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Stop giving your attention to emotions you don’t want · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop so Talk about bus drivers
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  that we don't want. Let's talk about giving
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  attention to emotions that you don't want to have.
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  Yeah and apparently Dottie has a lot to say about this
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  conversation this morning because she's right in my face,
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  talking to me about it. So what does this look like in
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  real world scenarios situations? We all have emotions that we
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  know. We don't like, we all know, we
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  do it. We all have that anxiety.
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  We all Of frustration, we all have irritation.
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  We all have emotions that we don't want to have.
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  And we talked about them, I know because my clients talk to me
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  about them all the time, but will often hear people say,
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  myself included, I don't want to feel this way.
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  I don't want to feel this way. So there's there's the logic
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  that says, well then don't feel this way and then there is the
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  reality of well I don't know how to not feel this way.
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  Well, part of this, although the sounds very simplistic is We are
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  giving attention to emotions that we don't want to have.
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  We're putting our directive on it, where obsessing on it.
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  So let's use anxiety because this is a very common subject
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  for most people, and this is where it shows up.
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  We are giving attention to the anxiety over and over and over
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  again. So we're like I'm anxious, I'm
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  anxious, I'm anxious, I feel anxious, I'm pretty sure I'm
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  anxious. I'm anxious, I feel sick to my
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  stomach. My hands are sweating, I'm
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  anxious. I'm going to cry, don't like to
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  drive in the car. That makes me anxious.
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  I'm going to go into work. I got to talk to my boss.
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  And oh my God he makes me so anxious.
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  We use the language of whatever that emotion might be over and
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  over and over to the point where it is are driven reality and
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  it's in front of us. It's constant.
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  So if you've if you're new to the podcast and you haven't
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  heard me, talk about the bus drivers before.
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  This is my theory of teaching people, this is that you know
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  emotions are like bus drivers and they whoever's driving the
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  bus. Predicates your entire
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  experience. We all know when we were As if
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  we weren't rode on a bus, whoever the bus driver you had,
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  you always wished for a certain bus driver.
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  I always wished for Chuck because he was such an awesome
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  bus driver when he was always had music.
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  And he was so nice to everybody yet.
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  He was Stern and nobody got picked on on his bus.
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  So I liked having him as a bus driver.
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  So I didn't want to ride on anybody else's bus.
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  I couldn't wait to see that. He was my bus driver every year,
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  and I'll never forget when I came up with this theory of like
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  the emotions driving. I'm like, well, so why do we We
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  wish for a certain bus driver. Why do we then focus on the ones
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  that don't serve us? Well, it's habit.
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  It's the fact that we don't allow ourselves to be in the
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  present moment. We spend so much time looking
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  backwards and looking for words that were not in the present
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  moment and part of the reason why I like being in the chicken
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  coop so much because you have to be in the present moment when
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  I'm out here doing this. This is why I do it here because
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  you have to be in the present moment you're paying attention.
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  They're not thinking about other things, they're just doing their
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  things. They get into a With each other
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  two seconds later. It's like it never even
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  happened. They don't hold grudges, they
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  just move on. They live in the present moment.
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  The creatures that they are just dictate that and are can they be
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  trained? Sure.
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  Just like we can be trained but they don't hang on to the stuff
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  that is is necessarily the stuff that will eat them up inside.
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  In fact, you'll see there might be one Bird.
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  That's a very mean to the other birds and all of a sudden they
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  just like they'll forget about it and I'll just move on.
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  It's it's amazing how quickly they will.
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  I move past things and that's what I love about them.
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  But anyway, I digress, let's get back to this.
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  So here we are dealing with these emotions that we know.
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  We don't want to have, we know we don't want to have them yet.
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  We constantly give them attention, if this was a child,
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  we'd say we can't give attention to the behavior.
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  We don't want. We know the rules organically,
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  we know the rules, but we don't follow them for ourselves and
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  the Very simplistic way to think about this.
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  Is the bus driver switching out the driver.
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  Let me put a different driver and well then anxiety seems to
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  come right back. People will say to me CAM it's
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  back again. Okay?
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  Yes, it's going to take time to shift it, it's going to take
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  time, but the basic simple boil. The ocean down thing is if
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  you're giving attention to an emotion that you don't want it
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  will keep driving you. So you have to stop giving it
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  attention say no, thank you, I choose.
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  Not to give you attention right now.
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  Nope, we're not doing that. Right now, you're not going to
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  drive and put a different driver in and then come back and say,
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  two minutes later, it won't be back again.
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  Oh no. You're not the best driver for
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  this but just boil it down to those simple facts of when I
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  give attention to something that I don't want it.
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  Expands it can't not that's just Universal energy and the
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  language of science. When you give attention to
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  things that that you don't want, we give attention to anything
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  whether you want. Or you don't want it expands.
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  So give attention to the things that you do want.
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  Give attention to happiness. Focus on, Happy, focus.
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  On Light Side. Emotions, Don't focus on the
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  dark side emotions. It's going to be a process, my
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  friends, but I know you can do it.
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  Focus on what you want, not what you don't want.
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  Give attention to the emotions that make you feel better as
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  opposed to the emotion. That don't make you feel better
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  and I hope you have a blessed day and I will see see you
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  tomorrow.