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Autism Social Skills YOU Can Learn EASY · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  I don't know how you can actually help develop social
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  skills for people in the autism spectrum.
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  I'm going to get right into it right now.
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  Just don't go anywhere, guys. Welcome back to the Aspy world.
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  My name is Dan and I have autism and ADHD.
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  Now I make it my life's goal, my mission in life, my my whole
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  being to make weekly videos all about helping people, helping
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  you achieve goals. I mean, it goes beyond just
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  videos, but this is how I I, I communicate to you guys.
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  So if you want to be here with me to help improve life and
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  conditions and create a future for autistic people to unlock
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  potential and unleash themselves on the world and then positive
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  awesome affirmation and make sure to hit the subscribe button
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  down below and hit that notification bell.
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  So you know, when I upload videos guys, I'm actually also
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  on all social media platforms as well.
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  So if you want to watch other videos on on like TikTok and
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  Instagram, I'm on all those two guys.
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  The thing is right, social skills is the probably one of
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  the biggest issues. Now I want to speak to autistic
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  individuals like myself. Social skills, social
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  development, social issues, and the biggest thing on everyone's
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  mind is from making friends to making romantic relationships to
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  finding colleagues and making friends at work.
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  All these things are quite difficult.
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  So how does one develop social skills when they're on the
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  autism spectrum? Now there are some steps that we
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  take to do this. Now before I get into those, I
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  just want to say that I have an Autism Life Hacks PDF book that
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  you can download completely free from autismhacks.net.
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  You can do it right now and that will just help you and your
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  life. But developing social skills now
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  there's two things we need to remember.
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  There's two things we need to remember.
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  When you're in a social setting, there are two people there, you
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  and somebody else. Now, how communication happens
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  is that you put out particles from your area of space.
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  Somebody else receives those and they reciprocate that, so they
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  send them back and then you receive those.
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  That's basically the cycle of communication.
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  Now, if you put this into perspective, all you're doing in
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  a social environment is understanding their cycle of
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  communication. If somebody waves and says
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  hello, when you wave back and say hello, you reciprocate the
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  cycle of communication. If someone asks you a question,
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  how are you feeling today? You reciprocate with how you
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  feel today and maybe you could ask them as well.
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  So developing social skills is a practice makes progress
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  scenario. The more that you can expose
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  yourself to social interaction and ask questions in social
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  settings, the the easier it becomes.
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  Now, one of the things I would say is befriend somebody or ask
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  for advice from somebody who's really social, somebody who's
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  got lots of friends, somebody who knows how to work the room.
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  If you can speak to them and say how do you do it?
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  How do you become social and watch and learn from them?
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  You will win because they were going to be able to provide more
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  information for you in your situation, in your environment,
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  in your culture than anybody else will.
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  Better than me, probably. The other thing I would say is
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  that if you have the ability to sign up on Facebook or maybe on
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  a games console to environments where you can, you know, live
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  chat, obviously, if you're over 18 with other individuals who
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  are on the autism spectrum in a group setting online or offline,
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  you can find local support groups of autism and go there
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  and just be yourself. The more true to yourself you
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  can be, the easier social skills can develop because we're all
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  stumbling over social skills because we're trying to be
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  somebody we're not. But when you just relax and
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  become yourself, you win every time.
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  Now go out and try that. Come back and comment on this
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  video and tell me how easy it felt once you started to
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  surround yourself with more social communication.
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  All right, guys, see you in the next video over a piece.