, I think you should leave.
49:38
But you're not. You just wanted it off your
49:39
chest, so whatever. Whatever, I hope you leave
49:43
because I mean he is emotionally with that other person.
49:46
And the other two dudes with three men and a baby, like what
49:49
is this? What is this?
49:50
That's. ATV show right there.
49:52
It was a movie. It was it.
49:54
Was like 3 movies or something. Yeah, in the 90s, three men and
50:00
a baby and then the girl got older and it was like 3 men and
50:03
a little lady or something like that.
50:05
That's insane y'all. Really.
50:07
Yeah, she's living that movie. She is.
50:09
She needs to watch the movie. Watch the movie.
50:13
Am I the asshole for cancelling my wedding after my fiance's
50:17
mother altered my wedding dress behind my back?
50:20
OK. You just knew this was going to
50:23
get me, huh? I did.
50:25
All right. You ready for the rage?
50:26
I'm ready. I was supposed to get married in
50:29
three. Weeks.
50:30
My fiance, Mark and I have been together for five years.
50:33
His mother has never exactly hated me, but she has always had
50:36
opinions. My clothes are too trendy, my
50:39
job is too demanding, my family is too casual, and Mark says I
50:43
should not take it personally because that's just how she is.
50:47
OK, My wedding dress was the one thing I cared about most.
50:51
I paid for it myself and my grandmother helped me choose it
50:54
before she passed last year. It was fitted with thin straps,
50:58
a low back and a slit to mid thigh.
51:01
Not see through, not vulgar, just not the dress Mark's mom
51:04
would have chosen. And I'm sure you looked amazing.
51:06
OK girl, sleigh. OK.
51:08
She hated it from the first photo.
51:11
She kept saying it was not appropriate for a church
51:13
wedding. Well, we're not even getting
51:15
married in a church, we're getting married in a vineyard.
51:17
So now what? A few weeks ago she offered to
51:21
pick up the dress from the dress store because I had a long work
51:24
day. I said no, but Mark told me I
51:27
was being paranoid and his mom was trying to help, so I agreed.
51:31
When I tried it on last weekend, I felt sick.
51:33
The slit had been sewn shut. Lace panels had been added
51:38
across the back, the thin straps were now cap sleeves.
51:41
Oh my God. It was still my dress, but it
51:44
looked like someone had turned me into their idea of a
51:46
respectable bride. I asked who gave her permission
51:50
and she said I fixed it. Now you look like a wife, not a
51:53
girlfriend. Oh, so we're throwing hands?
51:57
You want to fight? OK, cool, we can fight.
52:00
I started crying. Mark just stood.
52:02
There then, he admitted that he knew she wanted to make small,
52:05
modest changes, but did not tell me because he knew I would
52:09
overreact. Oh my God, Mark.
52:12
That was the moment something in me broke.
52:14
I told him the wedding was off, not postponed, off.
52:19
He followed me outside, saying I was throwing away five years
52:22
over a dress. I told him it was my
52:24
grandmother's last gift to me, my choice, my body and the first
52:28
Test of whether he would protect our marriage from his mother.
52:31
He failed before we even got married.
52:33
Yeah, since then everything has been chaos.
52:37
Mark says he's sorry and we can fix the dress.
52:39
His mom says I am humiliating the family when she only wanted
52:43
me to look classy. My dad says canceling 3 weeks
52:46
before the wedding is cruel because guests booked flights
52:49
and hotels. My sister says I dodged a
52:51
bullet. She thinks this was a preview of
52:53
my entire marriage. The dress might be fixable, but
52:57
it will never be the dress my grandmother saw me in.
53:00
Every time I look at it now, I see his mother's hands all over
53:03
it and Mark standing there waiting for me to accept it.
53:06
Mark keeps texting me that I should not let one mistake
53:09
destroy our future, but I keep thinking this was not one
53:12
mistake. His mother made the plan.
53:15
He knew enough to warn me but stayed quiet and then expected
53:18
me to walk down the aisle in a dress they chose for me.
53:21
Am I the asshole for canceling the wedding?
53:24
No, OK, girl, I'm so hyped because she did what we always
53:29
say on this show. Divorce, Divorce.
53:31
It's amazing. It's amazing.
53:33
I'm so happy for her. Her sister's a writer.
53:35
Everyone else is tripping. No, the dress probably looks
53:39
hideous at this point. Your grandmother gave that to
53:42
you. You have no right to touch that
53:44
dress. I don't care about your
53:45
opinions. We're not being married in a
53:46
church. Therefore your opinions do not
53:48
matter. It's my dress, my body, my
53:50
choice, my day. This has nothing to do with you.
53:53
And yes, this was a preview of how your relationship was going
53:56
to go in the future. Mark, you are a punk.
53:58
OK, punk. Marry your mother.
54:02
I'm done. I'm done with that.
54:04
I'm so, so done with that. And I really ride with the
54:07
sister because everyone's telling her she's tripping and
54:09
the sister was like, you dodged a bullet.
54:11
Yes, that's why sisters are so important.
54:13
Link up. But Oh my God, the way she
54:17
altered it, that is insane. She added the little lace in the
54:20
back. If I see lace on my dress and
54:22
it's not like see through. Yeah, you're not a fan of lace
54:25
anyway Anyway. But she closed up the back with
54:28
lace, Yes. And cap sleeves?
54:30
Yes. And then closed up the slit.
54:32
What you want? How am I supposed to ran walk?
54:35
Another thing, I hate the word classy in the light that she
54:39
used it. Whenever they say that classy,
54:41
like what do you what? What is classy?
54:43
It's coded. Thank you.
54:44
It's always coded into something else.
54:45
Say what you mean. Say it with your chest then.
54:47
But you're always just backhanded.
54:48
And Mark, you knew she was going to alter the dress and you let
54:52
her. In fact, you convinced me to let
54:55
her take my dress there after I said no.
54:57
Yes. Oh, Mark, it's on site.
55:00
After I'm done beating up your mom, you are next.
55:06
Yes. Oh, my God.
55:08
And it is that serious. It's not about the dress.
55:11
If you think it's part of the dress, you were dumb.
55:13
I'm sorry. Yeah.
55:14
You. You.
55:14
You weren't listening at all. You were not listening.
55:16
This is about their relationship and the mom on the side and how
55:19
she has so much sway over what Mark does and how Mark treats.
55:22
Me, his wife. Ex now, yeah.
55:27
Ex fiance. OK the horse.
55:30
Good job, babe. I knew you would like this one
55:33
because you were a team breakup, but they start tripping.
55:37
But exactly correct. This was a preview of their
55:41
relationship that mom was going to continually butt in.
55:45
Mark was not going to defend you.
55:47
In fact, he was going to help his mom mess with you because
55:51
not saying, not helping, not nothing.
55:54
So no, not the asshole. I'm so glad I look forward to
55:58
your future. Okay, okay.
56:00
And on your actual wedding, yes, I hope you get the dress that
56:04
you really love. Yeah, even though it sucks
56:06
because no one can replace your grandma's dress.
56:09
It's ruined. Like why would you do that?
56:11
It said it can be. Fixed.
56:12
It's like our relationship can't, can't.
56:14
Goodbye. Anyway.
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Yeah, that's all I got. That's it.
56:20
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56:21
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56:24
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