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[EP17] Do "quick fixes" work? · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  Can you talk about the quick fix and quick hack culture? Lots on social media, but it only occurred to me when I was reading an email about yet another quick fix regarding stress-related symptoms, how annoying they become, and I'm wondering, do they actually support us? Is this serving people generally, or have we become confused, obsessed socially with fixing problems in the short term so we can stay busy and overcommitted? What's your point of view of experience?
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  The whole kind of like quick fix thing that we see on the internet, I think so much of it is marketing.
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  So because we are, one feeds the other and we've spoiled ourselves to want everything in like quick fixes.
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  Everything has to be like, give me the short version.
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  Give me the summarized version.
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  Give me the five minute version rather than the five week version where I actually have to go and do the work.
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  So therefore, we find ourselves for all the many different reasons that I won't go into right now.
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  One has built into the other.
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  And now in this point in time in humanity, we find ourselves in a space where everything is expected to be expressed and given to us very quickly.
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  the short answer to in my opinion i don't know about the ultimate truth of the universe but in
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  my opinion from my experience having done this work and having worked having had the privilege
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  of working with lots of people over time does it work the short answer is no in my opinion
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  and if anything if it does look like it works it's like a quick fix so therefore you have a
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  quick relief and might take the edge off, so to speak.
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  Right.
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  But this is why I don't focus on quick fixes.
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  I think the quick fix, the only maybe quick fix I've ever taught, I teach it in
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  Awaken and I put it on social media as well.
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  It's the breath, right?
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  Take your hands, put it in your ribs.
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  Now bring your breath down to the bottom of your lungs.
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  Just add one thing, which is a quick thing to do and 10 deep breaths, like
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  inhale, exhale is one breath.
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  So you do 10 of those will shift your emotion.
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  I've taught that many times. People have probably seen it. You guys have probably seen it.
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  That's probably about the quick fix, as far as the quick fix goes. Everything else that I teach
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  is probably annoying to everyone. And I don't care if it's annoying. I care about what works.
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  So from my experience of working with people, the quick fixes don't work. The quick fixes,
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  as you say, keep us distracted and then we crash and burn soon after.
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  So that's why I focus on more long-term.
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  It's like investing, right?
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  Some of you here are investors.
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  You can go and look for the thing to make the quick buck, right?
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  So that people will promise you things to make, right?
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  Like, yeah, I'm going to give you like quick and big returns really quickly.
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  And normally the seasoned investors would run away from that
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  because they would always go for the long term, the long game.
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  You want to be in it for the long game.
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  The boring, slow, long way should be the most exciting thing.
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  Whether it's in investing or you're investing in yourself energetically,
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  nourishing your body, your mind, your emotions, your internal environment.
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  from my experience maybe limited to the last well two decades of me working with people
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  almost two decades in my limited experience this is what i found the slow way is the fast way
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  whether it's business whether it's investment whether it's with money whether it's in relationships
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  whether it's in our health it's our relationship to our body or our emotions
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  the long game play the long game rather than go to the gym today and snap something
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  right why not work out for the rest of your life so that you can be healthy and strong and fit
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  or like why not practice in such a way that you can have the yoga practice support you for the
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  rest of your life. Same with the meditation. So my take on it is, what's the rush?
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  Let's stop rushing. Take that urgency away and do things in the slow, long,
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  boring way. Now if you're done with your 20s, which some of us here are, how many
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  of you who are done with your 20s, if you had a second chance, you would go back to
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  your 20s and do it the slow way.
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  Right?
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  So by the time you get to the age that you're in right now, the compounding effect, right?
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  As many clever people have said, including Einstein, I said, you know, compounding effect
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  is one of our, what do you call it, miracles, right?
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  Of our time, I think, of the human life.
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  things compound over time.
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  So when you put in the work internally
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  and also on the level of the body, of our mind, of our emotions,
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  in our inner work,
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  the slow, long gain
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  guarantees you win.
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  Whatever winning is.
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  Whatever, however you define success to be.
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  So if it's your physical health,
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  which maybe is a bit more tangible,
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  it a bit more. If you were to do a five minute meditation every day or almost every day for
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  a year, you know that year is going to be not slightly different, significantly different
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  to any other year in your life if you've never meditated before. That's just five minutes.
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  Now if you did five minutes the moment you woke up and the five minutes just before you
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  go to sleep every day, let's say, or almost every day, that year is going to be even more
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  significantly different, not slightly.
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  Right?
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  We all know this stuff, but we don't want to do the slow, boring, consistent thing.
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  The key to success really in any area, and I'm generalizing, but I think it works in
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  The word is consistency.
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  Consistency.
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  Olympic athletes don't just train one day or the day before their match or their game or their sport.
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  They don't get to the Olympic arena, never train in their life, train day before the thing and then go in and smash it.
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  They train their whole life.
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  So many of them are selected as children.
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  I was selected at the age of 12 or 13 international, and then I was trained.
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  Whether it's like athletes, whether it's in business, whether it's in investing,
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  whether it's in our health or someone who has an amazing relationship,
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  I would say play the long, slow game.
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  The key to success in any area is consistency.
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  In other words, discipline.
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  The sexy word, right?
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  We hate that word.
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  Ugh, discipline.
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  But that is the key.
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  A quick fix does not work.
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  We are trapped in this kind of culture of entitlement and instant, like, quick fixes,
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  instant gratification and marketers know that and a lot of what we see on social media
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  is marketing right like they put out things that will make you capture your attention within the
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  first three seconds and you have to because if on the other side of it right let's say you want to
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  build a business and you've got an amazing message to put out there you have to play that game too
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  Within the first seconds, you need to hook people's attention.
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  The next few seconds, you need to give them some value.
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  And then following few seconds, you need to tell them to do something.
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  It's like the rough formulas of that.
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  And you'll find that right across the internet.
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  So most of what we are consuming is marketing material.
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  And marketers, the good marketers, have had to learn how to market.
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  Otherwise, the marketing doesn't work.
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  And because we want quick fixes, they give us quick fixes.
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  To break the cycle, quick fixes, in my opinion, don't work.