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EPISODE 2: Self-Reflection Through Art - Bridging the gap between parents and kids through creativity · Parent's Talk with Francine Juhlin

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  Speaker 1: I him, Karen. I am an artist at heart, and
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  Speaker 1: I am the founder of Paint your Essence and Paint
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  Speaker 1: your Essence is a way of learning a little bit
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  Speaker 1: about yourself through art and Paint your Essence has the
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  Speaker 1: word paint in it, but you really can use anything
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  Speaker 1: like some people write some people. I think creativity is everywhere,
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  Speaker 1: and like I know people who are really creative with numbers.
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  Speaker 1: I know people who are creative in their way they cook,
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  Speaker 1: or the way they develop and make their own tea blends.
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  Speaker 1: There's creative people in the way they do gardening. You know,
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  Speaker 1: even the way you walk to the office, or you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's just the way you exercise. So it depends on
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  Speaker 1: what you consider your genius at I think that is
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  Speaker 1: what you're creative. But so it's using all of that
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  Speaker 1: and learning a little bit about your self by using.
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  Speaker 2: That Welcome to Parents talk. We believe in nurturing strong
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  Speaker 2: and confident kids today rather than fixing broken adults tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: When you know yourself and you know your choices and
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  Speaker 1: you get to see life so differently, you get to
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  Speaker 1: see life as what's possible instead of letting things get
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  Speaker 1: in the way.
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  Speaker 2: That's a beautiful sentiment for parents when they consider how
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  Speaker 2: they interact with their children. Why would parents want to
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  Speaker 2: get to know themselves better?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I think it's important for anybody's life, whether you're
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  Speaker 1: a parent or not, to tell you the truth, because
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  Speaker 1: I'll go back to the beginning. It's like for me
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  Speaker 1: when I learned to self growth. It was a struggle,
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  Speaker 1: but you learn a little bit about yourself and even
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  Speaker 1: at the stuff that you don't like. But there's ways
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  Speaker 1: of learning that you have choices. You can choose to
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  Speaker 1: look at something as an experience and figure out why
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  Speaker 1: it happened, or you can choose to say, well that
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  Speaker 1: person hurt me and blame you know, and then blame
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  Speaker 1: them for everything and be on a victim triangle. So
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  Speaker 1: I have found a way myself to learn a little
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  Speaker 1: bit more about me because it helps me create a
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  Speaker 1: life that is so much more fulfilling and so extraordinary
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  Speaker 1: and so worth living a life that's full like that
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  Speaker 1: is just so much more fun and playful, and I
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  Speaker 1: think so much more happens for you in a good
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  Speaker 1: way than in a bad way.
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  Speaker 2: I love that you mentioned playful because I'm an advocate
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  Speaker 2: for finding your inner child.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, me too, And Once you.
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  Speaker 2: Find your inner child, you will relate to other children,
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  Speaker 2: not only other children as in youngsters, but other people
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  Speaker 2: and their inner children. And I think I see the
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  Speaker 2: light of the inner child more now than anything else
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  Speaker 2: in a person. And that's what That's why I was
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  Speaker 2: attracted to Karen in the first place when I met
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  Speaker 2: her in a speaker summit, and why I asked her
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  Speaker 2: to come and talk because I think our inner children
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  Speaker 2: were speaking to each other.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I loved your butterfly. I think I didn't
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  Speaker 1: realize that we were actually going to be doing this
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  Speaker 1: today because like I don't have my art behavior or evening.
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  Speaker 2: You tell us any the aha moments that people have
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  Speaker 2: had during your classes.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I think there's been so many. I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: like like connect to some of them right now. Well, well,
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  Speaker 1: without saying, uh, there's just been like there's someone who
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  Speaker 1: I've had tears, and whenever I get tears, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I've done a good job. I mean, I hate
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  Speaker 1: to say that, but at the same time, that means
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  Speaker 1: they it touched them. I think it depends on the topic,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because I do monthly sessions, and in inside
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  Speaker 1: the monthly sessions, it's a specific topic and sometimes people
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  Speaker 1: can go deep. I actually have I have one a
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  Speaker 1: regular client who's a lawyer, and she was so right
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  Speaker 1: brain and now she's left brain and she's really starting
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  Speaker 1: to play with color and she's trying to see how
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  Speaker 1: she's like shining and it's so different for her in
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  Speaker 1: that realm to be more on the right side of
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  Speaker 1: the brain and not be so rigid. So that's really cool.
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  Speaker 1: I've had one person who learns so much more about
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  Speaker 1: herself and found ways to be stronger. And actually a
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  Speaker 1: couple of different people kind of like realized, you know,
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  Speaker 1: looked at their relationships and realized that this wasn't the
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  Speaker 1: right person for them, and they've broken away from them
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  Speaker 1: and are growing and seeing what is possible for them.
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  Speaker 1: One actually wanted to get into our therapy because of it.
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  Speaker 1: So and uh, one my one of the one of
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  Speaker 1: my clients came with a picture in mind of what
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  Speaker 1: she wanted to make and it was her first time
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  Speaker 1: ever coming and she like sat down there and I
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  Speaker 1: want to make this, and I'm like, okay, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and then she like stormed out of the room. So
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  Speaker 1: I went to go talk to her and she said,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it all came down to that. She took
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  Speaker 1: an art class one day and the teacher told her
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  Speaker 1: she was doing it all wrong. And I said, there's
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  Speaker 1: no right way, right way or wrong way of doing this.
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  Speaker 1: And she actually taught me something too, because like paint,
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  Speaker 1: your essence is all about symbolic painting. It's not like
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  Speaker 1: you have to have it so perfect you have to
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  Speaker 1: have the elephant look like an elephant. It can be
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  Speaker 1: abstract or something. It doesn't have to be so perfect.
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  Speaker 1: And she taught me that. You know, she goes, I
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  Speaker 1: just want to put my hand in the paint some paint,
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  Speaker 1: so she she did. So I started from that point
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  Speaker 1: on going, you know, you can pick your own symbols.
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  Speaker 1: Because I used to set it up where if it
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  Speaker 1: was like about love, then I would have them do
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  Speaker 1: to doves, and you know, so they had to use
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  Speaker 1: the symbol that I chose, and I'm like that everybody
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  Speaker 1: connects to that. So it's more kind of became more
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  Speaker 1: like an intuitive painting for yourself, so you put it
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  Speaker 1: out on the paper. But it was really interesting that
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  Speaker 1: she had so much fun. She said, it's a mess
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  Speaker 1: and it's dark colors, but I had so much more
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  Speaker 1: fun putting, just playing with the color and the paint
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  Speaker 1: and not worrying about what it looked like. So I
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  Speaker 1: feel like that's what my people, my clients get out
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  Speaker 1: of this. They get an opportunity to see that you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's a work in progress or it's not going to
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  Speaker 1: be perfect. But I get what I'm like trying to
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  Speaker 1: teach myself from this.
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  Speaker 2: How beautiful. And I want to go back to the
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  Speaker 2: beginning of where you were talking about the right brain
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  Speaker 2: left brain. Oh, I was aircraft electrician in the military.
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  Speaker 2: I've got a degree in electronics. I worked in a
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  Speaker 2: factory where we counted numbers of products that were defective
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  Speaker 2: and how to fix them and how to prevent the defects.
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  Speaker 2: It was all very mathematical, very clinical, very stressful. And yes,
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  Speaker 2: I forgot how to connect with my creativity until I
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  Speaker 2: connected with my inner child. And I didn't paint though.
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  Speaker 2: I made something out of flowers. I made a little
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  Speaker 2: crown out of flowers.
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  Speaker 1: That's cool.
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  Speaker 2: As I was doing this, I felt something open up
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  Speaker 2: inside of me.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, but.
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  Speaker 2: I could really identify when you were talking about that
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  Speaker 2: lady who has left brain. And then the painting helped
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  Speaker 2: open up her right, yes, And it also made me
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  Speaker 2: think of parents who are so concerned with brains and
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  Speaker 2: help and discipline that sometimes they forget about allowing their
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  Speaker 2: children to be creative or better yet, getting creative with
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  Speaker 2: your children. Right. My childhood memory was when my mom
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  Speaker 2: cloth on the table and we just made stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's so great, that's so fun. I don't like that.
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  Speaker 1: That's sorry, that is so cool. You know, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: realize how much I was a creative soul when I
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  Speaker 1: was a kid, Like it didn'tdonomy, like I did need
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  Speaker 1: a point in rug hooking, but who knew? Like? And
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  Speaker 1: then who knew like? I was like, I never liked
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  Speaker 1: there the pre patterns like, so I had to create my.
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  Speaker 2: Own I thinking about that.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, it's like it was like I had so much
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  Speaker 1: more fun, just like going outside the lines and not
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  Speaker 1: being inside. And I think that's what's also important, is
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  Speaker 1: when you get to use your creativity and you play,
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  Speaker 1: you think outside the box. Yes, you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: worry about like who I.
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  Speaker 2: Have to stay with this little like little thing. No,
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  Speaker 2: you get to be out there playing, experiencing life. This
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  Speaker 2: is where all the new inventions come from. If everybody
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  Speaker 2: just stayed like this, we'd never get anything new, Yes, totally.
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  Speaker 2: I remember on the assembly line once we were building
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  Speaker 2: this product and like nine out of ten were defective. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and everybody was thinking, very in the box is the
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  Speaker 2: only way to put it in the box? Well, just
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  Speaker 2: get rid of that batch and bring in another batch.
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  Speaker 2: And then that batch was bad too. What do we
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  Speaker 2: do now? I thought outside of the box. I called
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  Speaker 2: the manufacturer and I said, this is what's happening to
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  Speaker 2: your product.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Next thing, I knew, these people from Japan were in
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  Speaker 2: our plant giving us what we needed.
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  Speaker 1: To fix it right, right right.
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  Speaker 2: Rather than say, oh well, we'll just let it go
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  Speaker 2: through and then let them change them out at the end,
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  Speaker 2: these Japanese engineers were able to give us something that
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  Speaker 2: we could do during the assembly process, right, thinking outside
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  Speaker 2: of the box and asking for help.
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  Speaker 1: It's so simple, right, And nobody asks for help, right.
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  Speaker 1: I don't get that.
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  Speaker 2: The point I'm trying to make here is if you
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  Speaker 2: are a parent, and you are the left brain or
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  Speaker 2: you are so stuck in the daily turmoil of making
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  Speaker 2: ends knee and getting your kids where they need to be,
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  Speaker 2: and you need some help to get out of that box.
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  Speaker 2: And other people like her can help you find the.
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  Speaker 1: Class right exactly. I think what's also really cool is
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  Speaker 1: if you allow if you see that you are a
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  Speaker 1: leugh brainer, but your child is learning things differently as
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  Speaker 1: a right brainer. I think I was like that. I
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  Speaker 1: think the family I grew up in was left brainers,
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  Speaker 1: and I happened to be the one in the right
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  Speaker 1: brainer side. And then you get shut down and you
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  Speaker 1: get cut off and you say that's not the right
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  Speaker 1: way to be, to be this way, but no, let
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  Speaker 1: this child or let let this child be that creative soul,
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  Speaker 1: because it's just going to brighten up your life just
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  Speaker 1: as much. You just have to like slow down and
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  Speaker 1: talk to them differently. You have to figure out a
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  Speaker 1: different way to communicate, whether it's in pictures or words,
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  Speaker 1: but it's like finding a different way of connecting with
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  Speaker 1: that child. I think that's really just that just hit
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  Speaker 1: me that that how important that is and a good
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  Speaker 1: way for me to reframe some of my stories. But
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  Speaker 1: the way is that if my parents knew that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: they would have treated me so differently.
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  Speaker 2: I think, do you ever do classes with the parents
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  Speaker 2: and children together?
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  Speaker 1: I've never, but that sounds like a really fun idea.
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  Speaker 2: It just came to my mind for those parents who
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  Speaker 2: our left brain with the right brain, kid, that could
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  Speaker 2: be a great way to teach them how to communicate.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, true truly and then have the right brain
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  Speaker 1: say what they see and then have the left brain
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  Speaker 1: see what they see. That's a class yea even for
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  Speaker 1: adults because wow, yeah I like that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, oh that could even be marriage therapy for the
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  Speaker 2: left brain and right brain.
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  Speaker 1: True, absolutely, or any relationship that's all opposite that you
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  Speaker 1: don't you're not communicating right, Well, maybe there's something about
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  Speaker 1: that that they.
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  Speaker 2: Can even see. I could see this as a corporate training.
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  Speaker 1: Also totally is like our brains are just like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they're they're they're connecting.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, yes, because I do a lot of
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  Speaker 2: leadership training, I'm seeing a very good exercise right here.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. It was like looking at the left brain,
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  Speaker 1: who's right? Who's wrong? Is the right brain or the
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  Speaker 1: left brain? And what if they're both right?
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  Speaker 2: They're both needed, Yeah, and they're both needed.
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  Speaker 1: They and they're a y yinging and the yang. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: and they're both needed and neither one is perfect and
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  Speaker 1: neither one is imperfect.
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