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- Lucas: If you've ever had to convince a team you don't manage to change course, you know it's harder than giving an order. That's the skill behind one of the more subtle behavioral questions: 'Tell me about a time you influenced a decision without formal authority.' I'm Lucas. Luna: And I'm Luna. This question shows up a lot in mid-career interviews, especially for product, project management, or any role where you have to lead sideways. Lucas: Right. Hiring managers use it to gauge your ability to navigate organizational politics without a title. They want to see that you can build coalitions, use data, and handle resistance — all without pulling rank. Luna: So what makes a great answer? Let's start with structure. Lucas: The traditional STAR framework — Situation, Task, Action, Result — works, but for influence stories, the Action part needs extra layers. You want to show how you identified stakeholders, tailored your message, and found allies. Luna: Give me a concrete example. Lucas: Sure. A product manager I coached was trying to delay a feature launch by two weeks because user testing showed a critical bug. Engineering wanted to ship on time. He had no authority over the engineers. Luna: Classic tug of war. What did he do? Lucas: First, he gathered data on user impact — the bug affected about 15 percent of new users and caused a 40 percent drop in retention within the first week. He also talked to customer support and got three recent tickets from frustrated users. Luna: So he built a business case, not just an opinion. Lucas: Exactly. Then he approached the engineering lead one-on-one, shared the data, and asked for their perspective. That turned the conversation from adversarial to collaborative. The engineering lead admitted they were worried about missing the quarterly goal, but together they found a compromise: ship the feature with the bug fixed but without a planned secondary feature, saving two weeks. Luna: That's a great example of influence — he used data, empathy, and trade-offs. What about the result? Lucas: The launch happened on time, retention stayed flat, and the secondary feature shipped three weeks later. In his interview, he framed it as a win for the user and the business, and he credited the engineering lead for the solution. Luna: That last part is key — you don't want to sound like you bulldozed someone. The best answers show mutual respect. Lucas: Totally. Another trap is picking a story where you actually had some authority — like a team lead who technically could overrule someone. The interviewer will see right through it. Stick to truly lateral situations. Luna: Let's talk about language. What phrases should candidates use? Lucas: I like 'I invited their perspective,' 'I shared the data and asked for their thoughts,' 'We aligned on a shared goal.' Avoid 'I convinced them' or 'I got them to agree' — that sounds like manipulation. Luna: And if the influence effort failed? Can you still give a good answer? Lucas: Absolutely. Some of the best answers are about trying and learning. You can say the decision went the other way, but explain what you learned about stakeholder mapping or communication. That shows self-awareness. Luna: We got an email from a listener, Maria in Chicago, who says she's an introvert and struggles with this question because she feels like she doesn't 'influence' — she just does her work. Any advice? Lucas: Maria, you don't have to be a charismatic speaker to influence. Influence can be quiet: sending a well-written memo before a meeting, following up with a summary, or building one strong relationship with a key stakeholder. The skill is about preparation and follow-through, not being the loudest voice. Luna: So an introvert's story might focus on written communication or behind the scenes coalition building rather than a big presentation. Lucas: Exactly. And if you have a story about influencing via data and logic rather than charisma, that's actually very compelling. Interviewers love a data-driven approach. Luna: Speaking of building relationships, we want to mention something that keeps this show ad-free and going. If you've gotten value from these episodes — maybe you used a strategy in an interview or just feel more prepared — a small contribution helps. Lucas: Even a couple of dollars a month genuinely makes a difference. You can find us at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. That's buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. No pressure, just a way to support if you can. Luna: Yeah, we appreciate every bit. Now back to Maria's question — any other tips for introverts? Lucas: One more thing: practice your story out loud. Record it and listen. If it sounds like you're bragging or apologizing, tweak it. You want confident, specific language. Luna: Alright, let's recap quickly. To answer 'Tell me about a time you influenced a decision without authority': pick a lateral situation, use STAR, emphasize data and collaboration, avoid claiming victory alone, and if you're an introvert, lean into written or one-on-one influence. Lucas: And remember, the best stories show the journey — not just the outcome. Thanks for listening, and we'll see you next time.